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I Am Going Through a Separation

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    Well, it's the first overnight I will have with

    my kids this summer. They are so strong, too strong it almost seems. my heart breaks for them right now. I understand why my wife wanted to separate and I respect her for not just staying with me for their sakes. But when my give year old daughter feel asleep holding my hand...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jun 30, 2015

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    Back again. I'm so tired of set backs

    and frustration. I'm tired of this separation being so one sided. Three months and she already has another man living there, and I'm just trying to find someone to talk to. I wouldn't be so pissed if it wasn't my best friend that she's playing house with. All I want to do is get...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Sep 4, 2015

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    Separated But Not Equal

    My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things better between us. We had been friends for 8 years before we got married and that has carried through some of the toughest times...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1 36-40, M 19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    Hi...I'm wanting to separate from my husband.

    We been together for 15 yrs, married for 8. He is a wonderful person, kind and loyal. We have no children...just a 14.5 yr old Golden Retriever who is going to the rainbow bridge sooner than we are prepared for....I'm just a coward...I'm not in love with this wonderful man maybe...
    Karimcbride Karimcbride 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    I feel so sick to my stomach

    because of all this. No appetite. I am not hungry at all. This is awful, this distant marriage. Sad thing is, I never saw this coming. I tried everything.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2015

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    Dealing W/ Rejection Through Separation

    My wife and I have been together 17 years, married for 16. It's been 4 months since separating and I've found it to be the most difficult thing I've ever been through. However, I've finally released the feelings of rejection, and realized, it's out of my control. Boundaries...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 19, 2013

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    When will this get easier ?

    ? I'm constantly thinking of him. Of all the lies. I still dream of him cheating on me with other women and even justifying in the dream. It's so crazy. I won't be seeing him. I guess that's good. I want to get passed him and his lies. How ? When when will that finally happen...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 2 Responses May 23, 2015

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    In late 2014, I became friends with a fella.

    A really handsome, kind (and when I say kind, I mean REALLY, really kind), smart, and adventurous spirit. Considering how low my self-esteem was at this time, I destroyed my fantasies in the hopes of becoming the one special woman in his life. But one thing led to another...
    heyhoneybee heyhoneybee 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    After 15 years together,

    13 years of marriage, two kids, and countless moments where I've considered separation, I finally did it. My husband is an alcoholic and I truly thought that sending him to rehab this year would be the end of the major issues. Unfortunately, I just found out he's been sneaking...
    hollygoheavily hollygoheavily 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2015

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    Ughhh...Christmas cookies triggered

    so much saddness today. We used to do advent, bake Xmas cookies,then bring them to our neighbours caroling & singing. First Xmas separated and all our family traditions...***. I know I just need to make new ones with my kids. I am wailing inside and feel busted. ..like a glass...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    So after almost 16 years of marriage

    and 24 years if being with the same man...I am the one who wants the separation.. however I am still sad because of our children.. To change what they know as our everyday family life... However it was good or bad...It was and is a routine.. That soon will change. Whoever has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    To Remind You What Marriage Is....

    A commitment. its success doesn't depend on circumstances, feelings, or moods - but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day. A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It's an arrangement that requires...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    Well, it's been a full two months

    since we made the final decision. It has been a very hard path through these two weeks, but I'm feeling better all the time. I'm proud of the way we're doing this.. Being supportive of each other and working our way through it. The relief in both of us to have made the...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

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    It's been one month since she left me.

    I get to see the kids a lot but it's not the same. She has already moved on with her life and it's just a matter of time before she finds the person that will make her feel the way that I used to. Someone that will make her happy. All I ever wanted was to make her smile and to...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 22, 2015

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    I'm having a really bad day right now.

    I just re read and re lived my posts from when I had the ervspencer85 user name. I just want to tell her I love her and I am her husband. I want her to feel like she made a mistake and call me crying begging me to come home. I don't want to wait for her to change her mind if she...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 27, 2015

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    Standing Up

    When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a different place to be, sometimes I need to look at the same place with a different set of eyes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    Its been 3 months since my husband shocked me

    with im leaving..initially we had no contact then he wanted to startover and see if we could find that spark again..now he is telling me that its over for good ..we barely talk or see each other which is hard, but im slowly realising that despite missing him i am actually...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    I'm also going through a separation,

    I didn't appreciate my husband when I had him, I allowed my insecurities to over power my emotions. It been 2 months and he hasn't called me but has spoke with our daughter who is not his biological daughter, he asked how I was doing and that was it. We have been married for 1...
    Skinnyguru45 Skinnyguru45 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2015

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    I'm having trouble sleeping most nights.

