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I Am Divorced

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a

    lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I use in any relationship I have. I left a 14 year relationship/marriage..at this point in my life..I can leave any relationship and not look back...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    I was married for 10 years.

    I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get blatant cues. The marriage fell apart because he is like a little boy. While his submissive, traditional, loving/giving ways...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    I keep waiting for it to sink in.

    It's been over 24 hours. I just l don't feel any different. I lost count of how many people I have been on this site over the years. How many names. And now it comes to this....Divorced. Freedom! Earlier this month, my sweet little cat died...mostly from old age. We didn't...
    simplysusan01 simplysusan01 41-45, F 4 Responses May 21, 2014

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    I am officially divorced

    now what should I do?
    Oliviaa92 Oliviaa92 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    At the end of Lord of The Rings,

    Samwise is shocked and saddened when Frodo makes the decision to leave Middle Earth for the Gray Havens. In his explanation to Sam, Frodo tells Sam that the wound he received has never fully healed, and that while he may have saved the Shire for his friends, the Shire was not...
    silenthawk silenthawk 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 8, 2014

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    After 4 years of divorced.

    Sometimes I still feel like such a failure.. How could the 23 years of marriage feels like nothing for him? But life is life and it keeps moving on.. I'm getting better.. With faith. Live life learn..
    nananomi31 nananomi31 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 20 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Not sure what I should do with wedding pictures?

    We never developed them so they are just regular. I was thinking of keeping one for the kids n throw away the rest? He criticized the way I looked. It was the worst experience I had.. I feel damaged for good :-( maybe I should throw them all away to hasten the healing
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 3 Responses Jan 18

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    I have been divorced

    for two years now. I will tell you about it I was married at twenty five and everything went well for ten years then one night Marie my wife came in and said she was leaving me, I was really shocked and i said why, she said that she had met another man and was fed up with me...
    fleshy fleshy 36-40, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I've been divorced now

    for almost 3 years come June. I love my life I feel free and extremely happy. The only thing I miss from my divorce is seeing my daughter ever day.
    blkrhino blkrhino 31-35, M 5 hrs ago

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    Or rather, I've been through one.

    Effective weight loss plan (stress), though not one I would recommend...
    wuiop wuiop 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 26

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    As much as I dislike writing about my own

    divorce, I must admit, and mostly out of the pain and suffer ring I've felt for so long, that divorce is very hard. I was divorced at only twenty four years old too - an even more isolating thing. I married a woman basically because she was hot and I thought she would change...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5, 2014

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 46-50, T 7 Responses Jan 26, 2014

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    When the grief in your marriage out weighs the

    happiness you know it's time for a change.
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2014

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    As days go by I'm not sure how I'm feeling.

    I feel lonely but I know I need to start doing something with the time I have away from the kids. When I was married, I used to like going to a bookstore and just browse magazines and read books in whatever subject but now that I'm free to do that, I don't go. I feel like I...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 6 Responses Feb 11

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    Gas and a Match

    Until lately my ex and I have been simply "gas and a match". Actually I liked to think of myself as the candle and her as the flammable gas under pressure. But, everytime I came to pick up the children, she frick'n exploded.  So I thought my...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    When we were young we were in love.

    I raised the girls he earned the money. Then when the girls were grown and we were no longer short of money we didn't seem to have anything in common any more
    Barb1960 Barb1960 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    I lost everything, my job,

    my livelihood, my income, my wife, slowly my children, they're still being withdrawn from my life...any friends I might have had. I live alone everything reminds me of what I've lost and I just can't break free from this rut I'm in.
    turnpike1971 turnpike1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    I dont know how to forget being married.

    I see him with another woman on Facebook so happy and I think to myself what did I do wrong? why wasn't he that happy with me? I think of everything we went through. The money we saved up and spent together. I still own the jewerly he bought me, I can't wear it and I can't...
    lilpoetbear lilpoetbear 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 20

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    After 18 years of marriage my wife filed divorce

    because she was in a relationship with a younger man. Took me about 2 years to get over it, but now I am fine and in a wonderful relationship. She is still bitter and alone because her affair fell through as soon as she filed the divorce he ran.
    mktonght mktonght 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    On my grind again since I can't make enough

    money with my first job, that I needed a second job. Unfortunately it's 3rd shift. Tired yet hopeful things finally turn for the better. God help these collection calls end because I'm getting tired of arguing with people who don't understand that I'm trying the best that I can...
    SelfishShellfish SelfishShellfish 36-40, F Feb 18

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    My ex is a complete a$$ hole

    and dies everything in his power tinsel my life miserable and try to turn my two young children on me... It's such a sad existence when all you care about is how you can torture another human being. I've been divorced for seven years and it's always the same tricks and rotten...
    stargazer2468 stargazer2468 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 1

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    Thinking about the terror my ex wife has caused

    me... we have a daughter together, and my child support amount is very high for me to keep up with. I'm trying to figure out how to cope. I've ignored my daughter and child support - only because I want nothing to do with my ex wife - well, actually, because she has made various...
    makingitbetterrr makingitbetterrr 22-25, M Dec 5, 2014

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I have been married and divorced twice.

    My first marriage was when I was 19. We had one son and were divorced at 23. I married my second husband at 27 and we divorced two years ago,after 8 years of marriage and two kids. I definitely want a relationship...but don't want another marriage!
    StunningFun StunningFun 36-40, F 7 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Well It is all over now.

    ...I have my papers. I really don't know how I feel about it....guess it may take a couple of days, until closure sets in. I have to confess that I have been creeping his emails, as he didn't change his passwords and I was once step ahead with all he was planning. I think that...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    So I married a guy that was a good guy

    but not compatible with me at all. So much annoyed him about me over the years including how I organized the pantry! If I disagreed with him, he thinks I hated him and wanted a divorce. If I didn't want to do something with him and the kids for whatever reason, he would cancel...
    ranabp ranabp 41-45 5 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    All I Ever Wanted Was You!

    Seems i went looking for a wife, and found loneliness instead. She was all I ever wanted, smart, hard working, loving. But was that what she was, or what I thought I saw. Turns out we did get married, and had two wonderful children. Did I say she was a hard worker? lol Yup...
    AnIrishwarrior AnIrishwarrior 56-60, M 5 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Just a year and a half.

    It took forever for me to move toward divorce, but I finally did. It was very hard. I have a senior in high school who will soon be leaving for college. Now I will be all alone. I do not regret the divorce, but I am scared of being by myself. I will miss my child terribly. New...
    Irv15000 Irv15000 66-70, T Feb 5

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    I signed my papers today

    and could not be happier.
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    I met my now ex husband in early 2010.

    The relationship moved very quickly and we ended up getting an apartment together in August of 2010. Other than a few "little" things (his extreme love of video games and his money issues) everything seemed good. Now looking back I realize that he was just trying to hook me so...
    abarton abarton 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 51 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    Met wife in high school.

    Married her. 20+ years later divorced. Still good friends but the idea of hitting on a woman or dating us scary and I don't think I can do it. I'm a shy person.
    WhiskeyGold WhiskeyGold 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    Why is this Christmas

    so hard? I have a new lady in my life that inspires and treats me far better than my ex. She and I get to pick up my children tomorrow afternoon and have them through next Saturday. But it is hard for me to be cheerful. Why? I think it comes down to the ex trying to pick...
    jeditaz jeditaz 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 10 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 14 Responses