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I Am Going Through My First Deployment

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    My Thought

    "Ladies: present yourselves to the world as individuals whom deserve respect in all aspects of life. Gentlemen: love furiously, live life in a way that is nothing less than chivalrous and one of freedom."
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 21, 2013

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    Meetings

    i dont mean to vent. i really dont. it just hurts that i got to talk to my fiance for maybe 2 minutes before he said he needs to sleep then he has a meeting to go to. but i guess it'll help him better his classroom experience with his students. oh well. hope everyone is having a...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 31, 2013

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    Hmm

    really needing a friend right now. its been a busy day and now that classes and hw are done my mind is starting to unwind.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    Almost Over

    Ben and I are going through our first deployment as a couple and he is deployed to Afghanistan (the HOT SPOT) but its almost over thank god. Its been hard and no ladies it doesn't get easier. Since Feb Ive seen him a total of 3 weeks. Fortunately we get to talk almost...
    linvilleleslie88 linvilleleslie88 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Touching Story From My Dad In An Email.

    http://themetapicture.com/if-youre-only-going-to-read-one-thing-today-read-this/ this link will lead you to one of the most touching stories about a man who adapted a soldier's dog. When my dad sent it to me in an email, I read it all the way through and tried to not cry with...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Nov 22, 2013

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    Night That Needs A Smile

    i'm sitting here working on my homework and i cant help but miss him. I wish that I could just make the sadness disappear. I'm focusing on my schoolwork a lot, most of the time. its just those weird times when his memory sneaks in the back of my mind.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 22, 2013

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    I Have Been There

    I am not going through my first deployment, but I have been there and just wanted to let everyone know here if you ever need to talk I am a very good listener.  I was an Army wife and I was also in the Army so I have been through many separations and deployments.  I do...
    rondat rondat 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 8, 2008

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    My Fiance Just Left For His First Deployment

    Hi ladies, My fiance just left to overseas for his first deployment. He has been gone 23 days & unfortunately it hasn't flown by like I though it would. The great thing is I have been able to talk to him almost everyday on the phone. I am a senior in college so I am hoping that...
    Allie2011 Allie2011 22-25, F 11 Responses Jan 23, 2011

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    Having to Say Good-bye

    Times are so rough now preparing for war. Getting ready to say goodbye for what seems like an eternity. A year, that seems like forever. After finding a love strong and bold, being struck with such a long goodbye makes it seem unfair. Why does my soldier have to be the one called...
    GesCka GesCka 21-25, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    What To Expect?

    I am just wondering what to expect those last few days together? I don't know what to think of the send of cermony? I don't know that I will be able to let go of him and watch him get on a bus and drive away. He told me it by far will be the hardest day, which I imagine it will...
    CarleeMarie CarleeMarie 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 30, 2010

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    5 Years

    today marks the 5th year i've been with my guy. Sure, we have had our ups and downs but it is all worth it. He is my best friend, my love, my world. Here's to many more to come. :) i hope you all are having a good evening.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Oct 3, 2013

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    Life And Living It

    Now I am starting to think that this next year will go by rather quickly. I have graduation, internship, my recital, a wedding, all within the year. im excited about all of it. Does anyone have any advice they think would help with any of these?
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Nov 29, 2013

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    Lonely

    just a little lonely tonight. but the morning brings light.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 19, 2013

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    Waiting

    I sit and I wait patiently for you. I'm sitting here, missing you, trying not to be clingy. trying to give you the space I thought you were needing. My apologies that the message I sent was 4am your time. I just miss you.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Oct 27, 2013

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    Well.....

    This weekend I went to Texas City to visit some of my family from my moms side. I thought if I went away from Trinity I could get a break and sort my life out a little better. Just when everything was falling in to place my fiance called me. For some reason, I was dead asleep...
    armywife3306 armywife3306 16-18, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2008

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    Confusion And Hurt

    You try so hard to make everything fall into place. Things are fine. Things are great. I just wish that the arguments and then tension would stop. I know I apologize a lot, and I shouldn't. It isn't that I don't love him. I would go to the moon and back for that man. I am so in...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    Deployment Fears

    My boyfriend, Andrew, will be deployed sometime early next year. They haven't told him the exact month as of yet. He is in the guards so he has to leave every month for drill. Since he's being deployed his drills are lasting longer. I can barely get through the times he goes to...
    bluemoon23 bluemoon23 22-25, F 2 Responses May 17, 2010

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    Frustration?

    have you ever been mad or frustrated that he isnt home yet? im not upset, just wanting to throw something.. i havent felt like this the whole time he's been away. its weird
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    Dealing With Deployment

    I never realized just how hard it may be at times. Knowing that my husband is deployed, and worrying about his safety when I don't hear from him is nerve racking. I wish I could just reach out and hug him. We have been seperated more than we have been together as a couple. I've...
    HisQueen HisQueen 31-35, F 32 Responses Sep 16, 2007

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    Worst night ever so far.

