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I Am Going Through a Separation

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    Divorce???? Really??? We Were Soo Happy! Confused.com!!

    Hi, My husband has been gone 5 weeks now, living with his dad. Here's my story....... Firstly me and my husband have been together for 8-9yrs, married for 3-4yrs. We have 3 wonderful children, all planned, a nice house. I am 29yrs old and 'He' is 35yrs old. This is (for both of...
    xpeachypantsx xpeachypantsx 26-30 3 Responses Nov 26, 2010

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    I Have Made Such Wonderful Friends

    everyone here is so wonderful....I write to help me. I sometimes think i write too much since i seem to be the only one posting on this thread. But I feel such a sense of release when i write. I feel better after i write. I know everyone here is wonderful and some are going...
    phoenix2011 phoenix2011 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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    I Am Going Through A Separation. I Am 53 Years Old And Ill Too.

      I am 53 and soon to be separated. My husband and I have had problems in our relationship for years. Moreover, I have been fighting cancer and depression for the last 4-5 years. In the meantime, my husband accumulated debts and it got to that point where I discovered we are...
    Aloneagainat53 Aloneagainat53 51-55, F 7 Responses Jul 1, 2012

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    No Christmas tree standing

    or stalkings hanging. Without my husband there seems to be no Christmas at all. The house is cold and shows no holiday spirit. I totally understand why so many people become depressed or more depressed during Christmas. I wish Santa would give me the gift I want the most... My...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Final Separation After 2 Breaks

    I'm going to start my separation, this time i want it to be final. I don't want to be weak again. I had what i thought was a perfect life, with my husband for 9 years, a 1 1/2 year old son and a baby girl on her way, things starting to change, lots of changes new house, new job...
    bambamg bambamg 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    My mistakes have left me feeling hopeless

    and as if my soul is ruined. I caused him to leave me. I caused my best friend, my soulmate to walk away for the time he needs. Now I sit here and wait for the unknown. The ball is in his court and I have no idea what's going through his head. The separation rules he wanted...
    Faith2117 Faith2117 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    I've been miserable for

    so many years, you have made me feel like second best, now that I'm on the brink of getting what I want I'm full of doubt. My heart is broken for my children, you always make me be the bad guy and break the news to them. Now I am moving to a new house and that isn't going to be...
    Galatasaray Galatasaray 36-40 2 Responses Jan 28

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    So much time. I have nothing

    but time to think, and then think some more. Why did he have to kiss her? Why did he involve himself with another woman, when I was right here? He texted her for months, sexted too. This is what confuses me the most. We were having regular sex. We were spending time with each...
    JenLei JenLei 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    Damn my conscience.. So I have been going

    through hell these past couple months. From my husband telling me he doesn't want to be married to me anymore, to us being separated for a month, and now him telling me he's not sure he could stay faithful to me.. Its been a very painful journey. Here's the thing: I met...
    JenLei JenLei 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 21

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    Mediation

    Well mediation is done but still not dusted.  We came to an agreement in regards to our his visitation with our daughter but the finacials are a different story.  I really feel sorry for the stupid man, he's told so many lies that he actually tried to lie to me and make...
    royalhotness royalhotness 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 9, 2010

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    This will probably be one of the hardest

    letters I have ever written. For so long I thought I needed answers from you in order to heal. Why, after 21 years did you betray me? Why did you choose him, a relative stranger over me? Why did you refuse to work to save our marriage? Those are but a few of the hundreds of...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Living In The Same House With My Ex

    Our situation is a bit unique. For several reasons, we are living under the same roof, however we are living separately. This is temporary and I will be moving out in May of 2014 when my son graduates High School. For the most part we are tolerating each other. He doesn't want to...
    summerfire summerfire 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    After 25 Years!

    I did it. I got off this crazy merry go 'round. Twenty five years and enough is enough. It's now 4 months and I'm feeling better than I did a few months ago. I left my husband about 14 years ago and wished I had not gone back but....there were all kinds of reasons to go back...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    I Never Would Have Known

    My wife and i have been together for 23 years and 2 weeks ago she broke down and asked me for a divorce. We were not talking much and sex was a thing of the past. We had drifted so far apart that anything that was said seemed to be a personal attack on her. After she told me...
    ataglance ataglance 41-45, M 6 Responses May 8, 2008

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    Need Your Help To Explain The Story Using Art

    Hi everyone, I am trying to tell my story in a photographic project and thought including real people's which have been passing through a separation and share their story online would help me develop a more complex panorama to the work. If any of you are interested in sharing...
    lugiobe lugiobe 26-30, F Oct 11, 2013

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    We Have Been Living Separate For Almost A Year

    We have not filed for divorce yet. I cant wait for that to happen. I knew from the moment i left that I would not be going back. It has been a tough experience being in both worlds...its like I have a dual personality. Living as if I am single but legally not free. I gave my...
    slsr slsr 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    She's Brainwashed

