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I Am Divorced

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    It was a busy morning.

    Awake early, and had things to do. Took a nap late afternoon. Now what? There are many activities going on in my new location, but I'm not ready to get involved with other people just yet, and I don't mean romantically, but people in general. After living like a hermit for the...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 8 Responses Jul 1

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    He told me the other day

    that he will probably die in a homeless shelter. I'm paying all the bills and still living in the same house since out divorce last year. So I should take him back because I feel sorry for him?
    metamorf metamorf 51-55, F 7 Responses May 31

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    Its done, its over. I won,

    but It was like winning a war, hurra, but I am bankrupt. in debt and suffered massive causalities. I think I am happiest the bleeding has stopped. Oh she is not liking it, she has to pay me lifetime support. So it hurt, but a win. Still I would have rather not had it happen...
    xxorama xxorama 46-50, M 1 Response May 15

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    I just completed my first week alone.

    It wasn't as bad as I expected, in fact it was good, however, last night I felt a bit lonely and started to miss my home. This morning, it got worse. I'm okay, but realize that I was so busy and so tired from all that had to be done with moving that now everything is settling...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 9 Responses Jun 14

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 19 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    I made plans (in my head) this morning.

    Go shopping for new clothes. Make hair and nail appointment. Ride my bicycle to the lake, and take a packed lunch. Walk to the store with the ATM and get some cash. That should take care of most of the day, and later lift some weights. I haven't done any of that, and I ate my...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 22 Responses Jul 3

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    I know its time to move on

    but at my age its difficult. The thought of starting again with dating just horrifies me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 12

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    I thought I may chronicle my first few weeks of

    being on my own, and this seems like the group to do it. Just thoughts and feelings that I suddenly become aware of that are different than the "old" married way. I won't say if it feels better or worse. I won't assign a judgment to it. I'll just say it as it is occurs and...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 7 Responses Jun 16

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    How do people manage to make ends meet from day

    to day? I owe so much in medical bills that I am barely able to pay for food. I don't see how I am going to save enough to see my boys in July? Any suggestions?
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses May 22

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    We met up last week to swap time with our son.

    .. I hugged my ex husband goodbye and he told me I smell nice.... Then a few days later on the phone he accidentally called me babe. We always slip up and do stuff like that. Sometimes I wish it wouldn't happen and sometimes I just wish that he would do it and fight to get me...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    date of birth May 3, 2013 date of death March

    11, 2015 even though it was a short life my marriage has ended. I seem to be doing ok. I didn't think I'd let anyone back in or allow myself to think long term. Was having some issues with commitment. (as i had started dating a couple months before my divorce finalized) I...
    06cumminsgirl 06cumminsgirl 22-25, F 5 Responses May 18

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Many years ago I went into a marriage thinking

    it be forever. Condensed story we had two kids together.She cheated on me became a full blown alcoholic bar fly and deadbeat mother.She left me for another man,we got divorced.I got full custody of my two kids.Raised them right and both are now college graduate.My ex made and...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M 3 Responses May 20

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    I never imagined I would be divorced in my mid

    thirties...but, after being with the same woman for 17 years, we separated March 2014, and divorce was final Feb 2015...So, to all single ladies, here I am (J/K) 😉 TRANSPARENCY: it has proven to be the most difficult & emotionally-draining experience I've ever been through...
    Jfour001 Jfour001 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    It's been 2 1/2 years

    since we split but only 1 year since it was final. A lot better in many ways, worse in others. Things have settled but they will never quite be the same.
    macaulfi macaulfi 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    I left my husband of 7 years in April 2014

    and we divorced last November. We still talk almost every day and say I love you often. I miss him and am always looking for traits of his in other people.. But I know he is not good for me and keep him at a distance. I'm scared of what will happen to him if he doesn't have me...
    surioregon surioregon 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    Well, it's been nearly three years

    since my I have seen my children. I am deeply in debt, in poor physical health and have lost the majority of my 'friends'. I don't hate my ex and I'm not really even angry at her. I'm just sad that it all had to end this way. My children are growing up without me, I have student...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 2 Responses May 18

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    What breaks my heart the most is my daughter of

    three years old... Today she cryied for her father and asked him to stay at home!!! I dont regret divorce but i regret bringing a child and not make him grow with loving parents living in the same home... I feel sad for her she is so lovely!
    Andalousia Andalousia 31-35, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    I filed for divorce. Turns out I had everything

    i wanted the whole time. I wasn't happy with me. I miss the life I had with my now ex husband. We had 3 kids. 2 dogs. 2 parrots. Good jobs. 2 cars. Our own home. While I'm glad I learned what I did about myself, I feel like it was a huge mistake. I guess thats me being...
    Sabr3na Sabr3na 36-40, F 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    The Judge electronically filed the signed

    paperwork today. It's official! I reclaimed my maiden name. I feel relieved.
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 19

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    I have officially been divorced

    for three weeks now. I can honestly say that I have never been happier, and my ex-husband has never been nicer to me than he is now that we’re no longer together. I’ve spent a lot of years wondering what I did wrong in my life to deserve the kind of unhappy marriage that I...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response May 25

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 52 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Divorce is really a terrible thing But

    for all you people out there, men and women, just know this your kids love you and out there other people do too :D
    Madiix2 Madiix2 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 19

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    After 18 years of marriage my wife filed divorce

    because she was in a relationship with a younger man. Took me about 2 years to get over it, but now I am fine and in a wonderful relationship. She is still bitter and alone because her affair fell through as soon as she filed the divorce he ran.
    mktonght mktonght 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    I hate the point I am at right now!

    Sometimes I just want my family back and other times I want to make the relationship I'm in work knowing that I will never be truly happy. But now I just wish I could go away from it all!
    Butterflyinflight Butterflyinflight 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 6

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    Finally after 5 long years of seperation I am

    divorced.I love my life now the only thing that sucks about now is the fact that I have to live with relatives because I cannot afford to live on my own.My ex and I are cool with each other and thank goodness we didnt have any kids but then again I am childfree so that wasnt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 6

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    EVERAFTERBROOKLYN EVERAFTERBROOKLYN 22-25, F May 13

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    Going on 3 years now.

    Never thought I'd be here. Was foolish thinking some things last forever. Just in case you're wondering......she cheated. (doesn't make me blameless) Failed to make her want to stay, I guess. It is, what it is.
    AddMeNot AddMeNot 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 20

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    How can I find the strength to be a good mother

    to my three children while I'm dealing with my husband of 15yrs leaving..infidelity is suspected but not confirmed. Anytime a married man decide to spend the weekend away from his wife and cut off communicating until he.comes home Sunday night..ain't watching the "game" he's...
    tbryd tbryd 36-40, F 5 Responses May 10

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a

    lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I use in any relationship I have. I left a 14 year relationship/marriage..at this point in my life..I can leave any relationship and not look back...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    A new guy I've been talking to told me how he

    dreamt he was kissing me last night and it reminded me how my ex husband would tell me that he had dreamt of me after he and I had split. Gives me a little twinge in my heart
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Trying harder. New life is not easy.

    I decide to postpone this stuff. I found someone who can serve him when I am ready. Lawyer is out of town. I will be going on vacation next month. :/ I just wish I am over with it. Maybe I have strength when I come back and do it!!!!!!! Agh so exhausting!
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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