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I Am Divorced

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    I got divorced last year.

    We have a 2 1/2 yr old son. The past year we worked hard at getting along and we succeeded. But a month ago, she asked me to come down to spend a week and help her reorganise her place, I agreed (a week with my son). But I wasn't working so I had the time. So when I found a new...
    CanadianGentleman76 CanadianGentleman76 36-40, M 3 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    I warned him but he kept treating me awful.

    He had behaved so poorly for so long, and had gotten away with it, that he didn't believe me when I told him I wanted a divorce. I begged him to go to counseling with me, but he refused and got worse - lying, cheating, calling me names, not allowing me to have friends or my...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 51-55, F 10 Responses Aug 13, 2015

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    Got married really young ( her being 18

    and me at 20). We had been together for a couple years already and both thought it was the right thing to do (plus married couples do get some awesome benefits, depending on your state). Unfortunately, things went from great to horrendous. Even though our divorce was the worst...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    For about a month my ex wife has cut all

    communications with me because I cancelled my trip to come down (to help clean her place ) when I started a new job. Today start to fight back by asking her if I could call to talk to my son. Her reply will determine my next course of action in my plan. But first I'm giving her...
    CanadianGentleman76 CanadianGentleman76 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I made plans (in my head) this morning.

    Go shopping for new clothes. Make hair and nail appointment. Ride my bicycle to the lake, and take a packed lunch. Walk to the store with the ATM and get some cash. That should take care of most of the day, and later lift some weights. I haven't done any of that, and I ate my...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 19 Responses Jul 3, 2015

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    I've come to really enjoy going out on my own.

    There are certain places I like to go by myself, and even though I like to be with other people (with limitations), I have to keep at least one day of the weekend for going out to enjoy my own company. It's so peaceful and relaxing just to be with me, on my own schedule. I...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 9 Responses Nov 8, 2015

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    It's been almost 2 years

    since the separation and 4 months since I signed the papers. I'm still not sleeping well at night. I couldn't wait to leave and now that I'm free something doesn't feel right. Feels like I can't get back into the swing of things.
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    The Judge electronically filed the signed

    paperwork today. It's official! I reclaimed my maiden name. I feel relieved.
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 19, 2015

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    No shouting, sobbing,

    or threats. A very civil separation absent emotional back and forth confusion. We negotiated everything and nobody got screwed. Well, technically the children go screwed out of living and graduating as an intact family. The adjustment to separate households seems smooth for...
    grower629 grower629 51-55, M 8 Responses Jan 21

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    I have been divorced

    for a year. it's as hard today as it was the day I left. I thought when I got married we would get through anything. I thought he was my soulmate. but he cheated early in the marriage. with a "friend". then he became emotionally and verbally abusive. and eventually he became...
    Booter523 Booter523 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    should I throw a I am divorced party I don't

    love that I am getting divorced but can't do nothing about it . so should I embrace it.
    SMcCL SMcCL 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    I was married in 2000.

    It was a small ceremony at a courthouse. we were both young and in love. it didn't take long for it to fall apart. Only two years later we were separated. It was for the best, but it still tore me apart. we were divorced the following year. It still makes me second guess every...
    aaronfunn aaronfunn 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    date of birth May 3, 2013 date of death March

    11, 2015 even though it was a short life my marriage has ended. I seem to be doing ok. I didn't think I'd let anyone back in or allow myself to think long term. Was having some issues with commitment. (as i had started dating a couple months before my divorce finalized) I...
    06cumminsgirl 06cumminsgirl 22-25, F 4 Responses May 18, 2015

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    We married in 2005. Had a happy few years.

    Spent the next 3 years trying to make our marriage work. Separated in 2011 and divorced in 2013. He waited the 2 year period before messaging to say our 2 years is coming up. He flew in from Australia we went to the courthouse and a couple of months later divorce certificate...
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 26

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    6 months since my divorce.

    It's been hard l, but it's the best thing I ever did. No more controlling, I can be who I want to be. Thank you to those that helped me through it x
    salstar04 salstar04 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 12, 2015

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    The new year started out great!

    ! I'm free and living for me:)
    trin2013 trin2013 31-35, F Jan 14

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    I am happily divorced

    since 15 years. Since15 years I am out of the prison of marriage. I am so thankful for my freedom every day again!
    Loretta78 Loretta78 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 11, 2015

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    We met up last week to swap time with our son.

    .. I hugged my ex husband goodbye and he told me I smell nice.... Then a few days later on the phone he accidentally called me babe. We always slip up and do stuff like that. Sometimes I wish it wouldn't happen and sometimes I just wish that he would do it and fight to get me...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 2, 2015

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    I really wish that I was still married

    sometimes. I miss my son. I miss married life minus the arguing. Actually, I kind of miss the arguing to... I mean just to have someone to do that with....
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2015

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    My divorce just finalized.

