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I Am Entering Mid-life

For men and women who are dealing with getting older 50 People

    Frustrated With Life

    I'm fairly happy in my life. Decent job, good wife, health is stable but at the same time a lil unfulfilled. As a kid I lived a sheltered life at least my mom tried. I was a sickly child with few friends and that made me a very quiet and solitary individual, I met and stayed with...
    Newbud73 Newbud73 41-45, M Sep 17, 2013

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    Actually, Um... I Guess I'm There?

    Why do they call it "mid-Life" anyway???  With tThe avg. lifespan in U.S. at about 78, mid-life would then be 39... which I passed up a while back... 
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F Feb 11, 2009

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    Mid-life

    Well, I think at 49, I'm already in mid-life, but I don't feel it.  I am hopeful, but also fearful about the future.  The last 20 years have been dismal.  I look back I see failure, or just plain nothing.  I hid from the world, the pain, the sorrow.  Now...
    roamerxx99 roamerxx99 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    Letting Go of the Girl

    Good Afternoon!  I am happy to be here and I am excited about entering  midlife.  There I said it and guess what?  I mean it. The more I speak to my friends a common topic arises about about letting go of old habits, what does 40 look like...
    deedeevon deedeevon 46-50 Aug 24, 2009

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    What I'm wondering is how the hell did I get to

    be this age???!LOL Seriously. I was 21 yesterday..now I'm 45. Makes absolutely NO sense.;) I have had a very hard time accepting my age. Turning 40...that whole year leading up to it, I was freaking out. Now it's 5 years later already! I must admit that I have felt that...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    A Weird Time

    I was filled with lots of confusion. Things I knew certainly, I no longer believed. I voted way differently than I ever had. I spent a lot of time visualizing what life was going to be now that my main job was no longer "dad". I became more assertive and less private. I used...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    What Shall I Say To Her Now

    Some one who was yours almost for 15 years, who was the only one in your asolated life that you trusted and loved, is no longer your's....No, please don't  think so.....may God bless her long life. She is very much in this world and in the same city, but now she...
    PKS64 PKS64 46-50, M Mar 25, 2010

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    Mind Gunk

    the thing with me and growing old is junk tends to accumulate in my brain.  bad memories, stupid things i've said or done, random unpleasant experiences.  i'm going about my day and they shoot up at the slightest provocation causing a sneezing fit, a rash, or a sharp...
    PobbleToes PobbleToes 41-45, M Jul 21, 2009

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    I have been with my partner

    for over 20 years and he used to get jealous when I flirted with other men. Recently he told me he would actually enjoy watching me with another man. He says it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me anymore - he just wants to try new things before we get too old. I think he is...
    Peeonme69 Peeonme69 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 10

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    As I have got older I find myself increasingly

    willing to experiment with new sexual experiences. All of a sudden the riskier or more taboo the more I want to try it. Things that used to be no go areas when I was younger now seem exciting. I sometimes scare myself. Is this just a natural part of life?
    Peeonme69 Peeonme69 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 31

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    bobbwil63 bobbwil63 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 8

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