I Am Getting a Divorce

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    I've concluded today

    that quitting smoking is harder than quitting my STBX. Darn. Will try again tomorrow.
    GrantGeek GrantGeek
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Sep 10, 2015

    My husband and I have been together

    since I was 16 and him 25. We had our first child when I was 19. I started my career shortly after our daughters arrival and have been steadily climbing my career chain. We have been off and on not very stable as our emotions are too stong I thought, he is an amazing father, but...
    lostlake32 lostlake32
    22-25, F
    Mar 25

    I have read many stories here from people

    that have really struggled to find the secure footing within one's own heart to speak those words (some form of "I am filing for divorce"). It's SO hard. I am there right now. I am just the kind of person who finds it very diffuclt to knowingly going in to something that I know...
    HMRypsi61 HMRypsi61
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Mar 25

    So he's been gone 8 weeks.

    ... So you all wonder does it get easier? Parts of it do other parts get harder. It's a cycle. Somedays I wake up feeling ready to conquer the world and other days getting out of bed is still very hard. Just when I think I've got a good handle on things my ex will do something...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 23

    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3
    31-35
    207 Responses Jan 10, 2014

    "I have always loved you

    and I will truly miss you" With that he reared his arm back and throw his hand forward. Out flew a shiny silvery object reflecting against the sunlight. It slowly dropped down and plunked into the water. It sank down into the water as it consumed it. The end of another...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 22

    My divorce hasn't sunk in yet.

    Yesterday I got an email from the lawyer with proof that our divorce is finalized. When you hear the term "it hasn't sunk in yet", that doesn't even begin to describe how I feel. I'm still waiting for him to get home now (because we still live together and I don't know when he...
    GracefulKat GracefulKat
    36-40, F
    Apr 20

    Innocent years turn to innocent tears

    as our dreams fall apart.....
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 22

    My first court date today.

    Sitting outside of court room. I'm scared and nervous. Never been to court for anything.
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Apr 5

    My husband left me for a sugar momma she buys

    him anything and everything he wants. And he does nothing for her. And when she is around my kids she spends ridiculous amounts of money on brand name clothes for them. I guess she's his sugar momma and he's her boy toy. Good gosh how did I ever spend 15 years of my life with...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 23

    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x
    26-30, F
    14 Responses Jul 6, 2014

    So as everyone on here knows my husband left

    and moved in with the woman he had cheated on me with. She has young children herself. He has brought up the kids meeting her but I really do believe it's too soon. So last weekend while I was out with a friend he comes to the house. Takes them and then takes them to his new...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 23

    Mars Sol Day 94 Its been a while

    so I thought I would provide some updates. Mars is a unique place and quite lonely but in its red soil and its quiet discontent there is beauty. A gentle peace has began to calm me every day. I suspect part of it is the lack of confrontation and the happiness that comes with...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    1 Response Apr 4

    My husband and I have been married

    for 7 years. but for the last 3 years or so Its been pretty bad we argued alot and was very draining for me. We were both calling eachother names and I was always Yelling. But he kept holding onto me but this time he approached me so now I feel like It unrepairable anymore. We...
    jaymee127 jaymee127
    31-35
    1 Response Apr 16

    After 11 years of marriage I am getting a

    divorce. The part that hurts the most is that I won't get to see my 3 kids everyday anymore. We have decided on split custody. I will be relieved when I don't have to put up with her lying, cheating, or just flat out lack of responsibility for her own actions. I had been...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Jul 18, 2015

    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Mar 5, 2015

    My ex can kiss my **** I put the peanut butter

    in the fridge. F you!!!!!! LOL
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 17

    So I am 268 run a 9:16 mile

    and I look freaking good .
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 31

    Hi there. I am in my midlife.

    My husband and I just don't love each other, as we should.I have years of pent up resentment towards him.We both have drifted away from one another. I am very overweight.I was thin and trim when I met him.I am not blaming him for my excessive weight gain but...it just shows me...
    BethBrag BethBrag
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Mar 24

    Almost one year later.

