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I Am Going Through a Divorce Right Now

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    Wednesday is our settlement meeting of my

    husband, and I cannot figure out if we can make it through this. He cheated and proposed to some girl last year. They were supposed to be married this October. Apparently they have broke it off. During this entire time, I had suspensions, but I know the truth now. But I...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses May 21

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    Ok I left my wife because I felt she was

    bitching all the time about everything and wasn't pleasing me sexually. Sex only came once a month or so. Now I feel like I want her back and get upset when I see or think of her with someone else. She says she doesn't want me back now so I need to move on. I still love her...
    garnettsnewlife garnettsnewlife 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 28, 2014

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    I have been with the same man

    for 25 years. I thought we had a good marriage. He had an affair with a close friend of mine and despite me forgiving him he wants a divorce. I still love him and the life we had. I cannot believe how I can go from feeling a little ok to so low in the span of a day. Looking for...
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    When I see him, I can't handle it.

    I start crying because I'm so heart broken. I feel like I don't want to live anymore.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 29

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    My husband has been punishing me emotionally

    and financially ever since I filed. He got someone pregnant only 2 months after he left then he got brain cancer 7 months after he left. Karma?
    mamoose1970 mamoose1970 41-45, F Apr 29

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    okiedokie92914 okiedokie92914 36-40, F 2 Responses May 26

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    Been married 17 years.

    I'm not necessarily going through divorce, but my wife has emotionally abandoned me (physically too). I don't know what to do...struggling. I'm still attracted to her and want to draw close but she does not show the same interest. 2 great kids. Don't know what to do. Don't...
    beancounttc beancounttc 41-45, M 4 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    Careful...be Careful

    You know the part where after the heat boils over and cools, there's that period of clarity. In every marriage and divorce there are signs that there once was something that made the relationship great. That made the marriage worth every moment. Where the love trumps all of the...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 6 Responses Mar 13, 2010

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    Well, We have agreed on e everything we needed

    to. Now, we just have to wait out the last of this 3rd month. Everything should be finalized by the beginning of March. The counseling is going well enough. We had some more rough patches, but it was to be expected. Its all emotionally draining and I am tired.
    irishstone irishstone 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    Throughout my marriage my husband has been

    unfaithful in some sort of way. He would make online profiles on adultfriendfinder and other adult dating sites to talk to women. We have been married for 8 years. In those 8 years he has never made me feel like he truly wanted me. He would always go to the internet to fill...
    elle1640 elle1640 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    Our court date is June 1st.

    Our attorneys want to have a settlement meeting next week since it's the last week before our trial date. I don't want this. My husband even told his attorney he wasn't sure about it either. I don't know why he is doing this then. I have told him several times and asked him...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response May 19

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    I'm in the early stages of a Divorce.

    Some days I feel sad for filing for divorce and other days I feel like happy that I'm starting my life over again. I wish there was something else I could have done to prevent us from getting to this stage. Am I the only one that feels like this. And how are you handling it???
    thelefthandedboy thelefthandedboy 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I've been separated for almost 6 months now.

    I loved being married but the marriage was toxic and had to end. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I love being with someone, but I realized that to be truly happy, I had to find a way to leave him and move on. He's a narcissist and was at his all time worst. I...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    So, my dad is breaking everything in the ******

    house. He's drunk and calling my mother all kinds of colorful names. She's away at her sisters. I am cleaning up after my dad's rampage. He took an axe to the oven, all the tvs, his phone, and my moms iPad. He's still drunk. And I feel absolutely nothing... I haven't felt...
    speedskull speedskull 18-21, M Mar 30

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    Husband asked for a separation on 22nd of

    November and has proceeded to sleep with at least two (that I know of) different women in the three weeks since dropping the bomb on me. I love him but I'm done. He asked for separation, I hired a lawyer and filed for divorce last week. Cannot ever forgive infidelity.
    Andromeday Andromeday 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I tried to keep a cool head on all of this

    divorce chaos, but I have been feeling so angry for the past week. I have been calm all throughout this time. I feel so much anger that I feel like crying all the time. I do not regret the decision to divorce. I just wish I had never married him. What I hate the most is...
    dreamtoknow dreamtoknow 36-40, F 6 hrs ago

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    Finally

    After three years of total angst and feeling guilted to stay here for the child, I just decided to stop waffling and held my ground on this decision. It's been a very long time coming. All of what I've been going through for the past few years have just been symptoms to cover the...
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Feeling A Bit Lost..

