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I Am Difficult to Get to Know

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    I have no problem meeting women.

    . It's keeping them around and interested in me that's the problem! Socially awkward I guess
    christiansen christiansen 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I'm sort of an open book,

    in that I will offer information about myself voluntarily. (but only what I want you to know) I'm like a puzzle that takes years to put together and when you think you're finished, you realize that you're missing a few pieces.
    anonymousfraud anonymousfraud 26-30, F Jan 16

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    Especially Offline.

    I am very hard to get to know. Especially offline. Online, I can be myself & am very truthful about my lack of life experience & oddities, but when it comes to real life, there are few people who know me & the ones that do, son't really know me. I don't talk about myself much...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings 31-35, F 4 Responses May 11, 2010

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    I'm extremely difficult to get to know mostly

    because I don't know myself and what little I do know I don't know how to explain.
    SpacePirate SpacePirate 18-21, M Jan 11

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    I think I'm fairly easy to get to know online,

    but out in the real world I'm shy. I have to spend a bit of time around someone before I do much talking.
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F Jan 12

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    SimplyDezzixoxo SimplyDezzixoxo 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Where Is the Effort

    I am an introverted person and find it difficult to have conversations with people.  I get tongue tied and things don't come out right a lot of the time, probably because I expect myself to and then I get tense in social situations.  Very hard for me to make friends; it...
    d4rkh34vn d4rkh34vn 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 27, 2009

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    As long as you give a signal you want to know

    me. Noone has ever called me difficult. I just need that signal you want me around you.
    totsy50 totsy50 46-50, F Jan 19

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    It hurt. Worse than anything I've ever known.

    She just left, left me. All alone. We'd sworn we were sisters, that we'd always be sisters, that blood didn't matter. I hate the other two. Hate them. I was alone, friendless, because of them. Crying at night, barely holding it all in... Rescued from one toxic relationship...
    HeartOfNature HeartOfNature 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    Happy At the Seaside

      Standing on a lonely beach the early morning sun shone down and warmed me . The wind wrapped around me sprinkling dry sand on my clothes as I began to walk. I can taste the salt air in my mouth. The tide is out and I walk to the waters edge. I remember similar walks as I...
    redgone redgone 31-35, M 6 Responses May 27, 2008

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    I believe that a reason

    for this is because I don't even know myself all that well so it is rather difficult for others to get to know me as well...
    Juliette18 Juliette18 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I am very difficult to get to know.

    I put walls around my heart bigger than the wall of china. I keep everyone at a safe distance. I have been burned too many times, and betrayed in the worst of ways, so while I'll share major things about myself, there is SO much about me, that people just don't know, because I...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    It'S Not That I Don'T Like People, I Just Don'T Want To Be With Them, But I'M Always Misunderstood And The Worst? I Was Bullied..

    I love to be alone. Since I was young, I would never dare to go out of the house, play with other kids and socialize with others. Until I grew up and got a job, I'm still that little kid who prefers to be alone, do my own thing without asking others' help, stay at home rather...
    kate0814 kate0814 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 4, 2013

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    Complicated

    I am complicated, not because I want to be, but because of the situations I have been put in.
    ameeker ameeker 21-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2007

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    ...

    They say we shudn't be fearful because of past scars .. but how does one not be wary and weary when the only constant from sharing yourself with others have resulted in rejection, ridicule or betrayal...a lot more hurt than happiness... i tell myself everyday that i shouldn't...
    nrskjh nrskjh 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 11, 2010

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    I don't actually believe this.

    I like to keep life very simple, and I like to take a character to work, as I am effectively a performer. As a result, I do not share much with the people I work with, which is fine. In fact, by reading all my stories here, it would tell you more about me than my colleagues know...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2

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    I Am Difficult to Get to Know.

    after all, i've known me since i was born and i'm still finding out new stuff about me. i'm a dreadfully complex being, you see. amorphous and ethereal, impossible to grasp, difficult to view clearly. or like a house with a thousand rooms, many locked even before the walls...
    journeyfulloflaughter journeyfulloflaughter 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 20, 2007

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    Since so many people have told me I'm

    'mysterious' and 'difficult to figure out', I decided to go ahead and get some basic and maybe a few strange facts about me out of the way. So.. I guess I'll go to 20 or something :) 1. My eyes are bright blue 2. I'm a natural brunette 3. The only concert I've been to was Def...
    brooklyn18 brooklyn18 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    People Say They Can'T Get A "READ" On Me. . .

