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I Am Happily Childfree

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    Um, Thought I Covered This Already

    Maybe deleted first draft. Anyhooooo, well, to put it delicately, when I realized I was female, and not just human, the implications came in fast and strong that my apparent destiny was to bear children. Wtf? It was all an exercise in existential angst. My body morphed. My...
    angsty angsty 61-65, F 6 Responses Jan 29, 2011

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    I wish someone would explain to me what is the

    big Deal about having kids and raising a family. Female friends are always telling me im missing out on ONE of life's most fulfilling experiences being a mother.When I'm out in public I see these stressed out drained frazzled fat moms arguing with their kids dealing...
    pixiewolf89 pixiewolf89 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Parenthood: Not For Me

    I like kids. I have a long history of being a great babysitter. I love to explore the world through the eyes of a child, I love to teach, and I love how hilarious kids can be!! But I don't want kids of my own. I live a simple, quiet life, and I love it that way. I'll watch your...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    While it sounds all fine

    and dandy to be child free as an adult you wonder what if… until your neighbor or someone else's child is wailing in front of you. Those moments makes being child free worth it. Every time.
    Sacryfice Sacryfice 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    Kids are annoying. People always dump their

    kids on me when they come to my house with no regards of my disdain for kids. I've watched infants to kids around 9. They're such a pain. All they know how to do is whine, cry, complain, and get into everything. -_- Why people actually want hem is beyond me.
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 2 Responses Nov 7

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    Early Articulator And Still Going Strong

    Once I realized that children were a choice at around age seven, I started saying I would not have any. Growing up on a farm, I saw (and sometimes had to assist with) the animals giving birth, their eyes full of pain and terror. I was disgusted and felt horrible for those...
    CelestialSkies CelestialSkies 31-35, F Sep 30, 2013

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    I don't have children.

    I don't WANT children. I certainly don't want to be EXPOSED to YOUR children! Listen, to all of you "breeders" out there, give the rest of us a damn break! If a business owner opens a child-free restaurant, or an airline offering "no kid" flights, stop losing your sh*t...
    Beaver318 Beaver318 41-45, M 4 Responses Jun 18

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    Benefits I Enjoy Being Childfree

    1. More free time to pursue other goals. 2. I am able to focus more on career and future education. 3. There's less worry and stress in my life. 4. Doing my own thing instead of being a lemming and following the crowd. 5. Less mess in my life. I'm not constantly cleaning up the...
    TheTwilightQueen TheTwilightQueen 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 3, 2011

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    i saw this question somewhere today

    and thought it was a good one: "Many women who don't have children will always say things like (I can't wait to have a BABY). You NEVER hear a woman say (I can't wait to have a TEENAGER). Do you think that women think about the LONG term part of being a mother or are just so...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 7

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    I Don'T Want Kids

    My mom wants me to have kids. Hahahahahaha NO. I have too many health issues that could be genetic. Plus, ain't nobody in the engineering field got time for the d or p if your a guy.
    hydroconvulsepengy hydroconvulsepengy 16-17, F Sep 28, 2013

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    Nobody ever asks me why I don't want to be

    (say) a pilot, or a baker, or get a PhD, or move to New Zealand, or dye my hair green. I get tired of reciting my thousand good reasons not to want children, and I resent being ordered to explain myself. If I said I wanted twenty kids, nobody would make me justify that. "It's...
    garnet612 garnet612 22-25 1 Response Jan 14

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    I Don't Want Kids, And Yes I'm Sure.

    I don't want to have children during this lifetime. I didn't when I was little, always hated babysitting, and I don't now, and I'm pretty damn sure I won't in the future. And there is NOTHING wrong with that. Why does womanhood have to be defined by motherhood? I think the best...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    30+ Asian Cf Lady

    I am a 30-something Asian-American woman living the CF lifestyle in Phoenix, AZ. I've always been a tomboy and I'm very close to my dad. I'm the oldest of 5 daughters but most people think that if you come from a large family, you will want kids of your own someday. Now that's a...
    afdragon afdragon 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    I think there is a misconception about not

    wanting to have children. It doesn't mean that I hate kids. It doesn't mean having children vs not having children is right or wrong. It's just a personal decision. Other than that, a lot of times my straight friends and family assume that I wouldn't want children because I'm a...
    rwright1 rwright1 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Have Bigger Plans

    There are four generations and sixteen families sprawled on the green lawns. Picnic tables are covered with rag-tag cloths of every imaginable color, and rapid conversation fills the air. Lanterns in glass flicker excitedly, competing with the few remaining sunbeams. Walking...
    ParadisePoet ParadisePoet 18-21 2 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    I wish someone would explain to me what is the

    big Deal about having kids and raising a family. Female friends are always telling me im missing out on ONE of life's most fulfilling experiences being a mother.When I'm out in public I see these stressed out drained frazzled fat moms arguing with their kids dealing...
    pixiewolf89 pixiewolf89 41-45, F Mar 16

