I Am Having An Affiar With a Married Man

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    How do i know if he's still married?

    I met this guy two months a go. He's 10 years older than me. From the first time i met him i can totally feel that there was a mutual attraction. But we didn't talk much. He talked with my dad a lot. And after awhile we've talked and seems we got a long very well. And he asked...
    LovelyLilly13 LovelyLilly13
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 13, 2014

    The Mistress And So Much More....

    A friendship turned into an affair. We were smoke buddies and after several months of instant messages at work, it came out that I had a little crush on him. We kissed for weeks, then after months we had sex. I thought it would be something that would end quickly. He was...
    Souxie Souxie
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 14, 2012

    actually I had one back in 1998 with my French

    chef who happened to be working where I was. His wife was far away and he was in the land of milk and honey. My dearest Monsieur was tall and he had been on me for a while. Long story short it started out as a kiss stolen in the kitchen parlour and ended up in the introduction...
    Akinyim Akinyim
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2015

    Ok, so we have only had sex once.

    I kind of feel betrayed because when we met he was insistent upon his ring being from a surf shop and meaningless. He wooed me and asked me on numerous dates. I smelled something fishy and totally didn't realise until after I'd had car sex with him that he had a baby seat in the...
    amandapanda88 amandapanda88
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 4, 2014

    Affair Partner

    So a few weeks ago I broke it off with my affair partner. We are both married. We have since reunited, I know, I know. We both agreed to a compromise. Apparently rules and expectations should have been established from the beginning. He has made a huge effort and turn around. I...
    Beautifulnbroken Beautifulnbroken
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Aug 19, 2013

    I know what I'm doing is totally wrong

    but I can't seem to help my feelings. At the minute I'm stuck between listening to my heart and my head. I know that this affair will probably not develop into anything more than it is but I can't help but stick around hoping it will. His wife knows about me and has contacted me...
    lostinlifeeeee lostinlifeeeee
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 1, 2014

    This started about 8 months ago.

    .. We work together. It started out with us just flirting... Then he would randomly touch me. He's come over to my place a handful of times. We've never had sex, but we've done everything else. He drives me crazy. We'll be all hot and heavy and out of nowhere it's like he hates...
    AlwaysHisJP AlwaysHisJP
    26-30, F
    Nov 14, 2015

    How do you move on? How do you switch from

    lovers to being good friends? I asked for a break up but he FLIPPED! We talked abt it via FB and he just FLIPPED! He was emotional and can't accept the fact that the texting will stop! Then how do we move on? I asked. He said just stay. He can't promise that things will be...
    dominic3 dominic3
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 12, 2014

    He And I

    He is a 37 year old, successful, handsome, and married man. Thank God he has no children. He and I first started talking while he and his wife were separated. Our relationship has blossomed since then, and even they are back together we have stayed in touch. I'm not a love...
    KristinaQ KristinaQ
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 17, 2010

    Complicated Love Of My Life.

    I met this amazing man who is a bit younger than me 5 months ago. We are in the same workplace. He is single living with a gf and a daughter who is 5 years old and I am separated living with my 10 year old daughter. We fell inlove because one thing maybe, we were both desperate...
    busybabe2012 busybabe2012
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 4, 2012

    I met my AP at work. I'm married

    and so is he. I thought I was happy at home. I had no idea how quickly my life would go downhill. He and I were friends. I literally had no idea that he thought of me as anything more. Then, I sent him a friend request on Facebook. Big mistake. He's very very handsome. He would...
    Seeme58606 Seeme58606
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 25, 2016


    I met him 11 months ago in a night club. I had gotten out of a 10 yr relationship and decided to use him for a night. I've never done anything like this before in my life so it was very exciting to be able to enjoy time with him and never speak again. After our fling I got up...
    privatepartner privatepartner
    31-35, F
    Feb 2, 2012

    We connected at a business convention.

    I was crushed to find out he was married and just avoided him when I could until that night when we were drinking. We got very friendly and there was an unexpected spark. However, I thought it would just be a one nighter and that's it. To my surprise, nope. He wants to keep...
    kathleen05 kathleen05
    41-45, F
    Mar 9, 2014

    I am a 16 year old girl.

    I don't know how or why I have gotten so sucked in to this toxic relationship I currently have with a married man- twice my age. (It's legal in my state.) It's been going on for about 3 months, he's constantly, constantly on my mind. And today, his wife went into labor. That's...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2014

    It's Bad

    I've never seen myself as someone who will date a married man. But apparently, you can't choose how you feel. I'm young, above average looking, smart and pretty successful at work. I'll be getting getting married to a man I love in a few months time. And here's my story of a bad...
    aurorale aurorale
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jul 30, 2013

    It'S Really Over.....

    So if you read my previous stories, I was having an affair with a married man. It was quite the ride. I went on vacation with my family at the end of September and he texted me that he was having a bad time at home and his wife wanted a divorce but she didn't know i existed. So...
    Beautifulnbroken Beautifulnbroken
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 11, 2013

    Cheating With another married man

    I met this guy and work and we've been having an affair for about 6 months! When I met him he told me he was livin with a girl because his wife had put him out, and was going through a divorce. At that time I wasn't sleeping in the same room with my husband ok so don't judge me I...
    Lillie706 Lillie706
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 4, 2013

    Its Not A Physical Affair..

    He was my first love, as a young fresh virgin from college, we met and dated for six good years. We later grew apart and got into other relationships. He was a gentleman, a rare breed of men who became a benchmark for every relationship that came my way. No man could measure up...
    Jeliza94 Jeliza94
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 7, 2013

    I am 24 and I am having an affair with a

    married 45 year old man. Ive always had a taste for older men but this is the first married man I've dated. We met online and talked online only for a while but then once we met in person our chemistry just clicked and we can't get enough of each other. We've been together for...
    GeorgiaCutie GeorgiaCutie
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 20, 2015

    Once In A Lifetime....

