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I Am Friendly But Shy

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    I have always had a hard time making friends

    because I am shy. I am getting over it now, but only because I realize that while being shy is a self-protection mechanism, it also lets you miss great opportunities. One time a couple of months ago, a girl in school whom I had never met before, just came up to me and said, "Do...
    LMAO3 LMAO3 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    Its Really An Awkward Combination

    It's horribly confusing, I'm friendly towards strangers, outgoing and not afraid to express my self to anyone but at the same time I'm really shy and awkward. Huh.
    kralyn13 kralyn13 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    So apparently my personality is infp,

    does anyone else have this personality type? Just curious because i dont know anyone else who is.
    izaakt izaakt 22-25, M Feb 7

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    I hate then when I do something I regret; I'll

    think about it all day. Like today, I didn't join some friends and opted to stand alone. WHY did I do that?! It doesn't make sense and they probably think I'm ****** weird. A lot of people might think so. I try to be friendly but sometimes I just can't work up the nerve to talk...
    p3ppermint p3ppermint 18-21, F Mar 20

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    I am shy at first but

    if you know me I am so friendly
    RedAndBlack21 RedAndBlack21 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    i love getting to go out

    and meet new people, the only problem is that i am absolutely terrified to just walk up to people and try talking to them. especially when I'm in a school environment. its embarrassing because I'm always the shy lonely person who never has any friends
    aleeta47 aleeta47 16-17, F Feb 9

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    Used to be so shy, I hid behind long hair

    covering my face, and kept my eyes down when talking to people. In grade school, I once said one comment to someone in line with me. Another kid said, "She talked!" It was so embarrassing feeling all those eyes fixated on me, that I decided not talking was safer than talking...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 6

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    I love making new friends.

    The problem is that I feel like I annoy people. I never want to be a nuisance but I always feel like I am. This is mainly why I stay in my room most of the time and sit by myself when I eat. It's weird because I'm really friendly, but only if someone approaches me first. When I...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M Feb 17

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    I'm am shy but I look like a rough person

    and I am , I think that's why I don't make friends easy but the friends I have , I go out of my way for them. I am very friendly once you get to know me but it sometime feels like people are just to busy to take the time to get to know people.
    Ben9279 Ben9279 31-35, M Jan 29

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    I like to talk to guys my age

    or a few years older. Anyone want to talk? c:
    neervahnuh neervahnuh 13-15, F Feb 8

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    Some people might find me rude

    because I do not talk much, but I am not, I am just really shy. I used to not be, the older I got, the worse it got. I feel it has a lot to do with me getting bullied over my weight. All people need to do is get to know me and then when I get comfortable enough with them, I...
    MrsGrisham MrsGrisham 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 18

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    I love meeting new people

    but I get very nervous and embarrassed and give off silly impressions, I don't have a lot of self confidence and this really upsets me because I get anxiety over the thought of having to meet people face to face :/
    nainaii nainaii 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I Really Am!

    Some things never change they say, but I am working on it, really! I am friendly with almost (see that word!) everyone, but most of the time to shy to speak up and say the right thing when I should. Then I realize I should have but didn't. But I will keep trying and remember...
    carriewpd carriewpd 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 23, 2010

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    Ive always been quiet

    and shy.but i enjoy meeting new people,and im a cool person :)
    earththinker earththinker 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    A Contradiction?

    When I first became a member of EP, I browsed various groups and joined a few, but I didn't do any intense looking until I was here awhile.ย  When I saw the group, "I am Friendly But Shy", I knew this groupย fit me to a tee.ย  Yet, how can a person be friendly, but shy at the...
    Endomorph Endomorph 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Sometimes being shy or quiet does not always

    reflect the circumstances of the moment. Sometimes it is better to stay silent if there is nothing good to say. Other times, my interests are not the same as those around or I have no interest in the topics being discussed. Times may require restraint, to contemplate a proper...
    ronniepaulmichigan ronniepaulmichigan 51-55, M Jan 26

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    I'm shy and quiet(everyone says it) around

    people I don't know but when I get to know them and I feel comfortable and they accept me I became laud and free to do crazy things ๐Ÿ˜ƒ
    gummybearhuh gummybearhuh 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    Shy Or Mental

    i HATE been shy it's so painful at times. I'm probaly one of the most friendly people you'll ever meet when i'm not shy, when i've got a bit of confidence going for me i feel like i can talk to anyone. I hate my personality when i'm not confident it just feels like it's not me...
    jamzam jamzam 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    The Shy Me

    In my childhood and teen years, I was the most shy girl. Because of my shyness, I lack self-confidence, I couldn't stand still in a stage, and teary. I always covered my mouth with the handkerchief everytime my classmates talked to me, and a stranger or even my...
    frustratedlady frustratedlady 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 6, 2008

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    I've never had a girlfriend

    and I'm 17, I've never kissed a girl and all I want is a girl just to look at me and see me as more than a friend. All my best friends are girls but none of them see me as anything more.
    Me17gjh Me17gjh 22-25, M Feb 18

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    I'm a very nice person

    but also very shy I have to warm up to you
    buttcrackman buttcrackman 18-21, M Jan 28

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    It's really hard to make friends

    for me, but when I get to know someone I get crazy ๐Ÿ˜‚ Even my few friends tell me how I'm really shy, and serious sometimes, but when we're alone I'm completely another person. Lol
    heHsi heHsi 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    A lot of people mistake me

    for being rude or smug when I don't talk or look at them, but it's simply because I am painfully shy. I am friendly, but I can't make myself act outgoing. I only become more nervous than I already am.
    BelleofApril BelleofApril 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    I'm really shy, ESPECIALLY in places I've never

    been before School is ending and I was so shy when I first came, I came in the middle of the year, and I only made two friends
    ISeriouslyDontKnow ISeriouslyDontKnow 13-15, F 1 Response May 29

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    Well not really shy. Not in real life.

