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I Am In a Bad Marriage

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    hopesnfears hopesnfears 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 7

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    Can't Fight It Any Longer

    I am 32 and am married to a man 20 years my senior. He has been controlling ever since we said "I do." Married when I was 19 and did not know any better. Recently I have been trying to do my own thing more and he is having huge issues with it. He has a very set routine...
    kelly1924 kelly1924 31-35 3 Responses Jun 15, 2008

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    Marriage Is Stupid

    I do not believe in marriage anymore. Unconditional love and promises can not exist in a marriage. There are always lies and hidden facts. I have been married for 15 years, one kid (9), no physical contact with husband since conception almost ten years ago (same room separate...
    tiredandhopeless tiredandhopeless 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 2, 2013

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    Living With An Emotional Abuser

    I have lived with my emotionally abusive spouse William, for the past 18 years.  Like many others I stay because of financial commitments, one son still living at home, my pet dogs and my age.  Things became so bad a little while ago, that I...
    nino34 nino34 56-60, F 13 Responses May 4, 2010

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    Dealing with this crap from my husband.

    I want him to give me the divorce papers. Instead of taking things day by day has he saids. Who wants to live there life wondering what day and time someone is going to say I have had enough. I mean this is stupid. Than I ask him if he's in love with me or just have love for...
    OverPowered1 OverPowered1 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I love my wife but we are two drastically

    different people with two different agendas in life. I stay because I love her and I don't know how to go back to being single, I don't know how to walk away from 3 tough years of marriage, I don't know how I could ever be happy with anyone at this point... There is enough...
    BlackSenpai BlackSenpai 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 13

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    I Believe Its Over

    o my where do i start?! well me and my husband have been having troubles and we decided to take a breather for a little bit and give him space to heal and space for me to heal as well. we are currently in wa state and im gonna go bck to my home state with family, he says he is ok...
    hbald0122 hbald0122 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 20, 2013

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    Trapped But Optimistic

    I have been married for over 18 years. I am very dissatisfied with my life. My husband has told me outright that he is not interested in me or my what I do. I work with children and he does not, and when I even begin to share my day he walks away. When I was pregnant and needed...
    kwanyin kwanyin 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 19, 2010

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    I Never Realized It Would Be Such a Big Mistake

    I live in India, where arranged marriages are the norm. But a lot of people (like my 2 sisters) find their own mates, and marry them. So if u fall in love, you marry your lover, else mom and dad find you a husband. My situation was so weird; and now I think how stupid I was...
    skylightangel skylightangel 31-35, F 13 Responses May 20, 2007

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    Sadness

    alone i am, and is how i will stay. id rather be alone than be treated this way. you are black and cruel and justifiably wrong, and i'm a bird who's tied down that needs to sing her songs. a boring, lying creature, guilty all of the time so sneaky and talentless, not creative...
    Paininmyeye Paininmyeye 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 30, 2010

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    Well where do I start?

    It didn't used to be a bad marriage when we got married 13 years ago in 2001, I was 25 and she was 24. In fact it was a very good marriage, I loved her and she loved me, we do still love eachother in a way, she loves me more then I love her though. But things changed, I went...
    HPeterson HPeterson 36-40, M Apr 9

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    Don't Know What To Do Any More.

    My husband and I have been together for 16yrs. and married 11yrs.  We were the best of friends and everything in the world to each other in the beginning. But out of the blue he started to cheat on me. This started about 14yrs. ago. He swore that it was a one time mistake and...
    carolyn2969 carolyn2969 36-40 6 Responses Jan 26, 2011

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    Bad Bad Bad

    We live under one roof and sleep separately. . . I mean different rooms. We never talk except about the kids. I eat with my kids. When he wants to eat I offer a plate and serve him. I wait, while doing something, till he finishes his meal. I can't have a productive conversation...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 50 Responses Sep 28, 2011