    .. I came to this site a couple years ago in order to find some place to express myself.. To share things I'd been through and to find folks who share common interests. In April of last year, my husband and I decided to divorce and it devastated me. I felt like my chest...
    mg75 mg75
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 1

    So a couple of months ago

    as most of you know my husband left me for one of his staff at a warehouse he works at. Up until yesterday they had kept their relationship hidden. Over time his boss started seeing signs of a possible relationship but he had to have enough proof that it was actually going on...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Apr 2

    Day 10.... He has been leaving the house lots.

    Not really telling me where he is going but leaving and not home till after work. My mind races at the idea he may be seeing someone else. It's hard to shut those thoughts off. Needless to say I finally gave in and called the doctor he wants to see me next week. Likely I will...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jan 14

    In a few weeks the decree will be final.

    I has been such and intense emotional journey. Not one I ever thought I would take when I got married. But years changed us, and with time marriage became a prison, and a very uncomfortable one. For many years I chose to remain in this unhappy marriage, to be with my children...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy
    41-45, M
    13 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    I just want to say thank you

    and I love you all for supporting me on this life journey to happiness. It's not been easy at times but every single one of you has impacted my life in one way or another. I can't thank you all enough. I love that so many of you read my poetry writings and various ramblings...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 22

    He is packing for his exit tomorrow.

    The min he walks out life changes forever. I'm scared.... But a small part of me is beginning to realize I deserve more... There is hope... Hope for new beginnings, adventures and happiness. Its been years since we have been normal. Life has to go on.... No matter what it...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jan 25

    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight
    41-45, M
    11 Responses Jul 28, 2013

    It's weird thinking about being single again.

    Hard to believe after sixteen years I will be alone by myself. People say you know why you'll find someone else on the other side. I don't care about that. I am fine with being a loner - lol
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Apr 5

    She moved on and I feel sorry

    for you because she overlooked your flaws, your temper, your selfishness, your inability to love anyone but yourself.   She could have anyone in the world but she still chose you every time.  All you are now is a crease in...
    ImKeepinItReal ImKeepinItReal
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Aug 20, 2015

    I told him I wanted a divorce.

    Deep down it was a lie. He will be happier without me. I need him to hate me so he can be happy without me... when I am out of the picture he will be happy............
    GenineFilS GenineFilS
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 26

    Day two... I'm going to keep track of this day

    to day so that maybe it can help someone someday. Day one- non stop tears and anger... Day two- Tears thinking back to the old times, anger and fear. I have never been big on change. Life is all about changes. But this will be the biggest change for me yet. There hasn't...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jan 3

    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Nov 23, 2013

    He's been gone six weeks.

    .. How did my children and I make it this far. Lots of tears. heart to hearts and snuggles in my bed throughout the night. The house is so quiet at night when the kids go to bed. Life can be lonely. I have plenty of time to think. Plenty of time to focus on me. My house is...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 10

    There is a silver lining to every situation :)

    my friend just sent me this and I had to share!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    I am alone..... and ya know what?

    Its going to be alright. I don't need anyone to make me happy. I just need to make me happy.
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 22

    Mars Sol 77 Didn't sleep much last night.

    I panicked a lot and I am scared. I had a talk with my dad to ask him for financial help to move forward from here. The night before my jaw shook from fear and I was scared. I wanted my old life back and I was just scared of the future. Last night, I slept more than I...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 17

    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Dec 12, 2014

    The grass is always greener on the other side,

    because it's fertilized with bullshit 😂
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Sep 21, 2015

    Anyone go through grieving

    so bad you can't get up your just deeply sad
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Mar 18

    Called my dad tonight.

    Had to ask him for help with my ultimate problem. Finances because of my ex. I thought my worst fear was my ex but my worst fear was that one. When my dad agrees to support me all the rest of my problems seemed less important. I feel like I am moving towards acceptance...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 17

    Tonight is his last night.