    I don't think in a difficult person to get to know. I just think I'm not what people are use to. I live in LA where everyone is fake and trying to get ahead at any cost. I'm me I'm 100% real and honest to a fault. When I tell people just get to know me, what you see is what you...
    November3rd November3rd 36-40, M Nov 25, 2013

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    Whenever I say I like one thing It changes to

    another thing 😞 And I keep changing annually The stuff I "like" that I think Is supposed to create my personality Just because it gets old fast for me, and I think "it" was, "weird/dumb" ...😒 And I really like New stuff to discover...☺️ Ya know? Like bumble bees...
    HappyduckS HappyduckS 13-15, F Jan 18

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    Yeah I guess I can be hard to get to know.

    I mean if you ask me questions I will answer honestly, but I am not very easy to approach. I don't show very much emotions, and I am very hard to read, but I am nice enough so there isn't really anything to be scared of.
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Have you every truly thought about death?

    I mean you die and you're gone. Some people may believe in an afterlife or another plain of existence, but for me I can't grasp the concept of another place beyond this world. When you're gone it's over. People will mourn and lament you but as the years pass the grief fades and...
    alwaysloverh alwaysloverh 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 28

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    This Is The "Problem" I've Got...

    People like me, are usually guys. And I'm not like most girls. I'm not bubbly, not clingy, I don't smile and laugh and pose all the time... I don't show off and act like a frightened little kitten (with a pink ribbon on its head) every time I see a guy. I'm a serious person...
    Stashia Stashia 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Mystery

    I don't open up to people. If I do, then it is because my instincts tell me that you are okay to talk to. I find that when you trust, you get hurt. I like it when people don't know much about me, so that I can keep my distance and no one is the wiser.
    AboveLove70 AboveLove70 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    love is sharing your thoughts your fears your

    dreams your hopes..........
    isabelarao isabelarao 18-21, F Feb 19

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    The Truth of the Matter Is...

    I'm shy, and I keep secrets. Most people give up after a very short time of trying to get to know me. I am a very honest person and I will generally answer any question when asked directly and specifically, but I am really good at the technicalities. Its not that I don't want...
    eyes eyes 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 17, 2007

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    Online, I'll tell you anything

    that you want, because I feel anonymous. Unrelated. In real life, It's a different story. It's very difficult to get to know me. Because of my anxiety, It's easy to for me to hide my true self away, in fear that people won't like who I really am. So I tend to make a shell...
    Origination Origination 18-21, M Jan 1

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    Not Sure I Even Know Myself...

    I seem to constantly change...I'm not sure if anyone ever has really known me. I hardly know myself. My views and beliefs and moods and thoughts and desires all seem to fluctuate all of the time. I think I've given up on ever finding a "soul mate", because my soul won't...
    FeatherInTheWind FeatherInTheWind 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2009

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    Which is why it's special

    if you know me even a little and why no one knows me lol
    MickeyRager MickeyRager 22-25, M Feb 27

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    I want people to know me

    but I purposely push anyone away because I don't want them to know me because I'm not a good person. I feel like a black hole and everyone has a bad time when I'm there and it's better off when I'm not there. If someone really got to know me and then rejected me because I'm...
    michellekay michellekay 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Good Coffee Vs Bad Coffee

    It's not that we have so many blends of coffee to choice from, it's that CoffeeMate is difficult to know.  Being on this blog has brought out different parts of me, at different times.   I can detach and watch human behavior, which is my core.  I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 26, 2008

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    The Many Faces Of Love

    "People say love is the Best Feeling anyone can experience.. ...but someone else tells me...She... thinks finding a Toilet when experiencing an Episode of Diarrhea is Better"Having a small discussion, with a friend that I have not seen in about a decade...for anyone keeping...
    Ferric67 Ferric67 36-40, M Feb 19, 2012

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    Yea I'm pretty hard to get to know.

    . I don't really like to tell people about me... Or talk to people in general... I'm not very sociable... I guess you can say I'm shy.. So it obviously kinda hard to get to know people if they won't talk to you... So yea I'm hard to get to know
    AyItsAlly AyItsAlly 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Like You Care???

