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I Am Going Through a Separation

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    so I'm sitting here in the driveway of my

    parents house, where I have to stay now and I don't want to go inside. going inside makes it seem so much more real that I'm not where I need to be
    deleted deleted 26-30 a week ago

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    so, I just had the big talk with my soon to be

    ex. It went better than any thought it would. We discussed what went wrong and what we both feel. It was good. I told her that I finally see where we fell and now I have to try to pick my self up and she has to do the same. I don't know what the future will hold now. With time...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25

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    Well, it's the first overnight I will have with

    my kids this summer. They are so strong, too strong it almost seems. my heart breaks for them right now. I understand why my wife wanted to separate and I respect her for not just staying with me for their sakes. But when my give year old daughter feel asleep holding my hand...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Tomorrow, I am going to do something

    that may sound crazy seeing as how early in this separation I am. After four days of self reflection I have asked my wife to meet with me to talk things out and in my own words " get a better goodbye." she has agreed to and now I'm scared. I had all these things I wanted to say...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 24

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    Okay, I have been on here

    since last sunday. I had to change my user name due to a malfunction on the mobil app. If you want to see my stories on here they all say deleted. My wife of ten years told me she was't in love or attracted to me any more and that kind of stuff. I thought that I lost friends...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    Living In The Same House With My Ex

    Our situation is a bit unique. For several reasons, we are living under the same roof, however we are living separately. This is temporary and I will be moving out in May of 2014 when my son graduates High School. For the most part we are tolerating each other. He doesn't want to...
    summerfire summerfire 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    Day 3 We spoke and his denial turned to

    acceptance and every talk we've had its killed me repeating myself! Did today but when I left I felt a weight has gone I was honest and I felt good! He accepts I'm Going something I never thought he would have. Day 3 and I am feeling good
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 28

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    I got to have lunch with my kids today.

    It is my son's tenth birthday and he is doing ok though it's only been four days since his mother and I told him what was happening. He is so strong, too strong to just be ten. He is a good big brother to his sister who is only five. I am so proud of him
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 24

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    I keep thinking that this is going to get

    easier to accept. I wish I could have gotten through to her how loved and appreciated she is. I don't want to leave, I want her by my side!
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    When will this get easier ?

    ? I'm constantly thinking of him. Of all the lies. I still dream of him cheating on me with other women and even justifying in the dream. It's so crazy. I won't be seeing him. I guess that's good. I want to get passed him and his lies. How ? When when will that finally happen...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 2 Responses May 23

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    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M 2 Responses May 19

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    To Remind You What Marriage Is....

    A commitment. its success doesn't depend on circumstances, feelings, or moods - but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day. A relationship where two people must listen, compromise, and respect. It's an arrangement that requires...
    JustMe2B JustMe2B 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    And It Begins...:-(

    Today is the first day of our separation. This weekend we moved him to the upstairs bedroom and it was absolutely heartbreaking to walk into my half empty bedroom (my/our it feels so foreign to talk in singulars). So much that I spend the first night on the couch. We are still in...
    heartache14 heartache14 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    I'm having a really bad day right now.

    I just re read and re lived my posts from when I had the ervspencer85 user name. I just want to tell her I love her and I am her husband. I want her to feel like she made a mistake and call me crying begging me to come home. I don't want to wait for her to change her mind if she...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    After 25 Years!

    I did it. I got off this crazy merry go 'round. Twenty five years and enough is enough. It's now 4 months and I'm feeling better than I did a few months ago. I left my husband about 14 years ago and wished I had not gone back but....there were all kinds of reasons to go back...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 9, 2012

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    I'm separated after more

    than 30 years of marriage and for the first time I feel that I'm worthy of being just me
    Carolwashere Carolwashere 51-55, F Feb 8

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    I'm having trouble sleeping most nights.

    . My dreams are a jumbled up mess of stuff. Last night I was almost asleep and suddenly I realized.. It won't be long until I see you and realize you're not my husband any more. You'll just be you. He said.. My hope is that you'll see me and not think.. There's that...
    mg75 mg75 36-40, F 3 Responses May 24

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    After 15 years, I am separating from the only

    person I ever really let inside my heart. We have been separated since the end of December 2013. I thought it might be temporary, but I know it is permanent now. The feelings of loss is almost unbearable. It is not just the loss of her; it is the loss of my extended family...
    Barelycoping325 Barelycoping325 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 18, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

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    dalidacc11 dalidacc11 26-30, F Apr 21

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    Today is day one of the rest of my life.

    I moved out yesterday. its been 2 years since I caught her cheating. 2 years of fighting. counciling, etc. I never planned for things to end. I tried hard to keep things together. I won't let her continue to make me feel awful. I won't be the only one trying any longer...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 19

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    My wife and I of almost four years decided to

    take a break to figure ourselves out and rebus our relationship since there is little to no communication and no trust.. Idk how to do this or how to go about it.. I feel alone and I feel like she's having the time of her life.. Idk what to do anymore
    aaguilar0813 aaguilar0813 22-25, F Jun 4

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    Had a problem with my account,

    same guy as that wrote the very last one
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    I never do anything like this

    but i feel like im in a world of my own right now my wife of 7yrs left last month and said she wants a divorce i dont want my marriage to end so ive given it to god but i just feel so lonely and rejected she calls and shes always nice and basically tells me how great things are...
    KingDavid81 KingDavid81 31-35, M 5 Responses Jun 12

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    Only three days in so far

    and I'm still hurting, but I can see just that more clearly. At the time that I posted my first post, I had thought that I didn't have the friends that I once did when we were together. They had all came there to support her at that time and not me. I felt so hurt already that I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 23

