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I Am Going Through a Divorce Right Now

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    Identity Crisis After Separation

    A month after I separated from my wife of 13 years, I am realizing a subtle transformation in the way I identify myself. When we are married to someone for that long, we define our identity by that marriage. We are married people, behave like married people, and that person is...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 14 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Actually It Is The Last Phase

    I got divorced about four years ago. For reasons not important, we shared the house until a couple of weeks ago. Tomorrow will be the last phase, she is going to pickup her things. It will be great seeing the last of her.
    Idonwannadie Idonwannadie 46-50, M 14 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Been with my wife over 20 years

    and married for sixteen and now she says the spark is gone. A couple of years ago we came though a long infidelity on her part which I still blame on myself for not making her happy. I am such an idiot. I guess I am destined to repeat the chain of broken families since I was...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 31

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    Next Desktop Background | UPDATED

    Today I logged in to find my ex has occupied my computer. At least her photo popped up in my wallpaper. I have thousands of photos in my wallpaper library, which cycles the background frequently. Many have my ex. Now I need to go in and prune that library. ****, that's gonna take...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 8 Responses Aug 21, 2013

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    Going Through Painful Divorce

    Hi all. So I had been married for 3 1/2 years, having been with my "ex" wife for 3 years before that. She told me 3 months ago that she wasn't happy and was considering leaving if things didn't improve - also that she had already told me this 9 months ago and I had taken no...
    lasty2014 lasty2014 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    I've gotten good advice on here before,

    so I'm hoping I can get some more. I'm currently going through a divorce with my husband, and it's draining me emotionally. He fights me on every little thing, and even wants to keep some of the things that I brought with me into this marriage (I understand that he wants to keep...
    manni87 manni87 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 23

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    Seperated But Still Living Together...

    It will be at least a week before my kids or brother can come pick me up and take me home, to where I grew up. Where my mom, 2 brothers, 4 kids and 2 grandkids live. Its 300 miles from where I am now, so I have to wait until the weekend when someone has a day off work. Its SO...
    robLOVER robLOVER 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    How I Got My Ex Begging To Have Me Back

    hello everyone i am proud to testify of the good work of prophet Brian Carn who helped me got my lover back in less than 3 days. I was happily married to the best Man in the world but suddenly after 6 years of our marriage my husband started behaving strange everything changed...
    stephanievcent stephanievcent 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2013

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    I've been separated for almost 4 months now.

    I loved being married but the marriage was toxic and had to end. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I love being with someone, but I realized that to be truly happy, I had to find a way to leave him and move on. He's a narcissist and was at his all time worst...
    LifeGaveMeLemons LifeGaveMeLemons 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 8

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    Still Seeking For Over 50+ Mature Singles?

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    losethtiyihu losethtiyihu 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2013

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    Not Offended

    As I was walking in the park yesterday, I felt God impart on me, the understanding of why I shouldn't be offended. I am going through a divorce and although my husband and I are getting along well enough to go through mediation right now... I often become offended by many of his...
    jann4 jann4 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    After 20 Years Of Misery

    Being married for 20 years to a bully is certainly not the marriage I envisioned. Too young I supposed, at 21..what do I know then...he didnt actually beat me up physically but the mental abuse is just as bad. I as made to feel like dirt beneath his feet. He made me feel unworthy...
    yellowrose090 yellowrose090 56-60, F 5 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    She says she want out

    but every time I ask for us to get the divorce paperwork started she breaks down crying. How long can this hell be dragged out. I have given up trying to finite out why now. A part of me hopes she has found someone else honestly. I am heart broken and pissed about what she is...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Feeling A Bit Lost..

    H and I have been together for 30 years (23 of them being married) and have two children, 19/17 yr olds. In that time, we've gone through a lot of ups, downs, hurdles and hurts.In 2008, he left a job he had for 16 years (because he was tired of doing it) to try doing his own...
    PL466 PL466 46-50, F 8 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    I am close to getting a divorce,

    and I am so grateful I don't have kids. My marriage lasted for 11 years and it is ending because we grew apart. As I look back, I do not have many memories to share as "husband and wife". He is a good man and he loved me greatly, but the love for me died slowly as we were having...
    Aileen73 Aileen73 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    I'm thinking that if he keeps dragging this

    divorce out we will be destitute by the end. Much easier to split nothing I guess. Over 3 years now. I could, and today did, just cry because I am so frustrated. When over I think it's making progress he throws another wrench in it. Aaarrrrggghh!!!!
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 12 Responses Mar 10

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    Why The Anger?

