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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    I Grew A Pair!

    Friday night, he asked me to join him for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He was already there when I arrived, sad puppy face in place. I got a beer and sat down with him to wait for our table. He started in immediately..."your mom is still coming over for Easter, right?" I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 16 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 17 Responses Jul 6

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29

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    finally I've brought myself to file divorce

    papers tomorrow... we both know it's over.. he's off with his girlfriend in another state.. and I'm home with a glass of wine.. thought it would hurt more but I think I kind of saw it coming .
    countrybeautiful countrybeautiful 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 30

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I am getting a divorce.

    I’ve waited a very long time to say those words. And even though I’m scared, at the same time I’m relieved that this is coming to an end. I don’t want to part on bad terms from this man with whom I’ve spent more than half my life and have a really wonderful son with...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 5 Responses Oct 23

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 8 Responses Nov 9

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    I have been with my husband

    for going on seven years. We have a great relationship we get along great, have a great sex life (I always want it) and we have simular goals. The issue is he has cheated on me time and time again. After each time I take him because of our three kids. Well I finally woke up...
    MrsJoye MrsJoye 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 10

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    I left my 18 year marriage 3 months ago.

    I was very unhappy and had been for many years but just kept hanging in there hoping things would change and get better but they never did so I left. I deal with the guilt of leaving often and hurting my ex. Has anyone else gone through this. The kids are grown and on their own...
    jboomer1977 jboomer1977 36-40, M 8 Responses Nov 3

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    Well I'm not as I haven't gotten married yet.

    But a family member of mine is getting one or at least both parties have been contemplating it. They live back in the states so it's not like I could take in their kids even if I wanted to.
    ThereIsNoName ThereIsNoName 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    I split from H in May,

    fell apart, and now I am living with him. He just left to go to another state to stay with another woman, who's got partners who have partners...I don't want to describe this feeling as jealousy so much as it is resentment. He's all oversexed while during our very short marriage...
    thalimar thalimar 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 15

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    My husband and I are currently separated.

    I moved out and had to start my life over. I'm waiting for the yet separation in order to file for a divorce and I don think he's going to contest it. I'm not asking for alimony or anything extra.... I just want us to sell the house and split everything down the middle. I...
    Lilypad718 Lilypad718 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 13

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 5

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    Just when I think I am starting to do ok,

    I get those old feelings back again. What the hell is wrong with me? I can't stop having feelings for her. I thought I would be ok but just love her so much. It hurts. Hurts. Hurts. Is anyone going through these feelings like I am? Divorcing but don't want to. She definitely...
    jcomnimax jcomnimax 36-40 6 Responses Nov 11

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    Yup just mailed the papers today

    and will hopefully get them back soon signed. That's what happens when you cheat on someone while they are deployed and serving their country putting their life in harms way for a bigger cause.
    Ramrod01 Ramrod01 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 15

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Kmek3232 Kmek3232 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    I am new here, have been married

    for 28 years, together 32. A life time. He is 12 years older and has always been "the boss of me" I gave away my power and didn't even know I was. Mi thought I was supposed to. The youngest of 3 went off to college this year and that was the icing on the cake. There is just...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 2

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 11 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Headed to the court house to file.

    I have an eerie calm about the whole thing. I'm a little anxious about the battle to come. When I asked if he would sign as a joint petitioner, he told me to "do what you need to do, and I'll get a lawyer." I'm not planning on screwing him in a divorce...but it seems he's bent...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 28

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    My divorce could potentially be final next

    month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be here but that just goes to show that you just never know what can and will happen in your life!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 27

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    If all goes well, everything should be final

    this month. Should have been final at the beginning of the month. Haven't heard back from the attorney, so it's a waiting game. God, I just want my name back. I get so depressed at what my life has turned into. I have no doubt that I did the right thing for us both, but it's...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 12

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    After 13 years of marriage it's finally coming

    to a end. It is scary yet exciting to see the world is still crazy and confusing, but I look forward to being happy once again.
    lonelywolf4 lonelywolf4 36-40, M 5 Responses Nov 3

