I Am Depressed About My Kids Growing Up

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 237 People

    I have one child who has left

    for college (20) and one who lives with his father (17). The 17 year old is busy with his friends and I see him a couple times of week. I am way down on the totem poll for interaction. My 20 year old is doing great in college and I am very thankful she is striking out on her...
    pennyjkb pennyjkb
    51-55, F
    Mar 13, 2016

    Having children is a time machine going one way.

    You get to witness your world change before your eyes, the beauty of that and the infinite sadness because those times will never come back. You can't make a teenager a child again. My daughter is going to high school. How did that happen? One day at a time. She is doing what...
    Jenny2019 Jenny2019
    36-40, F
    Jan 6, 2016

    I am a single dad to a 10 year old daughter

    who will be 11 next month. I have developed an extreme hopelessness and utter sadness recently about all of the years that have passed in my child's life. I will sit in her room on her bed and just cry looking around at her stuffed animals and dolls that she use to enjoy. I...
    MattBrown0761 MattBrown0761
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2015

    My husband and I have raised 2 awesomely

    considerate, hardworking, intelligent, caring young men aged 31 and 22. Our oldest was married for 4 years, I remember when he and his soon to be wife moved out, my husband and I stood out in front yard at 1:30 in the morning when they picked up their last load and cried our...
    Dahlsj Dahlsj
    56-60, F
    Oct 28, 2015

    I am 57 and have 6 children ages 18 -34.

    Yesterday when driving by their old Elementary school, I got extremely depressed. Seeing the young adults with their children, holding their hands as they walked home from school really opened up the floodgates. I miss my children being young, picking them up from school...
    kellee57 kellee57
    56-60, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2015

    I dropped my 18 year old daughter off at her

    college 700 miles away on Sunday. I was nothing but excited for her until we arrived at the hotel. I started to feel a sadness creeping up on me as move in day got closer. When we said goodbye and left her room it hit me really hard. Now that we're back home I'm left with a...
    ratcatg ratcatg
    51-55, M
    Aug 18, 2015

    I have two kids. I have a 20 year old son

    and a fourteen year old daughter. I have always been a stay at home mom to both of them. When my son little we were really close. Now hes 20 and talking about moving out on his own. It makes me sad because things will never be the same. I am very close to my fourteen year old...
    Kimtllp Kimtllp
    36-40
    1 Response Aug 13, 2015

    I too can totally relate to this kind of

    terrible sadness now that my daughter is older. I thought I was the only person that felt this deeply about her growing up. What I really miss is the sweet, loving little girl she used to be. We had a wonderful relationship as she was growing up, a fantastic daddy-daughter...
    mausra mausra
    46-50, M
    Aug 11, 2015

    My husband died about 6 months

    after our only child, a son, was born. It has been just the two of us for 26 years. He went to a local university and graduated with his master's degree last December. He started looking for a full time teaching job and was excited to receive an offer last week. It is a...
    Justanightmare Justanightmare
    51-55, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2015

    I am a stay home dad

    and have two daughters (11 and 13) -My 13 year old always wanted to be a big girl and is independent. Makes it very easy on me to watch her grow up. My 11 year old is my baby. She always wanted to be small and is growing up even though she'd prefer not to. I am sooo sad and...
    ilikebeingme ilikebeingme
    51-55, M
    Jun 26, 2015

    I sit here with tears splashing like mad down

    my cheeks and onto the desk. My only daughter is going into her Senior year of high school, and I've been mourning the loss of my little girl for far too long already. Even though I have chanted to myself over the years that all I want is to raise an independent young woman...
    CoachFreckles CoachFreckles
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 15, 2015

    my son is turning 18 tomorrow.

    I'm so terrified for him. he's given me nothing but trouble most of his life. he's rebellious, impulsive, headstrong, cruel. but he's grown into a decent young man...mostly. but he's still so naive and he's running with a bad crowd. he's already moved out months ago. but. I'm so...
    ZombieBaitMaiden ZombieBaitMaiden
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 6, 2015

    I'm a 47 year old father to four teenagers.

