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I Am Going Through a Separation

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    I feel so sick to my stomach

    because of all this. No appetite. I am not hungry at all. This is awful, this distant marriage. Sad thing is, I never saw this coming. I tried everything.
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2015

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    Well, it's been a full two months

    since we made the final decision. It has been a very hard path through these two weeks, but I'm feeling better all the time. I'm proud of the way we're doing this.. Being supportive of each other and working our way through it. The relief in both of us to have made the...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

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    I take it back. There is nothing I can do

    but let her be happy. I feel so broken inside. How can I move on when I have nothing to hope for. She made me a better person and now that it's really over how can I be that person again
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jul 12, 2015

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    I don't know what to do friends.

    I'm so tired of feeling like I'm going to cry after every thought. Things just keep bringing me back to what could I have changed before it all went wrong. I mean, why is it so hard to let go. I can't go anywhere without being reminded of what she meant to me or things that we...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

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    This has been such a long road,

    and very bumpy, but I feel we've reached the end of it. We must find a new road. I don't know if that is together or not, but I feel I have to separate from him for awhile to figure it out. We have separated twice before, and things would improve for a little while, but they...
    onetimetoomany onetimetoomany 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 8, 2014

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    It's been a hell of a day,

    Really don't know where to begin. I'm at a loss for words, battered and broken. Half truths, half lies all the words you have spoken. It would have been 22 years in a month and some weeks. I have begged for answers never to hear you speak. We have fought all day, emotions are...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Sad, Confused, And Lonely.

    My wife and I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I fell in love with her instantly. A great story, but some other time. Anyways, she graduated junior college and followed me to a FU college. She's the only reason I made it through. A long 6 years supporting one...
    Confusious13 Confusious13 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    I'm having trouble sleeping most nights.

    . My dreams are a jumbled up mess of stuff. Last night I was almost asleep and suddenly I realized.. It won't be long until I see you and realize you're not my husband any more. You'll just be you. He said.. My hope is that you'll see me and not think.. There's that...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 2 Responses May 24, 2015

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    About a month ago my husband told me

    that he didnt feel the same about me anymore...the "i love you but Im not in love with you" spheel. Then about 2 weeks ago he told me there was another woman he was interested in and was already talking to. A week ago I gave birth to our daughter. My last month of pregnancy was...
    meluhknee meluhknee 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2015

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    I've been separated for just over six months,

    we sold the house and now living in new houses. I'm struggling to bed honest, she seems to be moving on without much problem. I'm not. She is dating and that hurts, I guess I'm in that place of playing what if. What if I'd been better, what if I'd have fought harder. She moves...
    lee1401 lee1401 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2015

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    In late 2014, I became friends with a fella.

    A really handsome, kind (and when I say kind, I mean REALLY, really kind), smart, and adventurous spirit. Considering how low my self-esteem was at this time, I destroyed my fantasies in the hopes of becoming the one special woman in his life. But one thing led to another...
    heyhoneybee heyhoneybee 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    It has now been one year

    since my life was flipped upside down. 365 days of never ending grief. "Time heals all wounds," is what I have been told over and over. I am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me. Why am I not getting over it? She would always say that I had lost my sensitivity...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 3 Responses May 12, 2014

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    I hate the person I'm becoming now.

    Seven months ago, I was a happy husband and father. My wife came to me one night and told me that after ten years she wasn't in love with me and she didn't think she ever was. She started to date my best friend as soon as I moved out. I only see my children a couple of times a...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    My husband and I just talked this morning about

    going our separate ways. I am so distraught but I know it is the best choice. :'(
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 3, 2015

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    Its been 3 months since my husband shocked me

    with im leaving..initially we had no contact then he wanted to startover and see if we could find that spark again..now he is telling me that its over for good ..we barely talk or see each other which is hard, but im slowly realising that despite missing him i am actually...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    The bad thing about hope is it opens the door

    to be disappointed over and over!
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 16, 2015

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    I left my husband maybe six times this year.

    We separated last year. I found out he was cheated on me. He said I pushed him to seek affection elsewhere because I was so cold. We came back together in January. I left him again because I do not trust him. Any little thing he does wrong causes me to just walk out. He found...
    macabre00 macabre00 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2015

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    Hi...I'm wanting to separate from my husband.

    We been together for 15 yrs, married for 8. He is a wonderful person, kind and loyal. We have no children...just a 14.5 yr old Golden Retriever who is going to the rainbow bridge sooner than we are prepared for....I'm just a coward...I'm not in love with this wonderful man maybe...
    Karimcbride Karimcbride 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    Dealing W/ Rejection Through Separation

    My wife and I have been together 17 years, married for 16. It's been 4 months since separating and I've found it to be the most difficult thing I've ever been through. However, I've finally released the feelings of rejection, and realized, it's out of my control. Boundaries...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 19, 2013

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    So after almost 16 years of marriage

    and 24 years if being with the same man...I am the one who wants the separation.. however I am still sad because of our children.. To change what they know as our everyday family life... However it was good or bad...It was and is a routine.. That soon will change. Whoever has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    Well, it's the first overnight I will have with

    my kids this summer. They are so strong, too strong it almost seems. my heart breaks for them right now. I understand why my wife wanted to separate and I respect her for not just staying with me for their sakes. But when my give year old daughter feel asleep holding my hand...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jun 30, 2015

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    I've been on this site

    for almost a week now. The people have been very insightful and friendly. I'm having a better time coping with the separation, all though there have been set backs. My divorced friend calls them waves. Thoughts or emotions that will rise up and crash into you. For example... I...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 27, 2015

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    Omg!! I Cannot Believe What Just Happened!!!

