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I Am Divorced

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,732 People

    How do people manage to make ends meet from day

    to day? I owe so much in medical bills that I am barely able to pay for food. I don't see how I am going to save enough to see my boys in July? Any suggestions?
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses May 22

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    It is final. Happy Dance!

    !!!! :) The world is wide open again and I am free!!!! The paths that have been opened are exciting!
    BlueGray2014 BlueGray2014 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    Well, it's been nearly three years

    since my I have seen my children. I am deeply in debt, in poor physical health and have lost the majority of my 'friends'. I don't hate my ex and I'm not really even angry at her. I'm just sad that it all had to end this way. My children are growing up without me, I have student...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 2 Responses May 18

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    They need to have showers

    for divorced couples. Someone is going to need a toasted and/or a cheese grater after the split up.
    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M 3 Responses May 4

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    Separated only 4 months,

    divorced for almost a month now. I was relieved, though sad, but also happy. I'm depressed now. I just can't seem to snap out of it, and suspect it is still the grief process of divorce. So ready for my new life to begin, yet also so fatigued, uninterested in the things I love...
    ceruleansee13 ceruleansee13 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 13

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    I've been divorced now

    for almost 3 years come June. I love my life I feel free and extremely happy. The only thing I miss from my divorce is seeing my daughter ever day.
    blkrhino blkrhino 31-35, M Mar 30

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    I know its time to move on

    but at my age its difficult. The thought of starting again with dating just horrifies me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 12

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    I was married for 20 years

    and divorce is a hard thing
    lukeshort46 lukeshort46 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 20

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    I feel like I failed.

    ..I was ignored..basically fended for myself while he went and did what he wanted. ski trips .hunting...etc...we became roommates ..but my worry at the break up was ..gee..I don't want to hurt his feelings. ..I don't think he took my feelings into consideration. .when I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 29

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    I have had a terrible first

    and only marriage, I divorced my physical and mental abusive husband after he attacked, raped, kicked my 8th month pregnant tummy with his work boots on, and finally shoved me head first down a flight of stairs all because he was drunk and lost his paycheck in a local casino...
    singleredheadfemale singleredheadfemale 46-50, F 8 Responses Apr 10

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    One of the things I found most difficult

    after leaving my marriage was opening up and becoming intimate with anyone. Even at this point it requires months before I feel like it. I wish one of the first pieces of advice my therapist had given me was to cheat, because I needed to set hard, strong boundaries, feel...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 36-40, M 3 Responses May 22

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 19 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I have officially been divorced

    for three weeks now. I can honestly say that I have never been happier, and my ex-husband has never been nicer to me than he is now that we’re no longer together. I’ve spent a lot of years wondering what I did wrong in my life to deserve the kind of unhappy marriage that I...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response May 25

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Been divorced for some years now.

    I'm still exploring life as a single... but it's still hard to get used to as I didn't go out that much when I was married. And I'm quite shy, so... I sometimes just feel totally insecure and incomfortable when I'm out with my friends. I'm 36 and it's quite silly I know... but I...
    ZoeReynard ZoeReynard 36-40, F Mar 31

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    I keep waiting for it to sink in.

    It's been over 24 hours. I just l don't feel any different. I lost count of how many people I have been on this site over the years. How many names. And now it comes to this....Divorced. Freedom! Earlier this month, my sweet little cat died...mostly from old age. We didn't...
    simplysusan01 simplysusan01 41-45, F 4 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Ahhhhhhhhhh!!! I want to shout it from the roof

    tops, but technically it will be finalized March 28th!!! I can't believe it! Someone freakin pinch me, I dreaming!! I did it. I stuck to my guns and lived through this insanity. The ex even had a break through and now accepts the fact this divorce is for the best!!! Can you...
    irishstone irishstone 41-45, M Mar 11

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    After 18 years of marriage my wife filed divorce

    because she was in a relationship with a younger man. Took me about 2 years to get over it, but now I am fine and in a wonderful relationship. She is still bitter and alone because her affair fell through as soon as she filed the divorce he ran.
    mktonght mktonght 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    How can I find the strength to be a good mother

    to my three children while I'm dealing with my husband of 15yrs leaving..infidelity is suspected but not confirmed. Anytime a married man decide to spend the weekend away from his wife and cut off communicating until he.comes home Sunday night..ain't watching the "game" he's...
    tbryd tbryd 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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    As of 1:22 p.m. Central Time today.

    Glad that it is over, ready to move on, but still pretty melancholy.
    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M May 4

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 51 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a

    lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I use in any relationship I have. I left a 14 year relationship/marriage..at this point in my life..I can leave any relationship and not look back...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    I was with my husband 29 yrs.

    We raised 2 children together. In 2011 he started a online affair with a women 4 states away. He had never met this women face to face. After 4 months of online and phone conversations with her he asked me for a divorce. I find it hard to grasp that a husband and father would...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Apr 24

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    Its done, its over. I won,

    but It was like winning a war, hurra, but I am bankrupt. in debt and suffered massive causalities. I think I am happiest the bleeding has stopped. Oh she is not liking it, she has to pay me lifetime support. So it hurt, but a win. Still I would have rather not had it happen...
    xxorama xxorama 46-50, M 1 Response May 15

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    He told me the other day

    that he will probably die in a homeless shelter. I'm paying all the bills and still living in the same house since out divorce last year. So I should take him back because I feel sorry for him?
    metamorf metamorf 51-55, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Divorce doesnt give you your life back,

    but what it does for some ( like myself) is give you back to your self! it takes a while to reconcile with who you were/are without the burden of what your partner insist you become. Im in no better place than many divorced people i know ,but I know it will improve. resistance...
    faydoll faydoll 46-50, F 4 Responses May 22

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    And just one of the countless reasons it's a

    good thing is he doesn't wash his hands after using the bathroom
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 10

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    When the grief in your marriage out weighs the

    happiness you know it's time for a change.
    denimblue denimblue 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2014

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 12 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    I am officially divorced

    now what should I do?
    Oliviaa92 Oliviaa92 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    Finalizing my divorce this week .

    ....wife is bipolar didnt take meds made life a living hell...now that its about to be done im a bit sad over it all
    datbeast datbeast 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 19

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    date of birth May 3, 2013 date of death March

    11, 2015 even though it was a short life my marriage has ended. I seem to be doing ok. I didn't think I'd let anyone back in or allow myself to think long term. Was having some issues with commitment. (as i had started dating a couple months before my divorce finalized) I...
    06cumminsgirl 06cumminsgirl 22-25, F 1 Response May 18

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I have been married only once.

    From this union, I have delivered 3 kids; 2 boys and 1 girl. My husband cheated on me and left me for a woman half his age and mine. He got his girlfriend pregnant and she has given him twin boys. I have been divorced for a few years and am dating someone.
    stephaniewashington stephaniewashington 46-50, F May 2

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    EVERAFTERBROOKLYN EVERAFTERBROOKLYN 22-25, F May 13

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