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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 41-45, F 9 Responses Mar 5

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    Why do I feel guilty to enjoy anything in my

    life right now? Why do I feel guilty when I laugh at a funny movie or to laugh at all for that matter. I think it was because of the years of emotional abuse but I'm not sure.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I was totally blind sighted

    when my husband wanted a divorce. He told me he was in love with someone else. He left to live with her and her children that night and it has been a 5 difficult months. He has said some hateful things and placed all the blame on me. And of course, I take it all in and obsess...
    kdubu kdubu 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    Oh gosh! The mental/emotional energy expended

    to be a "fixed point" that everyone else can count on and thereby enjoy relative stability (even my STBX). Wow! I'd say I'm exhausted, but that would be insultingly understated.
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 49 Responses Feb 5

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    Since yesterday me and my wife have finally

    agreed on divorce. We will most likely file next week
    anton88 anton88 26-30, M 5 Responses Apr 2

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    Just moved out last month.

    It was my decision. After 18 years together! I was only 17, 18 when we moved in together! My son is with him today. Sitting here in the porch a little lonely. I have never been on my own. Not sure what to do..
    ElaineEr ElaineEr 31-35 1 Response Apr 11

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    Mediation is set for next week,

    and while I love where I live and am excited about where my life is going, I am emotional about the upcoming changes in my life. So many changes - my marriage is near dissolved, my pretty home is but a memory, my father is gone, I miss my dogs and I need a garden to dig into...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 21

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    It's just not soon enough.

    After being the best husband a man could honestly be I got left behind for some dude who is 10 years my junior and a mini version of me but he's, as she calls herself and he, a wog. I don't care where you come from or who you are. Marriage to me was sacred and to be forever. I'm...
    goodman72 goodman72 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    Learned from a dear friend

    and colleague that STBX is in Mexico. I hope this means he is moving forward and not focusing on how I ruined his former life by agreeing to, then pursuing, divorce. I located most of the paperwork my attorney requested, and then some. She and I are phone conferencing at 3:00...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    My attorney sent me paperwork in preparation to

    the scheduled mediation. STBX got an appraisal of the marital home. Lo and behold, it appraised for $75K less than the appraisal done July 2014. My attorney wants me to call the STBX's bluff and offer to buy the home at the reduced rate, minus the repairs he has listed. I also...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    I did it I finally divorced my husband he is

    the most intertwined *** hole Yay me 8 years over
    Fire0007 Fire0007 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 21

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    I know I want to start over.

    I need to start over. I have all these perfectly well laid plans and I'm not sure if I am lacking the know how or the courage to take the first step.
    geekygirl2 geekygirl2 26-30, F 10 Responses Feb 26

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    It's probably quite typical

    that both parties see themselves as being harmed far more than they harmed the other. In my situation, I'm confident that my STBX sees her affair as "small crackers" compared to the ways I was cluelessly hurting her feelings over a long period of time. There's nothing I can do...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 20

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    I hate the idea of telling the kids what's soon

    to happen. I hate it. They're such happy, such well-adjusted people. I hate the thought of bringing pain into their life. I hate it with a white-hot hatred. I hate the pain, anger, disappointment, disillusionment, sadness, confusion and hurt that will wash over them when we talk...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 23

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    no it's not that i found someone else.

    i haven't been married too long but my marriage was over before we started we were too naive to think we could put everything behind. right night she's very impatient. irritated by anything and always cussing me and calling name. nothing to fight for no kids, no love, and it's...
    wonderingmind2 wonderingmind2 22-25, F Mar 29

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 17

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    The Afterlife This is

    so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own knowing no one in most of the new circles I'm checking out. I attend a divorced/separated support group meeting once a week...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    The fight and arguing with my soon the be ex

    husband has escalated again today and I don't know how to make it stop. He doesn't work and hasn't for the past year. He chooses not to work even though he is capable of working. I went to get groceries and things today only to find my bank card was declined. I called the bank...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    Although I left my x 7 years ago.

    I'm not divorced yet. I literally got fed up with his games. At first he wanted custody and alimony. Which I found hilarious. The girls refused to even speak to him and I barely made enough to support myself let alone pay him. Then he lied to the courts. He said he did...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 21

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Saw my best friend today

    for lunch. We hunkered down outside in the drizzle so she could smoke. I have been hiding from her. A mutual friend... I wasn't sure what she would think. Why don't I trust her more... She asked me what the grounds would be. I laughed. She knows nothing of divorce...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    He said me leaving has opened his eyes

    and made him become a better person. He only feels bad that I won't come back to receive the benefits of the new him. Oh, so you're telling me you're not still completely full of yourself? hahahahaha. right. When I told him to look up narcissistic personality disorder, he...
    klady23 klady23 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    Sundays are tough, but Easter is murder.

    It's the anniversary of when my STBX met her lover at a church service (not the one I was serving in) and my whole world fell apart. Easter is supposed to be a joyous time celebrating life, and maybe someday it will be for me again. But right now, it's a anniversary of death...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 6 Responses Apr 5

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    How does it go from what was

    once an ironclad team to two individuals unsure about the motives of the other? How does a paragon of oneness morph into suspicion and uncertainty? How does it start that you cannot imagine being apart to not imagining being together? These are rhetorical questions, of course...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 10

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 18 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    My husband and I have agreed to this.

    I hope that he means what he says about it not being my fault. I hope that we can remain best friends. I love him and that will never change
    dmanton dmanton 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    My husband of 7 years filed

    for divorce 2 weeks ago, I have a 3 year old, no job and no savings. Although I knew we had problems, this was a surprise! I think he's cheating, there are so many signs. I just can't believe he is breaking us up! I feel so alone
    ssd4 ssd4 46-50, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    I have been going through a divorce

    for a little over a year. The Judge made my ex move out. He has not been in the house for 5 days and 3 nights. After 13 years of living with a chain around my neck I feel like I can breathe again. I feel relief. My whole body is relaxed. I'm walking around with a smile on my...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 27

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    I laughed. My old landlady kept ringing me

    yesterday. I kept looking at it thinking either he has hurt himself or he hasn't paid the rent. Either way I couldn't allow the chaos to intrude on my already frantic day. I needed to operate and function amongst the **** storm of my day at work and the hideousness of buying a...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 27

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    I'm getting a divorce.

    How silly to say I didn't think this would happen. I thought my husbands intimacy issues would disappear. I thought me having an affair would not affect us. I became a cold hard woman. I was angry. I thought I was entitled to passion. In the midst of passion I ignored my husband...
    Zoe82 Zoe82 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 19

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I am getting a divorce

    and don't know where to start. I think things could work out if we tried but there's somone else. Should I go through with it or wait till this infatuation runs it's course?
    Poeticman Poeticman 36-40, M 5 Responses Apr 19

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