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I Am Friendly But Shy

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    A lot of people mistake me

    for being rude or smug when I don't talk or look at them, but it's simply because I am painfully shy. I am friendly, but I can't make myself act outgoing. I only become more nervous than I already am.
    BelleofApril BelleofApril 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    So my school has a semi-formal dance tomorrow

    night and I asked this girl I like to go with me and she said yes, but she would meet me there because she and her friends had already planned on going together. We only really make small talk and I want to have better conversations but I don't know what to talk about. So any...
    MedivalJolk MedivalJolk 13-15, M Mar 7

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    i love getting to go out

    and meet new people, the only problem is that i am absolutely terrified to just walk up to people and try talking to them. especially when I'm in a school environment. its embarrassing because I'm always the shy lonely person who never has any friends
    aleeta47 aleeta47 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I AM SHY! This my 2nd

    and secret account. I tend to use my other account often but you can chat me over here =)
    girlsdeadmonster girlsdeadmonster 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I Hate Being Shy.

    This group sums me up perfectly. Friendly but shy. I'm a nice guy, I get along with people. It's just making that first encounter that I have a problem with. I'm far too shy. It's funny, because online I am anything but shy. You can't get me to shut up. But there is something...
    CreedenceGold CreedenceGold 18-21, M 1 Response May 13, 2012

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    I like to talk to guys my age

    or a few years older. Anyone want to talk? c:
    neervahnuh neervahnuh 13-15, F Feb 8

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    That's Me

    That's me People say I am friendly but to shy.
    CMA1234 CMA1234 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2011

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    i am very shy. i hardly speak with strangers,

    especially girls. im like raj from big bang theory. i dont know why. im like this from begining. i wish i could change myself. any suggestions?
    ritzp08 ritzp08 18-21, M Feb 8

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    Hello Everyone

    I'm 20 and i really don't have friends or a lot of people to talk to. Especially people my own age. Anybody feel free to message me and try to talk to my even if i'm being shy, please
    Arcentine Arcentine 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 14, 2013

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    It's hard to make friends I mean new friends

    because of my shyness but when you get to know me I'm friendly or honestly really weird
    Porangiataahua Porangiataahua 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    I am a shy guy and don't know how to associate

    with people...my friends say i don't look like a shy loner kinda guy.. for example: How other guys propose to a girl my love for you is like a ring which has no beginning no end how i propose my love for you is like diarrhea.I cant hold it in somebody help...!!
    AlanPalmer AlanPalmer 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    A Contradiction?

    When I first became a member of EP, I browsed various groups and joined a few, but I didn't do any intense looking until I was here awhile.  When I saw the group, "I am Friendly But Shy", I knew this group fit me to a tee.  Yet, how can a person be friendly, but shy at the...
    Endomorph Endomorph 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Like I'm really nice

    or that's what a lot of people tell me most of the time, but anyways it takes me a little while to get over my shyness. Once it's over I become really friendly but not too friendly. I'm terrified to even approach someone, even a guy at that. I really don't want to be shy anymore...
    infinitedreamer90210 infinitedreamer90210 16-17, F Jan 11

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    I'm shy and quiet(everyone says it) around

    people I don't know but when I get to know them and I feel comfortable and they accept me I became laud and free to do crazy things 😃
    gummybearhuh gummybearhuh 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I have always had a hard time making friends

    because I am shy. I am getting over it now, but only because I realize that while being shy is a self-protection mechanism, it also lets you miss great opportunities. One time a couple of months ago, a girl in school whom I had never met before, just came up to me and said, "Do...
    LMAO3 LMAO3 18-21, M Feb 12

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    I hate then when I do something I regret; I'll

    think about it all day. Like today, I didn't join some friends and opted to stand alone. WHY did I do that?! It doesn't make sense and they probably think I'm ****** weird. A lot of people might think so. I try to be friendly but sometimes I just can't work up the nerve to talk...
    p3ppermint p3ppermint 18-21, F Mar 20

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    Sometimes being shy or quiet does not always

    reflect the circumstances of the moment. Sometimes it is better to stay silent if there is nothing good to say. Other times, my interests are not the same as those around or I have no interest in the topics being discussed. Times may require restraint, to contemplate a proper...
    ronniepaulmichigan ronniepaulmichigan 51-55, M Jan 26

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    So apparently my personality is infp,

    does anyone else have this personality type? Just curious because i dont know anyone else who is.
    izaakt izaakt 22-25, M Feb 7

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    I Am Shy,not Aloof.

