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I Am Going Through a Divorce Right Now

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    Today I logged in to find my ex has occupied my computer. At least her photo popped up in my wallpaper. I have thousands of photos in my wallpaper library, which cycles the background frequently. Many have my ex. Now I need to go in and prune that library. ****, that's gonna take...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses Aug 21, 2013

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    caraccaa caraccaa 26-30, F Apr 7

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    After 20 Years Of Misery

    Being married for 20 years to a bully is certainly not the marriage I envisioned. Too young I supposed, at 21..what do I know then...he didnt actually beat me up physically but the mental abuse is just as bad. I as made to feel like dirt beneath his feet. He made me feel unworthy...
    yellowrose090 yellowrose090 56-60, F 5 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    I want to run away. This is miserable.

    I hate this. I hate what happened. Is this supposed to make me stronger?
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response May 14

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    My Resolve: Taking Back My Life

    Challenge, Discover, Connect, Conquer, Learn, Move, Aspire, Absorb, Grow, Adapt, Love, Embrace, Inspire, Lead, Follow, Try, Enjoy, Jump, Dance, Fight, Protect, Fear, Win, Lose, Recover, Believe, Support, Seek, Share, Forgive, Experience, See, Smell, Touch, Feel and Remember...
    mindnoter mindnoter 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    Today At The Ex's House

    Today I went to my exes house to move the last shipment of my stuff. She was nicer to me than usual. Even bothered to ask how I was. At the same time she made it clear that she doesn't want me to keep coming back to take more of my things. That's reasonable, but unnecessary...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 8 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    So, my dad is breaking everything in the ******

    house. He's drunk and calling my mother all kinds of colorful names. She's away at her sisters. I am cleaning up after my dad's rampage. He took an axe to the oven, all the tvs, his phone, and my moms iPad. He's still drunk. And I feel absolutely nothing... I haven't felt...
    speedskull speedskull 22-25, M Mar 30

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    Been with my wife over 20 years

    and married for sixteen and now she says the spark is gone. A couple of years ago we came though a long infidelity on her part which I still blame on myself for not making her happy. I am such an idiot. I guess I am destined to repeat the chain of broken families since I was...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    Life Is

    There was a time when simply being together was good enough. We would balance each other out so well, enjoy the company, relax and talk and never have to worry about the other person accepting us. It just was. I loved her for who she was and she loved me for who I was. But...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Well, We have agreed on e everything we needed

    to. Now, we just have to wait out the last of this 3rd month. Everything should be finalized by the beginning of March. The counseling is going well enough. We had some more rough patches, but it was to be expected. Its all emotionally draining and I am tired.
    irishstone irishstone 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    Wednesday is our settlement meeting of my

    husband, and I cannot figure out if we can make it through this. He cheated and proposed to some girl last year. They were supposed to be married this October. Apparently they have broke it off. During this entire time, I had suspensions, but I know the truth now. But I...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses May 21

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    Flashbacks

    Month 2 after separation. It's flashback season. Memories of my X float into my consciousness 20 or 30 times a day. Good things, bad things, plans, dreams, places, ordinary moments, the mundane. No desire to go back, just stabs of pain here and there. Today I realized I...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    Careful...be Careful

    You know the part where after the heat boils over and cools, there's that period of clarity. In every marriage and divorce there are signs that there once was something that made the relationship great. That made the marriage worth every moment. Where the love trumps all of the...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 6 Responses Mar 13, 2010

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    Actually It Is The Last Phase

    I got divorced about four years ago. For reasons not important, we shared the house until a couple of weeks ago. Tomorrow will be the last phase, she is going to pickup her things. It will be great seeing the last of her.
    Idonwannadie Idonwannadie 46-50, M 13 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Finally. And end. Yesterday,

    which ironically was out 13th wedding anniversary, we finally sat down and hammered out company buy out, spousal support and child support. So very lightening for the soul after these many years. Divorce coming soon. And we ended up ending it amicably. I feel lucky. So many...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2014

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    More Drama On the Phone

    Some of you may have read my last story in this group called "So it begins".  This is just an update to share what happened today when my soon to be ex wife called.   I got the call thinking it was my little girl on the phone who she lets talk to me almost...
    denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 7 Responses Jun 23, 2009

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    I've been separated for almost 6 months now.

    I loved being married but the marriage was toxic and had to end. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I love being with someone, but I realized that to be truly happy, I had to find a way to leave him and move on. He's a narcissist and was at his all time worst. I...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 9 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    I tried SO hard for years

    but to no avail. Then he threatened me in a terrible way. His awful treatment escalated. I don't want this anymore but it still really hurts inside. The heart break has been unbearable.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    My husband has been punishing me emotionally

    and financially ever since I filed. He got someone pregnant only 2 months after he left then he got brain cancer 7 months after he left. Karma?
    mamoose1970 mamoose1970 41-45, F Apr 29

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    This sucks. I have to pay an accountant

    and my attorney with money I don't have or let them bill me for work that I have no money to pay them with. My husband says everything is my fault, but he's the one had an affair. An affair that led to a proposal, engagement and a wedding date set. How do I move past all this...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F May 13

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    highonheels45 highonheels45 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 8

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    So I just need to get this out

    and off my chest, because I haven't told anybody yet. On Thursday we have a meeting with the lawyers and I think we are going to agree on a deal, but it's not what I want. I just want to get the divorce finalized, quit going to court all the time, and spending money on lawyers...
    okiedokie92914 okiedokie92914 36-40, F 2 Responses May 25

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    When I see him, I can't handle it.

