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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    My husband and I are in the process of getting

    a divorce through mediation. I am the one who asked for the divorce. Every since our wedding two years ago, our marriage steadily decreased in the affection, communication, and sex department...all the basic fundamentals of marriage. After being physically rejected time and...
    Alili2124 Alili2124 26-30, F 3 Responses May 13

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 26-30, F 16 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    When do the nightmares stop?

    . all I dream about this days is him saying he wants me out the house he don't love me no more or his family saying he is better off with out me.
    SMcCL SMcCL 22-25, F 2 Responses May 24

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    he decided to separate with me.

    I moved to my friend's house. On the one hand, I will keep faithfulness and waiting for him. On the other hand, I will try to study and build my way, so I can stand steady in any situation will come. But I will not chase to him any more after many times he hurt me. what will be...
    tranglib tranglib 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am going through a divorce :( His Grandmother

    died and his mom and sister didn't inform me about the times of the wake of funeral. He was offshore. I called and texted and got no Answer from either of them. My feelings were hurt it wasn't the first time I didn't feel apart of the family. His mother came by after and I told...
    Raychel16 Raychel16 36-40, F 2 Responses May 22

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    So far this transition period has been nothing

    short of nightmarish. I miss my family so much I can hardly stand it. My ex loves me more than anyone else could. I wish his personality didn't drive me crazy and he showed me he loved me when our marriage could have been saved. The guy I wanted so badly turned out to not...
    WarriorPrincess862 WarriorPrincess862 36-40, F 1 Response May 2

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    My Divorce will soon be final

    and the fact is that I hate that I married an ungrateful female!
    Uking300 Uking300 41-45, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    My husband is on his way over here to talk

    about us. Tomorrow we are meeting with our attorneys at his attorney's office. I'm scared. I'm scared about our future for me and the kids. I'm going to cry even more than before. Tomorrow is the end of 11 years of marriage.
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    So finally we are getting a divorce.

    I found out he cheated 4 years ago while I was pregnant after having gone through a year of infertility treatments to have our child and the truth is the divorce has been coming since then. He barely showed any remorse at his action and has made little effort since. And i just...
    jazzybelle53 jazzybelle53 36-40, F 7 Responses May 7

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Although I left my x 7 years ago.

    I'm not divorced yet. I literally got fed up with his games. At first he wanted custody and alimony. Which I found hilarious. The girls refused to even speak to him and I barely made enough to support myself let alone pay him. Then he lied to the courts. He said he did...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 21

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    The Afterlife This is

    so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own knowing no one in most of the new circles I'm checking out. I attend a divorced/separated support group meeting once a week...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    My marriage is ending

    because I want kids and he doesn't. I'm lucky that things are staying friendly but I feel like a failure cause there goes 4 years of fighting and struggling to make everything work but in the end I am moving back home with nothing but the stuff I came out to WA with.
    Rhisk89 Rhisk89 22-25, F 5 Responses May 9

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    You all who gave me advice were right about my

    husband. He still wants the divorce and admitted to proposing to that girl. He said its because I got rid of him. Obviously that is not true. He left. Maybe things weren't perfect, but I have tried to make things better. Now I am going to be a single mom with three kids with...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 4 Responses May 13

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Struggling with the situation I'm in.

    12.5 years ago I married my best friend. I was so in love. He was military and honestly has been gone for his job for half of our marriage. We have two children whom Ive been with 24/7 since they've been born. He starting going away for the weekend to go hiking and camping...
    isolatedgirl77 isolatedgirl77 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Feeling kind of helpless.

    I'm so tired. My eyes, face and body. I don't know where I'm going in life. I'm excited for the journey that is in front of me. Also scared. When my divorce is final I will be able to take the first step into my new beginning. Wish me luck but most of all wish me strength. I'm...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 30

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Oh gosh! The mental/emotional energy expended

    to be a "fixed point" that everyone else can count on and thereby enjoy relative stability (even my STBX). Wow! I'd say I'm exhausted, but that would be insultingly understated.
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M May 4

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    I am getting a divorce

    but I want to keep her around. We're not compatible in anything but sex. I've tried various ways of explaining that to her but, she insists on staying married even though my mind and heart is not into her. I know when the papers come in she will be crushed, that's a given. But...
    chickenandribs chickenandribs 31-35, M 3 Responses May 6

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 47 Responses Feb 5

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    I think my divorce is going to trial.

    After 5 sessions of mediation, 2 sessions with the judge he still won't agree to the most basic terms. Mediator and the Judge have been on our side the whole time. My lawyers are now preparing me. I have a very good chance of winning because I'm not asking anymore than what is...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 21

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 41-45, F 10 Responses Mar 5

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    I've just learned today

    that my wife of less than three years is going to file for divorce. We have been separated for two months, went to three counseling sessions and this is the final result. I'm lost. I don't want to be divorced. This feels like a nightmare. We don't have children which is a good...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 11

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    Have any of you gone through the divorce care

    classes offered at churches? Opinions? I start the series tonight. I usually post in the I Live in a Sexless Marriage group but incidentally I am now in this group as well. Yay me? Been separated 9 months and tried MC to no avail. Hope to learn a lot here from you all and...
    lovesthesun lovesthesun 41-45, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    My husband has put the bare minimum into our

    marriage since we took the vows. I decided I wanted a divorce because I finally feel nothing. I don't feel like there is anything worth fighting for and honestly I'm so exhausted I just want to be aline. He started talking to his ex fiancé again, along with my ex best friend...
    cosmicburst cosmicburst 22-25, F 1 Response May 25

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    For 7 years I have been married,

    and have been together 9 years with the man that I care for. Through it he broke my heart and mended it and we have lost three children. At this point I realized and I have known for quite some time that we where drifting at least for me. The anger and depression over the loss...
    leelou86 leelou86 22-25 2 days ago

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 18 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    omg ! I can't stop crying rightnow.

    ..I finally sign the paper...its a horrible feelings. I feel so weak ..but its for the better..
    sadwife82 sadwife82 31-35, F 1 Response May 26

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    norahcc11 norahcc11 26-30, F May 25

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    I'm starting to hit that phase

    where I worry what my kids think of me. Once upon a time I trusted my wife, thought I knew her, gave the benefit of the doubt. Never, ever, ever believed she was capable of saying anything bad about me to others - especially not the kids. But once you find out you don't know...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 6 Responses May 8

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