I Am Estranged From My Family

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 172 People

    I'm writing as Stand Alone,

    the only worldwide charity to support adults that are estranged, has started to carry out some preliminary research into family estrangement. We'd like to invite you people at Experience Project, in this group, to take part. There's currently a real absence of studies in this...
    beccabland beccabland
    Feb 8, 2014

    The Apostate Daughter

    My story isn't nearly as awful as some of the others I've read here. I wasn't abused and my family hasn't done anything horrible to me. But sometimes trauma can come from an excessive amount of love, too. My family is very religious. My father is a pentecostal minister. I...
    0rph1a 0rph1a
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 26, 2013

    My Story, In Brief. Sound Familiar.

    I'm the youngest of 8 children. All my siblings either emotionally terrorised me, or ignored me. I still crave their approval. I am estranged from most of them and would like to cut off completely. I have no interest in them as a sister should. I have a life away from them and...
    Margie1968 Margie1968
    1 Response Jul 31, 2009

    Hello! New Here And So Glad I Found You All!

    Hello other estranged from your family peeps! I just wanted to say hello, &  introduce myself real quick. I too have been estranged from my overly dysfunctional family. It's a LONG story (aren't they all?), so I'm going to piece it together in my head before I post it here. I...
    BlackSheepMama BlackSheepMama
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Feb 2, 2011

    I have begun estranging myself from my parents.

    They are very manipulative and controlling/religious. I have let them control me for 27 years and now I am through. I have severed all contact with them and will continue to do so. Perhaps in a couple years I will see if they have learned, but I will not have a relationship with...
    val72 val72
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 20, 2014

    I'm Estranged From My Own Sister

    I'm one of three sisters, our parents are dead. We had a brother who committed suicide in December 2012. I'm friendly with the youngest sister, I'm the oldest. Middle sister was always the "black sheep" of the family, dropped out of college, married young. I graduated college...
    Fluffernut Fluffernut
    61-65, F
    Aug 18, 2013

    Stange Family, Welcome To The Club.

    My name is Bill. My father is a loooooooser. My mom was a great women, and gave me alot confidence about myself. Yet my father was and still is a looooooser. My brother followed in his footsteps. Nancy, she was my first sexual girl friend when I was just 15, and she was 23...
    greekitalian greekitalian
    Oct 7, 2012

    I Really Didn’t See It Coming!

     I am the youngest of four children. I shared a room with my two sisters throughout my childhood. They were 4 and 6 years older than me. My dad used to brag about how well we got along. We never fought. Ever. They were just enough older than me that we didn’t share the...
    whenfamilyfails whenfamilyfails
    5 Responses Aug 24, 2009

    I created a brand new website called Choose

    Your Parents which was created to help you find the ideal relationship to support you as an adult child or parent. Instead of struggling along trying to make it work with your birth parents or adult children, why not find the relationship that helps you grow or motivates you...
    jsw548 jsw548
    56-60, M
    Apr 3, 2016

    What I Come From

    I was raised in humboldt county. NOT the hippie liberal side, but the redneck conservative, homeschool side. I had my first boyfriend at 19 and in that community everyone married the first person they dated. I wasn't allowed to date. I had to be courted. I saw him only at school...
    Dollbaby02 Dollbaby02
    1 Response Jul 30, 2013

    I Am Estranged From My Family Because I Wanted To Move Out...

    I don't know I might be a bad person, I came back from UK three years ago and I lived with my parents. I did not like it for most parts because my dad always insisted that I should have been working to help my brothers, For some days he would be the nicest person giving words of...
    AnnTon AnnTon
    26-30, F
    Dec 10, 2011

    How I Got Here

    How I came to this place is long and complicated. I was born into a reform Jewish family that, while seemingly happy, harbors a great deal of dysfunction, anger, and resentment. My childhood was outwardly happy but as I became older my lack of social skills--borne from a mother...
    Sdaedalus Sdaedalus
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 6, 2013


    WARNING! LOOOOOOOOOONG STORY. Ok, everyone's family is dysfunctional to an extent. We all have our weird quirks that make us a little "abnormal" in our opinions. No one is perfect, and I have yet to meet anyone who says they grew up in the perfect family. People...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 29, 2009

    Waking Up To A Dysfuncional Family

    Its all about the controlling abusive relationship with an older sister and mother that you dont realise until your grown up and they carry on treating you without respect. My story is my sister used to hit me all the time and take all my nice new clothes and stuff if she liked...
    sara011178 sara011178
    1 Response Sep 24, 2012

    What Now?

    So, now that I have told my story, the questions I ask are: How do I find others that share my experience? How can one build a network of people to take the place of family? And, most importantly for now, how do we, refugees of dysfunctional families, tell others who might ask...
    Sdaedalus Sdaedalus
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 6, 2013

    Estranged From My Entire Family

    This past year I have been into numerous arguements with my family members. First thing is my three year old threw something at my 24 year old brothers face. He is a kid mind you... My brother got upset with this and spanked my kid. So my husbad confronted him about it and the...
    ikeandlasmom ikeandlasmom
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

    Shocked?, Was I...

