I Am Going Through a Divorce Right Now

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    I have been with the same man

    for 25 years. I thought we had a good marriage. He had an affair with a close friend of mine and despite me forgiving him he wants a divorce. I still love him and the life we had. I cannot believe how I can go from feeling a little ok to so low in the span of a day. Looking for...
    hera2014 hera2014
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 31, 2014

    I just dont understand how

    after 10 years, just out of the blue, shes done. Am i blind? Its a horrible feeling, not being worthy enough for someone to try for.
    KR17 KR17
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    Actually It Is The Last Phase

    I got divorced about four years ago. For reasons not important, we shared the house until a couple of weeks ago. Tomorrow will be the last phase, she is going to pickup her things. It will be great seeing the last of her.
    Idonwannadie Idonwannadie
    46-50, M
    12 Responses Oct 12, 2012

    The move went off with out a hick up.

    Has been a very long day, my son has said thank you mom for all of this meaning the new apartment 3 times today. The ex had nothing to say, helped me take down the tv and when I left I just gave him a hug and said thank you. He has not called and has not asked where I...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    After 20 Years Of Misery

    Being married for 20 years to a bully is certainly not the marriage I envisioned. Too young I supposed, at 21..what do I know then...he didnt actually beat me up physically but the mental abuse is just as bad. I as made to feel like dirt beneath his feet. He made me feel unworthy...
    yellowrose090 yellowrose090
    56-60, F
    4 Responses Jun 10, 2012

    Just saw Pixars "inside out" ,

    ...all the happy family memories the girl has slays me as I look at my girls faces 9 & 7yrs ( the boy is asleep).... You die twice during s divorce... Once with your kids ....just that pain of knowing they hurt and want mom & dad back together And second just you dying to the...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    Today At The Ex's House

    Today I went to my exes house to move the last shipment of my stuff. She was nicer to me than usual. Even bothered to ask how I was. At the same time she made it clear that she doesn't want me to keep coming back to take more of my things. That's reasonable, but unnecessary...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Sep 8, 2013

    Letting Go. So the final day at our old

    house is tomorrow. It was supposed to be a house of new memories, new opportunities, and new beginnings. Seven years later and we're all leaving. My boys were 8 and 4 when we moved in there. And as I walked through every room, memories flooded my mind and emotions ran...
    mg75 mg75
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jul 14, 2015

    Just saw this Ted Talk about surviving a divorce

    and journalling about your break up may keep you stuck as you ruminate and keep reminding yourself of your hurt with your ex. As a writer who has keeper a journal since I was 16 it hit me as an epiphany.Gonna stop giving energy and focus to this.Gonna stop writing about her and...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Mar 20

    Last Saturday I had the pleasure of telling my

    mother in law that her grandson and I have moved out of our family home. I was very worried how she would react, well I have to say the fact that she will be having Sunday dinner in my new apartment says a lot about just how amazing she is. Her and I have always had a...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 20, 2015

    I am asking for divorce to my wife

    but she is bent upon not to leave me.. Sleep have no relation in any way.. She don't stay with me.. But still every time I ask her for divorce she says no to it.. I really don't understand her stand. I don't understand why she is holding on me.. I wanted mutual divorce as...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 22, 2015

    I thought my divorce was going to be harder

    than it is now. I'll admit there are days where I feel bad but I realize I don't feel bad for me. I feel bad for my son. Knowing that his father is not going to play an active role in his as id like or want but luckily for me, my brothers have been more than willing to be role...
    Boobah03 Boobah03
    26-30, F
    Aug 15, 2015

    Divorce After 26 Years

    So my husband gets out of the military almost 10 yrs ago, he comes home and says he doesn't want to be a husband or a father anymore, that's it, just like that! We had 2 beautiful girls 5 and 10 and I had to leave my FT job as he was deployed and we are in a different city from...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Apr 16, 2013

    Still waiting for the final "you are divorced"

    papers. So...what some of you know....we split on my 39th birthday. I took the day back by celebrating my 40th in Mexico with 3 of my then nearest and dearest girlfriends. Made the day positive again. The next couple years were a "honeymoon" phase. Yay! I'm out of an unhappy...
    Tico72 Tico72
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2015

    I can't even conjure up the energy to make a

    bed, far less find a new home for myself and my children! I just feel drained, lost, lonely, dead inside. My mind feels so scrambled.
    Inspireme1 Inspireme1
    46-50, F
    8 Responses Dec 28, 2015

