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I Am Going Through a Separation

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    Good grief! http://www.

    lifefromlemons.com/
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M Jul 12

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    About a month ago my husband told me

    that he didnt feel the same about me anymore...the "i love you but Im not in love with you" spheel. Then about 2 weeks ago he told me there was another woman he was interested in and was already talking to. A week ago I gave birth to our daughter. My last month of pregnancy was...
    meluhknee meluhknee 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    so I'm sitting here in the driveway of my

    parents house, where I have to stay now and I don't want to go inside. going inside makes it seem so much more real that I'm not where I need to be
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 26

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    I'm having a horrible time dealing with

    everything that has happened . I have two kids . A seven year old and 22 month old. Second pregnancy wasn't planned and my husband asked me to abort and when I wouldn't moved out for "space" while I was having horrible morning sickness and ended up in the hospital . He moved to...
    Kristina82 Kristina82 31-35, F Jul 12

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    We're still living together

    and getting nowhere. sigh
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    Separated But Not Equal

    My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things better between us. We had been friends for 8 years before we got married and that has carried through some of the toughest times...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1 36-40, M 19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    I've been on this site

    for almost a week now. The people have been very insightful and friendly. I'm having a better time coping with the separation, all though there have been set backs. My divorced friend calls them waves. Thoughts or emotions that will rise up and crash into you. For example... I...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Had a problem with my account,

    same guy as that wrote the very last one
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jun 27

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    It has now been one year

    since my life was flipped upside down. 365 days of never ending grief. "Time heals all wounds," is what I have been told over and over. I am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me. Why am I not getting over it? She would always say that I had lost my sensitivity...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 2 Responses May 12, 2014

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    bellecc11 bellecc11 26-30, F Jul 7

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    I'm separated after more

    than 30 years of marriage and for the first time I feel that I'm worthy of being just me
    Carolwashere Carolwashere 51-55, F Feb 8

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    Just returned from camping with the family.

    Kinda weird thinking this might have been our last vacation as a complete family. To add to the bittersweet, she and I had a good time together. There were definite glimpses of what could be, if she'd let it happen. Almost made me not want to leave. Home now, we'll see how it...
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M Jul 10

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    How can you miss someone

    so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you don't know how bad I wish I could. I wake with eyes crusted from tears she'd in my sleep. While awake vision blurred from...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    Only three days in so far

    and I'm still hurting, but I can see just that more clearly. At the time that I posted my first post, I had thought that I didn't have the friends that I once did when we were together. They had all came there to support her at that time and not me. I felt so hurt already that I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 23

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    I don't know what to do friends.

    I'm so tired of feeling like I'm going to cry after every thought. Things just keep bringing me back to what could I have changed before it all went wrong. I mean, why is it so hard to let go. I can't go anywhere without being reminded of what she meant to me or things that we...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 25

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    Today is day one of the rest of my life.

    I moved out yesterday. its been 2 years since I caught her cheating. 2 years of fighting. counciling, etc. I never planned for things to end. I tried hard to keep things together. I won't let her continue to make me feel awful. I won't be the only one trying any longer...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19

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    To know my story, I have to go back a long way.

    In 2003, I was a senior in high school. I had just been through a terrible relationship that had almost left me traumatized. As a teenager I was of course very melodramitic, but one night something changed for me. A friend of mine had her best friend come to visit her on spring...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 22

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    It's been one month since she left me.

    I get to see the kids a lot but it's not the same. She has already moved on with her life and it's just a matter of time before she finds the person that will make her feel the way that I used to. Someone that will make her happy. All I ever wanted was to make her smile and to...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 22

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    To Remind You What Marriage Is....

    A commitment. its success doesn't depend on circumstances, feelings, or moods - but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day. A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It's an arrangement that requires...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    The bad thing about hope is it opens the door

    to be disappointed over and over!
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    so, I just had the big talk with my soon to be

    ex. It went better than any thought it would. We discussed what went wrong and what we both feel. It was good. I told her that I finally see where we fell and now I have to try to pick my self up and she has to do the same. I don't know what the future will hold now. With time...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25

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    I feel so sick to my stomach

    because of all this. No appetite. I am not hungry at all. This is awful, this distant marriage. Sad thing is, I never saw this coming. I tried everything.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    After 15 years together,

    13 years of marriage, two kids, and countless moments where I've considered separation, I finally did it. My husband is an alcoholic and I truly thought that sending him to rehab this year would be the end of the major issues. Unfortunately, I just found out he's been sneaking...
    hollygoheavily hollygoheavily 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    anyone who's been following me

    for the past couple days knows that I had to leave my house because my wife is separated from me. I'm now staying at my mom and dads house and I have to wonder why I'm so damn cold night. I was so used to this other person being next to me and sharing that warmth at night and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25

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    Okay, I have been on here

    since last sunday. I had to change my user name due to a malfunction on the mobil app. If you want to see my stories on here they all say deleted. My wife of ten years told me she was't in love or attracted to me any more and that kind of stuff. I thought that I lost friends...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 28

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    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    Ughhh...Christmas cookies triggered

    so much saddness today. We used to do advent, bake Xmas cookies,then bring them to our neighbours caroling & singing. First Xmas separated and all our family traditions...***. I know I just need to make new ones with my kids. I am wailing inside and feel busted. ..like a glass...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    Sad, Confused, And Lonely.

