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I Am Divorced

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,819 People

    One of the things I found most difficult

    after leaving my marriage was opening up and becoming intimate with anyone. Even at this point it requires months before I feel like it. I wish one of the first pieces of advice my therapist had given me was to cheat, because I needed to set hard, strong boundaries, feel...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 36-40, M 3 Responses May 22

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    date of birth May 3, 2013 date of death March

    11, 2015 even though it was a short life my marriage has ended. I seem to be doing ok. I didn't think I'd let anyone back in or allow myself to think long term. Was having some issues with commitment. (as i had started dating a couple months before my divorce finalized) I...
    06cumminsgirl 06cumminsgirl 22-25, F 3 Responses May 18

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    How do people manage to make ends meet from day

    to day? I owe so much in medical bills that I am barely able to pay for food. I don't see how I am going to save enough to see my boys in July? Any suggestions?
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses May 22

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    It is final. Happy Dance!

    !!!! :) The world is wide open again and I am free!!!! The paths that have been opened are exciting!
    BlueGray2014 BlueGray2014 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    I was talking to my oldest daughter this past

    weekend, and she mentioned that Mom had a "man friend". I'm not ready for that yet. I can't decide if she's doing this to get back at me, or if she really is finding other people, and leaving me in the dust. I realize that we are divorced, but it kills me.
    tachem46032 tachem46032 51-55, M 3 Responses Jun 4

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    They need to have showers

    for divorced couples. Someone is going to need a toasted and/or a cheese grater after the split up.
    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M 3 Responses May 4

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    I have officially been divorced

    for three weeks now. I can honestly say that I have never been happier, and my ex-husband has never been nicer to me than he is now that we’re no longer together. I’ve spent a lot of years wondering what I did wrong in my life to deserve the kind of unhappy marriage that I...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response May 25

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    I was with my husband 29 yrs.

    We raised 2 children together. In 2011 he started a online affair with a women 4 states away. He had never met this women face to face. After 4 months of online and phone conversations with her he asked me for a divorce. I find it hard to grasp that a husband and father would...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Apr 24

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    Divorce is really a terrible thing But

    for all you people out there, men and women, just know this your kids love you and out there other people do too :D
    Madiix2 Madiix2 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 19

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Divorce doesnt give you your life back,

    but what it does for some ( like myself) is give you back to your self! it takes a while to reconcile with who you were/are without the burden of what your partner insist you become. Im in no better place than many divorced people i know ,but I know it will improve. resistance...
    faydoll faydoll 46-50, F 5 Responses May 22

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    I was married twice by the time I was 30.

    I don't regret either one and I'm still friendly with both my exes. But it just didn't work. Now I have been single for 10 years. I have thought about getting married again but something about a third time makes me afraid to go back down that road. I have a pretty good life so...
    LemonadeGrin LemonadeGrin 41-45, M 2 Responses May 1

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    Going on 3 years now.

    Never thought I'd be here. Was foolish thinking some things last forever. Just in case you're wondering......she cheated. (doesn't make me blameless) Failed to make her want to stay, I guess. It is, what it is.
    AddMeNot AddMeNot 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 20

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    We got divorced 3 years ago

    when my wife decided to go and live in Spain with a Spanish hotel manager. It was an amicable divorce and I was grateful that she left me with my three boys who are my life. With all their faults I wouldn't change them for the world.
    wackygramps wackygramps 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 6

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Finally after 5 long years of seperation I am

    divorced.I love my life now the only thing that sucks about now is the fact that I have to live with relatives because I cannot afford to live on my own.My ex and I are cool with each other and thank goodness we didnt have any kids but then again I am childfree so that wasnt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 6

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 12 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    I have been married and divorced twice.

    My first marriage was when I was 19. We had one son and were divorced at 23. I married my second husband at 27 and we divorced two years ago,after 8 years of marriage and two kids. I definitely want a relationship...but don't want another marriage!
    StunningFun StunningFun 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    I have been married only once.

    From this union, I have delivered 3 kids; 2 boys and 1 girl. My husband cheated on me and left me for a woman half his age and mine. He got his girlfriend pregnant and she has given him twin boys. I have been divorced for a few years and am dating someone.
    stephaniewashington stephaniewashington 46-50, F May 2

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    I thought I may chronicle my first few weeks of

    being on my own, and this seems like the group to do it. Just thoughts and feelings that I suddenly become aware of that are different than the "old" married way. I won't say if it feels better or worse. I won't assign a judgment to it. I'll just say it as it is occurs and...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 6 Responses Jun 16

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    EVERAFTERBROOKLYN EVERAFTERBROOKLYN 22-25, F May 13

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    I have been divorced twice

    and have no plans on ever getting married again. I cannot and will not subject myself to that kind of emotional trauma again. I absolutely refuse to trust another man with my heart and I am perfectly okay with being single for the rest of my life. For me, the risk of acquiring...
    WiltedTulip WiltedTulip 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    He told me the other day

    that he will probably die in a homeless shelter. I'm paying all the bills and still living in the same house since out divorce last year. So I should take him back because I feel sorry for him?
    metamorf metamorf 51-55, F 7 Responses May 31

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 53 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    As of 1:22 p.m. Central Time today.

    Glad that it is over, ready to move on, but still pretty melancholy.
    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M May 4

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a

    lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I use in any relationship I have. I left a 14 year relationship/marriage..at this point in my life..I can leave any relationship and not look back...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 19 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    I hate the point I am at right now!

    Sometimes I just want my family back and other times I want to make the relationship I'm in work knowing that I will never be truly happy. But now I just wish I could go away from it all!
    Butterflyinflight Butterflyinflight 46-50, F 4 Responses Jun 6

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    Many years ago I went into a marriage thinking

    it be forever. Condensed story we had two kids together.She cheated on me became a full blown alcoholic bar fly and deadbeat mother.She left me for another man,we got divorced.I got full custody of my two kids.Raised them right and both are now college graduate.My ex made and...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M 3 Responses May 20

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    The Judge electronically filed the signed

    paperwork today. It's official! I reclaimed my maiden name. I feel relieved.
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 19

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    I feel like I failed.

    ..I was ignored..basically fended for myself while he went and did what he wanted. ski trips .hunting...etc...we became roommates ..but my worry at the break up was ..gee..I don't want to hurt his feelings. ..I don't think he took my feelings into consideration. .when I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 29

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    I just completed my first week alone.

    It wasn't as bad as I expected, in fact it was good, however, last night I felt a bit lonely and started to miss my home. This morning, it got worse. I'm okay, but realize that I was so busy and so tired from all that had to be done with moving that now everything is settling...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 9 Responses Jun 14

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    Its done, its over. I won,

    but It was like winning a war, hurra, but I am bankrupt. in debt and suffered massive causalities. I think I am happiest the bleeding has stopped. Oh she is not liking it, she has to pay me lifetime support. So it hurt, but a win. Still I would have rather not had it happen...
    xxorama xxorama 46-50, M 1 Response May 15

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    How can I find the strength to be a good mother

    to my three children while I'm dealing with my husband of 15yrs leaving..infidelity is suspected but not confirmed. Anytime a married man decide to spend the weekend away from his wife and cut off communicating until he.comes home Sunday night..ain't watching the "game" he's...
    tbryd tbryd 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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