    Last night, I went and hung out with several new friends - it's just a movie night sort of deal, but everyone brings food, everyone's friendly and everyone has fun. It was a good night - I left with a smile on my face. The minute I got home though, I just felt rage well up...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 4 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    Am I wrong for wanting to snoop on her laptop

    to try to find out if/who the other person is? She swears there is no one but I feel there is. I feel I am violating her trust but damn she trampled all over my trust by destroying my hopes and dreams for the future after 20 plus years.
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 1

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    On the bright side in the last two weeks I have

    lost 15 pounds. I think I will market it as the DS diet. Divorce Stress diet. Not cheap though. Sucking away the life time savings nest egg we built together to get this behind me and start over. Crazy thing is she thinks I am loosing weight to try to convince her to stay. I...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    More Drama On the Phone

    Some of you may have read my last story in this group called "So it begins".  This is just an update to share what happened today when my soon to be ex wife called.   I got the call thinking it was my little girl on the phone who she lets talk to me almost...
    denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 7 Responses Jun 23, 2009

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    Difficult Times Call For Difficult Measures

    Well, it's happening. I'm 26 years old and three months ago I allowed myself to do the scariest thing I never wanted to do. What is that? Yep, you got it divorce. What was supposed to be a quick process with plans and great co parenting...
    kbarnes2011 kbarnes2011 26-30 5 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    i see it, i feel it,

    but it hasn't really started. can anyone help me?
    anton88 anton88 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Mad and Lonley

     6 year marriage thrown away because of her own selfishness.  I supported her threw 4 years of pharmacy school.  During those years I worked 40 to 60 hours every week and made sure the bills were always paid.  I also always took her out to show her a good time...
    denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 6 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    My wife asked me for a divorce in January - my

    world is shattered! She took our daughter with her and has since moved all of her stuff out of the apartment. I simply cannot function without her - I don't eat, sleep, and can't focus. Things got so depressing that I tried suicide, she stayed by my side until I was better then...
    irichardceo irichardceo 22-25, M 7 Responses Mar 14

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    Did A Stupid Thing Of Asking For Reconciliation

    I have been separated for about 2 years now but we haven't reached the stage of decree nisi. Separation has been rough on me and recently I did a silly thing of texting my ex to reconcile. I did it as I was drunk and naturally he declined. I can understand why, but I'm still...
    ComeDown ComeDown 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    I'm divorcing my husband of 18yrs.

    Tired of not being treated right.
    SNmom SNmom 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Been married 17 years.

    I'm not necessarily going through divorce, but my wife has emotionally abandoned me (physically too). I don't know what to do...struggling. I'm still attracted to her and want to draw close but she does not show the same interest. 2 great kids. Don't know what to do. Don't...
    beancounttc beancounttc 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    Not actually a divorce

    but a separation. I call it "divorce" though because it's irreparable. My marriage is over. And so is my capacity to love. I have written posts and posts about this and still the idea doesn't seem to enter my head. I have talked to so many nice people about this and the tears...
    bettyajz bettyajz 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 3

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    She told me Thursday 2/6/14

    that she went and got papers to file divorce. She hasn't been home since. My three boys and me are heart broken. Caught us all off guard. The hurt and pain feels unbearable, I know it will pass with time, time heals almost everything. My kids don't understand and all I can do...
    DADof3Boys DADof3Boys 31-35, M 5 Responses Feb 8

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    I Believed We'd Grow Old Together

    After 24 years and 4 kids, my husband wants a divorce. I was pretty and he pursued me when ever I left him over the years. I feel like now that I gained 20 poulds over the past year and broke an incisor that I don't have the $3,000 to fix, I am no longer attractive to him. He has...
    robLOVER robLOVER 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Lame Last Attempts

    Well, the stbx and I haven't been talking to each other at all lately - a situation that I'm perfectly happy with. Last night for some reason she decided to get into it. Generally, I've noticed when she attempts this that she is really trying to goad me into saying something...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 8 Responses Aug 15, 2013

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    Burning Pictures

    You know it actually helps a little. You would think that some one that made, or makes, your life hell would be easier to write off. But unfortunately getting the papers wasn't enough I guess. I read some where about burning pictures to initiate the healing. Feels pretty good...
    BrainTumor BrainTumor 41-45, M 3 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    Husband asked for a separation on 22nd of

    November and has proceeded to sleep with at least two (that I know of) different women in the three weeks since dropping the bomb on me. I love him but I'm done. He asked for separation, I hired a lawyer and filed for divorce last week. Cannot ever forgive infidelity.
    Andromeday Andromeday 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    My ex and will have been split 3 years this

    February....my birthday to be exact. Pretty much since day one it's been about the 2kids we have together, which it should. He has no family here so we have always invited him to holiday dinners as he would be alone. He told the kids in front of me that he was coming for Xmas...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Breath Of Fresh Air!