    It's been 14 months now that I have been separated. I have struggled so hard to pull myself back together again and raise my little boy on my own. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for sometime now regarding my ex husband and how I felt about him there has been a large...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 17 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    How can you miss someone

    so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you don't know how bad I wish I could. I wake with eyes crusted from tears she'd in my sleep. While awake vision blurred from...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    Sometimes I just want to cry.

    I can be in the middle of doing something completely unrelated or at work and I'll want to run to the restroom and have a hard, loud cry. I hate being on this emotional roller coaster. Some days I feel as if I could go sign divorce papers and other days I want to call him and...
    KamLei KamLei 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 11, 2015

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    This has brought out the worst in

    both of us. I'm shocked at what I've said and done after being distanced by my wife for over half a decade. She moved out officially yesterday. It's all still raw. Time to sit with all this and reflect. I'm no longer relationship material and I won't be for a very long time...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    When will this get easier ?

    ? I'm constantly thinking of him. Of all the lies. I still dream of him cheating on me with other women and even justifying in the dream. It's so crazy. I won't be seeing him. I guess that's good. I want to get passed him and his lies. How ? When when will that finally happen...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 2 Responses May 23, 2015

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    It's been one month since she left me.

    I get to see the kids a lot but it's not the same. She has already moved on with her life and it's just a matter of time before she finds the person that will make her feel the way that I used to. Someone that will make her happy. All I ever wanted was to make her smile and to...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 22, 2015

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    Can I pls ask for prayers

    so that my husband and I can go back together. We were fine and out of sudden he gets upset at me and want to leave me. I need God's help. And for people who do, May God bless you all.
    simplynobody000 simplynobody000 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2015

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    I'm separated after more

    than 30 years of marriage and for the first time I feel that I'm worthy of being just me
    Carolwashere Carolwashere 51-55, F Feb 8, 2015

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    Just returned from camping with the family.

    Kinda weird thinking this might have been our last vacation as a complete family. To add to the bittersweet, she and I had a good time together. There were definite glimpses of what could be, if she'd let it happen. Almost made me not want to leave. Home now, we'll see how it...
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M Jul 10, 2015

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    He's packing up to go now.

    I thought it would be easier to get through then it's turning out to be. I'm sad and hiding out in another room to avoid the awkwardness of it all. I keep reminding myself of how we got here and how this needs to happen. Why does it make me so sad...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 5 Responses May 8, 2015

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    Good grief! http://www.

    lifefromlemons.com/
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M Jul 12, 2015

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    Okay, I have been on here

    since last sunday. I had to change my user name due to a malfunction on the mobil app. If you want to see my stories on here they all say deleted. My wife of ten years told me she was't in love or attracted to me any more and that kind of stuff. I thought that I lost friends...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 28, 2015

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    After 15 years together,

    13 years of marriage, two kids, and countless moments where I've considered separation, I finally did it. My husband is an alcoholic and I truly thought that sending him to rehab this year would be the end of the major issues. Unfortunately, I just found out he's been sneaking...
    hollygoheavily hollygoheavily 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2015

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    Standing Up

    When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a different place to be, sometimes I need to look at the same place with a different set of eyes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    After 25 Years!

    I did it. I got off this crazy merry go 'round. Twenty five years and enough is enough. It's now 4 months and I'm feeling better than I did a few months ago. I left my husband about 14 years ago and wished I had not gone back but....there were all kinds of reasons to go back...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    Why Us?

    My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here.  Less than a week before he told me he loved me.  We made...
    notready4this notready4this 41-45 71 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    We're still living together

    and getting nowhere. sigh
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M Jul 6, 2015

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    I'm also going through a separation,

    I didn't appreciate my husband when I had him, I allowed my insecurities to over power my emotions. It been 2 months and he hasn't called me but has spoke with our daughter who is not his biological daughter, he asked how I was doing and that was it. We have been married for 1...
    Skinnyguru45 Skinnyguru45 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2015

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    This is hard for me to put out in the open.

    My wife and I have been separated for 5 weeks today. We had trust issues in our marriage because when we had first got married I emotionally cheated on her. I was skyping with ex girlfriend and being inappropriate. When she was helping a friend get ready for her wedding as the...
    Richardg123 Richardg123 26-30, M Oct 3, 2015

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    Separated But Not Equal

    My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things better between us. We had been friends for 8 years before we got married and that has carried through some of the toughest times...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1 36-40, M 19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    I know exactly how that feels.

    My wife came to me one night and said that she wasn't in love with me any more and wanted me to find someone that would feel the same way about me that I would about them.
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Jul 9, 2015

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    Back again. I'm so tired of set backs

    and frustration. I'm tired of this separation being so one sided. Three months and she already has another man living there, and I'm just trying to find someone to talk to. I wouldn't be so pissed if it wasn't my best friend that she's playing house with. All I want to do is get...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M Sep 4, 2015

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