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I Am Divorced

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,094 People

    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    I have been divorced

    since December 2010. Separated before that...August 2009. I should have filed for divorce first...but I wanted the marriage to work..so I filed for legal separation in March 2010. Then if you change your mind, you have to wait 6 months to file for divorce after that. My ex...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    A Day In A Life

    .....of a recently divorced man,with 2 kids...   my long hair making me look like something from a Bigfoot clip,i wake to  a happy face staring right at me up close,"are you awake dad?" *blink blink "yes baby i am now"  schools out for summer so it would be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    Tonight I am very deeply depressed.

    .. everything is catching up to me. I have been through a bankruptcy, my wife has divorced me, my Mother and Sister are estranged from me, I need back surgery to manage the pain... and I cannot afford my hospital bills or student loans. I can't see past tonight. I am so very...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 10

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    My ex moved out a year ago

    and my divorce was final this past week. Want to get back into the dating scene but the online dating sites are not working for me at all. Having been with my ex husband for the last 15 years, it's a little intimidating! I'm finding it hard to find someone worthy of my...
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 23

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Resolved To Disolve. Every divorce has those

    unique moments in court, proceedings, or on final papers. Here are a few of mine: 1. Hubby-at-time was in jail. Due to his charges, he was considered a threat to me and our daughter's livelihood, so I was able to get help from the state by them paying for a portion of my lawyer...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    My first gf luv then my wife abruptly decided

    to break up. It was a swift break up almost 4 years ago. Along with it went my friends...my possessions and most assets.... Not in that order but somehow. I have no regrets. :)
    earlycrisis earlycrisis 31-35, M Sep 10

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 16 Responses Aug 15

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    mudguppy mudguppy 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 19

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 43 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    When the grief in your marriage out weighs the

    happiness you know it's time for a change.
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F Jul 27

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    My wife and I had our share of problems.

    We ended up separated for six months. Did what I could to fix things, tried to be there for her. It wasn't enough. A few months ago she said she was done and wanted a divorce.
    Visium13 Visium13 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    Mom problems LOL Honestly I feel

    so lonely sometimes
    dnielle75 dnielle75 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Ex lives on a different continent - she has

    rights to our kids (who live with me full time) for an upcoming holiday week and she wants me to chaperone them to her city and either "we all hang out together" or I go on to another place. Am I crazy or would that be weird? I don't relish the idea of a family vacation...
    itsreadymade itsreadymade 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 11 Responses 1 day ago

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    Three Years And Counting - An Update

    This is an update to a piece I had written here a little over a year ago. The original account has been deleted for damage control purposes, although I now regret that decision. Here's the link: EP Link Here are a couple of things I've learned and experienced since then. I haven...
    bitabyss bitabyss 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    I keep waiting for it to sink in.

    It's been over 24 hours. I just l don't feel any different. I lost count of how many people I have been on this site over the years. How many names. And now it comes to this....Divorced. Freedom! Earlier this month, my sweet little cat died...mostly from old age. We didn't...
    jessesgirl24 jessesgirl24 41-45, F 4 Responses May 21

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    Divorce is final today.

    Never thought a year ago I would be saying this. At least now i won't worry about the unknown. I'm looking forward to the future and my "new life", wherever that takes me!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 18

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    I made a mistake and was a fool.

    Now he's happy again. And I can't find anyone who measures up.
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    This season is difficult.

    I'm having a hard time functioning. I feel like I need to have a good cry but I can't.I have all of this bottled up emotion and I don't know what to do with it.I go out with friends I have fun but I feel unwanted. I'm working on a new CD but my heart is not in it. I have an idea...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 16

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    Gas and a Match

    Until lately my ex and I have been simply "gas and a match". Actually I liked to think of myself as the candle and her as the flammable gas under pressure. But, everytime I came to pick up the children, she frick'n exploded.  So I thought my...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Divorced for 5 years

    now I thought he was the one but i was wrong! There will always be someone better out there though. :( :)
    msjuliegot32d msjuliegot32d 41-45, F Aug 21