    .. It's sad but I know it has to happen. I deserve to be happy and loved unconditionally. 15 years of being together almost everyday... ends tomorrow My kids are not dealing well. I'm supporting them and going to be there for them. Lots and lots of love...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jan 26

    Well he finally said it.

    Years of rejection, emotional abuse he finally said it. We have young children... I'm terrified... The future is uncertain.... I am a mess.... But I have hope.... Hope of being happy and loved and cherished. In the end holding it together for your kids isn't enough...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    12 Responses Jan 2

    Goal achieved : 9.48 min mile Yes!

    ! Did I mention the back doctor told me I would never run again?
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    Mar 21

    Today I was told by my ex

    that she has met a special someone. It was bittersweet in that I was happy for her and hurt that she has moved on. I wish I could say that I have moved on but my life is very much in limbo. The only thing I have when I wake up in the morning is God and at night is God. There...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Apr 19

    It's been two weeks since he walked out of the

    house. Two weeks since I have been a single mom... although if you ask people who are close to me I have been a single mom for much longer. It's just different that he's not here at all. I have had some really hard days. I've cried and screamed. Blamed myself for everything. I...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Feb 11

    Day 7.... As we head in to the weekend.

    .. his first solo weekend with the kids I am a wreck. How do I spend time away from my children. How do I get used to this? I'm alone in my thoughts.... I can't let this destroy me. I need to use this time to become strong to find the inner me. But for this very moment I miss...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jan 9

    I miss you. I know your not here anymore

    but I wish you were. I wonder how your doing and I miss the things you used to say. I miss your funny jokes and your goofy moods. I wish I hadn't hurt you so and I wish you could forgive me but I know You never ever will. I still love you and wish you the best.
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 28

    I filed for divorce a year

    and a half ago, and my H has finally come to the table with his demands for the divorce. He wants to cause me as much pain as possible by taking as much money away from me as he can. It's despicable. And all because I just wanted someone to cherish me and make me feel like I...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2
    56-60, F
    12 Responses Nov 21, 2015

    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge
    46-50, M
    12 Responses Jan 10, 2014

    At work crying. Today was like a hazy dream I

    wish I could have woke up from.
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Apr 5

    Wow. What a ride. I started posting

    that I was in love with another woman. Then I wrote that I wanted a divorce. Then I had I think I am getting one. And now I am getting one. I won't for a minute pretend that there is any advice here to be given, but I am so grateful that I told my wife that we were through...
    DeepXP DeepXP
    36-40
    5 Responses Jun 9, 2015

    I've been told I am controlling

    and manipulative. I hate this because the thing my ex says I am constantly second guessing myself. I am being told things but I don't see myself as them She has done her best to just distance herself from me because she considers me to be manipulative. I feel like she is...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 17

    I'm really struggling tonight.

    I admit I am far from being perfect and contributed to the demise of my marriage. Two years ago I started to fill the voids in my marriage because I couldn't get my partner to emotional respond to me. I became extremely selfish and began drinking and feeling sorry for...
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Mar 19

    Well, it's all very well

    and good. My husband and I are mature adults, and we've been kind to each other over it. I've felt for some time I'm unable to trust him- ever since finding photos of his ex and learning that he talked about my finances to strangers, which I didn't appreciate. Then he was...
    KittensExperiences KittensExperiences
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 23

    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone
    41-45, F
    79 Responses Sep 5, 2008

    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii
    36-40, F
    34 Responses Feb 5, 2015

    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst
    41-45, M
    8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

    Over a year ago I came on here looking

    for help, advice, just wanting to vent about my sexless marriage, aka a "dead bedroom". (See EP Link ) I received a lot of responses, got a lot of advice, and even absorbed some of it! :) For those that may be interested, I did a trial separation in March of this year...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Oct 20, 2015

    9:13 min mile. I weigh 270

    and I'm 42 How about that ?
    AmazingPoet AmazingPoet
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Mar 29

    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone
    41-45, F
    95 Responses Jul 6, 2008
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