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I Am Entering Mid-life

For men and women who are dealing with getting older 42 People

    A Weird Time

    I was filled with lots of confusion. Things I knew certainly, I no longer believed. I voted way differently than I ever had. I spent a lot of time visualizing what life was going to be now that my main job was no longer "dad". I became more assertive and less private. I used...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    Actually, Um... I Guess I'm There?

    Why do they call it "mid-Life" anyway???  With tThe avg. lifespan in U.S. at about 78, mid-life would then be 39... which I passed up a while back... 
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F Feb 11, 2009

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    What Shall I Say To Her Now

    Some one who was yours almost for 15 years, who was the only one in your asolated life that you trusted and loved, is no longer your's....No, please don't  think so.....may God bless her long life. She is very much in this world and in the same city, but now she...
    PKS64 PKS64 46-50, M Mar 25, 2010

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    Letting Go of the Girl

    Good Afternoon!  I am happy to be here and I am excited about entering  midlife.  There I said it and guess what?  I mean it. The more I speak to my friends a common topic arises about about letting go of old habits, what does 40 look like...
    deedeevon deedeevon 46-50 Aug 24, 2009

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    Mind Gunk

    the thing with me and growing old is junk tends to accumulate in my brain.  bad memories, stupid things i've said or done, random unpleasant experiences.  i'm going about my day and they shoot up at the slightest provocation causing a sneezing fit, a rash, or a sharp...
    PobbleToes PobbleToes 41-45, M Jul 21, 2009

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    Mid-life

    Well, I think at 49, I'm already in mid-life, but I don't feel it.  I am hopeful, but also fearful about the future.  The last 20 years have been dismal.  I look back I see failure, or just plain nothing.  I hid from the world, the pain, the sorrow.  Now...
    roamerxx99 roamerxx99 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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