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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    So he left Tuesday...

    . what a long week this has been for both me and our children. Lots of tears, hugs and behaviour issues. It's the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. He has come to see the kids almost everyday which is more than he has seen them in months. We can't really speak when he...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 29

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    Good news? I think it's over.

    In true lawyer fashion, mine just called me at 5:00 PM (on Friday) to tell me I have to be at court for the final hearing first thing Monday morning. I'll be glad to get this over with. It was an excruciating process. The guilt, the sadness, the effects on my kids...
    DefineItFromNow DefineItFromNow 41-45, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Lots of crying alone tonight with the little

    one by my side. This is the last straw I tell myself of the shouting and the physical violence. I can't destroy the little one's innocence watching our heatedness. I took the already written divorce papers I prepared so many months ago from my drawer and went out in haste to...
    majesticsea majesticsea 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Well he finally said it.

    Years of rejection, emotional abuse he finally said it. We have young children... I'm terrified... The future is uncertain.... I am a mess.... But I have hope.... Hope of being happy and loved and cherished. In the end holding it together for your kids isn't enough...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 2

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Mar 5, 2015

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 14 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    You have to free yourself from the sadness,

    hate, anger , resentment and petty emotions. Only there can you truly free yourself to be loved. For it is in that state - where you can truly find love and be loved for how you need to be.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 21

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    Day three in my apartment.

    Cooked for myself for the first time. I'm learning to date myself and love myself again. It's taking some adjusting but I am strong. I'm also an amazing cook!!!!!!
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    Wow. What a ride. I started posting

    that I was in love with another woman. Then I wrote that I wanted a divorce. Then I had I think I am getting one. And now I am getting one. I won't for a minute pretend that there is any advice here to be given, but I am so grateful that I told my wife that we were through...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 7 Responses Jun 9, 2015

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    Day 10.... He has been leaving the house lots.

    Not really telling me where he is going but leaving and not home till after work. My mind races at the idea he may be seeing someone else. It's hard to shut those thoughts off. Needless to say I finally gave in and called the doctor he wants to see me next week. Likely I will...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 11 Responses Jan 14

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    I realized for the first time in some 18 years

    I won't have a lover in my life anymore. Although it's sad and it makes me feel like I am missing something. I do realize what a special person I am. Somewhere there is a woman that is missing out on Valentine's Day. I am such a beautiful person and a woman's dream come...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 23

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    I just signed a contract on a house

    that will be all my own! I am looking forward to this new independence! My spouse and I have been married for almost 20 years and have three wonderful kiddos but we both know it's time for us to live apart. It is truly a bittersweet time as I look forward to my future yet...
    Islamujer Islamujer 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Moved out of the house today with the little

    one. Its strange because I am not as upset leaving my partner behind. But I am very heartbroken leaving my marital home which holds lots of goals, plans for learning and striving, dreams of growing. It is my safe haven. Having to leave is hard but having to start over is harder...
    majesticsea majesticsea 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 10 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    The uncertainty. The fear.

    The door I have to go through. The hourglass flipped upside down sitting on a shelf telling me how much longer before I can heal. Will I ever heal? Am I loveable? Will I be alone? Fear? Rejection ? My kids will she be ok to them? Missing my kids... Their faces asking...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 20

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    Day two... I'm going to keep track of this day

    to day so that maybe it can help someone someday. Day one- non stop tears and anger... Day two- Tears thinking back to the old times, anger and fear. I have never been big on change. Life is all about changes. But this will be the biggest change for me yet. There hasn't...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 3

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    Today is the first time I cried.

    .. Over what?? I'm unsure! He's had a girlfriend for a while (which he doesn't claim) and it suddenly became real to me. (I heard her in the background and she was talking to my kids). I wanted the divorce and I know we don't belong together.... It's just so real now.! He's going...
    AmazinglyBootyful AmazinglyBootyful 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    ???? Don't know where I left off.

