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I Am Divorced

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    My wife and I had our share of problems.

    We ended up separated for six months. Did what I could to fix things, tried to be there for her. It wasn't enough. A few months ago she said she was done and wanted a divorce.
    sfaaikido sfaaikido 26-30, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Happily Divorced, Happily Moved On

    When I got married, I intended for it to be an forever thing in my life. Get married once and make it a good one. I envisioned the silver anniversary and hopefully the golden one. We had the home, kids, animals, family. I was determined to that we were going to stay intact. The...
    SilentDolphin SilentDolphin 36-40, F 13 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    Divorce

    For years I knew my husband was abusive. I listened to all these voices in our culture that say things like "no one's perfect", "you should see what I have to put up with", "part of what women put up from husbands" and other stupid comments. My...
    celestial celestial 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 30, 2007

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    Short marriage.... About 6 months long.

    Best 6 months of my life followed by the worst 12-18 months!
    Drtyhairy Drtyhairy 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    Thank God

    Married him at eighteen.A month into it he was already chasing some other girl.Had kid#1.He treated me like poop,and abused my baby.He then decided that a fourteen year old would be a better 'woman' than me, tried to leave me while pregnant with kid#2 for said 'woman'. She got...
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    Gas and a Match

    Until lately my ex and I have been simply "gas and a match". Actually I liked to think of myself as the candle and her as the flammable gas under pressure. But, everytime I came to pick up the children, she frick'n exploded.  So I thought my...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Starting Over

      Even though I am very much aware that some of the men I dated and, particularly the man I ended up marrying fall into the " What the hell was I thinking ?" category, now that I am finally divorced and on my own, I don´t seem to be making much improvement...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 13 Responses Oct 10, 2007

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    My husband of 4 months has decided

    that I deserve better than him and he needs to be alone. We just want different things he says. My heart is breaking. I never imagined when I said my vows 4 months ago that he would just walk away so easily. Sometimes I don't know how I will survive the pain. I've been pathetic...
    megan52229 megan52229 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    Does anyone think it is odd

    that I still love my Ex? We have been thru so much crap. We just got divorced in January and I have been fighting like hell to save my marriage but she opted not to. After the dust settled I found out why she wanted to divorce because she was still seeing the guy I caught her...
    livinday2day livinday2day 36-40, M Apr 30

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    He's Not My Problem, But......

    I am currently working with my daughter (remotely holding her hand, being supportive and offering suggestions) as she is attempting to navigate, for the first time in her life, a manic episode her father is enjoying. He just packed up his trailer with household and personal items...
    Ceridwyn Ceridwyn 46-50 3 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    One Year

    June 12, 2012, one year since everything was legally final. In some ways it was over much sooner than that, and yet in many ways it is still not over. I am not sure if it ever will be. There are many different angles to the divorce question but in the end you have to weigh the...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I got married a few years ago

    and looking back it was for all the wrong reasons. He was a good guy but we weren't compatible together and I wasn't very happy. It was the hardest decision of my life to leave him, but I feel more free now and am at a better place in my life. I do have some feelings for him as...
    ashley420d ashley420d 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 20

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    My husband walked out on our ten year

    relationship with a text message. He wanted to commit himself entirely to the musical process and at 37 years old, did not want children. So, he just left. He hired a lawyer, and during the divorce proceedings asked me to pay him spousal support. In the year and a half it took...
    tiffette tiffette 36-40, F 3 Responses May 15

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    Feel Bad That My Marriage Was't Worse!

    There are so many heart-wrenching stories here of abuse, betrayal, dishonesty and neglect. My marriage included none of these. My ex was/is a fine person, and a great mom. I just never was a priority for her. Her job came first, and I was lonely all the time - even when we were...
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 18 Responses Sep 30, 2012

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    I'm actually happy that,

    it happened. No more annoying girl that, tries to steal my money.
    ThisIsWhatItFeelsLike ThisIsWhatItFeelsLike 26-30, M Jun 13

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    Three Years And Counting - An Update

    This is an update to a piece I had written here a little over a year ago. The original account has been deleted for damage control purposes, although I now regret that decision. Here's the link: EP Link Here are a couple of things I've learned and experienced since then. I haven...
    bitabyss bitabyss 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    Today...

    I just got the call.It's been a long time coming. We had so many problems for so long, and he moved out in January of 2011. So many bad things said, so many sad moments. Today, it's just surreal.It's actually over.I keep saying it to myself. I'm traveling for my job. Traveling...
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Looking for advice...

