I Am Genderqueer

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 329 People

    Being 'normal'

    Hi I'm new to this site and I just really feel like I need/want to share my story as a genderqueer and really just need/want to talk to people who are going through the same thing as I am. On the surface I seem pretty normal to others and am accepted by my family which kind of...
    neurotictothecore neurotictothecore
    4 Responses Mar 30, 2011

    Genderqueer, Androgyne, Whatever...

    I like it when clerks can't tell whether to call me ma'am or sir, I like getting "dude,"  I like looking in the mirror and thinking "you can't tell!"  And it's deeper than looks.  I don't think like a woman.  I technically am one, but they are weird...  I mean, no offense, I...
    hylierandom hylierandom
    5 Responses Oct 26, 2011

    Being A Genderless Teenager

    I am female, biologically.  However, I'd much sooner be a male. This whole genderqueer-ness, to me, is a lot like bi-sexuality- 'cause it tends to swing toward one gender or the other. At the end of the day, I personally don't believe anyone is complete slap-bang in the...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 5, 2010

    I Am A Human Being!

    Coming to the realization that I'm genderqueer has been a recent thing for me. It came to a head after getting married. Not because of my husband. He loves me for who I am and has never once made me feel like I am anything but wonderful and whole. But now I'm a "wife" and people...
    sageburner sageburner
    3 Responses Apr 5, 2012

    I'm Me, I'm Genderqueer

    For me most days I feel that I'm a combination of both genders, I feel as if both and so I feel I am neither female or male but somewhere in the middle. Its like this a lot when I dream, its rare that I can identify my gender when recalling a dream because I feel as it I am both...
    thinksexy thinksexy
    26-30, T
    1 Response Apr 23, 2013

    Well. Im Not Sure.

    To be honest. I'm not sure I really am. But I do have a hell of a lot of male qualities. i have always preferred men as friends (in principle, but perhaps not in practice) and a lot of qualities in women annoy me. but i as sure as hell like women. My first real experience with a...
    thegreatsmoky thegreatsmoky
    1 Response Apr 16, 2009

    My Genderqueer

    It's nice to feel like I belong to something, and that's exactly what I feel like. Growing up I never really felt like I belonged to anything important. I had my friends of course, and I mean them no disrespect saying this, but I didn't have a lot in common with them. I felt like...
    Devyn89 Devyn89
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

    .. at least that's the "label" I feel most

    comfortable with right now. I always grew up as female, I had a phase, when I was very feminine and proud of it. I never questioned my gender identity until now, I didn't even live as "butch". I actually despised those hetero normative roles in the lesbian culture. I desperately...
    rofrano rofrano
    22-25, F
    Mar 16, 2014

    Trying To Find My Path...

    I've been working a lot on trying to figure myself out over the past few months, ok actually it's more like a 2 year stumble and drag through postpartum depression... I was usually unhappy, no matter how badly I wanted to be happy. I felt guilty because of the effect it was...
    muffinmeister muffinmeister
    Jul 18, 2013

    Coming Out To Myself And Others As Genderqueer

    I've finally discovered there is a name for how I have been feeling my entire life - although I've never been a huge fan of >labels for fear of feeling restricted, this one has to be the most comfortable and relaxed term I've heard. GenderQueer/Gender-Fluid.It took me the best...
    VioletDoomsday VioletDoomsday
    26-30, T
    1 Response Mar 9, 2012

    Queering My Gender.

    I've only recently discovered my genderqueer identity. I don't fit with the trans* narrative of "I've always known..." because I didn't always know. I knew I wasn't like "other girls", but I held on to my feminine identity for most of my life because that was the only thing I...
    NotSoLogical NotSoLogical
    18-21, T
    1 Response Jul 18, 2012

    I wish it was as easy

    as it is now to feel free to figure out gender identity. When I first came out there wasn't anyone talking about differences in gender. I feel like I've tried so hard to fit in somewhere my entire life but have never been able to. For the most part ... I'm fine with that. I...
    Feenyx Feenyx
    1 Response Jan 12, 2016

    It's Confusing.