    Just finished today! Man... I tell you what that process SUCKED! However, now that chapter in my book of life is over and closed and I can open the next one with a much clearer head and it feels like a hundred pound weight has come off my shoulders. A few years of scraping by...
    Shoreboy Shoreboy 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    We have been married

    for 17 years and have two boys, ages 12 & 5. My wife told me in early January that she is done and filing for divorce. I am devastated. I love her so much, but she said she is tired of the broken promises and can't stay on this merry-go-round any longer. I am not perfect and I...
    Dankir96 Dankir96 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 15

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    My Resolve: Taking Back My Life

    Challenge, Discover, Connect, Conquer, Learn, Move, Aspire, Absorb, Grow, Adapt, Love, Embrace, Inspire, Lead, Follow, Try, Enjoy, Jump, Dance, Fight, Protect, Fear, Win, Lose, Recover, Believe, Support, Seek, Share, Forgive, Experience, See, Smell, Touch, Feel and Remember...
    mindnoter mindnoter 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    Life Is

    There was a time when simply being together was good enough. We would balance each other out so well, enjoy the company, relax and talk and never have to worry about the other person accepting us. It just was. I loved her for who she was and she loved me for who I was. But...
    Gearcynic Gearcynic 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Today At The Ex's House

    Today I went to my exes house to move the last shipment of my stuff. She was nicer to me than usual. Even bothered to ask how I was. At the same time she made it clear that she doesn't want me to keep coming back to take more of my things. That's reasonable, but unnecessary...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 10 Responses Sep 8, 2013

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    Careful...be Careful

    You know the part where after the heat boils over and cools, there's that period of clarity. In every marriage and divorce there are signs that there once was something that made the relationship great. That made the marriage worth every moment. Where the love trumps all of the...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 6 Responses Mar 13, 2010

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    Divorce After 26 Years

    So my husband gets out of the military almost 10 yrs ago, he comes home and says he doesn't want to be a husband or a father anymore, that's it, just like that! We had 2 beautiful girls 5 and 10 and I had to leave my FT job as he was deployed and we are in a different city from...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 12 Responses Apr 16, 2013

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    A Primal Grieving Cry...

    So, just like everybody else on this page, I 'am going through a divorce right now.' Actually, it's the separation preceding the filing of a divorce (our state mandates a year of separation before couples can file for divorce), but it might actually be worse than the legal...
    rockrock1974 rockrock1974 36-40, M 7 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    2nd Divorce

    How absolutely horrid--I now have to refer to 1st and 2nd ex--I never would have anticipated this--we got couseling! prior to the marriage--life seemed so wonderful, and now I feel like I'm walking around with with my tail between my legs--I've signed up for a class, am...
    rnbythesea rnbythesea 56-60 10 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Finally

    After three years of total angst and feeling guilted to stay here for the child, I just decided to stop waffling and held my ground on this decision. It's been a very long time coming. All of what I've been going through for the past few years have just been symptoms to cover the...
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 9 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Denverguy's Divorce Drama Part 3

    First story can be found under the title mad and lonely.  My second story is titled More drama on the phone.  To keep things more simple I am simply going to give the titles numbers from here on since I have a feeling there is going to be much to write about...
    denverguy denverguy 36-40, M 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Flashbacks

    Month 2 after separation. It's flashback season. Memories of my X float into my consciousness 20 or 30 times a day. Good things, bad things, plans, dreams, places, ordinary moments, the mundane. No desire to go back, just stabs of pain here and there. Today I realized I...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    Divorcing And Missing My Kids

    Well... I am now a point on a data chart and becoming divorced soon. I never thought I would be divorced after 21 years of marriage, I'm sure I am not alone in these feelings. The divorce is necessary but I miss my children.. Their father and I have decided to share custody but...
    jann4 jann4 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    a mutual decision but still sad experience after 20 years together. We are trying to do this with love and respect especially with our two children in mind!
    islandgirl31 islandgirl31 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 12

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    This is my anthem at the moment haha.Relates to my life right so much right now."I can make the rain stop,If I want to,Just by my attitude.I go where life takes me,but some days...
    Ally95xx Ally95xx 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. Ever since this girl first walked into our school, I couldn’t take my eyes...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. Ever since this girl first walked into our school, I couldn’t take my eyes...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 2

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    It sucks when you're ignored by the person whose attention is the only thing you want in the world. Ever since this girl first walked into our school, I couldn’t take my eyes...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    Man people always say this phrase "I am going through he'll in my life" so often but really to be honest I can really say that about me. As of right now my mom has cancer, I...
    Colpaige Colpaige 16-17, M 1 Response a week ago

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    How can you miss someone so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 7 Responses Mar 28

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    I'm going through a very tough time right now. I recently mutually ended a romantic relationship which was on the rocks for quite some time. We were very different in significant...
    abstractxparade abstractxparade 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I love Dido's lyrics, music and her voice... :)Dido- Sand In My Shoes.Two weeks away it feels like the whole world should've changed But I'm home nowAnd things still look the sameI...
    jssp jssp 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 2