I Am Divorcing My Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    Am I Crazy?

    I have been married for a handful of years. We are a blended family. Before we got married, we had an incident concerning my ex and myself. I moved out on my own for a while to get my head together. I learned then that he was jealous and had quite a temper on him. I naively...
    princessofdenial princessofdenial
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Aug 13, 2013

    My Controlling Husband.....

    Hi, I have been married for 20 years this feburary 7th and we have 3 sons ages 26,21,18 and 2 of my sons have seizures but are on medication and are doing good. Just for the past 10 years I have atempted to leave him we even had family meetings but they never seem to work because...
    afraidandconfused afraidandconfused
    41-45
    2 Responses Mar 4, 2012

    I am married to a man in the military.

    I am 31 and have a 10month old boy and a nine year old boy. I've been with my husband for three years and married to him for one year. He started with yelling at me and pushing me now that I have moved away from my home state and the little bit of family I did have to run to he...
    Sumkissed82 Sumkissed82
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 2, 2014

    I am and I am so ready

    for it to be over with. I just pray it turns out better than I am expecting and my children adjust as well as can be expected.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Jan 30

    Ready To Leave Emotional Abusive Husband

    I am in a 'Emotional-Abusive' marriage. I always thought abuse had to be physical but after doing exstensive research, I have finally come to know and realize that for over 4-years now I am a abused woman. He takes all his anger out on me. Everyday he tells me over and over how...
    heartbroken2012 heartbroken2012
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Mar 20, 2012

    I am just 2 days past my 2nd anniversary

    and today is my birthday, so today is exceptionally hard for me. The day my husband and I left our honeymoon I realized I had made a huge mistake by marrying him and have been working really hard to fix our marriage right when it began. When we were leaving our honeymoon, our...
    ValWilke ValWilke
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2015

    I Am Trying To Walk Away From Physically, Verbally And Emotionally Abusive Husbanb

    I've been together with my husband for 7 years, he was married before and when we started having the relationship, he had 2 daughters now aged 16 and 17, now we have our own son aged 5, all this time he has been physically abusing me, he has been verbally abusing me infront of...
    Nduks Nduks
    31-35
    4 Responses Jun 2, 2012

    Trying To Get Out!

    I have been married 23 years, I did not see how controlling he was then, and when I did realize it, it was to late. I was forced into marriage at 17 because of a teen pregnancy, and he then took me hundreds of miles away from  my family. I lost the baby 30 days to the day...
    nurseangel44 nurseangel44
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Oct 23, 2010

    My husband moved out

    after yelling at me for not saying good night. He was jealous of my female best friend, my book club, my yoga class and my job. He frequently shared his negative perception of me. He wanted to move back after a week but it was so peaceful that I decided he needed to move the...
    suburbandivorcing suburbandivorcing
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jul 5, 2014

    It'S Happening

    Well I divorced him...that monster that would abuse in any way. It was very hard because deep down in my heart I love him. Not only did he leave a whole in my heart, unable to have kids, he had left my wallet empty. He says that he doesn't have to pay me back because since we...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 28, 2013

    Love Does Not Possess. It Frees

    My story is like that of many here. I am married to a very successful accomplished man for the last 14 years. Can't believe it is 14 years. We have really stayed together for 9 of those years. I have realized 3-5 years ago that this relationship is toxic and is degrading me a...
    lovedoesnotpossess lovedoesnotpossess
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 27, 2013

    Mine finally walked out on me,

    after I called the police over his threats to trash my travel trailer. He started out as a nice guy. He was pleasant, fun, and I really liked him. Occasionally, he would act contrary to what I thought his normal behavior was. However, I didn't pay attention like I should have...
    ToolshedCat ToolshedCat
    26-30, F
    Feb 4

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    signeccaa signeccaa
    26-30, F
    Feb 24

    Am Leaving

    after being married for a 2 years.I have a 4 months baby and am planning on vacating our matrimonal home tonite. My husband is verbally and physically abusive. I used to read about abusive relationships cant believe it is happening to me. he attacks my esteem so bad that i feel...
    Mazwi Mazwi
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2010

    Enough Is Enough!