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    Havent been with my husband very long

    but point still stands....we are getting a divorce. We met in June of 2012 and are already to the point of not wanting to be around one another. He is jealous and controlling and Im tired of being a push over and getting called names. Ill be honest tho, Im highly sad about all...
    CamoCountryGirl CamoCountryGirl 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 5

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    Now that I think about all the past times

    and holidays we spent together, it blows my mind how stupid I was. How did I not see things this clearly before?? We've been separate for a little while now, and i'm able to see things much more clearly. It's amazing how one can see things more realistically once you can step...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 24

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    I had a good talk with my STBX the other day.

    Only separated four months and we both have someone new in our lives. I had seen him a few times here and there making arrangements but I haven't had the guts to talk to him about the hard stuff and the emotions for a while. When I asked him if he was happier without me he said...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 1 Response Nov 1

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 218 Responses Jan 10

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Janetcc11 Janetcc11 26-30, F Nov 5

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 21 Responses Mar 31

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    You can't have a better tomorrow

    if you are thinking about yesterday all the time - Charles Kettering The past can be quite wearing if it’s a burden of bitterness that you continue to carry. We wake up and find ourselves in the same mess day after day, year after year and people can’t figure out why we...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm not working since I've been home w kids

    and unable to find a new job. I'm so scared to file for the divorce but our marriage is unhealthy. I would love to hear from other women in the same boat, or from someone who took the step out even though you were a one-income household with kids. Please share!!
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    I was making $100k when I left my job to stay

    home w kids, but now I'll be happy if I find anything at all, possibly an $18/hr job. My husband makes close to $140k a year. But because of where we live (and poor planing and bad luck) we almost have nothing saved. If I file for divorce now, will the judge say I should be...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 21

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    The Ring - I'm at a point

    where I think the burden of wearing it hurts me more than taking it off will. Even though our divorce is not final yet, what we had is dead and what it represented needs to be left behind. Still, I took my commitment seriously and my logical brain says she's still your wife, you...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 5 Responses Nov 12

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    So my divorce is almost finalized.

    Our baby is due next month. He's calling me now almost everyday checking in, and inviting me over to his place. I sometimes go,, to unwind with a toke of his joint. He always performs oral on me. And I sometimes have sex with him. I figure who else will I have sex with ? Being...
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    For years I fooled myself

    and others into believing I was happily married and wildly in love. The real reasons for our marriage: 1. His mother told me she didn't want her son to be alone because of her health, so she rushed it for us. 2. I didn't think anyone would ever love me so I jumped on the first...
    QueenofMortals QueenofMortals 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 13

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    It will be so much better to be alone

    and happy then together and miserable. Almost final if she would just sign the papers and let me go in peace, we both could be happy!
    lonelywolf4 lonelywolf4 36-40, M 4 Responses Nov 5

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 5

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 21-25, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    When Your Not Picked

    I'll keep this to a 'short' version. I seperated from wife in december and filed for divorce in mid-august. But why? What happens when the one you love(d) develops a problem, and it's a problem they won't get help for? In this case it was drugs and after I lost my job, I realized...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M 13 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    Still struggling a little,

    not as much as before. It's going to happen tho, I keep thinking she's going to retract from the divorce p. Never happens. It's like she's on a mission. We take our daughter out together once in a while to let her know how important she is to us. I can't stop thinking about...
    jcomnimax jcomnimax 36-40 4 Responses Oct 31

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    There have been so many times,

    since starting my divorce, that I’ve wished I could have done this at a younger age, so that I could still have some of my youth about me for another man. I’ve felt somewhat cheated out of the years, but if I look at things from a different perspective; I’m actually in a...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 13

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    It was a hard decision

    but I finally am going through with it. I actually waited 15 months from the time I filed to the time I served him. I really wanted our family to work but I think what I had in my mind was not lining up with reality.
    Beloved2014 Beloved2014 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 8

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