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    I Am Leaving

      I was having a conversation yesterday with a friend (whom I have mistreated and for that I am sincerely sorry) but the discussion was the end of my marriage. I am leaving my wife. After the holidays, God Willing, we will go our separate ways. I really wish I could run...
    Smokeseek Smokeseek 36-40, M 15 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    I used to think being married would be a great

    experience, I saw my parents madly in love with each other and yes they fought and eventually divorced but the funny thing is they are in love with each other they just both have such a strong personality that they cannot live together lol I am in a marriage where we don't...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    So today got was a waking moment

    for me. I got a speeding ticket, and called to tell my husband about it. It happens to the best of us. But of course he was mad because everything i do is wrong. When i told him I was shocked at his anger, he proceeded to berate and criticize me about not paying attention and...
    lynnethedreamer lynnethedreamer 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    Trying My Best

    I am in central NJ and wife stopped loving me 2 years ago and I found out intimate details of an affair she had over last year. We are staying together for the kids(3) and seeing if she can get back the feeling. Every day is an incredible struggle. New to online support and glad...
    trying123 trying123 46-50 3 Responses Mar 16, 2011

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    My wife and I met in college 14 years ago

    but we didn't date we just were friends. She leaves to return home because one of her parents get ill and we lose contact until 3 years ago. At that time we connect on Facebook I visit her and the rest is history. We had a long distance relationship for our entire time dating...
    Solonelysc Solonelysc 31-35, M Jul 14

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    I Wrote This Letter To My Husband...

    Dear Husband:I want to express how I feel about our sex life.  You and I have not made love for a very long time.  I used to keep track but it made me angry, sad, frustrated and actually depressed.  I find it is best not to do so and sadden my very soul. I have a realization...
    SalomeIris SalomeIris 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Okay we I had lots of positive feedback from my

    first couple posts :) went seen my lawyer(thankfully he is the next street over, we came up with a plan to have my husband removed from the home if necessary) there are no openings in any shelters right now, make fire tore through one and everyone has been displaced okay so took...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Tonight is one of those nights

    that prove that I cannot stand this BS marriage anymore. Where she keeps on choosing her family before me. I signed up for this marriage and to be a part of her family, not in competition and always losing.
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 7

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    Me and my husband tried to watch a movie

    together. It just seems forced. Our interaction with one another is forced... I feel like we are more like roommates than a couple. I cannot be completely myself without him trying to point out the negative. Sometimes I want to leave. But then I always think about how I felt...
    Shawneeluv Shawneeluv 22-25, F Jul 6

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    Tonight at dinner, our kid was playing with her

    toys. This gave my wife & I the opportunity to talk. But my wife had other plans. She spent the color the restaurant's kids menu. This is why I'm done with this marriage. If it wasn't for my kid and my beliefs I would walk away. But I'm done trying. And if she ever wonders why...
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 6

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    I'm Afraid That I Am...

    we have been having troubles for almost the entirety of our marriage and we've been married less than a year.  i do things that **** him off, he does things that hurt me.  same old sob story anyone has.  i know i'm not perfect. i don't know when to give up though...
    atali atali 26-30, F 14 Responses Oct 16, 2009

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    I Hate My Marriage

    My husband and I had a horrible dating experience. We had everything from arguments About small things to me waking up from being choked out on the bathroom floor. Now why marry him u ask?? I'm not sure. Was it a sad self love of Myself? I don't know. I thought marriage would...
    lost3forme lost3forme 26-30 2 Responses May 18, 2013

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    Broken Spell

    I am not only in a bad marriage but one it seems I cant get out of...but I have already written those stories elsewhere...suffice it to say its bad enough...not one person who knows us thinks we should work it out...well today my spouse called from prison...the first six times I...
    wickedlittlepixie wickedlittlepixie 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2012

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    My wife just told me

    that we shouldn't celebrate our anniversary this week. Fine by me. The rest of our marriage is sham. Why pretend we are okay one day out of the year?
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 6

