I Am Going Through a Separation

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    In late 2014, I became friends with a fella.

    A really handsome, kind (and when I say kind, I mean REALLY, really kind), smart, and adventurous spirit. Considering how low my self-esteem was at this time, I destroyed my fantasies in the hopes of becoming the one special woman in his life. But one thing led to another...
    heyhoneybee heyhoneybee
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 11

    This has been such a long road,

    and very bumpy, but I feel we've reached the end of it. We must find a new road. I don't know if that is together or not, but I feel I have to separate from him for awhile to figure it out. We have separated twice before, and things would improve for a little while, but they...
    onetimetoomany onetimetoomany
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 8, 2014

    How Do I Explain To My Child That My Husband And I Are Separating??

    My husband and I have been together 9 yrs married for 6 1/2 we have a 4 yr old child. My husband told me about 4 months ago he didn't think he was in love with me and that for the last 2 yrs he has been unhappy. We went to therapy for 1 month. We decided to try to improve the...
    enaonero1 enaonero1
    3 Responses Jun 8, 2013

    When will this get easier ?

    ? I'm constantly thinking of him. Of all the lies. I still dream of him cheating on me with other women and even justifying in the dream. It's so crazy. I won't be seeing him. I guess that's good. I want to get passed him and his lies. How ? When when will that finally happen...
    sp7799 sp7799
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 23, 2015

    I'm also going through a separation,

    I didn't appreciate my husband when I had him, I allowed my insecurities to over power my emotions. It been 2 months and he hasn't called me but has spoke with our daughter who is not his biological daughter, he asked how I was doing and that was it. We have been married for 1...
    Skinnyguru45 Skinnyguru45
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 8, 2015

    This has brought out the worst in

    both of us. I'm shocked at what I've said and done after being distanced by my wife for over half a decade. She moved out officially yesterday. It's all still raw. Time to sit with all this and reflect. I'm no longer relationship material and I won't be for a very long time...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    Its been 3 months since my husband shocked me

    with im leaving..initially we had no contact then he wanted to startover and see if we could find that spark again..now he is telling me that its over for good ..we barely talk or see each other which is hard, but im slowly realising that despite missing him i am actually...
    kylieheartbroken kylieheartbroken
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    After 11 years and one child with my husband,

    he has left me. Our problems (for him so he says) started 6 years ago when we were having problems getting pregnant. I was very depressed at not being able to become a mother and he was my rock, or so I thought. He told me when I finally became pregnant that he wanted to leave...
    sdwe sdwe
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 23

    Well, it's been a full two months

    since we made the final decision. It has been a very hard path through these two weeks, but I'm feeling better all the time. I'm proud of the way we're doing this.. Being supportive of each other and working our way through it. The relief in both of us to have made the...
    mg75 mg75
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    I am finally got the date

    when I will have the keys to my flat and I am moving on with my life I am finally going to be happy and not be manipulated or bullied by her anymore I can feel it I can see it everything is falling into place I am going to be with the woman of dreams and I am going to support...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey
    36-40, M
    1 Response Apr 27, 2015

    Today is day one of the rest of my life.

    I moved out yesterday. its been 2 years since I caught her cheating. 2 years of fighting. counciling, etc. I never planned for things to end. I tried hard to keep things together. I won't let her continue to make me feel awful. I won't be the only one trying any longer...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2015

    He's packing up to go now.

    I thought it would be easier to get through then it's turning out to be. I'm sad and hiding out in another room to avoid the awkwardness of it all. I keep reminding myself of how we got here and how this needs to happen. Why does it make me so sad...
    sp7799 sp7799
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 8, 2015

    I'm having a horrible time dealing with

    everything that has happened . I have two kids . A seven year old and 22 month old. Second pregnancy wasn't planned and my husband asked me to abort and when I wouldn't moved out for "space" while I was having horrible morning sickness and ended up in the hospital . He moved to...
    Kristina82 Kristina82
    31-35, F
    Jul 12, 2015

    And It Begins...:-(

    Today is the first day of our separation. This weekend we moved him to the upstairs bedroom and it was absolutely heartbreaking to walk into my half empty bedroom (my/our it feels so foreign to talk in singulars). So much that I spend the first night on the couch. We are still in...
    heartache14 heartache14
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 30, 2012

    When I met my husband he had just been separated

    because he had a lot of problems with his couple, she was a cheater, there where a lot of domestic violence against him since there where times where she wanted to leave and he wouldnt let her so she would call the cops. She was arrested for trafficking drugs for a year and...
    Joviss Joviss
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 5

    To Remind You What Marriage Is....

    A commitment. its success doesn't depend on circumstances, feelings, or moods - but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day. A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It's an arrangement that requires...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

    Ughhh...Christmas cookies triggered

    so much saddness today. We used to do advent, bake Xmas cookies,then bring them to our neighbours caroling & singing. First Xmas separated and all our family traditions...***. I know I just need to make new ones with my kids. I am wailing inside and feel busted. ..like a glass...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Dec 4, 2014

    Why Us?

