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I Am Divorced

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    One Year

    June 12, 2012, one year since everything was legally final. In some ways it was over much sooner than that, and yet in many ways it is still not over. I am not sure if it ever will be. There are many different angles to the divorce question but in the end you have to weigh the...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    All I Ever Wanted Was You!

    Seems i went looking for a wife, and found loneliness instead. She was all I ever wanted, smart, hard working, loving. But was that what she was, or what I thought I saw. Turns out we did get married, and had two wonderful children. Did I say she was a hard worker? lol Yup...
    AnIrishwarrior AnIrishwarrior 56-60, M 4 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 40 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    So I thought I'd finally gotten passed the

    crying and sadness of my divorce. Part of me has done very well with it. I don't cry as much as I used to. I'm not angry like I once was. It doesn't take everything I have to get up in the mornings like it once did. But there are little things and moments that take me back and...
    luvswriting luvswriting 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I got married a few years ago

    and looking back it was for all the wrong reasons. He was a good guy but we weren't compatible together and I wasn't very happy. It was the hardest decision of my life to leave him, but I feel more free now and am at a better place in my life. I do have some feelings for him as...
    ashley420d ashley420d 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 20

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    reignition44 reignition44 41-45, M 4 Responses Jan 26

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    Gas and a Match

    Until lately my ex and I have been simply "gas and a match". Actually I liked to think of myself as the candle and her as the flammable gas under pressure. But, everytime I came to pick up the children, she frick'n exploded.  So I thought my...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 4 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    In Time

    I know that in time Someone will reach out for me take my hand and lead me to their heart.
    elifree elifree 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    I was married for 14years,

    we have two daughters together, but now I'm divorced...I have no idea what I'm doing. Being single sucks, I never thought I'd be dating again. She cheated & now I find it very hard to trust anyone, I doubt my relationships with people we had relationships with together. 💔 I'm...
    Ihearttacos Ihearttacos 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 24

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    Divorced For Awhile and Struggling Still

    I think the problem with divorce is it is such a multilayer process of grief.  My story is one that I hate talking about these days, but I can say it pretty fast now when people ask...like the cliff notes of my divorce story.    Anyway it goes like this, I got...
    PrayerWhisperer PrayerWhisperer 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2007

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Not Unhappily...

    I'm not happy nor unhappy that I am divorced. My husband and I were high school sweethearts. Married at 19. We have two daughters together. The cause of our marriage ending, was the death of our youngest. We welcomed Tenley in October 2004. A little over 2 months later, she was...
    KerstinMac KerstinMac 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 6, 2013

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    Doesn'T Have To Be The End

    I know divorce is almost always tragic, but it is not fatal. My ex-wife handled ours extremely well, even though it hurt me at the time. She kind of eased me into it, which helped. First, she requested separate bedrooms, which we did. Said she needed personal space. Next...
    lostinmyownhome lostinmyownhome 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 30, 2013

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    Re-Birth With Divorce

    At 21, I married a "christian" guy that I met when I was 17 and a freshman in college. I never really dated anyone else, so I never realized that I could be treated much better than he treated me.  He was fascinating at first, smart, and funny.  But later he...
    TrottingGodiva TrottingGodiva 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 28, 2007

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    Was married for 32 years.

    No kids. I stuck with her through everything including her gambling addiction that ruined us financially. I got cancer and she cheated and I left. She wasted my life. I survived her and cancer.
    StrongProud StrongProud 61-65, M 1 Response Jan 15

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    It's been 15 years. The hurt

    and anger is over. Our children are grown and we have both moved on with our lives. No regrets... ever.
    missourimule63 missourimule63 46-50 Jan 12

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    It's a strange sensation really.

