I Am Genderqueer Or Gender-variant

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 168 People

    I love stereotypical feminine things.

    I don't really feel 100% comfortable wearing a frilly dress, but I still love them anyway. I love magical girls and frills and fuzzy animals, yet I don't usually feel like a girl. I feel like my gender changes and fluctuates from time to time. I feel like I'm genderfluid, or...
    magicalenby magicalenby
    18-21, T
    Jan 6, 2015

    genderfluid? no, you misunderstood me.

    i am gender fluid. *melts into a puddle of liquified gender*
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk
    4 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    Am I?

    Am I gender-variant? I'm male. I've never hand any confusion on that point. I've always known I was male. I like watching football, lift weights, think my wife is hot, etc. I don't care much about clothes or shopping, wouldn't dream of wearing makeup, don't care how my hair...
    agfrommd agfrommd
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 22, 2012

    I do not fit in a neat little box.

    I do not behave as society dictates a man or a woman should. I think all qualities are applicable across the gender spectrum and that people should just be okay with being themselves.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid
    1 Response Jul 23, 2014

    The Two Of Me

    I let my other half out last weekend and off we went into areas of my innerverse I knew existed but had never had been too. I actually felt outside of myself as I witnessed an fully intregrated yet separate part or myself run freely. Was it a thrill, a dare to myself, a kinky...
    paddytram paddytram
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Jun 6, 2010

    Finally Figured It Out

    It's kind of funny actually because it really did take a bit to figure it out. I wrote in the transgender group about how I'd always felt male and how that came to be (I'm not taking it down despite these revelations. It is a relevant stepping stone in my development as a person...
    Bumblebetch Bumblebetch
    Sep 7, 2012

    I Am Both

    I am too feminine to be a guy, but I am too manly to be a girl. I am am both guy and girl. Sometimes I find it hard when i am expected to be a man when I would rather do a womanly thing.  
    sisypwimp sisypwimp
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Nov 1, 2009

    Yay Neither!

    The way I see gender is a big blob of STUFF. But for the sake of simplicity, I explain it to people as a circle (or a square/diamond if you feel like it). Male opposite female, then both opposite neither and perpendicular to male and female. I tend to float between male and...
    utuku utuku
    Jan 6, 2010

    Genderqueer! A lot of people don't understand

    this and they think it's a decision. I never really felt like a girl or a boy. Sometimes I identify as both and sometimes not. I need more queer and non binary friends though! :p
    hellomoon hellomoon
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 13, 2014

    Would love to meet a real man

    who will pamper me and make me his princess!
    PrettySissyBoiTG PrettySissyBoiTG
    31-35, T
    Apr 18, 2014


    i was wondering with all the stories and confession on this site, they ask for comments, should we really comment on someone problem when we really dont know them? what if we say something wrong and drive them further into what ever there problem may be. would really like to know...
    deerslayersg deerslayersg
    46-50, M
    8 Responses Dec 23, 2010

    My ex girlfriend still calls me a lesbian woman

    even though I was very clear with her that I'm bisexual and genderqueer. You would think she could maybe understand, given the fact that she's a lesbian trans woman, but no.
    teawithharry teawithharry
    22-25, T
    1 Response Aug 23, 2014

    For me, I've always felt different,

    like I didn't fit or belong. I was my parents first born daughter, and they loved their beautiful baby Bethany. My mom in particular has always wanted the perfect daughter to hangout and do makeup with, do nails, go shopping, dress is feminine type clothing, take to ballet...
    Shawn71090 Shawn71090
    Apr 5, 2014

    I Am Trigender

    I'm a Trigender 18 year old living in England, I've never found any other Trigenders, and they seem very uncommon. When explaining myself it's always the same questions I get back, like "What's the third gender?" "There's only two genders" and other ignorant phrases. I know they...
    Ruko Ruko
    10 Responses Mar 2, 2013

    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi
    2 Responses Sep 30, 2012

    If you haven’t read Every Day by David

    Levithan, I’d highly recommend it. It’s narrated by A, who is seemingly non-binary.
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk
    Aug 29, 2014

    Not exactly genderqueer.

    I actually don't know. That's why I joined this group specifically instead of just ones that say "I am genderqueer" since I don't exactly know what I am.
    LanelJaento LanelJaento
    16-17, T
    Mar 3, 2016

    I Am The Likeness Of Goddess And God.

    I say that I am the likeness of mother and father God, because I have no gender and yet both genders, just like mother and father God.(i'm a witch by the way). Anyway I have always known that I am genderqueer. I was biologicaly born a male, but never fit into the mold of a...
    ravenstill29 ravenstill29
    3 Responses Feb 14, 2010

    I identify as a butchandro person,

    and I'm mostly attracted to guys. I worry that the types of guys I'm into won't look at me the way I look at them due to my gender identity and how I dress, which is usually in a more masculine fashion (I still dress feminine, but not recently). I'd never change myself just for...
    MyImmortalHDizzle MyImmortalHDizzle
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 29, 2014

    Iam Gender Variant

    There should be an opt out button as far as gender is concerned but we get no choice. Unless you're trans & opt for transition where are you? Where am I? On a sliding scale, with 1 being 100% male & 10 being 100% female, where would you be?
    sifu sifu
    7 Responses Nov 1, 2009

    My gender's a bit weird to explain.

    I'm all of them at the same time, but there's one more dominant gender that I feel controls me at the time. So, I'm technically pangender and genderfluid at the same time, because that's not weird! I haven't really felt the urge to tell anyone yet, but I will if people start...
    faeriefate faeriefate
    1 Response Feb 18, 2014

    I'm Really Bad At Being A Girl

    Over the past year I've told people that a lot. I look like a woman (even if I tried I couldn't pass for a man physically), I like dressing as a woman, and I am strictly heterosexual...But since I was young I always knew something was a little different...Ever since I can...
    LucyAndDiamonds LucyAndDiamonds
    1 Response Nov 15, 2012
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