    I start crying because I'm so heart broken. I feel like I don't want to live anymore.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 29

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    okiedokie92914 okiedokie92914 36-40, F 1 Response May 26

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    Still waiting for the final "you are divorced"

    papers. So...what some of you know....we split on my 39th birthday. I took the day back by celebrating my 40th in Mexico with 3 of my then nearest and dearest girlfriends. Made the day positive again. The next couple years were a "honeymoon" phase. Yay! I'm out of an unhappy...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    My daughter sent me to this site,

    because I have things to say. Things that are hurting me and I do not know where to take them. My marriage of 20 years is coming to an end and caught in between are two lovely girls aged 11 and 4. Their sisters 19 and 17 are either headed to or already in college. I stayed in...
    donaisabella70 donaisabella70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 17

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    I'm in the early stages of a Divorce.

    Some days I feel sad for filing for divorce and other days I feel like happy that I'm starting my life over again. I wish there was something else I could have done to prevent us from getting to this stage. Am I the only one that feels like this. And how are you handling it???
    thelefthandedboy thelefthandedboy 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I have been with the same man

    for 25 years. I thought we had a good marriage. He had an affair with a close friend of mine and despite me forgiving him he wants a divorce. I still love him and the life we had. I cannot believe how I can go from feeling a little ok to so low in the span of a day. Looking for...
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Its not easy to chose to end a marriage.

    When an endless cycle of hurt and unhappiness tears at your heart every day. Its time to let go, move on, and place your children first.
    bluetop bluetop 31-35, M 4 Responses May 23, 2014

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    itiswhatitis32 itiswhatitis32 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Finally

    After three years of total angst and feeling guilted to stay here for the child, I just decided to stop waffling and held my ground on this decision. It's been a very long time coming. All of what I've been going through for the past few years have just been symptoms to cover the...
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Just saw Pixars "inside out" ,

    ...all the happy family memories the girl has slays me as I look at my girls faces 9 & 7yrs ( the boy is asleep).... You die twice during s divorce... Once with your kids ....just that pain of knowing they hurt and want mom & dad back together And second just you dying to the...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 13

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    Our court date is June 1st.

    Our attorneys want to have a settlement meeting next week since it's the last week before our trial date. I don't want this. My husband even told his attorney he wasn't sure about it either. I don't know why he is doing this then. I have told him several times and asked him...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response May 19

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    I just dont understand how

    after 10 years, just out of the blue, shes done. Am i blind? Its a horrible feeling, not being worthy enough for someone to try for.
    KR17 KR17 31-35, F Jul 14

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    Breath Of Fresh Air!

    Just finished today! Man... I tell you what that process SUCKED! However, now that chapter in my book of life is over and closed and I can open the next one with a much clearer head and it feels like a hundred pound weight has come off my shoulders. A few years of scraping by...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Cheating Rat!

    Sadly for anyone that cares, me and my husband are getting a divorce. I have found out that he has been seeing another women for months and has gotten her pregnant. I found out last week, I now am staying at my friends, I hope to bounce back soon x For anyone who reads my other...
    kimcheung kimcheung 26-30, F 32 Responses Feb 16, 2013

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    DIVORCED!!!!!!!! Finally.

    Over 4 years later. Thanks to all of you that have listened and given your thoughts/advice/support in the past. It has been truly appreciated. Now who wants to have a celebratory "close this chapter open the next one" glass of wine with me? ;)
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 6

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    There's a lot of people off today

    because tomorrow's the 4th of July. My soon to be ex-husband asked me to have my son ready at 8:30am so they could go get haircuts together. This is something they do together and I have no problem allowing my son to go with him for a couple hours on a non-scheduled day. Well a...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 3

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    I received a letter last week

    that we have a final court date for the divorce. It's really on my birthday. I don't celebrate my birthday much so that part doesn't bother me. I did find it coincidence. I'm hurting much less as time moves on. I'm excited to start my life without him. Almost as excited as I...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I tried to keep a cool head on all of this

    divorce chaos, but I have been feeling so angry for the past week. I have been calm all throughout this time. I feel so much anger that I feel like crying all the time. I do not regret the decision to divorce. I just wish I had never married him. What I hate the most is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 2

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    Only two days until we meet at his attorney's

    office. I have told the kids. I don't know what else to do. He knows how I feel and he says he wants us. I don't know what to believe. He has been working all weekend and today. He hasn't been over to see us since last Sunday. He hasn't offered to bring over breakfast, lunch...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F May 25

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    Got the final judgement today.

    I am a single man for the first time in 18 years. Kind of anti-climactic. No court date. Judge just issued it today. Feelings of relief, failure, numbness, hopefulness all rolled together. Ex is supposed to close on her house on Monday and should be out of this house in next...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    Now what?! I have less

    than a month before my 11 year marriage is over. He says he still loves me and wants to work things out. Yet, we both keep questioning what's going on. I have laid everything out and asked him to come home. He feels that I only wanted him home since January and the past year...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 2 Responses May 9

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    I'm thinking that if he keeps dragging this

    divorce out we will be destitute by the end. Much easier to split nothing I guess. Over 3 years now. I could, and today did, just cry because I am so frustrated. When over I think it's making progress he throws another wrench in it. Aaarrrrggghh!!!!
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    Update to my divorce Well I have moved out.

    As the process continues. We have put our house on the market. We have been meeting to sign papers regarding the sale of our house. I notice that she has started a weight loss program and has loss about 20 pounds. She also being nice as I am to her. I have to admit she is...
    thelefthandedboy thelefthandedboy 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 10

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    Feeling A Bit Lost..

    H and I have been together for 30 years (23 of them being married) and have two children, 19/17 yr olds. In that time, we've gone through a lot of ups, downs, hurdles and hurts.In 2008, he left a job he had for 16 years (because he was tired of doing it) to try doing his own...
    PL466 PL466 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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