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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Robin Thicke is killing me!

    !!!!!! I wish my ex would try that hard to get me back. :(
    formermartin81 formermartin81 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    I cried a lot the past 2 days.

    Where do these tears keep coming from, why won't they stop?
    formermartin81 formermartin81 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 1

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    This hurts worse than anything else I have

    experienced. I wouldn't want anyone else going through the stuff I have gone through since this started. How does the person who proclaimed their undying love until death do they part becomes the worse person? I don't understand why my husband is being a complete jerk now...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 3

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    Well it's been a year

    now since I started my new life alone and now the divorce process is starting. We have a legal separation in place and so I am hoping the divorce goes smoothly and amicably as well. I can't say I'm thrilled to be an almost divorcee but I know it is the best thing for me. I have...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    Got the decree today

    and feeling relieved.
    itismehello itismehello 46-50, M 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Well we are going to go file the paperwork

    today. This will probably be the last time I see her. I know I will never see my stepdaughter again. I am kind of torn on this. I am very sad that I am losing both of them. I am sad that she felt like we couldn't work it out. That she felt like I wasn't worth keeping. I...
    JDub78 JDub78 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 18

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    My divorce could potentially be final next

    month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be here but that just goes to show that you just never know what can and will happen in your life!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 27

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 29

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    2nd night in my home.

    I am getting a divorce. My son is 7 and is not doing so well, I feel like such a horrible parent, he is so sad, I don't know what to do or say
    landen24 landen24 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 29

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Update #10 Today I put in the request to stop

    the electrical service as well as change the responsible party on the cable bill. Outside the mortgage, the only regular bill with my name on it is the water bill. Sometime this month, I'm moving out. I spoke to a former neighbor of mine and he has a place he's renting out as...
    IU74 IU74 36-40, M Jun 30

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    My wife putting on face book 2 finger saying

    divorce party and haha I payed for her holiday *** u and grow up
    gsejam gsejam 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I am getting a divorce

    and I am sad, everyday. :(
    formermartin81 formermartin81 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 28

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    One Week To Go

    A week from now I will have finished with my final divorce hearing and will be out to dinner with a friend of mine (a female friend, just so you know :) ). I am trying to picture what it will feel like at the end of the hearing when we walk out--pretty much finished with each...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26

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    Tommorow is the day I have my final divorce

    hearing so freaking excited!! It's been a long time coming, my ex is already posting pictures of his new girlfriend who was a bridesmaid on my wedding! Can't wait got my bumper sticker ready to go!!
    Submissivekitten1982 Submissivekitten1982 31-35, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    When Your Not Picked

    I'll keep this to a 'short' version. I seperated from wife in december and filed for divorce in mid-august. But why? What happens when the one you love(d) develops a problem, and it's a problem they won't get help for? In this case it was drugs and after I lost my job, I realized...
    amodelcitizen amodelcitizen 36-40, M 13 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 18 Responses Jul 6

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    This is so sad...over 3000 people.

    I'm sorry everyone :( unless you're really dancing around and happy about it. Another reason why I don't want to get married. Cause I never want to go through a divorce. I've already seen one Nasty divorce fight, and that was enough!
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    Is it normal to reflect on the past

    and get melachony about the plans you had with your ex? Even if you no longer love them.
    itismehello itismehello 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 25

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 12 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I am new here, have been married

    for 28 years, together 32. A life time. He is 12 years older and has always been "the boss of me" I gave away my power and didn't even know I was. Mi thought I was supposed to. The youngest of 3 went off to college this year and that was the icing on the cake. There is just...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 2

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    Not My Idea

    Yes, it's true. I am getting a divorce, but it wasn't my idea, although it should have been. I can't say that the thought didn't cross my mind numerous times, and in the course of ten years, that's a lot. The fact that I have been living in a sexless marriage for most of the last...
    m00nmeister m00nmeister 56-60, M 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    God never helped me w my divorce I miss my

    husband more and more . It's been almost 1 year since are split . Never said good bye never saw U again . I miss you . And now I found out your having a baby . I'm here in the same pain maybe more . Have headaches . What should I do ? To end this feeling 💔
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    So last Thursday The wife came home

    and told me that she had been out of love with me for sometime and that she wanted to separate and Divorce. I was sad but also happy because my vows are finally absolved. Time to go out and have some fun been to long.
    Foxfire699 Foxfire699 36-40, M 7 Responses Jul 15