    My children are having a difficult time accepting that mom has a boyfriend. My ex and I have 50/50 custody and I've always made sure to never leave my time with my kids to spend time with my boyfriend. My boyfriend does come with us at times to do family fun things and often...
    Need2BLoved Need2BLoved 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 7

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    Don't get me wrong, I am SO glad I divorced

    and 99% of my life is immensely better, but one part isn't...my own personal life. Well, it is better than it was when I was married, but I am still not in a relationship. I get lonely raising my 2 boys alone. I get lonely not having someone there for me (and me for them)in the...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 10

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    Is Divorce Really The Answer To My Marriage Problems

    The breakdown of society in the beginning of this last quarter of the twentieth century is nowhere more apparent than in the breakdown of the home and family. When the going gets tough in marriage, many people take what they believe is the easy way out. When pressures begin to...
    chrisgaza chrisgaza 51-55, M 5 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Divorce Is Slavery For Men . Avoid Marriage And Its High Financial Risks

    There are fewer marriages, bcz men have seen what the courts will do. A women can leave for any reason, including cheating on her husband, and she will get the house, car, kids, and a large portion of the man's salary. New males understand what is going on. there will be fewer...
    MonirZaman MonirZaman 41-45, M 5 Responses May 13, 2013

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    Divorced for 5 years

    now I thought he was the one but i was wrong! There will always be someone better out there though. :( :)
    msjuliegot32d msjuliegot32d 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I just got a divorce.

    I never thought it would end this badly. The divorce was 4 days ago. My ex husband is having his new girlfriend come visit him and his family this weekend. Our 6 year old is supposed to be visiting him that Sunday. I never wanted the divorce but he was not willing to continue...
    instinctivepurity instinctivepurity 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 28

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    This is a little harder then I thought.

    ... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like everything is ok because it seems pointless to bother others with my problems or random thoughts...my friends constantly tell me that...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Starting Over After Divorce

    Wow I can't believe I'm starting over....in my upper 30's. My husband had a string of afairs, took everything we had in exchange for full custudy of our only child. I know I can do this but I have no idea how to make new friends and just move on. I have a good job and a great kid...
    faith7777 faith7777 41-45, F 13 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I've been divorced now

    for about 13 months or so,..... "wow, has it been that long already"? Anyway, she told me she couldn't handle the stress from my job, that she was always wondering if something would go wrong. I can understand that, and even respect it.....but I think she also wanted an open...
    aperry30 aperry30 26-30, M 10 Responses Apr 30

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    This is not so much to share my story of

    divorce, but ask a question about it.....I think. Same, same, married a very long time, kids, jobs, good times, bad times. The strength of the marriage became thinner and thinner with time. There was no real conversions, you know about the difficult things. So more and more...
    rowenbumble rowenbumble 56-60, F 3 Responses May 2

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    So I just wanted to say

    that I am single again and the divorce was finalized today yippee, however, I forgot how much dating sucks ugh!
    sexyjess45 sexyjess45 31-35, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Got divorced after 30 years of marriage.

    One of the most difficult and rewarding experiences of my life. It's been almost 4 years with one more year of alimony. Re-learning how to be single isn't so hard with women, but in other areas. I've never been on my own, except for these last few years. I went from home...
    OnAlert OnAlert 56-60, M 3 Responses May 1

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    Ex lives on a different continent - she has

    rights to our kids (who live with me full time) for an upcoming holiday week and she wants me to chaperone them to her city and either "we all hang out together" or I go on to another place. Am I crazy or would that be weird? I don't relish the idea of a family vacation...
    itsreadymade itsreadymade 36-40, M 2 Responses Jul 20

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    A little less than a year ago,

    my wife of 12 years told me she was leaving and taking the teenage daughters (there are two - 17 & 14 at the time of separation) with her. They are daughters from her first marriage and I legally adopted them in 2002. Since she left, we have gone through a divorce which...
    Cdsissykylei Cdsissykylei 41-45, T 6 Responses Jan 26

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    Tips For Getting Your Woman Back

    Consider the following for entertainment purposes only, however this is based on 22 years of research. It's simply great advice from a worn out woman who keeps banging her head against the wall just trying to knock herself out. Some of the things seem like a no brainer but some...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    When the grief in your marriage out weighs the

    happiness you know it's time for a change.
    cutsy cutsy 36-40, F Jul 27

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    The divorce was final almost 3 years ago,

    after a very long marriage. I never thought it would end, but it did. There are 2 sides, and mine is mine, as I see it. But I know there is the other one too, and he has every right to have that view. Neither one is wrong. Each side is our own individual view point as we lived...
    rowenbumble rowenbumble 56-60, F 2 Responses May 7

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    I keep waiting for it to sink in.