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    God's Timing Is Impeccable

    Gosh....where to begin?? Deep down I always knew that I didn't want to be a mother, but I tried to convince myself that I would someday change my mind when I met the "right" guy. This is the thought process that got me into A LOT of trouble. When I first met my husband, he was 24...
    SymSym83 SymSym83 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2012

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    I Am A Happily Childree 40-something Female

    I just wanted to say that I am a happily childfree 40-something Black female living in the Midwest. Many people find me strange because I don't have or want any kids. I don't hate kids, but I don't want to live the lifestyle of a parent. I find that parenting is not for me and I...
    sharonkaysilks sharonkaysilks 46-50 3 Responses Jul 1, 2010

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    I have decided to be childfree.

    but I find it's hard to find a girl that enjoy outdoor as much as I do and chooses to be childfree as well. Where are you my love?
    21CmBubbles 21CmBubbles 26-30, M Nov 6

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    I used to be neutral on the subject of children.

    It wasn't something I lusted after like some women do, and, further, it wasn't something I was in any hurry to do. As time went on, it seemed less and less like something I'd ever even want. Then, I hit 30. That was three years ago. My peers began popping out babies or racing...
    proudgqdyke proudgqdyke 31-35, F 1 Response May 3

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    See? I Never Did Change My Mind About It!

    I always resented being told that I'd change my mind when I got older about not wanting to have kids. As far back as I can remember, I've never wanted them. Some people see a crying baby and go, "Aww, poor thing - I wonder what he wants?"; my reaction is "shut that...
    trinityblossom trinityblossom 36-40 5 Responses Mar 31, 2008

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    Absolutely, Positively No Children...

    Unless they have 4 paws, fur & a tail...
    lightwolfmelody lightwolfmelody 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 13, 2012

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    I Don't Need to Justify It to Anyone.

    Considering how desperately overpopulated the world is, it is still surprisingly taboo to be childfree. Especially if you're young (which I am), female (which I am), or intelligent (which I like to think I am). When I tell people I am childfree, I almost feel like I need to...
    ChainsOfGonzo ChainsOfGonzo 22-25, F 12 Responses May 16, 2009

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    Happy To Be Childfree (Update)

    Im pretty content with the idea of never being a mother. For adopted or biological children. Kids are not my thing. I mean I don't really understand why they are so awesome to some people, they are just people, who grow up to be people like the rest of us. They may or may not be...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 28 Responses Jul 24, 2011

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    I Feel Nothing

    i am grateful that i question everything in life you cannot just go along with what everyone else is doing. as a child the idea of motherhood hit me like a ton of bricks i use to think that one day i would grow up get married and make babies. i started searching my inner self...
    islander22 islander22 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2013

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    Yet More Reasons Why I Enjoy Being Childfree

    1. You will be happier and less likely to suffer from depression. 2. (Assuming you get married), you will have a happier marriage. 3. You will have the capacity and time for meaningful, engaged, quality adult relationships. 4. You will be able to save for a comfortable retirement...
    TheTwilightQueen TheTwilightQueen 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I Want Children Like I Want Syphilis

    It is erroneous to suppose that a person in possession of a womb must want that womb to be filled; that a woman must desire children as much as she desires the perfect wedding dress and a husband who doesn't drink too much, and who sometimes makes her feel like more than a sex...
    ISawIDreamed ISawIDreamed 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    Childfree and Loving It

    I like kids and everything. I do. But when I finally realized that I didn't want any, and that I felt all right about that, it was a very happy day for me! So liberating. :-)
    palinura palinura 36-40, F 4 Responses May 15, 2007

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    I Love Being Childfree, Beyond Grateful!

    I am 57 years old, gay, in a gay marriage, live in north central Texas. I knew when I was 18 years old that I never wanted to have children, under any circumstances, I simply do not like children, much less love and value them, being gay and living in "no gay adoption" Texas, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 22, 2013

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    Who I Am

    I am a 29 year old going to be 30 soon. I have been married 8 years. I do not have kids. I have never wanted kids but for a long time I wondered if I would want one "someday". Like the clock ticking thing? So when people asked me about it I would usually say I didnt want kids...
    laurab29 laurab29 26-30 3 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    So Many People

    Have children because it's seen as the normal thing to do. Those of us that don't want children are often considered as some sort of aberration, or as selfish, neither of which I think is true. By not having children we are preventing unwanted children from suffering, you may...
    Illiteratetroll Illiteratetroll 46-50 19 Responses May 4, 2012

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    I Am Childfree And I Have No Regrets.

