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I Am Having An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 1,517 People

    Read This On Facebook....just Thought Id Share It

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 11 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    Sex, Lies and Fulfillment

    I, too, am a married woman having an affair.  And I feel the worst about lying where I am.  My husband and I have been living very separate lives for a long time, so it's not hard at all to make things up, and he isn't suspicious.  I get together with "friends...
    CatEyes09 CatEyes09 46-50, F 38 Responses Apr 5, 2008

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    I Am Having and Affair

    And enjoying every second we can find together. We are both married and happily, its just that neither of our partners is interested in sex. My lover and I both have a great time, not just sex, but picnics, walks, spa clubs and booking hotel rooms 40 miles from where we...
    Gil Gil 41-45, F 16 Responses Sep 13, 2007

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    In real life this time.

    Best sex of my life. It has made my life immeasurably better. Extremely lucky.
    Jonahgraff Jonahgraff 36-40, M Feb 10

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    I have had a letter from him

    for about a year now- in the letter he wrote that had we met 15 years ago, we'd be married- no question. It was a brief letter, but it was a sweet one, and he signed it "Love, xxxx". I'd often get this letter out and read it, because it made me feel equal parts happy and sad...
    AllTheLastAtTheBack AllTheLastAtTheBack 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2014

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    Men in affairs: Do you celebrate your wedding

    anniversary? If so how? Do you try harder out of guilt if you are having an undisclosed affair or do you try to just get through the day?
    just2night just2night 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    Should I Continue With Him?

    I have been married for 14 years. Hubby has lost interest in sex. I started an affair with a married man in August 2012. He is a great lover. The sex is absolutely amazing. The only thing that bothers me is that we don't talk or chat because he doesn't want us to be emotionally...
    secretaffair secretaffair 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    Over two and a half years ago,

    I fell in love for the first time--twenty-five years too late--and began an affair. Over the years, Kevin and I have met once or twice a week and email several times a day. I have kept almost all of the emails that I sent to him and that he sent to me. Along the way, there has...
    cbny24 cbny24 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    My Affair Is Great

    Yes, I am having an affair! I don't care if you judge me, I'm going to continue to be who I am, you may not understand my reasons or care to, but they are mine just as much as my choice to have my affair. I am sleeping w/ my best friend because my husband ignores me & we...
    luvitruff73 luvitruff73 31-35, F 19 Responses Sep 3, 2007

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    I got married at 36 to a knight in shining

    armor. I had lived comfortably and single all my life. I've worked hard, educated myself, traveled, and enjoyed life. When I met my husband I was engaged to another. He was handsome, he wore gorgeous suits and really had this aura of power, money, and magnetism. I was...
    newlifeplease newlifeplease 41-45 Oct 21, 2014

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    The other night I decided to go

    for a run in our apartment complex. It's in a valley between two mountains, one of those sights that takes your breathe away. It was dark and chilly, itched started to rain lightly. My husband was at work. I took of down the road, ran around the back and through the tennis...
    exciteme89 exciteme89 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    Sucked back in! Let the roller coaster begin

    again. Yesterday, we had an amazing day. **** hit the fan... I am sneezing..I think I have allergies to the thought, but, yes, nothing has changed in his marital status. Our status is 'secret'. I broke up with him 21st of December, and then, I had these things happening...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Chemistry Is Too Overwhelming

    I am having an affair with a man I met on a website. It started out innocent enough, we are both writers of erotica. However as we shared stories we realized how much we have in common sexually. As our friendship developed we began sharing personal details of our life. He is...
    sweetflavor sweetflavor 31-35, F 24 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    It seems like the past month has been a

    lifetime. I never thought meeting someone else that I barely knew could mean so much.Despite our slight age difference he is everything I have ever wanted in a man, I just wish I had met him sooner. I am in the process of leaving my husband after many hurtful things and...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F Feb 1

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    Yup, since June of 2013.

    He is 26, I am 39. We get together sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a week. He says we F like rabbits. We don't hang out, it usually I go to his place, we do our thing, talk for a few minutes and I go back to my suburban home life. He was my massage therapist and one day...
    2little2late 2little2late 36-40, F 19 Responses Feb 5, 2014

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    In 3 days my lover could come to my house

    anytime. We can go out.....in public. We can be a real couple. I am having a slight panic attack but I am very excited! I am so in love and happy. It's been a very long time since I've been this happy. Happy New Year!  
    007love 007love 31-35, F Jan 3, 2014

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    I have been having a affair with a woman

    for about a month and a half. I am married 17years and have three kids. I don't want to hurt my wife but I already have. I want to be with this woman and I am unsure of where to go from here. My wife loves me very much but we have grown apart and she senses it too. She has...
    MrMan67 MrMan67 36-40, M 4 Responses Oct 3, 2014

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    Devórame otra vez. Sin que sobre un pedazo de

    piel! Devórame otra vez! He mojado mis sábanas blancas recordándote.....
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    Once In A Lifetime...