    My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here.  Less than a week before he told me he loved me.  We made...
    notready4this notready4this
    69 Responses Jul 30, 2009

    I know exactly how that feels.

    My wife came to me one night and said that she wasn't in love with me any more and wanted me to find someone that would feel the same way about me that I would about them.
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85
    31-35, M
    Jul 9, 2015

    It's been one month since she left me.

    I get to see the kids a lot but it's not the same. She has already moved on with her life and it's just a matter of time before she finds the person that will make her feel the way that I used to. Someone that will make her happy. All I ever wanted was to make her smile and to...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jul 22, 2015

    So after almost 16 years of marriage

    and 24 years if being with the same man...I am the one who wants the separation.. however I am still sad because of our children.. To change what they know as our everyday family life... However it was good or bad...It was and is a routine.. That soon will change. Whoever has...
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Sep 5, 2014

    I really need support,

    my husband of 12 years told me a month ago he needs space and doesn't know if he wants to stay married. we moved to vegas a year ago to pursue his dream of owning a business. Things started out slow, my sister and brother in law also moved here along with a buddy of my husbands...
    dmma883 dmma883
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 8

    Back again. I'm so tired of set backs

    and frustration. I'm tired of this separation being so one sided. Three months and she already has another man living there, and I'm just trying to find someone to talk to. I wouldn't be so pissed if it wasn't my best friend that she's playing house with. All I want to do is get...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85
    31-35, M
    Sep 4, 2015

    I'm having trouble sleeping most nights.

    . My dreams are a jumbled up mess of stuff. Last night I was almost asleep and suddenly I realized.. It won't be long until I see you and realize you're not my husband any more. You'll just be you. He said.. My hope is that you'll see me and not think.. There's that...
    mg75 mg75
    41-45, F
    2 Responses May 24, 2015

    Good grief! http://www.

    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons
    41-45, M
    Jul 12, 2015

    Day 3 We spoke and his denial turned to

    acceptance and every talk we've had its killed me repeating myself! Did today but when I left I felt a weight has gone I was honest and I felt good! He accepts I'm Going something I never thought he would have. Day 3 and I am feeling good
    myownbox myownbox
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 28, 2015

    Standing Up

    When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a different place to be, sometimes I need to look at the same place with a different set of eyes.
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Jun 19, 2013

    Sometimes I just want to cry.

    I can be in the middle of doing something completely unrelated or at work and I'll want to run to the restroom and have a hard, loud cry. I hate being on this emotional roller coaster. Some days I feel as if I could go sign divorce papers and other days I want to call him and...
    KamLei KamLei
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    My husband and I just talked this morning about

    going our separate ways. I am so distraught but I know it is the best choice. :'(
    Robin68 Robin68
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 3, 2015

    Anxiety....Part 1 Ignoring it is not an option.

    ...I enjoy reading the divorce section of the HuffPost. There is a wealth of information on the subject as well as the people it effects and their stories. I came across a short article today called..."Everything A Divorcee Needs to Know About That Horrible Anxiety: Yes We Know...
    Kathiey Kathiey
    56-60, F
    Apr 14

    I've been separated for just over six months,

    we sold the house and now living in new houses. I'm struggling to bed honest, she seems to be moving on without much problem. I'm not. She is dating and that hurts, I guess I'm in that place of playing what if. What if I'd been better, what if I'd have fought harder. She moves...
    lee1401 lee1401
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 6, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bellecc11 bellecc11
    26-30, F
    Jul 7, 2015

    This is hard for me to put out in the open.

    My wife and I have been separated for 5 weeks today. We had trust issues in our marriage because when we had first got married I emotionally cheated on her. I was skyping with ex girlfriend and being inappropriate. When she was helping a friend get ready for her wedding as the...
    Richardg123 Richardg123
    26-30, M
    Oct 3, 2015

    I feel so sick to my stomach

    because of all this. No appetite. I am not hungry at all. This is awful, this distant marriage. Sad thing is, I never saw this coming. I tried everything.
    Robin68 Robin68
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    The bad thing about hope is it opens the door

    to be disappointed over and over!
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jul 16, 2015

    Omg!! I Cannot Believe What Just Happened!!!

    It's been 14 months now that I have been separated. I have struggled so hard to pull myself back together again and raise my little boy on my own. I have been on an emotional roller coaster for sometime now regarding my ex husband and how I felt about him there has been a large...
    Wiltingflower Wiltingflower
    41-45, F
    17 Responses Mar 3, 2012

    After 15 years, I am separating from the only

    person I ever really let inside my heart. We have been separated since the end of December 2013. I thought it might be temporary, but I know it is permanent now. The feelings of loss is almost unbearable. It is not just the loss of her; it is the loss of my extended family...
    Barelycoping325 Barelycoping325
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Jul 18, 2014

    Just returned from camping with the family.

