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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    You can't have a better tomorrow

    if you are thinking about yesterday all the time - Charles Kettering The past can be quite wearing if it’s a burden of bitterness that you continue to carry. We wake up and find ourselves in the same mess day after day, year after year and people can’t figure out why we...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2014

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    My wife and I are getting divorce.

    She will be gone in February leaving me on Valentines day. I am sad and don't want to be alone. I am looking for friendship and companion in my Illinois State or someone willing to relocate here. If you are lonely too and would like to chat, please send me a message.
    sweetie8888 sweetie8888 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 11 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    He Cheated Again

    We just celebrated our 26 year anniversary. We have 4 children together, two of which are still home (16 & 21). I was contacted by a woman about 7 months ago saying she had a 3 1/2 year affair with my husband and that she was ending it. He said she was a stalker and a liar...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 6 Responses May 17, 2013

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    SJS15 SJS15 36-40, F 23 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    today is the big day!

    !!!!! Yay!!!!!
    lovabledoll lovabledoll 26-30, F 22 Responses Dec 12, 2014

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    For years I have avoided going to other

    people’s homes. Even when I started a janitorial business I refused to clean houses. Going to homes of people whom I know became something I avoided just because I didn’t feel like being sociable, but going to a stranger’s home became something I feared, to the point I...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 217 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    You ever wonder what happened to the person I

    married? Who is this person now? Why are you acting this way? This isn't you. We were so close at one point in time. I know it changes a little but to this? She used to be so thoughtful and caring. A nice person whom we actually made a family with. It's not supposed to go this...
    jcomnimax jcomnimax 36-40 6 Responses Jan 5

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 21 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    my husband told me he don't love me anymore

    that going to work made him happy and coming home made him miserable I know that it sounds like it is over but I have hopes that it will change that he will realize that we both made mistakes and that we both should work on it.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 21, 2014

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    I lost my best friend.

    All because I was a selfish idiot. I was lazy, needy, and unappreciative. I have been in therapy for months now but she says it is too late. I have also been battling with depression for 3 years. I didn't realize it until the end but she was an amazing person who put up with me...
    Kwreka89 Kwreka89 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    This morning I came across a post

    that my husband had made on a website stating that this other woman is the person who he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Her name was mentioned along with her picture. I just checked his email and he filed for a divorce yesterday.
    katdorie katdorie 46-50, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    I am separated and at the point

    where I hurts to much to be around her. she doesn't want work on anything. she is the one that's wants it over. its has been over between us for a long time.I can't live here anymore. I want to move out, but she doesn't have a car or a job and we have children. I would take the...
    slipedaway slipedaway 36-40, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Dear Heavens please let my apartment

    application get accepted because if i don't get out of this house and away from my STBXH soon I am physically and mentally going to fall to pieces. I cannot stand another day of his threats and mental abuse. I am hanging on by a thread and I cannot take this anymore. Please...
    neverendingmadness neverendingmadness 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    So I just found out my soon to be ex was

    cheating on me when he left. I've never been so pissed or hurt in my life. I'm beginning to wonder if suing his *** would do anything since he doesn't have anything to take
    lil0miss0sunshine lil0miss0sunshine 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 2

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    cathouscc11 cathouscc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Oddly, it does not give me feelings of panic to

    see that heading....that tells me something. After years of a marriage that was missing something and finally figuring out what, I saw a counselor today who within an hour said, "I think your husband sounds like a deeply closeted homosexual, I think the divorce needs to...
    jkm52 jkm52 41-45, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 9 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    Should I get a lawyer?

    The only assets we really have are a house and a car. I didn't really contribute much towards the house, but I put some money into the car. Both of our names are on both things. I have no idea what to do....Advice??
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 31-35, F 10 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    I got married when I was 17

    because I wanted to escape my life then. And my husband of going on 6 years has always been an addict and has never been able to hold job. He has never been able to take care of me and when had to give our infant daughter up for adoption because we couldn't afford to take care...
    xxdublifexx xxdublifexx 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 18 Responses Jul 6, 2014

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    My husband told me today

    that he is leaving me. He feels that I don't put my stepdaughter first in life. We have been married a little over 6 months. I feel like my whole world is crashing down around me...
    lil0miss0sunshine lil0miss0sunshine 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    After 13 years of marriage it's finally coming

    to a end. It is scary yet exciting to see the world is still crazy and confusing, but I look forward to being happy once again.
    lonelywolf4 lonelywolf4 36-40, M 5 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 21-25, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    I had enough of being treated like ****.

