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I Am Divorced

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    I have been married and divorced twice.

    My first marriage was when I was 19. We had one son and were divorced at 23. I married my second husband at 27 and we divorced two years ago,after 8 years of marriage and two kids. I definitely want a relationship...but don't want another marriage!
    StunningFun StunningFun 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Gas and a Match

    Until lately my ex and I have been simply "gas and a match". Actually I liked to think of myself as the candle and her as the flammable gas under pressure. But, everytime I came to pick up the children, she frick'n exploded.  So I thought my...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Why is this Christmas

    so hard? I have a new lady in my life that inspires and treats me far better than my ex. She and I get to pick up my children tomorrow afternoon and have them through next Saturday. But it is hard for me to be cheerful. Why? I think it comes down to the ex trying to pick...
    jeditaz jeditaz 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    Separated only 4 months,

    divorced for almost a month now. I was relieved, though sad, but also happy. I'm depressed now. I just can't seem to snap out of it, and suspect it is still the grief process of divorce. So ready for my new life to begin, yet also so fatigued, uninterested in the things I love...
    ceruleansee13 ceruleansee13 36-40, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I keep waiting for it to sink in.

    It's been over 24 hours. I just l don't feel any different. I lost count of how many people I have been on this site over the years. How many names. And now it comes to this....Divorced. Freedom! Earlier this month, my sweet little cat died...mostly from old age. We didn't...
    simplysusan01 simplysusan01 41-45, F 4 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Not sure what I should do with wedding pictures?

    We never developed them so they are just regular. I was thinking of keeping one for the kids n throw away the rest? He criticized the way I looked. It was the worst experience I had.. I feel damaged for good :-( maybe I should throw them all away to hasten the healing
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 3 Responses Jan 18

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    Ready for these holidays to be over with.

    Too new, too raw, too tired. It's 830p & I'm more than happy to be sitting in pajamas in my bed and crocheting! Talk about old lady status.. Judge me all you want- I'm relaxed.
    lackluster40 lackluster40 36-40, F Dec 23, 2014

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    At the end of Lord of The Rings,

    Samwise is shocked and saddened when Frodo makes the decision to leave Middle Earth for the Gray Havens. In his explanation to Sam, Frodo tells Sam that the wound he received has never fully healed, and that while he may have saved the Shire for his friends, the Shire was not...
    silenthawk silenthawk 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 8, 2014

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    Just a year and a half.

    It took forever for me to move toward divorce, but I finally did. It was very hard. I have a senior in high school who will soon be leaving for college. Now I will be all alone. I do not regret the divorce, but I am scared of being by myself. I will miss my child terribly. New...
    Irv15000 Irv15000 66-70, T Feb 5

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    On my grind again since I can't make enough

    money with my first job, that I needed a second job. Unfortunately it's 3rd shift. Tired yet hopeful things finally turn for the better. God help these collection calls end because I'm getting tired of arguing with people who don't understand that I'm trying the best that I can...
    SelfishShellfish SelfishShellfish 36-40, F Feb 18

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    And just one of the countless reasons it's a

    good thing is he doesn't wash his hands after using the bathroom
    Gwall1234 Gwall1234 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    Or rather, I've been through one.

    Effective weight loss plan (stress), though not one I would recommend...
    wuiop wuiop 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 26

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    I dont know how to forget being married.

    I see him with another woman on Facebook so happy and I think to myself what did I do wrong? why wasn't he that happy with me? I think of everything we went through. The money we saved up and spent together. I still own the jewerly he bought me, I can't wear it and I can't...
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 20

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 12 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    I have been divorced

    for two years now. I will tell you about it I was married at twenty five and everything went well for ten years then one night Marie my wife came in and said she was leaving me, I was really shocked and i said why, she said that she had met another man and was fed up with me...
    fleshy fleshy 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 29

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I've been divorced now

    for almost 3 years come June. I love my life I feel free and extremely happy. The only thing I miss from my divorce is seeing my daughter ever day.
    blkrhino blkrhino 31-35, M Mar 30

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    So I married a guy that was a good guy

    but not compatible with me at all. So much annoyed him about me over the years including how I organized the pantry! If I disagreed with him, he thinks I hated him and wanted a divorce. If I didn't want to do something with him and the kids for whatever reason, he would cancel...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 5 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I just found out that my Ex-husband was into

    BDSM. He is like a totally different man. He seems so happy with his new girlfriend it makes me sad. He cooks and cleans for her and never once did it for me. What did I do wrong?
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    All I Ever Wanted Was You!

    Seems i went looking for a wife, and found loneliness instead. She was all I ever wanted, smart, hard working, loving. But was that what she was, or what I thought I saw. Turns out we did get married, and had two wonderful children. Did I say she was a hard worker? lol Yup...
    AnIrishwarrior AnIrishwarrior 56-60, M 5 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    I met my now ex husband in early 2010.

    The relationship moved very quickly and we ended up getting an apartment together in August of 2010. Other than a few "little" things (his extreme love of video games and his money issues) everything seemed good. Now looking back I realize that he was just trying to hook me so...
    abarton abarton 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    I have been divorced twice

    and have no plans on ever getting married again. I cannot and will not subject myself to that kind of emotional trauma again. I absolutely refuse to trust another man with my heart and I am perfectly okay with being single for the rest of my life. For me, the risk of acquiring...
    wilted2lips wilted2lips 41-45, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 50 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    As days go by I'm not sure how I'm feeling.

    I feel lonely but I know I need to start doing something with the time I have away from the kids. When I was married, I used to like going to a bookstore and just browse magazines and read books in whatever subject but now that I'm free to do that, I don't go. I feel like I...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 5 Responses Feb 11

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 19 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Ahhhhhhhhhh!!! I want to shout it from the roof

    tops, but technically it will be finalized March 28th!!! I can't believe it! Someone freakin pinch me, I dreaming!! I did it. I stuck to my guns and lived through this insanity. The ex even had a break through and now accepts the fact this divorce is for the best!!! Can you...
    irishstone irishstone 41-45, M Mar 11

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    A Day In A Life

    .....of a recently divorced man,with 2 kids...   my long hair making me look like something from a Bigfoot clip,i wake to  a happy face staring right at me up close,"are you awake dad?" *blink blink "yes baby i am now"  schools out for summer so it would be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    I was married for 20 years

    and divorce is a hard thing
    lukeshort46 lukeshort46 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 20

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    After 4 years of divorced.

    Sometimes I still feel like such a failure.. How could the 23 years of marriage feels like nothing for him? But life is life and it keeps moving on.. I'm getting better.. With faith. Live life learn..
    nananomi31 nananomi31 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    Quick story and lesson: I was married

    for 5 years to a wonderful woman that I loved and cherish. Even though it was wrong and we were not made for each other (the realization of the truth), there was a time period that was spend learning of her soul and spirit not just as her herself, but as WOMAN. WOMAN. We are...
    jpllc jpllc 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    When we were young we were in love.

    I raised the girls he earned the money. Then when the girls were grown and we were no longer short of money we didn't seem to have anything in common any more
    Barb1960 Barb1960 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    so it's the week of Valentine 's day

    and if I get through this week, it will be a miracle. i can't listen to the radio with all that sappy love **** playing. so to keep myself from crying i start playing my playlist of head banging songs and blast it to numb my brain and make me deaf....oh my.....
    Jensur Jensur 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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