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I Am Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 1,599 People

    She is amazing. Smart,

    smart, smart, sexy, funny, sexually adventurous, and so much more. The problem is time and distance. It's been a year, and we've only seen each other 5 times. The upside to that is every time we get together we spend hour after hour tumbling through a sea of physical pleasure. I...
    Jonahgraff Jonahgraff
    36-40, M
    1 Response Aug 24, 2015

    Yes, I am. This video described us perfectly.

    We are those happy married people in an affair and we don't plan on leaving our spouses Esther described as her typical clients. http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en#t-1275327 And how did we get here...
    ReflectedSoul ReflectedSoul
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2015

    Emotional pain is much worse

    than physical pain. With physical pain you can at least try many ways to resolve it or make it less painful. Emotional pain is much harder to deal with. No matter how hard you try to move on, forget, or keep yourself busy the pain stays with you. It really does take time to...
    tobetrue21self tobetrue21self
    51-55, F
    Apr 7

    Other than kissing, nothing else happened

    that night. We both felt pretty ******, he took me home and left. We met up after a couple days to talk about what happened... we both thought it was not right, but I guess our feelings were developing for each other, we kept meeting up. We would usually meet up once a week...
    gianneisstuck gianneisstuck
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    Once In A Lifetime...

    I fell head over heals for my MM, and the fabulous sex and his perfect anatomy { ;) }, coupled with our hunger to share, discuss, advise and plainly marvel at our deepening friendship - helped none... From the start there was a spiritual like bond. It was crazy and compulsive, as...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Feb 27, 2013

    Art basel ended yesterday in South Miami,

    after working the weekend which I never ever do, I am taking today off, husband wont know im off, he works all day anyway and my kids both have plans after school. I have not seen my AP in a while, I miss him so much, we have the whole day planned out, although I just want to...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    This whole relationship started started

    as an emotional escape we began talking to each other. He would come into the place I would work and talk. It progressed into exchanging phone numbers, a few phone calls them the texting began. Sometimes we simply talk about our days, what our kids have been up to or other...
    Melanie04 Melanie04
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    No Wonder We Have Affairs

    Alright, this conversation absolutely floored me. I was having a wonderful time with my lover on Saturday, and we were enjoying each other in ways that I am sure all of you have done with yours. We were on the subject of oral sex for him. I nonchalantly asked him as I moved my...
    Kelki Kelki
    46-50, F
    18 Responses Jul 12, 2010

    I'm sleeping around with this 45 year old

    married guy with a family
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses May 2, 2015

    South Of The Border: A Chipotle Story

    Sooo . . . . It was one of those days when my self-esteem needed to play princess dress-up.  His text was simple:  "Good Morning Beautiful, how I wish I could wrap my arms around you today...."  . . . And just like that - JUST LIKE THAT - I"m alive w/desire...
    Colormevibrant Colormevibrant
    46-50, F
    12 Responses Nov 11, 2010

    On the verge of tears tonight.

    Wanting to be out with my AP, but home with H, and I'm feeling guilty for not wanting to be here.
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jan 1

    Affair With Son-in-law

    This is a true story of a woman I know, would like your positive opinion. Don't post anything negative, she is my friend and I like a positive feed back, Only those who have had such nice experiences qualify to comment.In her own words:Well, where do I begin? I have always felt...
    SunnyBelle SunnyBelle
    26-30, F
    74 Responses Jan 17, 2010
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 3, 2015

    He's been there for me more years

    than my hands can count, I have been a coward, selfish and irresponsible, He has chosen to hide with me, be a secret and lie to our loved ones just so he can have me, denying himself from a wife of his own, although legally im someone else's, he knows that my heart, body and...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 14

    Sex, Lies and Fulfillment

    I, too, am a married woman having an affair.  And I feel the worst about lying where I am.  My husband and I have been living very separate lives for a long time, so it's not hard at all to make things up, and he isn't suspicious.  I get together with "friends...
    CatEyes09 CatEyes09
    46-50, F
    38 Responses Apr 5, 2008

    Helping Melissa Move

    Melissa, my sister-in-law (my wife's younger sister) recently sold her house and bought a smaller one in a new modern development. She had hired movers to do most of the heavy lifting and all that she wanted from me was to supervise and to help with the odds and ends. My wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Jun 3, 2013

    For those of you that have read my stories,

    this is going to surprise the heck out of you. As you all know i classified myself as bi and heavily towards being gay. Then i met a woman here on EP, she sounded fascinating and lives not too far from me. We messaged each other a few times before deciding to meet for a...
    Sportjeff Sportjeff
    56-60, M
    5 Responses Apr 28, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    May 2, 2015