    I am fortunate in that I have not had too many people try and push the breeder agenda at me.  Every once in a while, though, someone tries to bingo me—that is, trot out the same old, tired phrases CF people always hear: 'You'll change your mind.'  'It's different...
    ZephyrSin ZephyrSin 41-45 6 Responses May 20, 2010

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    I see the breeders my age walking around in a

    constant state of agitation. they whine towards their kids because they are castrated or simply lack the talent to command authority. they made a stupid choice to spread their legs when they were young and as a result, failed to accomplish anything in life. they don't travel...
    mierdamundo mierdamundo 31-35 3 Responses Jun 25

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    MOTHERS DAY: i dread this time of year

    because im always subject to at least one annoying comment or experience. i always get wished a happy mothers day..because people assume that all middle aged women are moms. so on yesterday, when i said to someone "thank you but i dont have any kids"..he said something like "aww...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 2 Responses May 10

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    From An Early Articulator

    I am what I've heard called an early articulator - I've known from a very early age that I've never wanted children. It's strange to many but even as a seven-year-old playing in the playground, I would play imaginary games of being a grown up that never involved children. The...
    Cynanthrope Cynanthrope 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2010

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    Childfree Dating

    I've dated men with kids in the past and I will never do it again. Provided he is not a deadbeat dad, his kids will always take priority over dating women. And as much as I respect that he is a good father and is there for them, I will never be number one in his life. To some...
    afdragon afdragon 36-40, F 13 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    I Am A Non Breeder!

    As a child, I played with dolls. I imagined having children and taking care of them during my games of "pretend." It is the social norm to think that, as a female, I'm going to grow up and reproduce. That's what we do. My mind began to change when I accepted a steady babysitting...
    KCCC96 KCCC96 31-35, F 2 Responses May 4, 2013

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    I Don't Need a Child to Live a Full Life

    There are many reasons why I'm childfree, some of which I'll delve in to here. I was [technically] my mothers fifth child.  She lost her only son shortly after he was born, at least that's what she tells me.  She had me right before she went through menopause, and...
    chaotic chaotic 26-30, F 10 Responses May 31, 2007

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    Sparkles4Soul Sparkles4Soul 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    I Just Wasn't Meant To Be A Parent

    I'm glad that I've found a place where I'm not committing a cultural blasphemy by saying that I absolutely do not want children. It's not that I dislike children, or that I wish other couples *didn't* have children - that's 100% a freedom of choice issue. But I'm not equipped...
    kiuz645 kiuz645 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    Why Ain't You Got Kids!?

    When I was 21 and a junior in college, I worked at a big box discount store for two weeks. During my second week, I was physically attacked by one of my coworkers who was a 19 year old mother of two. Her exact words to me were, "Why ain't you got kids!?" and when I answered, "I...
    gooseyloo gooseyloo 36-40, F 11 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    I want nothing to do with parenthood.

    I've known this since I was twelve years old and my mind hasn't wavered since. If I could find a romantic partner who was also childfree, I'd prefer to be alone. Kids aren't something you compromise on.
    BelleofApril BelleofApril 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Happy To Be Childfree!

    I'm Childfree. I've known I don't want kids since I was a teenager and had some experiences babysitting. I knew that as a parent, you can't give them back at the end of the day. I confided in a couple of close friends that I likely wouldn't have kids, but I waited to tell my...
    birchbark365 birchbark365 31-35, F 1 Response May 12, 2013

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    I Will Not Apologize!!!

    Don't want nor have ever wanted them in any way, shape and or form. I don't dislike all of them, though I know most people consider me "THE ULTIMATE EVIL" for feeling that way being a woman and all. It's just the way I've always been internally wired. But in response to that age...
    TheTwilightQueen TheTwilightQueen 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 27, 2011

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    My CF Regrets

    I am so sad that women can walk arround topless in my house any time of the day!
    Crimsonfcker Crimsonfcker 70+, M Apr 18, 2013

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    I wish someone would explain to me what is the

    big Deal about having kids and raising a family. Female friends are always telling me im missing out on ONE of life's most fulfilling experiences being a mother.When I'm out in public I see these stressed out drained frazzled fat moms arguing with their kids dealing...
    pixiewolf89 pixiewolf89 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Trolls On The Hunt

    This little speech is for anyone who comes here, reads the title and the name of the group and STILL feels the need to leave a nasty rude comment on how they don't agree with your personal decision not to bare children. Now...I will personally tear a new one to anyone who joins a...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    where are all the single ladies

    that don't want children? Why 95% of females I have interacted all wants children? ....-_-
    21CmBubbles 21CmBubbles 26-30, M 18 hrs ago

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    Practically Since Birth

    Never in my life have I ever had the desire to reproduce. I don't really like kids, especially younger kids or infants. I'm fine with most teenagers or pre-teens but I just really hate loud abrupt noises, cries, etc. I want to be free someday to do what I want, go where I...
    crazycatlady616 crazycatlady616 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." 1 Corinthians 13:11 Don't...
    Nannyxd Nannyxd 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I can say I'm happily married, but I'm constantly horny, I just feel like I can have sex twice a day everyday, but of course that is not happening.
    zeebo35 zeebo35 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 31

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