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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Has any of you feel sad

    even you are the one wants the divorce? I see the house where the children grew up and they still are young. My decision is going to change their lives - their current life And that's what they know for most of their lives. I also had some good memories from early on in my...
    lostfoundusa lostfoundusa 31-35, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    sadwife82 sadwife82 31-35, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    SJS15 SJS15 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 21

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    Finally doing what I should've done years ago.

    When you're being taken advantage of and you've voiced your concerns for a good two years and they only fix it for the moment and the revert back, you have to finally stand your ground and be done. Finally when she see's I'm serious she wants to try and do everything right...
    tmantx tmantx 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 9

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    I can't shake the daily anxiety.

    It doesn't seem to ever fully go away. I feel lost. Like a prisoner that's been released back into the general population again and I can't seem to find a new home base. I can't seem to find a way to just settle. Everything is new and different and it's completely rocked me...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 7 Responses Aug 6

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    bluesteelj bluesteelj 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Pictures. For years I have been the one

    who took pictures of the family. framed all the happy memories. Hung them on the walls and put them in beautiful frames on the tables. Now, I have all these pictures that while they are reminders of happy times are now also reminders of what I no longer have. What have y'all...
    BeachGypsy BeachGypsy 46-50, F 5 Responses Aug 9

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    Finally think I have mustered the courage to

    set boundaries with my emotionally abusive STBX. Tired of him still having control over me even though I left almost 2 years ago.
    bcali bcali 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Wow. What a ride. I started posting

    that I was in love with another woman. Then I wrote that I wanted a divorce. Then I had I think I am getting one. And now I am getting one. I won't for a minute pretend that there is any advice here to be given, but I am so grateful that I told my wife that we were through...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 8 Responses Jun 9

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    In a few weeks the decree will be final.

    I has been such and intense emotional journey. Not one I ever thought I would take when I got married. But years changed us, and with time marriage became a prison, and a very uncomfortable one. For many years I chose to remain in this unhappy marriage, to be with my children...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 15 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    After 11 years of marriage I am getting a

    divorce. The part that hurts the most is that I won't get to see my 3 kids everyday anymore. We have decided on split custody. I will be relieved when I don't have to put up with her lying, cheating, or just flat out lack of responsibility for her own actions. I had been...
    fishin4eyes fishin4eyes 31-35, M 11 Responses Jul 18

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    Daughter's first day of kindergarten,

    my STBXW wouldn't let me ride with them, despite the fact that she had no problem when I rode with them on my son's first day of pre-K. We argued briefly, but I ended up having to risk the crazy first day parking (huge school, street-only parking for parents) by driving my own...
    TedTalksBeige TedTalksBeige 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Sometimes I think it's harder

    when he's nice to me. I have no doubt that this needs to happen, but the roller coaster of emotion while you go through it is overwhelming.
    LivvyMonroe LivvyMonroe 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    sadwife82 sadwife82 31-35, F Aug 11

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 51-55, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 17 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I'm in the middle of a separation with my wife

    of ten years im a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for a year and a half.i also cheated on her rite out of rehab and finally realized what a peice of **** I was being.i have changed my whole life for the better.i was there for her through all the aftermath of my cheating...
    truedad truedad 31-35, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    my name is Paul. I am getting a divorce.

    I am on my own for the first time in 22 years. I have a 5 year old boy who is my life. He is hurt by all this but doesn't really understand it all. I only care about him but it is so true ... for him, in order to see one parent he must day goodbye to the other. This isnt...
    prandall prandall 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 16

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    It's a much better day today.

    . Thank God for that. I'm reading some great stuff and it's helping me to process much better and to be more me.. I'm normally such a kickass broad.. This is tough to feel less than myself. This place has been a helpful place to just let it all out. I'm grateful for the me...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 8

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    She moved on and I feel sorry

    for you because she overlooked your flaws, your temper, your selfishness, your inability to love anyone but yourself.   She could have anyone in the world but she still chose you every time.  All you are now is a crease in...
    ImKeepinItReal ImKeepinItReal 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 20

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    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 10

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    Tomorrow is the date set

    for mediation. As much as I welcome getting this next step over and done, I am also dreading it. On Friday, my lawyer sent his attorney and the mediator a settlement offer. Though a reasonable offer, I know he will not accept it. My lawyer keeps reminding me to think of this...
    BeachGypsy BeachGypsy 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    And so it continues..

    . We now have the date of September 10th for the final hearing. This will be the hearing where the separation will become "legal" and the mediated separation agreement will become final and enforced. What an emotional whirlwind this is.
    BeachGypsy BeachGypsy 46-50, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 41 Responses Feb 5

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    My ex as I like to call him

    even though we are still married just can't get enough of making me miserable. He assaulted me, then pulled a gun on the cops. All I wanted was to leave and get divorced. To be clear, I have NEVER laid a hand on him. He had never hurt me either. He was making me miserable...
    nurselife88 nurselife88 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 216 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 41-45, F 9 Responses Mar 5

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    sadwife82 sadwife82 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    I think I'm going to start.

    . Tales of the Newly Divorced Girl... Things I'm figuring out to do on my own.. Lol.. OK, so here's the deal: he always did the lawn work. I never thought twice about it (he also was lazy about lawn work so if I needed something more than cutting the grass, I hired someone...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Although I left my x 7 years ago.

    I'm not divorced yet. I literally got fed up with his games. At first he wanted custody and alimony. Which I found hilarious. The girls refused to even speak to him and I barely made enough to support myself let alone pay him. Then he lied to the courts. He said he did...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 21

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    Today has been a whirlwind

    and I feel emotionally drained, but thankful to have this day behind me. My husband's lawyer was supposed to have discovery items to my lawyer ten days ago. Last night, at 6:39pm she sent over the discovery that we asked for with a response to our proposed settlement agreement...
    BeachGypsy BeachGypsy 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 18

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 17

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    It has truly been a whirlwind of activity in my

    life in just these past few weeks. Having agreed to and signing the divorce papers I am now officially divorced. Then there was the daunting task of locating a new residence that in itself seemed a bleak prospect but luckily one was found. I had signed the lease agreement and...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 46-50, M 7 Responses Aug 15

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    Moved out. Starting fresh again.

    No more being treated like a second-class citizen. Here's to getting my life back.
    bipolarPeter bipolarPeter 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 7

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    and all i want to do is **** her,

    i imagine break up sex must be awesome!
    brad13227 brad13227 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 12 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Mar 31, 2014