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I Am Happily Childfree

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    Darklady22 Darklady22 31-35, F 2 Responses May 29, 2015

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    I Have Bigger Plans

    There are four generations and sixteen families sprawled on the green lawns. Picnic tables are covered with rag-tag cloths of every imaginable color, and rapid conversation fills the air. Lanterns in glass flicker excitedly, competing with the few remaining sunbeams. Walking...
    ParadisePoet ParadisePoet 18-21 2 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    I think another part

    that sucks is that we do indeed indure Harassment by those who romanticize having kids and I mean if you don't believe me it's all over the web http://www.yourtango.com/2015274167/childless-by-choice-women-are-the-reason-society-is-deteroriating here's just one example...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 15

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    I've never wanted kids.

    Never had the desire. I found myself in a situation where I had to ask myself whether I wanted kids or not. Because I found myself in a situation where I found out my old high school crush met other men and had kids with them. Two kids, two different men. She wanted me to step...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 24, 2015

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    I Don't Need to Justify It to Anyone.

    Considering how desperately overpopulated the world is, it is still surprisingly taboo to be childfree. Especially if you're young (which I am), female (which I am), or intelligent (which I like to think I am). When I tell people I am childfree, I almost feel like I need to...
    ChainsOfGonzo ChainsOfGonzo 22-25, F 12 Responses May 16, 2009

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    I Am Childfree And I Have No Regrets.

    I am fortunate in that I have not had too many people try and push the breeder agenda at me.  Every once in a while, though, someone tries to bingo me—that is, trot out the same old, tired phrases CF people always hear: 'You'll change your mind.'  'It's different...
    ZephyrSin ZephyrSin 41-45 6 Responses May 20, 2010

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    I'm sure we all share the struggle of feeling

    the need to excuse ourselves for this decision. And the excuses we make are usually very self-denigrating, whether we mean for them to be or not. "I'd make a bad parent", "My kids would be messed up", "I have poor genetics", etc. Some of us even agree with those who judge us and...
    bluebark bluebark 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 24, 2015

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    Childfree Dating

    I've dated men with kids in the past and I will never do it again. Provided he is not a deadbeat dad, his kids will always take priority over dating women. And as much as I respect that he is a good father and is there for them, I will never be number one in his life. To some...
    afdragon afdragon 36-40, F 12 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    I Don't Need a Child to Live a Full Life

    There are many reasons why I'm childfree, some of which I'll delve in to here. I was [technically] my mothers fifth child.  She lost her only son shortly after he was born, at least that's what she tells me.  She had me right before she went through menopause, and...
    chaotic chaotic 26-30, F 10 Responses May 31, 2007

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    II’ve been told before

    that women prefer masculine men when they’re ovulating but at other times tend to think about more feminine ones by the MGTOW and MRA types. That’s FINE because I’m Preoperative towards the Vasetomy I intend to get at some point. In other words Go ahead and prefer the...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 15

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    Um, Thought I Covered This Already

    Maybe deleted first draft. Anyhooooo, well, to put it delicately, when I realized I was female, and not just human, the implications came in fast and strong that my apparent destiny was to bear children. Wtf? It was all an exercise in existential angst. My body morphed. My...
    angsty angsty 61-65, F 6 Responses Jan 29, 2011

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    nothing like Thanksgiving family gathering to

    make you feel like the odd man out. yes I'm 24 and childfree, no I do not get the cozy feeling women get when they see small children. I never have, I don't think I ever will, I don't think its fair to have a kid to test it out. I'm having a hard time trying this year. being...
    krazylilmeow krazylilmeow 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    I don't want to say that I hate children.

    I am well aware that children are precious, children are the future, and all of that. I'm even aware that I was once a child myself. However, I am totally useless when it comes to dealing with children. I am not good with them at all, and I don't enjoy taking care of children. I...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 4 Responses Jul 10, 2015

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    i saw this question somewhere today

    and thought it was a good one: "Many women who don't have children will always say things like (I can't wait to have a BABY). You NEVER hear a woman say (I can't wait to have a TEENAGER). Do you think that women think about the LONG term part of being a mother or are just so...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I want kids in the near future

    but definitely not right now. I'm focused on bettering my life and getting were I need to be. Once I get my life right then Id love to have kids. A big portion of the people I went to school with have kids already. We are adults but still young. Most of them aren't working or...
    VirgoBeauty VirgoBeauty 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    I simply had to choose between disposable cash

    and disposable diapers frankly it was the easiest choice I ever took
    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2015

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    I am a unique, complicated person.

    My decision to not have children is part of what makes me unique. I am not childfree for any of the usual reasons. I am an unemployed college dropout who lives with her parents. Therefore, I am not childfree because I am pursuing education or a career. I seldom leave the house...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 2 Responses Aug 18, 2015

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    Don't pity us Moo cows,

    Pity yourself for having to deal with stress and Exhaustion 24/7 dealing with your scream factory We get the best of everything. Better happier marriages Better holidays better Summers and Better day offs. And better sex since we'll be more attractive in the eyes of the beholder...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

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    How do you ruin a marriage in less

    than a year? Get yourself knocked up. A lot of folks assume marriages end because the guy or female behaved like a douche, But society is too afraid to admit the divorce rates are higher with parents than with people who made the best and smartest choice for life.
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    I became a aunt a few weeks ago.

