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I Am Going Through My Second Divorce

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    I Messed Up Big Time!! Advice???

    Hello,  I am a 40 year old man going through, what seems to be an Inevitable, second divorce. I was married once before to a verbally abusive spouse. We divorced almost 8 years ago and had 1 child (now9). My current wife (age29) and I have been together for 6 years, married for...
    spidermonkey25 spidermonkey25 36-40 2 Responses May 23, 2011

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    Stunned

    I just never thought I would be getting a divorce again and the cause of it would be my husbands Adult, acoholic son. I thought if there would be challenges it would be with my children who are in middle/high school living with us. Nope, the son got what he wanted, his dad back...
    Angelight Angelight 46-50 3 Responses Jan 14, 2009

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    Divorce

    I'm am currently going through my 2nd divorce.  I have been trying for the past 4 years to get this divorce I am on my 4th lawyer which sucks as for i am wanting my divorce, custody and my settlement.
    tas tas 31-35, F Aug 17, 2007

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    I'm Devistated-2nd Divorce-love Him So Much

    He's still living here. In a nut shell, we would have been married for 10 years on Sept. 10, 2008. Jeff had an affair with the only woman co-worker on the staff (EWWW...she's almost 50, he's 36!) He didn't come home apologizing, he was caught by me. I took him back with 2...
    DonnaMarie DonnaMarie 41-45 7 Responses Mar 17, 2008

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    The Roller Coaster

    I've been married and divorced twice now. I've read many of the stories on here, and I just wanted to share some insights that I've had with my fellow EP Divorcee's. This is the cycle of feelings that I went through with both of my divorces. At first, it felt horrible. I felt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 16, 2012

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    Judged

    I was married at 18 because i was pregnant it did not last long. I waited until my son was out on his own and got married again at 43 yrs. old. One year in and my husband cheated and got abusive when confronted. We are seperated and i want a divorce. My problem is I dont want to...
    aeileen aeileen 46-50, F Jun 4, 2013

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    Going Through Second Divorce

    I am going through second divorce. Life seems to be swinging between despair and hope. After years of dealing with OCPD wife who wouldn't take medication prescribed to her and being depressed, I decided to end it. Part of me feels guilty, but mostly relieved. Thankfully I am...
    amit74 amit74 36-40 Feb 25, 2012

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    How to Get Through This Without Begging Him to Stay

    I met my second husband through an online singles. He was unjudgemental of me, and liked to be kissed and held a lot. He at first didn't want to date me because I had children and he was 6-years older. But we became friends. We have been together for almost 10-years. We both...
    Catt1960 Catt1960 46-50 2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    I Am Going Through My Second Divorce

    two months back my husband moved out saying the marriage is over as my family interfers too much. Than about a week ago i found out that he actually left me for another woman and this woman knows he is married, but she just wants him. All the time telling me my family and me are...
    Lynn1809 Lynn1809 36-40, F 7 Responses Feb 23, 2011

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    Hes Still In Denial About The Divorce.

    I filed, he was served, we evn went to my lawyers office together, but he still thinks its not happening. he want me to try to work things out one day at a time. You see, he has heeen verbally and emotionally abusive for 14 yrs.  I finally found the courage to get this done.  I...
    amzaa amzaa 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Unconventional Story

    A month ago I decided I wanted a second divorce. After my first divorce, to a very good person, I decided I wouldn't date for a year. I was single (but did have relationships) for the next three years before meeting my second husband.The first husband and I were great pals. We...
    CompassionateWisdom CompassionateWisdom 31-35 1 Response May 10, 2012

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    Unavoidable....