    .. Not talking to him is hurting me worse than it is him.
    Minnesotalove Minnesotalove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 10

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    Finding Temporary Peace

    Dont forget you are beautiful. dont forget that you do have a voice, a purpose. days may be hard and some may be easy. just remember the words of " ill be home before you know it, beautiful" and everything will be ok.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Questions

    ladies and gentlemen, what was it like when your SO first came home from overseas after a year or so? im asking because my fiance is coming back from teaching in SK in feburary. he's already been gone 6 months. he left mid january of this year. im hoping nothing will have...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2013

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    Only 7 Weeks Past!!

     I MISS MY HUSBAND SO MUCH. ITS STILL GETTING HARDER AND HARDER NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE HIM.  I AM TRYING TO STAY BUSY BUT THE ONE MOMENT IT SIT DOWN I FEEL LIKE CRYING. I WISH THIS YEAR WOULD JUST PASS BY FAST BUT IT FEELS LIKE THE SLOWEST YEAR EVER.
    Utahngwife Utahngwife 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 17, 2008

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    First Deployment

    so my boyfriend is going to Afghanistan on the 3rd of November, he's been before and had a few different tours but its my first one with him. I really don't know what to expect. I struggle to talk to him about it, I know lack of communication in a relationship doesn't help but...
    ajbhusband65 ajbhusband65 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2013

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    2-508th PIR

    I recieved a very sad e-mail today.  The 82nd Airborne lost a soldier yesterday.  They were patroling and were hit by an IED, one soldier was killed and another is in the hosptial. The 82nd has not had any casualites in such a long time and we are so close to this...
    clc1998 clc1998 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 9, 2008

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    Hey

    im realizing that i am one of his cornerstones. God, his family, me and his friends keep him grounded. I know being away from home is hard for him. He says that being away from me is hard. im just glad that my classes are going well, im staying focused on my studies, and his...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Nov 24, 2013

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    He Just Left :(

    Does anyone know of a military wives like support group for deployed marines ...soldiers and sailors?    i cant find anything and its going to be a long 7 months...    he is a grunt and we wont get to talk much , im just incredibly sad
    LovinMyMarine25 LovinMyMarine25 22-25 7 Responses Mar 21, 2009

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    Military Spouse

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    marie1284 marie1284 22-25, F Nov 1, 2013

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    Days Like Today

    I am so proud of my guy. He is teaching and things are good. I have had a few days that I havent been able to talk to him. He felt so bad because we couldnt talk last night. Hopefully things start looking up with our communication. Classes are still going well and life is good...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 16, 2013

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    I Need Help, His Unit Just Had A Kia, What Am I Supposed To Think?

    Ok I havent been on in a while now, but here we are at 4 months gone. Weve gotten more of a schedule, I kinda know when he leaves for the outpost and will be without internet and also when he has guard duty so I know when to expect him to be online. Thing is its around 300 am his...
    BlackBetty13 BlackBetty13 22-25, F Oct 4, 2011

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    Sometimes You Need A Reality Check

    So my boyfriend and I were emailing back and forth while at work and we got into...I guess you could call it argument or misunderstanding. The conversation turned towards working out. I told him how I'm going to get a personal trainer next semester since I'll be needing it for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 22, 2011

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    Happy

    it is a gorgeous day outside. the game went well last night. I miss my guy like crazy but I know what he is doing is worth the distance. I Love him so much. I've been focused on my classes, my games, practice and everything is going smoothly for the moment. Just trying to still...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 29, 2013

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    Lost Sight of Happy...

    So Im feeling like I lost sight of how to be happy on my own.  My then boyfriend went to mob for two months, six hours away.  We could talk for ten or fifty minutes a night every night, text during the day, and use the internet for skype and video messaging.  And...
    Daydreamer827 Daydreamer827 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 2, 2009

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    Monday

    Monday morning. 1 class and a bunch of studying today. it's going to be a great day. I got a text from my fiancee earlier and it just made me smile. I miss him so much but i know the distance and the time is worth it. I still dont know when he will be back in february, but thats...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2013

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    That One Phone Call

    I haven't heard my soldiers voice is almost 6 months until yesterday when I got my first phone call from him. It almost bought me to tears when I heard his voice. Nothing has changed about him, he's still the funny, random, sweet guy I remember before he left. I had so many...
    xoxofabiann xoxofabiann 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    Emotional Cycle of Deployment

