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I Am Getting a Divorce

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    Not My Idea

    Yes, it's true. I am getting a divorce, but it wasn't my idea, although it should have been. I can't say that the thought didn't cross my mind numerous times, and in the course of ten years, that's a lot. The fact that I have been living in a sexless marriage for most of the last...
    m00nmeister m00nmeister 56-60, M 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 22

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    Going to the divorce lawyer today to start the

    process of divorcing my husband of only 1 year. Every possible emotion is running through my head. Grief, anger, relief, confusion, shame, excitement. Bittersweet. Ending my marriage will allow me to move on and progress in my life the way I was always meant to. But divorce is...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 6 Responses Aug 20

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    I have survived another night without him.

    Sometimes I feel confused about what I really want now. I still want that passion. Someone to kiss my wound and not look at the scar. Fill the hole of it with love. The problem is I often look at the scar myself. Nothing hurts as much as a "used to be "a good memory. The other...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 5

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    Had my divorce party tonight,

    fun drinks and friends what a good way to celebrate getting rid of a bastard!!
    Kmek3232 Kmek3232 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    The process starts next week.

    I know I have a storm to ride to get to the sunshine and beautiful rainbow. I'm just hoping I survive the storm and don't become a victim.
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    I am new here, have been married

    for 28 years, together 32. A life time. He is 12 years older and has always been "the boss of me" I gave away my power and didn't even know I was. Mi thought I was supposed to. The youngest of 3 went off to college this year and that was the icing on the cake. There is just...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 2

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    My divorce could potentially be final next

    month! I am looking forward to this being over and that i can officially move on. A year ago I would have never thought that I would be here but that just goes to show that you just never know what can and will happen in your life!
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 27

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    Finally

    Yesterday, I realized that it had been one year since I removed my wedding ring.  Last night was another night spent with the marriage counselor.  Last night, my husband finally gave in and said he was ready to go through with a divorce.  He even verbalized...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 78 Responses Sep 5, 2008

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    Is it ok to separate from your spouse simply

    because you have fallen out of love with him? I have not felt in love with him for years. We have been in and out of counseling over this time period. Last year I cheated on him. He does not know this. It showed me how far removed from my marriage I am. I am not proud of it and...
    Loki39 Loki39 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    You Really Don'T Know Who You Marry ...

    ... Until trouble hits.After 10 years together I hit an emotional low. Real bad.She filed for divorce and in the past 8 to 10 months hasn't even attempted any type of contact or an attempt to reconcile. Nothing, notta ...Why then am I still broken up about it?She obviously...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 23, 2013

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    Another day passed. Smiling

    when your words are cutting me viciously inside my chest. My patients and staff giving me compliments and wishes for a happy holiday season. Memory of hurtful words simply erase all compliments. Funny when I decided to leave you , you remembered I am beautiful and smart and...
    thoughtfulheart thoughtfulheart 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    A little over a week ago,

    my husband wrote me an email telling me our marriage was over. For the past week I've been in shock. Multiple attempts to reconcile or get him to agree to counseling have failed. He has no interest in continuing a life with me. We are currently on opposite coasts. I just...
    girl3708 girl3708 31-35, F 7 Responses Sep 9

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    I Grew A Pair!

    Friday night, he asked me to join him for dinner at our favorite restaurant. He was already there when I arrived, sad puppy face in place. I got a beer and sat down with him to wait for our table. He started in immediately..."your mom is still coming over for Easter, right?" I...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore 46-50, F 16 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    We have been separated

    for a months. We have both been with other people and I feel certain divorce is the only way . There have been good days where we felt like family , however now we hardly speak or text. I hate the days we fight or call each other names, however the days we do not correspond sure...
    ntxm70 ntxm70 41-45, M 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    Insight From My Kitchen......

    I woke up today and was surprised by the urge to cook.  While I enjoy cooking and love see my friends and family enjoy what I’ve made, the desire hasn't been there for quite some time.  I’ve got my staple weeknight meals that I know everyone in the house will eat, but...
    goddessone goddessone 41-45, F 95 Responses Jul 6, 2008

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    I'm in the middle of a divorce

    and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm actually really scared that I will never find anyone and I will be alone forever. Even if I find someone, will I make the same mistake again and pick another wrong person for me? I wish a had a crystal ball :(
    peach1977 peach1977 36-40, F 25 Responses Mar 31

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    My husband moved out exactly 2 months ago

    and I found out last week that he has had a girlfriend ever science he moved out!! I was soooooo angry! He doesn't think he is doing anything wrong! He says he is happy and I should find someone too. I was like, Wtf really?!?!??! That is how you justify what you are doing...
    kelkel09 kelkel09 26-30, F 8 Responses Sep 4

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    The De-militarised Zone

    “He was not very pretty,” she said reluctantly, and wrapped the phone cord around and between her fingers. Silence echoed across the fly-over states. “What’s Seattle like this summer?” She could hear the confused look on his face. He pitched his voice low, as one always...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Come To Terms Emotionally. It Is Much Better That Way.