    I was born female... but I don't FEEL like a female. It's confusing, this is new territory for me. I never really questioned my gender identity before. But I don't feel comfortable labelling myself as female... it feels wrong. I think, more than anything, that I just don't have...
    fauxsemblance fauxsemblance
    5 Responses Oct 23, 2011

    My Experience

    i knew at an early age of 13 i was different in many ways from other boys my age and it was difficult to deal with my sexual and emotional  desires mainly because i grew up in the 60's when that type of behavior was not accepted.i was very fortunate to have a close male...
    tvmelanie1955 tvmelanie1955
    51-55, T
    5 Responses May 18, 2008

    Pretend to like me but really trick me force me

    to do things like give me drug me n make me humiliate myself some how or make me look uglier n manlier while i beg u to believe im a girl im fat ugly female chat NOT rp
    spoiledbrat92 spoiledbrat92
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 21, 2016

    One of the Guys

    I have always been a "gender bender" My parents made it easy for me giving me a name like Blake. From the age of 5 I knew I was not anything like the other little girls. I was on the boy team when we played "boys chase girls", I ...
    Blizzake Blizzake
    5 Responses Sep 30, 2009

    Makes Sense

    I am Genderqueer.  When I heard this term described for the first time in a monologue describing feeling that I felt and thoughts that I had about myself, I embraced the term as my identity.  I feel like a boi in so many ways.  I grew up looking at the men's...
    GQboi GQboi
    36-40, T
    3 Responses Apr 7, 2009


    Just today I found out what I am. I feel like someone finally completely understands. All day today I have been questioning if i was transsexual. But I like my curves and girl figure at times..yes sometimes i do wish I had a penis, and a small chest. sometimes when daydreaming I...
    missymora missymora
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2011

    I Am So Glad To Finally Own This.

    I remember as a child never seeing myself as either male or female. I never called myself anything other than a human being. It was quite a shock when I became a bit older and realised what I was 'supposed' to be. I have always gone out to gay clubs and had relationships with...
    Cryoboy Cryoboy
    5 Responses Feb 25, 2011

    Living My Life As A Gender Queer And How It Affects Me To This Day ...

    Well back then when  I was in seventh grade I  didnt know the term Gender queer but I had  been living my life as a  boy, I dressed like one ,  and did everything the other boys did.  I didnt have very many girls who were my friends...  I never...
    olliesacay olliesacay
    Jul 28, 2010

    Me Now

     All my life I’ve never fitted in part of that can be explained  by my medical issues. I’ve never really felt part of any group although some groups accepted me. I know my fem side is stronger than my male side I have felt this way for  long as I...
    kinkly kinkly
    5 Responses Jul 6, 2008

    I Think I've Known Something For A While. . .

    So i may not always say "Hey, I'm gender queer or androgynous." how ever you want to but it. To this day i struggle with my identity and constantly blind myself with labels that detour me into doing things i may not actually want. Im a girl so i have to be with boys right? Im a...
    InspiredbyHair InspiredbyHair
    18-21, F
    May 18, 2012

    Recently Come Out As Genderqueer Or "i Walk The Line"

    i am genderqueer and gothic I have recently been embracing this. Since the time that i can remember I am reminded of my ability to relate to both genders, but never feel like I fit in to either. I have been called anything from handsome to effeminate looking to butch looking to...
    ravenstill29 ravenstill29
    5 Responses Feb 14, 2010

    What Am I?

    Over the last few months, I've come to really realize that I don't identify with either gender. I am physiologically a woman, but I don't perform it, and I definitely don't feel it. I remember when I was maybe 12, I used to dance around in my room and dress up like Danny Zuko...
    Lizbit241 Lizbit241
    4 Responses Feb 28, 2011

    Somewhat Shy

    I don't really know if my experience counts.  I'm not only biofemale, I've made zero attempts to change this.  I don't even know if I want to pursue changing it.  Either way, I don't think of myself as female at all.  Or male, really.  I prefer the word...
    KaniBunny KaniBunny
    4 Responses Jun 2, 2008

    Being genderqueer means

    that I identify as a non-binary gender. This means I do not fit into a rigid category of "man" or "woman". Please respect this. Before concluding someone's gender, always discuss with them how they identify, and respect their response. I am here if you would like to talk...
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    to many fantasies sometimes being told i look

    manly while i desperatly try to loose weight n b more feminine or being forced or the other waytricked into looking manlier
    spoiledbrat92 spoiledbrat92
    22-25, F
    Apr 16, 2016

    For The Sake Of It :)

    ok so this has to do not with me because i am not but with my partner who is genderqueer and for starters i have absolutely no issue with it whatsoever but i am very curious as to just what a genderqueer person really is i dont really know too much about it and because alot of...
    jannahL jannahL
    18-21, T
    Aug 17, 2012

    Dad's Disappointment

    My father was "considerate" enough to inform me, when I was about twelve, that he wanted all sons, I am the only girl out of four children, he raised me like he did my brothers, playing sports, beating on me, teaching me that emotion was weakness, my mother did nothing to...
    wanderingbutnotlost wanderingbutnotlost
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 26, 2009

    In The Middle

    i was born a man i think like a woman i have long hair and nails and wear the same clothes as most of the girls in the office but still male i am seeking phsych assistance to find out if I should be ( as I want to be ) female but we shall wait and see i cook read womans mags...
    christinemelody christinemelody
    56-60, T
    1 Response Feb 8, 2013

    If you haven’t read Every Day by David

    Levithan, I’d highly recommend it. It’s narrated by A, who is seemingly non-binary.
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk
    Aug 29, 2014

    He, She, Sie.