    Today, was a weird but satisfying day.  I had a job interview that was extremely promising. I was afraid the interview would run over though and I'd miss my oldest son's first music concert. I think God's favor is resting on me now because I got out and on the other side of town...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 24, 2012

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    Separated & Hurting

    UPDATE: Since I first wrote this story, much has changed! I now enjoy a complete sense of freedom from a strangulating trap to a new open place of opportunity to explore new fulfilling and rewarding relationships. As I reflect back, it amazes me to think of the deep dispair...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 13 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    I found you in my house again,

    waiting for me. I asked you why you were in my house again. You said you wanted to talk. You said you wanted to "fix" things. Did you want to fix things when we were together? Did you try to help me raise our kids? Did you want to help me pay the bills? What about all the...
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 14

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    Sad, Confused, And Lonely.

    My wife and I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I fell in love with her instantly. A great story, but some other time. Anyways, she graduated junior college and followed me to a FU college. She's the only reason I made it through. A long 6 years supporting one...
    Confusious13 Confusious13 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    Who?

    Will want a broken shell of a woman? A woman with 3 kids and a destroyed heart? I wake up every morning and remember and I am skinned alive again. Over and over. I just can't believe he is doing this to all of us. It just doesn't make any sense. I should be committed.
    heartache14 heartache14 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 26, 2012

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    It's been 6 months since he left

    and I can't get off this rollercoaster of emotion I'm on. I have cried everyday since he left. I have screamed and yelled at God and reflected on every moment that may have gotten me to here. i still don't understand. I did everything for him, for his daughter, for his happiness...
    tkemen8659 tkemen8659 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    This has been such a long road,

    and very bumpy, but I feel we've reached the end of it. We must find a new road. I don't know if that is together or not, but I feel I have to separate from him for awhile to figure it out. We have separated twice before, and things would improve for a little while, but they...
    onetimetoomany onetimetoomany 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    I Love You, But Not Sure If Im Still In Love With You.

    Together 19 years married 14. I have borderline personality disorder and ptsd, I emotionally drained my husband to the point of him being tired and exhausted, not knowing how else to help me. We haven't been happy for a bit. I still love him allot and don't want to lose him. He...
    cassidion cassidion 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    It's been a hell of a day,

    Really don't know where to begin. I'm at a loss for words, battered and broken. Half truths, half lies all the words you have spoken. It would have been 22 years in a month and some weeks. I have begged for answers never to hear you speak. We have fought all day, emotions are...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Separated But Not Equal

    My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things better between us. We had been friends for 8 years before we got married and that has carried through some of the toughest times...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1 36-40, M 19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    You may or may not have known

    that last night was the Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse. It started at 1:48 am and lasted until 3:00 am. I watched the moon shadow over by the earth and slowly turn a deep orange. It was beautiful. I starred out the kitchen while occasionally glancing over at you sleeping. I wanted...
    angiede angiede 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    11 Months Later

    You know that expression about the light at the end of the tunnel? That is me now.  Never would I have dreamed that a year ago that I would be here in a new city and starting a new life for me.  This decision to leave was not an easy one but yet I can say now that it was a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I have bipolar disorder.

    I don't want to say that I am bipolar because that implies that it is all of me. It is not. I am married to a woman who stood by my side up until July, when she finally had enough and asked for a divorce. I am devastated. I do not want a divorce. I love her and we have kids...
    ceeker7 ceeker7 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Separated, But Still Unsure Of Myself

    My husband and I mutually decided to separate back in October of 2011. For years prior to that, I have wanted to leave, but never had the courage to do it and decided it was bad for the kids if I left. The reason why the separation ended up a mutual decision was because he was...
    drosefiedler drosefiedler 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    So after 14 years of marriage my wife told me

    she wanted to end it. She told me that I was never good enough for her and that I never did anything for her. I felt betrayed as I have spent most of our marriage supporting her financially and fulfilling most the domestic duties. While she browsed the internet, Facebook, and...
    whatnow73 whatnow73 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 13

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    My husband and I are

    both 45. Been together for a little over 16 years. We have one daughter. Life was really good or so I thought up until about 6 years ago. My husband had gone away to another state for work. When he came back he announced he was "done" with our marriage. This is when the female...
    Nemoislost Nemoislost 46-50, F Dec 15, 2013

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    Going Through A Separation After 19 Years Of Marriage

    I'm glad that I found this group. I am new to this, so I'm not sure how it works exactly. I am 42 with two kids. !7 year old daughter and 11 year old boy. I would have to say I don't know if I was ever really happy in our marriage. It was almost like we were friends who went out...
    fitmom29 fitmom29 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    My wife has set up an apartment

    and is taking our nine year old. My 2 older "inschool" teens are staying with me. She has battled alcohol for quite a while and has forged 15000 bucks in cheques since jan. this money is still owed since it is from my line of credit. She said this seperation will help us and...
    sdave9 sdave9 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    Newly Separated, Lived Like Roommates For A Long Time.

