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I Am Divorced

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    One Year

    June 12, 2012, one year since everything was legally final. In some ways it was over much sooner than that, and yet in many ways it is still not over. I am not sure if it ever will be. There are many different angles to the divorce question but in the end you have to weigh the...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    Mom problems LOL Honestly I feel

    so lonely sometimes
    dnielle75 dnielle75 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a

    lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I use in any relationship I have. I left a 14 year relationship/marriage..at this point in my life..I can leave any relationship and not look back...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    i received my divorce certificate yesterday.

    i thought I'd break down and lose my mind...I've been waiting for it to go through half heartedly for about 4 months. i feel no different to how i felt before receiving it, no reaction...i don't know of its because it hasn't sunk in or i really don't give a ****. 4 years the...
    Simplycomplicated88 Simplycomplicated88 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 21

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I was married to an abusive piece of ****

    for six years but I finally escaped two years ago. I still get scared sometimes of him coming back and finding me
    VanValentina VanValentina 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 13

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    This was #2. I don't want to make

    or be another mistake. I'm dating again and happy in my relationship but I'm cautious now. Extremely.
    flailure flailure 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 17

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 46 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    dnielle75 dnielle75 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 9

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    When the grief in your marriage out weighs the

    happiness you know it's time for a change.
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 10 Responses Apr 30

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    Thinking about the terror my ex wife has caused

    me... we have a daughter together, and my child support amount is very high for me to keep up with. I'm trying to figure out how to cope. I've ignored my daughter and child support - only because I want nothing to do with my ex wife - well, actually, because she has made various...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 11 Responses Sep 29

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    mudguppy mudguppy 46-50, M 3 Responses Sep 19

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    This is my second divorce.

    It was finalized this past Wednesday. I'm very disappointed in the whole idea of love right now. After giving one hundred percent to both wives, I find myself alone at the age of 45. I'm living with my best friend while I get on my feet. I am so tired of starting over. My heart...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 31

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    I have been divorced

    for a yr now. I feel like im still under control by my ex. I want to move on. And I did but my ex did not approve of who I was dating. And he got mad told me he would take my children away. I need to break my fear. I have found someone else and im afaird my ex will not approve...
    newlife22 newlife22 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 25

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    The biggest thing I learnt out of my divorce is

    to rely on myself first and seek out my own success. I want to continue doing well in my career and earn my own good money and be able to finically support myself. I like my freedom and independence. If one day I find someone I want to be with then it will be because we love...
    lilbirdydoll lilbirdydoll 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 10

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    I chose to get a divorce

    and though much happier now ; seeing photos of my past feels surreal
    starsmyles starsmyles 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    A Day In A Life

    .....of a recently divorced man,with 2 kids...   my long hair making me look like something from a Bigfoot clip,i wake to  a happy face staring right at me up close,"are you awake dad?" *blink blink "yes baby i am now"  schools out for summer so it would be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    I keep waiting for it to sink in.

    It's been over 24 hours. I just l don't feel any different. I lost count of how many people I have been on this site over the years. How many names. And now it comes to this....Divorced. Freedom! Earlier this month, my sweet little cat died...mostly from old age. We didn't...
    simplysusan01 simplysusan01 41-45, F 4 Responses May 21

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    Enough time has passed

    where I decided to try and see if I could get to the bottom of why my ex-wife had cheated on me, declined to try and reconcile and proceeded to flush ten years together down the toilet. It had been weighing heavily on me that I had been given no substantial reasons from her. I...
    wasted20s wasted20s 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 27

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 41-45, T 7 Responses Jan 26

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 14

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    This season is difficult.

    I'm having a hard time functioning. I feel like I need to have a good cry but I can't.I have all of this bottled up emotion and I don't know what to do with it.I go out with friends I have fun but I feel unwanted. I'm working on a new CD but my heart is not in it. I have an idea...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 16

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    I received my divirce decree in mail on Monday,

    I cried, it's sad, but Im moving on now that its completly over. It's been along rocky road, I'm also over my affair partner for most part. I guess god was looking out for me.
    Angeleyes789 Angeleyes789 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 5

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    As much as I dislike writing about my own

    divorce, I must admit, and mostly out of the pain and suffer ring I've felt for so long, that divorce is very hard. I was divorced at only twenty four years old too - an even more isolating thing. I married a woman basically because she was hot and I thought she would change...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5

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    A year ago my life changed drastically.

    At that point, someone on this site told me "A year from now your baseline will be different." What the crap does that mean?'
    lackluster40 lackluster40 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 4

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 19 Responses Aug 15

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    The paper came in the mail,

    the paper said our names and it said officially that we are divorced. I didn't feel any thing at first. It was just a reminder of the process, I knew would be coming. I knew it was going to happen. I needed it to happen so I could move forward with my life. It's sad. it's weird...
    ophelia379 ophelia379 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    I lost everything, my job,

    my livelihood, my income, my wife, slowly my children, they're still being withdrawn from my life...any friends I might have had. I live alone everything reminds me of what I've lost and I just can't break free from this rut I'm in.
    turnpike1971 turnpike1971 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 26

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    I have been divorced

    since December 2010. Separated before that...August 2009. I should have filed for divorce first...but I wanted the marriage to work..so I filed for legal separation in March 2010. Then if you change your mind, you have to wait 6 months to file for divorce after that. My ex...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    Gas and a Match

    Until lately my ex and I have been simply "gas and a match". Actually I liked to think of myself as the candle and her as the flammable gas under pressure. But, everytime I came to pick up the children, she frick'n exploded.  So I thought my...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    At the end of Lord of The Rings,

    Samwise is shocked and saddened when Frodo makes the decision to leave Middle Earth for the Gray Havens. In his explanation to Sam, Frodo tells Sam that the wound he received has never fully healed, and that while he may have saved the Shire for his friends, the Shire was not...
    silenthawk silenthawk 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 8

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    Only 2 months to go till we've been legally

    separated for 12 months and able to file for divorce. I can't wait to be able to put that mistake behind me. I don't know any other divorced 27 year olds though...
    lilbirdydoll lilbirdydoll 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    I am divorced simple

    as that! Married my first husband at 18 (a young and dumb move) he turned abusive to the degree of smashing my foot with a hammer and just yelling and screaming at me all the time I remember one time I was in the shower and we were fighting and he cornered he in the shower...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 11

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    Tonight I am very deeply depressed.

    .. everything is catching up to me. I have been through a bankruptcy, my wife has divorced me, my Mother and Sister are estranged from me, I need back surgery to manage the pain... and I cannot afford my hospital bills or student loans. I can't see past tonight. I am so very...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Sep 10

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    After 18 years of marriage my wife filed divorce

    because she was in a relationship with a younger man. Took me about 2 years to get over it, but now I am fine and in a wonderful relationship. She is still bitter and alone because her affair fell through as soon as she filed the divorce he ran.
    mktonght mktonght 41-45, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I never in my entire life thought I would write

    these words. I was never the one that had a 'Plan B' in case my marriage failed. It simply was not an option. I didn't stand at the altar and look into my husband’s eyes and think, “Well, if this doesn't work – I’ll just try, try again” No! I wanted to grow old with...
    sls84 sls84 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    In June I made a bold decision

    that would forever change my life after months of my mind racing over the state of my marriage. My husband (at the time) filed for divorce, and with the help of my support system, I started over far, far away from my home turf. I have (for the most part) kept quiet about this...