    It is a funny thing. I was dreading getting a divorce. I know how ugly it can be and I really did try to convince my X that it would be better for everyone, including our son, if we just used a mediator. She refused. I tried to work with her, she still would not. I gave up and...
    FlauntTheImperfections FlauntTheImperfections 41-45, M 7 Responses May 17, 2013

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    What did your conversation look like

    or what did you say to you're spouse? Do most people start with a separation first or just divorce? Anyone that's in or was in a emotionally abusive relationship?
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    He's moved out, we've split up belongings,

    I've seen a lawyer. It's happening. I know I'm doing what I need to do for both of us. That relationship was toxic, and he deserved more than I'd ever be able to give. It's still ridiculously depressing though. All the plans I've had are being rewritten. It's an exciting and a...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    So, Divorce...

    Just saying the word divorce leaves a bad taste in ones mouth, doesn't it? My impending divorce has been inevitable for (3!) years now and the reality of the situation is still eluding me I think. We met in high school, and pretty much stayed together for 17 years. Of course it...
    Sbgf225 Sbgf225 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    His phone is cut off again!

    !!! Can't even pay his bills and he wants a life with me?!! I'm building! Your shutting down.
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I find myself thinking about my upcoming divorce

    and wanting to write down my account so it may help others. It is my view of what happened but I believe I have given a fair representation of what has happened. I looked back with occasional hindsight and some humour, I don’t believe I’m being unfair and have truly been the...
    DarrensBlog DarrensBlog 46-50, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    **Update** Ok so this is a late update,

    but here it goes. I FINALLY got in touch with a great lawyer this past Monday. I went in to talk with him for a while paid my retainer and he gave me homework to do (snoopy snoopy snoopy) I did what I had to do and he filed the divorce papers on Thursday. Now it's a waiting...
    kelkel09 kelkel09 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I Am Getting a Divorce

    i met him when i was 17 and fell madly in love.  little did i know his recreational drug use would turn to full blown addiction.  at 21 we were engaged, married at 22.  i had my doubts but pushed them away.  he always put his friends before me and i had no one...
    lennox lennox 21-25, F 28 Responses May 7, 2007

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    What was that moment

    when you realized and it was clear that you absolutely wanted a divorce? Before it happened did you struggle with if you were still in love or loved that person?
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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    I am so angry all the time at everyone

    for everything. My marriage ended before it began, he cheated numerous times before we got married, but funny thing,that's not the reason why I gave up. Over the years we grew apart and his selfish ways became unbearable. Knowing this marriage was doomed from the start, I can't...
    Letgowithgrace Letgowithgrace 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I've seen beauty in your eyes I've felt love

    with a look I've touched greatness in your hands Now anger fills your eyes Looking at me with spite inside So much greatness lost with time I am new, now Moving on without you Fear for me I fear for you No one can see All you mean to me This is tough, feeling like... OK, I HAVE...
    Froggy420 Froggy420 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Today is 2 months I loved out from my husband.

    My son is so upset and angry at me, says it's all my fault because I moved out. He's crying and taking everything out of the cupboards and says he wants to move home now and won't be happy until we move home and asks don't I want him to be happy, and he hates the new house etc...
    landen24 landen24 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    ~Good Riddance~

    Another turning point a fork stuck in the road Time grabs you by the wrist directs you where to go So make the best of this test and don't ask why It's not a question but a lesson learned in time It's something unpredictable but in the end It's right I hope you've had the time of...
    Evangeline1985 Evangeline1985 26-30 11 Responses Sep 7, 2012

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    Okay, we are soooo close to the end here.

    I have signed our JOD and waiting for my STBX to make her date in court and file. It has been a long and painful road, but so glad to finally be at the end of this. I'm finally feeling relief and a big weight about to be lifted from my back. This experience has given me a...
    Waldonova Waldonova 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 22

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    Well it's all done with

    now except getting joint custody of the kids. The divorce wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was served the divorce papers December 11th 2012 and I was pretty depressed about it. I wrote a bunch of poor me posts on here about how sad I was and how abandoned...
    Dainbramadge Dainbramadge 41-45, M 10 Responses Jan 10

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    I haven't cried in weeks.

