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I Am Having An Affair

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    I am having an extra-marital affair.

    It went on for several months before my husband discovered it by snooping on me, and he thinks I ended the affair but I did not. I find myself faking reconciliation with him, and tolerating his numerous restrictions on my freedom & privacy, while nevertheless continuing my...
    elainedastolat elainedastolat 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    I cut off my affair with the OW a couple months

    ago then I was missing here and sent her a email. She missed me too and we began talking and saw each other again. We did not have sex we just made out and rekindled. She wanted me to meet her at a restaurant in the area I live and I told her no way because I always see people...
    MrMan67 MrMan67 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 26

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    Men in affairs: Do you celebrate your wedding

    anniversary? If so how? Do you try harder out of guilt if you are having an undisclosed affair or do you try to just get through the day?
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    No Wonder We Have Affairs

    Alright, this conversation absolutely floored me. I was having a wonderful time with my lover on Saturday, and we were enjoying each other in ways that I am sure all of you have done with yours. We were on the subject of oral sex for him. I nonchalantly asked him as I moved my...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 22 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    I Take Revenge On My Cheating Wife

    I guess I should start off by telling you how all this got started. After I discovered my wife’s infidelity (please read my stories in “I have a cheating wife”) I was determined to have some extra marital fun of my own. I was also determined to make sure, that if my wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 10 Responses May 13, 2013

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    I have had a letter from him

    for about a year now- in the letter he wrote that had we met 15 years ago, we'd be married- no question. It was a brief letter, but it was a sweet one, and he signed it "Love, xxxx". I'd often get this letter out and read it, because it made me feel equal parts happy and sad...
    AllTheLastAtTheBack AllTheLastAtTheBack 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I can't tell anyone this in real life

    so it is nice to write it down finally for someone to read and know. I dream some day of telling friends, but can't now. No one would understand. They would judge me terribly. I am married with kids and am having an affair with a man who is also married with kids. My husband is...
    ceciliadiane ceciliadiane 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 23

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    The other night I decided to go

    for a run in our apartment complex. It's in a valley between two mountains, one of those sights that takes your breathe away. It was dark and chilly, itched started to rain lightly. My husband was at work. I took of down the road, ran around the back and through the tennis...
    exciteme89 exciteme89 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Today was another bad day,

    I presented a proposal to the the Regional Director (my boss) on how to upgrade the full timer's health insurance policies to stay competitive on benefits offering. He rejected it in less than 2 minutes, something my department had been working for weeks, I got a phone call from...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 10

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    I have had affairs with married men many times.

    Perhaps it's because I have six brothers and always had male friends growing up, that I have learned to think like a man. I tend to have a sex drive like a man. I have often been told I am a dude in a chicks body. But here is the thing; I almost do it because I care about them...
    Candigirl70 Candigirl70 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 15

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    Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship

    for 17 years and was always happy until 2 years ago, we stopped having sex because he couldn't manage it ( if you know what I mean ) at first I was fine with this but as time went by, I realised I wanted more from my relationship, to cut a long story short, I ended up meeting...
    bitchbag bitchbag 51-55, F Nov 16

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    Passionate words, lingering eyes,

    whispering thoughts. We fill each other's empty spaces with friendship, lust and belonging.
    HisMsAdler HisMsAdler 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 19

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    Yup, since June of 2013.

    He is 26, I am 39. We get together sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a week. He says we F like rabbits. We don't hang out, it usually I go to his place, we do our thing, talk for a few minutes and I go back to my suburban home life. He was my massage therapist and one day...
    2little2late 2little2late 36-40, F 21 Responses Feb 5

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    Hello everyone. I need your advice.

    Long story short.... I have been married for almost ten years and have had three kids with my husband. He is a wonderful man and husband however, we are just like oil and water and I can't be myself around him. He is also very controlling and I can tell there is a lot...
    candyyum77 candyyum77 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 7

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    I am seriously missing him.

    We talk everyday and see each other at least once a week. I just can't stand how much I want him. I know this is an affair but its ongoing 3 years and the chemistry is all there. My marriage was a mistake.. a shotgun wedding. It's all wrong. But I stay for the kids. I want P. I...
    lonelysara1211 lonelysara1211 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    The Cat Is Out Of The Bag...busted!

    After 3 years, my husband found out about my MM. It was a very bad day, but to be honest, my first reaction was actually relief that the secret was out. My second reaction was panic, panic because I know there is no way I can walk away from my MM. After my husband confronted me...
    aod7909 aod7909 46-50, F 11 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Once In A Lifetime...

