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I Am Getting a Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 3,335 People

    You can't have a better tomorrow

    if you are thinking about yesterday all the time - Charles Kettering The past can be quite wearing if it’s a burden of bitterness that you continue to carry. We wake up and find ourselves in the same mess day after day, year after year and people can’t figure out why we...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2014

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I had to temporarily deactivate my Facebook

    account. I am a social person and through this all I am very much so missing my friends and family (his side) which I am very close with but I know now, is not the time for fb.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 22 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    How would you feel if your spouse read.

    through what you posted (specifically in groups about divorce and marital issues). The postings are about wanting to get divorced or leave. What is an appropriate reaction (after ive locked my phone.)
    ariuri1 ariuri1 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 6

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    I was totally blind sighted

    when my husband wanted a divorce. He told me he was in love with someone else. He left to live with her and her children that night and it has been a 5 difficult months. He has said some hateful things and placed all the blame on me. And of course, I take it all in and obsess...
    kdubu kdubu 36-40, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    How can someone you found

    so beautiful become so ugly. ****, this sucks.
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    I have been with a mentally abusive person

    for 14 years. It was hidden well because I wanted everyone to think I had a great marriage. . He would only act that way to me when no one else was around. Also when other people were around he would be super nice. How will I ever love and trust anyone again?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I laughed. My old landlady kept ringing me

    yesterday. I kept looking at it thinking either he has hurt himself or he hasn't paid the rent. Either way I couldn't allow the chaos to intrude on my already frantic day. I needed to operate and function amongst the **** storm of my day at work and the hideousness of buying a...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 50 Responses Feb 5

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    Now accepting applications.

    High school diploma or equivalency prefered. No credit checks No drug screening. Must be able to lift up to 1 spirit. Must be at least 21 years or older. Must be able to share workload Must have sense of humor Must be able to relocate if job requires it Must be faithful Must...
    thirtynotdirty thirtynotdirty 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 4

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 41-45, F 8 Responses Mar 5

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Getting wisdom and support from family is

    so vital. Although many trying times are ahead, the reassurance of their backing is like fuel in the tank. Yeah, maybe the vehicle will take a beating off-road, but at least you won't run out of gas.
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M Mar 17

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    After 30 years of marriage,

    I've filed for divorce. Neither of us has been happy for the past 10 years, but we've been to stubborn to admit it. I almost feel as if it is my responsibility to both of us to do so, to allow us to move on and seek happiness. I know what I will look for in a new partner, and...
    wantadoover wantadoover 56-60, M 3 Responses Mar 3

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    You'd think that getting divorce would bring me

    happiness. Well I kind of am and at the same time not so much. After being married for 13 years I thought she was the one I would grow old with. Then after four years things went south. I am one who tends not to give up on anything no matter how futile it may seem once I put my...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 8

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Kmek3232 Kmek3232 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    I feel betrayed, sad,

    angry and lonely. I feel like my life over. How do I get over this and just focus on my future?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 18

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    I didn't know my husband.

    I thought I did. I thought I had been his best friend. I was utterly wrong. It turns out it was all a lie. When I first met him being around him was as easy as breathing. Loving him effortless. He made me laugh at myself, he was fun, creative, a people person. Life had...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 20

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    Very close. Thankfully,

    I believe it will be very civil. this will be best for the kids and less strain on our mutual friends. one step closer to the search for happiness.
    twistedAndJaded twistedAndJaded 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 7

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    I started the process.

    I've told my wife my intent to divorce. She is angry with me for putting my happiness above hers. I need the manipulation to stop if I will ever be happy. I know I'm making the right decision, but I hate to make others feel pain.
    twistedAndJaded twistedAndJaded 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 20

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    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    You can't just love me!

    And not be able to tolerate my my children...I knew these emotions were coming. I knew I was holding as strong as I could...I am shattering, I never fell outta love I still and do love you, they come first... I admit it I am broken...Hurt and I was putting on a smile
    orchidspetals orchidspetals 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    The Afterlife This is

    so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own knowing no one in most of the new circles I'm checking out. I attend a divorced/separated support group meeting once a week...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    I was going to wait two years

    and do it simply. Wait till the heat and anger had dissipated. He has been ranting on Facebook. I can't see any of the posts but they have reached the point where friends are contacting me to say they are not taking sides. In the end I asked what was being put. He is ranting...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 16 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    After 13 years of marriage it's finally coming

    to a end. It is scary yet exciting to see the world is still crazy and confusing, but I look forward to being happy once again.
    lonelywolf4 lonelywolf4 36-40, M 5 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    The fight and arguing with my soon the be ex

    husband has escalated again today and I don't know how to make it stop. He doesn't work and hasn't for the past year. He chooses not to work even though he is capable of working. I went to get groceries and things today only to find my bank card was declined. I called the bank...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've been going through a horrible divorce .

    Nothing left to write about . Nothing has changed in the 2 years without you . I'm fighting to stay alive . It's been lonely no one has love me cared for since you left . I feel ugly worthless fat used . It's been 2 years you had the affair and now have a baby girl . I've always...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    The pain that this woman is dragging my kids

    and me through is horrible. The lies and cruelness is unbelievable. There isn't a day I don't want to just give up. I'm not going to but it's really hard to keep my head up.
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 17

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    I seem tired all the time.

    My default setting is to be happy and smiley, and to be in a good mood. But nowadays the personal and professional pressures are seemingly working together to up the ante, such that a colleague actually disclosed that I "look tired and stressed." That's disconcerting. I don't...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 9

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    I spoke to my lawyer this afternoon to go over

    the wife's proposal of the divorce agreement. It baffles me to no end on her reasoning on such a ridiculous decree. How can you decide on limitations on OUR children. As it stands my kids would be deprived any interaction of virtually my entire family. Unfair to say the least...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 13

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    I met my husband 15yrs ago.

    We started a business together 14yrs ago. The business is successful we worked together side by side while I was having kids at the same time. The business is under our names, including business and personal bank accounts. Two yrs ago we agree that I stay home and care for our...