    But I always see people on twitter and stuff who are sad, and I just want to say "hey, it's gonna be ok, I'm here to help if you want" but I always stop myself out of fear/shyness. And it's so annoying :( I want to change so I can help people. But idk how /:
    BulletproofLoneliness BulletproofLoneliness 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 18

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    I am a shy guy and don't know how to associate

    with people...my friends say i don't look like a shy loner kinda guy.. for example: How other guys propose to a girl my love for you is like a ring which has no beginning no end how i propose my love for you is like diarrhea.I cant hold it in somebody help...!!
    AlanPalmer AlanPalmer 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 2

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    Not Stuck Up, Just Shy

    I can be quite fun and talkative to be around once you get to know me and im rather confortable to be with you, but its really hard in the begining, I have no idea what to say im rather bad at making up convo's with people, in general most of the time, that are interesting at...
    EbonyAndIvoryy EbonyAndIvoryy 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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    i am very shy. i hardly speak with strangers,

    especially girls. im like raj from big bang theory. i dont know why. im like this from begining. i wish i could change myself. any suggestions?
    ritzp08 ritzp08 18-21, M Feb 8

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    I AM SHY! This my 2nd

    and secret account. I tend to use my other account often but you can chat me over here =)
    girlsdeadmonster girlsdeadmonster 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    Extremely Shy

    The shyness is a real problem in my everyday life. EP is helping somewhat. I worry that I may come across as being a snob.
    veralynn veralynn 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    I am very friendly but I am all

    so the meanest person I know. If u take the **** I'm mean ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก if ur nice to me I'm the kindest person ever!!! ๐Ÿ˜„
    TwinkleStar123 TwinkleStar123 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I am so shy but I would love to make new

    friends on here:) I want someone nice who can make me feel special and like me the same as I like them:)
    Carrrie Carrrie 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Most people don't understand how that's

    possible. There is an infinite number of ways, but I'll share one of the many ways I'm like this. I was happy to stumble upon this website back in December. I finally found a place where I could connect with like-minded people and make the type of friends I had never had before...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 1 Response May 13

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    I really want to talk

    and make new friends but sometimes I don't know what to do or say Im kinda shy i feel like imma say something wrong
    babygirlk26 babygirlk26 18-21, F 1 Response May 14

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    I'm sorry to anyone I've annoyed

    or angered. To anyone I have then I'm sorry...all I'm trying to do is be nice, not be weird or "pathetic" or "creepy" or anything. I just wish people were nicer to each other... I'm shy at times when meeting people. Friends who've known me for longer know how funny and kind and...
    Shocksquatch9989 Shocksquatch9989 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 14

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    In real life people have to talk to me!

    !! I can't talk to people in real life besides my friends!!! I am super shy on the first day of school and when you have to introduce yourself!!! I die every time I have to do that!!! I turn red!!! But if you talk to me I am friendly!!!
    FighterWolf FighterWolf 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    im pretty shy initially.

    .but once you get to know me im very friendly and open.
    Lenny195 Lenny195 18-21, M Feb 5

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    About Me

    I'm new to this kind of thing ,messaging people i don't know and talking about myself is all new to me,had a bad time recently and need escapism which is why i'm here ,love a bit of a laugh so the Q & A thing gives me a giggle ...but i am very shy and find it hard to make friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 21, 2011

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    How can i talk to/approach men without being

    nervous?? I know it sounds immature but I become a shy mess around men im attracted to..๐Ÿ˜ณ Im extremely extroverted and confident but if i see a cute/hot guy even just look at me i get weak in the knees and red in the face. Im confident in myself but never know how to flirt w...
    jilliebeen jilliebeen 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    People Are Scary!

    Yeah, I'm a little bi-polar that way.  It takes me a while to get to know people, but once I'm comfortable around them I let my true self come out.  And I do find that most people, if you bother to get to talk to them, are actually very nice, "normal" people...
    PlantyMcGee PlantyMcGee 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    I Hate Being Shy.

    This group sums me up perfectly. Friendly but shy. I'm a nice guy, I get along with people. It's just making that first encounter that I have a problem with. I'm far too shy. It's funny, because online I am anything but shy. You can't get me to shut up. But there is something...
    CreedenceGold CreedenceGold 18-21, M 1 Response May 13, 2012

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    Is it sad that I like going to work just

    so ill have people to interact with? Sometimes being shy sucks lol
    justalittlegirl21 justalittlegirl21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I am not really one for writing

    but that may change on here. I am a friendly person and am easy to get along with but I do tend to be a little shy at first until I get to know someone.
    DecemberAngel DecemberAngel 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    I'm like a little puppy.

    . I follow behind people when in a group and I don't talk unless I'm very interested in something it someone is talking to me... Yep..
    Alisenpai Alisenpai 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 6

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    So my school has a semi-formal dance tomorrow

    night and I asked this girl I like to go with me and she said yes, but she would meet me there because she and her friends had already planned on going together. We only really make small talk and I want to have better conversations but I don't know what to talk about. So any...
    MedivalJolk MedivalJolk 13-15, M Mar 7

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    I'm scared to talk to people

    that are older than 15 I don't know why. I am fine around my parents teachers and parents friends but I'm scared of strangers older than 15
    thatsweetgirl85246 thatsweetgirl85246 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I'm not friendly at all

    but I can b nice when I want to but I'm also one of the meanest pepole I know
    YouAreAllPesants YouAreAllPesants 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    ._______. Wow, so many friendly people on here..and then there's me, who doesn't know what to say u______u Sorry, friends
    Riley218 Riley218 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 11

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