I Am In a Bad Marriage

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    Do we kiss? No. He gets more excited about big

    booty models than me. I just got a new hairdo. I was thinking maybe I need do something different with my appearance. All I got was, "that looks nice." If I was a instagram twerking model it would have been, "Damn!. He comes home get on his tablet and tune out. If we talk its...
    Cazear04 Cazear04
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 2, 2015

    I Wrote This Letter To My Husband...

    Dear Husband:I want to express how I feel about our sex life.  You and I have not made love for a very long time.  I used to keep track but it made me angry, sad, frustrated and actually depressed.  I find it is best not to do so and sadden my very soul. I have a realization...
    SalomeIris SalomeIris
    46-50, F
    11 Responses Apr 22, 2012

    I came home from work with flowers

    for her, she was sitting at the desk on the computer looked over and said thanks, There's a vase under the sink - want to put those in water." Just haven't felt like bringing her flowers ever since - am I wrong or just childish?
    azk9jack azk9jack
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

    He wants some today :( it has been a long while.

    I am content without the contact. But he isn't now. How can I force myself to be want something I just don't want? It's hard. I don't want to hurt honor make him feel bad but I don't want any from him. Our relationship isn't like that anymore. We are friends, roommates, ok sure...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Mar 29, 2015


    alone i am, and is how i will stay. id rather be alone than be treated this way. you are black and cruel and justifiably wrong, and i'm a bird who's tied down that needs to sing her songs. a boring, lying creature, guilty all of the time so sneaky and talentless, not creative...
    Paininmyeye Paininmyeye
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Dec 30, 2010

    I have never done anything like this before

    and I am afraid. I have been married for 17 years to a woman who has such a beautiful side to her but is horribly difficult. Living with her is hell. She is abusive to me in so many ways. She tells me I am a jerk, nut case, horrible father and husband. She won't let me sleep...
    QJoseph QJoseph
    36-40, M
    Feb 25, 2016

    Is It Really Going to Get Better?

    I keep oscillating between wanting to get out of the marriage; and trying to carry on. Deep in my heart I know that if I leave, I'll feel liberated and ecstatic. But the reality is that the kids will be shattered. Another reality is that maybe the marriage can be worked upon...
    skylightangel skylightangel
    31-35, F
    6 Responses May 23, 2007

    After coming home from work to find the kitchen

    I cleaned messy and my wife (who doesn't work) emotionally abusing our son. I intervene. My wife goes off to pout. After talking with my son, I go to talk to my wife about her behavior. She's playing on her phone, is not listening and is generally rude. In frustration I...
    Woody6 Woody6
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jan 17, 2016

    Trying to figure out how one cigarette in over

    12 hours makes me a "heavy smoker"? I've just about had enough of trying to keep him happy and failing no matter which way I turn
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 29, 2015

    I feel like I'm at a stand still.

    Things aren't going well but we don't have good communication. We are both unhappy. We have kids and financial responsibility. We can't just pick up and leave. It would affect everyone. We are both trapped in this situation. We have to have a talk though. It's eating at me...
    Freedomnow01 Freedomnow01
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    hate this marriage that i am in.

    There is no respect. Feels like i just have to do what she tells me to. Not allowed to male mistakes
    jry7of9777 jry7of9777
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 28, 2015

    I can't wait to see how this one plays out.

    .. Early in our marriage, we were talking about male grooming - particularly relating to facial hair and he explained how he used to have a moustache and asked me about my feelings on him possibly growing one again. At the time, my experience of a man with a moustache was...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 13, 2016

    I wonder why in a society

    where marriage is probably love before marriage fails. While in some of our communities, there is a relationship before marriage.
    Mar 20, 2015

    I feel so hurt. I can hardly

    even write on here. I feel so lonely and lost. I am married and my husband treats me bad and blames me for everything. I want to leave but don't have the strength to leave. I sometimes think should I stay for the kids. My husband drinks on and off. I ask him not to drink...
    lonilyheart lonilyheart
    41-45, F
    Oct 22, 2014

    I'm In a Bad Place

    I have been married over 30 years and am in a bad place.  He is verbally abusive and I feel like I have nowhere to turn.  It's easy for everyone to tell you to leave, but it is a case that I stayed too long, am financially deeply locked to him and feel...
    LaurieK LaurieK
    9 Responses Jul 29, 2009

    This week I am filing

    for divorce after 15 years of marriage. I gave been unhappy for too long. I have tried my best to fix it, but it has come to an end.
    dirtyratbastard dirtyratbastard
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    Walked into the door

    after a long week. I guess after a week like this a normal husband and wife would say "hey" to each other, maybe give a kiss, and ask how their day was. Me on the other hand just get her in a bad mood, talking to me like a child (because she is a teacher and she can't...
    Burai Burai
    31-35, M
    Dec 19, 2014

    I used to think being married would be a great

    experience, I saw my parents madly in love with each other and yes they fought and eventually divorced but the funny thing is they are in love with each other they just both have such a strong personality that they cannot live together lol I am in a marriage where we don't...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    Well, the storm is over.

