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I Am Having An Affair

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    Having an affair Is become addicted to a person.

    Start a secret, fun, sparkling, sad, ironic long situation. I go the extra mile anyways.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Mar 16

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    My Affair Is Great

    Yes, I am having an affair! I don't care if you judge me, I'm going to continue to be who I am, you may not understand my reasons or care to, but they are mine just as much as my choice to have my affair. I am sleeping w/ my best friend because my husband ignores me & we...
    luvitruff73 luvitruff73 31-35, F 20 Responses Sep 3, 2007

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    Today i saw my BF and we were together

    for two seeet hours, just talking and laughing. I am happy that he is back in town.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Once In A Lifetime...

    I fell head over heals for my MM, and the fabulous sex and his perfect anatomy { ;) }, coupled with our hunger to share, discuss, advise and plainly marvel at our deepening friendship - helped none... From the start there was a spiritual like bond. It was crazy and compulsive, as...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 7 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    My Affair Frees Me

    I have been having an affair with my bestfriend for the past 4 years. My husband found out 2 years ago and thinks I have stopped seeing him! I tried but have not managed to completely cut him out of my life! Sometimes it feels as if I am more meant to be with my lover who...
    sadgrl sadgrl 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    " Me quiero quedar contigo.

    Es mucho el deseo"
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 2

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    The other night I decided to go

    for a run in our apartment complex. It's in a valley between two mountains, one of those sights that takes your breathe away. It was dark and chilly, itched started to rain lightly. My husband was at work. I took of down the road, ran around the back and through the tennis...
    exciteme89 exciteme89 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 3

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    I Am Christian And Married...

    I have been saved for just over 10 years. In these last 10 years I have turned my life around and have lived for God. I am active in my church in many areas and most of my friends are also Christians. I got married young and have only 'been' with my husband, and have always...
    HaileyGail82 HaileyGail82 31-35, F 30 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    My Story

    hi, I'm having an affair. Its my first and its been going on for 4 weeks.  I can't believe how easy it was to slip into the lying for me.  I told myself I would never cheat on my husband, but it has happened. i try not to lie whenever possible. im just working late...
    Keri75 Keri75 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 28, 2007

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    It's our second night we get to spend with each

    other, all night. As I drive to the hotel I am excited, the thought of getting to kiss and feel him for a long time tonight makes me smile. I check in and only have to wait about 30 minuets until he knocks at the door. As I open the door his smile is contagious, I love his smile...
    Erotic2 Erotic2 36-40 11 Responses Jan 21

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Mar 24

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    A Thought From The Other Woman

    You are the one he’s lived with for a very long time. I have known him for three years. You are the one who wakes up to his familiar face each and every day and you give him a peck on the cheek. I gaze into his deep brown eyes and run my hands through his slightly graying...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 16 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    I have been having an emotional affair with an

    old flame for months and this week it became a physical affair. I've been unhappy with my husband for a while, we live like flatmates and he just seems indifferent to me, never listens to me and no intimacy. We don't have kids and my AP is single. I never thought I would have an...
    masa2014 masa2014 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    South Of The Border: A Chipotle Story

    Sooo . . . . It was one of those days when my self-esteem needed to play princess dress-up.  His text was simple:  "Good Morning Beautiful, how I wish I could wrap my arms around you today...."  . . . And just like that - JUST LIKE THAT - I"m alive w/desire...
    Colormevibrant Colormevibrant 46-50, F 11 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    Only One Problem....

    I just want more.... I want more breathless passion, more closeness, more sex and for longer periods of time.  I am 45, he is 50.  I actually met him on a sleazy named website but he is quite normal in every respect but in the bedroom.  I thought he was shy and...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 10 Responses Jan 26, 2009

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    I had sex with a married friend.

    OMG I had sex with a married friend, who is also my law partner. What am I doing?
    alicelostinnwonderland alicelostinnwonderland 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 14

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    I let you hurt me again.

    I gave away my power and my dignity. Fell victim to your words of how much you care when your actions continue to show that you don't. Why would I think you are anything more than the selfish, narcissistic, inconsiderate piece of **** that you always were? You've let me down...
    addict44 addict44 31-35, F Mar 13

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    I Wish All continue as our first month.

    Miss u. Miss my misterious BF that met at IHOP! You can still laugh of my choice ;-) Ha ha ha.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Read This On Facebook....just Thought Id Share It

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 16 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    I apologize in advance

    for the length of my story. I know that by posting this I am opening myself up for a slew of judgmental comments, but I guarantee anything you would like to tell me concerning how awful of a person I am for having an affair, I've already told myself. So if you have negative...
    notturningback notturningback 31-35, F Mar 26

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    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    Yup, since June of 2013.