    More Drama On the Phone

    Some of you may have read my last story in this group called "So it begins".  This is just an update to share what happened today when my soon to be ex wife called.   I got the call thinking it was my little girl on the phone who she lets talk to me almost...
    denverguy denverguy
    36-40, M
    7 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Finally. And end. Yesterday,

    which ironically was out 13th wedding anniversary, we finally sat down and hammered out company buy out, spousal support and child support. So very lightening for the soul after these many years. Divorce coming soon. And we ended up ending it amicably. I feel lucky. So many...
    Tico72 Tico72
    41-45, F
    Jul 24, 2014

    One week I have been moved out

    and I feel that I made the best decision for myself and my son. Day by day it's feeling like home and we don't have half the amount of tension.
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    Tears just start as I'm sitting here

    and all the memories fill my head. Everything I see, smell and touch have a memory, correction several memories. 23 years of memories are just zipping through my head like a movie playing at max speed. 2 weeks from today I will be handing him my keys, my soul that he had...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    Aug 8, 2015

    There's a lot of people off today

    because tomorrow's the 4th of July. My soon to be ex-husband asked me to have my son ready at 8:30am so they could go get haircuts together. This is something they do together and I have no problem allowing my son to go with him for a couple hours on a non-scheduled day. Well a...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 3, 2015

    Looking back on the last 3 years of my 15 year

    marriage I learned a lot. A lot of things I chose to put up with, turn a blind eye to, let myself become his employee. When I woke up and release the life I thought was a marriage in fact it was a toxic friendship at best. I gave and gave and when I told him my giving...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    I've been separated for almost 6 months now.

    I loved being married but the marriage was toxic and had to end. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I love being with someone, but I realized that to be truly happy, I had to find a way to leave him and move on. He's a narcissist and was at his all time worst. I...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons
    51-55, F
    9 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    alliecc11 alliecc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 4, 2015

    Well today is the pre-trial conference

    for my divorce. Let's take a quick poll, ex has never responded to the divorce, did not take the required parenting class. Do I expect him to show up ???????
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    OK Monday is my second court date.

    Do I remind my ex that he has to show up seeing he did not for the first one or responded to my attorney in any way shape or form ??? Part of me feels like I should, but part says let him be a man for the first time and do something for himself.
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    So here I am 10 days

    before the pre trial date for my divorce. I have done everything that I was told to do and my soon to be ex has not done a thing. How long can a person drag there feet really !!! I have been out of the house for 2 months let get this over with !!!!!
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2015

    So Monday is the date

    that my soon to ex was court ordered to turn in his financial information to the courts and my attorney. I wonder what will happen if he does not meet this deadline. Final court date is 1/13, he had to ask me what date and time we need to be in court because he could...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 3

    Identity Crisis After Separation

    A month after I separated from my wife of 13 years, I am realizing a subtle transformation in the way I identify myself. When we are married to someone for that long, we define our identity by that marriage. We are married people, behave like married people, and that person is...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight
    41-45, M
    13 Responses Sep 12, 2013

    I have filed for a divorce from my husband.

    He is terribly verbally abusive. I have been married less than a year. I filed in February only 4 months into the marriage. We have tried to make it work several times when he lured me back to him. He has drained me financially, physically and emotionally. He tells me I'm...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 2, 2015

    Been with my wife over 20 years

    and married for sixteen and now she says the spark is gone. A couple of years ago we came though a long infidelity on her part which I still blame on myself for not making her happy. I am such an idiot. I guess I am destined to repeat the chain of broken families since I was...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Mar 31, 2014

    DIVORCED!!!!!!!! Finally.

    Over 4 years later. Thanks to all of you that have listened and given your thoughts/advice/support in the past. It has been truly appreciated. Now who wants to have a celebratory "close this chapter open the next one" glass of wine with me? ;)
    Tico72 Tico72
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Apr 6, 2015

    Next Desktop Background | UPDATED

    Today I logged in to find my ex has occupied my computer. At least her photo popped up in my wallpaper. I have thousands of photos in my wallpaper library, which cycles the background frequently. Many have my ex. Now I need to go in and prune that library. ****, that's gonna take...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Aug 21, 2013

    I'm handling this so badly.