    My wife and I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I fell in love with her instantly. A great story, but some other time. Anyways, she graduated junior college and followed me to a FU college. She's the only reason I made it through. A long 6 years supporting one...
    Confusious13 Confusious13 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    Well, it's been a full two months

    since we made the final decision. It has been a very hard path through these two weeks, but I'm feeling better all the time. I'm proud of the way we're doing this.. Being supportive of each other and working our way through it. The relief in both of us to have made the...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Omg!! I Cannot Believe What Just Happened!!!

    It's been 14 months now that I have been separated. I have struggled so hard to pull myself back together again and raise my little boy on my own. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for sometime now regarding my ex husband and how I felt about him there has been a large...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    Back again. I'm so tired of set backs

    and frustration. I'm tired of this separation being so one sided. Three months and she already has another man living there, and I'm just trying to find someone to talk to. I wouldn't be so pissed if it wasn't my best friend that she's playing house with. All I want to do is get...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Why Us?

    My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here.  Less than a week before he told me he loved me.  We made...
    notready4this notready4this 41-45 72 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    This has been such a long road,

    and very bumpy, but I feel we've reached the end of it. We must find a new road. I don't know if that is together or not, but I feel I have to separate from him for awhile to figure it out. We have separated twice before, and things would improve for a little while, but they...
    onetimetoomany onetimetoomany 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 8, 2014

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    I left my husband maybe six times this year.

    We separated last year. I found out he was cheated on me. He said I pushed him to seek affection elsewhere because I was so cold. We came back together in January. I left him again because I do not trust him. Any little thing he does wrong causes me to just walk out. He found...
    macabre00 macabre00 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    My husband and I just talked this morning about

    going our separate ways. I am so distraught but I know it is the best choice. :'(
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Dealing W/ Rejection Through Separation

    My wife and I have been together 17 years, married for 16. It's been 4 months since separating and I've found it to be the most difficult thing I've ever been through. However, I've finally released the feelings of rejection, and realized, it's out of my control. Boundaries...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 19, 2013

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    So after almost 16 years of marriage

    and 24 years if being with the same man...I am the one who wants the separation.. however I am still sad because of our children.. To change what they know as our everyday family life... However it was good or bad...It was and is a routine.. That soon will change. Whoever has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    astrudcc11 astrudcc11 26-30, F Jul 27

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    I am finally got the date

    when I will have the keys to my flat and I am moving on with my life I am finally going to be happy and not be manipulated or bullied by her anymore I can feel it I can see it everything is falling into place I am going to be with the woman of dreams and I am going to support...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    Standing Up

    When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a different place to be, sometimes I need to look at the same place with a different set of eyes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    Tomorrow, I am going to do something

    that may sound crazy seeing as how early in this separation I am. After four days of self reflection I have asked my wife to meet with me to talk things out and in my own words " get a better goodbye." she has agreed to and now I'm scared. I had all these things I wanted to say...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 24

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    He's packing up to go now.

    I thought it would be easier to get through then it's turning out to be. I'm sad and hiding out in another room to avoid the awkwardness of it all. I keep reminding myself of how we got here and how this needs to happen. Why does it make me so sad...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 5 Responses May 8

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    I'm also going through a separation,

    I didn't appreciate my husband when I had him, I allowed my insecurities to over power my emotions. It been 2 months and he hasn't called me but has spoke with our daughter who is not his biological daughter, he asked how I was doing and that was it. We have been married for 1...
    Skinnyguru45 Skinnyguru45 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    Living In The Same House With My Ex

    Our situation is a bit unique. For several reasons, we are living under the same roof, however we are living separately. This is temporary and I will be moving out in May of 2014 when my son graduates High School. For the most part we are tolerating each other. He doesn't want to...
    summerfire summerfire 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    When will this get easier ?

    ? I'm constantly thinking of him. Of all the lies. I still dream of him cheating on me with other women and even justifying in the dream. It's so crazy. I won't be seeing him. I guess that's good. I want to get passed him and his lies. How ? When when will that finally happen...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 2 Responses May 23

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    11 Months Later

    You know that expression about the light at the end of the tunnel? That is me now.  Never would I have dreamed that a year ago that I would be here in a new city and starting a new life for me.  This decision to leave was not an easy one but yet I can say now that it was a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 28, 2013