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I Am Divorced

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    As days go by I'm not sure how I'm feeling.

    I feel lonely but I know I need to start doing something with the time I have away from the kids. When I was married, I used to like going to a bookstore and just browse magazines and read books in whatever subject but now that I'm free to do that, I don't go. I feel like I...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 6 Responses Feb 11

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    As much as I dislike writing about my own

    divorce, I must admit, and mostly out of the pain and suffer ring I've felt for so long, that divorce is very hard. I was divorced at only twenty four years old too - an even more isolating thing. I married a woman basically because she was hot and I thought she would change...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5, 2014

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Or rather, I've been through one.

    Effective weight loss plan (stress), though not one I would recommend...
    wuiop wuiop 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    Why is this Christmas

    so hard? I have a new lady in my life that inspires and treats me far better than my ex. She and I get to pick up my children tomorrow afternoon and have them through next Saturday. But it is hard for me to be cheerful. Why? I think it comes down to the ex trying to pick...
    jeditaz jeditaz 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I sit home today feeling weird

    and maybe sad knowing that my ex is spending the evening with his fiancée at the hospital about to give birth. I don't want him back, but I feel sad that the family that should have been is gone. I liked the stability that came with marriage and loved the commitment and...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 5 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I never in my entire life thought I would write

    these words. I was never the one that had a 'Plan B' in case my marriage failed. It simply was not an option. I didn't stand at the altar and look into my husband’s eyes and think, “Well, if this doesn't work – I’ll just try, try again” No! I wanted to grow old with...
    sls84 sls84 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Well It is all over now.

    ...I have my papers. I really don't know how I feel about it....guess it may take a couple of days, until closure sets in. I have to confess that I have been creeping his emails, as he didn't change his passwords and I was once step ahead with all he was planning. I think that...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    I got married when I was 26 yrs old,

    and got divorced when I was 33 yrs old. She could not handle me having to wear diapers for my incontinence. At first she was there for me, and then out of the blue she wanted a divorce. She said she could not handle sleeping with someone who has to wear diapers. There were times...
    iwillkeepyoudiapered iwillkeepyoudiapered 51-55, M a week ago

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    I lost everything, my job,

    my livelihood, my income, my wife, slowly my children, they're still being withdrawn from my life...any friends I might have had. I live alone everything reminds me of what I've lost and I just can't break free from this rut I'm in.
    turnpike1971 turnpike1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    I was married to an abusive control freak

    for 20 years . He stole the money bought a house with cash 3 months after the divorce. I try to get over it but l can't. My daughter and I struggle all the time.
    youfuyan youfuyan 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 28, 2014

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 10 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    When the grief in your marriage out weighs the

    happiness you know it's time for a change.
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2014

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    I am coming up on a year of being divorced

    and it feels more like 5 years with all that has transpired...but all in all my kids and I are doing very well. So much more peaceful. In this last year I have gone back to work full-time, got laid off from said job, and ventured back into job-searching. I have dipped my toes...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I just found out that my Ex-husband was into

    BDSM. He is like a totally different man. He seems so happy with his new girlfriend it makes me sad. He cooks and cleans for her and never once did it for me. What did I do wrong?
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    Just a year and a half.

    It took forever for me to move toward divorce, but I finally did. It was very hard. I have a senior in high school who will soon be leaving for college. Now I will be all alone. I do not regret the divorce, but I am scared of being by myself. I will miss my child terribly. New...
    Irv15000 Irv15000 66-70, T Feb 5

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    I am divorced simple

    as that! Married my first husband at 18 (a young and dumb move) he turned abusive to the degree of smashing my foot with a hammer and just yelling and screaming at me all the time I remember one time I was in the shower and we were fighting and he cornered he in the shower...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    A year ago my life changed drastically.

