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I Am Divorcing My Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    I'm divorcing my husband of 8 years

    and ending a 12-years relationship. I met him back in university he's from Europe and I'm from Asia. This is going to be long... After uni I moved back to Asia but we kept a long distance relationship, I initially wanted to end the relationship but he was persistent and I was...
    lastfeather lastfeather 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    17 Yrs Of Abuse

    I was married for 17 yrs. and pysically, mentally, verbally and emotionally abused. My husband had a drinking problem and treated me like a sex object more than a wife. I've had things thrown at me, thrown across rooms, joked, pushed, he would treat me like a ***** around his...
    shell1021 shell1021 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 19, 2010

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    Reality Has Set In....

    I have now come to stark reality & conclusion that I too am now ready to divorce my controlling, emotionally abusive husband. I started the procedures back last August 2011, and was guilt ridden, mad to feel neurotic, uneasy, like I didnt know what i was doing when he convinced...
    chie5189 chie5189 36-40 6 Responses May 21, 2012

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    Ready To Leave Emotional Abusive Husband

    I am in a 'Emotional-Abusive' marriage. I always thought abuse had to be physical but after doing exstensive research, I have finally come to know and realize that for over 4-years now I am a abused woman. He takes all his anger out on me. Everyday he tells me over and over how...
    heartbroken2012 heartbroken2012 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    Married And Confused

     I have been married for 10 yrs this the 2nd marriage for both of us. I have 2 children from a previous marriage. my current husband after being together for a yr shared one of his sexual fantasies with me which was participating in a ********* with another male he said he...
    liveoutloudoxox liveoutloudoxox 36-40 1 Response Oct 7, 2010

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    Shows Over

    My divorce is over and done but I will share my story here in time. Its good to be free single and living my life without the toxic ex hurting me every way he could.
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    I Am 20 And Afraid To Divorce My Controlling, Emotionally Abusive Husband.

    We started dating when I was 16, and things were never that great. When I was 17 my mom kicked me out and I moved in with him. I ended up marrying him 1 year ago Feb. I've wanted to leave for a while but he always convinces me to stay and that he will change. Surprise, surprise...
    lydiabxo lydiabxo 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    I Am Trying To Walk Away From Physically, Verbally And Emotionally Abusive Husbanb

    I've been together with my husband for 7 years, he was married before and when we started having the relationship, he had 2 daughters now aged 16 and 17, now we have our own son aged 5, all this time he has been physically abusing me, he has been verbally abusing me infront of...
    Nduks Nduks 31-35 3 Responses Jun 2, 2012

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    Love Does Not Possess. It Frees

    My story is like that of many here. I am married to a very successful accomplished man for the last 14 years. Can't believe it is 14 years. We have really stayed together for 9 of those years. I have realized 3-5 years ago that this relationship is toxic and is degrading me a...
    lovedoesnotpossess lovedoesnotpossess 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 27, 2013

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    Confused

    Am confused. Almost divorced- 12 years sexless marriage with a passive aggressive. I am 41/F with a 7 yo D. New Neighbor is cute single and 35. Smiles at me- good eye contact. Very very helpful helped change a tire texts with smiley faces etc. Last week he came for a beer so I...
    Lesmiz Lesmiz 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    9 Year Marriage Got Duped

    I'm taking a somewhat different look at my husband. I think there are always the "red" flags in place that many of us choose to ignore. However, almost 99% of the time, abusers are ALWAYS charming. Some are obvious, and others more subtle. However, there is a connection with the...
    cjn12 cjn12 36-40 4 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    Trying To Get Out!

    I have been married 23 years, I did not see how controlling he was then, and when I did realize it, it was to late. I was forced into marriage at 17 because of a teen pregnancy, and he then took me hundreds of miles away from  my family. I lost the baby 30 days to the day...
    nurseangel44 nurseangel44 41-45, F 11 Responses Oct 23, 2010

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    Now that I've severed all ties

    and regaining myself I feel great. Then some days I lay around and cry. I suppose I need to mourn the death of what was supposed to be my person. I used to think he changed on me. He didn't. He just unleashed his real self which is worse than just changing. If he was...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 4

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    12/3/2012....no Mas

    Hey EP friends, I am so at peace to say.................It's official my divorce became final as of 12/3/2012. What a long ride, hard, bumpy, difficult, crazy rollercoaster of a whirl this has been. Just when I want to give up, I decided to move on, move forward and not let...
    chie5189 chie5189 36-40 3 Responses Dec 4, 2012

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    Took away the car keys today.

