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I Am Going Through a Separation

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    Newly Separated, Lived Like Roommates For A Long Time. - I am to going through a separation, two months ago my wife of nine years told me she wanted me out. I then realized I...
    dudewhitman dudewhitman 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 30, 2013

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    Who? - Will want a broken shell of a woman? A woman with 3 kids and a destroyed heart? I wake up every morning and remember and I am skinned alive again. Over and over. I just can...
    heartache14 heartache14 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    Omg!! I Cannot Believe What Just Happened!!! - It's been 14 months now that I have been separated. I have struggled so hard to pull myself back together again and raise my little...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 15 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    What Would You Think? - I apologize for the length of this, but it's a long story and I'm very interested in hearing some objective outside opinions,so thanks in advance for...
    Rosalinne Rosalinne 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 14, 2010

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    It's really hard coming to terms with the fact that my marriage is over. I was the initiator and told him I wanted out. I realized that after 14 years of marriage and 2 kids later...
    lovelyme25 lovelyme25 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 8

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    My mistakes have left me feeling hopeless and as if my soul is ruined. I caused him to leave me. I caused my best friend, my soulmate to walk away for the time he needs. Now I sit...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    I found you in my house again, waiting for me. I asked you why you were in my house again. You said you wanted to talk. You said you wanted to "fix" things. Did you want to fix...
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 14

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    Need Your Help To Explain The Story Using Art - Hi everyone, I am trying to tell my story in a photographic project and thought including real people's which have been passing...
    lugiobe lugiobe 26-30, F Oct 11, 2013

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    This has been such a long road, and very bumpy, but I feel we've reached the end of it. We must find a new road. I don't know if that is together or not, but I feel I have to...
    onetimetoomany onetimetoomany 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    So Lost And Alone - Today I should have been celebrating my 10th wedding anniversary, instead my husband informed me 4 days ago, he is not happy and his feelings have changed. ...
    smwelsford smwelsford 36-40 2 Responses May 21, 2010

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    I Love You But I Am Not In Love With You. - My story is interesting. I have been with my wife for almost 10 years and 6 weeks ago she told me she wants to not be with me. She...
    Bmiller71 Bmiller71 41-45 3 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    To Remind You What Marriage Is.... - A commitment. its success doesn't depend on circumstances, feelings, or moods - but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F Nov 15, 2013

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    I have bipolar disorder. I don't want to say that I am bipolar because that implies that it is all of me. It is not. I am married to a woman who stood by my side up until July...
    ceeker7 ceeker7 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    At the moment i am .... i never thought i will be here... i have 3 adorable and amazing kids ages 3 , 7 and 9 i have tried to separate before ... but i went back to my wife cause...
    coolrunner coolrunner 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 28

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    Mediation - Well mediation is done but still not dusted.  We came to an agreement in regards to our his visitation with our daughter but the finacials are a different story...
    royalhotness royalhotness 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 9, 2010

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    I've been healing well but lately I've been thinking about her non stop, I know it's going to take time but I feel like calling and the evil angel the other side is telling me just...
    BrOOklYnBaNdiT718 BrOOklYnBaNdiT718 26-30, M Jan 27

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    She's Brainwashed - Today, was a weird but satisfying day.  I had a job interview that was extremely promising. I was afraid the interview would run over though and I'd miss my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    It's been a hell of a day, Really don't know where to begin. I'm at a loss for words, battered and broken. Half truths, half lies all the words you have spoken. It would have...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Damn my conscience.. So I have been going through hell these past couple months. From my husband telling me he doesn't want to be married to me anymore, to us being separated...
    JenLei JenLei 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 21

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    I have been living with my gf for the last 1 and half years and she keeps moving out or I keep kicking her out but then we get back together. We love each other and wanted to marry...
    Samm3 Samm3 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 21

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    So after 14 years of marriage my wife told me she wanted to end it. She told me that I was never good enough for her and that I never did anything for her. I felt betrayed as I...
    whatnow73 whatnow73 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 13

