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I Am Estranged From My Parents

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    Estranged From Parents

    Six months ago my father was arrested for domestic violence against my mother. There is (of course) a long history behind this ... alcoholism, job loss, major depression. My father left my mother with a cauliflower ear (common among boxers!!!!) Since then I have not only been...
    megs1280 megs1280 26-30 3 Responses Oct 9, 2010

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    That Was The Last Straw.

    As a child, I always trusted my parents, learned from how they behaved, believed that my parents always knew what was best for me so I would always take their advice to heart. Well after 34 years, I am finally letting go... After following (Still under the misguided impression...
    steadyon steadyon 31-35 1 Response Aug 13, 2012

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    Newly Estranged.....

    I'm 28, I have 2 sisters, 24 and 31. We're pretty close and there isn't much I wouldn't do for them. My mother however is a different story...... For as long as I can remember we've clashed. I've never felt like she supported me or she was on my side. It seems wherever possible...
    redgumboots redgumboots 26-30, F Jul 28, 2012

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    I Am Estranged From My Parents

    I am 33 years old and have not talked to my parents for a year and a half. It is a great sadness to me that I have no relationship with them. Growing up, my dad was always yelling, and my mother was always blaming us. The real problems began as an adult. My mother is...
    jsockel jsockel 31-35 5 Responses May 10, 2011

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    A Series Of Crisis And Failures

    Iam estranged from my mother and other close relatives however i remain in limited contact with my siblings. The reason for my estrangement is a life long experience of neglect, abuse and mental torture subjected to me by the omission and conduct of my mothers peranting. My...
    Gotaway Gotaway 26-30 1 Response Apr 2, 2013

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    Thinking Of Estrangement, But Not There Yet...

    My mother and I have always had a relationship that is tenuous at best. I was born exactly one week after her 22nd birthday, her first child, out of wedlock. My biological father left when I was six weeks old. She started dating the dad I grew up with when I was two, and married...
    proudgqdyke proudgqdyke 31-35, F 1 Response May 13, 2013

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    Estranged From Parents

    I am 49 years old. Have been estranged from my parents for about five years. When I try to be honest with them about the hurt I still carry with me to this day (severe abuse and trauma as a child), all I get is a comment like, "I can't cure the world's ills." Now they have a...
    anniebryce anniebryce 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2010

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    We're All Ok With It.

    My problem with being estranged from my parents is; I feel guilty about it. Not about being estranged. I feel guilty because I’m OK with it. I don’t miss them at all. And they are OK with it too. I keep in touch occasionally with my sister. But that’s it. Whenever I made...
    Pabsan Pabsan 51-55, M 2 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    Estranged From Parents For Almost A Decade Now

    It's so hard to be estranged from your parents no matter what the circumstances are. Whether its your fault, their fault or both, the hurt is still the same for both parties in my opinion.At 16, I ran away from home because I was tired of the abuse from my Dad. Little did I know...
    cleecaldwell cleecaldwell 26-30 2 Responses May 4, 2012

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    What Do I Do ?

    Mum is a recovering alcoholic and suffers from manic depression and so she is concentrating on her own health and does not want part in my life, my dad emigrated to Australia with his wife and my step brothers and sisters just over 5 years ago (I was 15, nearly 21 now) despite...
    cheeriobates cheeriobates 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 21, 2013

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    A Meeting For Estranged People In London

    Hello, I’m writing to remind you of Stand Alone’s first meeting on Sunday 7th July in London, and to confirm the venue details and times. Our first meeting will be held at The Blacksmith and The Toffeemaker near Angel, Islington between 1pm and 4pm. It’s a beautiful venue...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 Jun 25, 2013

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    Alone?

    I never fit in. I knew that from as far back as I can remember. I am adopted, more in the sence of it, but also the truth. My biological mother had no part of my life till I was 8. I was raised by family friends. After wedding an American service man she came back to gather me...
    jewelsbug jewelsbug 70+, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2013

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    The Final Choice (revised)

    Finally I made the choice to stop talking to my father. No, that's not right. Finally I made the choice to not care when talking to my father. I've removed myself from him, when I talk to him (which is with such infrequency it's laughable) I remove myself. I've just gotten to a...
    ihieoma19 ihieoma19 18-21 3 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    An Article You May Like...