    . My dreams are a jumbled up mess of stuff. Last night I was almost asleep and suddenly I realized.. It won't be long until I see you and realize you're not my husband any more. You'll just be you. He said.. My hope is that you'll see me and not think.. There's that...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 2 Responses May 24, 2015

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    How can you miss someone

    so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you don't know how bad I wish I could. I wake with eyes crusted from tears she'd in my sleep. While awake vision blurred from...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    We're still living together

    and getting nowhere. sigh
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 6, 2015

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    bellecc11 bellecc11 26-30, F Jul 7, 2015

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    11 Months Later

    You know that expression about the light at the end of the tunnel? That is me now.  Never would I have dreamed that a year ago that I would be here in a new city and starting a new life for me.  This decision to leave was not an easy one but yet I can say now that it was a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    My husband and I just talked this morning about

    going our separate ways. I am so distraught but I know it is the best choice. :'(
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 3, 2015

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    Today is day one of the rest of my life.

    I moved out yesterday. its been 2 years since I caught her cheating. 2 years of fighting. counciling, etc. I never planned for things to end. I tried hard to keep things together. I won't let her continue to make me feel awful. I won't be the only one trying any longer...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    I've been separated for just over six months,

    we sold the house and now living in new houses. I'm struggling to bed honest, she seems to be moving on without much problem. I'm not. She is dating and that hurts, I guess I'm in that place of playing what if. What if I'd been better, what if I'd have fought harder. She moves...
    lee1401 lee1401 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2015

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    He's packing up to go now.

    I thought it would be easier to get through then it's turning out to be. I'm sad and hiding out in another room to avoid the awkwardness of it all. I keep reminding myself of how we got here and how this needs to happen. Why does it make me so sad...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 5 Responses May 8, 2015

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    I've been on this site

    for almost a week now. The people have been very insightful and friendly. I'm having a better time coping with the separation, all though there have been set backs. My divorced friend calls them waves. Thoughts or emotions that will rise up and crash into you. For example... I...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 27, 2015

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    Why Us?

    My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here.  Less than a week before he told me he loved me.  We made...
    notready4this notready4this 41-45 71 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    Omg!! I Cannot Believe What Just Happened!!!

    It's been 14 months now that I have been separated. I have struggled so hard to pull myself back together again and raise my little boy on my own. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for sometime now regarding my ex husband and how I felt about him there has been a large...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    After 25 Years!

    I did it. I got off this crazy merry go 'round. Twenty five years and enough is enough. It's now 4 months and I'm feeling better than I did a few months ago. I left my husband about 14 years ago and wished I had not gone back but....there were all kinds of reasons to go back...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    About a month ago my husband told me

    that he didnt feel the same about me anymore...the "i love you but Im not in love with you" spheel. Then about 2 weeks ago he told me there was another woman he was interested in and was already talking to. A week ago I gave birth to our daughter. My last month of pregnancy was...
    meluhknee meluhknee 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    It's been a hell of a day,

    Really don't know where to begin. I'm at a loss for words, battered and broken. Half truths, half lies all the words you have spoken. It would have been 22 years in a month and some weeks. I have begged for answers never to hear you speak. We have fought all day, emotions are...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I'm having a horrible time dealing with

    everything that has happened . I have two kids . A seven year old and 22 month old. Second pregnancy wasn't planned and my husband asked me to abort and when I wouldn't moved out for "space" while I was having horrible morning sickness and ended up in the hospital . He moved to...
    Kristina82 Kristina82 31-35, F Jul 12, 2015

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    I left my husband maybe six times this year.

    We separated last year. I found out he was cheated on me. He said I pushed him to seek affection elsewhere because I was so cold. We came back together in January. I left him again because I do not trust him. Any little thing he does wrong causes me to just walk out. He found...
    macabre00 macabre00 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    astrudcc11 astrudcc11 26-30, F Jul 27, 2015

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    This has brought out the worst in

    both of us. I'm shocked at what I've said and done after being distanced by my wife for over half a decade. She moved out officially yesterday. It's all still raw. Time to sit with all this and reflect. I'm no longer relationship material and I won't be for a very long time...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    I hate the person I'm becoming now.

    Seven months ago, I was a happy husband and father. My wife came to me one night and told me that after ten years she wasn't in love with me and she didn't think she ever was. She started to date my best friend as soon as I moved out. I only see my children a couple of times a...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    I know exactly how that feels.

    My wife came to me one night and said that she wasn't in love with me any more and wanted me to find someone that would feel the same way about me that I would about them.
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jul 9, 2015

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    Day 3 We spoke and his denial turned to

    acceptance and every talk we've had its killed me repeating myself! Did today but when I left I felt a weight has gone I was honest and I felt good! He accepts I'm Going something I never thought he would have. Day 3 and I am feeling good
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 28, 2015

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    Had a problem with my account,

    same guy as that wrote the very last one
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jun 27, 2015

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    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2015

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    Okay, I have been on here

    since last sunday. I had to change my user name due to a malfunction on the mobil app. If you want to see my stories on here they all say deleted. My wife of ten years told me she was't in love or attracted to me any more and that kind of stuff. I thought that I lost friends...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 28, 2015

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    so, I just had the big talk with my soon to be

    ex. It went better than any thought it would. We discussed what went wrong and what we both feel. It was good. I told her that I finally see where we fell and now I have to try to pick my self up and she has to do the same. I don't know what the future will hold now. With time...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25, 2015

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