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I Am In a Bad Marriage

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    I know my marriage is bad

    and that it's over but it just hit me like a ton of bricks that I don't have a man that will look at me with that look of love and just mouth the words "I love you" because he does It's not too much to ask for i think Just one man to love me for who I am and to tell me and...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    Okay we I had lots of positive feedback from my

    first couple posts :) went seen my lawyer(thankfully he is the next street over, we came up with a plan to have my husband removed from the home if necessary) there are no openings in any shelters right now, make fire tore through one and everyone has been displaced okay so took...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    I try to help her because I know what will

    happen to her if leave her. I get upset by her bluntly and emotional abuse. Twenty five years of marriage and this the way it ends. If I let her go she will end up in a nursing home or some place worse. I'm stuck here because I care to much for a woman with disabilities. I wasn...
    equusrider equusrider 56-60, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Not Sure What To Do..

    I have been married for 7 years, have one toddler son, and am expecting a second child in a couple of months. I have always had problems with my husband, even before we were married. We've gone to couples therapy in the past, to great improvement in our situation each time. My...
    jlkb jlkb 31-35 6 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    God I don't want to be a shell.

    I don't want to lose myself, my identity, because I am being abused. I am aware, but still blind. I know he will never change, but yet I stay with hope. Are there really guys out there that treat women right, or are they all like this? Is this normal? Is this my fault? I feel...
    nursingstudentxo nursingstudentxo 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I have a question. I feel sick I'm married with

    5 kids. Last year my wife was sneaking around seeing some guy and I found out. Began to move forward then dude said they had sex. She denies it but idk what to believe. I don't trust her AT ALL! But I don't wanna leave my kids. What y'all think I should do moving forward.
    justdatcalloway justdatcalloway 26-30, M 3 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Is It Really Going to Get Better?

    I keep oscillating between wanting to get out of the marriage; and trying to carry on. Deep in my heart I know that if I leave, I'll feel liberated and ecstatic. But the reality is that the kids will be shattered. Another reality is that maybe the marriage can be worked upon...
    skylightangel skylightangel 31-35, F 6 Responses May 23, 2007

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    OMG! I made the mistake of walking away from an

    oncoming scolding today at the tree farm. He stopped in the middle of the road and started to yell for me, so I stopped on the other side of the road and asked politely what he wanted, he started to yell at me that he wanted me over there with him now, like I'm a 5 year old...
    Lld84 Lld84 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    Walked into the door

    after a long week. I guess after a week like this a normal husband and wife would say "hey" to each other, maybe give a kiss, and ask how their day was. Me on the other hand just get her in a bad mood, talking to me like a child (because she is a teacher and she can't...
    Burai Burai 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 19, 2014

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    I came home from work with flowers

    for her, she was sitting at the desk on the computer looked over and said thanks, There's a vase under the sink - want to put those in water." Just haven't felt like bringing her flowers ever since - am I wrong or just childish?
    azk9jack azk9jack 56-60, M 5 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I feel so hurt. I can hardly

    even write on here. I feel so lonely and lost. I am married and my husband treats me bad and blames me for everything. I want to leave but don't have the strength to leave. I sometimes think should I stay for the kids. My husband drinks on and off. I ask him not to drink...
    lonilyheart lonilyheart 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    My husband is a workaholic he is unromantic

    and thinks that life should be all about working so our grandchildren which we don't have (I'm 29) can have a better life. I'm all about saving and planning but he forgets about the family he has now. Additionally I find in his phone that he is inappropriately texting other...
    StilettoEsquire StilettoEsquire 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16

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    Marriage Is Stupid

    I do not believe in marriage anymore. Unconditional love and promises can not exist in a marriage. There are always lies and hidden facts. I have been married for 15 years, one kid (9), no physical contact with husband since conception almost ten years ago (same room separate...
    tiredandhopeless tiredandhopeless 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 2, 2013

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    I am just looking to vent a little bit here.

