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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Another day passed. Smiling

    when your words are cutting me viciously inside my chest. My patients and staff giving me compliments and wishes for a happy holiday season. Memory of hurtful words simply erase all compliments. Funny when I decided to leave you , you remembered I am beautiful and smart and...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    My sbx is coming home from a business trip

    today. Before he left i asked him to write down what he wants the divorce to look like on paper....we are trying to do this noncontested. Cannot wait to see what he came up with...and this may take forever.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 5

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    Me and my Soon to Be Ex (SBX) are very near

    completion of our divoce. She has been in a new relationship with a guy since she filed. We are on talking terms, but I do this only to keep communication open for the kids sake and I leave most of the communication initiation up to her. Now, the other day, she called me on...
    Waldonova Waldonova 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 8

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 18 Responses Jul 6

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Update #11 In two days,

    I move to my new apartment. I am extremely excited about this because in the last few weeks, I have been able to dig into the long-standing anger and trust issues that my ex's infidelities have caused. Freedom and sanity are coming! I am blessed in how some things have been...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 1

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    The soon-to-be-ex husband is good at mind

    control. He knows how to play on my emotions. He knows how to give me the creeps. He is incredibly greedy and materialistic. He quit the good job he had to do something less stressful, drive around all day (courier). Now since I make more money, and he thought I was his meal...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 1

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    formermartin81 formermartin81 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    When Your Not Picked

    I'll keep this to a 'short' version. I seperated from wife in december and filed for divorce in mid-august. But why? What happens when the one you love(d) develops a problem, and it's a problem they won't get help for? In this case it was drugs and after I lost my job, I realized...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M 13 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    My divorce could potentially be final next

    month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be here but that just goes to show that you just never know what can and will happen in your life!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 27

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    One Week To Go

    A week from now I will have finished with my final divorce hearing and will be out to dinner with a friend of mine (a female friend, just so you know :) ). I am trying to picture what it will feel like at the end of the hearing when we walk out--pretty much finished with each...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I left my wife. I wanted to spare our little

    boy the misery of growing up with parents who hate each other and are always trying to win an argument instead of ending it. My ex has very bad temper and that made me miserable which in turn meant that I became a poor husband too. I thought maybe her and I could get along as...
    Loner38M Loner38M 36-40, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 224 Responses Jan 10

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 16 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 29

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    Well we are going to go file the paperwork

    today. This will probably be the last time I see her. I know I will never see my stepdaughter again. I am kind of torn on this. I am very sad that I am losing both of them. I am sad that she felt like we couldn't work it out. That she felt like I wasn't worth keeping. I...
    JDub78 JDub78 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Divorce has taken everything.

    ..my girls, my business, my esteem, and my happiness. I have nothing. I am nothing.
    1sososad 1sososad 46-50, M 11 Responses Aug 3

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    Update #12 After a couple weeks of delays due

    to issues with the apartment, I was finally able to get all my stuff in Phase 1 moved out this weekend! I knew that moving out was going to be huge for me, but I practically forgot what it felt like to breathe this easily. I am no longer a prisoner to the bitterness and...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    So today was both liberating

    and sorrowful. the first step in the process I have now moved out. It is bitter sweet.
    Foxfire699 Foxfire699 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Submissivekitten1982 Submissivekitten1982 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 30

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    I am new here, have been married

    for 28 years, together 32. A life time. He is 12 years older and has always been "the boss of me" I gave away my power and didn't even know I was. Mi thought I was supposed to. The youngest of 3 went off to college this year and that was the icing on the cake. There is just...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 2

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 11 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Not My Idea

    Yes, it's true. I am getting a divorce, but it wasn't my idea, although it should have been. I can't say that the thought didn't cross my mind numerous times, and in the course of ten years, that's a lot. The fact that I have been living in a sexless marriage for most of the last...
    m00nmeister m00nmeister 56-60, M 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I wonder if anyone here has gone to a homeless

    shelter or a women's or men's shelter. I also wonder how many women decided to stay with their spouse for years because financially it seemed impossible to leave with their child or children? I want to read stories about women/men who left their significant other with only...
    lisaandshasta123 lisaandshasta123 41-45 2 Responses Jul 23

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    The story is far too long,

    as in 14 years long. I tried to suck it all up and stick with it, find the parts of him that used to be my best friend. The diminished trust, his lack of confidence in me to do anything, the verbal mistreatment (especially in front of the kids) has pushed me to take the final...
    WeakStrongGirl WeakStrongGirl 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 26 Responses Mar 31

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    BrainTumor BrainTumor 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    I Grew A Pair!