    I found this and it is helping me understand what I am going threw maybe it will help you This should be very useful intro to the new members, and a reminder for others. Hope your emotional life is well balanced and cheerful! EMOTIONAL CYCLE OF DEPLOYMENT Getting ready...
    sunflowern4u2 sunflowern4u2 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 28, 2008

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    The Little Things

    to be honest, I would love it to be your face I see when I get off the plane. I love him so much. made my day :)
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Aug 7, 2013

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    Chocolate and Cherry Twizzlers

    Well, this is it. He is finally leaving for his 2nd tour in Iraq, my first.  There are so many emotions running through my head right now that I dont know what to do. So, I am sitting in my room watching Lifetime and drowning myself in a bag full of chocolate and cherry...
    SgtsWife1 SgtsWife1 19-21, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2008

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    The Mornings

    I woke up in cold sweats three times last night, I hopped out of bed this morning to throw-up from the nightmares.  I am so scared.  He's going to war, an awful place to be.  I can't hold his hand through it like he has always held mine.  I can't kiss his...
    GesCka GesCka 21-25, F 16 Responses Nov 27, 2007

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    Waiting For Our Moment

    The bear he gave me gives me comfort… The dog tags around his neck that I fall asleep holding every night makes me feel close… And when I close my eyes, the t-shirt I keep on my pillow with the scent of his cologne makes me think that he’s right here...
    PfcOrtizWifey PfcOrtizWifey 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    Should I Still Hold On To The Promise He Once Made To Me?

    Hey everyone, i'm shasha and i would like to share a story about me and the army guy. I met him in philippines during his deployment July to August 2009, he was a US army special forces.. It was Saturday night, when one of his collegues introduced me to him.. At first, i...
    sunshine1990 sunshine1990 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 22, 2010

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    Baby

    My friend just had her baby yesterday. Her husband is in Iraq with my husband. She had the baby all by herself. There was also complications and she had to have an emergency C section. And the baby is not able to eat anything and keep it down. She is all by herself. She is so...
    ebsweet ebsweet 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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    Depressed Deployed Boyfriend

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and he has been deployed for six months. He is very introverted and doesn't like to socialize. Unfortunately, on top of that, he doesn't like anyone in his unit. He does a job that has him sitting in a jeep for the whole...
    DKstrong DKstrong 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Being Strong

    we put on a smiling face when they're away. we have to. Being strong for myself as well as for him is what makes it work. I may burst in tears behind closed doors every now and then but I do not nor will i regret the decision he made to go teach overseas. It is making him a...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2013

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    Bad News

    I have recieved that dreaded phone call that makes your heart drop through your stomach twice this week. One soldier died and 2 were injured in an IED explosion on Tuesday. Another soldier died and 3 more were injured on Friday. They were all from my husband's unit. When I get...
    ebsweet ebsweet 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    Keep The Faith

    "Love is not love which alters when it altercation finds" - Shakespeare It is important to remember in these days of deployment that as Shakespeare says, love does not change when it meets altercations. True love, does not change because of days without speaking, or because of...
    lightninglee lightninglee 22-25, F 1 Response May 4, 2013

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    Current Reminder

    keep your head up, your faith strong and smile often
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2013

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    My First Deployment

    I really had no idea how hard it would be with my husband away this is my first deployment and hopefully my last i dont have any one close that share what i am going through if there was i dont even know where to begin we have 9 more months to go hopefully things dont change i...
    Honeybee07 Honeybee07 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 2, 2008

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    Rude Awakening

    he said he was tired, doesnt know why he's ticked off and me trying to help isnt helping. what happened?
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 8, 2013

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    Not To Take For Granted

    Being away from the one person that can have such a profound impact on your happiness makes you truly appreciate having that person in your life and if they feel the same way, your bond grows exponentially stronger-- distance is like the wind, it blows out weak flames and fans...
    Theeverexspanding Theeverexspanding 22-25, M Nov 18, 2013

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    IN Kuwait

    HE IS REALLY THERE. IT IS REALLY HARD TO CONCENTRATE I MISS HIM SO MUCH HE HAD BEEN IN KUWAIT FOR ONLY A WEEK.  9 MORE MO. TO GO. I'M SO SCARED.
    Utahngwife Utahngwife 22-25, F 1 Response May 16, 2008

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    Life

    my dad had said there was a bridal fair coming to town in a couple weeks and said that i need to start thinking about what we actually want for our wedding and stuff. Aside from things with school which are going well, i think life is getting real.. im nervous and excited...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Redeployment & Ptsd What To Expect

    My Fiance is currently deployed for his 3rd time all 3 deployments being in Combat.. (My first time going through a deployment and dating a military man for that fact) After his second deployment he came home with PTSD and was put on Ambien for insominia he also lost someone very...
    Unlimitedlove4mysoldier Unlimitedlove4mysoldier 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 23, 2011

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