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I Am Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 1,454 People

    I am having an extra-marital affair.

    It went on for several months before my husband discovered it by snooping on me, and he thinks I ended the affair but I did not. I find myself faking reconciliation with him, and tolerating his numerous restrictions on my freedom & privacy, while nevertheless continuing my...
    elainedastolat elainedastolat 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    James came back into my life.

    He's divorced now and left the Navy. I want to see him, but it's just not the same.
    LadyStarlight LadyStarlight 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    My Affair Frees Me

    I have been having an affair with my bestfriend for the past 4 years. My husband found out 2 years ago and thinks I have stopped seeing him! I tried but have not managed to completely cut him out of my life! Sometimes it feels as if I am more meant to be with my lover who...
    sadgrl sadgrl 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    I am seriously missing him.

    We talk everyday and see each other at least once a week. I just can't stand how much I want him. I know this is an affair but its ongoing 3 years and the chemistry is all there. My marriage was a mistake.. a shotgun wedding. It's all wrong. But I stay for the kids. I want P. I...
    lonelysara1211 lonelysara1211 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    When my girlfriend call me

    and she was with you, just happened to be Feb 14 and you told me: happy valentine's day, injust wish we had met each other before.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    No Wonder We Have Affairs

    Alright, this conversation absolutely floored me. I was having a wonderful time with my lover on Saturday, and we were enjoying each other in ways that I am sure all of you have done with yours. We were on the subject of oral sex for him. I nonchalantly asked him as I moved my...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 22 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    Should I Continue With Him?

    I have been married for 14 years. Hubby has lost interest in sex. I started an affair with a married man in August 2012. He is a great lover. The sex is absolutely amazing. The only thing that bothers me is that we don't talk or chat because he doesn't want us to be emotionally...
    secretaffair secretaffair 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    My Affair Is Great

    Yes, I am having an affair! I don't care if you judge me, I'm going to continue to be who I am, you may not understand my reasons or care to, but they are mine just as much as my choice to have my affair. I am sleeping w/ my best friend because my husband ignores me & we...
    luvitruff73 luvitruff73 31-35, F 19 Responses Sep 3, 2007

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    Married Woman Having Affair With Younger Married Man

    I am a 51 year old woman who has been married for over 20 years. I had never been unfaithful to my husband in all these years, until recently. Although our marriage has been rocky, I just did not feel the need to seek gratification elsewhere. ABout 3 years ago my husband...
    Src Src 51-55, F 107 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Read This On Facebook....just Thought Id Share It

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 13 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    is funny how evil can make people believe

    that something as bad as cheating can be so right.
    poorspouses3 poorspouses3 56-60, M 1 Response May 9

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 3

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    After 12 Years of Marriage...i Am Having An Affair....

    I will add to this as I have time. Short description of the story... married to someone I was deeply in love with... we adopted 2 special needs children ... 12 and 6 the younger is rather normal but the older is a handfull. Anyhow we tried for all these years to have our...
    slyfingersjoe slyfingersjoe 36-40, M 98 Responses Oct 4, 2007

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    Is texting and messaging intimate things with

    someone other than your spouse considered an affair?
    reneedarkside reneedarkside 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    I Am A Woman Having An Affair With Another Woman!

    My husband thinks we are just friends but what he doesn't know is that we are sexually involved. Our frequent shopping excursions gives us time to make out in the change room, we wear skirts with no undies so that we can easily play with each other in the car, at the theatre...
    wow41 wow41 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Almost there! You are

    so so cute!
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Once In A Lifetime...

    I fell head over heals for my MM, and the fabulous sex and his perfect anatomy { ;) }, coupled with our hunger to share, discuss, advise and plainly marvel at our deepening friendship - helped none... From the start there was a spiritual like bond. It was crazy and compulsive, as...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    I Am Having and Affair

    And enjoying every second we can find together. We are both married and happily, its just that neither of our partners is interested in sex. My lover and I both have a great time, not just sex, but picnics, walks, spa clubs and booking hotel rooms 40 miles from where we...
    Gil Gil 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 13, 2007

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    Because Of Nights Like This...