    I've been divorced now for what, two years (I'm really not sure). We were married 22 years and then...we weren't, simple as that. A lot of things have transpired since she left. I'll never know the reasons but now I know longer care. It's hard to have someone you love leave you...
    BohemianTragedy BohemianTragedy 46-50, M Jan 15

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    How President Obama Helped Me Move On

    My divorce was just finalized last week. My marriage lasted 20 miserable years--full of incessant verbal abuse, as well as denial of intimacy for months and then years. Why did I stay in a horrible marriage for so long? Because I would have lost my health insurance. And I wouldn...
    leafstorm21 leafstorm21 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 28, 2013

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    Why Can't I Move On?

    I don't think there's one "steps for divorce recovery" article on the enter net I haven't read. I've ready every blog, expert advice, personal experience post out there. They're all the same, you've read them. They all tell me I'm just not strong enough, positive enough...I don't...
    pmhutch pmhutch 51-55, M 5 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Well I finally got help with my depression

    that was contributed by my abusive cheating husband. I was alone, depressed, withdrawn, and suicidal. But as I got the time to hurt, I did heal and I did get better. With the ex husband being as childish by telling me the girl he cheated on me with gave birth to their child and...
    2young4marriage 2young4marriage 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    I am 24 years old and I recently got divorced

    last year. We were married for 4 years and recently gave up on the whole situation. I invested my time, money and a career that I loved for this guy. I was with him thru every situation that hit him in life, yet all got in return were affairs after affairs. I kicked him to the...
    wonderAlot wonderAlot 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    A Day In A Life

    .....of a recently divorced man,with 2 kids...   my long hair making me look like something from a Bigfoot clip,i wake to  a happy face staring right at me up close,"are you awake dad?" *blink blink "yes baby i am now"  schools out for summer so it would be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    How can one be so lost?

    It is like the world is a different place now, to me. I want to live, but I don't know how any more. It feels like my entire purpose for being, is gone. Abandoned and alone, Broken and down, Depressed and saddened by the loss of one I held so dear.   I came here to EP, seeking...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 5 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Been 3 Years Now But She Keep Wanting Nothing But Drama

    Today I am upset at my ex wife. I have tried very hard to be civil to her since the divorce. I have tried very hard to live my life again and let her live hers. I have tried very hard to be a part of my kids life and a good dad to them. Where to begin on this story? I...
    denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 13 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    Recently divorced from a wife

    who cheated on me for years. Met a lady online who sadly lived a long ways away. We became very good friends...because she lived so far away I knew we would never be together but she told me we would always be best friends. Well that didn't last long..I haven't spoken to her in...
    ParamedicJohn ParamedicJohn 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    Divorced now since 2012.

    Ex husband and I were together for over 14 years, but, as I have heard so many times before from others, married but lonely. He never had the time to discuss it. Buried his head in the sand.... Until the day I told him I want him to leave as we have drifted apart. He begged...
    recentlysingle recentlysingle 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    Good evening , my story is one of heartbreak

    and sadness. I guess we all go through life changing experiences from time to time. How we handle them makes us who we are. When my wife asked for the divorce I was shocked and suprised. They say you see it coming, this is not always true. Least not in my case. Was married in 95...
    lonniemeador lonniemeador 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 10

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    Do I Do It Again?

    This has been a question Ive been asking myself. Statistics would show I would be doomed if I tried again but where as I am one who tends to beat the odds it has me thinking about it. Both my previous marriages were doomed from the start and I knew this. Could it possibly...
    cryptal cryptal 36-40, M 7 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    I divorced my husband

    after learning he was having affairs my entire pregnancy..now I wonder if I ruined the family my daughter was supposed to have and if I should have just put up with his bullshit.
    um99 um99 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 36-40, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Ah, The Vindictiveness!