    I fell head over heals for my MM, and the fabulous sex and his perfect anatomy { ;) }, coupled with our hunger to share, discuss, advise and plainly marvel at our deepening friendship - helped none... From the start there was a spiritual like bond. It was crazy and compulsive, as...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    In 3 days my lover could come to my house

    anytime. We can go out.....in public. We can be a real couple. I am having a slight panic attack but I am very excited! I am so in love and happy. It's been a very long time since I've been this happy. Happy New Year!  
    007love 007love 31-35, F Jan 3

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    Only three months into our affair,

    both married, mine a young-ish marriage with probs and young kids, I have considered walking out even before the affair. his is a stale and long marriage with teenage kids. Very strong feelings on both sides. We see each other almost everyday at work and meet for liaisons...
    tralala14 tralala14 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    I am 24, in college, married,

    and having an affair with a man who goes to my school and who has been engaged for five years. It started harmlessly; working on a project together and we started to become closer friends (we were friends before this.) I had already started to develop a crush on him, but I...
    BwayGirl676 BwayGirl676 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I`ve been single for almost a year,

    my choice, and have been having affair for past 7 months with a colleague/friend of 15 years. We have always had a connection, and this affair is intense. But, he lives with another woman, has been for 8 yrs. Having been cheated on myself, I wonder wtf am I doing? This man makes...
    Pippa7 Pippa7 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 23

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    I Am Christian And Married...

    I have been saved for just over 10 years. In these last 10 years I have turned my life around and have lived for God. I am active in my church in many areas and most of my friends are also Christians. I got married young and have only 'been' with my husband, and have always...
    HaileyGail82 HaileyGail82 31-35, F 29 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    I recently reconnected with a long lost love.

    Since I travel extensively for business, a friendly dinner turned toward a discussion of where life is headed and why we had never been straight with each other about our feelings. She's married with kids (as am I) and live very far apart. Each of our respective marriages...
    heb3000 heb3000 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 10

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    Chemistry Is Too Overwhelming

    I am having an affair with a man I met on a website. It started out innocent enough, we are both writers of erotica. However as we shared stories we realized how much we have in common sexually. As our friendship developed we began sharing personal details of our life. He is...
    sweetflavor sweetflavor 31-35, F 25 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    I wonder, some times,

    if I will ever be completely monogamous again. I was miserable when I was married. I didn't feel good about myself for years, until I started cheating. Now, I'm divorced and dating a wonderful woman. She is truly awesome and I'd hate to lose her. But there's always that voice...
    OhDaddyMmm OhDaddyMmm 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 14

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    After 12 Years of Marriage...i Am Having An Affair....

    I will add to this as I have time. Short description of the story... married to someone I was deeply in love with... we adopted 2 special needs children ... 12 and 6 the younger is rather normal but the older is a handfull. Anyhow we tried for all these years to have our...
    slyfingersjoe slyfingersjoe 36-40, M 98 Responses Oct 4, 2007

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    I love my affair but there are more bad times

    then good lately. I realize it is wrong and I'm not worthy of compassion in this situation but I want to know how to end it; for good. I do love him but I need to leave him.
    Bellaluna1972 Bellaluna1972 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 4

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    James came back into my life.

    He's divorced now and left the Navy. I want to see him, but it's just not the same.
    LadyStarlight LadyStarlight 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    Helping Melissa Move

    Melissa, my sister-in-law (my wife's younger sister) recently sold her house and bought a smaller one in a new modern development. She had hired movers to do most of the heavy lifting and all that she wanted from me was to supervise and to help with the odds and ends. My wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    Read This On Facebook....just Thought Id Share It

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    A Thought From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 17 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I have been having a affair with a woman

    for about a month and a half. I am married 17years and have three kids. I don't want to hurt my wife but I already have. I want to be with this woman and I am unsure of where to go from here. My wife loves me very much but we have grown apart and she senses it too. She has...
    MrMan67 MrMan67 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 3

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    I met my soulmate march 23rd 2014.