    I have been involved with a married man

    for 5 yrs... I met him on Ashley Madison.. I thought it was a really " grown up" solution to an emotionless,sexless marriage ...most of the men were pigs...but " tom" was different... He talked and talked and never was overtly aggressive. He seemed sincerely interested in me..my...
    Bancy918 Bancy918
    51-55
    5 Responses Jun 13, 2015

    Married Woman Having Affair With Younger Married Man

    I am a 51 year old woman who has been married for over 20 years. I had never been unfaithful to my husband in all these years, until recently. Although our marriage has been rocky, I just did not feel the need to seek gratification elsewhere. ABout 3 years ago my husband...
    Src Src
    51-55, F
    111 Responses Jan 18, 2009

    After so many years of misery somehow I find

    the strength to open up a profile on a dating site.I had quite few dates till I met him. It felt just right the moment I saw him.We klicked and we didn't feel like strangers to each other. We took our time to get to know each other, I think we both new that that was it.He was...
    Sofia02 Sofia02
    41-45
    1 Response Jul 25, 2015
    AIYAZ123 AIYAZ123
    26-30
    Nov 3, 2015

    I have had affairs with married men many times.

    Perhaps it's because I have six brothers and always had male friends growing up, that I have learned to think like a man. I tend to have a sex drive like a man. I have often been told I am a dude in a chicks body. But here is the thing; I almost do it because I care about them...
    Candigirl70 Candigirl70
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Oct 15, 2014

    A woman once told me she had a crush on my

    husband. I hugged her. We had at least half an hour of conversation on the side walk. Later, whenever we ran into each other, I wanted to be nice and attentive to her, so she did not hurt. Or at least my niceness would ease her hurt. We both had a loving for my husband...
    Fmina Fmina
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2015

    I'm going to try to keep this short

    as I just want a little advice. I have been in an emotional affair with my hs boyfriend for about 7 years I've been married for 15 years, no kids, he's been married 19, two teenagers. We both work at home and text fairly furiously and flirtatiously during the week. Our spouses...
    Ophelia25 Ophelia25
    41-45, F
    Oct 11, 2015

    Driving in the car today,

    I misheard directions and made a wrong turn. A switch flipped in new AP and he got so mad and yelled at me. Like yell yelled. I yelled back and he only got angrier. He told me just to take him home. He cooled down and ended up changing his mind. We went on with our evening, but...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    With My Cousin. Gross Maybe?

    I know. Although, I've always flirted with him as if he was an outsider to my family. There was one day where he texted me to catch up on old times, and both of our confessions (of mutual attraction) had came out. We linked up really soon after that, and after the ten minutes of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 26, 2015

    It's sad our time to share will be ending.

    ....savor the moments with your lovers, as those moments can be the greatest in this life!
    seashaker seashaker
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 25

    Today was another bad day,

    I presented a proposal to the the Regional Director (my boss) on how to upgrade the full timer's health insurance policies to stay competitive on benefits offering. He rejected it in less than 2 minutes, something my department had been working for weeks, I got a phone call from...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978
    36-40, F
    12 Responses Dec 10, 2014

    Read This On Facebook....just Thought Id Share It

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Jan 10, 2013

    The bliss to self-control

    and self love. MM and I spent Friday all day. We were able to fill in our whereabouts. We had Heaven on Earth for the day. Then he fell into a black hole. Family duties and responsibilities. I texted a 'Hi'. No response for 2 hours. I texted another 'Hi'. See...
    Fmina Fmina
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Jan 5, 2015
    AIYAZ123 AIYAZ123
    26-30
    Nov 3, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    emilyccaa emilyccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 8, 2015

    I'm new. I'm not sure what I'm looking for,

    except to maybe find others who are going through/have gone through similar situations. I'm a writer, and tend to ramble way too much, but I'll attempt to sum up. My "affair" is dumb. At 15, I fell in love with the person that everyone I knew dubbed "the wrong man." My friends...
    Ophelia25 Ophelia25
    41-45, F
    Oct 12, 2015

    If I could describe in a few words what it's

    like to be involved with a married man..I would say 'a waste'. A waste of energy, a waste of emotions and a waste of time. But here me hoping that this time it won't be a waste... I have liked two married men before this one...lets name him Adam*. These other two men I felt...
    RadioactiveJ RadioactiveJ
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 2

    The other night I decided to go

    for a run in our apartment complex. It's in a valley between two mountains, one of those sights that takes your breathe away. It was dark and chilly, itched started to rain lightly. My husband was at work. I took of down the road, ran around the back and through the tennis...
    exciteme89 exciteme89
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Dec 14, 2013
    AIYAZ123 AIYAZ123
    26-30
    Nov 3, 2015

    I found this letter on Craigslist....