    People that go by first impressions make the decision that I am aloof,or stand offish,I am neither,I am Shy,I love to make Friends,but i have trouble because of my shyness.Once I have met someone a few times,I can come out of my shell to an extent,and get on quite well with them...
    ozzysteve ozzysteve 66-70, M 5 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    I enjoy talking to people,

    but I feel shy to ask or start a conversation with strangers. People say that its comfortable to talk online... but I feel more shy because I rely on being face-to-face instead. I'm shy to ask friends for something through text, Facebook, or any other way without being face-to...
    fun279 fun279 18-21, M Jan 17

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    About Me

    I'm new to this kind of thing ,messaging people i don't know and talking about myself is all new to me,had a bad time recently and need escapism which is why i'm here ,love a bit of a laugh so the Q & A thing gives me a giggle ...but i am very shy and find it hard to make friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    Woah! It Matches My Username!

    Not gonna lie, my mine has been blown a bit. A group with my username as a title. I didn't even plan this, I swear! Oh snap, how'd that get there? It certainly wasn't me trying to be funny and... stuff... and failing miserably. *insert wary glance here* Well, like the title of...
    friendlybuthorriblyshy friendlybuthorriblyshy 18-21, F Dec 27, 2012

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    Its Really An Awkward Combination

    It's horribly confusing, I'm friendly towards strangers, outgoing and not afraid to express my self to anyone but at the same time I'm really shy and awkward. Huh.
    kralyn13 kralyn13 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    I've never had a girlfriend

    and I'm 17, I've never kissed a girl and all I want is a girl just to look at me and see me as more than a friend. All my best friends are girls but none of them see me as anything more.
    Me17gjh Me17gjh 22-25, M Feb 18

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    I am not really one for writing

    but that may change on here. I am a friendly person and am easy to get along with but I do tend to be a little shy at first until I get to know someone.
    DecemberAngel DecemberAngel 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    I'm too old to be this shy .

    .but I love meeting people and talking to anyone , :)
    LolitaxLana LolitaxLana 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Trying To Break Out

    Sometimes I am too shy to start the conversation, but I am always open to talk. I have been working on not being so shy anymore, but it takes time to break out of a shell I have been in my entire life.Sometimes I can start the conversation, it depends on the situation. I may over...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Well not really shy. Not in real life.

    But I always see people on twitter and stuff who are sad, and I just want to say "hey, it's gonna be ok, I'm here to help if you want" but I always stop myself out of fear/shyness. And it's so annoying :( I want to change so I can help people. But idk how /:
    BulletproofLoneliness BulletproofLoneliness 16-17, F 5 Responses Jan 18

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    I love making new friends.

    The problem is that I feel like I annoy people. I never want to be a nuisance but I always feel like I am. This is mainly why I stay in my room most of the time and sit by myself when I eat. It's weird because I'm really friendly, but only if someone approaches me first. When I...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M Feb 17

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    Extremely Shy

    The shyness is a real problem in my everyday life. EP is helping somewhat. I worry that I may come across as being a snob.
    veralynn veralynn 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    good night everyone !

    ! (2:16 in the morning in aouth africa)
    sixpackman sixpackman 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 10

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    Some people might find me rude

    because I do not talk much, but I am not, I am just really shy. I used to not be, the older I got, the worse it got. I feel it has a lot to do with me getting bullied over my weight. All people need to do is get to know me and then when I get comfortable enough with them, I...
    MrsGrisham MrsGrisham 22-25, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am very friendly but I am all

    so the meanest person I know. If u take the **** I'm mean 😡😡 if ur nice to me I'm the kindest person ever!!! 😄
    TwinkleStar123 TwinkleStar123 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    it depends...if i am sexually attracted too you

    yes i can be shy....not for long though. lol
    totsy50 totsy50 46-50, F Jan 19

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    I'm not friendly at all

    but I can b nice when I want to but I'm also one of the meanest pepole I know
    RavenHearts RavenHearts 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    My Ex Disliked Me

    When I first met my ex, we were in the ninth grade. He told me he couldn't stand me because he thought I was stuck up. He didn't understand how I could talk to my group of friends so easily and when I got around he I didn't. It wasn't until he got to know that he realized I was...
    Unfocused Unfocused 26-30, F 4 Responses May 29, 2012

