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I Am Estranged From My Family

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    I Really Didn’t See It Coming!

     I am the youngest of four children. I shared a room with my two sisters throughout my childhood. They were 4 and 6 years older than me. My dad used to brag about how well we got along. We never fought. Ever. They were just enough older than me that we didn’t share the...
    whenfamilyfails whenfamilyfails 61-65 7 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    I'm writing as Stand Alone,

    the only worldwide charity to support adults that are estranged, has started to carry out some preliminary research into family estrangement. We'd like to invite you people at Experience Project, in this group, to take part. There's currently a real absence of studies in this...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 Feb 8

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    Stange Family, Welcome To The Club.

    My name is Bill. My father is a loooooooser. My mom was a great women, and gave me alot confidence about myself. Yet my father was and still is a looooooser. My brother followed in his footsteps. Nancy, she was my first sexual girl friend when I was just 15, and she was 23...
    greekitalian greekitalian 26-30 Oct 7, 2012

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    Trying To Forgive My Grandfather

    The events of recent days have convinced me that I *must* try to forgive my grandfather for the way he has managed my grandmother's estate since she died in 1999. This is really difficult. I have not spoken to him for many years, and still find it impossible to sit at table with...
    AndrewPenney AndrewPenney 41-45 14 Responses Dec 11, 2009

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    What Now?

    So, now that I have told my story, the questions I ask are: How do I find others that share my experience? How can one build a network of people to take the place of family? And, most importantly for now, how do we, refugees of dysfunctional families, tell others who might ask...
    Sdaedalus Sdaedalus 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    What I Come From

    I was raised in humboldt county. NOT the hippie liberal side, but the redneck conservative, homeschool side. I had my first boyfriend at 19 and in that community everyone married the first person they dated. I wasn't allowed to date. I had to be courted. I saw him only at school...
    Dollbaby02 Dollbaby02 26-30 3 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    Dysfunctional

    WARNING! LOOOOOOOOOONG STORY. Ok, everyone's family is dysfunctional to an extent. We all have our weird quirks that make us a little "abnormal" in our opinions. No one is perfect, and I have yet to meet anyone who says they grew up in the perfect family. People...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 29, 2009

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    Have No Family Connection

    I was abused much if not all of my childhood. Physically, you name it. My mother was a monster, my father was abusive as well, but not quite as physically most of the time. Although, I think he was sexually abusing my younger sister. Both my sisters are basket cases. I have no...
    bretthart480 bretthart480 41-45 3 Responses Feb 13, 2013

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    Shocked?, Was I...

    Pretty much so.  I received call after call this morning from perspective employers.  After i catch my breath and begin to put on the rest of my suit for one my interview, the phone rings and i answer without looking at the caller ID.  lol.  My sister...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    Hello! New Here And So Glad I Found You All!

    Hello other estranged from your family peeps! I just wanted to say hello, &  introduce myself real quick. I too have been estranged from my overly dysfunctional family. It's a LONG story (aren't they all?), so I'm going to piece it together in my head before I post it here. I...
    BlackSheepMama BlackSheepMama 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 2, 2011

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    I am estranged from my entire family.

    I grew up in an abusive home and watched my older siblings move away and sever ties when they went to college. When I graduated I always returned home for holidays. I always tried to be there for my mom and my younger brother with autism after my father left. For years she...
    Aly00cat Aly00cat 22-25, F Jun 23

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    Happy Birthday Grandma

    So, i call up GrandMa today.  Tried calling her yesterday, but something was wrong with her phone line - she needed a new phone. Why is GrandMa mad with me...?...  Now, i am the favourite grand-baby and all.  That's a known fact. lol.  She calls me her...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 18, 2009

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    I have begun estranging myself from my parents.

    They are very manipulative and controlling/religious. I have let them control me for 27 years and now I am through. I have severed all contact with them and will continue to do so. Perhaps in a couple years I will see if they have learned, but I will not have a relationship with...
    val72 val72 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 20

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    Just An Introduction

    Hello all, I am estranged from my family (by choice) and have been for a few years now. I am not going to tell my story just yet as I just found this site. I wanted to introduce myself, however. I was looking for information on bereavement and estrangement and came across this...
    RedMaryJane82 RedMaryJane82 31-35 2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    The Thought Of It Sickens Me

    Literally.  Bird advised me that she wanted to go to an area in which my sister works directly across the street.  She just kept pushing the issue.  She pushed so hard - that i threw up.  I wasn't sick or anything.  Just the thought of laying eyes upon...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 17, 2009

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    Amazing Story Of Reconciliation And Forgiveness

