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I Am Having Marital Problems and I Don't Know What to Do

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    Unending Troubles

    There seems to always be "something" in the way of our happiness, whether it be our past, our present, our family members, our friends, our lack of financial security, etc. We only dated 5 weeks-probably the first mistake. We eloped - both of us had been married once before and...
    LilysMom07 LilysMom07 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 27, 2008

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    How Do I Move On!! Why Is The Past Still Affect My Future

    I'm been married for 4 years and love my husband very much, Over a years on a half ago my husband was going true a lot @ the time he just game home from a deployment  and I was not very supported, Because I really din't know my marriage was that bad...
    angelitadedios08 angelitadedios08 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2010

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    At What Point Do You Think That You Are Not Meant For Marriage?

     what do you do when you are beginning to be unhappy more than you are happy? The fighting becomes more frequent. The drama replaces the fun. Sure, we have challenges we're facing that would be hard for any marriage. But who doesn't? After two failed marriages, I thought...
    watertoafish watertoafish 61-65, M 3 Responses Jan 30, 2010

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    Frustrated

    Ive been married for 14yrs we have our share of problems and a lot the reason we have stood together so long is because I feel like I'm the only one holding it together and its taking its toll and I'm tired and don't know what to do.
    dezios dezios 36-40 2 Responses May 11, 2013

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    Do I Stay Or Go

    I've been marry for 3years now, I have total of 4kids two with my husband and two with an ex. We been on a roller coaster every since we started dating. I was his first everything relationship, first partner and etc. I cheated on him in the beginning a lot but with my ex but...
    njsouth njsouth 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    I Want To Leave

    I have 3 kids, and am having some severe marriage problems. My MIL is (I believe) a narcissist and is a very dangerous person to my kids. I told my husband before we had kids that I felt she was dangerous due to observations of her with my husbands nephews as well as the stories...
    Stuckmomof3 Stuckmomof3 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    No More Light At The End Of The Tunnel... Just A Dark, Depressing Cave

    I have been married for 14 years to the man who I believed was the love of my life. He is from another country but when we met, he was already living and working here and planned to stay here for the duration . The first 9 years of marriage were like a fairy-tale. Never in a...
    CityGirl1234 CityGirl1234 46-50 12 Responses Apr 8, 2012

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    Husband Has Confused Feelings For Me Due To Something I Said & Split To Sort Out Feelings. Could He Come Back?

    I have been together with my husband for 12 yrs.. married 5. have a 6 yr old boy. ,, last month we moved to a new place... both he and I were the actual movers. I was tired, and stressed, but glad it was over. After the move we started talking about finances. however it got...
    kathr1322 kathr1322 36-40, F Aug 12, 2012

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    Love Her But Not In Love

    Similar to most I googled my problems and ended up here looking for inspiration so decided to post something and see what happens. A bit of background been married to my wife 28 years have a son 25 who has left home and a daughter (22) who is still at home, we married very young...
    CobraDriver CobraDriver 41-45, M 10 Responses Jun 13, 2013

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    Lost....

    We just got married - 7 months ago. We had been friends prior to marriage not close or anything just kept in touch. Ever since we've been married I feel my husband has changed. He wants everything his way either it be food the way the house is cleaned or organized or the way I...
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    We Don't Fight Often, But When We Do It Is Terrible!

    And I mean yelling, name-calling, door slamming, even leaving. Our recent fights all have money as a central issue. I talked to my mom and grandma and both said letting my husband borrow my car for a few months while he waits to get his fixed should not happen and I should not...
    SummerWind18 SummerWind18 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    Broken To Bits

    Hi everyone. This is my first time writing here so here it goes. I'm 28 and have been married for 3 years. I have a beautiful daughter and is due for the second one this coming May. My problem started last July 2012 when my husband admitted that he is addicted to prostitution...
    heartbroken1204 heartbroken1204 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    Desperate Enough To Write My Story