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-ball/this-is-what-youve-missed_b_4121127.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce Blogger Jennifer Ball has recently penned an essay oh-so-subtly titled This Is What You Missed in the Divorce section of the Huffington Post. It is a masterwork of...
    niceguyinhell niceguyinhell 31-35, M Oct 25, 2013

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Tradgedy

    16 years of marriage gone. Met the woman of my dreams and married her. We had boy/girl twins. 16 years later I find out she is unhappy and wanted a divorce. Life has not been the same.
    Twokees Twokees 36-40, M 5 Responses Oct 10, 2013

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    Free At Last

    my divorce was final on aug. 17, 2012. When i walked out of the courtroom, I felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders and I wanted to skip down a sidewalk (it was hard in the stillettos LOL). I went to a pub on the square of Decatur and sent all of my friends and...
    fairybartender fairybartender 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    After 17 years of marriage & 5 kids.

    ..I filed for divorce & it was final in January. After verbal & emotional abuse, fear of his drunken nights, & 2 affairs I was done. It took me graduating college & starting a career to see that I can have a life outside of my nightmare. Never believed in divorce, thought I had...
    Addicted2J Addicted2J 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 10

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    Divorce Is Slavery For Men . Avoid Marriage And Its High Financial Risks

    There are fewer marriages, bcz men have seen what the courts will do. A women can leave for any reason, including cheating on her husband, and she will get the house, car, kids, and a large portion of the man's salary. New males understand what is going on. there will be fewer...
    MonirZaman MonirZaman 41-45, M 5 Responses May 13, 2013

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    My Life

    I have been divorced for almost two years. My ex-wife barely lets me see our daughter. I would take her back to court but, its not worth it. I still love my ex-wife. But i know that i must move on and find someone else. I have searched for a new love life, but so far. I haven't...
    sgtharvey sgtharvey 22-25, M 5 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 15 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    And the verdict is...

    . BAM!! I'm DIVORCED in exactly 2 months time!! He emailed a mile long rambling line of BS as soon as it was over... just to hurt me.  Why not just let me go? He already did, so why the last dagger?  *broken tonight* 
    MizzyH MizzyH 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I have been married and divorced twice.

    My first marriage was when I was 19. We had one son and were divorced at 23. I married my second husband at 27 and we divorced two years ago,after 8 years of marriage and two kids. I definitely want a relationship...but don't want another marriage!
    StunningFun StunningFun 36-40, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Does the Trust Ever Come Back

         I have been divorced a year and a half and am having a real problem getting back into the dating game. When you've given your heart to someone and then gotten screwed it is kind of hard to do it again, because of this I seem to find something wrong with...
    dtjesus dtjesus 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 4, 2008

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    On Hope

    It doesn't feel like there is any way I can adequately express the amount of emotional trauma I feel I've sustained. To say I am heartbroken seems such an understatement, it feels as if my very soul has been rent in two. Every time my phone beeps or rings, I cling to the hope it...
    HeartbrokenLonely HeartbrokenLonely 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Hurt And Happiness

    I wrote the short experience below shortly after my ex left the girls and I for another man. It's been almost five years since she left. My girls and are a doing well. I'm still lonely the nights they are gone. I'm also sad that I'm still single. I knew it would be very difficult...
    lhdaddy lhdaddy 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 1, 2011

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    Haunted

    Like a mighty Oak tree, we stood tall, side by side. Weathering any storm that came our way. Financial troubles, health issues, deaths in the family.....you name it, we worked through it.......together. Watching family after family around us, fracture and fall away, we were proud...
    Mencrytoo Mencrytoo 46-50, M 1 Response Oct 4, 2013

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    Younger Woman/Divorce

    My divorce was final September 6, 2013. My x husband was a cheater, liar, heartless, etc. Married for 29 years. He left the house on thanksgiving day telling me he was going to a friends house. We'll come to find out that was a lye. He had drove to NC to be with another lady...
    tina348 tina348 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Related Experiences

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    Belieber4Life Belieber4Life 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My parents are divorced and I live with my mom and my older brother. My mom obviously loves my brother more and he gets whatever he wants but if I ask for anything she screams at...
    Wishingtobegone Wishingtobegone 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 22