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I Am Entering Mid-life

For men and women who are dealing with getting older 42 People

    Actually, Um... I Guess I'm There?

    Why do they call it "mid-Life" anyway???  With tThe avg. lifespan in U.S. at about 78, mid-life would then be 39... which I passed up a while back... 
    2Quirky 2Quirky 51-55, F Feb 11, 2009

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    Letting Go of the Girl

    Good Afternoon!  I am happy to be here and I am excited about entering  midlife.  There I said it and guess what?  I mean it. The more I speak to my friends a common topic arises about about letting go of old habits, what does 40 look like...
    deedeevon deedeevon 46-50 Aug 24, 2009

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    A Weird Time

    I was filled with lots of confusion. Things I knew certainly, I no longer believed. I voted way differently than I ever had. I spent a lot of time visualizing what life was going to be now that my main job was no longer "dad". I became more assertive and less private. I used...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 14, 2011

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    Mind Gunk

    the thing with me and growing old is junk tends to accumulate in my brain.  bad memories, stupid things i've said or done, random unpleasant experiences.  i'm going about my day and they shoot up at the slightest provocation causing a sneezing fit, a rash, or a sharp...
    PobbleToes PobbleToes 41-45, M Jul 21, 2009

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    What Shall I Say To Her Now

    Some one who was yours almost for 15 years, who was the only one in your asolated life that you trusted and loved, is no longer your's....No, please don't  think so.....may God bless her long life. She is very much in this world and in the same city, but now she...
    PKS64 PKS64 46-50, M Mar 25, 2010

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    Mid-life

    Well, I think at 49, I'm already in mid-life, but I don't feel it.  I am hopeful, but also fearful about the future.  The last 20 years have been dismal.  I look back I see failure, or just plain nothing.  I hid from the world, the pain, the sorrow.  Now...
    roamerxx99 roamerxx99 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 30, 2009

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    Frustrated With Life

    I'm fairly happy in my life. Decent job, good wife, health is stable but at the same time a lil unfulfilled. As a kid I lived a sheltered life at least my mom tried. I was a sickly child with few friends and that made me a very quiet and solitary individual, I met and stayed with...
    Newbud73 Newbud73 41-45, M Sep 17, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I think I love my partner still,but I am considering leaving him. It is difficult because there is good between him and I, but we either need to see someone and he needs help or we...
    TheWicked TheWicked 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    June 27. Achieving Harmony. When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    July 20. Letting Go of Resistance. Do not be in such a hurry to move on. Relax. Breathe deeply. Be. Be in harmony today. Be open. There is beauty around and in us today. There...
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    June 24. Detachment. Detachment doesn't come naturally for many of us. But once we realize the value of this recovery principle, we understand how vital detachment is. The...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    June 28. When Things Don't Work. Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve...
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    July 5. Survivor Guilt. We begin recovering. We begin taking care of ourselves. Our recovery program starts to work in our life, and we begin to feel good about ourselves. Then...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    July 12. Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment. "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 12

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    July 13. God as We Understand God. "God is subtle, but he is not malicious." —Albert Einstein Recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 13

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    July 16. Insisting on the Best. We deserve the best life and love has to offer, but we are each faced with the challenge of learning to identify what that means in our life. We...
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    July 22. Learning to Trust Again. Many of us have trust issues. Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    June 26. Surviving Slumps. A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    June 29. God's Will. God's will most often happens in spite of us, not because of us. We may try to second guess what God has in mind for us, looking, searching, hypervigilant to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jun 29

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    July 2. Who Knows Best? Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 2

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    July 4. Celebrate. Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your successes, your growth, and your accomplishments. Celebrate you and who you are. For too long you have been too hard on...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 4

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    July 7. Getting It All Out. "Let yourself have a good gripe session." From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" —Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 7

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    July 8. Going with the Flow. Go with the flow. Let go of fear and your need to control. Relinquish anxiety. Let it slip away, as you dive into the river of the present moment...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 8

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    July 11. Bring Any Request to God. Bring any request you have to God. No request is too large; none too small or insignificant. How often we limit God by not bringing to God...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 11

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    I don't want much to do with my husband or kids lately .... That is not me .... I love my kids so much and have always been there with them for everything !!! I always get...
    spower79 spower79 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    July 14. We Are Lovable. "Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay." —Codependent No More Do you ever find...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 14

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    July 15. Self-care with Family Members. "I was thirty- five years old the first time I spoke up to my mother and refused to buy into her games and manipulation. I was terribly...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    July 23. Making It Happen. Stop trying so hard to make it happen. Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 20 hrs ago

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    June 25. Withholding. Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    June 30. Accepting Change. One day, my mother and I were working together in the garden. We were transplanting some plant for the third time. Grown from seed in a small container...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jun 30

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    July 1. Receiving. Here is an exercise. Today let someone give to you. Let someone do something nice for you. Let someone give you a compliment or tell you something good about...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    July 3. Directness. So much of our communication can reflect our need to control. We say what we think others want to hear. We try to keep others from getting angry, feeling...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 3

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    July 6. Step Seven. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. —Step Seven of Al-Anon In the Sixth and Seventh Steps of the program, we become willing to let go of our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 6

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    July 9. Overspending and Underspending. "I used to beat my husband to death with my credit card. It made me feel like I had some control, some way to get even with him...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 9

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    July 10. Ending Relationships. It takes courage and honesty to end a relationship - with friends, loved ones, or a work relationship. Sometimes, it may appear easier to let the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 10

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    July 17. Love, in Words and Actions. Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about. Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    July 18. Time to Get Angry. It's about time you got angry - yes, that angry. Anger can be such a potent, frightening emotion. It can also be a feeling that guides us to important...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    July 19. Proving It to Ourselves. "I spent a year trying to prove to my husband how much his drinking was hurting me. When I began to recover, I realized I was the one who needed...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    July 21. Being Is Enough. We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    The movie After The Fall is one of my favorite movies. It is about a young woman who competes in a horse competition and has a horrible fall that renders her paralyzed. I am...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I've decided to stop entering relationships. No more for me! haha. I've also started to join my Churches youth worship band. im finally becoming the good girl.
    kitkat2797 kitkat2797 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    He told me I have to blog again I wrote a blog today when I was going through a very rough time. I feel I am doing better. I think that some of you were right. I am depressed. It...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I need some help, really badly. First, I apologize if any of this has improper grammar or misspellings, I am writing this in a hurry. When I was a child, I was moved around a bit...
    LilMissStats LilMissStats 13-15, F Jun 28

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    I'm just so tired - I've been ****** up and used so many times and left alone. Worst is that it's not anyone's fault but mine. I always choose the wrong person, do the wrong thing...
    xxxrina xxxrina 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Q: What did baby corn say to mama corn? A: Where's popcorn? Q: What do you call your dad when he falls through the ice? A: a POPsicle! Q: How do fathers exercise on the beach...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 26-30, F Jun 27

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    Financial Crisis And Government Debt Level Debate- Plus Addendum 1 I am entering a discussion that is very controversial. However, please allow me who worked in finance for over 20...
    jiaberg jiaberg 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    Not that being complicated is bad. It's just me. Too many (apparent) contradictions. Too much going on. Too much to do. Too much to write. Too many experiences to write about. OK...
    peternoc peternoc 61-65, M