    I've been married for 20 years. It's been 20 years of pretty awful. My husband doesn't have conversations with me and we haven't been intimate for 4 years. Anything I want to do, he is not interested in. Pretty sure he's having an affair and I think he won't leave me because...
    endjoy1994 endjoy1994 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 30, 2014

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    I wonder why in a society

    where marriage is probably love before marriage fails. While in some of our communities, there is a relationship before marriage.
    XOSO XOSO 51-55 Mar 20

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    I Hate My Marriage

    My husband and I had a horrible dating experience. We had everything from arguments About small things to me waking up from being choked out on the bathroom floor. Now why marry him u ask?? I'm not sure. Was it a sad self love of Myself? I don't know. I thought marriage would...
    lost3forme lost3forme 26-30 2 Responses May 18, 2013

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    I'm In a Bad Place

    I have been married over 30 years and am in a bad place.  He is verbally abusive and I feel like I have nowhere to turn.  It's easy for everyone to tell you to leave, but it is a case that I stayed too long, am financially deeply locked to him and feel...
    LaurieK LaurieK 51-55 11 Responses Jul 29, 2009

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    I am effin' done. Today is her birthday

    and her mood was mopey all day. When she got to opening the present I got her, she was disappointed even though it was EXACTLY what she wanted. Now rewind 5 days earlier. We celebrate her birthday at her parents' house. She is all happy, giggly, and full of life. This is what I...
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 6 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    candycc12 candycc12 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    This week I am filing

    for divorce after 15 years of marriage. I gave been unhappy for too long. I have tried my best to fix it, but it has come to an end.
    dirtyratbastard dirtyratbastard 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 1

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    I Never Realized It Would Be Such a Big Mistake

    I live in India, where arranged marriages are the norm. But a lot of people (like my 2 sisters) find their own mates, and marry them. So if u fall in love, you marry your lover, else mom and dad find you a husband. My situation was so weird; and now I think how stupid I was...
    skylightangel skylightangel 31-35, F 13 Responses May 20, 2007

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    Broken Spell

    I am not only in a bad marriage but one it seems I cant get out of...but I have already written those stories elsewhere...suffice it to say its bad enough...not one person who knows us thinks we should work it out...well today my spouse called from prison...the first six times I...
    wickedlittlepixie wickedlittlepixie 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    Oh joy!! Today I've been told I'm a bad mother,

    disgusting, and I hate you by my my husband who won't leave when I tell him we need to separate. No wonder I'm a complete basket case most of the time.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 4, 2014

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    I Wrote This Letter To My Husband...

    Dear Husband:I want to express how I feel about our sex life.  You and I have not made love for a very long time.  I used to keep track but it made me angry, sad, frustrated and actually depressed.  I find it is best not to do so and sadden my very soul. I have a realization...
    SalomeIris SalomeIris 46-50, F 12 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I think he wants me to be the one to finally

    say it's over. We normally go over to his parents for the holidays and yesterday he bowed out. He didn't even come. I'm not complaining. It was so peaceful, there were no arguements, no stress, and it was the first holiday since we've been together that I didn't have an anxiety...
    Lld84 Lld84 26-30, F Nov 28, 2014

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    I just got finished texting my mother in law.

    I told her about my plans to divorce after the holidays. Surprisingly she was very supportive and agrees with my decision to ask for it. But now I'm sitting at work, trying to hold back my emotions about the convo, and silently crying, good lord I probably look like hell right...
    Lld84 Lld84 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I know it sounds corny

    but I do know what Billy Joel meant by "I just want someone that I can talk to." In my case "someone who can talk about anything: politics, movies, the economy, Kimmel or Fallon, thrones/Homeland, coke, Pepsi. That and a decent pair of legs wouldn't hurt. What I wouldn't give...
    fortysomeone2 fortysomeone2 46-50 2 Responses Mar 19

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    So we had our first date night in months.

    We finished eating early so I suggested we go home since it we would have some time alone before our kid would come home. She had other plans. We went shopping at Wal-Mart where it took her an hour to find presents for her best friend's kids. I definitely see where her...
    Burai Burai 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    I never thought I would become a mid life

    cliche.... I'm invisible to my husband and I'm lonely everyday.
    tessa1234 tessa1234 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 18

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    Sexless Christian Marriage Part 2

    Christian Sexless marriage Part 2 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 King James Version (KJV) 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 1, 2011

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    I Am Leaving

      I was having a conversation yesterday with a friend (whom I have mistreated and for that I am sincerely sorry) but the discussion was the end of my marriage. I am leaving my wife. After the holidays, God Willing, we will go our separate ways. I really wish I could run...
    Smokeseek Smokeseek 36-40, M 13 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    Ignorance Is Bliss! This Is Hell!