    He is 26, I am 39. We get together sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a week. He says we F like rabbits. We don't hang out, it usually I go to his place, we do our thing, talk for a few minutes and I go back to my suburban home life. He was my massage therapist and one day...
    LLmom32 LLmom32 36-40, F 21 Responses Feb 5

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    Why I Prefer Married Women

    Why? It's not because there's no commitment involved. There can be even in an affair. But why I do love cheating wives is because I like bad girls. I like it when she's this good mom and wife at home but when she's with me she turning on her bad and naughty side. I love that...
    BadBoyKL BadBoyKL 41-45, M 10 Responses Aug 6, 2013

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    Avoiding an affair. He keeps calling

    and leaving dirty messages and texts. It is kind of hot.
    alicelostinnwonderland alicelostinnwonderland 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    The Cat Is Out Of The Bag...busted!

    After 3 years, my husband found out about my MM. It was a very bad day, but to be honest, my first reaction was actually relief that the secret was out. My second reaction was panic, panic because I know there is no way I can walk away from my MM. After my husband confronted me...
    aod7909 aod7909 46-50, F 13 Responses May 16, 2012

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    No Wonder We Have Affairs

    Alright, this conversation absolutely floored me. I was having a wonderful time with my lover on Saturday, and we were enjoying each other in ways that I am sure all of you have done with yours. We were on the subject of oral sex for him. I nonchalantly asked him as I moved my...
    Kelki Kelki 46-50, F 24 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    I Am A Woman Having An Affair With Another Woman!

    My husband thinks we are just friends but what he doesn't know is that we are sexually involved. Our frequent shopping excursions gives us time to make out in the change room, we wear skirts with no undies so that we can easily play with each other in the car, at the theatre...
    wow41 wow41 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Helping Melissa Move

    Melissa, my sister-in-law (my wife's younger sister) recently sold her house and bought a smaller one in a new modern development. She had hired movers to do most of the heavy lifting and all that she wanted from me was to supervise and to help with the odds and ends. My wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    I'm having an affair with a married man.

    I'm putting it all out there, so I warn you in advance this may be a long read, but I need to get it out. This affair has been going on for 5 months now. It all started at work. He works in a different department, so we barely saw or talked to each other at first. When we did...
    rrn14 rrn14 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 30

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    After 12 Years of Marriage...i Am Having An Affair....

    I will add to this as I have time. Short description of the story... married to someone I was deeply in love with... we adopted 2 special needs children ... 12 and 6 the younger is rather normal but the older is a handfull. Anyhow we tried for all these years to have our...
    slyfingersjoe slyfingersjoe 36-40, M 98 Responses Oct 4, 2007

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    Sex, Lies and Fulfillment

    I, too, am a married woman having an affair.  And I feel the worst about lying where I am.  My husband and I have been living very separate lives for a long time, so it's not hard at all to make things up, and he isn't suspicious.  I get together with "friends...
    CatEyes09 CatEyes09 46-50, F 38 Responses Apr 5, 2008

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    Chemistry Is Too Overwhelming

    I am having an affair with a man I met on a website. It started out innocent enough, we are both writers of erotica. However as we shared stories we realized how much we have in common sexually. As our friendship developed we began sharing personal details of our life. He is...
    sweetflavor sweetflavor 31-35, F 26 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    So we actually talked about it.

    He wants it to keep going, says it is exciting for him. Says he never thought I would say yes and that it was incredible. I didn't know what to say. This is so new and unexpected. What I mean by that is that I am considering letting it go on. I never imagined I had that in me...
    alicelostinnwonderland alicelostinnwonderland 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Affair With Son-in-law

    This is a true story of a woman I know, would like your positive opinion. Don't post anything negative, she is my friend and I like a positive feed back, Only those who have had such nice experiences qualify to comment.In her own words:Well, where do I begin? I have always felt...
    SunnyBelle SunnyBelle 26-30, F 83 Responses Jan 17, 2010

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    Is texting and messaging intimate things with

    someone other than your spouse considered an affair?
    reneedarkside reneedarkside 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    If you tell your secret to Soembody is not a (

    your) secret anymore. Don't kill it. Keep a private, fun, colorfull life ;-)
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Mar 13

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    I still remember when we were just friends (

    you my friend's younger brother) and it was my Bday, i was at my mom's my kids sleeping, and you brought me a dress from " Zara" as a present. You Came with your friend. You So Sweet.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    I Take Revenge On My Cheating Wife

    I guess I should start off by telling you how all this got started. After I discovered my wife’s infidelity (please read my stories in “I have a cheating wife”) I was determined to have some extra marital fun of my own. I was also determined to make sure, that if my wife...
    DragonflyGreen DragonflyGreen 41-45, M 14 Responses May 13, 2013

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    Yes. I am. I admit I did actively search one

    out, my marriage wasn't great, not bad, but not great and the sex when it happened was blah! But with kids and life I wasn't ready to leave it and an affair seemed like a way to add some excitement and I really did miss passionate sex. So I did meet this man online, we emailed...
    lachatnoir9 lachatnoir9 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Should I Continue With Him?