    I am to going through a separation, two months ago my wife of nine years told me she wanted me out. I then realized I needed to respect her wishes and when I told her I would move out she then went into a panic and asked if I would stay, but in the guest room as roommates. I...
    dudewhitman dudewhitman 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 30, 2013

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    To Remind You What Marriage Is....

    A commitment. its success doesn't depend on circumstances, feelings, or moods - but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day. A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It's an arrangement that requires...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F Nov 15, 2013

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    It's Not Supposed To Be Like This.....

    Its been a month since I confronted you and you admitted the truth.There are so many questions that I want you to answer but I am scared to know the truth. There are so many truth's I wish I could bury and forget.Why does it feel like its only the painful things that are true...
    ItsaLittleBitFunny ItsaLittleBitFunny 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    Standing Up

    When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a different place to be, sometimes I need to look at the same place with a different set of eyes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    So Lost And Alone

    Today I should have been celebrating my 10th wedding anniversary, instead my husband informed me 4 days ago, he is not happy and his feelings have changed. We have 4 children, b11, g8, b6, g6 and no family close for support. He tells me he doesn't think counseling will help...
    smwelsford smwelsford 36-40 2 Responses May 21, 2010

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    How Do I Explain To My Child That My Husband And I Are Separating??

    My husband and I have been together 9 yrs married for 6 1/2 we have a 4 yr old child. My husband told me about 4 months ago he didn't think he was in love with me and that for the last 2 yrs he has been unhappy. We went to therapy for 1 month. We decided to try to improve the...
    enaonero1 enaonero1 36-40 2 Responses Jun 8, 2013

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    At the moment i am ..

    .. i never thought i will be here... i have 3 adorable and amazing kids ages 3 , 7 and 9 i have tried to separate before ... but i went back to my wife cause she was crying and saying how much she loves me.. in my heart i believe she doesn't ... i come back and nothing changes...
    coolrunner coolrunner 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 28

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    What Would You Think?

    I apologize for the length of this, but it's a long story and I'm very interested in hearing some objective outside opinions,so thanks in advance for anyone who takes the trouble to read this. About 6 weeks ago the man I have been living with  in a committed 13 year...
    Rosalinne Rosalinne 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 14, 2010

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I Love You But I Am Not In Love With You.

    My story is interesting. I have been with my wife for almost 10 years and 6 weeks ago she told me she wants to not be with me. She does not feel the emotional connection anymore. There is no one else. I have moved out and am living with my parents. We have also gone to...
    Bmiller71 Bmiller71 41-45 3 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    It's really hard coming to terms with the fact

    that my marriage is over. I was the initiator and told him I wanted out. I realized that after 14 years of marriage and 2 kids later we no longer wanted the same things out of life. I have dealt with everything from infidelity to him stealing from me and for 5 years him not...
    lovelyme25 lovelyme25 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 8

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    Omg!! I Cannot Believe What Just Happened!!!

    It's been 14 months now that I have been separated. I have struggled so hard to pull myself back together again and raise my little boy on my own. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for sometime now regarding my ex husband and how I felt about him there has been a large...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower 36-40, F 15 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    I have been living with my gf

    for the last 1 and half years and she keeps moving out or I keep kicking her out but then we get back together. We love each other and wanted to marry soon but she is an alocohlic with a violent temper so she says things which she can say when she is sober but she won't and that...
    Samm3 Samm3 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 21

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    I just cant sleep at all!

    ! Whats the sign of depression?
    lonelyadelle lonelyadelle 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    How can you miss someone

    so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you don't know how bad I wish I could. I wake with eyes crusted from tears she'd in my sleep. While awake vision blurred from...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 7 Responses Mar 28

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    Why Us?

    My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here.  Less than a week before he told me he loved me.  We made...
    notready4this notready4this 41-45 65 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I've been healing well

    but lately I've been thinking about her non stop, I know it's going to take time but I feel like calling and the evil angel the other side is telling me just forget about her. It's hard to cope, I rather choose to be happy than miserable.
    BrOOklYnBaNdiT718 BrOOklYnBaNdiT718 26-30, M Jan 27

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    Man people always say this phrase "I am going through he'll in my life" so often but really to be honest I can really say that about me. As of right now my mom has cancer, I...
    Colpaige Colpaige 16-17, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Been with my wife over 20 years and married for sixteen and now she says the spark is gone. A couple of years ago we came though a long infidelity on her part which I still blame...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 31

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    On the bright side in the last two weeks I have lost 15 pounds. I think I will market it as the DS diet. Divorce Stress diet. Not cheap though. Sucking away the life time savings...
    SamStartingOver SamStartingOver 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    I'm sorry if I don't seem the same, I am going through a rather awful and depressive stage. I feel stuck and I don't know what to do really.
    anom33 anom33 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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