    Kinda weird thinking this might have been our last vacation as a complete family. To add to the bittersweet, she and I had a good time together. There were definite glimpses of what could be, if she'd let it happen. Almost made me not want to leave. Home now, we'll see how it...
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons
    41-45, M
    Jul 10, 2015

    11 Months Later

    You know that expression about the light at the end of the tunnel? That is me now.  Never would I have dreamed that a year ago that I would be here in a new city and starting a new life for me.  This decision to leave was not an easy one but yet I can say now that it was a...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jul 28, 2013

    Living In The Same House With My Ex

    Our situation is a bit unique. For several reasons, we are living under the same roof, however we are living separately. This is temporary and I will be moving out in May of 2014 when my son graduates High School. For the most part we are tolerating each other. He doesn't want to...
    summerfire summerfire
    46-50, F
    9 Responses Jul 18, 2013

    I hate the person I'm becoming now.

    Seven months ago, I was a happy husband and father. My wife came to me one night and told me that after ten years she wasn't in love with me and she didn't think she ever was. She started to date my best friend as soon as I moved out. I only see my children a couple of times a...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    My partner of 10 years (married 5)

    and I first had this discussion last spring. We went back and forth a few times. We struggled with the decision, as we still both had a lot of love for each other. She has grown a lot, become someone who I always knew was there under her insecurities. Me, I was depressed for a...
    form409 form409
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Feb 16

    Can I pls ask for prayers

    so that my husband and I can go back together. We were fine and out of sudden he gets upset at me and want to leave me. I need God's help. And for people who do, May God bless you all.
    simplynobody000 simplynobody000
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    so, I just had the big talk with my soon to be

    ex. It went better than any thought it would. We discussed what went wrong and what we both feel. It was good. I told her that I finally see where we fell and now I have to try to pick my self up and she has to do the same. I don't know what the future will hold now. With time...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 25, 2015

    I don't know what to do friends.

    I'm so tired of feeling like I'm going to cry after every thought. Things just keep bringing me back to what could I have changed before it all went wrong. I mean, why is it so hard to let go. I can't go anywhere without being reminded of what she meant to me or things that we...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    After 15 years together,

    13 years of marriage, two kids, and countless moments where I've considered separation, I finally did it. My husband is an alcoholic and I truly thought that sending him to rehab this year would be the end of the major issues. Unfortunately, I just found out he's been sneaking...
    hollygoheavily hollygoheavily
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2015

    Sad, Confused, And Lonely.

    My wife and I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I fell in love with her instantly. A great story, but some other time. Anyways, she graduated junior college and followed me to a FU college. She's the only reason I made it through. A long 6 years supporting one...
    Confusious13 Confusious13
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Dec 10, 2012

    After 25 Years!

    I did it. I got off this crazy merry go 'round. Twenty five years and enough is enough. It's now 4 months and I'm feeling better than I did a few months ago. I left my husband about 14 years ago and wished I had not gone back but....there were all kinds of reasons to go back...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Dec 9, 2012

    I learned that my husband has moved on

    and is trying to live his life. Deep down inside, I am happy for him. Part of me wishes he was miserable. His ability to move on shows me how little I meant to him. Or maybe I'm just bitter. I guess, I cannot expect him to put his life on hold. Half a year later and it still...
    macabre00 macabre00
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 9

    About a month ago my husband told me

    that he didnt feel the same about me anymore...the "i love you but Im not in love with you" spheel. Then about 2 weeks ago he told me there was another woman he was interested in and was already talking to. A week ago I gave birth to our daughter. My last month of pregnancy was...
    meluhknee meluhknee
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    I'm separated after more

    than 30 years of marriage and for the first time I feel that I'm worthy of being just me
    Carolwashere Carolwashere
    56-60, F
    Feb 8, 2015

    Dealing W/ Rejection Through Separation

    My wife and I have been together 17 years, married for 16. It's been 4 months since separating and I've found it to be the most difficult thing I've ever been through. However, I've finally released the feelings of rejection, and realized, it's out of my control. Boundaries...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 19, 2013

    Hi...I'm wanting to separate from my husband.

    We been together for 15 yrs, married for 8. He is a wonderful person, kind and loyal. We have no children...just a 14.5 yr old Golden Retriever who is going to the rainbow bridge sooner than we are prepared for....I'm just a coward...I'm not in love with this wonderful man maybe...
    Karimcbride Karimcbride
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    I've been married for 4 years,

    and my wife and I have too young children, she told me she was unhappy and moved out 3 wks ago, she says she loves me but not in love with me. We are going to couples counselling, I desperately want her back, but all she says is that she doesn't know. It's killing me I feel...
    Bruntos Bruntos
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Feb 18

    I left my husband maybe six times this year.

    We separated last year. I found out he was cheated on me. He said I pushed him to seek affection elsewhere because I was so cold. We came back together in January. I left him again because I do not trust him. Any little thing he does wrong causes me to just walk out. He found...
    macabre00 macabre00
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015

    I take it back. There is nothing I can do

    but let her be happy. I feel so broken inside. How can I move on when I have nothing to hope for. She made me a better person and now that it's really over how can I be that person again
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85
    31-35, M
    Jul 12, 2015

    Separated But Not Equal

    My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things better between us. We had been friends for 8 years before we got married and that has carried through some of the toughest times...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1
    36-40, M
    19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    astrudcc11 astrudcc11
    26-30, F
    Jul 27, 2015
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