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    I am so shy but I would love to make new

    friends on here:) I want someone nice who can make me feel special and like me the same as I like them:)
    Carrrie Carrrie 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I love being friendly to people

    but I'm also shy at the same time I never fully express my self out to people like I used to
    officalredneck09 officalredneck09 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    I am new to EP and have joined to make friends

    here. I hope to have a pleasant experience here in this project. I would be happy if you would add me and make me feel at home.
    c1ueless c1ueless 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Not Stuck Up, Just Shy

    I can be quite fun and talkative to be around once you get to know me and im rather confortable to be with you, but its really hard in the begining, I have no idea what to say im rather bad at making up convo's with people, in general most of the time, that are interesting at...
    EbonyAndIvoryy EbonyAndIvoryy 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    People Are Scary!

    Yeah, I'm a little bi-polar that way.  It takes me a while to get to know people, but once I'm comfortable around them I let my true self come out.  And I do find that most people, if you bother to get to talk to them, are actually very nice, "normal" people...
    PlantyMcGee PlantyMcGee 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    I'm scared to talk to people

    that are older than 15 I don't know why. I am fine around my parents teachers and parents friends but I'm scared of strangers older than 15
    thatsweetgirl85246 thatsweetgirl85246 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I'm am shy but I look like a rough person

    and I am , I think that's why I don't make friends easy but the friends I have , I go out of my way for them. I am very friendly once you get to know me but it sometime feels like people are just to busy to take the time to get to know people.
    Ben9279 Ben9279 31-35, M Jan 29

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    Shy Or Mental

    i HATE been shy it's so painful at times. I'm probaly one of the most friendly people you'll ever meet when i'm not shy, when i've got a bit of confidence going for me i feel like i can talk to anyone. I hate my personality when i'm not confident it just feels like it's not me...
    jamzam jamzam 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    I'm sorry to anyone I've annoyed

    or angered. To anyone I have then I'm sorry...all I'm trying to do is be nice, not be weird or "pathetic" or "creepy" or anything. I just wish people were nicer to each other... I'm shy at times when meeting people. Friends who've known me for longer know how funny and kind and...
    Shocksquatch9989 Shocksquatch9989 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 14

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    How can i talk to/approach men without being

    nervous?? I know it sounds immature but I become a shy mess around men im attracted to..😳 Im extremely extroverted and confident but if i see a cute/hot guy even just look at me i get weak in the knees and red in the face. Im confident in myself but never know how to flirt w...
    jilliebeen jilliebeen 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    im pretty shy initially.

    .but once you get to know me im very friendly and open.
    Lenny195 Lenny195 18-21, M Feb 5

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    People, please talk to me!

    I'm open to anybody, but I'm just to shy to start the talk. Please, be the one to start the conversation, you won't regret getting to know me.
    Gorstone36 Gorstone36 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 25

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    The Shy Me

    In my childhood and teen years, I was the most shy girl. Because of my shyness, I lack self-confidence, I couldn't stand still in a stage, and teary. I always covered my mouth with the handkerchief everytime my classmates talked to me, and a stranger or even my...
    frustratedlady frustratedlady 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    I don't like to talk to strangers, especially girls and women. I feel like they are constantly judging me and will talk behind my back, so I never speak in public places. I have...
    ThatelfR ThatelfR 16-17, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    There are these guys at school (hight school) who have been watching me and my friend for almost 4-5 months and I like one of them and he also likes me, we walk by and they get...
    pamela19 pamela19 16-17, F Apr 4

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    Just a nice guy here hoping to find some nice people to chat and have fun with. I'm a geek and a gamer, don't be shy I will not bite. Come on in and say hello.
    glear glear 51-55, M 1 day ago

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    Ok... That's somewhat true. I'm honest but not very friendly when I'm being honest. I'm friendly with people in public and such... very friendly. I can be pretty mean ... even if...
    Forget2Trust Forget2Trust 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 10

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    Hello I'm here to tell something more about me to be honest, I do not even know where to start, was still very young when I started to be shy, do not know why I have no reason to...
    ferrer95 ferrer95 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    I am a very honest and friendly woman. I was raised that way by my parents. It has paid off for me in great dividends. I do not have to remember what I said yesterday and I have...
    birthdaypartyforme birthdaypartyforme 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    im actually quite shy i dont talk to people with whom i meet for the first time,it might be a girl or a guy if they start a conversation then i dont have a problem and once we...
    Roadguy Roadguy 26-30, M Mar 22

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