I Am Divorced

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    My ex-husband and I were mis-matched.

    I learned survival techniques: multi-tasking, bill-paying, doing light maintenance, and taking charge of projects. I was thinking today how this might be a huge turn-off for some men. That I might come across as intense and too strong/too cold. I am actually anxious and quite...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Sep 6, 2015


    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    deleted deleted
    43 Responses Jan 17, 2008

    For about a month my ex wife has cut all

    communications with me because I cancelled my trip to come down (to help clean her place ) when I started a new job. Today start to fight back by asking her if I could call to talk to my son. Her reply will determine my next course of action in my plan. But first I'm giving her...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 5, 2016

    I'm a female who pays alimony.

    Now granted, my ex was also female. But it's not just a male's burden. We wanted marriage equality, guess that goes for the divorce process too.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 11, 2016

    The new year started out great!

    ! I'm free and living for me:)
    trin2013 trin2013
    31-35, F
    Jan 14, 2016

    Living with a narcissistic person is not a way

    to live. The mental and verbal abuse takes a toll on everyone involved. The right thing to do is to get yourself out of the situation because living in constant fear is dangerous to your health. I am finally free but still fearful.
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Feb 13, 2016

    I got divorced last year.

    We have a 2 1/2 yr old son. The past year we worked hard at getting along and we succeeded. But a month ago, she asked me to come down to spend a week and help her reorganise her place, I agreed (a week with my son). But I wasn't working so I had the time. So when I found a new...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    I think my divorce has honestly crush me!

    Even 2 years later I have almost zero ability to find, start or maintain a relationship or really open up to someone that I can connect with.
    Eric81975 Eric81975
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Jan 17, 2016
    Pauly1904 Pauly1904
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jan 26, 2016

    I warned him but he kept treating me awful.

    He had behaved so poorly for so long, and had gotten away with it, that he didn't believe me when I told him I wanted a divorce. I begged him to go to counseling with me, but he refused and got worse - lying, cheating, calling me names, not allowing me to have friends or my...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    I realized a few hours ago

    that today was the day that started the fight that brought up the notion of our divorce. It's strange, I feel like I should be more emotional about it but I'm not.. It truly feels like all the hurt, pain and baggage of last year ended on the stroke of midnight New Year's Eve. 2...
    poetryafterdark poetryafterdark
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 24, 2016

    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30
    31-35, M
    10 Responses Apr 30, 2014

    And have learned some very important lessons

    about all the things I did wrong in my marriage. I never thought I'd say this, because I still love my ex husband very much, even after all the things he did to hurt me, but I have learned that God has chosen a different path for me and I am so blessed and thankful that I'm on...
    lionessstrong lionessstrong
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Oct 22, 2015

    6 months since my divorce.

    It's been hard l, but it's the best thing I ever did. No more controlling, I can be who I want to be. Thank you to those that helped me through it x
    salstar04 salstar04
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    It's so weird having someone you

    once were so close with act like you don't exist anymore. My ex MIL.
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Mar 5, 2016

    Our initial agreement on the home is no longer

    acceptable to her. What have you done? I am thinking that she is entitled to half of the equity minus the amortization cost. I could split financing costs of half the equity Let me know what you have done
    LonelyGuyHere LonelyGuyHere
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    Finally after 5 long years of seperation I am

    divorced.I love my life now the only thing that sucks about now is the fact that I have to live with relatives because I cannot afford to live on my own.My ex and I are cool with each other and thank goodness we didnt have any kids but then again I am childfree so that wasnt...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Sep 29, 2014

    No shouting, sobbing,

    or threats. A very civil separation absent emotional back and forth confusion. We negotiated everything and nobody got screwed. Well, technically the children go screwed out of living and graduating as an intact family. The adjustment to separate households seems smooth for...
    grower629 grower629
    51-55, M
    9 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    date of birth May 3, 2013 date of death March

    11, 2015 even though it was a short life my marriage has ended. I seem to be doing ok. I didn't think I'd let anyone back in or allow myself to think long term. Was having some issues with commitment. (as i had started dating a couple months before my divorce finalized) I...
    06cumminsgirl 06cumminsgirl
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 18, 2015

    Anyone else forced to remain living with your

    ex even after the divorce (for whatever reason)?
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Mar 16, 2016

    We married in 2005. Had a happy few years.

    Spent the next 3 years trying to make our marriage work. Separated in 2011 and divorced in 2013. He waited the 2 year period before messaging to say our 2 years is coming up. He flew in from Australia we went to the courthouse and a couple of months later divorce certificate...
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 26, 2016

    I filed for divorce. Turns out I had everything

    i wanted the whole time. I wasn't happy with me. I miss the life I had with my now ex husband. We had 3 kids. 2 dogs. 2 parrots. Good jobs. 2 cars. Our own home. While I'm glad I learned what I did about myself, I feel like it was a huge mistake. I guess thats me being...
    Sabr3na Sabr3na
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Aug 4, 2015

    When my husband and I divorced this summer we

    were very private about it. We were able to keep it off of social media nearly completely. We did that for the sake of the kids and our own integrity. However there are drawbacks to this strategy... No one seems to knows that we're divorced! I don't know how many times I have...
    poetryafterdark poetryafterdark
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    should I throw a I am divorced party I don't

    love that I am getting divorced but can't do nothing about it . so should I embrace it.
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 21, 2016

    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

    I was married in 2000.

    It was a small ceremony at a courthouse. we were both young and in love. it didn't take long for it to fall apart. Only two years later we were separated. It was for the best, but it still tore me apart. we were divorced the following year. It still makes me second guess every...
    aaronfunn aaronfunn
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    Dated and married a man

    that lies. I hate lies. tell the truth and I will love you for you. I am glad it is over and I can start over again.
    Sophiad1 Sophiad1
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 12, 2016

    I moved on and try my best.

