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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Feeling kind of helpless.

    I'm so tired. My eyes, face and body. I don't know where I'm going in life. I'm excited for the journey that is in front of me. Also scared. When my divorce is final I will be able to take the first step into my new beginning. Wish me luck but most of all wish me strength. I'm...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 30

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    Well the divorce is almost finalized.

    Can't wait to be done with all of this and move on.
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    I hate the idea of telling the kids what's soon

    to happen. I hate it. They're such happy, such well-adjusted people. I hate the thought of bringing pain into their life. I hate it with a white-hot hatred. I hate the pain, anger, disappointment, disillusionment, sadness, confusion and hurt that will wash over them when we talk...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 23

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 47 Responses Feb 5

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    It's just not soon enough.

    After being the best husband a man could honestly be I got left behind for some dude who is 10 years my junior and a mini version of me but he's, as she calls herself and he, a wog. I don't care where you come from or who you are. Marriage to me was sacred and to be forever. I'm...
    goodman72 goodman72 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 14

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    It's probably quite typical

    that both parties see themselves as being harmed far more than they harmed the other. In my situation, I'm confident that my STBX sees her affair as "small crackers" compared to the ways I was cluelessly hurting her feelings over a long period of time. There's nothing I can do...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 20

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    Although I left my x 7 years ago.

    I'm not divorced yet. I literally got fed up with his games. At first he wanted custody and alimony. Which I found hilarious. The girls refused to even speak to him and I barely made enough to support myself let alone pay him. Then he lied to the courts. He said he did...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 9 Responses Apr 21

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    My marriage is ending

    because I want kids and he doesn't. I'm lucky that things are staying friendly but I feel like a failure cause there goes 4 years of fighting and struggling to make everything work but in the end I am moving back home with nothing but the stuff I came out to WA with.
    Rhisk89 Rhisk89 22-25, F 5 Responses May 9

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Oh gosh! The mental/emotional energy expended

    to be a "fixed point" that everyone else can count on and thereby enjoy relative stability (even my STBX). Wow! I'd say I'm exhausted, but that would be insultingly understated.
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M May 4

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I want a divorce but I also don't want a

    divorce. I love him but he hurt me bad. So confusing!
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm starting to hit that phase

    where I worry what my kids think of me. Once upon a time I trusted my wife, thought I knew her, gave the benefit of the doubt. Never, ever, ever believed she was capable of saying anything bad about me to others - especially not the kids. But once you find out you don't know...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 6 Responses May 8

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    I had mediation yesterday.

    My 45th birthday. I was hoping for a good birthday present, and I got it! I'm emotionally and physically exhausted.
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 3 Responses May 1

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    You all who gave me advice were right about my

    husband. He still wants the divorce and admitted to proposing to that girl. He said its because I got rid of him. Obviously that is not true. He left. Maybe things weren't perfect, but I have tried to make things better. Now I am going to be a single mom with three kids with...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 4 Responses May 13

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    Learned from a dear friend

    and colleague that STBX is in Mexico. I hope this means he is moving forward and not focusing on how I ruined his former life by agreeing to, then pursuing, divorce. I located most of the paperwork my attorney requested, and then some. She and I are phone conferencing at 3:00...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I am getting a divorce

    but I want to keep her around. We're not compatible in anything but sex. I've tried various ways of explaining that to her but, she insists on staying married even though my mind and heart is not into her. I know when the papers come in she will be crushed, that's a given. But...
    chickenandribs chickenandribs 31-35, M 3 Responses May 6

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    I've just learned today

    that my wife of less than three years is going to file for divorce. We have been separated for two months, went to three counseling sessions and this is the final result. I'm lost. I don't want to be divorced. This feels like a nightmare. We don't have children which is a good...
    Stephen73 Stephen73 41-45, M 3 Responses May 11

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    I am getting a divorce

    and don't know where to start. I think things could work out if we tried but there's somone else. Should I go through with it or wait till this infatuation runs it's course?
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 19

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    My husband of 7 years filed

    for divorce 2 weeks ago, I have a 3 year old, no job and no savings. Although I knew we had problems, this was a surprise! I think he's cheating, there are so many signs. I just can't believe he is breaking us up! I feel so alone
    ssd4 ssd4 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 30

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    My husband and I are in the process of getting

    a divorce through mediation. I am the one who asked for the divorce. Every since our wedding two years ago, our marriage steadily decreased in the affection, communication, and sex department...all the basic fundamentals of marriage. After being physically rejected time and...
    Alili2124 Alili2124 26-30, F 3 Responses May 13

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 12 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I think my divorce is going to trial.

    After 5 sessions of mediation, 2 sessions with the judge he still won't agree to the most basic terms. Mediator and the Judge have been on our side the whole time. My lawyers are now preparing me. I have a very good chance of winning because I'm not asking anymore than what is...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8

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    I did it I finally divorced my husband he is

    the most intertwined *** hole Yay me 8 years over
    Fire0007 Fire0007 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    So finally we are getting a divorce.

    I found out he cheated 4 years ago while I was pregnant after having gone through a year of infertility treatments to have our child and the truth is the divorce has been coming since then. He barely showed any remorse at his action and has made little effort since. And i just...
    jazzybelle53 jazzybelle53 36-40, F 7 Responses May 7

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    Actually got divorced 3.

    5 years ago and still struggling with it. She completely surprised me with the divorce. And she has made my life unbearable hell since then. She's taken me back to court 2x since the divorce for frivolous things. She keeps me out of my kids life which is what hurts the most. I...
    dawalace dawalace 51-55, M 3 Responses May 13

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    SJS15 SJS15 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    My attorney sent me paperwork in preparation to

    the scheduled mediation. STBX got an appraisal of the marital home. Lo and behold, it appraised for $75K less than the appraisal done July 2014. My attorney wants me to call the STBX's bluff and offer to buy the home at the reduced rate, minus the repairs he has listed. I also...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 17

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 26-30, F 16 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    Why do I feel guilty to enjoy anything in my

    life right now? Why do I feel guilty when I laugh at a funny movie or to laugh at all for that matter. I think it was because of the years of emotional abuse but I'm not sure.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 28

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