    I try and push it deep down and accept things, but like a full Coke bottle it spills over. My wife will be better without me. That's the most depressing thought I've ever had.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 13, 2015

    Well, it's happening,

    my marriage is now going through its final stages under the one roof. She's looking for a place to stay. It's been ten years in the making, this slow, hurtful decline. To be honest I'm scared of waking up in the same home alone. The situation was toxic but familiar. I know we'll...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 11, 2015

    I understand how it feels

    and looks when the one person you have given everything you had and everything you were to just does not really give a **** !! I was told early last year "I care just not that much". When I asked for an explanation to that, well there was not one. So almost a year later...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    Nov 14, 2015

    I am thinking about text him

    and asking him if he is sure but I don't want to feel stupid if he ignores me . what should I do?
    SMcCL SMcCL
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 16, 2015

    it's finally happening.

    we can't continue to do this. there's no more trust at all, if there ever was any. I'm trying not to hate her but i can't live with the way she treats me. i would be ok if i had my kids permanently
    sephiroth04 sephiroth04
    26-30, M
    1 Response Aug 9, 2015

    So I just need to get this out

    and off my chest, because I haven't told anybody yet. On Thursday we have a meeting with the lawyers and I think we are going to agree on a deal, but it's not what I want. I just want to get the divorce finalized, quit going to court all the time, and spending money on lawyers...
    okiedokie92914 okiedokie92914
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 25, 2015

    Flashbacks

    Month 2 after separation. It's flashback season. Memories of my X float into my consciousness 20 or 30 times a day. Good things, bad things, plans, dreams, places, ordinary moments, the mundane. No desire to go back, just stabs of pain here and there. Today I realized I...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Sep 16, 2013

    Breath Of Fresh Air!

    Just finished today! Man... I tell you what that process SUCKED! However, now that chapter in my book of life is over and closed and I can open the next one with a much clearer head and it feels like a hundred pound weight has come off my shoulders. A few years of scraping by...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Sep 24, 2013

    Today is the first day in almost a year

    that I am no longer asking myself why, I just accepted the fact that I will never get that answer. After being together 24 years, making a house a home and putting money in the bank by working my butt off to make sure he had the finer this in life. That means nothing when he...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Aug 4, 2015

    I'm anxiously awaiting my divorce hearing.

    I'm ready to finally close the book on this relationship. Maybe then I'll feel free to allow myself to date (and maybe fall in love) again.
    midnitephoenix midnitephoenix
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 13, 2015

    Its not easy to chose to end a marriage.

    When an endless cycle of hurt and unhappiness tears at your heart every day. Its time to let go, move on, and place your children first.
    bluetop bluetop
    31-35, M
    3 Responses May 23, 2014

    I received a letter last week

    that we have a final court date for the divorce. It's really on my birthday. I don't celebrate my birthday much so that part doesn't bother me. I did find it coincidence. I'm hurting much less as time moves on. I'm excited to start my life without him. Almost as excited as I...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

    Finally

    After three years of total angst and feeling guilted to stay here for the child, I just decided to stop waffling and held my ground on this decision. It's been a very long time coming. All of what I've been going through for the past few years have just been symptoms to cover the...
    lisa36 lisa36
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jun 9, 2012

    After 5 years of trying to make it work,

    we decided to call it quits. 16.5 years and 4 kids later, it's over. I'm pretty excited about what the future holds and am glad to be rid of a toxic relationship.
    Wingsuit Wingsuit
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Oct 3, 2015

    Last night at the old house.

    Polished off two bottles of wine, took a couple pictures of the view. Im really going to miss this place. And my life.... Hanging on to a shred of hope for the future.
    KR17 KR17
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    My journey is just about over.

    My divorce hearing was this past Tuesday. The only thing contested was custody of our son. The judge awarded me sole custody and allowed me to change my name back to my maiden name. As soon as the paperwork comes in the mail, I can finally say I'm free from the bastard.
    midnitephoenix midnitephoenix
    31-35, F
    Nov 1, 2015

    Hi all, Failed! All those processed was too

    difficult. So had to re open my case this week. Rrrr no fun! Well there is a guy. Stable, very ground, gentleman, was born England He want a develop a relationship. Umm I am not that ready at all..... He is sweet and always be there whatever I had a plm. I need that. U...
    girlyloveorange girlyloveorange
    31-35, F
    Jan 18

    Careful...be Careful

    You know the part where after the heat boils over and cools, there's that period of clarity. In every marriage and divorce there are signs that there once was something that made the relationship great. That made the marriage worth every moment. Where the love trumps all of the...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki
    31-35
    6 Responses Mar 13, 2010

    One month in my own place.

    Each day is a calm day. No more walking on eggshells. I know that it will take time for me to fully heal but now that I told my mother in law that I moved I feel free. Ex has yet to as my address or see his sons room. Will text me at 2:30 am and then scold me like I'm a...
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    My soon to be ex-husband called me

    and asked to pick up Taco Bell. I asked what he wanted, his reply was " you know that thing I always get". My reply was well in 2 weeks the lady in the drive through will have no clue what that is so you need to figure it out !!!!!
    littlefroghere littlefroghere
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015
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