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I Am Divorced

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    date of birth May 3, 2013 date of death March

    11, 2015 even though it was a short life my marriage has ended. I seem to be doing ok. I didn't think I'd let anyone back in or allow myself to think long term. Was having some issues with commitment. (as i had started dating a couple months before my divorce finalized) I...
    06cumminsgirl 06cumminsgirl 22-25, F 5 Responses May 18

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 51 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Gladhander Gladhander 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I never imagined I would be divorced in my mid

    thirties...but, after being with the same woman for 17 years, we separated March 2014, and divorce was final Feb 2015...So, to all single ladies, here I am (J/K) 😉 TRANSPARENCY: it has proven to be the most difficult & emotionally-draining experience I've ever been through...
    Jfour001 Jfour001 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 28

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    Divorce doesnt give you your life back,

    but what it does for some ( like myself) is give you back to your self! it takes a while to reconcile with who you were/are without the burden of what your partner insist you become. Im in no better place than many divorced people i know ,but I know it will improve. resistance...
    faydoll faydoll 46-50, F 5 Responses May 22

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    What breaks my heart the most is my daughter of

    three years old... Today she cryied for her father and asked him to stay at home!!! I dont regret divorce but i regret bringing a child and not make him grow with loving parents living in the same home... I feel sad for her she is so lovely!
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jul 29

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    It's been 2 1/2 years

    since we split but only 1 year since it was final. A lot better in many ways, worse in others. Things have settled but they will never quite be the same.
    macaulfi macaulfi 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    It was a busy morning.

    Awake early, and had things to do. Took a nap late afternoon. Now what? There are many activities going on in my new location, but I'm not ready to get involved with other people just yet, and I don't mean romantically, but people in general. After living like a hermit for the...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 9 Responses Jul 1

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    I just completed my first week alone.

    It wasn't as bad as I expected, in fact it was good, however, last night I felt a bit lonely and started to miss my home. This morning, it got worse. I'm okay, but realize that I was so busy and so tired from all that had to be done with moving that now everything is settling...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 9 Responses Jun 14

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 17 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I made plans (in my head) this morning.

    Go shopping for new clothes. Make hair and nail appointment. Ride my bicycle to the lake, and take a packed lunch. Walk to the store with the ATM and get some cash. That should take care of most of the day, and later lift some weights. I haven't done any of that, and I ate my...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 21 Responses Jul 3

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    I am finally now divorced.

    I feel the biggest relief off of my shoulders that I haven't felt in months. I'm never speaking to my ex spouse ever again, and that knowledge makes me so happy. No more snide messages, no more dealing with stupid demands, and no more making me feel worthless. I feel like I won...
    Cadiaaya Cadiaaya 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 20

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    three months after my husband divorces me,

    he gets engaged with Someone else. seriously. He has put me through hell and back when we were together.
    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 10

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    Today is the one year anniversary of the

    finalization of my divorce. In Judaism, anniversaries of the death of loved ones are marked with prayer and ritual. There is no traditional anniversary recognizing the death of a marriage that I know of. One year ago, this passage from Nicole Krauss spoke my heart, and I will...
    lovevolves8 lovevolves8 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I thought I may chronicle my first few weeks of

    being on my own, and this seems like the group to do it. Just thoughts and feelings that I suddenly become aware of that are different than the "old" married way. I won't say if it feels better or worse. I won't assign a judgment to it. I'll just say it as it is occurs and...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 7 Responses Jun 16

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    It's true I'm moving forward.

    And, it feels so very positive. For the most part, I'm embracing my transition. I'm working on me. I'm engaging in things that exceed my comfort zone as it relates to exercise and being around a lot of people I don't know. I decided today that I'm going to resume my counseling...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 16

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    I was talking to my oldest daughter this past

    weekend, and she mentioned that Mom had a "man friend". I'm not ready for that yet. I can't decide if she's doing this to get back at me, or if she really is finding other people, and leaving me in the dust. I realize that we are divorced, but it kills me.
    tachem46032 tachem46032 51-55, M 3 Responses Jun 4

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    We met up last week to swap time with our son.

    .. I hugged my ex husband goodbye and he told me I smell nice.... Then a few days later on the phone he accidentally called me babe. We always slip up and do stuff like that. Sometimes I wish it wouldn't happen and sometimes I just wish that he would do it and fight to get me...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 2

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    I filed for divorce. Turns out I had everything

    i wanted the whole time. I wasn't happy with me. I miss the life I had with my now ex husband. We had 3 kids. 2 dogs. 2 parrots. Good jobs. 2 cars. Our own home. While I'm glad I learned what I did about myself, I feel like it was a huge mistake. I guess thats me being...
    Sabr3na Sabr3na 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    I hate the point I am at right now!

    Sometimes I just want my family back and other times I want to make the relationship I'm in work knowing that I will never be truly happy. But now I just wish I could go away from it all!
    Butterflyinflight Butterflyinflight 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 6

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 19 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    He told me the other day

    that he will probably die in a homeless shelter. I'm paying all the bills and still living in the same house since out divorce last year. So I should take him back because I feel sorry for him?
    metamorf metamorf 51-55, F 7 Responses May 31

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    I have officially been divorced

    for three weeks now. I can honestly say that I have never been happier, and my ex-husband has never been nicer to me than he is now that we’re no longer together. I’ve spent a lot of years wondering what I did wrong in my life to deserve the kind of unhappy marriage that I...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response May 25

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I left my husband of 7 years in April 2014

    and we divorced last November. We still talk almost every day and say I love you often. I miss him and am always looking for traits of his in other people.. But I know he is not good for me and keep him at a distance. I'm scared of what will happen to him if he doesn't have me...
    surioregon surioregon 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Trying harder. New life is not easy.

    I decide to postpone this stuff. I found someone who can serve him when I am ready. Lawyer is out of town. I will be going on vacation next month. :/ I just wish I am over with it. Maybe I have strength when I come back and do it!!!!!!! Agh so exhausting!
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    After 18 years of marriage my wife filed divorce

    because she was in a relationship with a younger man. Took me about 2 years to get over it, but now I am fine and in a wonderful relationship. She is still bitter and alone because her affair fell through as soon as she filed the divorce he ran.
    mktonght mktonght 51-55, M 5 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Divorced twice first marriage ended cause she

    was additcted gambler, second ended for I was never home damn army life
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 5

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    Finally after 5 long years of seperation I am

    divorced.I love my life now the only thing that sucks about now is the fact that I have to live with relatives because I cannot afford to live on my own.My ex and I are cool with each other and thank goodness we didnt have any kids but then again I am childfree so that wasnt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 6

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    The Judge electronically filed the signed

    paperwork today. It's official! I reclaimed my maiden name. I feel relieved.
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 19

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    We got divorced 3 years ago

    when my wife decided to go and live in Spain with a Spanish hotel manager. It was an amicable divorce and I was grateful that she left me with my three boys who are my life. With all their faults I wouldn't change them for the world.
    wackygramps wackygramps 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 6

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    It's been over a year

    since the divorce. He was a manipulative controlling man who wouldn't let me have a credit card, took all of my money, wouldn't let me go to school, and blamed me for his sexual problems. He forged my signature for an inheritance from my uncle and gave it to his brother without...
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 5

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    A new guy I've been talking to told me how he

    dreamt he was kissing me last night and it reminded me how my ex husband would tell me that he had dreamt of me after he and I had split. Gives me a little twinge in my heart
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 2

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    dnielle75 dnielle75 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 15