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    BrainTumor BrainTumor 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 8 Responses May 17, 2013

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    Another day passed. Smiling

    when your words are cutting me viciously inside my chest. My patients and staff giving me compliments and wishes for a happy holiday season. Memory of hurtful words simply erase all compliments. Funny when I decided to leave you , you remembered I am beautiful and smart and...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Suppose everyone has heard this typical topic

    and blah, blah, blah. That day she told me is so clear and I can still hear it and remember where I was. Long story short, I have had mild depression through out my marriage and obviously I wasn't emotionally there. She changed after we had our daughter too. Anyway about 3...
    jcomnimax jcomnimax 36-40 4 Responses Jun 29

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    After three and a half years of building up a

    relationship with my stepdaughter I am being expected to just walk away. When I first mentioned to my ex that I would like to continue the relationship (friend and male role model) with my stepdaughter, she told me that it was inappropriate. A while later I asked her to just...
    JDub78 JDub78 31-35, M 6 Responses Jul 1

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    I have so much guilt,

    I left my husband (I am a female, don't know why it says male)but I am not in love with him. I have a 7 yr old son who is upset. I feel like I should move home just so he can be happy, isn't that what a parent is supposed to do, is sacrifice their own happiness for their child's...
    landen24 landen24 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    I'm frustrated. I'm beating myself up,

    wondering why in the hell I ever married the man I did. We've officially been separated longer now than we were together while married for. I'm getting my divorce pro bono through a legal services grant, but I haven't been getting very great communication with my lawyer. I just...
    HeathenPoet HeathenPoet 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Submissivekitten1982 Submissivekitten1982 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 26 Responses Mar 31

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    A month ago my wife told me she was unhappy

    and had been unhappy since we got married 2 years ago. I tried everything I could think of to try and save our marriage. I went to a counselor but she refused to come with. Then a couple days ago she told me it was over. She will be moving her stuff out this weekend. I...
    JDub78 JDub78 31-35, M 8 Responses Jun 26

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    Things are so confusing,

    I must figure it out
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    This week I finally get the date of my final

    divorce hearing, I've started seeing a man he's so opposite of my ex and I am happy plus he likes my son as well, there is light at the end of this tunnel after all..
    Submissivekitten1982 Submissivekitten1982 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 21-25, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    The discussion I had with her yesterday went

    as smooth as I could ever imagine. I talked about her moving out, her getting her things and not being without. We talked about the kids schedules and how the school schedule will work out. We discussed the fact that they won't get uprooted from this house and how I'll stay...
    flibsley flibsley 31-35, M 8 Responses Jan 15

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    So yeah..Ten years and we're done.

    ..... We were both so sick, it needed to happen...... I feel so two sided........Happy, sad.... Relieved, worried..... Angry,sentimental...... Lonely,scared,hurt,abandoned,left for dead. I feel I tried so hard, I know I did........ Yet still feel like a failure......I hate myself...
    strongspine300 strongspine300 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    Since all this stuff started with my husband,

    I have become jaded, irritated and angry. I just can't see myself living like this for the next 50 years. The kids are going to have their lives dictated by 22 pages of a divorce settlement until each are 18 years of age. Their free will is gone, and that makes me so mad...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 24

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    I wonder if anyone here has gone to a homeless

    shelter or a women's or men's shelter. I also wonder how many women decided to stay with their spouse for years because financially it seemed impossible to leave with their child or children? I want to read stories about women/men who left their significant other with only...
    lisaandshasta123 lisaandshasta123 41-45 2 Responses Jul 23

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    So heart broken. I had my plan,

    waited a long ******* time. Patient, graceful and kind. Then I learn of some financial crap. That along with my mom situation ( living in my rental which I have to sell if I do the big d) ugh I don't know how I can do it. I am ****** and not in a good way. I stay and things get...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 22

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I Grew A Pair!

    Friday night, he asked me to join him for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He was already there when I arrived, sad puppy face in place. I got a beer and sat down with him to wait for our table. He started in immediately..."your mom is still coming over for Easter, right?" I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 17 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    So, Divorce...

    Just saying the word divorce leaves a bad taste in ones mouth, doesn't it? My impending divorce has been inevitable for (3!) years now and the reality of the situation is still eluding me I think. We met in high school, and pretty much stayed together for 17 years. Of course it...
    Sbgf225 Sbgf225 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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