    The eldest is my adopted daughter, 18. I love her as though I raised her, but she only became one of daddy's little girls over the last two years. I didn't get to hold her as a baby, teach her to ride a bike, or scoop her up when she fell down...so there's a big empty space for...
    Hickory67 Hickory67
    46-50, M
    Jun 2, 2015

    Hello everyone. Reading these stories has made

    me want to post my own but from the son/daughter point. Hopeing to get sone advice. Im an only child and have had my own house 400 miles away from family. At that time it wasnt too bad for my mam but iv sinced moved back because my mam needed me around while going through a...
    Ricardo88 Ricardo88
    26-30, M
    May 31, 2015

    My son just left to go over seas

    for a job. I am so proud of who he has became but this is ripping my heart out. My children are my life and it took everything in my power not to just burst into tears in the airport. My other 2 children are still at home but it will just be a matter of time before they leave...
    justmee48 justmee48
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2015

    I am 18 and am not a parent (at least not in

    retrospect) what I am is worried about my mom. My mother is 55, she moved from AZ( where she lived her whole life) with my half brother who was around 11, to marry and be with my dad. She raised me and my brother and my father got very ill so she and I took care of him. When I...
    doc15 doc15
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2015

    I'm having a hard time with my children growing

    up. They are 14, 17 and 18. All gorgeous and still home. They have become so independent and busy with their lives and it hurts not to be as wanted by them as I used to be.
    sue968900 sue968900
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2015

    Friends in same places.

    ... My heart is breaking tonight. Tomorrow I leave my 18 1/2 year old in Tn and fly home to Ca. He will be living with and working for his uncle. It's a good thing, but my mother's heart is being crushed under the weight of sorrow. He is the first of my three amazing kids to...
    mamakirk3 mamakirk3
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 15, 2014

    My daughter is 16 and I'm having a really tough

    time with her growing up. She's a good, smart, responsible girl. I've always been proud of her for the nice young lady that she's becoming and yet I'm sad for the stages that have passed. However, since she started driving its like she's so much more "on her own" and I'm really...
    mom1970 mom1970
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jun 22, 2014

    I have 2 birth children

    and 3 foster children but I'm really struggling with them growing up , I love them so much it truly feels like my heart is breaking my daughter 18 has always confided in me and spent time with me but now she's not I feel like my best friend has dumped me I know it's normal I...
    torie13 torie13
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 25, 2014

    Is it selfish to not want my son to start

    school? My son is 3 and will start 4k next year. The thought of it depresses me. I've been a stay at home mom ever since I've had him and I just dont think i can part from him for that long; a few hours. I'm even thinking about letting him start school a year late. Help me, I...
    kabaomoua kabaomoua
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 27, 2014

    I just googled how I was feeling

    and found this site. How I miss the little ones, my sweet boy . . . now there are 2 teenagers. Good teenagers but still a challenge. Both run track. They are involved with a church youth group. Good friends. I have to work 7 days a week. I was a full time Mom for many...
    momto2m momto2m
    51-55, F
    Feb 20, 2014

    I have been a single mom forever.

    This year I got my own apartment, after my daughter got hers, and my son moved in with his girlfriend(soon to be fiance, whom I love) father to help him out. I haven't been alone in 23 years. It has been really exciting, and I have enjoyed my new home. But my son and his fiance...
    boodlesmom boodlesmom
    46-50, F
    Feb 15, 2014

    I'm going through this too.

