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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Update #4 Brought a 4" binder down to my

    attorney today with all the financials I could muster as far back as I could easily get them. Well, all the joint things anyways. I also paid the retainer as well, which he expects will get me through the pre-trial conference which will be 7 or 8 months out from now. It would...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I have been with my partner 2.

    5 years. Our first year together was a good one, he lived in his home and I lived in mine. He seemed so different from all the guys I had dated before him. He would do the sweetest things, write me poems and letters, he would drop of cards, medication and some flowers at my...
    painfultime painfultime 31-35 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Has anyone else experienced how the things you

    say as the 'getting-divorced' person are understood in a different way to the things you said before? Today I told some people I do not have a TV. When I was married someone would have asked 'Why don't you have a TV"? and I would have told them. Today I got the reply: "Shame...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    BrainTumor BrainTumor 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 21-25, F 27 Responses May 7, 2007

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    My house is clean now.

    I am Redecorating. Fixing broken walls and tiles. Painting. New kitchen counters. Bought a new living room and washed the carpet. Trying to prepare it for the next chapter of my life. Started doing the repairs he had promised to do for years and never did. Some by myself and...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 23

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    I Grew A Pair!

    Friday night, he asked me to join him for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He was already there when I arrived, sad puppy face in place. I got a beer and sat down with him to wait for our table. He started in immediately..."your mom is still coming over for Easter, right?" I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 17 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    One Week To Go

    A week from now I will have finished with my final divorce hearing and will be out to dinner with a friend of mine (a female friend, just so you know :) ). I am trying to picture what it will feel like at the end of the hearing when we walk out--pretty much finished with each...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 211 Responses Jan 10

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    BrainTumor BrainTumor 41-45, M 7 Responses Jan 10

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    Going through a divorce makes you realize you

    made a bad choice in someone. It challenges your entire belief system. It makes you question all of your decisions you've made in the past. How could I not have seen the person he would become? How could I not realize that little things I let go would become big issues later on...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 12 Responses Mar 7

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    Another day passed. Smiling

    when your words are cutting me viciously inside my chest. My patients and staff giving me compliments and wishes for a happy holiday season. Memory of hurtful words simply erase all compliments. Funny when I decided to leave you , you remembered I am beautiful and smart and...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    So, Divorce...

    Just saying the word divorce leaves a bad taste in ones mouth, doesn't it? My impending divorce has been inevitable for (3!) years now and the reality of the situation is still eluding me I think. We met in high school, and pretty much stayed together for 17 years. Of course it...
    Sbgf225 Sbgf225 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Bird with a broken wing.

    .. cannot fly, feeling helpless, lost, alone. Sitting here damaged and afraid... you promised to protect me, tend to my wounds. Yet you added to my pain... building up more scar tissue, continuing to pluck away at my feathers. I've had enough... I must hobble off and heal myself...
    redhotridinghood redhotridinghood 41-45, F 14 Responses Apr 7

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    It has been 3 months

    since we separated. It was a difficult thing to do especially with 3 little ones, but I was so scared I couldn't just wait for him to hurt me. I had to get an order of protection. He then filed for a divorce. I never intended to get a divorce and really hoped he would seek the...
    SamRn SamRn 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 17

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 13 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Update #6 Big verbal fight with the STBX

    tonight. She does her angry projection thing and suggests that I haven't even filed paperwork yet. Boom. First page of the complaint that went to the court: now on Facebook. No bitter vitriolic post, just the facts. Might as well not hide it and stop prancing around about...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 6 days ago

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    I am so sad and scared about the future

    for myself and my kids because I have come to the realization that I need to file for divorce from my husband of almost 14 yrs. I am unemployed and we have a 15 yrs old and an 8 yrs old. My youngest has severe learning disabilities and is Autistic. About 2yrs ago I had a strong...
    tornandhurt tornandhurt 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    Sometimes its the little things

    that are really upsetting. Today I created a folder in my email called "Divorce" so I could file the correspondence I have begun with my lawyer and STBX. Just creating that folder got me crying all over again. I know that divorce is the right thing to do for me and him, but I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Well it's been a year

    now since I started my new life alone and now the divorce process is starting. We have a legal separation in place and so I am hoping the divorce goes smoothly and amicably as well. I can't say I'm thrilled to be an almost divorcee but I know it is the best thing for me. I have...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    He received the papers yesterday.

    We had agreed rather than serving him at his new home or work, he would accept them via mail. I received a text and could tell this was not going to go well. Rather than firing texts back & forth leaving things open to interpretation, I called him. Immediately, he presses...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 2

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    I have so much love in me to give someone.

    Why did I waste it for so long on someone that truly never deserved it? I deserve so much better and more than that!
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 23 Responses Mar 20

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    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Update #5 Since I sleep on the couch,

    I'm almost never upstairs. So tonight the STBX's phone keeps buzzing. All message notifications. From the half of the conversation I was able to see, it seems she is scheming some way to try and grab full custody of the kids. Her reasoning is that she thinks I am too hard on...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 18

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    When Your Not Picked

    I'll keep this to a 'short' version. I seperated from wife in december and filed for divorce in mid-august. But why? What happens when the one you love(d) develops a problem, and it's a problem they won't get help for? In this case it was drugs and after I lost my job, I realized...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M 13 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    Well I am working on the financial affidavit,

    and my anxiety is through the roof. How do you deal with it? I can work on it for a bit then get a horrible headache and I have to go to sleep for a few hours.
    itismehello itismehello 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 31

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    fionacc11 fionacc11 26-30, F Mar 21

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    Separated and getting a divorce.

