I Am Going Through My First Deployment

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    My boyfriend and I are

    both deploying. We have been dating for 8 months and are engaged. I don't know how to handle him being gone. I don't leave for another week for my deployment. I spend every waking moment with him and don't have many friends to hang out with because I spend so much time with him...
    woodslynn0 woodslynn0
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 19, 2015

    My boyfriend just left

    for out first deployment together (his second) today, and I'm kind of reeling from the fact that the person I always talk to isn't here to text anymore. Feel free to message me anytime, I could really use some conversation! :D
    Kellbell1995 Kellbell1995
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 28, 2015

    I am going through my first deployment its been

    almost a month since my bf left, but I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks, on our last email he told me he was a few days away from port and he was gonna call me but I haven't received a call :/ Ivd emailed him but no response, should I be concern?
    kimberlyndelgado16 kimberlyndelgado16
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2014

    So Scared

    My DH and I are going through our 1st deployment. He leaves in January and I feel lost. I never even considered this as a possibility when we got married. He had already been honorably discharge from the army. 1 year ago in August he joined the National Guard. Now he is being...
    jlove jlove
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 17, 2007

    IN Kuwait

    Utahngwife Utahngwife
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 16, 2008

    Keep The Faith

    "Love is not love which alters when it altercation finds" - Shakespeare It is important to remember in these days of deployment that as Shakespeare says, love does not change when it meets altercations. True love, does not change because of days without speaking, or because of...
    lightninglee lightninglee
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 4, 2013

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    kyliecc11 kyliecc11
    26-30, F
    Jun 10, 2015

    Chocolate and Cherry Twizzlers

    Well, this is it. He is finally leaving for his 2nd tour in Iraq, my first.  There are so many emotions running through my head right now that I dont know what to do. So, I am sitting in my room watching Lifetime and drowning myself in a bag full of chocolate and cherry...
    SgtsWife1 SgtsWife1
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 10, 2008

    Touching Story From My Dad In An Email.

    http://themetapicture.com/if-youre-only-going-to-read-one-thing-today-read-this/ this link will lead you to one of the most touching stories about a man who adapted a soldier's dog. When my dad sent it to me in an email, I read it all the way through and tried to not cry with...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    Nov 22, 2013

    Missing him more than ever.

    ......another day down....270 to go. Sigh.
    Tianaeliz18 Tianaeliz18
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2015


    I sit and I wait patiently for you. I'm sitting here, missing you, trying not to be clingy. trying to give you the space I thought you were needing. My apologies that the message I sent was 4am your time. I just miss you.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    Oct 27, 2013

    Depressed Deployed Boyfriend

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and he has been deployed for six months. He is very introverted and doesn't like to socialize. Unfortunately, on top of that, he doesn't like anyone in his unit. He does a job that has him sitting in a jeep for the whole...
    DKstrong DKstrong
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 17, 2013

    Being Strong

    we put on a smiling face when they're away. we have to. Being strong for myself as well as for him is what makes it work. I may burst in tears behind closed doors every now and then but I do not nor will i regret the decision he made to go teach overseas. It is making him a...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 7, 2013

    Worst night ever so far.

    .. Not talking to him is hurting me worse than it is him.
    Minnesotalove Minnesotalove
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2014

    Redeployment & Ptsd What To Expect

    My Fiance is currently deployed for his 3rd time all 3 deployments being in Combat.. (My first time going through a deployment and dating a military man for that fact) After his second deployment he came home with PTSD and was put on Ambien for insominia he also lost someone very...
    Unlimitedlove4mysoldier Unlimitedlove4mysoldier
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 23, 2011

    First Deployment

    so my boyfriend is going to Afghanistan on the 3rd of November, he's been before and had a few different tours but its my first one with him. I really don't know what to expect. I struggle to talk to him about it, I know lack of communication in a relationship doesn't help but...
    ajbhusband65 ajbhusband65
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 9, 2013

    My Husband leaves in a week

    for his first deployment. He was first told about 6 months ago & since then, I have basically just been his roommate. Due to circumstances in my childhood, I have always been weird about people leaving to go anywhere for more than a few days. I know that I'm not handling it...
    AFWife96 AFWife96
    22-25, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    The Mornings

