I Am Happily Childfree

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    Childfree and Loving It

    I like kids and everything. I do. But when I finally realized that I didn't want any, and that I felt all right about that, it was a very happy day for me! So liberating. :-)
    palinura palinura
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 15, 2007

    to the breeders here : get we genuinely don't

    care . we thought of all advantages and disadvantages before making this life affecting decision. have some respect and leave us alone
    Fralicious Fralicious
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 8, 2015

    I Don't Want Kids, And Yes I'm Sure.

    I don't want to have children during this lifetime. I didn't when I was little, always hated babysitting, and I don't now, and I'm pretty damn sure I won't in the future. And there is NOTHING wrong with that. Why does womanhood have to be defined by motherhood? I think the best...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Nov 15, 2013

    Early Articulator And Still Going Strong

    Once I realized that children were a choice at around age seven, I started saying I would not have any. Growing up on a farm, I saw (and sometimes had to assist with) the animals giving birth, their eyes full of pain and terror. I was disgusted and felt horrible for those...
    CelestialSkies CelestialSkies
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 30, 2013

    I had a short debate with a child worshipper.

    He said my family tree will die out because of me and he and his kids will take over my land and resources. I told him you and your kids might die along with me, If a meteor won't wipe the human race out their stupidity and greed will since the over population is putting...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 10

    I Don't Need a Child to Live a Full Life

    There are many reasons why I'm childfree, some of which I'll delve in to here. I was [technically] my mothers fifth child.  She lost her only son shortly after he was born, at least that's what she tells me.  She had me right before she went through menopause, and...
    chaotic chaotic
    26-30, F
    10 Responses May 31, 2007

    Happy To Be Childfree (Update)

    Im pretty content with the idea of never being a mother. For adopted or biological children. Kids are not my thing. I mean I don't really understand why they are so awesome to some people, they are just people, who grow up to be people like the rest of us. They may or may not be...
    Evlana Evlana
    22-25, F
    27 Responses Jul 24, 2011

    I think one of the reasons I don't want kids is

    because there are many chapters of my childhood that I wouldn't want to relive again. Don't get me wrong my childhood wasn't bad and my folks did the best they could and I have great memories. But there are certain chapters of my growing up that I found a mega drag! One of them...
    Orgasme Orgasme
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 20

    Why Ain't You Got Kids!?

    When I was 21 and a junior in college, I worked at a big box discount store for two weeks. During my second week, I was physically attacked by one of my coworkers who was a 19 year old mother of two. Her exact words to me were, "Why ain't you got kids!?" and when I answered, "I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    13 Responses Nov 28, 2012

    I am a unique, complicated person.

    My decision to not have children is part of what makes me unique. I am not childfree for any of the usual reasons. I am an unemployed college dropout who lives with her parents. Therefore, I am not childfree because I am pursuing education or a career. I seldom leave the house...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    31-35
    1 Response Aug 18, 2015

    I simply had to choose between disposable cash

    and disposable diapers frankly it was the easiest choice I ever took
    Fralicious Fralicious
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2015

    Time to get some new ******* Irl friends

    because 99% of them are knocked up or tied down with kids in their early ******* 20s. Ewww.
    snugglybunny snugglybunny
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

    Childfree Dating

    I've dated men with kids in the past and I will never do it again. Provided he is not a deadbeat dad, his kids will always take priority over dating women. And as much as I respect that he is a good father and is there for them, I will never be number one in his life. To some...
    afdragon afdragon
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Dec 13, 2010

    Why are breeders trying to start **** with

    users in this group? We don't go to your pages and tell you how ****** it is to have kids. Can you please **** off? Nobody is threatening your way of life.
    snugglybunny snugglybunny
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 7, 2015
    Fralicious Fralicious
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    I've never wanted kids.