    Pretty much so.  I received call after call this morning from perspective employers.  After i catch my breath and begin to put on the rest of my suit for one my interview, the phone rings and i answer without looking at the caller ID.  lol.  My sister...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 25, 2009

    I Fear I'm Becoming Estranged From My Father

    About 4 or 5 years ago, my parents split. At first, it didn't bother me i was 16 or so. Sooner or later it got to me :( I'm now 21, heading to University in a few months time. I have been living on my own, up until then I lived with my mother. I saw my father about once every 2...
    slackit slackit
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2011

    If You Are Estranged From Your Family Then Please Visit Stand Alone

    Hey Folks, Stand Alone is the only international charity to support adults that are estranged from their family. We're going now, and running meet-up groups in London on the run up to Christmas. We'd really like to hear from as many estranged people as possible so we can plan...
    beccabland beccabland
    Sep 26, 2013

    Blood Ties Are Thin...

    I am the only surviving child of my mother. My two sisters died at birth in 1981 and 1987 respectively. Their father adopted me when I was three, so I call him "Dad".Mum and Dad moved to a semi-rural town two states away in 2001 and I can't afford to see them often.My birth...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid
    Jan 1, 2013

    Happy Birthday Grandma

    So, i call up GrandMa today.  Tried calling her yesterday, but something was wrong with her phone line - she needed a new phone. Why is GrandMa mad with me...?...  Now, i am the favourite grand-baby and all.  That's a known fact. lol.  She calls me her...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 18, 2009

    Christmas And My Dysfunctional Family

    After each holiday (and funerals as well) being ruined with endless conflict between my family members, I have chosen to walk away from my completely dysfunctional family of origin. Why is it that no matter how old I get. I feel somehow responsible for my dysfunctional family...
    amithecrazyone amithecrazyone
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Dec 25, 2012

    Just An Introduction

    Hello all, I am estranged from my family (by choice) and have been for a few years now. I am not going to tell my story just yet as I just found this site. I wanted to introduce myself, however. I was looking for information on bereavement and estrangement and came across this...
    RedMaryJane82 RedMaryJane82
    2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

    I am estranged from my entire family.

    I grew up in an abusive home and watched my older siblings move away and sever ties when they went to college. When I graduated I always returned home for holidays. I always tried to be there for my mom and my younger brother with autism after my father left. For years she...
    Aly00cat Aly00cat
    26-30, F
    Jun 23, 2014

    Amazing Story Of Reconciliation And Forgiveness

    My mother, Clarice, was shot in the head and killed more than three decades ago. On June 25, 2011 – the 33rd anniversary of her death – I traveled from my home in Aston back to Chicago to visit her gravesite. The visit to her final resting place is one I make every time I...
    Reconnections Reconnections
    Jul 18, 2011

    I consider myself to be an only child

    now . It may sound harsh but why should I like someone just because we're related ?
    certifiable certifiable
    70+, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2014

    Today it is hard. My birthday is coming up

    and I am driving to my hometown to visit an old friend. I am hoping I don't run into my parents ugh. I have been ignoring them since they refuse to protect me from my brother who struck me and collects assault weapons. They are also exceedingly manipulative/ controlling and...
    val72 val72
    31-35, F
    May 18, 2014

    My family is small. It was always just my

    mom's parents, my mom, my aunt and uncle, my siblings, and myself. My grandparents raised my brother and I (my sister didn't enter the picture until a decade later). My mom was always in the house with us but she was never really there... too busy off partying with random dudes...
    niceusername niceusername
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2014

    I don't actually hate my father,

    'step-mom', and siblings. I distance myself from them because I am ashamed of myself. My father has been experiencing health problems and my brothers have reached out to me to at least call him from time to time, but I never have anything to say and it gets awkward. It's been...
    cmj03 cmj03
    51-55, F
    Apr 11, 2016

    Letting Go, At A Deeper Level, In Order To Move On.

    After writing my "story" yesterday afternoon, I had a breakthrough during the night (processing at a deeper level). A paradigm shift. What I realised was that I had "let go" of my sisters and other family of origin members (who were not treating me appropriately - all my life...
    lorraine48 lorraine48
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2011

    The Thought Of It Sickens Me

    Literally.  Bird advised me that she wanted to go to an area in which my sister works directly across the street.  She just kept pushing the issue.  She pushed so hard - that i threw up.  I wasn't sick or anything.  Just the thought of laying eyes upon...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 17, 2009

    20 years old, have had a rough relationship

    with my parents since I was around 12. They are very verbally/emotionally abusive with a splash of physical abuse thrown in from time to time. Since I was young they have used their parental privileges and twisted religious beliefs to manipulate me and make me feel bad about...
    HEY300 HEY300
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 1, 2014

    I grew up with a fairly average family,

    and I was an only child. My parents married young and often fought when I was growing up, half my childhood was spent hearing my mother cry and my dad throwing things and hitting the walls with his fist. They divorced when I was 8 years old, and it was just me and my mom. She...
    kclark5948 kclark5948
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 14, 2015

    I would like to live a life estranged from my

    family. My father was abusive both physically and emotionally. The pain he has caused me throughout my 22 years is at times unbearable to think about. His rejection and neglect, paired with the unswerving adoration and support of my younger sister, still upsets and saddens me...
    Liz3125 Liz3125
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 13, 2014

    Estranged From Family and Friends

    I find myself more estranged as I grow older and as I approach 38 years things seem to be gathering steam. I have a Sister I now do not speak to and a father that I just can't get on with. I think the world of my Mum and despair at the life she has had with my father. He has...
    linwood81 linwood81
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

    Where I Come From.

    I was raised in humboldt county. NOT the hippie liberal side, but the redneck conservative, homeschool side. I had my first boyfriend at 19 and in that community everyone married the first person they dated. I wasn't allowed to date. I had to be courted. I saw him only at school...
    Dollbaby03 Dollbaby03
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 1, 2013
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