    No you don't beat me. No you don't cheat. You canceled my beautiful wedding to hurt me. So that instead all the money I put down could be thrown away. You rather have us wed in the courthouse by a person dressed up as a cowgirl. Thanks I'm sure it was every girls dream. My...
    Regrets1230 Regrets1230 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    StarZ55...you took what I said the wrong way.

    I am a gentle soul and I would never hurt anyone. Please talk to me.
    ABQScorpio52 ABQScorpio52 61-65, M 5 days ago

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    The Afterlife This is

    so hard...I'm trying to break out of my isolation and connect with more people as my lonely marriage comes to an end, but it's hard to socialize on my own knowing no one in most of the new circles I'm checking out. I attend a divorced/separated support group meeting once a week...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    I am ending my sexless marriage

    and moved out of the marital home last week. On the scheduled morning of my move, my dear father died. A week feels like a month. Within 7 days I planned 2 moves (mine and my father's), and a funeral. I'm back to work. H made it very clear he located my new contact info (cell...
    PinkJeanie1970 PinkJeanie1970 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just saw on Facebook her with all her friends

    in a picture. Who's missing? Me of course. I should be by her side, that's my place. Just don't get it. Just don't.
    jcomnimax jcomnimax 36-40 3 Responses Jan 10

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    The funniest things can cause you to take a

    look at the decisions you’ve made in life. I was doing my yard work just a little bit ago, and something came to my attention. Along with that something came a flood of thoughts and I came in the house to write them down. I noticed an old dried up evergreen stump which used...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    Real cool investing 7 years with someone

    given her what she wanted a marriage family a child she wanted all this from me and as soon as our sons born she changed her mind about all of it her new coworkers are more interesting then family life or she just realized how that motherly quality her crack head...
    areyou1111111 areyou1111111 26-30, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    my ex asked for a divorce 2 nights ago

    and had me move out that same night this morning he text me "if you wanna see your ex he works at she'll of **** and ****" I don't get u he says he just don't love me but feels he has a right to say that to me.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    And I'm fine with it.

    .. My only gripe is with the divorce settlement and spousal support. My wife didn't work during the short duration of our marriage. She wants financial support for almost three years. In some ways I want to pay it just to end this nightmare. Another side of me wants to...
    MrMeToo305 MrMeToo305 36-40, M 3 Responses Jan 22

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    My divorce could potentially be final next

    month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be here but that just goes to show that you just never know what can and will happen in your life!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 27, 2014

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    9 days ago, my husband of 36 yrs left a letter

    on his pillow when he left for work. In it, was a two year old letter, typed and dated as he had added to it until that day, 6 Jan 2015 and signed it. It listed his complaints about me, all that he could remember from over 36 yrs and that he wanted a divorce. I am 57 yrs old...
    Thebatterytest Thebatterytest 31-35, F 10 Responses Jan 15

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    and the saga continues.

    ..the closer we get to the child support hearing next month the meaner he becomes. Most Fridays he was getting the kids, so I could work weekends. During Christmas break he didn't see them for three weeks, no calls nothing. Now last weekend and this weekend huge blow ups on...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    I have been trying to get a divorce

    for going on two years. My ex cheated, he encouraged me to move out of the family home with our three children. I don't really care, I'm happier and healthier without him. The problem I have now is whenever I discuss filing divorce papers he gets mad, won't even discuss it. He...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    I guess I'm going on about month 5

    since she filed. I'm left with our home, and it's so sad going through all of our "old" things. Our home could be a really nice place with more than enough space for a large family, unfortunately it's just me and one of our teenage children and alot of fixing, cleaning, and...
    fundrummerdad fundrummerdad 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 11

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    I hate this so much. I don't know how I,

    or anyone else, could go through this kind of pain. I feel like there's something trying to claw its way out of my chest. Every moment of every day that pain is there. I know it's still early, but I feel like I will never find anyone else and every time I think about the days...
    lil0miss0sunshine lil0miss0sunshine 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 41-45, M 11 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 11 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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