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I Am Going Through My Second Divorce

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    Unavoidable....

    Were do I start...I can honestly say this second marriage was out of desperately not wanting to be alone. My first marriage lasted for 19 years. And as our four children got older we grew farther apart. I came home one day to find the house empty and a note saying she's left with...
    unavoidabl44 unavoidabl44 41-45, M Feb 19, 2013

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    I'm Devistated-2nd Divorce-love Him So Much

    He's still living here. In a nut shell, we would have been married for 10 years on Sept. 10, 2008. Jeff had an affair with the only woman co-worker on the staff (EWWW...she's almost 50, he's 36!) He didn't come home apologizing, he was caught by me. I took him back with 2...
    DonnaMarie DonnaMarie 41-45 7 Responses Mar 17, 2008

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    Hes Still In Denial About The Divorce.

    I filed, he was served, we evn went to my lawyers office together, but he still thinks its not happening. he want me to try to work things out one day at a time. You see, he has heeen verbally and emotionally abusive for 14 yrs.  I finally found the courage to get this done.  I...
    amzaa amzaa 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Unconventional Story

    A month ago I decided I wanted a second divorce. After my first divorce, to a very good person, I decided I wouldn't date for a year. I was single (but did have relationships) for the next three years before meeting my second husband.The first husband and I were great pals. We...
    CompassionateWisdom CompassionateWisdom 31-35 1 Response May 10, 2012

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    I Am Going Through My Second Divorce

    two months back my husband moved out saying the marriage is over as my family interfers too much. Than about a week ago i found out that he actually left me for another woman and this woman knows he is married, but she just wants him. All the time telling me my family and me are...
    Lynn1809 Lynn1809 36-40, F 7 Responses Feb 23, 2011

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    The Roller Coaster

    I've been married and divorced twice now. I've read many of the stories on here, and I just wanted to share some insights that I've had with my fellow EP Divorcee's. This is the cycle of feelings that I went through with both of my divorces. At first, it felt horrible. I felt...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 16, 2012

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    How to Get Through This Without Begging Him to Stay

    I met my second husband through an online singles. He was unjudgemental of me, and liked to be kissed and held a lot. He at first didn't want to date me because I had children and he was 6-years older. But we became friends. We have been together for almost 10-years. We both...
    Catt1960 Catt1960 46-50 2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    Second Time Around

    I AM GOING THROUGH MY SECOND DIVORCE.  I THOUGHT FOR SURE THIS WAS MY FINAL MARRIAGE.  I MARRIED MY SOULMATE.  I LOVE HER WITH ALL MY HEART; HOWEVER HER JEALOUSLY, MANIPULATION AND PHYSICAL ABUSE TOWARD ME MADE IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR ME TO STAY IN THIS...
    caseman67 caseman67 41-45 1 Response Aug 25, 2009

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    I Still Miss Him So Much

    My first divorce took place in 1992.  He filed but we both wanted it.  My overriding emotion was that of relief.  We should have never married in the first place. I am going through my 2nd divorce right now.  This situation is so much different.  Last...
    jillyk4 jillyk4 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    I Messed Up Big Time!! Advice???

    Hello,  I am a 40 year old man going through, what seems to be an Inevitable, second divorce. I was married once before to a verbally abusive spouse. We divorced almost 8 years ago and had 1 child (now9). My current wife (age29) and I have been together for 6 years, married for...
    spidermonkey25 spidermonkey25 36-40 2 Responses May 23, 2011

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    I Am So Mad

    I was married almost 11 years the first time. Abusive emotionally and physically and finally got out of it. Met my second husband and he treated me in every way that I wanted to be treated. Would always offer me words of security because he knew I was in security.  He would...
    lvr06 lvr06 31-35 1 Response Aug 8, 2008

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    Judged

    I was married at 18 because i was pregnant it did not last long. I waited until my son was out on his own and got married again at 43 yrs. old. One year in and my husband cheated and got abusive when confronted. We are seperated and i want a divorce. My problem is I dont want to...
    aeileen aeileen 46-50, F Jun 4, 2013

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    Divorce

    I'm am currently going through my 2nd divorce.  I have been trying for the past 4 years to get this divorce I am on my 4th lawyer which sucks as for i am wanting my divorce, custody and my settlement.
    tas tas 31-35, F Aug 17, 2007

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    Goin Through My Second Divorce An Feeling So Guilty

    I met my second husband 3 1/2yrs ago online at first he was everything i wanted in a man attentive good with my two boys 19 an 11 at the time. He also had custody of his daughter who was 11. He had been married twice before but had good reasons why it didnt work out. He moved in...
    nickyj2000 nickyj2000 41-45 1 Response Mar 5, 2013

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    Stunned

    I just never thought I would be getting a divorce again and the cause of it would be my husbands Adult, acoholic son. I thought if there would be challenges it would be with my children who are in middle/high school living with us. Nope, the son got what he wanted, his dad back...
    Angelight Angelight 46-50 3 Responses Jan 14, 2009

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    Going Through Second Divorce

    I am going through second divorce. Life seems to be swinging between despair and hope. After years of dealing with OCPD wife who wouldn't take medication prescribed to her and being depressed, I decided to end it. Part of me feels guilty, but mostly relieved. Thankfully I am...
    amit74 amit74 36-40 Feb 25, 2012

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    Going Through Second Divorce

    I am going through second divorce. Life seems to be swinging between despair and hope. After years of dealing with OCPD wife who wouldn't take medication prescribed to her and being depressed, I decided to end it. Part of me feels guilty, but mostly relieved. Thankfully I am...
    amit74 amit74 36-40 1 Response Feb 25, 2012

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    2nd Time Just As Bad..