    My daughter was 2 when I met my husband. Her biological father turned out to be a deadbeat and in jail a few years later for raping and beating up his current girlfriend. I should have always trusted my gut. One of the first dates we had, I wasn't social enough for him in front...
    Soccermom77 Soccermom77
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 9, 2012

    Controlling Husband

    I have been married to a controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive husband for 20 years.  He is 10 years older than me and I was only 20 when I married him.  I never recognized his behavior as abusive until just this winter 2011.  We had relocated to a different...
    loop71 loop71
    36-40
    9 Responses Jun 19, 2011

    I'm Sorry I Waited Till My Youngest Was 18 To Leave

    I gave up almost half my life to a controlling, emotionally abusive husband, and children that learned to also treat me that way. Most of it I was unhappy. Sometimes very depressed. It took me a long time to figure out what was going on because it was familiar. My...
    Stephanii Stephanii
    51-55
    4 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    I just want to curse

    and scream expletives at that *******!!! We cannot have ANY words without him getting irate! I just want my daughter taken care of by ME!
    altochick0290 altochick0290
    26-30, F
    Oct 1, 2015

    I'm divorcing my husband of 8 years

    and ending a 12-years relationship. I met him back in university he's from Europe and I'm from Asia. This is going to be long... After uni I moved back to Asia but we kept a long distance relationship, I initially wanted to end the relationship but he was persistent and I was...
    lastfeather lastfeather
    31-35, F
    Jul 19, 2014

    I Am 20 And Afraid To Divorce My Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Husband.

    We started dating when I was 16, and things were never that great. When I was 17 my mom kicked me out and I moved in with him. I ended up marrying him 1 year ago Feb. I've wanted to leave for a while but he always convinces me to stay and that he will change. Surprise, surprise...
    lydiabxo lydiabxo
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

    17 Yrs Of Abuse

    I was married for 17 yrs. and pysically, mentally, verbally and emotionally abused. My husband had a drinking problem and treated me like a sex object more than a wife. I've had things thrown at me, thrown across rooms, joked, pushed, he would treat me like a ***** around his...
    shell1021 shell1021
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 19, 2010

    Confused

    Am confused. Almost divorced- 12 years sexless marriage with a passive aggressive. I am 41/F with a 7 yo D. New Neighbor is cute single and 35. Smiles at me- good eye contact. Very very helpful helped change a tire texts with smiley faces etc. Last week he came for a beer so I...
    Lesmiz Lesmiz
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2013

    Leaving A Controlling, Abusive Husband

    I am planning on leaving my controlling abusive husband. I am scared to leave though. I know why. It is because he has made me feel I cannot do anything without him.  I want to leave, I just need the courage to take the first step, find a place of my own.
    blueeyes2010 blueeyes2010
    36-40
    42 Responses Nov 8, 2009

    I Finally Left Him.

    I'm not sure where to begin. I was married for 18 years to an emotionally abusive, controlling, raging, cruel man. I'm the only person in my entire family that is divorced. We have two sons, 14 and 11. The oldest one has Aspbergers Syndrome,ADHD, Oppositional Defiance...
    elindapierce elindapierce
    41-45, F
    5 Responses May 11, 2013

    Should I Tell Him Before I Leave

    I am planning my strategy to leave a 5 year relationship. He yells at me my children throws stuff, most of the time the yelling at me is because someone else did something to make him angry. I see him get excited if the kids do something they aren;t supposed to because he feels...
    6 Responses Feb 6, 2013

    I did it. I left him.

    I can't believe I had the courage but enough was enough and I can't believe he let me go. I thought I would feel free but all I feel is terrified. I don't have time to heal. I have to pick myself up and raise my son. I tried. God knows I tried for years but it was never enough...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses May 19, 2015

    I Am Trying To Figure Out How To Leave My Husband

    i knew how he was before we even got married, i saw the problems he had. but he never treated me badly until we left my hometown and went to california. and then that is when his ugly side showed up. but still i stayed, and i married him years later. i know i thought i could...
    sadeyes7294 sadeyes7294
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 5, 2012

    Common Sense Finially Hit Me...