    I have been married almost 20 years... to a woman that barely even knows me. Sometimes I pat myself on the back for having stuck with this for so long - I stretched a 2 year marriage into 20! Woohoo! Our kids are almost grown and I have not been unfaithful despite the emotional...
    gr0mblE gr0mblE 41-45 5 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    Sometimes people are in a bad marriage because

    for a long time: one or both spouses have looked for what their spouse can do for them, instead of: "what can I do for my spouse?"...
    ForLove ForLove 46-50, M Dec 19, 2014

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    Trying My Best

    I am in central NJ and wife stopped loving me 2 years ago and I found out intimate details of an affair she had over last year. We are staying together for the kids(3) and seeing if she can get back the feeling. Every day is an incredible struggle. New to online support and glad...
    trying123 trying123 46-50 4 Responses Mar 16, 2011

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    Sadness

    alone i am, and is how i will stay. id rather be alone than be treated this way. you are black and cruel and justifiably wrong, and i'm a bird who's tied down that needs to sing her songs. a boring, lying creature, guilty all of the time so sneaky and talentless, not creative...
    Paininmyeye Paininmyeye 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    I used to think being married would be a great

    experience, I saw my parents madly in love with each other and yes they fought and eventually divorced but the funny thing is they are in love with each other they just both have such a strong personality that they cannot live together lol I am in a marriage where we don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    He wants some today :( it has been a long while.

    I am content without the contact. But he isn't now. How can I force myself to be want something I just don't want? It's hard. I don't want to hurt honor make him feel bad but I don't want any from him. Our relationship isn't like that anymore. We are friends, roommates, ok sure...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 29

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    Once again my wife gets angry

    for little or no reason & so I'm sleeping on the couch...but I've learned that's a great time to ********** & chat on EP...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    Going on 6 day vacation tomorrow

    and I'm having major anxiety about it. 6 days - and nights - of 100% time with husband without alone time. It never works out well for either one of us. I kind of want to stay home, but it would upset kids. But anxiety is peaking!!
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2014

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    If I had a way to leave here today with my kids

    and know that we would be ok, I would! I'm completely tired of this marriage I'm in.. All he does is walks around catching an attitude with me because al he thinks about is f*cking.. His reason being because we don't have sex at all.. It's to long of a story to explain...
    prizedeyes prizedeyes 31-35, F 4 Responses May 24

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    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    Bad Bad Bad

    We live under one roof and sleep separately. . . I mean different rooms. We never talk except about the kids. I eat with my kids. When he wants to eat I offer a plate and serve him. I wait, while doing something, till he finishes his meal. I can't have a productive conversation...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 51 Responses Sep 28, 2011

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    Is There Hope?

    Being married for 25 years should feel like an achievement, but it doesn't - for me, at least.  I feel like I have been alone in this marriage for more than half of those 25 years and yet, I still cannot decide if I want to stay or not.  Maybe not deciding is the...
    criselda criselda 41-45, F 9 Responses Oct 16, 2007

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    I called my wife about our finances.

    Of course she has to get an attitude because she automatically thinks it's my fault and of course she has to make an attitude while she was with her sister to make me look bad. But when I pointed out what I was asking about was because of something she did, that attitude quickly...
    Burai Burai 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    I feel like I'm at a stand still.

    Things aren't going well but we don't have good communication. We are both unhappy. We have kids and financial responsibility. We can't just pick up and leave. It would affect everyone. We are both trapped in this situation. We have to have a talk though. It's eating at me...
    lovinglife11 lovinglife11 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    So today got was a waking moment

    for me. I got a speeding ticket, and called to tell my husband about it. It happens to the best of us. But of course he was mad because everything i do is wrong. When i told him I was shocked at his anger, he proceeded to berate and criticize me about not paying attention and...
    lynnethedreamer lynnethedreamer 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 24, 2014

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