    I am a single man now. Is it weird that I don't feel any different? During the judgement I just felt apathy. I don't know if it will set in later, I hope it does actually, I want to feel something. I want to know that it ment something. I got two beautiful kids that I wouldn't...
    BigDaddyDrax BigDaddyDrax 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

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    I filed for divorce. Turns out I had everything

    i wanted the whole time. I wasn't happy with me. I miss the life I had with my now ex husband. We had 3 kids. 2 dogs. 2 parrots. Good jobs. 2 cars. Our own home. While I'm glad I learned what I did about myself, I feel like it was a huge mistake. I guess thats me being...
    Sabr3na Sabr3na 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 4, 2015

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    I realized a few hours ago

    that today was the day that started the fight that brought up the notion of our divorce. It's strange, I feel like I should be more emotional about it but I'm not.. It truly feels like all the hurt, pain and baggage of last year ended on the stroke of midnight New Year's Eve. 2...
    poetryafterdark poetryafterdark 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    And have learned some very important lessons

    about all the things I did wrong in my marriage. I never thought I'd say this, because I still love my ex husband very much, even after all the things he did to hurt me, but I have learned that God has chosen a different path for me and I am so blessed and thankful that I'm on...
    lionessstrong lionessstrong 46-50, F 10 Responses Oct 22, 2015

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    Not even a month after my 20th birthday my

    divorce was finalized. Got married at 18 right out of high school now I'm 20 and can't believe that I decided to grow up that fast and throw my last 2 years of being a teenager away and I have nothing good to show from it... I have a lot of years ahead of me but I feel like I...
    Elprup Elprup 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    I am not yet divorced

    but separated 6 months (legally need to wait a year before divorce). She left me for another woman after years of affairs. Was tough at the time but after such a build up, an absolute relief in the end. Life is good. :)
    Andy0001 Andy0001 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 11, 2015

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    I had to meet my ex in the garden to give him

    our daughter of 3 years old and leave. My daughter was happy to see us for 1 minute together. Than i had to leave and kissed her... I saw in her eyes that the hope of having a walk with her parents together has gone. But she was strong she hugged me strong kissed me and told be...
    mustbehappy mustbehappy 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    I am Christina and I am 31 years old.

    My divorced was just finalized. The last night week I spend with him was HELL. He smashed walls, broke doors, flipped tables, threw a cup across the room hitting his shelf of DVDs, he insisted I cleaned them all, he kept yelling faster, quicker and when I was cry kept yelling at...
    Itsamechristina Itsamechristina 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 15, 2015

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    I filled in my calendar yesterday.

    I've gone from zero to about 75 on the social life scale in one week. It's been years since I've filled in a calendar. I've had no social life for the past 10-years, so no need for one, now with all my new activities, it's a must that I have one. Amazing how one week can...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 12 Responses Nov 6, 2015

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    Pauly1904 Pauly1904 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Our initial agreement on the home is no longer

    acceptable to her. What have you done? I am thinking that she is entitled to half of the equity minus the amortization cost. I could split financing costs of half the equity Let me know what you have done
    LonelyGuyHere LonelyGuyHere 36-40, M 3 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    Divorce is really a terrible thing But

    for all you people out there, men and women, just know this your kids love you and out there other people do too :D
    Madiix2 Madiix2 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 19, 2015

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    First Christmas since the divorce.

    He gets the kids over their school break but at least I'll have them Christmas day. My heart is very heavy right now.
    poetryafterdark poetryafterdark 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 24, 2015

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    When you meet your replacement

    and he's uglier than you....wow.
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 5 Responses Nov 18, 2015

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 51 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    My ex-husband and I were mis-matched.

    I learned survival techniques: multi-tasking, bill-paying, doing light maintenance, and taking charge of projects. I was thinking today how this might be a huge turn-off for some men. That I might come across as intense and too strong/too cold. I am actually anxious and quite...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 6, 2015

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    I think my divorce has honestly crush me!

    Even 2 years later I have almost zero ability to find, start or maintain a relationship or really open up to someone that I can connect with.
    Eric81975 Eric81975 36-40, M 7 Responses Jan 17

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    ill raise my hand, yes i am divorced.

    ..its been about 3 years now but yeah no regrets what so ever and enjoying my life haha
    ninaSnina ninaSnina 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 29

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    Divorce doesnt give you your life back,

    but what it does for some ( like myself) is give you back to your self! it takes a while to reconcile with who you were/are without the burden of what your partner insist you become. Im in no better place than many divorced people i know ,but I know it will improve. resistance...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 22, 2015

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    Signed by the judge on January 19,

    2016.We were together for 23 years. Married for 18 of those years, but separated for 1 year, 3 months of those years.Our 18th anniversary, we were already separated, as I had left him shortly after our 17th wedding anniversary due to his narcissistic tendencies, hatefulness...
    ImKeepinItReal ImKeepinItReal 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 26

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    I need advice. My 24 y.

    o. daughter tells me that she spoke w/ my ex (her step dad), and he tells her he's negotiating for a promotion to VP of his department or a department I don't really know of what. Anyway point is, obvi he was never going to tell me and won't say squat to me. Now I said that oh...
    Cinderfire Cinderfire 46-50, F 15 Responses Nov 26, 2015

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