I Am Getting Over An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 316 People

    I have been unable to touch

    or be touched. Not wanting to erase those memories of him. I have had alot of love in my life but never like his.
    Hairgirl74 Hairgirl74
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 5, 2015

    I spent the past couple of days away on a trip.

    I needed to get away from everything that reminded me of us and go somewhere that there was no memory of us. I had a great time and only a few times I found myself having thoughts of you, but nothing overwhelming. I felt like I was escaping. I was having fun, laughing...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 24, 2015
    Lonelyman1977 Lonelyman1977
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    Where do I start? What do I say?

    It's been months since I last posted a story/experience. I want to come here and tell you all that I'm the happiest I've ever been since he's left my life, but then I'd be lying to myself and to everyone here. Yes, I am less anxious, frustrated, and paranoid, but it doesn't...
    Missybad Missybad
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Aug 31, 2015

    Nothing Prepared Me For This....

    ...I just spent an evening on the phone with him. He was calling from his office where he has the freedom to talk. Still, it wasn't our typical conversation of late with him trying to sweet talk me into asking him over. Instead, he seemed resigned to the fact that this really...
    OMGitsRiley OMGitsRiley
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 30, 2011

    I'm struggling to stop thinking about mm.

    He consumes my thoughts, I don't sleep very well. I should hate his guts after walking away without a word but I just can't. How long does this take? When will my heart stop hurting.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Sep 18, 2015

    H and I have been separated

    for 9 months now. I let him come to one of my counseling sessions today. It was ugly! I just don't think we have what it takes to make it through this. I don't think I can give everything I would need to give to him to help ease his mind. How do people do it!? I know it takes...
    Hairgirl74 Hairgirl74
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2015

    This morning hurts. I woke up missing him

    and started wondering about everything again which makes every minute more difficult. I would have days where I felt out of sorts and I would tell him as he text me good morning and receive comfort by his words. I'm missing that and my heart hurts all over for feeling the loss...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Feb 24, 2015

    It's been a full week

    since he left me. I feel that last week I seemed to have somewhat of a grasp on things; however, today I feel like I'm getting ready to experience the actual emotions of him leaving me. I've been stronger in not trying to reach out to him, only because I know he doesn't...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    I was hesitant to fall in love

    for the very fear of this day. The day when my AP fell out of "love, like, want, ?" with me. Substitute any word that made me feel special about us and take it away.. What's left is me feeling empty. It's been 2 years of our relationship, we've taken breaks before but not like...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    God this is hard. My long term affair is

    finally coming to a end. I'm married with children, he single, no kids but in a relationship. I know if I would've chosen my affair person over my family it would've been the BIGGEST mistake of my life but there was a time when I did not care! Scary. Affairs are one of the...
    LettersToScarlette LettersToScarlette
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 10, 2015

    Today is day 2 of my attempt to have N/C with

    my MM. Yesterday, his wife posted a picture of them at dinner. And he looks so happy. It broke my heart. But it only reaffirms my decision to have N/C with him. He obviously doesn't care and has forgotten me already. And all I can think about is.. by doing N/C. I had...
    tinyturtles20 tinyturtles20
    31-35, F
    7 Responses May 29, 2015

    That feeling of being betrayed is like a

    hundred chainsaws marinated in vinegar and ripping into my heart. STBX ...i relinquish the "right" to figure you out. It's a waste of energy and you are beyond me now. Fair enough. I still feel the stinging blades shredding my heart but they are meeting some resistance now...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Dec 6, 2014

    Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you

    just gotta find the ones worth suffering for. Bob Marley
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Sep 16, 2015

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    bettyccaa bettyccaa
    26-30, F
    Sep 6, 2015

    I'm getting over an affair.

    .. Tried multiple times to end it... I've never failed at anything like I've failed at ending this ridiculous affair. He is my only mistake , regret and bad decision. I'm married - he's in a serious relationship. WHY???? Why can't we remain focused on the person next to us...
    darkangel3200 darkangel3200
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jan 30

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    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11
    26-30, F
    Sep 18, 2015

    so we have been done

    for 6 weeks. have talked to him everyday. things are more comfortable between us. still tell each other I love u. held my hand today have me a kiss good bye. talked to him on way home. he was joking I'd have a meltdown if his phone fell out the window and there was no contact...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 3, 2015

    Update: It's been nine months of NC in I'm

    starting to feel better. I don't think of her as much as I use to. I don't really think about her at all. I still have moments though. I guess that is part of the process. Sometimes the whole situation plays out in my head in I'll say to myself what in the hell was I thinking. I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    I am sad to know this site is going away.

    It has been tremendously helpful in my journey. I came to this site a year ago while trying to secretly cope with a breakup with my AP. I used this forum to help express what I couldn't aloud to anyone. This community gave me the support, strength and comfort on the days I...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 31

    An update to my story.

    . My AP and I picked up our relationship. However, I'm or will no longer be the other woman instead he will be the other man. He is going through a divorce and that's the reason why he left our Relationship back in February. I am still married and there isn't expectation for me...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    Jul 6, 2015

    I've been told a lot lately

    that I look healthy, skinny - light, happy. My friend that I see regularly said " I feel like you lost 10lbs." What did you do? I felt like saying a got rid of a 10lbs affair!" ;)
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    I was never more than plan B.