      My name is Becca Bland and I am estranged from my parents, and all but one member of my family (my mother's cousin). Some time ago I thought that it were best if we discussed estrangement more in society - I felt like I had done something wrong because of how my family...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 3 Responses Jan 9, 2013

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    2 Sided Estrangement

    I LOVED my mother in law in my early married life and she was good to me. Then I had kids. My first child died, second child was born with a lot of health problems but was a beautiful, bright child and eventually was OK. When we told my MIL we were expecting another child, was...
    marji marji 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    Healing

    I'm the oldest of 6 children which came with its own responsibilities but not as many as being my mothers escape goat. Growing up I was the no good child that just got in the way. My mother was a alcoholic and fancied many men. These two things kept my mother going on a daily...
    Newserenity80 Newserenity80 31-35, F Jun 13, 2013

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    Over It.

    I've been estranged from my parents for over a year.  previously, I've had several 'breaks' from my Mum, when I intermittantly  activated a protection order as needed. I had a long history of childhood violence- I was the one who was beaten.  My Mother always...
    moonwoman moonwoman 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2010

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    An Article About Estrangement And Reconciliation

    Hi, My name is Becca and I'm a journalist and writer. I recently wrote this article for The Guardian in the UK. http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/dec/15/becca-bland-estranged-parents I am writing a second article about reconciliation. I'd be really interested in...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 2 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    My Difficult And Complicated Family Relationships Are Partly What Brought Me Here

    I was wanting to connect to others in a way that seemed safe, and also where I could find kindred souls, because being estranged from family can put a hole in your heart. At this point I guess i am only ready to say that.
    ultimatereality ultimatereality 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 12, 2012

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    Beyond The Point Of Repair

    I posted earlier on here -- maybe a year ago -- about my estrangement from my parents. We briefly re-connected, met for a few meals, did some emails and even some phone calls, but things are not the same. They will never be the same -- and the truth is I don't want them to go...
    heather147 heather147 31-35 5 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    Stand Alone, An Organisation To Support Estranged Adults, Is Here...

    Hey Folks, Stand Alone is the only international charity to support adults that are estranged from their family. We're going now, and running meet-up groups in London on the run up to Christmas. We'd really like to hear from as many estranged people as possible so we can plan...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    My parents were a bad couple.

    They didn't give us stability. We don't really speak. It hurts to see others' parents do caring things with and for their kids but it also makes me happy. It's bittersweet.
    needlessthings needlessthings 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    My third part of my story.

    Well its been nearly 2.5 years since my "fall out" with my parents and Ive learnt a lot. The one thing Im struggling with is "moving on". So my parents refuse to acknowledge anything bad in my childhood, they are both narcissists and I have had to make numerous changes to...
    violetcherry violetcherry 31-35, F Mar 31

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    It's Just Best To Cut All Ties.....

    All my life, i never felt as though my parents really loved me. They abandoned me when i was just a little under a year old. i was raised by my grandmother until about the age of 7. Then abruptly i was taken from my grandmother and forced to live with my parents again. the...
    atnguy2 atnguy2 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 15, 2011

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    A Poem To Express Myself

    Lately I've really gotten back into poetry. It's helped me a lot with expressing myself, and finding the words I need to communicate. This is a poem I wrote almost 2 seconds after i got done speaking with my dad. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks or so, and I've really been avoiding...
    ihieoma19 ihieoma19 18-21 Apr 3, 2013

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    I have been estranged from my parents

    and sister for almost 15 years. The holidays are very hard. On top of loneliness, I have overwhelming feelings of shame and embarrassment (especially with co-workers, potential friends and prospective partners) surrounding this issue. How do you explain your estrangement to...
    Omchandrayanamaha Omchandrayanamaha 31-35, M 5 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Black Duck Of My Family

    Growing up I was always compared to my older siblings! Before I could careless, but i constantly got it from everyone and everywhere. Just tired of it, Like REALLY ? I'm my own person, I have my own personality, and were all different but thats one thing my MOM cant understand...
    ColdShiver ColdShiver 18-21, F May 18, 2013

