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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    feistccaa feistccaa 26-30, F Jun 10

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    I am so confused. He told me he didn't want to

    be alone anymore. I'm right here how can you be alone? I'm trying to talk to him and do things with him. He seems interested and then turns around and won't. I can't handle the mood swings anymore. Either be with me or get the divorce because this is killing me. He wanted...
    isolatedgirl77 isolatedgirl77 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 12

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    I wrote on this site a couple of weeks ago

    and now I really screwed up. I pride myself on being an honest person and one who does not talk about someone behind their backs. I've been so upset about my situation and needed to talk to someone. I talked to a couple of my friends who have been through a divorce with...
    isolatedgirl77 isolatedgirl77 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 10

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    jamiacc11 jamiacc11 26-30, F Jun 15

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 45 Responses Feb 5

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    I'm suffering quite a bit.

    I cry every day. I am so worried that no one will love me in the future. I am doing good by continuing to go to work, but once I am alone, I feel like I fall apart. I pray to God for help daily. My therapist says I'm not ready for a new relationship because I am still so...
    sheepysleepy sheepysleepy 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 8

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    I had to beg and plead to have my daughters

    with me today. That's not okay. I don't understand how someone can be so cruel and try to tell children that they are not loved and that's why I left. It's because of her I've left and we're getting divorced. I love my children.
    bipolarPeter bipolarPeter 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 21

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 21

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    Getting divorced but have to wait till

    January due to money issues so until then we still live in the same house but different bedrooms for 3 years now. I'm so happy he's leaving yet so sad. I've lost 15 lbs in 3 weeks. Can't sleep well either. People have noticed even men but like I really need that right now...
    girlNextdoor7 girlNextdoor7 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 14

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 17 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Strange day today. Started with a huge argument

    over signing the divorce papers. He had already agreed to sign and suddenly had a problem with paying the kids health insurance. That turned into a whole argument about how unfair it was that I was leaving and not giving him another chance (after 20 years of so many chances I...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 19

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    First Friday night with no family "pizza night"

    and I am bored out of my skull! Too tired to go for bicycle or motorcycle ride, or to the gym. She took more stuff while I was at work today... the laundry detergent (gone when I went to throw in some clothes) the milk! Was never a mean husband. Always generous... Thanks...
    MAlright MAlright 51-55, M 4 Responses Jun 19

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    Today marks 12 years of marriage.

    I really hoped the divorce would be final before now. I didn't want to celebrate another anniversary. ( not that there will be any celebration ) I was anxious about today... But sticking to the advice from those that love me, " it's just another day." Shopping and lunch with a...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 11 Responses Apr 17

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    I returned from seeing my lawyer today.

    The revised agreement appears to be all in order. I still don't understand why it took a little over three years in the making. Hell!!! Any normal person would tire of beating the same dead horse after a while. But I stood my ground and she finally agreed. So now I wait till she...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 46-50, M 4 Responses Jun 9

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    This is probably the loneliest I have ever been.

    Will this ever get any better? Seems like not only did I lose a husband but my whole social life as well. Anyone else feeling this way?
    Jennapop Jennapop 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 13

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    SJS15 SJS15 36-40, F 24 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    Moved out. Starting fresh again.

    No more being treated like a second-class citizen. Here's to getting my life back.
    bipolarPeter bipolarPeter 31-35, M 5 Responses Jun 7

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Although I left my x 7 years ago.

    I'm not divorced yet. I literally got fed up with his games. At first he wanted custody and alimony. Which I found hilarious. The girls refused to even speak to him and I barely made enough to support myself let alone pay him. Then he lied to the courts. He said he did...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 21

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    16 and 21 are out of house.

    I'm alone and listening to a steady rain. Have gone through bouts of anger and sadness today. Feeling like an appendage (my daily companion) has been amputated. Wondering where a 51 y.o. guy meets people.
    MAlright MAlright 51-55, M 4 Responses Jun 20

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    barbracc11 barbracc11 26-30, F Jun 12

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    So today I met my ex's new boyfriend.

    Kind of pissed me off that she brought him along when I picked up our daughter without discussing it first but that's her style. I'm happy she's moving along but bringing a new man to our biweekly meetings was in poor taste. At least that was my thought any way
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 6 Responses Jun 14

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    I have moved out into an apartment with the

    kids. I am supposed to be feeling better. He verbally, mentally and emotionally abused me for almost 20 years. I needed to get out I know that. But this loneliness and sadness sucks. I try to get out as much as possible but it's only worse when I come back. This is my lonely...
    timetobeme14 timetobeme14 41-45, F 9 Responses Jun 20

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 26-30, F 16 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    Maybe they should make people sign the same

    amount of paperwork for a marriage as they do divorce. It'll make you think really hard about it.
    dontgitbit dontgitbit 26-30, M 4 Responses Jun 12

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Who has lost a lot of weight

    because of stress from your divorce? I'm thin to begin with however I've lost a lot a weight. Family members are starting to say things to me like. "You need to eat more" or "please take care of yourself." "Your losing too much weight." Please tell me other people are going...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 15 Responses Jun 11

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    I am going through a divorce

    after 15 years of....a sick marriage with two young kids age 7 and 3. There has been a lot of emotional/psychological abuse, control issues, and physical abuse. My mistake was that it took me a few years to see it clearly as something that shouldn't happen, and then more years...
    betweenrockandhardplace betweenrockandhardplace 36-40, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    I'm having a hard time with the loneliness,

    our mutual friends are no longer my friends, that leaves me with like 2 friends. I've been planning to go out with one of them for a week, my only night off and they stood me up. I'm feeling so rejected and sad.
    Jennapop Jennapop 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I think I'm ready for a divorce.

    I can tell my wife is no longer happy. It's getting harder to fix something that's broken.
    Notsosimpletoday Notsosimpletoday 31-35, M 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 19 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Feeling kind of helpless.

    I'm so tired. My eyes, face and body. I don't know where I'm going in life. I'm excited for the journey that is in front of me. Also scared. When my divorce is final I will be able to take the first step into my new beginning. Wish me luck but most of all wish me strength. I'm...
    sweetJerseyGirl sweetJerseyGirl 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 30

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