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I Am Emotionally Needy

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    I Need To Be Needy

    I need hugs and kisses and constant reassurance that I am loved and that I AM WORTHY OF LOVE. bUT NEEDING AFFECTION ACCORDING TO THE SHRINKS IS NOT A NEGATIVE BUT A POSITIVE REACTION TO THE GENERAL LACK OF CLOSENESS IN TODAYS SOCIETY.
    februarydays februarydays 51-55, F 6 Responses May 18, 2011

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    I've been alone my whole life.

    I'm craving a close relationship with someone. The problem is I'm really shy with new people. But I know that when I like someone, I get really emotionally attached. I want all of their attention, and I'm not happy if I don't have it. They may see me as some psycho *****, but...
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    "you're Such A Baby"

    I get atatched easily because I crave intimacy and affection and cry over things if I feel like I'm not gettign attention. And it's frustrating that in order to keep a guy you have to withhold information and not be needy--but I can't help it--I CRAVE closeness and hugging and...
    GreedyKitty GreedyKitty 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 7, 2011

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    Lost Ghost (poem)

    While reading the poem: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ek4WVJSk2W4Lost Ghost You don't really want to hear these words      For your ears are no longer yours You gave them away To a symbol of love but not loving      Who stole your childhood Took away your dreams Placed...
    OkayBut OkayBut 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 16, 2012

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    Losing A Deep Connection Hurts Like Hell!

    I seemed to have lost a deep connection with a dear dear friend. And the worst part is, my friend doesn't seem to feel the same loss. My friend tries to tell me that the connection is still there and that this is just a new "phase" in our friendship that involves less quality...
    want2luvlife want2luvlife 31-35, F 1 Response May 20, 2011

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    Especially Since My Last Breakup

    * I find I am probably at my most needy. I have been without love or companionship for close to 3 yrs. My last relationship wasn't the best in the world, but it was the longest I had ever been with one person & I believe we both did our best. He's back home with his family...
    AllNaturalAlways AllNaturalAlways 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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    I Can'T Feel Alone, It Kills Me

    My childhood was screwed. A drug addicted mom and abusive alcoholic father and then years of foster care and home school until I met a much older man with three kids and decided to move away from home to try to change. The older man and I split and I love where I live and still...
    summersails summersails 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    So Much So!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I am trying to know the faults I have , and to make my best effort to adjust my behavior for the benefit of those I love.  I am so emotionally needy, that sometimes I'm a giant ,quivering hunk of jello, swiftly becoming a giant puddle of the same!!
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 23, 2009

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    There's A Hole In My Bucket....

    "Emotionally needy." Yup, that sums me up pretty well. I often feel emotionally starved, a bottomless pit that is impossible to fill, like there is a hole in my bucket of love, affection, validation, "Ok-ness." I know that it isn't fair to the people around me, especially my...
    Breathe99 Breathe99 26-30 4 Responses Jun 5, 2010

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    I say "do you love me?

    " At LEAST twenty times a day
    gorgeoushobo gorgeoushobo 16-17, F Sep 1

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    Every time jerks attack.

    Hope they vanish first.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 1

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    What is wrong with me,

    get so clingy & needy
    Leilajames Leilajames 13-15, F 4 Responses May 25

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    My Husband's No Longer My Best Friend And Partner.

    I've been married to the same guy for 15 years (1/3 of my life), have two kids w/ him, and been very happy. He really seemed to be my soulmate. I'm not a jealous person and I've never been. He's been one to seek vicarious fantasies w/ naked photos of women on the internet during...
    TheKettle TheKettle 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    Story 1 From I Need Constant Reminders To Make Feel Loved!

    I don't want to admit this but I am so needy. I don't really have close friends nearby. My husband is no longer my best friend. I think I can live with the second one about my husband except I currently have no real outlets to express my thoughts, NEEDS to. I am hoping it is here...
    want2luvlife want2luvlife 31-35, F 2 Responses May 17, 2011

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    N-o-w

    Am I emotionally needy? Yes and no, no I am not the clingy I have to know what you are doing and where you are every moment of every day type of needy. I'm more the when I want to talk, I want to talk NOW type of guy and that can be hard to deal with. I don't try to be difficult...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 18, 2010

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    I Feel Emotionally Dependant On Others

    I just realized last night that I seem to put too much of my emotions on friends I find on the Internet and then kind of control them by getting upset if they want to drift away. One friend told me their life is getting busy but he doesn't want to abandon me because he thinks I...
    SRayne SRayne 41-45 6 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    I Can't Bear Being Alone

    Since i became physically unwell some weeks ago i just need people with me the whole time, and think that they can give me what i want, but they can't,as they have their own lives and families. But i feel safe when i am with others, even if they aren't really that close to me...
    worriedandalone worriedandalone 61-65, F Apr 9, 2012

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    Love...

    Feeling someone's arms around me is the best feeling in the world <3 I am in constant need for a hug though... I'm really willing to go far for love, aside from Sex, drugs, and other bad decisions a 16 year old should NOT make. I love coming onto Experience Project for the...
    FreeHugs330 FreeHugs330 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 21, 2011

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    I'm Unhappy

    And I have been for over a year and a half. I feel like no one loves me or cares about me. I feel guilty for feeling unhappy when there are other people in the world who have it worse. I'm lonely...   I was recently diagnosed with clinical depression, and my best...
    MsBlackthought MsBlackthought 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 5, 2010

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    I'm Scared Of Losing My Partner

    Uni is supposed to be the best experience of your life...fun. My experiences are that of something totally different. Since i got here i've put on about 2 stone, as a result all of my confidence has washed away in the shower. I don't go out, i don't meet new people. There are...
    kidston23 kidston23 18-21 1 Response May 22, 2011

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    So I've been talking to this guy Sam.

    He kinda makes my day perfect. He's the only thing I look forward to. When we're not together we are almost always texting. But there are sometimes where he just doesn't text me. I break down during these times. I get really sad and overreact when he doesn't text me. Like for...
    Imjustdone Imjustdone 16-17, M Apr 24

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    So What?

    It's not surprise I'm not emotionally needy but needy in general. I know what I need and want, plus I'm not ashamed, nor will I apologize for not denying my needs.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Nov 25, 2011

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    What Is Wrong With Me?

    I don't know exactly where to start as this has been a lifelong struggle. From the time I was little, I've always craved affection and someone who would wrap me in cotton wool. Neither one of my parents were involved in my life when I was growing up. My mother had problems of...
    catlover91 catlover91 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    Sometimes. With pals. Or strangers. But never family. Wonder why. Or do i. Lmao.
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