    Were do I start...I can honestly say this second marriage was out of desperately not wanting to be alone. My first marriage lasted for 19 years. And as our four children got older we grew farther apart. I came home one day to find the house empty and a note saying she's left with...
    unavoidabl44 unavoidabl44 41-45, M Feb 19, 2013

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    I Am So Mad

    I was married almost 11 years the first time. Abusive emotionally and physically and finally got out of it. Met my second husband and he treated me in every way that I wanted to be treated. Would always offer me words of security because he knew I was in security.  He would...
    lvr06 lvr06 31-35 1 Response Aug 8, 2008

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    Wow...again? Really?x

    I was in a marriage the first time around for 20 years, from 19 to 40...it was, from the start a verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abusive relationship.  I was actually relieved when it ended.  We had four kids, and three were still living at home...I...
    razzberryretta2 razzberryretta2 56-60 6 Responses May 19, 2009

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    Goin Through My Second Divorce An Feeling So Guilty

    I met my second husband 3 1/2yrs ago online at first he was everything i wanted in a man attentive good with my two boys 19 an 11 at the time. He also had custody of his daughter who was 11. He had been married twice before but had good reasons why it didnt work out. He moved in...
    nickyj2000 nickyj2000 41-45 1 Response Mar 5, 2013

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    I Still Miss Him So Much

    My first divorce took place in 1992.  He filed but we both wanted it.  My overriding emotion was that of relief.  We should have never married in the first place. I am going through my 2nd divorce right now.  This situation is so much different.  Last...
    jillyk4 jillyk4 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    I Still Miss Him So Much

    My first divorce took place in 1992.  He filed but we both wanted it.  My overriding emotion was that of relief.  We should have never married in the first place. I am going through my 2nd divorce right now.  This situation is so much different.  Last...
    jillyk4 jillyk4 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    2nd Time Just As Bad..

    My frist divorce i was im my early 20s, new i was to young but i loved her, then after the 2nd year i found out she was seen more guys then i could count. I meet what is thought was my soul mate win i was 30 and we were togeather for about 4 yrs befor we got married and life was...
    lovsims lovsims 36-40, M Aug 29, 2012

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    I Never Thought It Would Happen Again

    after the first marriage ended i took three years to work on myself and support my child.  then i met this great guy - stable, secure, honest, and strong.  we moved in together within a year and were married a couple of years later.  i ignored the signs - unable to...
    shiningstar867 shiningstar867 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Going Through Second Divorce

    I am going through second divorce. Life seems to be swinging between despair and hope. After years of dealing with OCPD wife who wouldn't take medication prescribed to her and being depressed, I decided to end it. Part of me feels guilty, but mostly relieved. Thankfully I am...
    amit74 amit74 36-40 1 Response Feb 25, 2012

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    Second Time Around

    I AM GOING THROUGH MY SECOND DIVORCE.  I THOUGHT FOR SURE THIS WAS MY FINAL MARRIAGE.  I MARRIED MY SOULMATE.  I LOVE HER WITH ALL MY HEART; HOWEVER HER JEALOUSLY, MANIPULATION AND PHYSICAL ABUSE TOWARD ME MADE IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO STAY IN THIS...
    caseman67 caseman67 41-45 1 Response Aug 25, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I have been with the same man for 25 years. I thought we had a good marriage. He had an affair with a close friend of mine and despite me forgiving him he wants a divorce. I still...
    hera2014 hera2014 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    Throughout my marriage my husband has been unfaithful in some sort of way. He would make online profiles on adultfriendfinder and other adult dating sites to talk to women. We have...
    elle1640 elle1640 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I'm in a very sad place in my life. Currently in the divorce process and feeling very alone and lost.:-( Just looking to find others that share my experience and find comfort from...
    kluann25 kluann25 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    Ok I left my wife because I felt she was bitching all the time about everything and wasn't pleasing me sexually. Sex only came once a month or so. Now I feel like I want her back...
    garnettsnewlife garnettsnewlife 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 28

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    Hello everyone, I just wanted to share an experience that I am praying is now ending. I am someone that could never handle too many emotions. I often feel overwhelmed very fast...
    mariashelly mariashelly 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I went to Turkey for 11 days, leaving behind what I thought was a relationship of bliss and perfection. My boyfriend and I had been together a year and a bit, and he was so in love...
    eloiseharris eloiseharris 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I am so glad i found this website because i had no where to vent what i am going through, but know i can. This is gonna sound like i am just a whiny teenager but i take things to...
    Erica1lynn Erica1lynn 22-25, F Sep 7