    H and I have been together for 30 years (23 of them being married) and have two children, 19/17 yr olds. In that time, we've gone through a lot of ups, downs, hurdles and hurts.In 2008, he left a job he had for 16 years (because he was tired of doing it) to try doing his own...
    PL466 PL466 46-50, F 6 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    Only two days until we meet at his attorney's

    office. I have told the kids. I don't know what else to do. He knows how I feel and he says he wants us. I don't know what to believe. He has been working all weekend and today. He hasn't been over to see us since last Sunday. He hasn't offered to bring over breakfast, lunch...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response May 25

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    He doesn't want to be with me

    and our kids. He doesn't call to talk to them or ask to see them, he obviously wants nothing to do with the kids. I've had to do all the legwork to get the divorce going and he's been served and won't respond to the paperwork. I've had to force myself to stop loving him, and Bc...
    Guavajelly Guavajelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I want to run away. This is miserable.

    I hate this. I hate what happened. Is this supposed to make me stronger?
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response May 14

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    This is harder than I thought.

    STBX was served today with oodles of paperwork. He's being so hateful. I'm at a loss for words. Struggling to hold it together. I know I'm doing the best I can . Trying not to let him shake my confidence ... I know life will be better in the other side of this. It's just getting...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    DIVORCED!!!!!!!! Finally.

    Over 4 years later. Thanks to all of you that have listened and given your thoughts/advice/support in the past. It has been truly appreciated. Now who wants to have a celebratory "close this chapter open the next one" glass of wine with me? ;)
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 6

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    itiswhatitis32 itiswhatitis32 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    Next Desktop Background | UPDATED

    Today I logged in to find my ex has occupied my computer. At least her photo popped up in my wallpaper. I have thousands of photos in my wallpaper library, which cycles the background frequently. Many have my ex. Now I need to go in and prune that library. ****, that's gonna take...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 5 Responses Aug 21, 2013

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    Been with my wife over 20 years

    and married for sixteen and now she says the spark is gone. A couple of years ago we came though a long infidelity on her part which I still blame on myself for not making her happy. I am such an idiot. I guess I am destined to repeat the chain of broken families since I was...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 31, 2014

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    Got the final judgement today.

    I am a single man for the first time in 18 years. Kind of anti-climactic. No court date. Judge just issued it today. Feelings of relief, failure, numbness, hopefulness all rolled together. Ex is supposed to close on her house on Monday and should be out of this house in next...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 12, 2014

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    I ******* hate my stbx.

    I love who he used to be, but I don't even know who he is now.
    SJS15 SJS15 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Life Is

    There was a time when simply being together was good enough. We would balance each other out so well, enjoy the company, relax and talk and never have to worry about the other person accepting us. It just was. I loved her for who she was and she loved me for who I was. But...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Today At The Ex's House

    Today I went to my exes house to move the last shipment of my stuff. She was nicer to me than usual. Even bothered to ask how I was. At the same time she made it clear that she doesn't want me to keep coming back to take more of my things. That's reasonable, but unnecessary...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 8 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    I signed the petition today with the temporary

    orders. The stbx will get served next week. It shouldn't be a surprise to him...but I think he is going to be very angry which scares me. I'm supported by family and friends but still feel alone. It's a huge step for myself and the kids in the right direction. So many mixed...
    jules7712 jules7712 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2014

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    After 20 Years Of Misery

    Being married for 20 years to a bully is certainly not the marriage I envisioned. Too young I supposed, at 21..what do I know then...he didnt actually beat me up physically but the mental abuse is just as bad. I as made to feel like dirt beneath his feet. He made me feel unworthy...
    yellowrose090 yellowrose090 56-60, F 5 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    Its not easy to chose to end a marriage.