    Just don't know where to start ... I have been married to my wife now for 9 years. Have four wonderful children which i can brag about. I have a job with good hours, leave home at 8 and back at home at 17:00. My wife is a stay at home wife.She wakes up around 10 in mornings, and...
    bigmouse101 bigmouse101 31-35 3 Responses Jan 9, 2013

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    Communication Issues

    I met my husband 12 years ago. Had a long distance relationship all the while. Got married 6 months back. And these 6 months have been the worst 6 months of my life. problems? - have had sex 2 times (yes in 6 months..). every time we start having sex we end up fighting. its...
    newlymarriedandlost newlymarriedandlost 26-30 4 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    ?????????????Confused

    I have been married for 13 years, we have 3 kids ages 22, 9, 7. The 22 yr old is my son from a previous relationship. Our marriage has not been the best but over the past 1 1/2 years it has fell into some unknown area. My husband blames everyone at work for where he is at in his...
    owlhoot1231 owlhoot1231 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    Divorce?

    my husband and i had a great relationship until last night, he didnt come home from work and he called to say he is staying with a friend, he came to get his clothes while i was gone this morning and he took almost all of the money out of our account i got a hold of him a few...
    spreadthelove127 spreadthelove127 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 17, 2008

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    The Saga Continues With A Bad Marriage

    Last night my son had a sleepover with grammie & pop-pop. Mostly because it was my wife's turn to pick him up and she was too tired after a night on facebook. Well he was sick, his first time. I know we are fortunate as he is 8 months old. So as I'm getting out of the shower for...
    j21043 j21043 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2011

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    Admitting It Hurts

    my whole life i have been selfish and was not shy about it. I have been with my wife for 7 years and married for 5 we have two kids 5 and 1 years old. We have seperated two other times by my choice. Last friday she told me she was done with me. I have since looked in the mirror...
    helpmeplease12 helpmeplease12 31-35 3 Responses Mar 10, 2011

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    I have been trying other chats

    and an finding that there is very little agreement that my husband is a problem. I have remained married for since 1981. My husband has suffered for it, He is going to suffer some more, we are now to late in life to divorce. He tried many years ago but was denied by the state...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 1 Response May 8

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    I Spend My Life In My Wife's Doghouse

    In most aspects of our relationship, my wife is a very giving and considerate person. She purchases gifts for me here and there. If I needed money, she'd be right there offering to lend me some (we keep our finances entirely separate except for the mortgage). If I need...
    captramius captramius 41-45 4 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    Lost Ashamed And Depressed

       I turned 41 yesterday and in my previous 40 years here on this incredible planet, I have never had a more depressing Birthday. I have 3 wonderful children - 2 from my first marriage and 1 from my current. My Daughter is 16 to be this month, and my 2 sons are 11 and 8. I have...
    yankees22 yankees22 36-40 4 Responses Feb 10, 2011

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    Well been married 12 years.

    Now he wants out becoz I have not been able to give him a child as he puts it. He filed for divorce which the courts denied him, he is still working at freeing himself from me to be able to procreate with other women . I am at a loss for what to do, AM JUST TRYING TO REMAIN SANE...
    namgal namgal 46-50, F 5 Responses May 8

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    I Now Know What To Do

    I want to say Thank You to all the people that have read my stories, commented on my stories, given me praise, made me realize that I do deserve more and I don't have to settle, and helped me realize that I am more that what I have become. I listened to a song the other day...
    creativepassion4404 creativepassion4404 26-30, F Sep 4, 2012

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    I Desperatly Need Help.....someone......please

    Almost 2 years ago I married the love of my life. Shortly after we were married we went on our honeymoon. When we came back we were robbed. She was robbed. A significant amount of jewlery was missing. We suspected my sister because of past coments she has made. Turns out it...
    j21043 j21043 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 5, 2011

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    Lie And Deceit

    My wife and I have been fighting as each day it gets worse. It all started with as she says with me growing distant which I am not disagreeing with I see now that I was in a zombie mode were I go to work come home and the next day start it all over which I see now and I have...
    marriedsingledad marriedsingledad 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 14, 2013