    Friday night, he asked me to join him for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He was already there when I arrived, sad puppy face in place. I got a beer and sat down with him to wait for our table. He started in immediately..."your mom is still coming over for Easter, right?" I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 17 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    Okay, so the latest from my SBX.

    Yes, we are at the end of the process. Thank god. It has been challenging. My SBX has been very unstable and all over the place on just about everything. Her latest is saying she will be quitting her job next year and moving out of the state. She is a teacher with 6 years...
    Waldonova Waldonova 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 11

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    God never helped me w my divorce I miss my

    husband more and more . It's been almost 1 year since are split . Never said good bye never saw U again . I miss you . And now I found out your having a baby . I'm here in the same pain maybe more . Have headaches . What should I do ? To end this feeling 💔
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    BrainTumor BrainTumor 41-45, M 10 Responses Jan 10

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    Well it's been a year

    now since I started my new life alone and now the divorce process is starting. We have a legal separation in place and so I am hoping the divorce goes smoothly and amicably as well. I can't say I'm thrilled to be an almost divorcee but I know it is the best thing for me. I have...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    Yesterday was the crappiest day.

    My wife had been off with me for a couple of days but i didn't think it was anything major. I spoke to her on the phone from work yesterday morning and said i loved her. She didn't respond. I asked if she loved me back and i got 'i don't know', which basically means...no. I came...
    Culen1967 Culen1967 46-50, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    We are on the brink of finalization

    and now my borderline personality disordered ex is making veiled suicide threats and saying rhat he is going to live for a few more months, sell the house and give me everything. Almost called 911 on Friday night. What a jsckwagon. I need to talk to my lawyer. Ugh.
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I was supposed to be divorced by March.

    We have lived apart for almost a year.. He filed for the divorce first just to spite me (I kicked him out because of his multiple affairs) and stay in control. He made me an offer right away and we agreed (but I now see that it was just to get what he wanted out of the house...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 1

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    So, Divorce...

    Just saying the word divorce leaves a bad taste in ones mouth, doesn't it? My impending divorce has been inevitable for (3!) years now and the reality of the situation is still eluding me I think. We met in high school, and pretty much stayed together for 17 years. Of course it...
    Sbgf225 Sbgf225 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Submissivekitten1982 Submissivekitten1982 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    Tommorow is the day I have my final divorce

    hearing so freaking excited!! It's been a long time coming, my ex is already posting pictures of his new girlfriend who was a bridesmaid on my wedding! Can't wait got my bumper sticker ready to go!!
    Submissivekitten1982 Submissivekitten1982 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 29

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    I found out today that I am going to be served.

    ...This came because I threatened him with reversing our pre nup. I just want to have a fresh start, although it would be great to leave without taking anything, it is so sad that I contributed and he reaps the benefits....but I signed the pre nup, married him not because of...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F 4 hrs ago

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    Soooo close to the end.

    ..emotional messages exchanged yesterday with the STBXH. let go of anger and pride, apologize, be grown ups, face the sadness of it all. for me, not so sad except for the fact that he is hurting and regrets ever knowing me. feela good to get some emotional closure. has been one...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Anyone else that left an emotionally abusive

    marriage have trouble letting go? I got out of the house 8 months ago, but can't get myself to go through with divorce, though I want to. I feel 'stuck' because I know making thins officially will make the abuse worsen and I don't think i can take it. He uses our kids as weapons...
    bcali bcali 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 10

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    Final draft of our divorce is out together

    and I just have to get it in the mail, sign it, send it back. So weird. This was never supposed to be an experience I was to have. But it is what it is. At least the abuse is over. I'm almost free.
    icandoit13 icandoit13 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    I'm frustrated. I'm beating myself up,

    wondering why in the hell I ever married the man I did. We've officially been separated longer now than we were together while married for. I'm getting my divorce pro bono through a legal services grant, but I haven't been getting very great communication with my lawyer. I just...
    HeathenPoet HeathenPoet 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 8 Responses May 17, 2013

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