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    A month ago my boyfriend of nearly four years broke up with me. It has been beyond devastating. We met at 17, it was magical. It was a great relationship and he was a great guy, he...
    cate001 cate001 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    I initiated the break up. And it has been real hard. Real real hard to deal with. But I know I have to do it. If I don't, it'll be at the expense of my sanity and I can't let...
    HeyHiHelloOla HeyHiHelloOla 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    After 16 years of marriage (total of 21 yrs together - no kids) and 9 months ago my husband told me that he loves me but is not in love with me. He is depressed and the depression...
    dwalter98 dwalter98 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    He started out nice, but about 2 years ago everything changed. He's always controlled the money, but it got crazy. He called all of the shots, only doling out a small monthly...
    AshCents AshCents 26-30 1 Response Sep 8

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    So, how to start? I got married 2 years ago last weekend to a nice boy, a good Christian boy, or so I thought, so he led me to believe. Turns out he was lying. About all of it...
    geolbt geolbt 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I am in a same sex marriage. My wife left me last week and won't speak to me, won't return my calls or texts, has blocked me and all of our mutual friends on Facebook. I have asked...
    comradestudent comradestudent 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I'm only writing this because I'm kinda lonely , and I really to talk to someone really about anything. Well my life hasn't been normal I've really suffered allot been traumatised...
    DrackenP DrackenP 18-21, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    My recovering drug addict boyfriend and I have been planning to move together out of state. I have been about an hour away from him for a few months now and as much as the distance...
    secretdestiny secretdestiny 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    Don't date people you work with! I started dating this guy I met at work. We work at a school together and often have a lot of free time. We met last school year. Our relationship...
    HopelesslyOptimisticc HopelesslyOptimisticc 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    This could be long. I met this friend whom I am now dating, about 10 months ago. We'll call her D I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 and a half years to do so, we'll call her Monk...
    SoulSurviva93 SoulSurviva93 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 19

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    I have been with my husband going on 3 years now and married 2 years, we have been through a lot and some things I couldnt let go.. Long story short a few days ago he choked me in...
    kadkaloma3 kadkaloma3 26-30, F 1 Response 21 hrs ago

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    I was in a relationship for seven months, and me and my boyfriend became best friends. We would tell each other everything and every time we were together we would never run out of...
    Laurenmac510 Laurenmac510 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    So my Marine has been gone for about a month now and I got word of confirmation that he would be returning for the fact they needed his MOS back here. So the plan was that he was...
    angelbaby187 angelbaby187 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    My heart is useless right now, I can't jumpstart it either It's like a balloon Which has been punctured Lit on fire and then Corroded in this anti-love acid I would scream but I...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 31-35, M Sep 8

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    I don't even know what to write here but I feel the need to get my feelings out. Once again I'm sad, alone and I just don't want to go out and face the world right now. I can't put...
    chuhulil chuhulil 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I really am ..it is so hard and all i can do is to pray nobody goes through this ever...i have a health issue and undiagnosed which doesnt seem to go away and ... nobody around...
    allthewaysaround allthewaysaround 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    After 20 years, it has come to this. Most of it my fault. I understand the issues that I must work on. (anger, verbal abuse.) We are in counseling, both individually and as a...
    querried querried 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Anybody here who has gone through a hard time and want to share their experiences with it?
    allthewaysaround allthewaysaround 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    Inside I am squirming, guts twisting in tiny little knots. Sharp pains cry from my heart. Overwhelmed by this cloud of doom and gloom eating away at my light. He stole my soul...
    lucileface lucileface 26-30, F Sep 9

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    "24 7" I have a whack of things going threw my mind, it frustrates and confuses and drives me crazy! at times it's insane I lose my mind, when will my Brain ever shut down a little...
    purple567 purple567 13-15, F Aug 20

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    Other man. Yeah I'm done. Plan B is now in effect. The awesome husband and dad I have been working hard on..the "new vastly improved me" stays and the next beautiful woman in my...
    wiseprotector wiseprotector 41-45, M 5 Responses Aug 21

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