    I'm a single mom, 34, and have an almost 14 yr. old daughter, and an 11 yr. old son. There's been a lot of talk and preparation for my daughter to start high school, and a lot of talk about college. She already knows what she wants to do and I'm so proud. But, I don't want her...
    cmn1979 cmn1979
    36-40, F
    Feb 3, 2014

    I am a stay at home mum with 2 children,

    a daughter who's 10 years old and a son who's 8 years old. I have always believed I would have a third child but after I miscarried our 3rd child about 3 years ago my husband had a vasectomy. I got a full time job a few months later but ended up having a breakdown from the...
    turtle2512 turtle2512
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2014

    It really hit me hard this year on Christmas

    Day. My youngest (son) is 11, and it is his first year of not believing in Santa Claus, so we don't have that anymore. My other two (daughters) are 16 and 14. Kids that age tend to be a little tougher to get gifts for anyway (on reasonable budget), and I could see the obvious...
    jeff1447 jeff1447
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

    What Is Left In Life?

    Halloween was just last week. It is a hard time for me. When my children were smaller I so looked forward to Halloween, I loved the excitement in my children. This Halloween......I sat on the couch watching TV just me and my husband. I was very depressed. I missed those...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2013

    Feel Depressed About My Kids Growing Up

    When my children were just 4 and a half years old my marriage with their mum broke down. I knew that we didn't truly love each other so knew it was best for everyone that we both go our seperate ways. However I was devastated for my two boys, I carried a lot of guilt & ended up...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 5, 2013

    My Children Were My Joy In Life. Now They're Grown And Gone. I'm Lost.

    I'm grateful to find this forum to connect with other mothers or fathers going through these same feelings. I divorced when my kids were 2 & 4 and I made them my life. In fact, from the moment they entered this world, they were my world. My babies gave me something real to live...
    gingerale1355 gingerale1355
    61-65, F
    2 Responses Nov 1, 2013

    Sudden Sense Of Mourning

    Today we celebrated my middle child's 10th birthday. I've worked hard to make it a special weekend. Her older sister is 11, her younger brother 6. At the end of the day, I was suddenly overcome with unexpected sadness. I've been crying for a couple of hours now, which is...
    4812wm 4812wm
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2013

    4 Teenagers

    This year my oldest is a senior in high school ,then follows his 2 brothers right behind him and my daughter is a 7th grader. I have gone from being needed to not really at all. They all play sports and are gone 12hrs most days. I was a young mom and a stay at home at that for 17...
    fourkidz fourkidz
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

    Where Does Time Go?

    I am a father of 3 children. 12 yo girl, 9 yo boy and 1 yo girl. The first 2 we had fertility treatments to have, but we decided after the 2 we wouldn't do any more treatments, so if God wanted us to have another He would have to make it happen. We tried off and on for several...
    ct1976 ct1976
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Oct 8, 2013

    Granddaughter

    I have been very close to my granddaughter. She is now 13 and is growing up and away from me. I still see her but not like when she was younger. I feel so sad about this and find myself crying a lot when she is not around. I lost my mother and sister this past year which...
    Kathy354 Kathy354
    61-65
    1 Response Aug 10, 2013

    Should I Seek Help?

    I'm only 30, my oldest son is 11 and I have three others ages 7, 5 and 3. All boys. Almost every night I lay awake wishing time would just stop. I don't want them to get any older. It gets worse at the end of the school year, the beginning of a new one or a birthday. I'm crying...
    Mgrdrgz02 Mgrdrgz02
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Aug 2, 2013

    My Sadness And Anxiety About My Children Growing Up

    I am a mother of two sweet precious little boys, one 9, one 4. I sometimes get so depressed I can't function for handle them being away from me, . I dwell on how each moment is passing me by and all the firsts and precious milestones are coming and going too fast. I am a teacher...
    dickie23 dickie23
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

    Daughter Getting Married And Moving Out

    My daughter has finished college, has a good job and is engaged to marry a wonderful guy. She has been living at home for the last 6 months while looking for a rental home. One has been found and now she is moving out. We are very close and great friends. Her in-laws to be are...
    shmarie shmarie
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2013

    Teen Yearning For Freedom

    My daughter will be 18 in a few months. She is struggling to get through her senior year and graduate. I ache to see her struggle so much but this is life and even though I steer her in the right direction it is ultimately up to her to do the work. I feel I have always taught her...
    ilove2tri ilove2tri
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2013