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    I Love You, But Not Sure If Im Still In Love With You. - Together 19 years married 14. I have borderline personality disorder and ptsd, I emotionally drained my husband to the...
    cassidion cassidion 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    This will probably be one of the hardest letters I have ever written. For so long I thought I needed answers from you in order to heal. Why, after 21 years did you betray me? Why...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Living In The Same House With My Ex - Our situation is a bit unique. For several reasons, we are living under the same roof, however we are living separately. This is temporary and...
    summerfire summerfire 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    So much time. I have nothing but time to think, and then think some more. Why did he have to kiss her? Why did he involve himself with another woman, when I was right here? He...
    JenLei JenLei 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I just cant sleep at all!! Whats the sign of depression?
    lonelyadelle lonelyadelle 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Final Separation After 2 Breaks - I'm going to start my separation, this time i want it to be final. I don't want to be weak again. I had what i thought was a perfect life, with my...
    bambamg bambamg 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    Divorce???? Really??? We Were Soo Happy! Confused.com!! - Hi, My husband has been gone 5 weeks now, living with his dad. Here's my story....... Firstly me and my husband have...
    xpeachypantsx xpeachypantsx 26-30 3 Responses Nov 26, 2010

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles - ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles - ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I've been miserable for so many years, you have made me feel like second best, now that I'm on the brink of getting what I want I'm full of doubt. My heart is broken for my...
    Galatasaray Galatasaray 36-40 2 Responses Jan 28

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    How can you miss someone so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 7 Responses Mar 28

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    I Have Made Such Wonderful Friends - everyone here is so wonderful....I write to help me. I sometimes think i write too much since i seem to be the only one posting on this thread...
    phoenix2011 phoenix2011 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    Sad, Confused, And Lonely. - My wife and I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I fell in love with her instantly. A great story, but some other time. Anyways, she...
    Confusious13 Confusious13 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    After 25 Years! - I did it. I got off this crazy merry go 'round. Twenty five years and enough is enough. It's now 4 months and I'm feeling better than I did a few months ago. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    It's been 6 months since he left and I can't get off this rollercoaster of emotion I'm on. I have cried everyday since he left. I have screamed and yelled at God and reflected on...
    tkemen8659 tkemen8659 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Separated But Not Equal - My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1 36-40, M 19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    It's Not Supposed To Be Like This..... - Its been a month since I confronted you and you admitted the truth.There are so many questions that I want you to answer but I am scared...
    ItsaLittleBitFunny ItsaLittleBitFunny 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    I Am Going Through A Separation. I Am 53 Years Old And Ill Too. -   I am 53 and soon to be separated. My husband and I have had problems in our relationship for years...
    Aloneagainat53 Aloneagainat53 51-55, F 7 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    No Christmas tree standing or stalkings hanging. Without my husband there seems to be no Christmas at all. The house is cold and shows no holiday spirit. I totally understand why...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    We Have Been Living Separate For Almost A Year - We have not filed for divorce yet. I cant wait for that to happen. I knew from the moment i left that I would not be going back. It...
    slsr slsr 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    Separated, But Still Unsure Of Myself - My husband and I mutually decided to separate back in October of 2011. For years prior to that, I have wanted to leave, but never had the...
    drosefiedler drosefiedler 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    Why Us? - My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the...
    notready4this notready4this 41-45 65 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    Standing Up - When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    My husband and I are both 45. Been together for a little over 16 years. We have one daughter. Life was really good or so I thought up until about 6 years ago. My husband had gone...
    Nemoislost Nemoislost 46-50, F Dec 15, 2013

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    You may or may not have known that last night was the Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse. It started at 1:48 am and lasted until 3:00 am. I watched the moon shadow over by the earth and...
    angiede angiede 26-30, F 21 hrs ago

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    My wife has set up an apartment and is taking our nine year old. My 2 older "inschool" teens are staying with me. She has battled alcohol for quite a while and has forged 15000...
    sdave9 sdave9 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    I Never Would Have Known - My wife and i have been together for 23 years and 2 weeks ago she broke down and asked me for a divorce. We were not talking much and sex was a thing of...
    ataglance ataglance 41-45, M 6 Responses May 8, 2008

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    Separated & Hurting - UPDATE: Since I first wrote this story, much has changed! I now enjoy a complete sense of freedom from a strangulating trap to a new open place of...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 13 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    How Do I Explain To My Child That My Husband And I Are Separating?? - My husband and I have been together 9 yrs married for 6 1/2 we have a 4 yr old child. My husband told me about...
    enaonero1 enaonero1 36-40 2 Responses Jun 8, 2013

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    Going Through A Separation After 19 Years Of Marriage - I'm glad that I found this group. I am new to this, so I'm not sure how it works exactly. I am 42 with two kids. !7 year old...
    fitmom29 fitmom29 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    11 Months Later - You know that expression about the light at the end of the tunnel? That is me now.  Never would I have dreamed that a year ago that I would be here in a new...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 28, 2013