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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    You can't have a better tomorrow

    if you are thinking about yesterday all the time - Charles Kettering The past can be quite wearing if it’s a burden of bitterness that you continue to carry. We wake up and find ourselves in the same mess day after day, year after year and people can’t figure out why we...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2014

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    Just a little advice,

    that I am going through with the STBX...When you have to go to court and stand in front of the judge; ladies keep your composure, and let the dumb *** man make a fool of himself. It will help your case if he makes a fool of himself in a court of law in front of the judge.
    okiedokie92914 okiedokie92914 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    Oddly, it does not give me feelings of panic to

    see that heading....that tells me something. After years of a marriage that was missing something and finally figuring out what, I saw a counselor today who within an hour said, "I think your husband sounds like a deeply closeted homosexual, I think the divorce needs to...
    jkm52 jkm52 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 28

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    I left my husband over a year ago.

    I have yet to file for divorce because I fear his wrath(he is emotionally abusive). He uses our kids as weapons against me and for this reason, he still has a lot of control over me. I need to cut the cord, stop doing things by his rules and finally get divorce going because i...
    bcali bcali 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    This one made me chuckle.

    Was anyone else amused by this?
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 17 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 22 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    If you're ever in doubt,

    there's a reason. Listen to yourself. **** what everyone else says....they're not you. How could they possibly know what's going to make you happy? They can't. You'll save yourself so much time, effort, money, emotion, heartache, etc by listening to that little voice in your...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 19

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    my wife left me just over three months ago.

    ...she left me for my sons best friends dad...I thought I was getting better till tonight when I talked to her.....now here I am at 130 am and cant sleep and all I want to do is call her back....she has moved on o quickly and here I am still so sad.......what do I do??
    eggs35 eggs35 31-35, M 9 Responses Feb 3

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    Hello! Can anyone tell me the cost of a lawyer

    for an uncontested divorce? I've heard different things and want to see if I can afford it -.-
    eveyrose eveyrose 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    The hardest part for me is

    that this is my first relationship and will be my first and only marriage.
    Uking300 Uking300 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 31

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    I got married when I was 17

    because I wanted to escape my life then. And my husband of going on 6 years has always been an addict and has never been able to hold job. He has never been able to take care of me and when had to give our infant daughter up for adoption because we couldn't afford to take care...
    xxdublifexx xxdublifexx 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 28

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    I actually had an account on here years ago,

    and wrote of my experience of when I married my dream man. He was so amazing, the two years we were together before we got married we had one fight. The same week we got married, something in him changed. That happy amazing generous hilarious man I married was gone, replaced by...
    amylove90 amylove90 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Real cool investing 7 years with someone

    given her what she wanted a marriage family a child she wanted all this from me and as soon as our sons born she changed her mind about all of it her new coworkers are more interesting then family life or she just realized how that motherly quality her crack head...
    areyou1111111 areyou1111111 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 28

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    I'm almost free. Mediation turned out well

    and we should be filing in the next few days. I've not hung on to bitterness, anger, or any of that crap and it's so nice to have some finality to this. Hoping to find someone to go out with for Valentine's Day and just have a bit of fun. Btw check this out guys: http://youtu...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M Feb 5

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    Divorce is hard, especially

    when you don't want it...
    monamayi monamayi 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 9

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    I told my husband of 16 years

    that I am done. I do not love him and don't want to hurt him by stringing him along. We decided to wait till school is over before I move out with the kids. Things are going good.. no fighting or drama. Only now we are having some amazing sex. Why does he wait till I say I'm...
    azgarza azgarza 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 17

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    My husband left after weeks of fighting turned

    violent. He shoved me. To be honest I started it. In the past some intense fighting has led to intense sex but I guess I missed the signals. He packed his stuff. I was scared so I left until he finished. He hasn't called me in a few days though I know where he is. I'm sad. I...
    ariuri1 ariuri1 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Everything is ready to change

    and we're more than ready to move out. Well, by we I mean I and my daughter. I'm so tired and sick of this guy and could hardly wait to begin my new life without him. Sometimes I just wondered, why the heck I marry this guy? Was I blind? Did I really love him? There were some...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 8

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    I did the right thing,

    I left because I didn't love him. I stopped using him, I stopped leading him on, I stopped lying to him. I did the right thing, I keep telling myself that over and over again. But I don't hate him, I didn't ever want to hate him. We have to raise these kids together, and I go...
    b1tch2u b1tch2u 31-35 9 Responses Jan 30

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    Blind sighted. We've had our problems,

    but we always bounce back... Not this time. He has decided that we can't be anymore. Even though he is being amicable and willing to help me and the kids through this however he can, I can't stop crying...and that's not an exaggeration. Tears are streaming down my face as I...
    Geekmom007 Geekmom007 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 15

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 50 Responses Feb 5

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    I know I want to start over.

    I need to start over. I have all these perfectly well laid plans and I'm not sure if I am lacking the know how or the courage to take the first step.
    geekygirl2 geekygirl2 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I cant wait to be divorced.

    He walked out over a year ago. Left me and our kids. For several months he woukd not even make sure our kids had food, clothes ect. Our house was foreclosed on because he had not been paying the mortgage. But now a year later I'm glad he left!! Its so much better not hearing...
    happymom2 happymom2 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 15

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    I need advice. I'm getting divorced.

    Should I pay my ex for 1/2 of a shore house ( 2nd home) on the bay in NJ. Or sell the shore house to buy a bigger primary house. I have 4 kids we presently live in a big house. Should I keep the big primary house or down size to keep the shore house. The kids and I love the...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    The Afterlife This is

    so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own knowing no one in most of the new circles I'm checking out. I attend a divorced/separated support group meeting once a week...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    I'm not sure why this is bothering me

    so much today, it's just what's on my mind right now. I am so angry, so hurt, so disappointed. I never got the proposal. Not a real one anyway. It was more like hey let's get married. I had to pick out and go buy my ring without him. He said here's the money go pick whatever...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Kmek3232 Kmek3232 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    I am two-thirds of the way through my divorce

    and I can honestly say that I have never been happier; I wouldn’t trade where I am in my life now for one moment from my past. My son and I found a rental home and moved in at the beginning of February. Though it has been an overwhelming chore clearing out the house I’ve...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    The time has come.. I need to move on

    and be with the person who actually loves me. It was a long time coming and i hate that it has to be this way but all my attempts to salvage the marriage were being rejected just as i was. I met with the lawyer today and this should not take long given the situation. I am of...
    BrockEP BrockEP 26-30, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    I am ending my sexless marriage

    and moved out of the marital home last week. On the scheduled morning of my move, my dear father died. A week feels like a month. Within 7 days I planned 2 moves (mine and my father's), and a funeral. I'm back to work. H made it very clear he located my new contact info (cell...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 27

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    Divorce proceedings have started Background

    story: Living in the UK Having moved out of the matrimonial home (which is my house, btw) and moved into a rented accommodation within 6 months of discovering the adultery committed by my STBX wife. I wanted to start the divorce process last November but mysteriously our...
    mihamix mihamix 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 8

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