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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 29

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    We had our first appt with a mediator yesterday.

    i have to sleep on it a few days to determne what i got out of the meeting...i'm thinking that there is just not enough money to go around and i'll need to work more, borrow money etc...reminding myself that i can create a happy future for myself and my kids. i've felt...
    Gazell Gazell 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    STBX is back in town

    after 2 weeks away spent with his gF. This is going to be a difficult week. The realty of our divorce is setting in for him and he's realizing that he does not get to have his cake and eat it too anymore. I cannot wait for this divorce process to be over. I know it's only going...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 22

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      After many years not with my wife

    as she had took off without a reason, I found out she had been cheating on me. She lied through out the whole marriage and she openly admitted she did not love me. When I had found out about her cheating it was the break I needed to move on with my life. I have been told I am a...
    FrankK70 FrankK70 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 11

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    Found out my soon to be XH is sleeping around.

    ...I wish I didn't care...I don't love him anymore but can't help but feel jealousy....what's wrong with me??? I hate this feeling.....I know I am not in love with him anymore.....feeling so confused right now...idk
    luvhimtoo luvhimtoo 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 4

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    My wife and I have been living a charade

    for a very long time . She doesnt care for me at all, and I dont care at all for her. We have been living in a loveless "marriage" for almost 25 years.
    AllenSeals AllenSeals 61-65, M 2 Responses Sep 22

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    Imagine you want to get a divorce

    because you are in an abusive relationship or because your partner cheats or treats you badly.You can imagine that? Good imagine now you are not allowed by the government to divorce that partner? Impossible you say?Yes it is it's allowed everywhere even in places like North...
    Krist0f Krist0f 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    I have been married for 25 years

    and made the decision to divorce my husband. I lost my identity during my marriage. I cared for the children , home and my husband, but no body cared for me. I always thought that when the tough part of raising the children was over things would get better. They didn't...
    peacefulone1 peacefulone1 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 18

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    My divorce could potentially be final next

    month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be here but that just goes to show that you just never know what can and will happen in your life!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 27

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    I Grew A Pair!

    Friday night, he asked me to join him for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He was already there when I arrived, sad puppy face in place. I got a beer and sat down with him to wait for our table. He started in immediately..."your mom is still coming over for Easter, right?" I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 16 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    I just cant believe it we're going to have our

    2nd Child soon and Now he decides that he does not wants to take the responsibility anymore...Its ok if thats what he wants but if he ever tríes to come back im not going to let him in anymore all i need Now is my daughter and my son i dont need a son of a ***** that does not...
    armywife42 armywife42 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 21-25, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 17 Responses Jul 6

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    Update #13 The last month

    or so has been a bit of a wild ride at times. I've been out of the house for a month now and I probably would have done it sooner if I really knew how much of a relief it was going to be. The remaining boxes I need to unpack are the 6 boxes which contain my CD collection...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 21

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    Me and my wife of 1 year

    and 4 months are getting divorced. one of the big reasons is we are toxic to each other. It is in our best interest to go our separate ways and if later we feel the urge to try again we may do so. I do not feel like that will happen but i cannot say how i will feel in a year.
    anton88 anton88 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 23

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 41-45, M 10 Responses Jan 10

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 5

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    He used to get up every morning

    and say he's going to "work" I'm home with a 3 month old baby. His 6 yo daughter would be at school ******* herself and attention seeking. School calls me to come pick her up. It's winter I have a newborn I have to walk to the school in the snow to pick up this little girl. Once...
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Another day passed. Smiling

    when your words are cutting me viciously inside my chest. My patients and staff giving me compliments and wishes for a happy holiday season. Memory of hurtful words simply erase all compliments. Funny when I decided to leave you , you remembered I am beautiful and smart and...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    We were together for 23 years,

    married for 18. We stuck through it all but 5 years ago we went through a trying family situation. That is when he started shutting me out. I let him be for awhile but when things didn't change, I suggested counselling. He said no. So I stayed and tried to make everyone happy...
    Jensur Jensur 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 17

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    My husband cheated, I kicked him out

    and filed for divorce after the one year separation. He claims he didn't speak to or see his ow after dday. I don't really care either way. He is still trying to win me back. My problem is her! She won't leave me alone! I don't even know her. I gave her one last warning. Now I...
    Yellowanger Yellowanger 41-45, F 25 Responses 3 days ago

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26

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    After a seven-year relationship

    and a marriage barely 1-year old, he emotionally stepped out on me. I believe he was cheating. He never admitted to it, but I believe it more and more every day. I never thought he'd do it to me--not again, not this time. He promised his love to me. He promised that i was the...
    rememberyouarenotalone rememberyouarenotalone 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 2

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    His phone is cut off again!

