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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    I seem tired all the time.

    My default setting is to be happy and smiley, and to be in a good mood. But nowadays the personal and professional pressures are seemingly working together to up the ante, such that a colleague actually disclosed that I "look tired and stressed." That's disconcerting. I don't...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 9

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    The Afterlife This is

    so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own knowing no one in most of the new circles I'm checking out. I attend a divorced/separated support group meeting once a week...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    My divorce is done. What an experience.

    I feel like I've beaten cancer, been to war, lost at sea, and lived to tell about. I loved my wife more than anything on this earth and it was hard letting her go. But man, once I did life became exciting again! There are so many silver linings that I'm standing in awe over...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    WHY why why did you feel you had to crush me

    in order to realise your dreams? You tell me you are ill and that I am abandoning you when you are so ill. But is that an excuse to hurt and abuse me? You crushed me, took everything I had to offer you but it was never enough. You almost extinguished the light inside of me...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 41-45, F 8 Responses Mar 5

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    I laughed. My old landlady kept ringing me

    yesterday. I kept looking at it thinking either he has hurt himself or he hasn't paid the rent. Either way I couldn't allow the chaos to intrude on my already frantic day. I needed to operate and function amongst the **** storm of my day at work and the hideousness of buying a...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I have been with a mentally abusive person

    for 14 years. It was hidden well because I wanted everyone to think I had a great marriage. . He would only act that way to me when no one else was around. Also when other people were around he would be super nice. How will I ever love and trust anyone again?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    My spouse and I own a home

    and land together for many years. Going through this divorce, yesterday, he had locked me out. Someone please help me as he is also mentally and physically abusive. Locking me out is part of the "mental" abuse I believe. What are my rights?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 12 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I didn't know my husband.

    I thought I did. I thought I had been his best friend. I was utterly wrong. It turns out it was all a lie. When I first met him being around him was as easy as breathing. Loving him effortless. He made me laugh at myself, he was fun, creative, a people person. Life had...
    grommit3 grommit3 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 20

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    I was totally blind sighted

    when my husband wanted a divorce. He told me he was in love with someone else. He left to live with her and her children that night and it has been a 5 difficult months. He has said some hateful things and placed all the blame on me. And of course, I take it all in and obsess...
    kdubu kdubu 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    You can't just love me!

    And not be able to tolerate my my children...I knew these emotions were coming. I knew I was holding as strong as I could...I am shattering, I never fell outta love I still and do love you, they come first... I admit it I am broken...Hurt and I was putting on a smile
    orchidspetals orchidspetals 36-40, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've been going through a horrible divorce .

    Nothing left to write about . Nothing has changed in the 2 years without you . I'm fighting to stay alive . It's been lonely no one has love me cared for since you left . I feel ugly worthless fat used . It's been 2 years you had the affair and now have a baby girl . I've always...
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    After being married to a transgendered husband

    for nearly 10 years (he didn't tell me until halfway through) we have finally mutually decided to break up. I have basically no support b/c I wrapped myself totally up in this relationship and all my old friends have moved away or faded out. I am really scared and have no...
    sheepysleepy sheepysleepy 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    After 13 years of marriage it's finally coming

    to a end. It is scary yet exciting to see the world is still crazy and confusing, but I look forward to being happy once again.
    lonelywolf4 lonelywolf4 36-40, M 5 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Kmek3232 Kmek3232 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2014

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 16 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    In your opinion, what is an adequate amount of

    time to elapse between one relationship ending and another beginning? Can they overlap? My STBX and I have agreed to divorce, but it has not yet happened. Separation and legal stuff yet to occur. Too soon to meet someone new? Even if you're totally transparent about the...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 9 Responses Mar 17

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 10 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 22 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    Very close. Thankfully,

    I believe it will be very civil. this will be best for the kids and less strain on our mutual friends. one step closer to the search for happiness.
    twistedAndJaded twistedAndJaded 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 7

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 8 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    The pain that this woman is dragging my kids

    and me through is horrible. The lies and cruelness is unbelievable. There isn't a day I don't want to just give up. I'm not going to but it's really hard to keep my head up.
    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 17

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    sparksearcher sparksearcher 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I met my husband 15yrs ago.

    We started a business together 14yrs ago. The business is successful we worked together side by side while I was having kids at the same time. The business is under our names, including business and personal bank accounts. Two yrs ago we agree that I stay home and care for our...
    lisamilan lisamilan 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    While I live in a separate residence

    and am setting up my new, temporary sanctuary (I'm renting), I'm anxious for the attorneys to be aggressive with settling our divorce. We don't have children, been married on paper for almost 16 years now. STBX isn't making it easy. Had to file the divorce paperwork, restraining...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    Another painful night of talking.

    He finally said he's ready to let me go. He said he'll move out this weekend. It feels like this is what I've been working towards for the past 6 months. It was still hard and emotional, but today I feel my energy returning. I feel my motivation coming back. I feel hopeful again...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 50 Responses Feb 5

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    Hello friends, i want to share with you what

    happened when i told my wife i wanted the divorce. I thought she would be sad, maybe she would tell me that she loves me and want to work things out on our marriage. I wasn't expecting she would humiliate herself and cry to death, she's not like that and i know because she's...
    json77 json77 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 16

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    The fight and arguing with my soon the be ex

    husband has escalated again today and I don't know how to make it stop. He doesn't work and hasn't for the past year. He chooses not to work even though he is capable of working. I went to get groceries and things today only to find my bank card was declined. I called the bank...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    You'd think that getting divorce would bring me

    happiness. Well I kind of am and at the same time not so much. After being married for 13 years I thought she was the one I would grow old with. Then after four years things went south. I am one who tends not to give up on anything no matter how futile it may seem once I put my...
    FightingPhoenix FightingPhoenix 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 8

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    I started the process.

    I've told my wife my intent to divorce. She is angry with me for putting my happiness above hers. I need the manipulation to stop if I will ever be happy. I know I'm making the right decision, but I hate to make others feel pain.
    twistedAndJaded twistedAndJaded 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 20

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    I feel betrayed, sad,

    angry and lonely. I feel like my life over. How do I get over this and just focus on my future?
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 18

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    Now accepting applications.

    High school diploma or equivalency prefered. No credit checks No drug screening. Must be able to lift up to 1 spirit. Must be at least 21 years or older. Must be able to share workload Must have sense of humor Must be able to relocate if job requires it Must be faithful Must...
    thirtynotdirty thirtynotdirty 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 4

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 18-21, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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