    I DID NOT write this but I wish I had!!! If you are planning on banging a married woman... You should read this letter: Dear Men of Craigslist, Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    38 Responses Feb 27, 2013

    A Thought From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying...
    Kelki Kelki
    46-50, F
    15 Responses Oct 12, 2011

    I've been married for 12 yrs

    and for almost a year now I have been having an affair with someone I met offline. We talked on the phone for a year before it became sexual. I was hesitant about meeting him because I knew the next step would be us being intimate. I am in love with him and can't understand...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 8, 2015

    My Affair Is Great

    Yes, I am having an affair! I don't care if you judge me, I'm going to continue to be who I am, you may not understand my reasons or care to, but they are mine just as much as my choice to have my affair. I am sleeping w/ my best friend because my husband ignores me & we...
    luvitruff73 luvitruff73
    31-35, F
    19 Responses Sep 3, 2007

    Wow, it's been a very long time

    since I've logged on here. Last was in late August or early September just after my AP of almost two years ghosted on me and jumped into a new relationship. It was about two months before he contacted me again telling me how much he missed me and wanted me. It felt good that he...
    Rosybottomz Rosybottomz
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Dec 3, 2015

    I had my heart broken by the ONLY person I ever

    loved, he was my first time and I was quite innocent then. After him I decided **** love, I'll just have fun and went from my first time to sleeping with....a lot.....of people. It was good in a way because I got to explore my sexual interests and met some amazing people but I...
    AshleyLithe97 AshleyLithe97
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 18, 2015

    I Am Christian And Married...

    I have been saved for just over 10 years. In these last 10 years I have turned my life around and have lived for God. I am active in my church in many areas and most of my friends are also Christians. I got married young and have only 'been' with my husband, and have always...
    HaileyGail82 HaileyGail82
    31-35, F
    29 Responses Nov 17, 2012
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    I Take Revenge On My Cheating Wife

    I guess I should start off by telling you how all this got started. After I discovered my wife’s infidelity (please read my stories in “I have a cheating wife”) I was determined to have some extra marital fun of my own. I was also determined to make sure, that if my wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen
    41-45, M
    8 Responses May 13, 2013

    After 12 Years of Marriage...i Am Having An Affair....

    I will add to this as I have time. Short description of the story... married to someone I was deeply in love with... we adopted 2 special needs children ... 12 and 6 the younger is rather normal but the older is a handfull. Anyhow we tried for all these years to have our...
    slyfingersjoe slyfingersjoe
    36-40, M
    98 Responses Oct 4, 2007

    Because Of Nights Like This...

    I'm having an affair. Tonight was another night like countless others - I came in from work, a little upset and I asked a simple question, and it erupted into WWIII, and a relatively soft object got thrown at me and struck me in the face. Softer than a brick but harder than a...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    14 Responses Sep 5, 2010

    Yup, since June of 2013.

    He is 26, I am 39. We get together sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a week. He says we F like rabbits. We don't hang out, it usually I go to his place, we do our thing, talk for a few minutes and I go back to my suburban home life. He was my massage therapist and one day...
    2little2late 2little2late
    41-45, F
    17 Responses Feb 5, 2014

    I want to tell the world about this man!

    About how happy he makes me and to share the many things he does to make me smile but under the circumstances that's not possible. The only ifs run through my head over and over again. If only I had met him 5 years ago if only my divorce were finalized those kinds of things. He...
    Melanie04 Melanie04
    26-30, F
    Mar 19, 2015

    So, here's my story,

    or ours rather. She and I are both married and unhappy in them. Neither are ready (yet) to end our marriages. I feel it's what is written on the wall for us both. We have so many likes and joys in common that when I think about it sometimes it's a amazing and overwhelming at...
    ILnativeNOWinAZ ILnativeNOWinAZ
    41-45, M
    Mar 20, 2015

    Well I have been married

    for 31 years and do to health issues on my wife's part there is no sex, so after many years without it i decided to go online and find an affair. I am on my 4th affair in 3 years I was with 3 younger women and now with one my age and its now been a year with her. We started...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jul 20, 2015

    Chemistry Is Too Overwhelming

    I am having an affair with a man I met on a website. It started out innocent enough, we are both writers of erotica. However as we shared stories we realized how much we have in common sexually. As our friendship developed we began sharing personal details of our life. He is...
    sweetflavor sweetflavor
    31-35, F
    24 Responses Sep 7, 2007
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