    He admitted he slept with her and now he is moving out this week. It all came crashing down very fast. Emotionally I am in a place that scares me. It's very hard. Nothing could prepare me for how I feel...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    In a few weeks the decree will be final.

    I has been such and intense emotional journey. Not one I ever thought I would take when I got married. But years changed us, and with time marriage became a prison, and a very uncomfortable one. For many years I chose to remain in this unhappy marriage, to be with my children...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 16 Responses Aug 28, 2015

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    We had the "talk" last night.

    I am both excited and fearful, since I do not like change. Next few months are going to be very awkward and difficult.
    okaysowhatnow okaysowhatnow 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 21

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    In the tears , that sacred absence of love.

    My eyes bleed past my youth. In the darkness my poison sheds from my soul. I can't leave the light on to see it. I just want to bleed alone isolated and protect myself from others. Let my poison be my own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Missing my kids more

    than anything ....
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Day 7.... As we head in to the weekend.

    .. his first solo weekend with the kids I am a wreck. How do I spend time away from my children. How do I get used to this? I'm alone in my thoughts.... I can't let this destroy me. I need to use this time to become strong to find the inner me. But for this very moment I miss...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 9

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 79 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    It's been a week now

    since I moved into my apartment. The first thing I've noticed is my utter loneliness. I feel like the guy from the Martian planting potatoes on another planet. As funny as it sounds I find it ironic that I am now talking to myself. When I eat dinner I hear the cars on the...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    She moved on and I feel sorry

    for you because she overlooked your flaws, your temper, your selfishness, your inability to love anyone but yourself.   She could have anyone in the world but she still chose you every time.  All you are now is a crease in...
    ImKeepinItReal ImKeepinItReal 41-45, F 7 Responses Aug 20, 2015

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 38 Responses Feb 5, 2015

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I filed for divorce a year

    and a half ago, and my H has finally come to the table with his demands for the divorce. He wants to cause me as much pain as possible by taking as much money away from me as he can. It's despicable. And all because I just wanted someone to cherish me and make me feel like I...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 56-60, F 16 Responses Nov 21, 2015

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    Today I move into my own apartment.

    Restart my life all over again. A lot of emotions going thru me. Some are suppressed some are held back. Terrified and scared. Mixed with happy. I feel like a Christmas tree mixed in emotions
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 9 Responses Jan 29

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 21

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    After 11 years of marriage I am getting a

    divorce. The part that hurts the most is that I won't get to see my 3 kids everyday anymore. We have decided on split custody. I will be relieved when I don't have to put up with her lying, cheating, or just flat out lack of responsibility for her own actions. I had been...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jul 18, 2015

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    Split my first paycheck with my soon to be

    ex-wife. I didn't feel bad about it. I just hope she takes care of the kids
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Divorce is over on the 16 February,

    my wife imposed celibacy from day one,unless she was in the mood,about once every 3 years, she wouldn't work and help me support the house,it all fell on my shoulders,she pulled her share of nasty dirty tricks over the years, but I no she wouldn't change,just I'm mourning the...
    deg1965 deg1965 46-50, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 10 Responses Apr 17, 2015

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 31-35 215 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet 41-45, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    The grass is always greener on the other side,

    because it's fertilized with bullshit 😂
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 21, 2015

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    He is packing for his exit tomorrow.

    The min he walks out life changes forever. I'm scared.... But a small part of me is beginning to realize I deserve more... There is hope... Hope for new beginnings, adventures and happiness. Its been years since we have been normal. Life has to go on.... No matter what it...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 10 Responses Jan 25

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    I was scared and terrified

    and sad. But I am so happy excited and relieved to be out of it . It's like a huge weight lifted from the bottom of the ocean I was connected to. Now I'm soaring upward with a huge smile on my face. I am glad I am not 60 and only 41 to be exiting
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 27

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    Tonight is his last night.

    .. It's sad but I know it has to happen. I deserve to be happy and loved unconditionally. 15 years of being together almost everyday... ends tomorrow My kids are not dealing well. I'm supporting them and going to be there for them. Lots and lots of love...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 26

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