    My soon to be ex husband, have been married for almost 5 years, and boy oh boy it feels like 10. We have one child together, who was born before we got married. this was my first real relationship. Over the course of our relationship, my ex was verbally abusive. At times he used...
    IusedtobeMrs IusedtobeMrs
    26-30
    Feb 18, 2013

    Every time my husband would get mad at me he

    would pack his things and move 3 blocks over to his mother's house. He is 35 years old. His mother and father also allow their 40 year old son to live with them. My husband's brother is currently being charged with child sexual assault. Of course the entire family believes him...
    Jinco1230 Jinco1230
    31-35, F
    Mar 23

    Middle Of Divorcing My Abuser

    I am in the middle of divorcing my abusive husband of 16 years. This has been the hardest thing in the world for me. My life was flipped upside down, my kids are not the same, My normal life is all different. I lost 1/2 my family (his family) I lost my sister & brother as they...
    williamsa40 williamsa40
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 1, 2013

    12/3/2012....no Mas

    Hey EP friends, I am so at peace to say.................It's official my divorce became final as of 12/3/2012. What a long ride, hard, bumpy, difficult, crazy rollercoaster of a whirl this has been. Just when I want to give up, I decided to move on, move forward and not let...
    chie5189 chie5189
    36-40
    3 Responses Dec 4, 2012

    I’M In A Bad Place.

    And I don’t know what to do. I feel like a fool, to be honest. I’ve been with this man for 21 yrs. We have two children (b16 and g18). I don’t even know where or how to begin this story…I guess at the beginning… I met him when I was 21 yrs old. He was my first real...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 13, 2013

    Walking On The Eggsells

    I am very tired of walking on the eggshells for the last 11 years of marriage. The sign was evident from the beginning, but I did not want to admit that I married to the wrong person.    So, for this long 11 years, I endured. Yesterday, again.  His fight departure...
    akowilson akowilson
    51-55
    4 Responses Nov 7, 2010

    Things started going downhill in 2010.

    The years before that, I had been busy being pregnant, preparing for babies, breastfeeding, and tending to little ones. When the children started to become more autonomous and did not need my constant attention, I started to realize that my marriage was lacking. I approached...
    JenniferFD JenniferFD
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 16

    I'M So Proud Of All Of You

    You deserve someone who respects you and I'm glad you're getting out. Stay strong.
    mandythepoetryaddict mandythepoetryaddict
    18-21, F
    Nov 17, 2013

    9 Year Marriage Got Duped

    I'm taking a somewhat different look at my husband. I think there are always the "red" flags in place that many of us choose to ignore. However, almost 99% of the time, abusers are ALWAYS charming. Some are obvious, and others more subtle. However, there is a connection with the...
    cjn12 cjn12
    36-40
    3 Responses Oct 14, 2012

    I had a boyfriend Like

    that He still acts like that. I Ingore him When he see me be attack me. I hit back but he strong and fast. We haven't been dated for years. He need to leave me alone .
    lorrena19 lorrena19
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 5, 2014

    Well, I just divorced him.

    I am just really realizing the impact the abuse he put me through has had on me. I've been through all types of abuse and as far as I'm concerned, the mental and emotional abuse is the worst. I just heard a car door outside my house and started to panic. I then realized this is...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    20 Responses Feb 24

    We have been together

    for 10 years and married for six of them. Have twin, two and a half year olds and a four year old. My husband is a control freak and emotionally abusive. I find him extremely manipulative. He always thinks I am taking advantage of him financially even though I pay out more...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Aug 1, 2014

    Reality Has Set In....

    I have now come to stark reality & conclusion that I too am now ready to divorce my controlling, emotionally abusive husband. I started the procedures back last August 2011, and was guilt ridden, mad to feel neurotic, uneasy, like I didnt know what i was doing when he convinced...
    chie5189 chie5189
    36-40
    7 Responses May 21, 2012

    Took away the car keys today.

    ... My vehicle broke down, sold it. He got a new one so I got his old one (his prior to our marriage). Drove it for a while then demanded I pay him for it ( nothing is free in life as he told me). $500 a month for it. Couldn't pay on august 1 as didn't get paid till the 6th...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Aug 5, 2014
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