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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Mediation is set for next week,

    and while I love where I live and am excited about where my life is going, I am emotional about the upcoming changes in my life. So many changes - my marriage is near dissolved, my pretty home is but a memory, my father is gone, I miss my dogs and I need a garden to dig into...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am getting a divorce

    and don't know where to start. I think things could work out if we tried but there's somone else. Should I go through with it or wait till this infatuation runs it's course?
    Poeticman Poeticman 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I'm getting a divorce.

    How silly to say I didn't think this would happen. I thought my husbands intimacy issues would disappear. I thought me having an affair would not affect us. I became a cold hard woman. I was angry. I thought I was entitled to passion. In the midst of passion I ignored my husband...
    Zoe82 Zoe82 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    How does it go from what was

    once an ironclad team to two individuals unsure about the motives of the other? How does a paragon of oneness morph into suspicion and uncertainty? How does it start that you cannot imagine being apart to not imagining being together? These are rhetorical questions, of course...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 10

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    I was going to wait two years

    and do it simply. Wait till the heat and anger had dissipated. He has been ranting on Facebook. I can't see any of the posts but they have reached the point where friends are contacting me to say they are not taking sides. In the end I asked what was being put. He is ranting...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 12 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    My wife wants to leave me without

    even trying counseling and now she wants to move out of state with the kids. I was devastated before and now I am just numb. She won't tell me where or why. I am so tired and just want to give up. I never stopped loving her. I never cheated on her. She just wanted out because...
    Poeticman Poeticman 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have been with a mentally abusive person

    for 14 years. It was hidden well because I wanted everyone to think I had a great marriage. . He would only act that way to me when no one else was around. Also when other people were around he would be super nice. How will I ever love and trust anyone again?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Feeling kind of helpless.

    I'm so tired. My eyes, face and body. I don't know where I'm going in life. I'm excited for the journey that is in front of me. Also scared. When my divorce is final I will be able to take the first step into my new beginning. Wish me luck but most of all wish me strength. I'm...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 30

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    I did it I finally divorced my husband he is

    the most intertwined *** hole Yay me 8 years over
    Fire0007 Fire0007 22-25, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 17

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Just moved out last month.

    It was my decision. After 18 years together! I was only 17, 18 when we moved in together! My son is with him today. Sitting here in the porch a little lonely. I have never been on my own. Not sure what to do..
    ElaineEr ElaineEr 31-35 1 Response Apr 11

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Although I left my x 7 years ago.

    I'm not divorced yet. I literally got fed up with his games. At first he wanted custody and alimony. Which I found hilarious. The girls refused to even speak to him and I barely made enough to support myself let alone pay him. Then he lied to the courts. He said he did...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    Saw my best friend today

    for lunch. We hunkered down outside in the drizzle so she could smoke. I have been hiding from her. A mutual friend... I wasn't sure what she would think. Why don't I trust her more... She asked me what the grounds would be. I laughed. She knows nothing of divorce...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    You can't just love me!

    And not be able to tolerate my my children...I knew these emotions were coming. I knew I was holding as strong as I could...I am shattering, I never fell outta love I still and do love you, they come first... I admit it I am broken...Hurt and I was putting on a smile
    Orchidspetals Orchidspetals 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 23

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 41-45, F 9 Responses Mar 5

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I feel betrayed, sad,

    angry and lonely. I feel like my life over. How do I get over this and just focus on my future?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 18

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    I started the process.

    I've told my wife my intent to divorce. She is angry with me for putting my happiness above hers. I need the manipulation to stop if I will ever be happy. I know I'm making the right decision, but I hate to make others feel pain.
    twistedAndJaded twistedAndJaded 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Since yesterday me and my wife have finally

    agreed on divorce. We will most likely file next week
    anton88 anton88 26-30, M 5 Responses Apr 2

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    He said me leaving has opened his eyes

    and made him become a better person. He only feels bad that I won't come back to receive the benefits of the new him. Oh, so you're telling me you're not still completely full of yourself? hahahahaha. right. When I told him to look up narcissistic personality disorder, he...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    It's probably quite typical

    that both parties see themselves as being harmed far more than they harmed the other. In my situation, I'm confident that my STBX sees her affair as "small crackers" compared to the ways I was cluelessly hurting her feelings over a long period of time. There's nothing I can do...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    My attorney sent me paperwork in preparation to

    the scheduled mediation. STBX got an appraisal of the marital home. Lo and behold, it appraised for $75K less than the appraisal done July 2014. My attorney wants me to call the STBX's bluff and offer to buy the home at the reduced rate, minus the repairs he has listed. I also...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Sundays are tough, but Easter is murder.

    It's the anniversary of when my STBX met her lover at a church service (not the one I was serving in) and my whole world fell apart. Easter is supposed to be a joyous time celebrating life, and maybe someday it will be for me again. But right now, it's a anniversary of death...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 5

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    I didn't know my husband.

    I thought I did. I thought I had been his best friend. I was utterly wrong. It turns out it was all a lie. When I first met him being around him was as easy as breathing. Loving him effortless. He made me laugh at myself, he was fun, creative, a people person. Life had...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 20

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 21

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I hate the idea of telling the kids what's soon

    to happen. I hate it. They're such happy, such well-adjusted people. I hate the thought of bringing pain into their life. I hate it with a white-hot hatred. I hate the pain, anger, disappointment, disillusionment, sadness, confusion and hurt that will wash over them when we talk...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    The fight and arguing with my soon the be ex

    husband has escalated again today and I don't know how to make it stop. He doesn't work and hasn't for the past year. He chooses not to work even though he is capable of working. I went to get groceries and things today only to find my bank card was declined. I called the bank...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    It's just not soon enough.

    After being the best husband a man could honestly be I got left behind for some dude who is 10 years my junior and a mini version of me but he's, as she calls herself and he, a wog. I don't care where you come from or who you are. Marriage to me was sacred and to be forever. I'm...
    goodman72 goodman72 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    My husband and I have agreed to this.

    I hope that he means what he says about it not being my fault. I hope that we can remain best friends. I love him and that will never change
    dmanton dmanton 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    no it's not that i found someone else.

    i haven't been married too long but my marriage was over before we started we were too naive to think we could put everything behind. right night she's very impatient. irritated by anything and always cussing me and calling name. nothing to fight for no kids, no love, and it's...
    wonderingmind2 wonderingmind2 22-25, F Mar 29

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 20 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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