    .. that's add far as I think I'll go with child having. I was there when she s was born. even though my sister had the epidural she was still in unbearable pain. I seen so much blood it was so shocking... all it did was confirm my decision to not have kids of my own. I fully...
    hiddenjem hiddenjem 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2015

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    to the breeders here : get we genuinely don't

    care . we thought of all advantages and disadvantages before making this life affecting decision. have some respect and leave us alone
    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2015

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    I think one of the reasons I don't want kids is

    because there are many chapters of my childhood that I wouldn't want to relive again. Don't get me wrong my childhood wasn't bad and my folks did the best they could and I have great memories. But there are certain chapters of my growing up that I found a mega drag! One of them...
    AngelaValdez AngelaValdez 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Who I Am

    I am a 29 year old going to be 30 soon. I have been married 8 years. I do not have kids. I have never wanted kids but for a long time I wondered if I would want one "someday". Like the clock ticking thing? So when people asked me about it I would usually say I didnt want kids...
    laurab29 laurab29 26-30 3 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    Why Ain't You Got Kids!?

    When I was 21 and a junior in college, I worked at a big box discount store for two weeks. During my second week, I was physically attacked by one of my coworkers who was a 19 year old mother of two. Her exact words to me were, "Why ain't you got kids!?" and when I answered, "I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    Nobody ever asks me why I don't want to be

    (say) a pilot, or a baker, or get a PhD, or move to New Zealand, or dye my hair green. I get tired of reciting my thousand good reasons not to want children, and I resent being ordered to explain myself. If I said I wanted twenty kids, nobody would make me justify that. "It's...
    garnet612 garnet612 26-30 1 Response Jan 14, 2014

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    MOTHERS DAY: i dread this time of year

    because im always subject to at least one annoying comment or experience. i always get wished a happy mothers day..because people assume that all middle aged women are moms. so on yesterday, when i said to someone "thank you but i dont have any kids"..he said something like "aww...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 2 Responses May 10, 2014

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    My mum used to a huge children lover she would

    volunteer to take care of kindergarten kids all the time . the minute she got married and had kids she regretted the decision she reminds me everyday to not have kids . if a person like mom could dislike kids like that then how will me? the person who doesn't want kids to begin...
    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2015

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    I Feel Nothing

    i am grateful that i question everything in life you cannot just go along with what everyone else is doing. as a child the idea of motherhood hit me like a ton of bricks i use to think that one day i would grow up get married and make babies. i started searching my inner self...
    islander22 islander22 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2013

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    Traveling without Hearing Children's mouth

    flapping is the most beautiful thing in the world and you know It. I love this place.
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    Time to get some new ******* Irl friends

    because 99% of them are knocked up or tied down with kids in their early ******* 20s. Ewww.
    snugglybunny snugglybunny 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2015

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    Am I the only one like this?

    I feel like if it came down to it i'd rather adopt than have kids of my own. I just think there are way too many children in the world that need good homes. And I feel like if I did I could also maybe give a mother a second chance on life, people are way too harsh on women when...
    GreyThreadAndGin GreyThreadAndGin 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 10, 2015

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    I think its such a controversial topic

    that in your normal life never mention that you don't want children. If asked why you have none just say "It's personal". Some people will ask these questions. Don't you agree that its rude for people to ask you questions about your reproduction anyway?
    Balletomane Balletomane 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 15

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    Trolls On The Hunt

    This little speech is for anyone who comes here, reads the title and the name of the group and STILL feels the need to leave a nasty rude comment on how they don't agree with your personal decision not to bare children. Now...I will personally tear a new one to anyone who joins a...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    I'm happy the fullest

    and enjoy life the most when there are no limitations. I don't need a little me to give my life a new meaning.Sure I might be alone when I'm old But so are the parents who are send to the old folks home. I might have no legacy according to some. But since when Is popping out...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 2, 2015

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    Its really a natural part of just

    who I am being on the freespirited and very introverted side at the same time.Its a decision I made at 14 after both my parents remarried and were obsessed with cranking out new babies with their new spouses in addition to the 3 they already had!By the time I was 14 I felt like...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2015

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    AngelaValdez AngelaValdez 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2015

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    I Want Children Like I Want Syphilis

    It is erroneous to suppose that a person in possession of a womb must want that womb to be filled; that a woman must desire children as much as she desires the perfect wedding dress and a husband who doesn't drink too much, and who sometimes makes her feel like more than a sex...
    ISawIDreamed ISawIDreamed 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2012

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    AngelaValdez AngelaValdez 36-40, F Jan 16

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    I know what I'm missing out on

    but its very tiny compared to what I'm saving myself from
    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    Fralicious Fralicious 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    Happy To Be Childfree (Update)

    Im pretty content with the idea of never being a mother. For adopted or biological children. Kids are not my thing. I mean I don't really understand why they are so awesome to some people, they are just people, who grow up to be people like the rest of us. They may or may not be...
    Evlana Evlana 22-25, F 28 Responses Jul 24, 2011

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    On a sunny day I enjoyed a ice cold cherry Coke.

    You know just minding my own business and then some religious woman came up and tried to shove a folder about health in front of my nose saying Coke also can make young women infertile. I smiled and said wauw thanks for the tip I didn't know that. The puzzled look the woman gave...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Childfree and Loving It

    I like kids and everything. I do. But when I finally realized that I didn't want any, and that I felt all right about that, it was a very happy day for me! So liberating. :-)
    palinura palinura 36-40, F 4 Responses May 15, 2007

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    I don't want kids ever.

    it's hard enough trying to live without one.
    luv2pee23 luv2pee23 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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