    I fell head over heals for my MM, and the fabulous sex and his perfect anatomy { ;) }, coupled with our hunger to share, discuss, advise and plainly marvel at our deepening friendship - helped none... From the start there was a spiritual like bond. It was crazy and compulsive...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Feb 27, 2013


    I looked out my window to find an anemone plant had bloomed. First one, now three, with about seven buds. The summer had been dry, I hadn’t watered enough, and the backyard had become overgrown, after a diligent spring planting. The variety are a dark pink, slightly lavender...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 21, 2013
    coletraiin coletraiin
    18-21, M
    Jun 1, 2014
    swagg2012 swagg2012
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Aug 15, 2013

    How Do I End The Affair?

    I want to forget this affair ever happened.I want him erased from my memory.I was happy go lucky before him.Content.Had problems in my marriage, but not like these...I escaped from my problems into his arms, and yes, he was a wonderful friend with benefits.When we just met and...
    marmelade marmelade
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2012

    We Are Both Married, But This Works.

    There's something very comfortable about having an affair with a true friend. I've known my MM for over 30 years, we (my husband, him and me) were all at school together in the same group and MM and I had a one day fling, prompted by a dare, before I was married. For me it was...
    GT4me GT4me
    14 Responses Jan 12, 2013

    My Affair

    I am married he is married, we think we are in love, but neither of us want to leave our spouses. It started as a sexual thing and thought it would fizzle out, but we can't stop seeing each other, believe me we have tried.
    bubbleshappy bubbleshappy
    51-55, F
    Nov 18, 2013
    jamdog22 jamdog22
    16-17, M
    Jun 24, 2014

    My First Time

    Yes I knew he was married and no I'm not a home wrecker. I had no intentions of falling for him,he is my boss. I've worked here for 5 yrs and the first 31/2 I couldn't stand him. His voice his looks just made me cringe,but he started chasing me around,I told him I was not...
    babyrott babyrott
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Jan 16, 2011

    Broken Hearted By My Lover...

    Well I been married for 30years I been having an affair for 22 years not steady but when ever we saw eachother we got together..alot of time lasped between us..then finally we started talking again after 13years..he's been in jail for that long..the last 2years we got close he...
    bebe511 bebe511
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012

    Hi well it's 2years and 2 months now.

    we had an affair for a year and then we stopped it, we made a point of it not having any contact. and all of a sudden we started to talk again, i realized that i still have the same feelings for this man and he still feels exactly the same way about me. i saw him yesterday and...
    Dimpels1984 Dimpels1984
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 19, 2013

    I am finding this hard

    as I can't really talk to anyone about my situation. About 4 weeks ago a guy at work gave me his number. I have liked this guy for nearly 2 years. I had been flirting with him a little (I am shy) and he was always happy to see me and chatted. Giving me his number came out of the...
    Daisydukes79 Daisydukes79
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 13, 2014

    Well today is the day had it well

    and truly rubbed in my face last night. Cannot cope with this. I am human let me know with words. Is there any point anymore??
    lolita3121 lolita3121
    46-50, F
    Nov 16, 2014

    There is a mutual attraction between us?

    Maybe..He is hot quick witted probably not as happy as he should be with his wife and I'm single - desire for some attention. We haven't done much crossing the line yet kissing. This day may come soon tho. He is very flirty and clever, knows how to play the game... I keep...
    Zbabe Zbabe
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2014

    Ladies, a lot of us posting here recently need

    to hang this in our mirrors & read every morning! For those doing fabulously, carry on & hugs!
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 20, 2015

    I am married too. After years of feeling

    neglected and resentful in my marriage, I set out to have some needs met and honestly, get some attention. But I had it in my head that I did not want a long term affair in which emotions would get involved. I had a few "flings" but then I met T. just over 3 weeks ago. T...
    newvome newvome
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 23, 2014

    I've been seeing a married man

    for 5 months. He is still having sex with his wife. They don't use condoms. I really lust for this man. I am in love with him. I want to be intimate with him all the time. For us to be lost in each other and have nothing hold us back. But recently it has been getting to me. The...
    Daisydukes79 Daisydukes79
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

    Today my MM told me that he informed his wife

    that he had needs and because they "weren't being met at home", that he basically was asking permission to have an affair (even though he already is). She told him that as long as it doesn't take time away from the family, and he doesn't tell her who it is or the details that...
    SingleIn2014 SingleIn2014
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2014

    I Am Having An Affair With A Married Man... Not!

    How can you look at yourself in the mirror and think of yourself as anything but a stupid, completely ridiculous, *****, ****, *****, homewrecker? By the way you ARE, all of those things that are listed above. Let me break it down for you. I am a child of no innocence. My dad...
    lostsoulinlife lostsoulinlife
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Jan 28, 2011

    I Really Do Care About Him But I'M Not Doing This Anymore

    I feel horrible but in so many ways it feels right. he has a wife and a 10 year old daughter. He is busy with work and with his family. I'm just on the side and he sees me when he can. He tells me he loves me and there is a part in my heart that thinks he is telling the truth...
    NicolesWay NicolesWay
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Mar 23, 2013

    Ok so this is my first post

    and I know it's hard to believe but please if there's someone out there that thinks they can help please respond My name is Kelsey. I'm a senior in highschool and about 5 months ago I started having an affair with one of my best friends dad. What makes it even worse is that he...
    KelseyA KelseyA
    18-21, F
    50 Responses May 7, 2015
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