    My mother, Clarice, was shot in the head and killed more than three decades ago. On June 25, 2011 – the 33rd anniversary of her death – I traveled from my home in Aston back to Chicago to visit her gravesite. The visit to her final resting place is one I make every time I...
    Reconnections Reconnections 36-40 Jul 18, 2011

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    I Fear I'm Becoming Estranged From My Father

    About 4 or 5 years ago, my parents split. At first, it didn't bother me i was 16 or so. Sooner or later it got to me :( I'm now 21, heading to University in a few months time. I have been living on my own, up until then I lived with my mother. I saw my father about once every 2...
    slackit slackit 18-21 2 Responses Jul 28, 2011

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    ... But Not Estranged From My 3-year-old Nephew

    My Stunt Toddler of a nephew was born in June 2005, and he is the only person in my family who does not know or care that I am the "black sheep" of the clan. Since he was 9 months old, I have been spending many hours with him every week (a privilege for which I thank...
    AndrewPenney AndrewPenney 41-45 7 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    Blood Ties Are Thin...

    I am the only surviving child of my mother. My two sisters died at birth in 1981 and 1987 respectively. Their father adopted me when I was three, so I call him "Dad".Mum and Dad moved to a semi-rural town two states away in 2001 and I can't afford to see them often.My birth...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 Jan 1, 2013

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    How I Got Here

    How I came to this place is long and complicated. I was born into a reform Jewish family that, while seemingly happy, harbors a great deal of dysfunction, anger, and resentment. My childhood was outwardly happy but as I became older my lack of social skills--borne from a mother...
    Sdaedalus Sdaedalus 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 6, 2013

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    My Story, In Brief. Sound Familiar.

    I'm the youngest of 8 children. All my siblings either emotionally terrorised me, or ignored me. I still crave their approval. I am estranged from most of them and would like to cut off completely. I have no interest in them as a sister should. I have a life away from them and...
    Margie1968 Margie1968 41-45 1 Response Jul 31, 2009

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    If You Are Estranged From Your Family Then Please Visit Stand Alone

    Hey Folks, Stand Alone is the only international charity to support adults that are estranged from their family. We're going now, and running meet-up groups in London on the run up to Christmas. We'd really like to hear from as many estranged people as possible so we can plan...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 Sep 26, 2013

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    Letting Go, At A Deeper Level, In Order To Move On.

    After writing my "story" yesterday afternoon, I had a breakthrough during the night (processing at a deeper level). A paradigm shift. What I realised was that I had "let go" of my sisters and other family of origin members (who were not treating me appropriately - all my life...
    lorraine48 lorraine48 61-65 2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

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    Christmas And My Dysfunctional Family

    After each holiday (and funerals as well) being ruined with endless conflict between my family members, I have chosen to walk away from my completely dysfunctional family of origin. Why is it that no matter how old I get. I feel somehow responsible for my dysfunctional family...
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    The Apostate Daughter

    My story isn't nearly as awful as some of the others I've read here. I wasn't abused and my family hasn't done anything horrible to me. But sometimes trauma can come from an excessive amount of love, too. My family is very religious. My father is a pentecostal minister. I...
    0rph1a 0rph1a 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Estranged From My Entire Family

    This past year I have been into numerous arguements with my family members. First thing is my three year old threw something at my 24 year old brothers face. He is a kid mind you... My brother got upset with this and spanked my kid. So my husbad confronted him about it and the...
    ikeandlasmom ikeandlasmom 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    I'm Estranged From My Own Sister

    I'm one of three sisters, our parents are dead. We had a brother who committed suicide in December 2012. I'm friendly with the youngest sister, I'm the oldest. Middle sister was always the "black sheep" of the family, dropped out of college, married young. I graduated college...
    Fluffernut Fluffernut 61-65, F Aug 18, 2013

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    My family is small. It was always just my

    mom's parents, my mom, my aunt and uncle, my siblings, and myself. My grandparents raised my brother and I (my sister didn't enter the picture until a decade later). My mom was always in the house with us but she was never really there... too busy off partying with random dudes...
    niceusername niceusername 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    Where I Come From.

    I was raised in humboldt county. NOT the hippie liberal side, but the redneck conservative, homeschool side. I had my first boyfriend at 19 and in that community everyone married the first person they dated. I wasn't allowed to date. I had to be courted. I saw him only at school...
    Dollbaby03 Dollbaby03 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    Waking Up To A Dysfuncional Family

    Its all about the controlling abusive relationship with an older sister and mother that you dont realise until your grown up and they carry on treating you without respect. My story is my sister used to hit me all the time and take all my nice new clothes and stuff if she liked...
    sara011178 sara011178 31-35 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    ... But I Was Brought Up In Love

    I would be a liar if I gave anybody the impression that my family hadn't brought me up in love. The best kind. The love which was showered on me by my family during the first 30 or so years of my life is something that I miss daily, but now I can finally accept that "that...
    AndrewPenney AndrewPenney 41-45 6 Responses Jan 12, 2009

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    I Am Estranged From My Family Because I Wanted To Move Out...