    I woke up in cold sweats three times last night, I hopped out of bed this morning to throw-up from the nightmares.  I am so scared.  He's going to war, an awful place to be.  I can't hold his hand through it like he has always held mine.  I can't kiss his...
    GesCka GesCka
    22-25, F
    16 Responses Nov 27, 2007


    ladies and gentlemen, what was it like when your SO first came home from overseas after a year or so? im asking because my fiance is coming back from teaching in SK in feburary. he's already been gone 6 months. he left mid january of this year. im hoping nothing will have...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2013

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 13, 2015

    Life And Living It

    Now I am starting to think that this next year will go by rather quickly. I have graduation, internship, my recital, a wedding, all within the year. im excited about all of it. Does anyone have any advice they think would help with any of these?
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    Nov 29, 2013

    being apart from him sucks

    and especially since I'm pregnant with our first child but him being able to text me almost every night helps me deal with him not being here physically. I know that he'll only text me or talk to me when he can and I'm dreading the next few months when he actually starts doing...
    odalisr odalisr
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2014

    He Just Left :(

    Does anyone know of a military wives like support group for deployed marines ...soldiers and sailors?    i cant find anything and its going to be a long 7 months...    he is a grunt and we wont get to talk much , im just incredibly sad
    LovinMyMarine25 LovinMyMarine25
    7 Responses Mar 21, 2009

    Mid Tour Leave

         My DH asked me a question last night. Do I want him to come home on a mid tour leave, or do I want him to save the leave for the end of his tour.      I couldn't believe this question at the time. He said that he wouldn't actually get...
    jlove jlove
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2007

    Military Spouse

    Hello everyone, I am a military spouse and I make unique military support bracelets and clothing that you can customize. Everything in my shop is on sale right now for a limited time. Go to Etsy.com and search for the shop "MilitaryHearttees". My prices start at $8. www.etsy...
    marie1284 marie1284
    22-25, F
    Nov 1, 2013

    2-508th PIR

    I recieved a very sad e-mail today.  The 82nd Airborne lost a soldier yesterday.  They were patroling and were hit by an IED, one soldier was killed and another is in the hosptial. The 82nd has not had any casualites in such a long time and we are so close to this...
    clc1998 clc1998
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2008

    Not To Take For Granted

    Being away from the one person that can have such a profound impact on your happiness makes you truly appreciate having that person in your life and if they feel the same way, your bond grows exponentially stronger-- distance is like the wind, it blows out weak flames and fans...
    Theeverexspanding Theeverexspanding
    26-30, M
    Nov 18, 2013

    5 Years

    today marks the 5th year i've been with my guy. Sure, we have had our ups and downs but it is all worth it. He is my best friend, my love, my world. Here's to many more to come. :) i hope you all are having a good evening.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    Oct 3, 2013

    Sometimes You Need A Reality Check

    So my boyfriend and I were emailing back and forth while at work and we got into...I guess you could call it argument or misunderstanding. The conversation turned towards working out. I told him how I'm going to get a personal trainer next semester since I'll be needing it for...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Nov 22, 2011

    Emotional Cycle of Deployment

    I found this and it is helping me understand what I am going threw maybe it will help you This should be very useful intro to the new members, and a reminder for others. Hope your emotional life is well balanced and cheerful! EMOTIONAL CYCLE OF DEPLOYMENT Getting ready...
    sunflowern4u2 sunflowern4u2
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Sep 28, 2008

    My Fiance Just Left For His First Deployment

    Hi ladies, My fiance just left to overseas for his first deployment. He has been gone 23 days & unfortunately it hasn't flown by like I though it would. The great thing is I have been able to talk to him almost everyday on the phone. I am a senior in college so I am hoping that...
    Allie2011 Allie2011
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Jan 23, 2011

    Random stories about bein deployed.

    My platoon was doing a presence patrol on the outer perimeter of the FOB. We were greeted by little haji kids everywhere. They were some funny little bastards I can't lie. I've never seen a kid so happy to get a pen or pack of skittles lol
    deleted deleted
    Mar 8, 2015

    I Need Help, His Unit Just Had A Kia, What Am I Supposed To Think?