    I fell head over heals for my MM, and the fabulous sex and his perfect anatomy { ;) }, coupled with our hunger to share, discuss, advise and plainly marvel at our deepening friendship - helped none... From the start there was a spiritual like bond. It was crazy and compulsive, as...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    I stay in UAE (Dubai).

    ..I am single male, 30 age....I had an affair with a married lady ....we spent really good time with each other by sharing a lot with each other..including sex...she was much better than me in sex....now she is not here in this country and I m missing her very badly.
    dearrishit dearrishit 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 20, 2014

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    I recently reconnected with a long lost love.

    Since I travel extensively for business, a friendly dinner turned toward a discussion of where life is headed and why we had never been straight with each other about our feelings. She's married with kids (as am I) and live very far apart. Each of our respective marriages...
    heb3000 heb3000 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 10, 2014

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    I'm a married woman with a single man.

    Seems this is an unusual combination. Anyone else in the same situation?
    belovedblue belovedblue 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    After 12 Years of Marriage...i Am Having An Affair....

    I will add to this as I have time. Short description of the story... married to someone I was deeply in love with... we adopted 2 special needs children ... 12 and 6 the younger is rather normal but the older is a handfull. Anyhow we tried for all these years to have our...
    slyfingersjoe slyfingersjoe 36-40, M 98 Responses Oct 4, 2007

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    My lover, that i used to know.

    So special. Snowden, Dave, you are so cheap. I totally missunderrstood. I was so wrong. My instinct failed. Fake.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Nov 16, 2014

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    I Take Revenge On My Cheating Wife

    I guess I should start off by telling you how all this got started. After I discovered my wife’s infidelity (please read my stories in “I have a cheating wife”) I was determined to have some extra marital fun of my own. I was also determined to make sure, that if my wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 10 Responses May 13, 2013

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    It's difficult tonight

    that my husband and I are at the same event my other man is
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F Feb 14

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    It's been 3 weeks since I spent time with him.

    I went to see him today. I told myself that I wasn't going to let him get to me that I was seeing him as a friend to chat about something, but I couldn't resist him. It was passionate and everything my body yearns for but the emotional side of me wanted run away. I am just going...
    Melanie04 Melanie04 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I have had affairs with married men many times.

    Perhaps it's because I have six brothers and always had male friends growing up, that I have learned to think like a man. I tend to have a sex drive like a man. I have often been told I am a dude in a chicks body. But here is the thing; I almost do it because I care about them...
    Candigirl70 Candigirl70 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 15, 2014

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    I Am Christian And Married...

    I have been saved for just over 10 years. In these last 10 years I have turned my life around and have lived for God. I am active in my church in many areas and most of my friends are also Christians. I got married young and have only 'been' with my husband, and have always...
    HaileyGail82 HaileyGail82 31-35, F 28 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    The bliss to self-control

    and self love. MM and I spent Friday all day. We were able to fill in our whereabouts. We had Heaven on Earth for the day. Then he fell into a black hole. Family duties and responsibilities. I texted a 'Hi'. No response for 2 hours. I texted another 'Hi'. See...
    Fmina Fmina 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 5

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    Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship

    for 17 years and was always happy until 2 years ago, we stopped having sex because he couldn't manage it ( if you know what I mean ) at first I was fine with this but as time went by, I realised I wanted more from my relationship, to cut a long story short, I ended up meeting...
    bitchbag bitchbag 51-55, F Nov 16, 2014

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    Married Woman Having Affair With Younger Married Man

    I am a 51 year old woman who has been married for over 20 years. I had never been unfaithful to my husband in all these years, until recently. Although our marriage has been rocky, I just did not feel the need to seek gratification elsewhere. ABout 3 years ago my husband...
    Src Src 51-55, F 109 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Affair With Son-in-law

    This is a true story of a woman I know, would like your positive opinion. Don't post anything negative, she is my friend and I like a positive feed back, Only those who have had such nice experiences qualify to comment.In her own words:Well, where do I begin? I have always felt...
    SunnyBelle SunnyBelle 26-30, F 85 Responses Jan 17, 2010

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    Hello everyone. I need your advice.