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    So the first time in a long time my wife

    and I had sex. And I've never felt more empty in our marriage. This is why. This sort of thing happens every few months. She feels bad, notices I'm becoming distant, and decides to initiate sex. Then afterwards she gets more physical such as holding hands, showing PDA, actually...
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 8

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    31 Years Of Misery

    Today is our anniversary. 31 years of marriage. 31 years of lies, betrayal, anger, and sadness. But I'm stuck. I've been stuck since the day I met him. He made me feel like I was lovable, that I wasn't worthless, or stupid, or all those other things the monsters that raised me...
    Stinler55 Stinler55 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Ignorance Is Bliss! This Is Hell!

    I have been married almost 20 years... to a woman that barely even knows me. Sometimes I pat myself on the back for having stuck with this for so long - I stretched a 2 year marriage into 20! Woohoo! Our kids are almost grown and I have not been unfaithful despite the emotional...
    gr0mblE gr0mblE 41-45 4 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    Rude Husband Who Is Also Broke

    I got married 11 years back. It was a love marriage. My husband didn't do anything like he didn't have a job. My father got him a job. After marriage he was very stingy towards me. He was a very arrogant person. He always had issues with my family even though my father was...
    Sararafi Sararafi 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Not Sure What To Do..

    I have been married for 7 years, have one toddler son, and am expecting a second child in a couple of months. I have always had problems with my husband, even before we were married. We've gone to couples therapy in the past, to great improvement in our situation each time. My...
    jlkb jlkb 31-35 6 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    I Want To Leave But He Won't Let Me

    I know he's been accumilating blackmail so I can't leave. We have 2 toddlers and joint custody. I can't look up my options because I'm not allowed to erase the history. I need help.
    faith4truth faith4truth 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2010

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    I have been in a common law marriage

    for nearly 4 years. There have been many issues with me especially because i battle some anxiety and depression issues. Then i met someone... And i had an affair. My husband left me and moved out. Now though we are in counselling for our relationship, im in personal counselling...
    saria89 saria89 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I am effin' done. Today is her birthday

    and her mood was mopey all day. When she got to opening the present I got her, she was disappointed even though it was EXACTLY what she wanted. Now rewind 5 days earlier. We celebrate her birthday at her parents' house. She is all happy, giggly, and full of life. This is what I...
    Shaider83 Shaider83 31-35, M 7 Responses Jun 11

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    I have so many qualities of a good wife

    and he just takes it all for granted. I no longer look at him as the man Love and just see our marriage as business arrangement and I am starting to feel very underpaid and miss the enjoyment and pride I used to feel when I called myself his wife.
    Jayne0915 Jayne0915 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I'm In a Bad Place

    I have been married over 30 years and am in a bad place.  He is verbally abusive and I feel like I have nowhere to turn.  It's easy for everyone to tell you to leave, but it is a case that I stayed too long, am financially deeply locked to him and feel...
    LaurieK LaurieK 51-55 11 Responses Jul 29, 2009

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    My husband decided to leave me on valentines

    this year and went to Vegas with his friend until Monday . And last weekend he left and went to Arizona . For The past 2 weeks he's only stayed home 2 times and he constantly look for reasons to hangout at his guy friend house . Every since he's met this guy he's with Him...
    dieshaixx dieshaixx 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    Stop this madness!! we must stop those good

    people ... They are ruining the goodness of this evil world... Lets all pray brothers and sisters for their soon death amen ...
    Zoce Zoce 18-21, M Feb 16

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    Hi. I am not sure what to think at this point.