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    I am writing this here

    because i dont have anyone else. Whom i can share this I am an indian guy snd i am married to a chinese girl from last 5 years. We live in china also We are going to have a baby by end of this year. I was very happy and this meant world to me but and so do she But she is very...
    bobbychina bobbychina 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 10

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    I Feel Like Hell Sometimes

    I AM MARRIED WITH A GIRL FROM DIFFERENT COUNTRY THEN MINE, WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER ALREADY MORE THEN 6 YEARS, IT WAS FUN IN BEGINING AND WE WERE VERY HAPPY, THEIR IS ONE PROBLEM WITH HER, SHE IS VERY VERY SHORT TEMPER AND SHE WILL FIGHT FOR SMALL THINGS WHICH I BARELY EVEN NOTICE...
    bbha bbha 26-30 Nov 19, 2012

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    Having A Hard Time Trusting Anymore

    I have been married for over 40 years now. My Husband and I both are same age-59 years old. We married at 18 and have 3 gorwn kids and 9 grandkids. My husband has always been kinda of controlling but I accept it as I thought thats How things are. Hes still like that on some...
    KatLu4 KatLu4 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2010

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    Not Legally Married?

    i have so much that has happened within the past few years... i sometimes don't know where to begin...but here goes... i was married for over 20 years to an abusive controlling man...when we finally got divorced i was torn between elation and devastation as well as feeling...
    thelonelybrokenone thelonelybrokenone 46-50 Nov 6, 2012

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    Newlywed, Newly Diagnosed

    I was just married in June to a wonderful man. We married very fast, I think due to our ages; I am 47 & he is 50. The issues with ADD have plagued our relationship since we started living together last year..To him, these are attitude problems which I need to control..After a...
    sherisheri sherisheri 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    Husbands Past Tearing Us Apart

    I fell in love with a man and was swept away. Then shortly, I found out he had married a woman that was 47 , in vegas, and was married to her for 1 1/2 years, they bought a house, vehicles etc together. He is 24, so he was roughly 22 when he married her and ive asked about that...
    Savvylady Savvylady 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 2, 2013

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    Marriage Is a the Cause of My Depression

    I have been married for 4 or 5 years, and my husband and I have gone through marriage counseling.  I have a 1 1/2 year old son that is the love of my life.  My husband watches the baby all day.  I recently started a new job and now have to work...
    mala51 mala51 31-35, F 7 Responses May 13, 2009

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    I Just Don't Get It

    i just don't get it. I have been married 7 years. I loved this guy, he was all that I wanted and we have built a pretty awesome life together. He works hard and has no close friendships. About 4 years ago he become an absolute jerk to me. I was pregnant we fought all the time and...
    PAK76 PAK76 31-35 3 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    Crossroads

    I'm 28 and I've been married for 2.5 years (been together for a decade). My husband and I have been having some problems throughout the course of the marriage. He packed some clothes and left yesterday saying that he is filing for divorce. We both drink quite heavily- I've been...
    lifeisupsidedown lifeisupsidedown 26-30 2 Responses Aug 16, 2012

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    I Feel Like I Cant Love Myself And Be In This Relationship!!! HELP

    My partner and I have been together for 5 years now, and we have two beautiful boys aged 3 and 4. We have been having marital issues for the past 3 years now, and it never gets better. We have gone to mariage counselling 3 times and I have read numerous books etc. We argue and...
    NewbeginningsDJ NewbeginningsDJ 31-35, F Sep 24, 2013

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    I Need Help!

    My husband always makes commitments such as quitting smoking or calling the doctor to quit smoking, not drinking unless its a special occasion, etc. And then he breaks them himself. I get so let down because one day he's sitting there stating how his life would be better if he...
    pitabread86 pitabread86 26-30 1 Response Jun 11, 2013

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    Where Do I Go From Here?