    Although in a lot of previous pictures it's not absolute, nor obvious, but I am not who you see me as. I am not a women, I am not a man. I wear a mixture of guys and girls clothes, more recently so after finding mens stuff that fits. I am starting to find how I feel I am to...
    XanthiaJo XanthiaJo
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 23, 2012

    Finally starting to feel comfortable in my skin.

    :D Just still kicking myself for over plucking my eye brows in high school.
    BrokenOneX BrokenOneX
    2 Responses Oct 5, 2014

    Neither Man Nor Women

    The definition of genderqueer quotes; "Genderqueer (GQ) and intergender are catch-all terms for gender identities other than man and woman. People who identify as genderqueer may think of themselves as being both man and woman, as being neither man nor woman, or as falling...
    XanthiaJo XanthiaJo
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2010

    Don't Even Know Anymore.

    So I recently came out to myself...again. Not as bisexual this time, but genderqueer. When I was little I always felt like I should have been a boy. I envied everything that they were "allowed" to be that a girl wasn't. I was allowed to play with barbie's. Not Transformers...
    MiosRain MiosRain
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2011

    Coming To Terms With My Pansexual/genderfluid Identity

    I have been struggling with my sexual and gender identity my entire life. At a very young age I wanted to ware my older sisters clothes. At the age of about 5, my Dad found my sisters dress under my bed. I was scolded for taking her things and was made to feel that what I had...
    IamJgurlyboi IamJgurlyboi
    Sep 30, 2012

    I Thought I Was A Wannabe Transexual...

    I didn't know what genderqueer was. I had never heard the term. I thought one was either male or female, and I knew it didn't matter which chromosomes you had. But I wasn't. I was a girl. And I knew I was a girl, except for when I didn't. I was raised as a girl - a tomboyish...
    JulianGravity JulianGravity
    3 Responses Jun 15, 2012

    Lemon Ice Cream

    Has nothing to do with my story, I just really like it. The exploration of myself as being "not normal" started when I was about 13 or 14. I bounced around with trying to figure out my sexuality, which I'm still confused about, but I've finally settled on pansexual. Then this...
    NeutralGenius NeutralGenius
    18-21, T
    1 Response Feb 10, 2011

    Small Steps

    All my life i was forced to be a girl. My mom made me wear dresses every sunday (i loathed them, and i still do.) and curled my hair (something i might've hated more than dresses.) and wanted me to be pretty and girly all the time. She got me barbies when i wanted hot wheels...
    candiipup candiipup
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 11, 2008

    "I Didn't Know That About You"

    I don't remember quite what prompted that response as I was talking to one of my preciously few gay friends, but I remember the conversation had somehow turned to my being transgender. I've never been much for 'girl clothes'  (Wearing a dress or skirt feels too much like...
    axelval axelval
    18-21, T
    5 Responses Jul 21, 2009

    I am physically male.

    In terms of personality, I am about half male and half female. I have many interests, including video games, toys (including action figures and dolls), TV (football, soap operas, and many other shows), etc. I just don't limit my interests to what's "acceptable for a male to...
    Ronin57818 Ronin57818
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2014

    Someone Should Post a Story

    Hey, so I know I should be doing this too, but there's quite a few of us now.  Let's post some stories!  The nice thing about this forum is that those of us who don't fit into the gender binary can talk about our experiences.  I want to hear other people's stories...
    onetwothree onetwothree
    22-25, T
    1 Response Jan 25, 2008

    I'm new to all this and still kind of confused.

    I mean, in my perfect world, there just wouldn't be gender at all. I don't know that it serves anyone, especially not the binary model. When I think about my gender I feel like I went years and years defending my female identity because my gender expression has at times been so...
    infoshouldbeopen infoshouldbeopen
    2 Responses Feb 25, 2014

    i recently discovered

    that i am genderqueer and finally feel connected to my gender identity. everything makes so much sense now!
    bigenderqueer bigenderqueer
    18-21, T
    Mar 20, 2016

    Happily Me

    It wasn't until recently that I learned the term genderqueer. But when I read it for the 1st time, it just felt right to me, even without reading about it yet. Then the more I read, the more stories I saw, the more I realized this was the perfect term to describe me. I knew I...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 20, 2012
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