    I tolerate things and am often accused of being the catalyst. Granted, I can be a *****, but as I reinvent, I think that it may not be me. I am so reactive and this gives him the upper hand and opens the door for further insults and degrading. Perhaps he does not realize what...
    LadyCape00 LadyCape00 36-40, F Feb 26

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    Tired sad confused hurt I feel like I have made

    very bad choices after my first marriage and now I don't know how to fix it. I pretty sure my husband doesn't even view me like a real person. We don't have sex in fact I looked up 10 worst things to do in a marriage and its like he looked them up too and that's what he does in...
    robinme1967 robinme1967 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    Loveless Marriage, What To Do

    My husband and I have been married 15 years. We have two kids, one with ADHD and oppositional defiant behavior.  He has emotional and behavioral problems and we have worked with many professionals.  The more research I did, the more I realized my husband also has ADD...
    k9doctor k9doctor 36-40 5 Responses Mar 19, 2010

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    Oh joy!! Today I've been told I'm a bad mother,

    disgusting, and I hate you by my my husband who won't leave when I tell him we need to separate. No wonder I'm a complete basket case most of the time.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    Is It Really Going to Get Better?

    I keep oscillating between wanting to get out of the marriage; and trying to carry on. Deep in my heart I know that if I leave, I'll feel liberated and ecstatic. But the reality is that the kids will be shattered. Another reality is that maybe the marriage can be worked upon...
    skylightangel skylightangel 31-35, F 6 Responses May 23, 2007

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    Suprise!!

    my husband and i have been together for 2yrs but only married for one and these past few months have been miserable. i live in a sexless marriage with no intimatcy in any kind of away bc he says hes emotionally detached but the want for that has faded and now all i see is how...
    hbald0122 hbald0122 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    Where do I start . I don't know

    if I'm in a bad marriage or I was just disillusioned to what marriage is. My husband rarely pays attention to me . We have lived out of state since we got married so I don't have a real big support system . I'm lonely we raise his daughter full time. He rarely takes me out , all...
    lynnethedreamer lynnethedreamer 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 22

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    It will be 28 years,and today I'm exhausted.

    He has a drinking problem,he will be good for 3-4 months,then he falls off yhe wagon. I've stood by him and have stayed with him all this time, even with his 3 affairs,that I know of,the disappears of 3-5 day benders,but I'm exhausted. I work a full time job plus do the books...
    27hurt 27hurt 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I need someone to tell me they succeeded.

    I am about to give birth and already have a toddler son. I have no means to support myself and children and no family to help. I have been a waitress all my life and am about 11 credits away from a criminal justice degree. My marriage is horrible and he isn't willing to change...
    infinitebeauty7 infinitebeauty7 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    Is There Hope?

    Being married for 25 years should feel like an achievement, but it doesn't - for me, at least.  I feel like I have been alone in this marriage for more than half of those 25 years and yet, I still cannot decide if I want to stay or not.  Maybe not deciding is the...
    criselda criselda 41-45, F 8 Responses Oct 16, 2007

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    My husband has an ex

    and 2 adult children who all depend on free handouts. The kids are 20 and 18 and have never had jobs. My husband doesn't really parent them and his excuse is they don't live nearby. We spent thousands of dollars on them. Child support and alimony. Meanwhile I have 2 nephews...
    bluejackyl bluejackyl 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    Here We Go Again

    Here We Go Again..... I posted a little over a year ago about my history with an emotionally abusive husband. We had had a big blowout that night when I posted. Funny thing, the blowout had come after my brother had visited for a whopping 2 days. My husband has always been like...
    sewbuggy423 sewbuggy423 56-60, F 3 Responses Oct 22, 2013

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    Here I Go Again

    I will admit that I am bad at being married.... This is round three and this time he has got to be the worst. There have been no repeats of the Ike and Tina event but as time goes on I seem to be getting better at preventing an argument. Am I still in love with him? No. Do I...
    JYB1978 JYB1978 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 12, 2007

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    This Is It

    I realized today that this is it. This really is my life. I really am unhappy in my marriage. Maybe the reason my husband says I'm unhappy all the time is him. My husband says he does things for me but when it comes down to it- Does he help me out in the house the way I need...
    BoraBora BoraBora 26-30 2 Responses Nov 29, 2009

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