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    Separated But Not Equal

    My marriage of 14 years is coming to an end. I had seen the writing on the wall for the past 2 years but had tried everything I could to make things better between us. We had been friends for 8 years before we got married and that has carried through some of the toughest times...
    enigmatic1 enigmatic1 36-40, M 19 Responses Sep 15, 2010

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    I left today and it is the hardest thing I've

    ever done. I can't help but think of the good things the flowers, the date nights he had planned a night away this weekend for us to get away and try and find us....I could have been there not where I'm staying presently slowly dying inside. In the end all I can remember is...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 26

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    My wife and I of almost four years decided to

    take a break.. We separated because we have a lot of issues. Trust issues and we just haven't been ourselves for the last 6 months.. She is an ex addict and that has always put a big toll on us. I don't want to lose my wife and son and she wants to go to therapy but says that...
    aaguilar0813 aaguilar0813 22-25, F 1 Response May 31

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    This will probably be one of the hardest

    letters I have ever written. For so long I thought I needed answers from you in order to heal. Why, after 21 years did you betray me? Why did you choose him, a relative stranger over me? Why did you refuse to work to save our marriage? Those are but a few of the hundreds of...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Dealing W/ Rejection Through Separation

    My wife and I have been together 17 years, married for 16. It's been 4 months since separating and I've found it to be the most difficult thing I've ever been through. However, I've finally released the feelings of rejection, and realized, it's out of my control. Boundaries...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 19, 2013

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    DeniseMarie12 DeniseMarie12 26-30, F 2 hrs ago

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    My husband and I just talked this morning about

    going our separate ways. I am so distraught but I know it is the best choice. :'(
    Robin68 Robin68 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    We are still living together,

    but talk has moved from separation to divorce. I'm devastated! Follow me at lifefromlemons.com
    lifefromlemons lifefromlemons 41-45, M Apr 20

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    He's packing up to go now.

    I thought it would be easier to get through then it's turning out to be. I'm sad and hiding out in another room to avoid the awkwardness of it all. I keep reminding myself of how we got here and how this needs to happen. Why does it make me so sad...
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 6 Responses May 8

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    To know my story, I have to go back a long way.

    In 2003, I was a senior in high school. I had just been through a terrible relationship that had almost left me traumatized. As a teenager I was of course very melodramitic, but one night something changed for me. A friend of mine had her best friend come to visit her on spring...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 22

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    How can you miss someone

    so much who treated you so badly? The negative things they have out you through should override any love and transcend into hatred. I want to hate you, you don't know how bad I wish I could. I wake with eyes crusted from tears she'd in my sleep. While awake vision blurred from...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    Standing Up

    When the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go, the best thing I could do was take a breath and let it shatter. Sometimes I don't need a different place to be, sometimes I need to look at the same place with a different set of eyes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    This has been such a long road,

    and very bumpy, but I feel we've reached the end of it. We must find a new road. I don't know if that is together or not, but I feel I have to separate from him for awhile to figure it out. We have separated twice before, and things would improve for a little while, but they...
    onetimetoomany onetimetoomany 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 8, 2014

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    It has now been one year

    since my life was flipped upside down. 365 days of never ending grief. "Time heals all wounds," is what I have been told over and over. I am beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me. Why am I not getting over it? She would always say that I had lost my sensitivity...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 2 Responses May 12, 2014

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    Sad, Confused, And Lonely.

    My wife and I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I fell in love with her instantly. A great story, but some other time. Anyways, she graduated junior college and followed me to a FU college. She's the only reason I made it through. A long 6 years supporting one...
    Confusious13 Confusious13 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    Why Us?

    My husband of 19.5 years woke me up at 5am two weeks ago to tell me he was leaving.  We have been together for 24 years. Now, I guess the whole "how was I the last to know" situation is true here.  Less than a week before he told me he loved me.  We made...
    notready4this notready4this 41-45 67 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    It's been a hell of a day,

    Really don't know where to begin. I'm at a loss for words, battered and broken. Half truths, half lies all the words you have spoken. It would have been 22 years in a month and some weeks. I have begged for answers never to hear you speak. We have fought all day, emotions are...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    anyone who's been following me

    for the past couple days knows that I had to leave my house because my wife is separated from me. I'm now staying at my mom and dads house and I have to wonder why I'm so damn cold night. I was so used to this other person being next to me and sharing that warmth at night and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25

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    I have been married for 12 1/2 years to my

    husband. We have been through a lot of trials and tribulations during our marriage. He was a combat medic, did 2 tours, but came back different. He has PTSD and a Traumatic Brain Injury from his IED attack in Iraq. He has been out of the Army for 3 years, he is 100% VA Combat...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 18

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    I've been on this site

    for almost a week now. The people have been very insightful and friendly. I'm having a better time coping with the separation, all though there have been set backs. My divorced friend calls them waves. Thoughts or emotions that will rise up and crash into you. For example... I...
    rnwytrain85 rnwytrain85 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm also going through a separation,

    I didn't appreciate my husband when I had him, I allowed my insecurities to over power my emotions. It been 2 months and he hasn't called me but has spoke with our daughter who is not his biological daughter, he asked how I was doing and that was it. We have been married for 1...
    Skinnyguru45 Skinnyguru45 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    So after almost 16 years of marriage

    and 24 years if being with the same man...I am the one who wants the separation.. however I am still sad because of our children.. To change what they know as our everyday family life... However it was good or bad...It was and is a routine.. That soon will change. Whoever has...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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