    When an endless cycle of hurt and unhappiness tears at your heart every day. Its time to let go, move on, and place your children first.
    bluetop bluetop 31-35, M 4 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I am in the beginning of,

    what is so far, a messy, bad divorce. In the middle of this is two, amazing, toddlers. They are too young to know the seriousness of what is going on right now, but old enough to notice the changes in their lives. My kids are my everything, and I have basically been their...
    SunAgain SunAgain 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    I received a letter last week

    that we have a final court date for the divorce. It's really on my birthday. I don't celebrate my birthday much so that part doesn't bother me. I did find it coincidence. I'm hurting much less as time moves on. I'm excited to start my life without him. Almost as excited as I...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    Not Offended

    As I was walking in the park yesterday, I felt God impart on me, the understanding of why I shouldn't be offended. I am going through a divorce and although my husband and I are getting along well enough to go through mediation right now... I often become offended by many of his...
    jann4 jann4 46-50, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Cheating Rat!

    Sadly for anyone that cares, me and my husband are getting a divorce. I have found out that he has been seeing another women for months and has gotten her pregnant. I found out last week, I now am staying at my friends, I hope to bounce back soon x For anyone who reads my other...
    kimcheung kimcheung 26-30, F 34 Responses Feb 16, 2013

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    Identity Crisis After Separation

    A month after I separated from my wife of 13 years, I am realizing a subtle transformation in the way I identify myself. When we are married to someone for that long, we define our identity by that marriage. We are married people, behave like married people, and that person is...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 14 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I am close to getting a divorce,

    and I am so grateful I don't have kids. My marriage lasted for 11 years and it is ending because we grew apart. As I look back, I do not have many memories to share as "husband and wife". He is a good man and he loved me greatly, but the love for me died slowly as we were having...
    Aileen73 Aileen73 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 5, 2014

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    I'm thinking that if he keeps dragging this

    divorce out we will be destitute by the end. Much easier to split nothing I guess. Over 3 years now. I could, and today did, just cry because I am so frustrated. When over I think it's making progress he throws another wrench in it. Aaarrrrggghh!!!!
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 10, 2014

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    Breath Of Fresh Air!

    Just finished today! Man... I tell you what that process SUCKED! However, now that chapter in my book of life is over and closed and I can open the next one with a much clearer head and it feels like a hundred pound weight has come off my shoulders. A few years of scraping by...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Ex Stepdad still wants parental relationship

    with ex wife's young children.
    ceruleansee13 ceruleansee13 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    So I just need to get this out

    and off my chest, because I haven't told anybody yet. On Thursday we have a meeting with the lawyers and I think we are going to agree on a deal, but it's not what I want. I just want to get the divorce finalized, quit going to court all the time, and spending money on lawyers...
    okiedokie92914 okiedokie92914 36-40, F 2 Responses May 25

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    This sucks. I have to pay an accountant

    and my attorney with money I don't have or let them bill me for work that I have no money to pay them with. My husband says everything is my fault, but he's the one had an affair. An affair that led to a proposal, engagement and a wedding date set. How do I move past all this...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F May 13

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    Today I am officially divorced

    and I don't feel any different. I guess it has been over for me much longer than I realized.
    dramafever dramafever 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    Still waiting for the final "you are divorced"

    papers. So...what some of you know....we split on my 39th birthday. I took the day back by celebrating my 40th in Mexico with 3 of my then nearest and dearest girlfriends. Made the day positive again. The next couple years were a "honeymoon" phase. Yay! I'm out of an unhappy...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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