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I Am Having An Affair and In Love With Him

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 41 People

    I Left My Husband, And I Want Things To Work With My Flame

    Flame?!? I don't know what to call him. I've written about him before. We work together, having an emotional affair (whatever that is), and went out several times and became more than friends. Still haven't had full-on sex, but very close. I have been married 13 years but...
    thinkinggirl thinkinggirl
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 8, 2010

    I Love the Man I Am Having An Affair With...

    I have been married for 17 yrs and 6-8 years ago started feeling empty inside....and 4 years ago fell into a deep depression and became very ill which i strongly believe was from being unhappy and my husband not understanding why.  My brother in law and I started sharing our...
    kamy kamy
    10 Responses Mar 11, 2009


    Mine is a long story and spans about 30years. Im now 57 and never thought id ever be in this position. To begin - i had an unhappy loveless childhood so when i met my husband when i was 18 yrs old i was desperate for someone to love me and he did. He asked me to marry him and i...
    1littledevil 1littledevil
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jun 25, 2011


    I am having an affair with my boss. I have been married for 15 years with 2 kids. He also is married with kids. this has been going on for 5 months. we always tell eachother that we need to stop, but seems we can't. For example tonight after work he came to my office before I...
    butterfly6 butterfly6
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Oct 7, 2009

    Price To Pay

    I've discovered there is a price to pay for having an affair. Desperately longing for him to stay and not go home, pain when saying goodbye til next time, lonliness when hes gone, doubt about the future, guilt about what im doing deceiving my husband, constant day dreaming...
    1littledevil 1littledevil
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Sep 1, 2011

    Not Quite So Sad!

    He went out of town for the weekend and both texted and chatted me- when he was with his best friends! For this guy, that's a BIG BIG thing. Anyway, I NEED to see him this week but we are still in the "is this right?" stage. Since he went out of town this week without her he will...
    thinkinggirl thinkinggirl
    36-40, F
    Nov 1, 2009

    I Never Thought I'd Be Here...

    Five years ago, I'd have scoffed at the idea of me being engaged in a torrid affair.  After all, I was the quintessential suburban housewife with beautiful, healthy children and an attentive, loving husband.  I still vividly remember that Sunday morning in church when I...
    thyiad thyiad
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Oct 23, 2009

    Confusion Sets In....

    Sorry for the long post, but I really need to vent... Maureen24 wrote: I don't know why I do this to myself, but i'm drawn to what I can't have.... I think that is the whole point, we cannot have them. THAT is what keeps drawing us back in, our desire to have something we...
    SaneB42Kidz SaneB42Kidz
    1 Response Feb 17, 2010

    I have had an affair off

    and on since 2012. I have had several different women and I've been serious with two. My wife, quit having sex with me and has left for months on end. As things were finishing up and our seperation was almost final, my girlfriend sent her pics of us and my wife became vindictive...
    gijustin gijustin
    26-30, M
    Feb 17, 2014

    So Sad...

    I had a best friend at work. We chatted every day, had lunch together every day. I think we were in denial anything was happening between us. We went out for drinks several times with absolutely nothing happening until this summer. Things changed in August. We began getting very...
    thinkinggirl thinkinggirl
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Oct 12, 2009

    A Brief Background.

    I have been married 35 years and have two grown children. My daughter is labeled with a mild learning disability and still lives with us.  My husband has always been the over possessive controlling type . I could tell you things that would make you shake your head in...
    joytoy joytoy
    51-55, F
    7 Responses May 28, 2009

    Torn Between Two Lovers

    I am in a relationship its going on for 8 years. WE are great friends at first our sex life was terrific and fulfilling but as the years have passed we are lucky to have it once a month there is no romance but there is love and friendship.About two years ago i met someone on line...
    missmetal missmetal
    26-30, F
    Jan 18, 2010

    Help! My Guy Is In England And I'm East Coast

    So the story starts back about 5 years ago (when I was absolutely single). I met a man online, we were supposed to meet relatively soon after that because he was coming from England for a business trip. That trip was cancelled, we never met. Fast forward 5 years, during which we...
    Ashalina Ashalina
    31-35, F
    Sep 23, 2013

    I Married The Wrong Guy, And Now We Are Stuck

     My husband of 13 years and I married when we were 20. We had only known each other for 4 months. Neither was in love. He did it more for the tax break and safe sex (according to him) and I did it to get away from my mom. We were for the most part good friends. As you can...
    twooceans twooceans
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 2, 2009

    Having An Affair With My Friends Husband

    My story is a very complicated one.  I'm 36 yrs old, married for 12 yrs & have a 10 yr old daughter.  18 yrs ago there was a mutual attraction between me & a guy we will call "Bob."  At the time, nothing happened because he had a girlfriend that was also...
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 5, 2010

    Married For 21 Years and Having An Affair

    I have been married, mostly happily, for 21 years.  Two years ago my husband got his dream job...which unfortunately is mostly traveling.  I never wanted to be married to someone who worked out-of-town, but we agreed that we would try to make it work. He is a...
    pluto99 pluto99
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Sep 3, 2009


    I should explain my situation before I go full into my love affair. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for 4.  I've been in misery these past few years.  For some reason our sex life died.  I tried to spark it with understanding, sexy...
    shyflower shyflower
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2009
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