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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Good news? I think it's over.

    In true lawyer fashion, mine just called me at 5:00 PM (on Friday) to tell me I have to be at court for the final hearing first thing Monday morning. I'll be glad to get this over with. It was an excruciating process. The guilt, the sadness, the effects on my kids...
    DefineItFromNow DefineItFromNow 41-45, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Moving into my man-partment I started to feel

    sorry for myself then I quickly stopped because you know how many men are out there in abusive relationships like mine was. I have the will power and the courage to change. I am so proud of myself!!!!!
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 8 Responses Jan 29

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    I realized for the first time in some 18 years

    I won't have a lover in my life anymore. Although it's sad and it makes me feel like I am missing something. I do realize what a special person I am. Somewhere there is a woman that is missing out on Valentine's Day. I am such a beautiful person and a woman's dream come...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 23

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    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 2 hrs ago

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 17, 2015

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    In the tears , that sacred absence of love.

    My eyes bleed past my youth. In the darkness my poison sheds from my soul. I can't leave the light on to see it. I just want to bleed alone isolated and protect myself from others. Let my poison be my own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I asked for half of the dishes,

    what I got was most of the junk items from the kitchen. I thought about it for a minute but then realIzed I was being selfish. I realize that God doesn't always give you the things that you want. He gives you what you need to get by. When I stopped myself from being angry I...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 31-35 215 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Well he finally said it.

    Years of rejection, emotional abuse he finally said it. We have young children... I'm terrified... The future is uncertain.... I am a mess.... But I have hope.... Hope of being happy and loved and cherished. In the end holding it together for your kids isn't enough...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    She moved on and I feel sorry

    for you because she overlooked your flaws, your temper, your selfishness, your inability to love anyone but yourself.   She could have anyone in the world but she still chose you every time.  All you are now is a crease in...
    ImKeepinItReal ImKeepinItReal 41-45, F 7 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 41-45, M 8 Responses Mar 21, 2015

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    So he left Tuesday...

    . what a long week this has been for both me and our children. Lots of tears, hugs and behaviour issues. It's the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. He has come to see the kids almost everyday which is more than he has seen them in months. We can't really speak when he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 29

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    It's been a week now

    since I moved into my apartment. The first thing I've noticed is my utter loneliness. I feel like the guy from the Martian planting potatoes on another planet. As funny as it sounds I find it ironic that I am now talking to myself. When I eat dinner I hear the cars on the...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    My heart hurts my soul aches.

    I feel like a flower being wrenched from the ground. Its roots dripping with dirt that intertwine the other flower next to it.. I miss having someone to love...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Some days my emotions are easier to control

    than others. Tonight was not one of them. Missing my kids immensely. I miss having a family. Drank way too much to hide from my own demons. My own sadness hurt and anguish. Upset my muse...... Wasn't thinking straight. Frustrated with myself
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Day three in my apartment.

    Cooked for myself for the first time. I'm learning to date myself and love myself again. It's taking some adjusting but I am strong. I'm also an amazing cook!!!!!!
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 3 Responses Jan 31

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    After 11 years of marriage I am getting a

    divorce. The part that hurts the most is that I won't get to see my 3 kids everyday anymore. We have decided on split custody. I will be relieved when I don't have to put up with her lying, cheating, or just flat out lack of responsibility for her own actions. I had been...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jul 18, 2015

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 10 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    Day 10.... He has been leaving the house lots.

    Not really telling me where he is going but leaving and not home till after work. My mind races at the idea he may be seeing someone else. It's hard to shut those thoughts off. Needless to say I finally gave in and called the doctor he wants to see me next week. Likely I will...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 11 Responses Jan 14

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    I've concluded today

    that quitting smoking is harder than quitting my STBX. Darn. Will try again tomorrow.
    GrantGeek GrantGeek 46-50, F 12 Responses Sep 10, 2015

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 38 Responses Feb 5, 2015

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    Moved out of the house today with the little

    one. Its strange because I am not as upset leaving my partner behind. But I am very heartbroken leaving my marital home which holds lots of goals, plans for learning and striving, dreams of growing. It is my safe haven. Having to leave is hard but having to start over is harder...
    majesticsea majesticsea 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    Today is the first time I cried.

    .. Over what?? I'm unsure! He's had a girlfriend for a while (which he doesn't claim) and it suddenly became real to me. (I heard her in the background and she was talking to my kids). I wanted the divorce and I know we don't belong together.... It's just so real now.! He's going...
    AmazinglyBootyful AmazinglyBootyful 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I just realised that the divorce letter I sent

    a few days ago had no stamp. In that haste to get to the post box and being in tears, I wasn't thinking so clearly. How silly. Now I have to write up a new one to get my case open again. I have a supportive family though. My brother printed a new set of forms and placed it on...
    majesticsea majesticsea 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Missing my kids more

    than anything ....
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Tonight is his last night.

    .. It's sad but I know it has to happen. I deserve to be happy and loved unconditionally. 15 years of being together almost everyday... ends tomorrow My kids are not dealing well. I'm supporting them and going to be there for them. Lots and lots of love...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 26

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Mar 5, 2015

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 79 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 21

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    The grass is always greener on the other side,

    because it's fertilized with bullshit 😂
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 21, 2015

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    We had the "talk" last night.

    I am both excited and fearful, since I do not like change. Next few months are going to be very awkward and difficult.
    okaysowhatnow okaysowhatnow 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 21

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    Divorce is over on the 16 February,

    my wife imposed celibacy from day one,unless she was in the mood,about once every 3 years, she wouldn't work and help me support the house,it all fell on my shoulders,she pulled her share of nasty dirty tricks over the years, but I no she wouldn't change,just I'm mourning the...
    deg1965 deg1965 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Nights are the worst.

    I have no tv or Internet. Spend my time on my phone. Soul searching. I know I've made the right choice. I can't be in a loveless marriage with domestic violence even if I am alone. I deserve better than that. I adore and love my muse but she is married. She doesn't know...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    ???? Don't know where I left off.

    He admitted he slept with her and now he is moving out this week. It all came crashing down very fast. Emotionally I am in a place that scares me. It's very hard. Nothing could prepare me for how I feel...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    I just signed a contract on a house

    that will be all my own! I am looking forward to this new independence! My spouse and I have been married for almost 20 years and have three wonderful kiddos but we both know it's time for us to live apart. It is truly a bittersweet time as I look forward to my future yet...
    Islamujer Islamujer 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Day two... I'm going to keep track of this day

    to day so that maybe it can help someone someday. Day one- non stop tears and anger... Day two- Tears thinking back to the old times, anger and fear. I have never been big on change. Life is all about changes. But this will be the biggest change for me yet. There hasn't...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 3

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    Divorce is hard. Missing your kids is by far

    the hardest. Even the constant sibling fighting is hard. I'm learning to live with the loneliness. The quietness of the night. I began to drink to deal with the isolation of my cell. Not the solution. It will get better. Be positive , say my prayers. Hope God will...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    In a few weeks the decree will be final.

    I has been such and intense emotional journey. Not one I ever thought I would take when I got married. But years changed us, and with time marriage became a prison, and a very uncomfortable one. For many years I chose to remain in this unhappy marriage, to be with my children...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 16 Responses Aug 28, 2015

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