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    Dead To Them

    As my other stories explain it began when I was 2&became permanent ten yrs later. "You are my eldest son now!" My grandmother pointed a painted red fingernail at my then 12 year old brother. "Say nothing else about that ungrateful blond b@stard I was cursed to birth." She had...
    IndigotheWanderer IndigotheWanderer 22-25, F Nov 27, 2013

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    No Connection

    I've been more or less estranged from my parents for 4 years.  While I have had issues with them in the past, that is not the reason why I'm estranged from them.  I don't talk to my parents because I don't feel a strong connection to them.  I literally have no common bonds or...
    legaryd legaryd 26-30 1 Response Apr 24, 2012

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    Haven't spoken with my parents in 6 years.

    I have three other siblings and they only speak to my one sister. They have three children and 6 grandchildren, 4 whom they haven't met, and they see none of us. It is a mutual lack of desire, but I'm just shocked how much they don't care...it seems unnatural.
    Bullbuddy Bullbuddy 31-35, M 1 day ago

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    Estranged From Parents

    I haven't spoken to my parents since January.
    lilypad123 lilypad123 31-35 1 Response Jul 11, 2008

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    My Estrangement

    I cut off ties with my parents 18 months ago.  My father is an egocentric cult of personality who has had multiple family squabbles.  He totally disrespects my mother's family.  He hates his two sisters in law (brothers' wives).  And for the finale, he hates...
    HeartGod HeartGod 41-45 2 Responses Apr 18, 2009

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    What Can I Do?

    Of course, I too have had issues with my parents but when I think about it I realize that they have pretty much always left me alone from the age of 17 on. I did things that they didn't really like back then but as time went on and I am now 40, I look back and see only a handful...
    Nixie72 Nixie72 41-45, F 1 Response May 17, 2013

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    An Organisation For Estranged People

    Hey Folks, My name is Becca Bland and I've been writing about estrangement in the national media here in the UK for the last six months. I've been posting some articles here for you guys to read. I am estranged, and I've been using my experiences to shed light on the stigma that...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 May 12, 2013

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    I have been no contact with my birth family

    for 8 years. It was, and continues to be, a gradual process of letting go. I have felt relief from the beginning but what I have been working on letting go of is the unfounded guilt. It is the guilt that binds me to them because there really has been nothing else. My parents...
    sfsquirrel sfsquirrel 46-50 1 Response Dec 23, 2013

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    Estranged for 12 years now

    I have been estranged from my mother for nearly 12 years. I am 58 years old with a wonderful life. Great marriage, grown kids, great career. But this still makes me sad. My mother initiated the estrangement after my grandmothers death. I said a few things about my grandmothers...
    Dmcdrama Dmcdrama 51-55 3 Responses May 27, 2012

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    Confused And Beyond Hurt! Dying father, now what?

    I am a 42 year woman who has spent a lifetime in an abusive family unit. I grew up witnessing wicked fights between my parents and often was their referee and marriage councellor. From a young age I knew how sick our family was and spent my whole life fighting the insanity i knew...
    BlackSheepforever BlackSheepforever 41-45, F 6 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    Never There

    Tried to write the full story, but realized that would have to be a book instead. Anyways, the short story: We were never a close family. Didn't go on vacations together, and didn't really like each other's company. We never talked about feelings and weren't supposed to show any...
    SimplyGinger SimplyGinger 18-21, F May 24, 2013

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    Estranged/abandoned

    I don't know what I am looking for in this. I am nearing twenty-five and my parents and I have not spoken in almost two years. Our experience was pretty terrible growing up. On a day to day basis, I was at best ignored or treated with apathy or at worst physically abused. I had...
    neuronerd neuronerd 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    On My 21st

    took a lovely asian girl home to meet my parents and they freaked out i am not raciest at all and never knew they were not spoken to them since i am 56 now and I was never told my mother had died
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T Oct 30, 2012

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    My Story...