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    One Year

    June 12, 2012, one year since everything was legally final. In some ways it was over much sooner than that, and yet in many ways it is still not over. I am not sure if it ever will be. There are many different angles to the divorce question but in the end you have to weigh the...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    Enough time has passed

    where I decided to try and see if I could get to the bottom of why my ex-wife had cheated on me, declined to try and reconcile and proceeded to flush ten years together down the toilet. It had been weighing heavily on me that I had been given no substantial reasons from her. I...
    wasted20s wasted20s 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 41-45, T 7 Responses Jan 26

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    Only 2 months to go till we've been legally

    separated for 12 months and able to file for divorce. I can't wait to be able to put that mistake behind me. I don't know any other divorced 27 year olds though...
    lilbirdydoll lilbirdydoll 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    Looking for advice...

    My children are having a difficult time accepting that mom has a boyfriend. My ex and I have 50/50 custody and I've always made sure to never leave my time with my kids to spend time with my boyfriend. My boyfriend does come with us at times to do family fun things and often...
    Need2BLoved Need2BLoved 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 7

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 10 Responses Apr 30

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    I have been married and divorced twice.

    My first marriage was when I was 19. We had one son and were divorced at 23. I married my second husband at 27 and we divorced two years ago,after 8 years of marriage and two kids. I definitely want a relationship...but don't want another marriage!
    StunningFun StunningFun 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I thought I was doing what was expected of me,

    to quote a movie "I checked all the boxes" I did what was expected of me, got married bought a house got a dog. I don't know if it want enough or just the wrong person. No matter what it was life moves on and now I get to start life all over again! Life couldn't be better!
    jlifegivingdeath jlifegivingdeath 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 3

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    My husband of 4 months has decided

    that I deserve better than him and he needs to be alone. We just want different things he says. My heart is breaking. I never imagined when I said my vows 4 months ago that he would just walk away so easily. Sometimes I don't know how I will survive the pain. I've been pathetic...
    megan52229 megan52229 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    This is my second divorce.

    It was finalized this past Wednesday. I'm very disappointed in the whole idea of love right now. After giving one hundred percent to both wives, I find myself alone at the age of 45. I'm living with my best friend while I get on my feet. I am so tired of starting over. My heart...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 31

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    the years have passed on by.

    I went into a marriage with open arms and great anticipation of happily ever after.What I got was two wonderful children which I raised alone as a single dad for over 12 years.Seven years in a sexless marriage with the exception of two pity sexual encounters leading to two...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M Aug 24

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    I have been divorced

    for a yr now. I feel like im still under control by my ex. I want to move on. And I did but my ex did not approve of who I was dating. And he got mad told me he would take my children away. I need to break my fear. I have found someone else and im afaird my ex will not approve...
    newlife22 newlife22 31-35, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I just moved in with my boyfriend

    and somehow his ex wife found out and has been crying and upset about it and confiding in their adult son. Their son thinks my boyfriend needs to talk to ex wife about it but I don't understand how that will help her be less upset. Their son says he feels like he's in the middle...
    ampand ampand 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 2

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    Yes I am, many years have passed.

    I raised two kids with full custody alone.I sacrificed a social life for many years, to give my kids a stable environment to grow up in.Their mother my ex-wife had very little to do with them as she slowly became an alcoholic,with a revolving door of men, in and out of her life...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M 1 day ago

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    Don't get me wrong, I am SO glad I divorced

    and 99% of my life is immensely better, but one part isn't...my own personal life. Well, it is better than it was when I was married, but I am still not in a relationship. I get lonely raising my 2 boys alone. I get lonely not having someone there for me (and me for them)in the...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    In Time

    I know that in time Someone will reach out for me take my hand and lead me to their heart.
    elifree elifree 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Finally Done and done.

    I got pretty much screwed as far as material items and finances are concerned, but..." ... dying in your bed many years from now,would you be willing to trade all the days from this day to that forone chance, just one chance, to come back here as young men and tellour enemies...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 15

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