    I know I have this way about me that is confusing, raw & very opened. However, that doesnt mean you really know me, the real me. I am so not what I appear to be ...as far as you know, it could all be an act that you see. You see what you wanna see, you judge me without 'trying...
    americanwoman americanwoman 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 14, 2009

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    Caveat Emptor

    Born in the year of a Tiger, in the month of a Lion. Roar! Raised in a traditional, conservative family. Old school. Proper. Perhaps it is inevitable with this heritage my moral compass points firmly north and my ethical backbone is ramrod straight. There is a shell to break...
    Duchessforthright Duchessforthright 46-50 9 Responses May 19, 2012

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    Ache

    I have always been incredibly shy. After being diagnosed with a chronic illness in Junior High, just when you are figuring out how to interact with the opposite sex, I forgot how to be a 13 year old and became a serious little adult, removed and focused on my health. Now I see it...
    warmlight warmlight 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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    To Ponder

    I need to think of a story to write....... must contemplate more on this.......
    Cliques Cliques 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    I'm Still Trying to Figure Me Out!

    I have so many layers.  Every time I think I understand myself, I discover another layer underneath. I used to think that the real me was at the core of this.  Now, I don't think so.  For one thing, I now realize I can spend the rest of my life peeling layers and...
    accomplice accomplice 41-45, M 12 Responses Jun 9, 2008

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    Yes & it's because not many people take the

    time to get to know me. There are so many fake people out there. I'm not one of them.
    nazkid99 nazkid99 36-40, F Jan 4

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    Unfortunately it's true I always think

    that people want something from me when I can only offer friendship. It's like I have these walls up around me ever since stories of girls like Amanda Todd got out. I'm sorry if I'm hard to talk to it takes a while for me to get comfortable around new people, but I try =)
    OVOXODrake OVOXODrake 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    SimplyDezzixoxo SimplyDezzixoxo 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    I Don't Want To Be Known.

    I seem to only open up to certain kinds of people that strike me as special or different... I don't want the rest of the world knowing me, so I put on a charade. Only a few lucky people will ever get to know the real me and thats how It will stay.
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    I Don'T Tell Everyone About My Life

    You want to know something just ask
    brandtp brandtp 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    People Scare Me

    My really close friends are people I have bonded with through much interaction, and even then it took longer than what many would consider normal before I could consider them my friends. I have this bad habit of reaching out to people, and then getting scared and...
    xryss xryss 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 2, 2008

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    I am a rather difficult person to get to know

    as I am a very private person. I use my past experiences to help others but that is the extent of people knowing of my past. I divulge no details except to those who truly need my help, and even then I use it a teaching tool and nothing else. The emotions I hide are for the...
    Alexz72 Alexz72 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    I'm difficult to get to know just

    because I have been hurt so much that my protection wall is so thick that no one has been able to get through it. I think if my wall wasn't so thick people would be able to easily get to know me. I may share things about my life, but I can't completely let someone get to know...
    HelloKittyEatzSoulz HelloKittyEatzSoulz 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Just Being Myself

    I am very hard for people to figure out so it is difficult for some to really know me. I am not one to judge anybody. I do not like to be judged but, some people form an opinion about me without even getting to know me. I am a honest person true to my friends and family. I live a...
    Angeleyes6802 Angeleyes6802 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    But I've Written Some Serious Stuff

    Yes I have written "tell all" stories but those are experiences or truths of my life. I have friends on here who know more about me yet I feel like I'm still holding back. The crazy thing is I have an "I'm an open book" attitude. You want to know something just ask. I'm not going...
    shoreguyct shoreguyct 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 16, 2013

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    On Top of Bipolar, Social Anxiety, Etc. Etc.

    I don't make it easy to get to know me.  It's not that I don't want meaningful relationships; I do, so badly.  I just don't know how.  I'm socially inept, very shy, insecure.  People seem to think I'm weird.  I think I always say the wrong things, or I...
    eromreven eromreven 26-30 32 Responses Nov 18, 2007

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    Here I'm again breaking my head over some

    ****** past when I had made up my mind to move on. It's not clearly 24 hours that I had decided and look at me all back to square one. In depression right now. Little advice would be nice.
    angelslover angelslover 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 6

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    I am kind and affectionate

    but it is hidden behind a wall. I have created a cold demeanor that when coupled with my temper can drive anyone away. I am loyal to my friends and help them whenever I can but I can't approach people. Not because I won't approach them but I am awkward in social situations. I...
    persononinternet persononinternet 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 11

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