    Never had the desire. I found myself in a situation where I had to ask myself whether I wanted kids or not. Because I found myself in a situation where I found out my old high school crush met other men and had kids with them. Two kids, two different men. She wanted me to step...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 24, 2015
    Darklady22 Darklady22
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 29, 2015

    Nobody ever asks me why I don't want to be

    (say) a pilot, or a baker, or get a PhD, or move to New Zealand, or dye my hair green. I get tired of reciting my thousand good reasons not to want children, and I resent being ordered to explain myself. If I said I wanted twenty kids, nobody would make me justify that. "It's...
    garnet612 garnet612
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 14, 2014

    Trolls On The Hunt

    This little speech is for anyone who comes here, reads the title and the name of the group and STILL feels the need to leave a nasty rude comment on how they don't agree with your personal decision not to bare children. Now...I will personally tear a new one to anyone who joins a...
    Evlana Evlana
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 22, 2013

    Who I Am

    I am a 29 year old going to be 30 soon. I have been married 8 years. I do not have kids. I have never wanted kids but for a long time I wondered if I would want one "someday". Like the clock ticking thing? So when people asked me about it I would usually say I didnt want kids...
    laurab29 laurab29
    26-30
    3 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    II’ve been told before

    that women prefer masculine men when they’re ovulating but at other times tend to think about more feminine ones by the MGTOW and MRA types. That’s FINE because I’m Preoperative towards the Vasetomy I intend to get at some point. In other words Go ahead and prefer the...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 15

    Raising kids is the most rewardless chore in

    the world. Nothing on this planet and beyond can be less satisfying than having kids ruining your expensive carpet or make your car smell like **** and vomit. Constantly being distracted doing your thing because your kid is playing up or won't shut their pie hole. You literally...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 30, 2015

    Lol it's always funny

    when someone tries to bring up "carrying on your families name" like who the **** would even care about something like that??? It's not 1782.
    snugglybunny snugglybunny
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Mar 11

    My mum used to a huge children lover she would

    volunteer to take care of kindergarten kids all the time . the minute she got married and had kids she regretted the decision she reminds me everyday to not have kids . if a person like mom could dislike kids like that then how will me? the person who doesn't want kids to begin...
    Fralicious Fralicious
    18-21, F
    Dec 8, 2015

    I wish someone would explain to me what is the

    big Deal about having kids and raising a family. Female friends are always telling me im missing out on ONE of life's most fulfilling experiences being a mother.When I'm out in public I see these stressed out drained frazzled fat moms arguing with their kids dealing...
    pixiewolf89 pixiewolf89
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    As a childfree person,

    I find it hard to find others who are also childfree. I only have one friend who's a fence-sitter in real life. Luckily, I'm married to someone who's also childfree. When I met my husband, I thought I'd have to have kids "someday". The thought scared and repulsed me, but I...
    YesChildfree YesChildfree
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 5

    I Have Bigger Plans

    There are four generations and sixteen families sprawled on the green lawns. Picnic tables are covered with rag-tag cloths of every imaginable color, and rapid conversation fills the air. Lanterns in glass flicker excitedly, competing with the few remaining sunbeams. Walking...
    ParadisePoet ParadisePoet
    18-21
    2 Responses Sep 22, 2012

    Life without children is a good life.

    There should be a 1 child policy and The breeders should raise kids far away from society and when they are 20 they can leave the remote places of the Earth and live in the city. Can you imagine how great that would be? No longer having your night out ruined by tantrum throwing...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 14

    On a sunny day I enjoyed a ice cold cherry Coke.

    You know just minding my own business and then some religious woman came up and tried to shove a folder about health in front of my nose saying Coke also can make young women infertile. I smiled and said wauw thanks for the tip I didn't know that. The puzzled look the woman gave...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 8
    Orgasme Orgasme
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    I know what I'm missing out on

    but its very tiny compared to what I'm saving myself from
    Fralicious Fralicious
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    Don't pity us Moo cows,

    Pity yourself for having to deal with stress and Exhaustion 24/7 dealing with your scream factory We get the best of everything. Better happier marriages Better holidays better Summers and Better day offs. And better sex since we'll be more attractive in the eyes of the beholder...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    I think another part

    that sucks is that we do indeed indure Harassment by those who romanticize having kids and I mean if you don't believe me it's all over the web http://www.yourtango.com/2015274167/childless-by-choice-women-are-the-reason-society-is-deteroriating here's just one example...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jan 15
    Orgasme Orgasme
    36-40, F
    Jan 16

    I'm sure we all share the struggle of feeling

    the need to excuse ourselves for this decision. And the excuses we make are usually very self-denigrating, whether we mean for them to be or not. "I'd make a bad parent", "My kids would be messed up", "I have poor genetics", etc. Some of us even agree with those who judge us and...
    bluebark bluebark
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    I Feel Nothing

    i am grateful that i question everything in life you cannot just go along with what everyone else is doing. as a child the idea of motherhood hit me like a ton of bricks i use to think that one day i would grow up get married and make babies. i started searching my inner self...
    islander22 islander22
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2013