    !!! Can't even pay his bills and he wants a life with me?!! I'm building! Your shutting down.
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    Okay - I am recently divorced

    and still easing into how to communicate with my ex and children, who are actually young adults. My ex seems to be having remorse about our Judgement and feels she was shafted and is pleading poverty. We both were screwed, so I don't by that. I recently purchased a motorcycle...
    Waldonova Waldonova 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 10

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    I am 25 years old and I believed

    that I was in a loving marriage. My parents came to visit Saturday and everything was fine. Sunday morning she left, took my car, emptied my bank account, shut off the utilities. She never told me she was leaving. The only word I got was from her mother. I lost everything. I had...
    danielkclayton danielkclayton 22-25, M 6 Responses Sep 15

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 25 Responses Mar 31

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    How to survive a divorce by MrHeartaFire 1)talk

    to God by begging, pleading , wailing, crying,swearing, yelling, getting mad 2)get same said God to hold you still like a crying shaking boy till you are wrapped in peace that edges out the pain by just a hair 3)drink good booze 4)make sure your friends share booze and love you...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 30

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 11 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    if there is some super secrete way to handle

    going threw a divorce and all the crazy stuff that comes with it please let me know! i feel like i am going to explode with all the stuff i keep finding out. so as of right now, i am just either angry or numb to it all. i think i have wasted all of my tears on him while we...
    kelkel09 kelkel09 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 25

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 16 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I just filed for divorce today.

    This event reminds of all my life's failures, and makes me really reevaluate things
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 10

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    I know the pain the anguish of going through

    such. The feeling of inadequacy of failure that you are worthless broken damaged. Self douvts creep in. Feels like one is crumbling. But i have to remind myself not to allow it to define who I am. Despite having so much taken from me emotionally in other aspects to...
    thebigtexrock thebigtexrock 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 19

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    **Update** Ok so this is a late update,

    but here it goes. I FINALLY got in touch with a great lawyer this past Monday. I went in to talk with him for a while paid my retainer and he gave me homework to do (snoopy snoopy snoopy) I did what I had to do and he filed the divorce papers on Thursday. Now it's a waiting...
    kelkel09 kelkel09 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 13

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    Married for 10 years

    and never really Faught. Seemed like soulmates. All our friends and family were envious of how good we got along. Supported my wife through school, graduated and got a good job and promotion. Then she became distant and one day just said I don't want to be married anymore...
    Rsend Rsend 36-40 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    How do you deal with the pain.

    ..it's what I wanted but now that it's here...it hurts....I guess I wasn't as ready as I thought...I'm a loner so it's hard to reach out to friends when u have very few....how do u move on...everyone says it takes time you will move on....you are stronger than you think....idk...
    luvhimtoo luvhimtoo 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 28

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    I am new here, have been married

    for 28 years, together 32. A life time. He is 12 years older and has always been "the boss of me" I gave away my power and didn't even know I was. Mi thought I was supposed to. The youngest of 3 went off to college this year and that was the icing on the cake. There is just...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 2

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    I can't believe it he has got me into

    so much debt, I have sorted it out only to find he has taken out a loan on our mortgage for 300 months when I tackled him he said there was an error with my credit history. I can't take anymore after 12 years of marriage and being together 17 years and 3 children later trying to...
    wotaday wotaday 46-50, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    When Your Not Picked

    I'll keep this to a 'short' version. I seperated from wife in december and filed for divorce in mid-august. But why? What happens when the one you love(d) develops a problem, and it's a problem they won't get help for? In this case it was drugs and after I lost my job, I realized...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M 13 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Kmek3232 Kmek3232 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    Last night I sat down with my wife to discuss

    the separation. As I described it in previous posts, she had cheated on me and decided to stay with her lover and leave me. We have two kids (both boys - aged 4 and 7), and I'm very concerned about their well-being going forward, as my wife use to shout at them when things are...
    mihamix mihamix 31-35, M 8 Responses Sep 22

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    We have been separated

    for a months. We have both been with other people and I feel certain divorce is the only way . There have been good days where we felt like family , however now we hardly speak or text. I hate the days we fight or call each other names, however the days we do not correspond sure...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 17

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 5

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    He said "If this is how you treat your man,

    you will never be with anyone!" I said: really..? So who's leaving who? Are you leaving me? Him: no Me; so is it really that bad if you want to stay with me? I'm leaving you!!! He's so oblivious to the fact that his immature, irresponsible, ignorant, delusion made me...
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 14

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    Seems like my years for relationships are just

    getting worse and worse. This year would have made 5 years that my husband and I were together. I cheated for a while (mistake #1) and then ended up telling him (mistake #2). Shortly after telling him I found out that we were expecting our 3rd child. Talk about being...
    MyFaithIsBigger MyFaithIsBigger 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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