    I have been married for 14 years. Hubby has lost interest in sex. I started an affair with a married man in August 2012. He is a great lover. The sex is absolutely amazing. The only thing that bothers me is that we don't talk or chat because he doesn't want us to be emotionally...
    secretaffair secretaffair 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    Not what i expected. Not what i expected.

    Not what I expected. Sorry ;-/
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Mar 11

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    I had another passionate day.

    But today was different today I told him I am falling in love with him. So I will be in love with someone share intimacies but it only be once or twice a month. Will me enhance my loneliness or make it better?
    itsme3333 itsme3333 36-40 1 Response Mar 10

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    Rachael and the Diatonic Scale Music is love

    in search of a word. - French novelist and performer Sidonie Gabrielle I had booked a cruise with family and friends weeks before I met Rachael. I was horrified when a fellow employee informed me just weeks before my trip that cruise ships don’t provide wireless Internet...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Mar 10

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    In 3 days my lover could come to my house

    anytime. We can go out.....in public. We can be a real couple. I am having a slight panic attack but I am very excited! I am so in love and happy. It's been a very long time since I've been this happy. Happy New Year!  
    007love 007love 31-35, F Jan 3

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    I Am Having and Affair

    And enjoying every second we can find together. We are both married and happily, its just that neither of our partners is interested in sex. My lover and I both have a great time, not just sex, but picnics, walks, spa clubs and booking hotel rooms 40 miles from where we...
    Gil Gil 41-45, F 17 Responses Sep 13, 2007

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    So I'm having a very passionate affair with an

    old flame and struggling with my feelings. I am interested to know how other people having affairs cope with sex with their spouse while seeing another person? I'm no prude but this is the part that is tormenting me. Please don't tell me I shouldn't be having an affair because I...
    masa2014 masa2014 26-30, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    It Just Happened

    I am married and had become bored with day to day life. Sometimes during the day I would browse through men's web postings just out of curiosity. I came across one that peaked my interest, it sounded well, sweet and quite normal. As normal as two married people looking on the...
    Erotic2 Erotic2 36-40 5 Responses Oct 3, 2013

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    Because Of Nights Like This...

    I'm having an affair. Tonight was another night like countless others - I came in from work, a little upset and I asked a simple question, and it erupted into WWIII, and a relatively soft object got thrown at me and struck me in the face. Softer than a brick but harder than a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Sep 5, 2010

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    I found this letter on Craigslist....

    I DID NOT write this but I wish I had!!! If you are planning on banging a married woman... You should read this letter: Dear Men of Craigslist, Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society...
    deleted deleted 26-30 49 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    I am having an affair

    and strange, exiting, fun, sad, nostalgic, happy, colorful, cololess, important, boring things happening in my life right now. I miss so many beautiful people.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Married Woman Having Affair With Younger Married Man

    I am a 51 year old woman who has been married for over 20 years. I had never been unfaithful to my husband in all these years, until recently. Although our marriage has been rocky, I just did not feel the need to seek gratification elsewhere. ABout 3 years ago my husband...
    Src Src 51-55, F 106 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    I remember when you wrote me " desperatly

    anxious waiting for your text" -and "ooo que buena maner de empezar el fin de semana"
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    When my girlfriend call me

    and she was with you, just happened to be Feb 14 and you told me: happy valentine's day, injust wish we had met each other before.
    heartycure heartycure 36-40, F Apr 6

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    I've been seeing someone

    for 1 month less than the length of my marriage (almost 5 years). She is the best friend I've ever had. I love my wife still, and I don't want to be separated from my kids, but I can't stop seeing her. She is married as well.
    nospamblock nospamblock 31-35, M 5 Responses Mar 21

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    I Am In The Worst Of The Worst Category

    Here it is. My chance to share my, hopefully non-unique, story with people who may understand my position. I am having an affair. I am the other woman. I am neither married, nor in a long term relationship. For a long time, I stood behind my single-girl status when defending the...
    accidentaldelilah accidentaldelilah 31-35, F 20 Responses Jun 1, 2012

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