    .. today I did. He's been out of the house for a little over a month and even though I'm the wanting the divorce I'm still saddened by this whole thing. I still miss certain things about him. He wasn't a monster. I suppose I'll always question myself if there was anything we...
    2findme 2findme 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 29

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    D Day is tomorrowAfter a long a grueling year,

    the divorce will be over and done with tomorrow. I am both relieved and saddened at the same time. I wish we would have both worked more effectively at trying to communicate with each other, but am now learning that may not have been enough. There were fundamental differences...
    cvann5 cvann5 51-55, M 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Humorous Best Divorce Letter :)

    (I did not make this letter up but a long time ago I found it online and loved it.. wanted to share this laugh with everyone :)] Dear Wife: I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you forever. I've been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for...
    wendysosa wendysosa 22-25, F 16 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Okay - I am recently divorced

    and still easing into how to communicate with my ex and children, who are actually young adults. My ex seems to be having remorse about our Judgement and feels she was shafted and is pleading poverty. We both were screwed, so I don't by that. I recently purchased a motorcycle...
    Waldonova Waldonova 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    This is still so new.

    Only 2 days ago that I confronted him and he won't give me a straight answer about cheating but says it is over and there is nothing I can do. .aHe blocked me on Facebook so now it says I am married to " blank ". It untagged him in all if our photos. Our wedding, honeymoon...
    gem207 gem207 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 29

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    He used to get up every morning

    and say he's going to "work" I'm home with a 3 month old baby. His 6 yo daughter would be at school ******* herself and attention seeking. School calls me to come pick her up. It's winter I have a newborn I have to walk to the school in the snow to pick up this little girl. Once...
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I found out today that I am going to be served.

    ...This came because I threatened him with reversing our pre nup. I just want to have a fresh start, although it would be great to leave without taking anything, it is so sad that I contributed and he reaps the benefits....but I signed the pre nup, married him not because of...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I am sadly getting a divorce.

    .. Never thought I would ever be in this situation. I just got married this past March. My husband is in the Army so we have been on and off for four years dating. I moved to be with him in May after I graduated grad school. In the first month of me living here I have been...
    unreachablex0x unreachablex0x 22-25, F 17 Responses Jul 6

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    I am divorcing a good man.

    We met, fell in love...I was 20 years old. The relationship ran its course in the very beginning like many young romances do...for whatever reason I refused to let it go, to say "time to move on" and I forced it for the next 7 years, even through marriage and having a child...
    carriem3 carriem3 26-30 223 Responses Jan 10

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    I am 25 years old and I believed

    that I was in a loving marriage. My parents came to visit Saturday and everything was fine. Sunday morning she left, took my car, emptied my bank account, shut off the utilities. She never told me she was leaving. The only word I got was from her mother. I lost everything. I had...
    danielkclayton danielkclayton 22-25, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    We had our first appt with a mediator yesterday.

    i have to sleep on it a few days to determne what i got out of the meeting...i'm thinking that there is just not enough money to go around and i'll need to work more, borrow money etc...reminding myself that i can create a happy future for myself and my kids. i've felt...
    Gazell Gazell 51-55, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Read This On Facebook....

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Finally, we discussed about every little

    details in our miserable marriage, but not about our SM. He admitted that he never loved me, he just wanted to have me. I knew. Thats the main reason I thought about why we live in a sexless marriage since the very first months of our lives together. He admitted he is missing...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 5

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    I'm disappointed in the time energy

    and trust I wasted for 4 years. I'm embarrassed that I fell in love and supported such a horrible human bring. I'm by no means sad that it has to end. I'm excited!! I can't wait to close that God forsaken chapter in my life and never look back. I have 2 children for him 2 and...
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    It feels so stupid and petty.

    We are throwing away 12 years of marriage and destroying the world of 2 beautiful children over money and sex. I hate it, I still love her and want her but she drives me crazy. She spends money we don't have but then justifies it with good reasons but that still remains, we...
    Brianst Brianst 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 26

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    Well it's been a year

    now since I started my new life alone and now the divorce process is starting. We have a legal separation in place and so I am hoping the divorce goes smoothly and amicably as well. I can't say I'm thrilled to be an almost divorcee but I know it is the best thing for me. I have...
    anewlifealone anewlifealone 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 1

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    My husband told me today he's completely done

    and is unwilling to try anymore. I think he recently started having an affair but he will not give me a straight answer which to me basically makes him guilty right? I am devestated and heartbroken. We have been together for 10 years and have 2 kids together. I am so lost.
    gem207 gem207 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 27

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    Now That I'm Separated, I'll Start Wearing My Wedding Ring

    This is my first post to this group. I am sure some of you have encountered this problem while going through a divorce. The news of your divorce spreads and suddenly a friend from the opposite sex whom you've never considered sexually starts making themselves "available", or...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 13 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I just filed for divorce today.

    This event reminds of all my life's failures, and makes me really reevaluate things
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 5 Responses a week ago

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