    It's been over 24 hours. I just l don't feel any different. I lost count of how many people I have been on this site over the years. How many names. And now it comes to this....Divorced. Freedom! Earlier this month, my sweet little cat died...mostly from old age. We didn't...
    jessesgirl24 jessesgirl24 41-45, F 4 Responses May 21

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    I waited so long to be able to say that.

    It seems unreal still. My divorce was finalized in February. My marriage was 14 years lived, or rather barely survived, in hell. In total, 17 years almost of my life was given to this man....Seventeen years....Some of those years I cannot remember, and I should probably be...
    ladyether ladyether 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 5

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    Unanswered I just got a text from ex,

    haven't had one of those in awhile. Today would've been our 25th anniversary. At first I felt a little bad. Then (I still don't feel great) I realized that the last few anniversaries we were together were terrible. Even if we had stayed together, no one we knew would want to...
    ijustneed2talk ijustneed2talk 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Finally Done and done.

    I got pretty much screwed as far as material items and finances are concerned, but..." ... dying in your bed many years from now,would you be willing to trade all the days from this day to that forone chance, just one chance, to come back here as young men and tellour enemies...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 15

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    Yay!!!!

    I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story. My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible.  It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me...
    underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 43 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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    In Time

    I know that in time Someone will reach out for me take my hand and lead me to their heart.
    elifree elifree 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 16, 2012

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    I just moved in with my boyfriend

    and somehow his ex wife found out and has been crying and upset about it and confiding in their adult son. Their son thinks my boyfriend needs to talk to ex wife about it but I don't understand how that will help her be less upset. Their son says he feels like he's in the middle...
    ampand ampand 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 2

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    Felt Betrayed

    you took my money and broke my heart, but my heart is fine now, ready to move on, hope u feel good about your self.
    Goldwing244ricky Goldwing244ricky 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 12, 2012

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    Starting Over

    The hardest thing I have ever been through. But I am a much stronger person now and trying to figure out where my life goes from here. Haven't been single in the last 20 years and it is kind if a little scary and very lonely at night. I have set up at night and wondered what I am...
    GoodGuy40 GoodGuy40 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    A Day In A Life

    .....of a recently divorced man,with 2 kids...   my long hair making me look like something from a Bigfoot clip,i wake to  a happy face staring right at me up close,"are you awake dad?" *blink blink "yes baby i am now"  schools out for summer so it would be nice...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    I have been married and divorced twice.

    My first marriage was when I was 19. We had one son and were divorced at 23. I married my second husband at 27 and we divorced two years ago,after 8 years of marriage and two kids. I definitely want a relationship...but don't want another marriage!
    StunningFun StunningFun 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Divorce is final today.

    Never thought a year ago I would be saying this. At least now i won't worry about the unknown. I'm looking forward to the future and my "new life", wherever that takes me!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Learning Through The Upheaval

    Remember, we all have the power of free will . . we all have the innate ability to choose what is best, and how we wish to live our lives. Ending your marriage and is not the ending of life, or the world as we know it. It's how you perceive it. All the issues connected are quite...
    KattG KattG 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    I made a mistake and was a fool.

    Now he's happy again. And I can't find anyone who measures up.
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    MY NAME IS JANICE WARLOCKS FROM HOUSTON,

    TEXAS.I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS OR MAGIC UNTIL I MET THIS SPELL CASTER ONCE WHEN I WENT TO AFRICA IN DECEMBER LAST YEAR ON A BUSINESS SUMMIT. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER LOOKING FOR SOME ONE TO LOVE YOU...
    jm60centjmartins jm60centjmartins 18-21, F 1 Response May 25

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    Resolved To Disolve. Every divorce has those

    unique moments in court, proceedings, or on final papers. Here are a few of mine: 1. Hubby-at-time was in jail. Due to his charges, he was considered a threat to me and our daughter's livelihood, so I was able to get help from the state by them paying for a portion of my lawyer...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    I am divorced. Ive been divorced

    for almost six months now. That seems like a long time to me, but I was married for 20 years, so when I put it in that perspective its not... Ha. I am mostly happy, however I am lonely at times. I have an 18 year old daughter and a 15 year old son. They live with their...
    justinlife justinlife 46-50, M 3 Responses May 6

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    Years Ago

    Many years ago I was married to someone who was not well-suited for me.I kind of knew this probably wasn't going to work but given the family dynamics at the time, I went ahead and got married hoping for the best.It didn't work. No surprise and many years later I got a divorce.I...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

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    Still recovering from divorce almost two years

    on... It isn't that I'm still in love. It is fear that I'll make a similar mistake again. Mostly fear and pain from what I endured and the bad decisions that were made. To top it off...every time I see him I lose 75% of the confidence and strength I have been working on...
    MalibuLady MalibuLady 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 24

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