    How do you ruin a marriage in less

    than a year? Get yourself knocked up. A lot of folks assume marriages end because the guy or female behaved like a douche, But society is too afraid to admit the divorce rates are higher with parents than with people who made the best and smartest choice for life.
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 12

    Parenthood: Not For Me

    I like kids. I have a long history of being a great babysitter. I love to explore the world through the eyes of a child, I love to teach, and I love how hilarious kids can be!! But I don't want kids of my own. I live a simple, quiet life, and I love it that way. I'll watch your...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 7, 2013

    I Don't Need to Justify It to Anyone.

    Considering how desperately overpopulated the world is, it is still surprisingly taboo to be childfree. Especially if you're young (which I am), female (which I am), or intelligent (which I like to think I am). When I tell people I am childfree, I almost feel like I need to...
    ChainsOfGonzo ChainsOfGonzo
    22-25, F
    12 Responses May 16, 2009

    I want kids in the near future

    but definitely not right now. I'm focused on bettering my life and getting were I need to be. Once I get my life right then Id love to have kids. A big portion of the people I went to school with have kids already. We are adults but still young. Most of them aren't working or...
    VirgoBeauty VirgoBeauty
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 13

    Its really a natural part of just

    who I am being on the freespirited and very introverted side at the same time.Its a decision I made at 14 after both my parents remarried and were obsessed with cranking out new babies with their new spouses in addition to the 3 they already had!By the time I was 14 I felt like...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    I don't want to say that I hate children.

    I am well aware that children are precious, children are the future, and all of that. I'm even aware that I was once a child myself. However, I am totally useless when it comes to dealing with children. I am not good with them at all, and I don't enjoy taking care of children. I...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme
    31-35
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    Yet More Reasons Why I Enjoy Being Childfree

    1. You will be happier and less likely to suffer from depression. 2. (Assuming you get married), you will have a happier marriage. 3. You will have the capacity and time for meaningful, engaged, quality adult relationships. 4. You will be able to save for a comfortable retirement...
    TheTwilightQueen TheTwilightQueen
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 14, 2012

    Traveling without Hearing Children's mouth

    flapping is the most beautiful thing in the world and you know It. I love this place.
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 25

    So Many People

    Have children because it's seen as the normal thing to do. Those of us that don't want children are often considered as some sort of aberration, or as selfish, neither of which I think is true. By not having children we are preventing unwanted children from suffering, you may...
    Illiteratetroll Illiteratetroll
    46-50
    16 Responses May 4, 2012

    I don't want kids ever.

    it's hard enough trying to live without one.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 13

    I hate seeing fun ppl go

    who aren't tied with annoying kids. I enjoyed reading everyone's experience yeah I'm looking at you snugglybunny lol.
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 24

    nothing like Thanksgiving family gathering to

    make you feel like the odd man out. yes I'm 24 and childfree, no I do not get the cozy feeling women get when they see small children. I never have, I don't think I ever will, I don't think its fair to have a kid to test it out. I'm having a hard time trying this year. being...
    krazylilmeow krazylilmeow
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 27, 2014

    I Want Children Like I Want Syphilis

    It is erroneous to suppose that a person in possession of a womb must want that womb to be filled; that a woman must desire children as much as she desires the perfect wedding dress and a husband who doesn't drink too much, and who sometimes makes her feel like more than a sex...
    ISawIDreamed ISawIDreamed
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 12, 2012

    Am I the only one like this?

    I feel like if it came down to it i'd rather adopt than have kids of my own. I just think there are way too many children in the world that need good homes. And I feel like if I did I could also maybe give a mother a second chance on life, people are way too harsh on women when...
    GreyThreadAndGin GreyThreadAndGin
    26-30, M
    1 Response Sep 10, 2015

    I Am Childfree And I Have No Regrets.

    I am fortunate in that I have not had too many people try and push the breeder agenda at me.  Every once in a while, though, someone tries to bingo me—that is, trot out the same old, tired phrases CF people always hear: 'You'll change your mind.'  'It's different...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses May 20, 2010
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