    She liked how I made love to her, how I made her feel, often she would look me in the eye and say "don't hurt me" which I took emotional and yet it wasn't. When you are the other (man or woman) you are just that Other. He was abusive, physically, emotionally and mentally, he...
    Ransammac Ransammac
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jun 1, 2014

    Just hurts to know we'll never see each other

    again. Pain means your alive? I'm really living .
    yes2me yes2me
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Mar 6

    I know it's been said in many ways by many

    people but in my own words sometimes I feel like recovering from a difficult time is the feul we need to sustain our strength and happiness. I'm getting over an affair that ended almost a year ago. 2 days ago I felt I was back at square one. Today I'm on top of the world. I...
    Shineonblueyes Shineonblueyes
    46-50, F
    Apr 18, 2015

    Life After An Affair

    I met my wife fifteen years ago and we have been married for thirteen of those. For the last two and half years I had an affair with a woman while I was away working in a foreign country. I spent most of my time away from home. Single life was fun but I think I came close to...
    SearchForWisdom SearchForWisdom
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    Only back together for a couple of weeks

    and I had to walk away. Before it was his W why he couldn't make time and effort for me. Now with the divorce, I'm having to compete with his female friends. I love him but he just hurts me too much bc he doesn't put the effort towards me . I've come to realize, no matter...
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    Jul 7, 2015

    What do you think? I have done well with NC

    over 3 months now. I see my ap alot around town. But have not acknowledged him. He on the other hand seems like he is provoking me. For instance. He has followed me down the road to my house. A road he doesn't need to drive on. And he made sure I knew he was there. Now I...
    Hairgirl74 Hairgirl74
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 13, 2015

    he broke up with almost 2 months ago.

    I needed it to be over a well. the bad thing is we've talked everyday. I see him at work. he calls or texts everyday. I know that not really broken up and once in awhile I freak out about all this. its so easy for him. I don't understand that. I miss the closeness we shared
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses May 2, 2015

    How foolish I feel that my biggest pain

    and challenge is getting over an affair that ended almost a year ago. While others face the death of a child, chronic illness and pain, hunger, abuse, homelessness. Puts things in perspective
    Shineonblueyes Shineonblueyes
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    It's been nine months

    now since he told me. We're still together. I'm still in love with him. I'm still hurting. I try not to think about it but it creeps up on me a lot. Lately I've been allowing myself to think about other people. Just wondering. That cant be a good sign. I have no intention of...
    midnightniss midnightniss
    26-30, F
    Sep 16, 2015
    Lonelyman1977 Lonelyman1977
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2015

    Sometimes I'm doing good,

    I'm feeling as though I'm getting over the pain of knowing it's over and finally moving on. Last night however, I had a dream that one of my friends asked me why I was looking so sad and I just started whimpering and crying out loud. It woke me up and that feeling is still with...
    Lonely40s Lonely40s
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Sep 7, 2014

    Today i had one of those days

    where i really missed him and wonder how he could have loved me so deeply and then suddenly turn around and give me such a cold shoulder..he went back to his wife and kids and left me stranded to stay afloat. I never wanted any of this... he chased me down. told me all these...
    tinyturtles20 tinyturtles20
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 25, 2015

    I Am Over It...but Memories Linger...

    It's been a while since I mentioned him. Him being the married man whom I allowed to consume my life for four years. Still, not a day passes that he doesn't cross my mind. I don't pine for him or miss that relationship in any way. I ended it over a year ago. I think what...
    OMGitsRiley OMGitsRiley
    26-30, F
    Dec 27, 2012

    How did I become so needy during the affair?

    With all the different crises I was facing with my h, I was ready to throw in the towel. I didn't want to be with him anymore. Enters mm. Handsome, witty, compassionate, crazy funny. Turbocharged sexy💋 We unknowingly entered a SUPPORTIVE role in each other's lives...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jun 12, 2015

    I changed my cell phone number today,

    this should be the one action that will finally put an end and close this chapter of my life. Sorry for the drama but this affair has been nothing but... I'm ready to be free from the temptation, guilt, headaches and distraction this affair has caused.
    darkangel3200 darkangel3200
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 1

    I am a married woman

    who had an affair with a single guy.... Why do I feel like the other woman?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 25, 2015

    Crazy thing about an Affair is you don't ever

    realize how deep you are in Til you try to get out . I feel like I'm drowning from the memories of that other person and the promises we made to each. We made so many and the I love YOUS are the hardest memories that come to mind. It's all very real to me . Nothing about my...
    latinafairy latinafairy
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 21, 2015

    Somewhere something went wrong in my life,

    the pain it has caused can never be undone!
    Lonelyman1977 Lonelyman1977
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 7, 2015

    As I continue to heal.

    Memories of her pop up at random times. I haven't spoken to her in ten months. The pain has deceased drastically. I still have moments of vulnerability, but I turn to the word to give me strength. Recently, I had to stop putting myself down for my mistake. I had to realize...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Feb 11, 2015

    It has been 3 months

    since NC. I still miss him and think about him everyday. He is always in my thoughts. He is everywhere I go. In everything I do. We were out. So everywhere I go there are memories of him. Painful everyday reminders of our lost love. I am still numb. Going through the...
    Hairgirl74 Hairgirl74
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Sep 5, 2015

    I woke up today feeling strong.

    Going about my daily routine and then in a blink of an eye a memory, feeling and thoughts take over me. A memory of us, feelings for us and thoughts I want to share with you. I miss sharing the moments of our days.
    Melnmoose Melnmoose
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 20, 2015

    I see you I see you moving on with your little

    life with your wife I see you bought her the same boots I have I see her wearing the same sunglasses I wear I see her hair is like mine now I see you strung the lights up around the patio like I said I was going to I see you are doing the work on your house like we planned I see...
    Hairgirl74 Hairgirl74
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bellecc11 bellecc11
    26-30, F
    Jul 7, 2015

    Sad seeing all of these ladies upset over

    ending their affair. I'm here for you!
    steven434 steven434
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 5, 2015
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