    ... My vehicle broke down, sold it. He got a new one so I got his old one (his prior to our marriage). Drove it for a while then demanded I pay him for it ( nothing is free in life as he told me). $500 a month for it. Couldn't pay on august 1 as didn't get paid till the 6th...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 5

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    Middle Of Divorcing My Abuser

    I am in the middle of divorcing my abusive husband of 16 years. This has been the hardest thing in the world for me. My life was flipped upside down, my kids are not the same, My normal life is all different. I lost 1/2 my family (his family) I lost my sister & brother as they...
    williamsa40 williamsa40 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    Enough Is Enough!

    My daughter was 2 when I met my husband. Her biological father turned out to be a deadbeat and in jail a few years later for raping and beating up his current girlfriend. I should have always trusted my gut. One of the first dates we had, I wasn't social enough for him in front...
    Soccermom77 Soccermom77 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    I'M So Proud Of All Of You

    You deserve someone who respects you and I'm glad you're getting out. Stay strong.
    mandythepoetryaddict mandythepoetryaddict 16-17, F Nov 17, 2013

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    I Finally Left Him.

    I'm not sure where to begin. I was married for 18 years to an emotionally abusive, controlling, raging, cruel man. I'm the only person in my entire family that is divorced. We have two sons, 14 and 11. The oldest one has Aspbergers Syndrome,ADHD, Oppositional Defiance...
    elindapierce elindapierce 41-45, F 5 Responses May 11, 2013

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    Am Leaving

    after being married for a 2 years.I have a 4 months baby and am planning on vacating our matrimonal home tonite. My husband is verbally and physically abusive. I used to read about abusive relationships cant believe it is happening to me. he attacks my esteem so bad that i feel...
    Mazwi Mazwi 26-30 2 Responses Dec 2, 2010

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    I am married to a man in the military.

    I am 31 and have a 10month old boy and a nine year old boy. I've been with my husband for three years and married to him for one year. He started with yelling at me and pushing me now that I have moved away from my home state and the little bit of family I did have to run to he...
    Sumkissed82 Sumkissed82 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    It'S Happening

    Well I divorced him...that monster that would abuse in any way. It was very hard because deep down in my heart I love him. Not only did he leave a whole in my heart, unable to have kids, he had left my wallet empty. He says that he doesn't have to pay me back because since we...
    2young4marriage 2young4marriage 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    My husband moved out

    after yelling at me for not saying good night. He was jealous of my female best friend, my book club, my yoga class and my job. He frequently shared his negative perception of me. He wanted to move back after a week but it was so peaceful that I decided he needed to move the...
    suburbandivorcing suburbandivorcing 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    Stuck In A Abusive Marriage For 8 Yrs

    Hey ladies I am married for8 yrs to a verbally physically financially abusive and controlling man. We live in his house bought after marriage and have 2 cars . My older child is 7 yrs old and younger s 2. Acc to my husband I am worthless useless human being. I am stay at home mom...
    Honeysaggar05 Honeysaggar05 31-35 2 Responses Jun 12, 2012

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    Walking On The Eggsells

    I am very tired of walking on the eggshells for the last 11 years of marriage. The sign was evident from the beginning, but I did not want to admit that I married to the wrong person.    So, for this long 11 years, I endured. Yesterday, again.  His fight departure...
    akowilson akowilson 51-55 4 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    Controlling Husband

    I have been married to a controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive husband for 20 years.  He is 10 years older than me and I was only 20 when I married him.  I never recognized his behavior as abusive until just this winter 2011.  We had relocated to a different...
    loop71 loop71 36-40 9 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    I'm Sorry I Waited Till My Youngest Was 18 To Leave

    I gave up almost half my life to a controlling, emotionally abusive husband, and children that learned to also treat me that way. Most of it I was unhappy. Sometimes very depressed. It took me a long time to figure out what was going on because it was familiar. My...
    Stephanii Stephanii 51-55 4 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    I’M In A Bad Place.

    And I don’t know what to do. I feel like a fool, to be honest. I’ve been with this man for 21 yrs. We have two children (b16 and g18). I don’t even know where or how to begin this story…I guess at the beginning… I met him when I was 21 yrs old. He was my first real...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 13, 2013

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    I Am Trying To Figure Out How To Leave My Husband

    i knew how he was before we even got married, i saw the problems he had. but he never treated me badly until we left my hometown and went to california. and then that is when his ugly side showed up. but still i stayed, and i married him years later. i know i thought i could...
    sadeyes7294 sadeyes7294 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    I had a boyfriend Like

    that He still acts like that. I Ingore him When he see me be attack me. I hit back but he strong and fast. We haven't been dated for years. He need to leave me alone .
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    Common Sense Finially Hit Me...