    I am not the pity myself type of person and lately I have been thinking accepting some invitations for date. But my ex seems to still hope for us to come back to each other. He always messages me and he even talked to a man that I wanted to date and tried to stop him. Even I...
    Eriane Eriane
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 20, 2016

    Has anyone even gotten into the confusing

    situation of sleeping with his ex-spouse? I have been divorced for quite a long time now, but recent events have made me think about things again and again. I'm hoping to see if anyone out there is in a similar situation, because I've reached a dead end and don't know what to...
    Michalb Michalb
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 11, 2016

    The Judge electronically filed the signed

    paperwork today. It's official! I reclaimed my maiden name. I feel relieved.
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jun 19, 2015

    I am so tired of this bs,

    she should not be happy. She's always posting **** about how lucky and happy she is with her "family." ****** ****** me off. She doesn't have the right to be happy. She broke my heart and killed me. Then she posts the ****. She's always been a private person but now wtf? This...
    jcomnimax jcomnimax
    5 Responses Feb 19, 2016

    So been split from my ex the father of my three

    children for over a year now the divorce finally got finalized about two months ago in January. Very relived although I teared up during the hearing for it. He didn't even remember the date of when we got married. Least once again he pretended he didn't. That hurt. So glad it's...
    mkp86 mkp86
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2016

    I am happily divorced

    since 15 years. Since15 years I am out of the prison of marriage. I am so thankful for my freedom every day again!
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 11, 2015

    Got married really young ( her being 18

    and me at 20). We had been together for a couple years already and both thought it was the right thing to do (plus married couples do get some awesome benefits, depending on your state). Unfortunately, things went from great to horrendous. Even though our divorce was the worst...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 31, 2015

    I am in the middle of a divorce

    and am feeling so rejected.. it is greaving and learning to start all over again.
    kristinealice83 kristinealice83
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2016

    Divorce doesnt give you your life back,

    but what it does for some ( like myself) is give you back to your self! it takes a while to reconcile with who you were/are without the burden of what your partner insist you become. Im in no better place than many divorced people i know ,but I know it will improve. resistance...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 22, 2015

    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45
    31-35, F
    17 Responses Aug 15, 2014

    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei
    46-50, T
    7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

    Woo hoo!! Didn't think it was going to be done

    today, but it finally is! I am free of the abuse!!
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Feb 10, 2016

    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7
    51-55, M
    16 Responses Sep 30, 2012

    ill raise my hand, yes i am divorced.

    ..its been about 3 years now but yeah no regrets what so ever and enjoying my life haha
    ninaSnina ninaSnina
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jan 29, 2016

    Tonight I found out my ex-husband died April

    3rd. We started out as friends but then the stress of his children and mine. His father died and he started mixing beer with his pain meds. I became depressed and he became angry. He threatened me and got very weird at the end. We divorced in 2012. Now he is dead I have mix of...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 13, 2016


    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

    It's amazing how much impact a song can have.

    .. I'm sitting here in the Wal-mart parking lot, bawling my eyes out, feeling like a failure. Like a selfish b*tch that just couldn't make her marriage work or respect her husband enough. How far have I fallen? Am I truly in the wrong? Have I wrecked my ex-husband's life? Have...
    SaundraMae SaundraMae
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2016

    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

    I had to meet my ex in the garden to give him

    our daughter of 3 years old and leave. My daughter was happy to see us for 1 minute together. Than i had to leave and kissed her... I saw in her eyes that the hope of having a walk with her parents together has gone. But she was strong she hugged me strong kissed me and told be...
    mustbehappy mustbehappy
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 8, 2016

    Signed by the judge on January 19,

    2016.We were together for 23 years. Married for 18 of those years, but separated for 1 year, 3 months of those years.Our 18th anniversary, we were already separated, as I had left him shortly after our 17th wedding anniversary due to his narcissistic tendencies, hatefulness...
    ImKeepinItReal ImKeepinItReal
    41-45, F
    10 Responses Jan 26, 2016

    I really wish that I was still married

    sometimes. I miss my son. I miss married life minus the arguing. Actually, I kind of miss the arguing to... I mean just to have someone to do that with....
    Orangerocket Orangerocket
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Nov 9, 2015

    Got my decree absolute today.

    It is the end of something and the start of something else.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Feb 19, 2016

    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 14, 2014

    Divorce is really a terrible thing But

    for all you people out there, men and women, just know this your kids love you and out there other people do too :D
    Madiix2 Madiix2
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 19, 2015

    When we were young we were in love.

    I raised the girls he earned the money. Then when the girls were grown and we were no longer short of money we didn't seem to have anything in common any more
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Feb 27, 2015

    I just completed my first week alone.

    It wasn't as bad as I expected, in fact it was good, however, last night I felt a bit lonely and started to miss my home. This morning, it got worse. I'm okay, but realize that I was so busy and so tired from all that had to be done with moving that now everything is settling...
    Carissimi Carissimi
    56-60, F
    7 Responses Jun 14, 2015

    We met up last week to swap time with our son.

    .. I hugged my ex husband goodbye and he told me I smell nice.... Then a few days later on the phone he accidentally called me babe. We always slip up and do stuff like that. Sometimes I wish it wouldn't happen and sometimes I just wish that he would do it and fight to get me...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Aug 2, 2015

    Today, the best thing I did

    for myself was resume individual counseling. Some of you privately know how devastated I have been. I am so proud of myself. The last time I saw my therapist was in February and we had a positive meeting. He is proud of me, too, for finding my dormant spark. It's time to work on...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Sep 9, 2015
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