    At that point, someone on this site told me "A year from now your baseline will be different." What the crap does that mean?'
    lackluster40 lackluster40 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2014

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 21 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Quick story and lesson: I was married

    for 5 years to a wonderful woman that I loved and cherish. Even though it was wrong and we were not made for each other (the realization of the truth), there was a time period that was spend learning of her soul and spirit not just as her herself, but as WOMAN. WOMAN. We are...
    jpllc jpllc 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    One Year

    June 12, 2012, one year since everything was legally final. In some ways it was over much sooner than that, and yet in many ways it is still not over. I am not sure if it ever will be. There are many different angles to the divorce question but in the end you have to weigh the...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    so it's the week of Valentine 's day

    and if I get through this week, it will be a miracle. i can't listen to the radio with all that sappy love **** playing. so to keep myself from crying i start playing my playlist of head banging songs and blast it to numb my brain and make me deaf....oh my.....
    Jensur Jensur 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Thinking about the terror my ex wife has caused

    me... we have a daughter together, and my child support amount is very high for me to keep up with. I'm trying to figure out how to cope. I've ignored my daughter and child support - only because I want nothing to do with my ex wife - well, actually, because she has made various...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5, 2014

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    All I Ever Wanted Was You!

    Seems i went looking for a wife, and found loneliness instead. She was all I ever wanted, smart, hard working, loving. But was that what she was, or what I thought I saw. Turns out we did get married, and had two wonderful children. Did I say she was a hard worker? lol Yup...
    AnIrishwarrior AnIrishwarrior 56-60, M 5 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    i received my divorce certificate yesterday.

    i thought I'd break down and lose my mind...I've been waiting for it to go through half heartedly for about 4 months. i feel no different to how i felt before receiving it, no reaction...i don't know of its because it hasn't sunk in or i really don't give a ****. 4 years the...
    Simplycomplicated88 Simplycomplicated88 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2014

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    At the end of Lord of The Rings,

    Samwise is shocked and saddened when Frodo makes the decision to leave Middle Earth for the Gray Havens. In his explanation to Sam, Frodo tells Sam that the wound he received has never fully healed, and that while he may have saved the Shire for his friends, the Shire was not...
    silenthawk silenthawk 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 8, 2014

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    Not officially but it's caused hell with the

    family and the kids and no one listens to anyone anymore
    HouseMommy HouseMommy 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    When we were young we were in love.

    I raised the girls he earned the money. Then when the girls were grown and we were no longer short of money we didn't seem to have anything in common any more
    Barb1960 Barb1960 51-55, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a

    lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I use in any relationship I have. I left a 14 year relationship/marriage..at this point in my life..I can leave any relationship and not look back...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    A Day In A Life

    .....of a recently divorced man,with 2 kids...   my long hair making me look like something from a Bigfoot clip,i wake to  a happy face staring right at me up close,"are you awake dad?" *blink blink "yes baby i am now"  schools out for summer so it would be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    After 18 years of marriage my wife filed divorce

    because she was in a relationship with a younger man. Took me about 2 years to get over it, but now I am fine and in a wonderful relationship. She is still bitter and alone because her affair fell through as soon as she filed the divorce he ran.
    mktonght mktonght 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I dont know how to forget being married.

    I see him with another woman on Facebook so happy and I think to myself what did I do wrong? why wasn't he that happy with me? I think of everything we went through. The money we saved up and spent together. I still own the jewerly he bought me, I can't wear it and I can't...
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 20

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    So I married a guy that was a good guy

    but not compatible with me at all. So much annoyed him about me over the years including how I organized the pantry! If I disagreed with him, he thinks I hated him and wanted a divorce. If I didn't want to do something with him and the kids for whatever reason, he would cancel...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 5 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    On my grind again since I can't make enough

    money with my first job, that I needed a second job. Unfortunately it's 3rd shift. Tired yet hopeful things finally turn for the better. God help these collection calls end because I'm getting tired of arguing with people who don't understand that I'm trying the best that I can...
    SelfishShellfish SelfishShellfish 36-40, F Feb 18

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    My ex is a complete a$$ hole

    and dies everything in his power tinsel my life miserable and try to turn my two young children on me... It's such a sad existence when all you care about is how you can torture another human being. I've been divorced for seven years and it's always the same tricks and rotten...
    stargazer2468 stargazer2468 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 1