    My soon to be ex husband, have been married for almost 5 years, and boy oh boy it feels like 10. We have one child together, who was born before we got married. this was my first real relationship. Over the course of our relationship, my ex was verbally abusive. At times he used...
    IusedtobeMrs IusedtobeMrs 26-30 1 Response Feb 18, 2013

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    We have been together

    for 10 years and married for six of them. Have twin, two and a half year olds and a four year old. My husband is a control freak and emotionally abusive. I find him extremely manipulative. He always thinks I am taking advantage of him financially even though I pay out more...
    Happinessismine Happinessismine 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 1

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    Mission: Accomplished 2012

    As of 7/10/2012 @ 8:09 a.m. EST I FILED FOR DIVORCE! Not this is my 2nd time around filing, and I am determined to go all the way! It's been a long, drawn out few months of deciding, re-deciding, going back, and then say WTF.....NO MORE! I think I got my revelation when I had...
    chie5189 chie5189 36-40 1 Response Jul 10, 2012

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    I Just Keep Giving And He Keeps Taking...and It's Still My Fault

    Married 22 years, 3 kids, 18, 15 and 8. For 16 of those 22 years, my husband has been trying to make it in some sort of business. I worked for him most of that time,usually never making any money because we were always trying to "make it", thus paying everything and everyone...
    shellykcropper shellykcropper 41-45 2 Responses Aug 11, 2011

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    Leaving A Controlling, Abusive Husband

    I am planning on leaving my controlling abusive husband. I am scared to leave though. I know why. It is because he has made me feel I cannot do anything without him.  I want to leave, I just need the courage to take the first step, find a place of my own.
    blueeyes2010 blueeyes2010 36-40 42 Responses Nov 8, 2009

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    Am I Crazy?

    I have been married for a handful of years. We are a blended family. Before we got married, we had an incident concerning my ex and myself. I moved out on my own for a while to get my head together. I learned then that he was jealous and had quite a temper on him. I naively...
    princessofdenial princessofdenial 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    My Controlling Husband.....

    Hi, I have been married for 20 years this feburary 7th and we have 3 sons ages 26,21,18 and 2 of my sons have seizures but are on medication and are doing good. Just for the past 10 years I have atempted to leave him we even had family meetings but they never seem to work because...
    afraidandconfused afraidandconfused 41-45 2 Responses Mar 4, 2012

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    Not as much hate as it is general dislike and irritation. I've read many stories I can relate and it always helps me to see that I'm not the only one, so I figured I'd put mine out...
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    ~20 Years Later~ . So, that guy I dated when I was 16-17 yrs old and again when I was about 20-23 yrs old (cause I thought he might had changed during that time but didn’t...
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    i am desperate and depressed!! i have a very controlling and abusive Dad that dictates every aspect of my life.i am told what to do, where to go, who to be friends with and all...
    neeuQ neeuQ 18-21 2 Responses Nov 14

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    Married for 10 years. She was very pushy from the start, we got married 3 months into dating! It was romantic and very dynamic initially and we shared and still share a lot of...
    Letsseewhathappens Letsseewhathappens 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 15

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    Well, really more sad and disappointed...My husband and I had a fight about sex again...He said that he is moving out now. I'm in such a bad place right now. I never thought that...
    AriaShakti AriaShakti 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 29

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    My husband never does anything with me. He claims he can't afford it but every weekend sometimes week nights he hangs out with his friends until 5 am. He never tells me where he's...
    dumbass2014 dumbass2014 26-30 6 Responses Nov 16

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    Its been a month since I posted last, my husband has made me feel quilty and I have told myself I can stay for the kids and deal with it. I mean I have put up with it for 14 years...
    debbiejustice debbiejustice 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    My mom has been so mean lately. Everything I do is wrong. I can't eat, breath, smile, or laugh right. She keeps pushing me and pushing me down, and she elevates the new girl in...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 20

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    acbars acbars 46-50, M a week ago

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    Well I was with my husband for 8yr. Its started off great then he became emotionally abusive, then it became psychically abusive. Going through all I never got to live life because...
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