    We are both married. I never believed in soulmates before. I have no doubt in my mind this man was made for me. He is perfect and amazing. He lives 1000 miles away but we manage to see each other often. We talked constantly all day via text and talked on the phone a few times a...
    Heartbroken19125 Heartbroken19125 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 12

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    I'm a MW and have been having an affair

    for almost 2 years with a MM and unable to confide in anyone. It's good to have found this forum. I've been married for many years but since having kids and working hard my H and I have drifted apart. We love and respect one another but there is little communication (other...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 1

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    South Of The Border: A Chipotle Story

    Sooo . . . . It was one of those days when my self-esteem needed to play princess dress-up.  His text was simple:  "Good Morning Beautiful, how I wish I could wrap my arms around you today...."  . . . And just like that - JUST LIKE THAT - I"m alive w/desire...
    Colormevibrant Colormevibrant 46-50, F 12 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    My Affair Is Great

    Yes, I am having an affair! I don't care if you judge me, I'm going to continue to be who I am, you may not understand my reasons or care to, but they are mine just as much as my choice to have my affair. I am sleeping w/ my best friend because my husband ignores me & we...
    luvitruff73 luvitruff73 31-35, F 19 Responses Sep 3, 2007

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    Affair With Son-in-law

    This is a true story of a woman I know, would like your positive opinion. Don't post anything negative, she is my friend and I like a positive feed back, Only those who have had such nice experiences qualify to comment.In her own words:Well, where do I begin? I have always felt...
    SunnyBelle SunnyBelle 26-30, F 82 Responses Jan 17, 2010

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    My lover, that i used to know.

    So special. Snowden, Dave, you are so cheap. I totally missunderrstood. I was so wrong. My instinct failed. Fake.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Nov 16

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    I Am Having and Affair

    And enjoying every second we can find together. We are both married and happily, its just that neither of our partners is interested in sex. My lover and I both have a great time, not just sex, but picnics, walks, spa clubs and booking hotel rooms 40 miles from where we...
    Gil Gil 41-45, F 16 Responses Sep 13, 2007

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    I found this letter on Craigslist....

    I DID NOT write this but I wish I had!!! If you are planning on banging a married woman... You should read this letter: Dear Men of Craigslist, Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society...
    deleted deleted 26-30 42 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    Should I Continue With Him?

    I have been married for 14 years. Hubby has lost interest in sex. I started an affair with a married man in August 2012. He is a great lover. The sex is absolutely amazing. The only thing that bothers me is that we don't talk or chat because he doesn't want us to be emotionally...
    secretaffair secretaffair 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    I can't tell you how happy I am to have gotten

    back together with my OM. He missed me so much! I have to say, the time we were apart gave me time to think and now I apprechiate this relationship more. I want him in my life forever.
    lolababy71 lolababy71 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    Almost there! You are

    so so cute!
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    My Affair Frees Me

    I have been having an affair with my bestfriend for the past 4 years. My husband found out 2 years ago and thinks I have stopped seeing him! I tried but have not managed to completely cut him out of my life! Sometimes it feels as if I am more meant to be with my lover who...
    sadgrl sadgrl 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    I have been with my BF 5 years,

    his plans of the future are quite a bit off from mine. The big one, he already told me he doesn't want to get married, but he waited to tell me this for 4.5 years. So we are obviously not gonna be together much longer we are just convenient and comfortable with each other for...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 1 Response Sep 25

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    For those of you that have read my stories,

    this is going to surprise the heck out of you. As you all know i classified myself as bi and heavily towards being gay. Then i met a woman here on EP, she sounded fascinating and lives not too far from me. We messaged each other a few times before deciding to meet for a...
    Sportjeff Sportjeff 51-55, M 8 Responses Apr 28

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    Because Of Nights Like This...

    I'm having an affair. Tonight was another night like countless others - I came in from work, a little upset and I asked a simple question, and it erupted into WWIII, and a relatively soft object got thrown at me and struck me in the face. Softer than a brick but harder than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    I love him with every part of me.

    He's always on my mind and I want him there. It's pushing 3 yrs and I don't want it to stop. Ever. I'm in a dead marriage, planning to get out but I haven't the slightest clue how too. I don't plan on leaving my husband for my OM, just because I've done it before with another...
    lonelysara1211 lonelysara1211 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 8

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    About a month ago, a 3 month long emotional

    affair with a former co-worker (who is also my friend for many years) turned physical one time (I am married, he is single...and my husband has no clue). The guilt I felt right afterwards was so crushing, I told him, and we agreed to part ways (he felt the guilt as well, and...
    dayflight dayflight 36-40 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Me and my OM are planning our first overnighter

    together. Problem is I don't know where to tell my H I'll be for the weekend. Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated
    Jlover90 Jlover90 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 17

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