    Having A Terrible Time Dealing With My Babies Growing Up :(

    Hi.. I'm new to this group.I have been so depressed about my kids growing up, that I had to talk to others that are going through the same thing. I have 2 kids. My daughter is 17, a Senior in High School. My son is 14, a Freshman in High School. Needless to say, when school...
    tdawn14 tdawn14
    36-40
    3 Responses Sep 4, 2012

    Their Childhood Is In The Past, And It's Breaking My Heart

    I'm 57 years old with 2 daughters, ages 21 and 16. My older daughter has left home and is living with her boyfriend and some other friends in a group situation in a house near the city (Atlanta). She works as a waitress and likes her job and is good at it. My younger daughter is...
    babymine2girlswgamom babymine2girlswgamom
    56-60, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2012

    He Leaves In 12 Days

    Our oldest son leaves for college soon. I guess the best descriptive word I arrive at is bitter-sweet. See, 20 years ago, we decided to start a family. After the heartbreak of 3 miscarriages, we were beginning to look at other options. A visit to an infertility doc reminded us to...
    Pammieinarwas Pammieinarwas
    46-50, F
    Aug 5, 2012

    I Didn't Expect This...

    Like so many here I poured everything into being a Mom. Sometimes I felt selfish, or guilty because I wasn't the 100% uber Mom..but I was always Mom first. My son is 25 and although still officially living here, he's home less and less often. The thing that just set me off was my...
    jehekasmom jehekasmom
    51-55, F
    8 Responses Jun 4, 2012

    I Have Messed Up!

    First thing I did was let my husband get to my phone. Secondly, I helped out a friend with expenses because he deserves a break, and I love him with all my heart. My husband found out about that and now he insists on chasing this poor guy down and going after the money that is...
    runnerinatl runnerinatl
    51-55, F
    4 Responses May 6, 2012

    Sad About Kids Growing Up.

    My kids, aged 19 to 11, all still live at home but are getting less and less dependant, which is good I know, and spending a lot more time away with friends. I know that this is good, too but I seem to feel sad when they are not home or don't want to come on outings with their...
    mumsie123 mumsie123
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 28, 2012

    I Miss My Son

    I really miss my son. He's 21. He moved out about 6 months ago. I get so depressed when I think about him. He only lives 30 minutes away but he's independent and doesn't need me like he used to. I long for the days he was a little boy. I was everything to him then, but now...
    starfield starfield
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 10, 2012

    Aching For My Children's Younger Years

    I am a 49 year old wife and mother. I have a part time job I love. I have friends. I am involved in my church. I have great kids who love me and still want to spend time with my husband and me (occasionally). I am reasonably healthy (although you may doubt it once you finish...
    nostalgicmom22 nostalgicmom22
    46-50
    3 Responses Mar 3, 2012

    My Princess

    My daughter is a freshman in college. We live in Hawaii, so going away for college is a big thing. It means living on your own, living in a completely different atmosphere and culture, and all the normal responsibilities and changes of moving away from home. She just spent the...
    koleabird koleabird
    46-50, F
    Nov 27, 2011

    Toddlers Growing Up And Depression

    I am a loving father of twin boys aged 4 1/2 and I should be happy and excited to see they are great children,adjusting well to pre-K, and full of ideas, thriving and making new friends. I however, find myself depressed more times than not, and not able to cope with it. I travel...
    cloren7030 cloren7030
    41-45
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2011

    Changes In Life.

    I can write these stories on this sight. They too, are my own words. My kids are my absolute life. I never-ever want my home to be a empty nester. I understand my pain of having my kids grow up. I have seen the cycle of life and know how hard it can be when children leave home. I...
    joiebobby joiebobby
    36-40
    Oct 28, 2011

    I'm So Depressed About My Children Leaving Home...