    I don't know I might be a bad person, I came back from UK three years ago and I lived with my parents. I did not like it for most parts because my dad always insisted that I should have been working to help my brothers, For some days he would be the nicest person giving words of...
    AnnTon AnnTon 26-30, F Dec 10, 2011

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    Estranged From Family and Friends

    I find myself more estranged as I grow older and as I approach 38 years things seem to be gathering steam. I have a Sister I now do not speak to and a father that I just can't get on with. I think the world of my Mum and despair at the life she has had with my father. He has...
    linwood81 linwood81 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    I would like to live a life estranged from my

    family. My father was abusive both physically and emotionally. The pain he has caused me throughout my 22 years is at times unbearable to think about. His rejection and neglect, paired with the unswerving adoration and support of my younger sister, still upsets and saddens me...
    Liz3125 Liz3125 18-21, F Jul 13

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    I Am the Black Sheep of My Family

    I have been estranged from my grandfather for perhaps six years. I see him every day -- unavoidable -- but I do not speak to him. I miss family gatherings because I can't bear to sit at a table with him. FWIW, the breakdown has something to do with the fact that he did...
    AndrewPenney AndrewPenney 41-45 44 Responses Jan 6, 2009

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    Today it is hard. My birthday is coming up

    and I am driving to my hometown to visit an old friend. I am hoping I don't run into my parents ugh. I have been ignoring them since they refuse to protect me from my brother who struck me and collects assault weapons. They are also exceedingly manipulative/ controlling and...
    val72 val72 26-30, F May 18

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    I had a tough childhood. Abuse from my mothers boyfriend, abuse from my father and his 2nd and 3rd wives, verbal abuse and fluctuating over protective and smothering from my mother...
    hurtinginma hurtinginma 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am presently estranged from my family, except for contact with an elderly mother. My sister and brother-in-law have children and tend to host most of the family gatherings...
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    I had a bad childhood and my relationship with my family has not improved enough to be of much comfort to me. My eldest brother died a couple of months ago, and the year of his...
    SlowLo SlowLo 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I can't wait until my mother is dead. My father is declining and I think I am angry at him, too, but don't feel it as much as I do towards my mother, who is the narcissist. He just...
    culturedancer culturedancer 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 30

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    I am now "that one." The one in the family that no one talks to. Part of me feels a certain freedom because I know that I have broken away from a pack of selfish liars. But I...
    goldilks goldilks 46-50, F 6 days ago

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    Neices. Their mom. Others. Too bipolar for some. Unknown to others.
    converted converted 46-50, M 6 days ago

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    I have been estranged from my adult daughter for her entire pregnancy, and she had her baby a week ago... she has shunned me because I voiced that I don't like the way her...
    vanishingvixenn vanishingvixenn 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    This just happened yesterday so at night I had to sleep in my parents room because my bed was at the wash so at 4:27 am I felt that the bed was moving so I woke up and I saw my dad...
    planeurchin planeurchin 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 1

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    Will some one help me please
    planeurchin planeurchin 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I don't even know where to start mainly because all my life I've been an outcast. When I was young my real father left me and so my mom worked a lot to keep food on the table and...
    Arwenlethena Arwenlethena 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I never been so strong when it come to relationship. I was naive in every part of it. Always follow the rule of wife as far as I know, never break it and do what need to be done as...
    EDRSS EDRSS 41-45 5 hrs ago

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    I love my family i really do, but at times i feel torn and angry. i have a twin sister, she's very funny and has a charismatic personality. but she also has extreme amounts...
    cobrabubbles cobrabubbles 18-21, F 11 hrs ago

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    I'm 29 my life came crashing down around me about 2mths ago I've been given a bad hand at live so much so that I wish like the rest of my family I was dead but death isn't comming...
    CathyKenney CathyKenney 26-30 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    An estranged cousin is being held hostage. Kidnapped on his birthday. A clever extortion for money an the consequences of the "family business". Mischief..., More specifically...
    alkaem alkaem 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    I have twin girls born in 1988. My marriage was highly abusive and after 7 years I had to get out. I had custody until they were 13 then because of a comment that was disrespectful...
    trish03 trish03 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 11

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