    My husband and I will be married for 12 years in June if we can make it that long.  For the past year things have not been right between us.  We have really distanced ourselves from eachother.  Honestly I was the first to do this.  I was not happy. ...
    hbcmom1978 hbcmom1978 31-35, F 2 Responses May 18, 2010

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    I Can't Do Anything Right In His Eyes

    As soon as my husband comes in the door, he starts griping at the kids and myself..Did u do x, y, and z? Y havent u done it yet? u made chicken fingers and fries for dinner? u know it won't kill u to cook something that takes a lil time and effort. um, excuse me but there r 3...
    creativepassion4404 creativepassion4404 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 24, 2012

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    A Rant

    I am so sorry to do this. I understand that people have bigger problems then i but i need to get this out. i feel like my brain is all scrambled up everyday. Man i dont even know if this is the right area for this topic. I am married to a guy it will be 5 years this month. The...
    mglasbrenner mglasbrenner 26-30 1 Response Sep 29, 2012

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    Think My Husband Is Cheating On Me

    My husband has always been a loving father and husband.  We have been married for 25 years.  My husband loves to go hunting and fishing with his nephew and friends every week-end that he can.  Well, on one of these week-ends, after returning from one of his hunting...
    maria2care maria2care 56-60, F 4 Responses Jul 11, 2010

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    So Tired...

    I am so tired.  I married at age 25 and am now 41.  My husband is the same age.  Before we were married a month, he told me he was going to put his business first for one year.  It hurt my feelings but he told me many times that "it's all about him" so what...
    carolyn63119 carolyn63119 41-45 2 Responses Oct 29, 2010

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    Wife Says She Hates Me And Wants Me Out Of Her Life, But I Can't Stop Loving Her Or Leave

    my wife says the most horrible things to me, can also be physically abusive. has to control everything. she says she wants me out but she has played so my pschological torture games in the past i can't believe any of it. we have survived so many crazy things in the past and i...
    mark46 mark46 46-50, M 11 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    i have been married now

    for 3 years and my wife and I have had many problems. We have had some bad fights and she has punched me in the face 4 or five times but I have never hit her. Last time we had a fight she spat in my face and has told me she wishes I would die. I have said some pretty horrible...
    seabream seabream 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 27

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    I Am Slowly Dying

    so glad I found this! I am 29..turning 30 next month and my husband is 60. We have been together 9 years and have 2 young kids. Our daughter is 7 and our son is 2. I love this man with all of my heart. He has been my best friend and partner, however over the last year I have...
    eduKted eduKted 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2013

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    When is enough, enough?

    I honestly don't know what to do. My husband is secretive and I feel like he is extremely deceitful. This ***** with my head in the worst way possible. There is one girl who he has been talking to for years and he calls her beautiful and stunning, I confront him with my...
    lj1127 lj1127 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    I Left Last Night- Need Someone To Talk To

    Hi. This is my first post here. It might come off as sort of strange sounding, because I'm writing in a Starbucks and desperately trying to control my emotions. I dont have anyone to talk to because i dont have any friends and I dont really want to involve my family. I...
    cinnacracker cinnacracker 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Alright, this is gonna be long, so prepare yourself for this. I'm gonna start off with some background info: To put it bluntly, I have nobody. My family doesn't give 2 f***s...
    Rudale Rudale 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    It happened to me yesterday and I still don't know what to think about it. There already is someone I already love (we're not in a relationship though, I wrote about it in my...
    GlowingHeart GlowingHeart 18-21, F Aug 24

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    ...When my urge to talk to him becomes unbearable. I love him so dearly, but I bet he still has his girlfriend, so I can't bother him all the time... It hurts because I really love...
    WinterIncandescence WinterIncandescence 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    New to all of this. Help please I feel like my marriage is falling apart and I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and have been together for 10...
    hopeful1220 hopeful1220 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I wish I had someone to hang out with tonight. I feel like being social. But I don't know if I feel like going to a high school football game. It's kind if cold, I'd be going by...
    saundra04 saundra04 26-30, F a week ago

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    Two summers ago I moved in with my one of my older sisters. Ever since I moved in with her I have been watching her child for her while she worked. For the longest time I wasn't...
    MsHesitationsx3 MsHesitationsx3 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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