    Ok I havent been on in a while now, but here we are at 4 months gone. Weve gotten more of a schedule, I kinda know when he leaves for the outpost and will be without internet and also when he has guard duty so I know when to expect him to be online. Thing is its around 300 am his...
    BlackBetty13 BlackBetty13
    22-25, F
    Oct 4, 2011

    Days Like Today

    I am so proud of my guy. He is teaching and things are good. I have had a few days that I havent been able to talk to him. He felt so bad because we couldnt talk last night. Hopefully things start looking up with our communication. Classes are still going well and life is good...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2013

    Having to Say Good-bye

    Times are so rough now preparing for war. Getting ready to say goodbye for what seems like an eternity. A year, that seems like forever. After finding a love strong and bold, being struck with such a long goodbye makes it seem unfair. Why does my soldier have to be the one called...
    GesCka GesCka
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2007

    Dealing With Deployment

    I never realized just how hard it may be at times. Knowing that my husband is deployed, and worrying about his safety when I don't hear from him is nerve racking. I wish I could just reach out and hug him. We have been seperated more than we have been together as a couple. I've...
    HisQueen HisQueen
    31-35, F
    32 Responses Sep 16, 2007


    im realizing that i am one of his cornerstones. God, his family, me and his friends keep him grounded. I know being away from home is hard for him. He says that being away from me is hard. im just glad that my classes are going well, im staying focused on my studies, and his...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    Nov 24, 2013

    That One Phone Call

    I haven't heard my soldiers voice is almost 6 months until yesterday when I got my first phone call from him. It almost bought me to tears when I heard his voice. Nothing has changed about him, he's still the funny, random, sweet guy I remember before he left. I had so many...
    xoxofabiann xoxofabiann
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2013

    my husband is getting deployed soon ,

    is there like a website that tells me what I can and cannot send in a care package and how big the should or shouldn't be ?
    odalisr odalisr
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 3, 2014


    Monday morning. 1 class and a bunch of studying today. it's going to be a great day. I got a text from my fiancee earlier and it just made me smile. I miss him so much but i know the distance and the time is worth it. I still dont know when he will be back in february, but thats...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2013

    Confusion And Hurt

    You try so hard to make everything fall into place. Things are fine. Things are great. I just wish that the arguments and then tension would stop. I know I apologize a lot, and I shouldn't. It isn't that I don't love him. I would go to the moon and back for that man. I am so in...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    Oct 12, 2013

    Night That Needs A Smile

    i'm sitting here working on my homework and i cant help but miss him. I wish that I could just make the sadness disappear. I'm focusing on my schoolwork a lot, most of the time. its just those weird times when his memory sneaks in the back of my mind.
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2013

    This is all to my Milso/Military ladies

    who went through a deployment or two, (what did u guys do as soon as they got back?) My marine comes home in April, is it too much to plan a weekend getaway for Fun & of course sex .... ????
    MarineQueenB MarineQueenB
    26-30, F
    Feb 17, 2014

    Only 7 Weeks Past!!

    Utahngwife Utahngwife
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2008

    I've only been married a months

    and my husband left 3 weeks ago for a 15 month deployment. I'm broken an don't know what to do anymore.
    emanwes emanwes
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    He leaves for our first deployment this weekend

    . I want to do something special for him before he leaves . Any suggestions ?
    Laurxo417 Laurxo417
    18-21, F
    Apr 27, 2015

    What To Expect?

    I am just wondering what to expect those last few days together? I don't know what to think of the send of cermony? I don't know that I will be able to let go of him and watch him get on a bus and drive away. He told me it by far will be the hardest day, which I imagine it will...
    CarleeMarie CarleeMarie
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 30, 2010

    i feel horrible that i didnt realize how

    stressed my husband is about stuff thats going on with his family. his family decided to tell him his sister got diagnosed with chrons disease while hes deployed (i think they should have waited he only has a month and a half left). so were skyping and he just looks so upset and...
    wifeusmc27 wifeusmc27
    22-25, F
    May 18, 2015

    I've made a real effort to handle my husbands

    deployment 'gracefully'. I try to not complain and whine on social media said. I don't try to one up anyone's tough situation with the one I'm going through. Even though it's almost FINALLY over, I feel like I'm completely all alone in how forgotten, lonely, and independent I...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 28, 2015
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