    I'm having an affair. Tonight was another night like countless others - I came in from work, a little upset and I asked a simple question, and it erupted into WWIII, and a relatively soft object got thrown at me and struck me in the face. Softer than a brick but harder than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    I`ve been single for almost a year,

    my choice, and have been having affair for past 7 months with a colleague/friend of 15 years. We have always had a connection, and this affair is intense. But, he lives with another woman, has been for 8 yrs. Having been cheated on myself, I wonder wtf am I doing? This man makes...
    Pippa7 Pippa7 41-45, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Take Revenge On My Cheating Wife

    I guess I should start off by telling you how all this got started. After I discovered my wife’s infidelity (please read my stories in “I have a cheating wife”) I was determined to have some extra marital fun of my own. I was also determined to make sure, that if my wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 14 Responses May 13, 2013

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    South Of The Border: A Chipotle Story

    Sooo . . . . It was one of those days when my self-esteem needed to play princess dress-up.  His text was simple:  "Good Morning Beautiful, how I wish I could wrap my arms around you today...."  . . . And just like that - JUST LIKE THAT - I"m alive w/desire...
    Colormevibrant Colormevibrant 46-50, F 11 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    I found this letter on Craigslist....

    I DID NOT write this but I wish I had!!! If you are planning on banging a married woman... You should read this letter: Dear Men of Craigslist, Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society...
    deleted deleted 26-30 43 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    In 3 days my lover could come to my house

    anytime. We can go out.....in public. We can be a real couple. I am having a slight panic attack but I am very excited! I am so in love and happy. It's been a very long time since I've been this happy. Happy New Year!  
    007love 007love 31-35, F Jan 3

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    I have been having an emotional affair with an

    old flame for months and this week it became a physical affair. I've been unhappy with my husband for a while, we live like flatmates and he just seems indifferent to me, never listens to me and no intimacy. We don't have kids and my AP is single. I never thought I would have an...
    masa2014 masa2014 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I have had a letter from him

    for about a year now- in the letter he wrote that had we met 15 years ago, we'd be married- no question. It was a brief letter, but it was a sweet one, and he signed it "Love, xxxx". I'd often get this letter out and read it, because it made me feel equal parts happy and sad...
    AllTheLastAtTheBack AllTheLastAtTheBack 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I wonder, some times,

    if I will ever be completely monogamous again. I was miserable when I was married. I didn't feel good about myself for years, until I started cheating. Now, I'm divorced and dating a wonderful woman. She is truly awesome and I'd hate to lose her. But there's always that voice...
    OhDaddyMmm OhDaddyMmm 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 14

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    I would like to ask and have the true answer of

    ...Hon... Are you having an affair? Why are those selfies at your cell Phone? Did you enjoy " tapas" with your co-worker? Moovie uh? When you didn't answer my call.... Do you still love me? Are you still with me just for the kiddos? I don't blame you. I took my distance, you...
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 10

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    Yes. I am. I admit I did actively search one

    out, my marriage wasn't great, not bad, but not great and the sex when it happened was blah! But with kids and life I wasn't ready to leave it and an affair seemed like a way to add some excitement and I really did miss passionate sex. So I did meet this man online, we emailed...
    lachatnoir9 lachatnoir9 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 17

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    Yup, since June of 2013.

    He is 26, I am 39. We get together sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a week. He says we F like rabbits. We don't hang out, it usually I go to his place, we do our thing, talk for a few minutes and I go back to my suburban home life. He was my massage therapist and one day...
    2little2late 2little2late 36-40, F 20 Responses Feb 5

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    It's our second night we get to spend with each

    other, all night. As I drive to the hotel I am excited, the thought of getting to kiss and feel him for a long time tonight makes me smile. I check in and only have to wait about 30 minuets until he knocks at the door. As I open the door his smile is contagious, I love his smile...
    Erotic2 Erotic2 36-40 10 Responses Jan 21

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    My high school sweet heart

    and I recently rekindle our ongoing love affair. He and I are both in relationships with other people. We hadnt spent time together in about a year and half that was until today. The sexual tension and chemistry are still there. We both acknowledged that our relationship has...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 6

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    It Just Happened

    I am married and had become bored with day to day life. Sometimes during the day I would browse through men's web postings just out of curiosity. I came across one that peaked my interest, it sounded well, sweet and quite normal. As normal as two married people looking on the...
    Erotic2 Erotic2 36-40 4 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Only three months into our affair,

    both married, mine a young-ish marriage with probs and young kids, I have considered walking out even before the affair. his is a stale and long marriage with teenage kids. Very strong feelings on both sides. We see each other almost everyday at work and meet for liaisons...
    tralala14 tralala14 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    So I'm having a very passionate affair with an

    old flame and struggling with my feelings. I am interested to know how other people having affairs cope with sex with their spouse while seeing another person? I'm no prude but this is the part that is tormenting me. Please don't tell me I shouldn't be having an affair because I...
    masa2014 masa2014 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 13

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    Cuando abriste la puerta de mi pireza y me

    miraste mordiéndote los labios.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Jun 7

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    I met my soulmate march 23rd 2014.