    My 19 year old son left about a week ago to join the Air Force, and my 23 year old daughter left two days ago to move to another state. I'm so proud of my son as he had to really work hard to get into the Air Force, and my daughter moved to be with her fiance'. I'm just simply...
    rschaniel rschaniel
    46-50, F
    27 Responses Oct 18, 2011

    Longing For My Son

    I have a son who is an only child. He's 14 and i have all of a sudden become extremely depressed.  I just look at him and it makes me sad. I'm trying to talk to people but they either don't understan or their words aren't comforting.... I'm scared that this feeling wont leave me...
    bnt18 bnt18
    36-40
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2011

    Little Man

    I look at his little face now and cant imagine him as a man. I wonder whether he'll be tall or short and thin or chunky. I wonder what his voice will sounds like and if he'll marry a good woman. It's funny that you never stop wondering. I remember being pregnant writing in my...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

    Miss My Sons

    Hi  I am 47 female living in Australia.Earlier this year my youngest son moved out and since then I feel life is empty .Between crying spells and being told to grow up myself I was very relieved to find this group.Thank you for allowing free expression of feeling it helps.
    alison63 alison63
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jul 26, 2011

    I Am Depressed Over My Kids Growing Up.

    I am depressed over my kids growing up. My son starts college at UNC in 4 weeks and I can not stop crying. I cry when I think about it. My kids have been my whole life. I have loved them and done for them and I feel as though I don't really have a life of my own. I have a 13 yo...
    girlygirl036 girlygirl036
    41-45, F
    77 Responses Jul 21, 2011

    Overwhelming Sadness About Children Growing Up...

    I am glad that I found this site. I am 41 years old, with daughters aged 14, 16 & 19.  I feel so sad that they are growing up. I don't know how to face the future. I can truly say that the happiest times of my life was when they were young, and even then I felt a sadness that...
    mariaelenak mariaelenak
    41-45
    35 Responses Mar 10, 2011

    Depressed Over Memories Of My Children

    Hi, I woke early this morning in tears flooded with memories just constantly flipping over in my head and it is always of my children when they were small. I am 35 years old and these memories just paralyze me almost to the point i can not function,  i am so glad i found this...
    bowwater bowwater
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2011

    My 14 Year Old Daughter Is Growing Up And I've Been Crying Hysterically Since Firday.

    Hi there...my name is Debbie, I'm 47 and have only one child. Her name is Kristen and she will be 14 in March. I too have had something suddenly come over me. Like a sledgehammer. I've literally been crying since Friday night and cannot stop. She's in 8th grade and how this...
    upallnitetoo upallnitetoo
    46-50, F
    37 Responses Feb 14, 2011

    Depressed That My Daughter Is Leaving For About 2 Weeks

    My 18 year old daughter is engaged to a wonderful young man in the Army. He is coming home from Iraq, and she, along with his mother, is flying to Lawton, Oklahoma to meet him. As soon as he is able, they are flying to Philadelphia for a visit to his family,and then coming here...
    djarus djarus
    56-60
    8 Responses Feb 3, 2011

    Have Only Child, Sad About Her Growing Up...

    Have a daughter, who is 7. I am all of a sudden extremely depressed that she is growing up. I feel she may start developing early and my baby girl will be all gone. I sometimes feel having another child would help, but would just be a band aid on the depression. For numerous...
    7only1 7only1
    36-40
    7 Responses Oct 12, 2010

    Must Fight This Overwhelming Sense Of Sadness

    About Three years ago my then youngest started secondary school (she was 11 years old & i already had my eldest there) Well i dont know what happened, it seemed to hit me like a sledgehammer. It felt like a big dark cloud came over me i just couldnt stop crying. Days turned into...
    HB41 HB41
    41-45
    11 Responses Oct 6, 2010

    I Can Totally Relate.

    I am a father to a 17 year old son, and 14 and 13 year old girls. I love them with all my heart, and can say that I put my absolute all into being with them and doing fun activities with them, even sometimes at the expense of my own best interests. I would never change a thing...
    lashumbah lashumbah
    36-40
    4 Responses Apr 30, 2010
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