    It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about myself. My soon to be ex slept with someone while we were separated, yet while we were supposedly working on our marriage, and he...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F a week ago

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    Could someone please tell me

    when what he does or doesn't do will stop being so frustrating?!? He won't hire a lawyer & he attempted to respond to my petition for divorce himself. The court sent him back the paperwork because it was all wrong. Now he says he just won't respond. Urgh! I just want this...
    4hopefloats 4hopefloats 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 16 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    The discussion I had with her yesterday went

    as smooth as I could ever imagine. I talked about her moving out, her getting her things and not being without. We talked about the kids schedules and how the school schedule will work out. We discussed the fact that they won't get uprooted from this house and how I'll stay...
    flibsley flibsley 31-35, M 8 Responses Jan 15

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    UPDATE TO why i had to do it Since EP wont

    let us edit stories (thanks guys) here is an update. I am going back to my husband. He knows he has to change. He knows he cant be physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive anymore. He knows he's a bully (thanks to my friend who made him see that you know who you are...
    lizziegirl10 lizziegirl10 41-45, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    Readers Digest Version

    Tonight my husband is at a lawyers, preparing the first of the paperwork for our divorce. I am pissed off and sad about this. Im pissed off because since he decided on divorce, he has become a different ******* person. Its cruel that the person I begged to see for so long is...
    laniferous laniferous 36-40, F 13 Responses Aug 24, 2012

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 15 Responses Mar 31

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    Well, wish me luck please.

    ...today will probably be one of the last times, if not the last time, I actually speak to my ex. We have lived apart for 2 months, but he calls almost every day and I see him in person probably once a week at least. He still thinks there is a chance we will be getting back...
    hopeless2014 hopeless2014 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    My story is long, so this is part 1: The

    background My hubby and I have been friends since we were 10 years old. Both went to the same church. We did everything together, even went to the same camp during the summer, so clearly everyone expected us to end up together. At 17 he asked me on our first date: High School...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 14 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    Life is funny in a weird way ,

    it changes so fast , i had a loving relationship with my wife for three yours and we have a son together , and now she wants to get divorced because i work too much , and i can't quit my job for many reasons , So we both agreed to get a divorce . and it's going too fast , I...
    TheAviator8 TheAviator8 22-25, M 4 Responses Mar 29

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    After 5 years of marriage my wife left me.

    We had a rough relationship from the get-go and still opted to get married. Once married my wife changed, sexually, emotionally and selfishly. I finally got out of her the reason why and it was because she didn't feel like she had to compete for me anymore...she won me over an...
    robmartin23 robmartin23 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 22

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    Well my husband and I had a talk tonight.

    We both agreed there is no point in continuing our counseling. We are both tired of trying to be what the other wants, and falling short. Even though I knew this was coming, and wanted it to, it's still hard to admit it didn't work out after all the years of trying. I guess it...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 26 Responses Feb 21

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    I got married at eight teen.

    Stupid I know...It was May 17th, of 2008. We had been dating four years. We were your classic school sweet hearts. We decided to start trying for a baby and got pregnant so we decided to get married. We moved way to fast. Had a baby at nineteen then another at twenty one, and so...
    Angela1989 Angela1989 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    I was married for 19 years.

    In June I went to the bank and found out there was nothing in our checking or savings! I called my husband from the bank parking lot to find out what was going on?! He told me it was gone then in the same breath that he wanted a divorce! I was stunned. He makes good money...
    RDDB RDDB 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    Update #3 The kids were over at the

    grandparents' today so we talked about splitting the physical assets in the house. I'll be able to keep my computer equipment, tools, and CD collection (almost 1200 discs at this point). I can keep the furniture I have in the office. She'll keep the rest of the furniture and...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 23

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    I'm watching a movie

    where a woman asked her mother how she felt about being married to someone for such a long time. The mother said, "When I wake up every morning & see your father it makes me smile. I like him." That's what made me want to leave my husband. I didn't really like him anymore. He...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 9 Responses Mar 8

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 5 Responses May 17, 2013

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    Update #7 Her family is peppering her with

    questions now that they know what's coming. I'm not sure what she's answering to them, but they are not my problem anymore. We tell our oldest son on Wednesday. I want to get that afternoon's therapy session out of the way in order to prep him on the news. And my STBX has...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 13 hrs ago

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    After being separated

    for 6 months its clear we will be divorcing after being together for 15y (married for 6). I am seeing the lawyer for the first time on Tuesday (yes I realise I have waited a long time to do this). I am so scared of this process and the whole money thing. Please, does anyone...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    My husband filed for divorce a month ago.

    He left the house and hasn’t came back ever since. He will not even return any calls from our 5 year old. Our son is devastated as he thinks that daddy left him because he was a bad boy and now having behavioral issues at school and home. My mother in law and I tried to reach...
    fxislam fxislam 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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