    We are both married. I never believed in soulmates before. I have no doubt in my mind this man was made for me. He is perfect and amazing. He lives 1000 miles away but we manage to see each other often. We talked constantly all day via text and talked on the phone a few times a...
    Heartbroken19125 Heartbroken19125 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    I have been with my BF 5 years,

    his plans of the future are quite a bit off from mine. The big one, he already told me he doesn't want to get married, but he waited to tell me this for 4.5 years. So we are obviously not gonna be together much longer we are just convenient and comfortable with each other for...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response 5 days ago

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    I love him with every part of me.

    He's always on my mind and I want him there. It's pushing 3 yrs and I don't want it to stop. Ever. I'm in a dead marriage, planning to get out but I haven't the slightest clue how too. I don't plan on leaving my husband for my OM, just because I've done it before with another...
    lonelysara1211 lonelysara1211 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 8

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    My marriage quickly deteriorated

    after my husband found out I was having an affair. I admit, I sought out an affair, because after years of unhappiness and telling my husband I want a divorce (he repeatedly ignored me), I broke down one day out of loneliness and feeling stuck... that I went on a married affairs...
    anaffair78 anaffair78 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 8

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    Helping Melissa Move

    Melissa, my sister-in-law (my wife's younger sister) recently sold her house and bought a smaller one in a new modern development. She had hired movers to do most of the heavy lifting and all that she wanted from me was to supervise and to help with the odds and ends. My wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 19

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    A Thought From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 17 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    For those of you that have read my stories,

    this is going to surprise the heck out of you. As you all know i classified myself as bi and heavily towards being gay. Then i met a woman here on EP, she sounded fascinating and lives not too far from me. We messaged each other a few times before deciding to meet for a...
    Sportjeff Sportjeff 51-55, M 8 Responses Apr 28

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    The Cat Is Out Of The Bag...busted!

    After 3 years, my husband found out about my MM. It was a very bad day, but to be honest, my first reaction was actually relief that the secret was out. My second reaction was panic, panic because I know there is no way I can walk away from my MM. After my husband confronted me...
    aod7909 aod7909 46-50, F 12 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Me and my OM are planning our first overnighter

    together. Problem is I don't know where to tell my H I'll be for the weekend. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated
    Jlover90 Jlover90 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 17

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    Sex, Lies and Fulfillment

    I, too, am a married woman having an affair.  And I feel the worst about lying where I am.  My husband and I have been living very separate lives for a long time, so it's not hard at all to make things up, and he isn't suspicious.  I get together with "friends...
    CatEyes09 CatEyes09 46-50, F 38 Responses Apr 5, 2008

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    I still remember when we were just friends (

    you my friend's younger brother) and it was my Bday, i was at my mom's my kids sleeping, and you brought me a dress from " Zara" as a present. You Came with your friend. You So Sweet.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    I Am Christian And Married...

    I have been saved for just over 10 years. In these last 10 years I have turned my life around and have lived for God. I am active in my church in many areas and most of my friends are also Christians. I got married young and have only 'been' with my husband, and have always...
    HaileyGail82 HaileyGail82 31-35, F 31 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Chemistry Is Too Overwhelming

    I am having an affair with a man I met on a website. It started out innocent enough, we are both writers of erotica. However as we shared stories we realized how much we have in common sexually. As our friendship developed we began sharing personal details of our life. He is...
    sweetflavor sweetflavor 31-35, F 26 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    The other night I decided to go

    for a run in our apartment complex. It's in a valley between two mountains, one of those sights that takes your breathe away. It was dark and chilly, itched started to rain lightly. My husband was at work. I took of down the road, ran around the back and through the tennis...
    exciteme89 exciteme89 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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