    Long story short.... I have been married for almost ten years and have had three kids with my husband. He is a wonderful man and husband however, we are just like oil and water and I can't be myself around him. He is also very controlling and I can tell there is a lot...
    candyyum77 candyyum77 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    I`ve been single for almost a year,

    my choice, and have been having affair for past 7 months with a colleague/friend of 15 years. We have always had a connection, and this affair is intense. But, he lives with another woman, has been for 8 yrs. Having been cheated on myself, I wonder wtf am I doing? This man makes...
    Pippa7 Pippa7 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    I am 24, in college, married,

    and having an affair with a man who goes to my school and who has been engaged for five years. It started harmlessly; working on a project together and we started to become closer friends (we were friends before this.) I had already started to develop a crush on him, but I...
    BwayGirl676 BwayGirl676 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    A good phrase to start this weekend.

    It is going to be great!
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Nov 8, 2014

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    I cut off my affair with the OW a couple months

    ago then I was missing here and sent her a email. She missed me too and we began talking and saw each other again. We did not have sex we just made out and rekindled. She wanted me to meet her at a restaurant in the area I live and I told her no way because I always see people...
    MrMan67 MrMan67 36-40, M Nov 26, 2014

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    Helping Melissa Move

    Melissa, my sister-in-law (my wife's younger sister) recently sold her house and bought a smaller one in a new modern development. She had hired movers to do most of the heavy lifting and all that she wanted from me was to supervise and to help with the odds and ends. My wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    About a month ago, a 3 month long emotional

    affair with a former co-worker (who is also my friend for many years) turned physical one time (I am married, he is single...and my husband has no clue). The guilt I felt right afterwards was so crushing, I told him, and we agreed to part ways (he felt the guilt as well, and...
    dayflight dayflight 36-40 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    Today was another bad day,

    I presented a proposal to the the Regional Director (my boss) on how to upgrade the full timer's health insurance policies to stay competitive on benefits offering. He rejected it in less than 2 minutes, something my department had been working for weeks, I got a phone call from...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978 36-40, F 10 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I'm a MW and have been having an affair

    for almost 2 years with a MM and unable to confide in anyone. It's good to have found this forum. I've been married for many years but since having kids and working hard my H and I have drifted apart. We love and respect one another but there is little communication (other...
    daisyblue222 daisyblue222 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 1, 2014

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    I have been with my BF 5 years,

    his plans of the future are quite a bit off from mine. The big one, he already told me he doesn't want to get married, but he waited to tell me this for 4.5 years. So we are obviously not gonna be together much longer we are just convenient and comfortable with each other for...
    MartiniLynn MartiniLynn 18-21 Sep 25, 2014

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    A Thought From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 15 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    Because Of Nights Like This...

    I'm having an affair. Tonight was another night like countless others - I came in from work, a little upset and I asked a simple question, and it erupted into WWIII, and a relatively soft object got thrown at me and struck me in the face. Softer than a brick but harder than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    I can't tell anyone this in real life

    so it is nice to write it down finally for someone to read and know. I dream some day of telling friends, but can't now. No one would understand. They would judge me terribly. I am married with kids and am having an affair with a man who is also married with kids. My husband is...
    ceciliadiane ceciliadiane 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I love my affair but there are more bad times

    then good lately. I realize it is wrong and I'm not worthy of compassion in this situation but I want to know how to end it; for good. I do love him but I need to leave him.
    Bellaluna1972 Bellaluna1972 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    I don't know if i had

    or i am having an affair.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    For those of you that have read my stories,

    this is going to surprise the heck out of you. As you all know i classified myself as bi and heavily towards being gay. Then i met a woman here on EP, she sounded fascinating and lives not too far from me. We messaged each other a few times before deciding to meet for a...
    Sportjeff Sportjeff 51-55, M 7 Responses Apr 28, 2014

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    My Affair Frees Me

    I have been having an affair with my bestfriend for the past 4 years. My husband found out 2 years ago and thinks I have stopped seeing him! I tried but have not managed to completely cut him out of my life! Sometimes it feels as if I am more meant to be with my lover who...
    sadgrl sadgrl 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    Has going nc led any mm to divorce?

    If so how long did it take for nc to work and what happened exactly when mm came back?
    just2night just2night 41-45, F Jan 2

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