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I Am Entering Mid-life

For men and women who are dealing with getting older 44 People

    As I have got older I find myself increasingly

    willing to experiment with new sexual experiences. All of a sudden the riskier or more taboo the more I want to try it. Things that used to be no go areas when I was younger now seem exciting. I sometimes scare myself. Is this just a natural part of life?
    Peeonme69 Peeonme69 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 31

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    What Shall I Say To Her Now

    Some one who was yours almost for 15 years, who was the only one in your asolated life that you trusted and loved, is no longer your's....No, please don't  think so.....may God bless her long life. She is very much in this world and in the same city, but now she...
    PKS64 PKS64 46-50, M Mar 25, 2010

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    Letting Go of the Girl

    Good Afternoon!  I am happy to be here and I am excited about entering  midlife.  There I said it and guess what?  I mean it. The more I speak to my friends a common topic arises about about letting go of old habits, what does 40 look like...
    deedeevon deedeevon 46-50 Aug 24, 2009

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    Mind Gunk

    the thing with me and growing old is junk tends to accumulate in my brain.  bad memories, stupid things i've said or done, random unpleasant experiences.  i'm going about my day and they shoot up at the slightest provocation causing a sneezing fit, a rash, or a sharp...
    PobbleToes PobbleToes 41-45, M Jul 21, 2009

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    Frustrated With Life

    I'm fairly happy in my life. Decent job, good wife, health is stable but at the same time a lil unfulfilled. As a kid I lived a sheltered life at least my mom tried. I was a sickly child with few friends and that made me a very quiet and solitary individual, I met and stayed with...
    Newbud73 Newbud73 41-45, M Sep 17, 2013

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    Actually, Um... I Guess I'm There?

    Why do they call it "mid-Life" anyway???  With tThe avg. lifespan in U.S. at about 78, mid-life would then be 39... which I passed up a while back... 
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F Feb 11, 2009

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    Mid-life

    Well, I think at 49, I'm already in mid-life, but I don't feel it.  I am hopeful, but also fearful about the future.  The last 20 years have been dismal.  I look back I see failure, or just plain nothing.  I hid from the world, the pain, the sorrow.  Now...
    roamerxx99 roamerxx99 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    A Weird Time

    I was filled with lots of confusion. Things I knew certainly, I no longer believed. I voted way differently than I ever had. I spent a lot of time visualizing what life was going to be now that my main job was no longer "dad". I became more assertive and less private. I used...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Mid life bites. Too young to go with no sex. Too old for most. Too damaged to tolerate crap. Too much crap to tolerate. Lol.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 24

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    September 18. Letting the Good Stuff Happen. "Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at...
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    I have to admit, this is challenging. I have a teenage daughter who has her own life. I've never been married, so there's no ex- baby daddy drama. I have my life together {as I...
    flutterby0913 flutterby0913 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    September 4. Finding Direction. "I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    September 8. Stopping Our Pain. "Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn." —Beyond Codependency There are many sources of pain in our life. Those...
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    September 15. Getting Through Hard Times. "We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way...
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    August 27. Procrastination. Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness...
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    August 31. Denial. I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It...
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    September 5. Step Ten. "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." —Step Ten of Al Anon Once we have worked our way to this Step, we...
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    September 9. Perspective. Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time. That will make us crazy. We do not always know why things are happening the way they...
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    September 12. Healing. "We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be...
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    September 14. What's Good for Me? When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is...
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    September 16. Revenge. No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even...
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    August 18. Valuing this Moment. "Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 18

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    August 19. Letting Go of Shame. Shame is that dark, powerful feeling that holds us back. Yes, shame can stop us from acting inappropriately. But many of us have learned to attach...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 19

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    August 20. Honesty in Relationships. We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships and about the parameters of a particular relationship. Perhaps no area of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 20

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    August 21. Detaching in Relationships. When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 21

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    August 22. Responsibility for Family Members. "I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    August 28. Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job. It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 28

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    Thinking of the times when I've sought love and attention from people who were suppose to love, nurture and protect me and didn't get it. Then I sought to fill the void through...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    September 1. Patience. Sometimes we get what we want right away. At other times, we wonder if our desires will ever be fulfilled. We will be fulfilled in the best way possible...
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    September 6. The Good in Step Ten. Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is...
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    September 7. Powerless over Others. Stop making excuses for other people. Stop making excuses for ourselves. While it is our goal to develop compassion and achieve forgiveness...
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    September 10. Self-approval. Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others. Since...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    September 13. Times of Reprogramming. Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned...
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    August 23. Self Care. "When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we...
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    August 24. Step Eight. "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." —Step Eight of Al-Anon The Eighth Step is not meant to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 24

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    August 25. Willing to Make Amends. The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing change. This attitude can begin a great chain of repair and healing in our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 25

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    August 26. Making Amends. "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." —Step Nine of Al-Anon When we make amends...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 26

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    So I met a guy he just got divorced. Now after eight years we broke up and he's back with his ex-wife she is working to get him back he did not work to get her back what is that...
    rubysmom rubysmom 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    August 29. Owning Our Energy. "Learn to keep your energy inside." —From Women, Sex, and Addiction, Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. For many reasons, we may have mastered the art...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 29

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    August 30. Accepting Our Best. We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever. Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 30

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    Hard but I'm trying and trying to become a better person
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F Aug 30

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    September 2. Detaching with Love with Children. "It's one thing to let go of my husband and let him suffer the consequences. But how do I let go of my children? Isn't it different...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    September 3. Word Power. "I know I'm controlling, but so is my husband. Possibly more controlling than I am. Each time I set out to leave him, each time I started to walk away...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 3

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    I misunderstood this experience. I'm 34 no kids never been married. Now that I understand... All of the married women here are lucky to have had real love at some point. But...
    spaceylibra spaceylibra 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    September 11. Conflict and Detachment. In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when things go smoothly for both people, and neither person needs to focus too heavily on...
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    September 17. New Relationship Behaviors. We talk much about new relationship behaviors in recovery: allowing others to be themselves without over reacting and taking it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 23 hrs ago

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    When you live in a small town, you don't think about someone harming you...Everyone knows everybody, people are either very charming, reserved, or just take everyone for granted..I...
    prettyface1 prettyface1 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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