    I've currently been estranged from my parents for coming up on a year in may.  It's been a gradual process since I moved out 10 years ago at 17. My mom is bipolar and my dad spends his life cleaning up after her. I grew up with an adopted sister that was institutionalized...
    ragdoll83 ragdoll83 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 23, 2010

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    Boyfriend

    My 22 year old daughter left at age 18 with her boyfriend. Have not seen her in 4 years. Miss her terribly. Can anyone help
    Bizinski Bizinski 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    Smartest, Most Healing, And Wisest Decision I've Ever Made

    Cutting off all contact with my dysfunctional parents was the best thing I could have done for myself. Since taking that step (nearly fifteen years ago as of this writing), I have experienced profound healing and growth. I had to go through stages of mourning, and it took me a...
    Existentiality Existentiality 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I Have Been Estranged From My Parents For 5 Years Now.

    My mother is a narcissist and I am the scapegoat. I have tried to have a relationship with my parents and brother but, we keep ending up down the same road. As a result, I have abused alcohol and drugs and I have also attempted suicide a few times. The last 5 years have been...
    bgtripod bgtripod 41-45 5 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I have decided to cut my parents out of my life.

    My brother was physically abusive to me when we were both staying with my parents after college. They permitted him to continue living with me so I had to move out. Fast forward 4 years later and I have made plans to stay with them over Easter. They then tell me my brother is...
    val72 val72 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Not Repeating Mistakes

    First married in 1993, problems started almost immediately. My mother wanted the wedding at her church. Then daughter was born in 1995, my mother proclaimed herself worlds greatest grandmother. However, she never offered to babysit unless there was some event that would get...
    SamHouston99 SamHouston99 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 16, 2012

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    My Mother Abused Me

    I have been estranged from my parents on and off again since I was 14 years old.  I have not spoken with them in over 3 years.  Most days I do not even think about them.  Some days they pop in my head and I am quickly reminded of how better my life is without them...
    Serendipity78 Serendipity78 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    How To Deal With Evil Manipulative Sister?

    My sister has methodically manipulated my parents and siblings into hating me. She is ver insecure and greedy..so those are her motives. I usually deal with it pretty well, because I don't miss the drama..but around Christmas when everyone is talking about love and families..it's...
    Notcrazy Notcrazy 41-45 Dec 13, 2010

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    At a Loss

    Around Christmas it all fell apart...again.  I am now 33 years old and have decided to completely cut my parents out of my life.  The stress of trying to live the life they want me to live and living my own life had finally come to head.  I am tired of hurting as a...
    JROBER7 JROBER7 31-35 4 Responses Mar 17, 2009

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    It Gets Better - A Lot Better

    Hello. I just came across this website today, and felt compelled to share my story. I am the first born of three children. My father died in a car accident when I was seven months old, from his own decision of drinking & driving. My mother had remarried a year and a half later...
    dley0000 dley0000 31-35 8 Responses Sep 24, 2011

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    Only Me To Blame

    I guess my story is like everyone else's full of disapointment, when the sacred bond of trust have been broken by those who we once loved. I have been stranged by both from both parents going on 2 years now. However, I have already made peace with the fact that they will both die...
    merck merck 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 15, 2013

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    I Guess I'm Estranged From My Family

    Lately this has been in my mind that I'm "estranged" - I try to trace back to how this happened - and if I'm doing something wrong by not reaching out to my family - I know they must blame me for this - that something is wrong with me. Its that last thought that always gives me...
    heather147 heather147 31-35 8 Responses Jun 1, 2012

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    Olive Branch?

    I am often in a sensitive state and am a highly sensitive person who takes things to heart, I would like to just chat with empathetic people, who are going through or have been through similar things to me. As a summary of why I'm here....well, I believe my mother is a...
    LooneyModuley LooneyModuley 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Me and Them

    I have gone through every range of emotions over m family. My parents are both my heroes (although they would never believe it if i told them) but also my foes. I have struggled to reconcile each time this has occured. But now Im tired of it.....even if i wanted to try to...
    Liame Liame 26-30 1 Response May 28, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Have always been estranged from them, but for the last few years, I don't even share the same space as them, and once one starts that practice, its almost a "point of no return...
    0nest0 0nest0 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I am estranged from my most of my family even the two children I gave birth to. It has been a agonizing experience and the holidays were bad until I got my dog. People are suppose...
    clarity888 clarity888 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    I grew up the youngest in a family of all boys. My family was very religious but secretly abusive. My parents divorced at 12 and I was given to my mother due to me being abused by...