    My frist divorce i was im my early 20s, new i was to young but i loved her, then after the 2nd year i found out she was seen more guys then i could count. I meet what is thought was my soul mate win i was 30 and we were togeather for about 4 yrs befor we got married and life was...
    lovsims lovsims 36-40, M Aug 29, 2012

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    I Never Thought It Would Happen Again

    after the first marriage ended i took three years to work on myself and support my child.  then i met this great guy - stable, secure, honest, and strong.  we moved in together within a year and were married a couple of years later.  i ignored the signs - unable to...
    shiningstar867 shiningstar867 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Wow...again? Really?x

    I was in a marriage the first time around for 20 years, from 19 to 40...it was, from the start a verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abusive relationship.  I was actually relieved when it ended.  We had four kids, and three were still living at home...I...
    razzberryretta2 razzberryretta2 56-60 6 Responses May 19, 2009

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    I Still Miss Him So Much

    My first divorce took place in 1992.  He filed but we both wanted it.  My overriding emotion was that of relief.  We should have never married in the first place. I am going through my 2nd divorce right now.  This situation is so much different.  Last...
    jillyk4 jillyk4 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    Hello, I am going through a divorce with my husband whom I still love. How do you get through this?
    biggirl47 biggirl47 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    been married 25 years to my first love and the father of my 3 young adult children and now find myself going through this terrible divorce. Found out he has a drug addiction and...
    biggirl47 biggirl47 46-50, F Jul 21

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    This absolutely is miserable. My husband seems to think he is going to take me to the cleaners and receive everything that he requested in the settlement. He is wrong. I am...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F Jul 3

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    This is an unwanted divorce. I cannot move on, and I'm stuck. I don't know how people can just walk out of their spouses for no good reason. Then be fine about it too and not...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I am losing. I am not going to win this marriage back, so I have got to let go. It's been 9 months, and he's not coming home. The kids and I are alone and it's truly hard to...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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    I'm terrified of this divorce. I'm a stay at home mom who hasn't been in the workplace in 10 years. I'm scared about the future and retirement. I scared about my kids and their...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    My husband and I were a team fighting for the same goals. Now that this divorce has happened, I realize that we are not on the same team, that he is not helping pay all the bills...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 2

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    Finally. And end. Yesterday, which ironically was out 13th wedding anniversary, we finally sat down and hammered out company buy out, spousal support and child support. So very...
    Tico72 Tico72 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    D - devastating I - incomprehensible or important (depending on the issues) V - voluminous O - overwhelming R - ruined C - careless E - emotional
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    My parents are going through a divorce, and I don't know how to deal with it, or what I should do, or who I can talk to right now.
    PJamgurl PJamgurl 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am going through a lot right now, and I feel very much alone. I am trying to put myself back together, but I know its going to take some time. The road I am on, is a bumpy one...
    LostAriel LostAriel 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I am a 46 yr old who's having a hard time with this. My daughter doesn't want to listen she tells me to get over it and I don't have any friends but one. She is married and has...
    mari46 mari46 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I'd like to talk to like minded people... I feel very alienated because nobody seems to understand what I'm going through right now in my life. I've taken phycadelic drugs and have...
    alilaw3 alilaw3 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    Want to talk.... Maybe going through a marriage seperation. And have all these emotions.
    wintergirl98 wintergirl98 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 20

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    i really am.. but no one sees it because i've been really happy lately (thankyou megan aka my princess😊😘) yeah she helps a lot. i dont open up cuz i'm really bad at...
    xxxalyssabrownxxx xxxalyssabrownxxx 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    My wife told me 5 days ago that she wants to leave. She did not use the words divorce but I am wondering if I still even have a chance. I do not want to give up but I believe my...
    KevAM KevAM 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 5

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    Rebuilding, lovingly distancing...man this is the hardest and best thing that has ever happened to me. When was the last time my manhood rose to the occassion to own and deal with...
    wiseprotector wiseprotector 41-45, M Jul 16

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    Religious (ego) Consciousness, True Consciousness (subconscious experience), and Spiritual Consciousness (super conscious) *Disclaimer: Controversial. Not for the emotionally...
    nagaprincess nagaprincess 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Love is a stranger. One rainy morning on Times Square in New York, whilst sitting on the red stairs I met the man of my life by coincidence. He was English, friendly and funny. I...
    juleskietta juleskietta 26-30, F Jul 14

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    After a argument through text message I came home from work to find my wife and kids had left. A few days later, she told me we weren't going to be husband and wife anymore. I...
    Ressalg Ressalg 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 18

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    I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk to as I try to find my way through this. To get some of...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I am in an all-but-sexless relationship with someone I love and respect, and I'm looking for someone who can relate to talk to as I try to find my way through this. To get some of...
    NXS3 NXS3 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    My boyfriend of one and a half years broke up with me two days ago. I am completely shocked and the reality of it all is hitting me now. I was practically crying at work all day...
    blazeee blazeee 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Alright, so it really isn't a break up, but that's the best way I can describe it. I met this guy a little more than a month ago, and we hit it off really quickly. We started...
    fuelingfires fuelingfires 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    Talked with a girl for five minutes during class time, had talked with her earlier also. After our conversation is over and I am in the hallway talking about class with some other...
    kumarawijeet kumarawijeet 18-21, M Jul 3

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    I knew it was a mistake to get involved with my ex almost as soon as I met him, but I just couldn't help myself. I wish more than anything I could rewind three years and run in the...
    Hanalacle Hanalacle 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Married in 2010 now with a 2-year old. Weve been arguing for years, but lately the fights have been getting more constant and weve finally talked about separating. It saddens me...
    mmmela mmmela 26-30, F 5 days ago

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