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I Am Entering Mid-life

For men and women who are dealing with getting older 44 People

    A Weird Time

    I was filled with lots of confusion. Things I knew certainly, I no longer believed. I voted way differently than I ever had. I spent a lot of time visualizing what life was going to be now that my main job was no longer "dad". I became more assertive and less private. I used...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    Letting Go of the Girl

    Good Afternoon!  I am happy to be here and I am excited about entering  midlife.  There I said it and guess what?  I mean it. The more I speak to my friends a common topic arises about about letting go of old habits, what does 40 look like...
    deedeevon deedeevon 46-50 Aug 24, 2009

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    As I have got older I find myself increasingly

    willing to experiment with new sexual experiences. All of a sudden the riskier or more taboo the more I want to try it. Things that used to be no go areas when I was younger now seem exciting. I sometimes scare myself. Is this just a natural part of life?
    Peeonme69 Peeonme69 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Mind Gunk

    the thing with me and growing old is junk tends to accumulate in my brain.  bad memories, stupid things i've said or done, random unpleasant experiences.  i'm going about my day and they shoot up at the slightest provocation causing a sneezing fit, a rash, or a sharp...
    PobbleToes PobbleToes 41-45, M Jul 21, 2009

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    Frustrated With Life

    I'm fairly happy in my life. Decent job, good wife, health is stable but at the same time a lil unfulfilled. As a kid I lived a sheltered life at least my mom tried. I was a sickly child with few friends and that made me a very quiet and solitary individual, I met and stayed with...
    Newbud73 Newbud73 41-45, M Sep 17, 2013

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    What Shall I Say To Her Now

    Some one who was yours almost for 15 years, who was the only one in your asolated life that you trusted and loved, is no longer your's....No, please don't  think so.....may God bless her long life. She is very much in this world and in the same city, but now she...
    PKS64 PKS64 46-50, M Mar 25, 2010

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    Actually, Um... I Guess I'm There?

    Why do they call it "mid-Life" anyway???  With tThe avg. lifespan in U.S. at about 78, mid-life would then be 39... which I passed up a while back... 
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F Feb 11, 2009

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    Mid-life

    Well, I think at 49, I'm already in mid-life, but I don't feel it.  I am hopeful, but also fearful about the future.  The last 20 years have been dismal.  I look back I see failure, or just plain nothing.  I hid from the world, the pain, the sorrow.  Now...
    roamerxx99 roamerxx99 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    Mid life bites. Too young to go with no sex. Too old for most. Too damaged to tolerate crap. Too much crap to tolerate. Lol.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    August 31. Denial. I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It...
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    I have to admit, this is challenging. I have a teenage daughter who has her own life. I've never been married, so there's no ex- baby daddy drama. I have my life together {as I...
    flutterby0913 flutterby0913 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    August 6. Solving Problems. Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this...
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    Aug. 1. Gratitude. "We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more." —Codependent No More Say thank you, until we mean it. Thank God...
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    Aug. 2. In Between. Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going, we have to be willing to be in between. One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of...
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    August 5. Attitudes Toward Money. Sometimes, our life and history may be so full of pain that we think it totally unfair that we have to grow up now and be financially...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    August 15. Leaving Room for Feelings. We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robots. An important part of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 15

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    August 27. Procrastination. Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness...
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    July 31. Letting Go of What We Want. "For those of us who have survived by controlling and surrendering, letting go may not come easily." —Beyond Codependency In recovery, we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 31

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    August 3. Owning Our Power in Relationships. "So much of what I call my codependency is fear and panic because I spent so much of my life feeling abused, trapped, and not knowing...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 3

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    August 8. Saying Yes. Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes. We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 8

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    August 9. Asking for What We Need. Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it. Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 9

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    August 11. Healing. Let healing energy flow through your body. The healing energy of God, the Universe, life, and recovery surrounds us. It is available, waiting for us to draw...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 11

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    August 13. Friends. Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 13

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    August 14. Owning Our Power. Many of us have someone in our life that challenges our ability to trust and care for ourselves. When we hear that person's voice or are in his or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    August 16. Rescuing Ourselves. No one likes a martyr. How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away. Somehow, many of us have...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 16

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    August 17. Healing Thoughts. Think healing thoughts. When you feel anger or resentment, ask God to help you feel it, learn from it, and then release it. Ask Him to bless those...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 17

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    August 18. Valuing this Moment. "Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 18

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    August 19. Letting Go of Shame. Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 19

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    August 20. Honesty in Relationships. We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships and about the parameters of a particular relationship. Perhaps no area of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 20

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    August 21. Detaching in Relationships. When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 21

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    August 22. Responsibility for Family Members. "I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    August 28. Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job. It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    Thinking of the times when I've sought love and attention from people who were suppose to love, nurture and protect me and didn't get it. Then I sought to fill the void through...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Yep. Work's in the can,I'm bored to death at home. Money always seem to go rather than come. Whatever friends I had all seem to have flown. I quit drinking ten years ago. Smoking 5...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    August 4. Vulnerability. "I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am." —Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 4

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    August 7. Saying No. For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No. No - simple to pronounce...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 7

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    August 10. Letting Go of Perfection. "As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies — laughing at myself for my ways — gets...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 11

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    August 12. Directness. Direct people are a joy to be around. We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 12

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    I have travelled the world over and seen many mysterious things and met some incredible people, some of them believe in god, some of them talk to god, but a few are godlike, these...
    julesrocks julesrocks 41-45, F Aug 15

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    August 23. Self Care. "When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 23

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    August 24. Step Eight. "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." —Step Eight of Al-Anon The Eighth Step is not meant to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

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    August 25. Willing to Make Amends. The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing change. This attitude can begin a great chain of repair and healing in our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    August 26. Making Amends. "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." —Step Nine of Al-Anon When we make amends...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    So I met a guy he just got divorced. Now after eight years we broke up and he's back with his ex-wife she is working to get him back he did not work to get her back what is that...
    rubysmom rubysmom 51-55, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    August 29. Owning Our Energy. "Learn to keep your energy inside." —From Women, Sex, and Addiction, Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. For many reasons, we may have mastered the art...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    August 30. Accepting Our Best. We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever. Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    Hard but I'm trying and trying to become a better person
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    I feel so lost... I have this dream and goal, of becoming a police officer, and serving 1 term in the US Navy... But recently my plans may have been changed both due to me not...
    ECrierie ECrierie 16-17, M Aug 12