    We're in councilling, my wife is getting medical help. My sister-in-law is living with us, looking after my wife. It's almost as if nothing had happened. Except for me. I feel like a zombie. I've no energy, little enthusiasm and am generally disconnected. I'm going through the...
    Woody6 Woody6
    41-45, M
    Jan 23, 2016

    Where to begin. Been married 14 years.

    Last 7-9 have been a living hell. My wife and I both work full time, and have a 14 year old daughter. Our parenting styles are night and day. She is a "its ok honey, your special" type, Im more of a "did you learn a lesson" type. As far as our marriage goes, theres not much...
    Drummmer78 Drummmer78
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    I think he wants me to be the one to finally

    say it's over. We normally go over to his parents for the holidays and yesterday he bowed out. He didn't even come. I'm not complaining. It was so peaceful, there were no arguements, no stress, and it was the first holiday since we've been together that I didn't have an anxiety...
    Lld84 Lld84
    31-35, F
    Nov 28, 2014

    I try to help her because I know what will

    happen to her if leave her. I get upset by her bluntly and emotional abuse. Twenty five years of marriage and this the way it ends. If I let her go she will end up in a nursing home or some place worse. I'm stuck here because I care to much for a woman with disabilities. I wasn...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 27, 2015

    I know my marriage is bad

    and that it's over but it just hit me like a ton of bricks that I don't have a man that will look at me with that look of love and just mouth the words "I love you" because he does It's not too much to ask for i think Just one man to love me for who I am and to tell me and...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

    I Am Leaving

      I was having a conversation yesterday with a friend (whom I have mistreated and for that I am sincerely sorry) but the discussion was the end of my marriage. I am leaving my wife. After the holidays, God Willing, we will go our separate ways. I really wish I could run...
    Smokeseek Smokeseek
    36-40, M
    12 Responses Dec 4, 2008

    i dont give flying f*** about your 40 yr old

    band. take out the gd trash.
    deleted deleted
    Oct 2, 2015

    I am effin' done. Today is her birthday

    and her mood was mopey all day. When she got to opening the present I got her, she was disappointed even though it was EXACTLY what she wanted. Now rewind 5 days earlier. We celebrate her birthday at her parents' house. She is all happy, giggly, and full of life. This is what I...
    Shaider83 Shaider83
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

    it really sucks and being

    that we have four kids I try to make it work...I have been on ep looking for stress relief and attention.... now that its closing I think I will work on my ****** marriage.....I can try again but the amount of disrespect he gives me makes it hard to even like him at times. he is...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 1, 2016

    Sometimes people are in a bad marriage because

    for a long time: one or both spouses have looked for what their spouse can do for them, instead of: "what can I do for my spouse?"...
    ForLove ForLove
    46-50, M
    Dec 19, 2014

    My husband is a workaholic he is unromantic

    and thinks that life should be all about working so our grandchildren which we don't have (I'm 29) can have a better life. I'm all about saving and planning but he forgets about the family he has now. Additionally I find in his phone that he is inappropriately texting other...
    StilettoEsquire StilettoEsquire
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 16, 2015

    I Never Realized It Would Be Such a Big Mistake

    I live in India, where arranged marriages are the norm. But a lot of people (like my 2 sisters) find their own mates, and marry them. So if u fall in love, you marry your lover, else mom and dad find you a husband. My situation was so weird; and now I think how stupid I was...
    skylightangel skylightangel
    31-35, F
    13 Responses May 20, 2007
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 13, 2014

    I never thought I would become a mid life

    cliche.... I'm invisible to my husband and I'm lonely everyday.
    tessa1234 tessa1234
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    Bad Bad Bad

    We live under one roof and sleep separately. . . I mean different rooms. We never talk except about the kids. I eat with my kids. When he wants to eat I offer a plate and serve him. I wait, while doing something, till he finishes his meal. I can't have a productive conversation...
    ladyryan ladyryan
    46-50, F
    45 Responses Sep 28, 2011

    Nothing gets me hotter

    than garbage overflowing, lawn not mowed and a grown man playing video games when I get home from work. maybe the 2 hour nap he takes after work. nothing says sexy like a guy who throws cigarette butts all over patio. or one who ignores the kid he forces to live with us, even...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 1, 2015

    I have been married for over 16 years

    but I can't remember the last time I actually wanted to be here. I desperately want to leave but feel trapped. The thing that upsets me the most is that he refuses to stop touching me or making me have sex with him. Even crying or going completely limp doesn't help. I can't...
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    Jul 30, 2015
    NomoreMrniceguy563 NomoreMrniceguy563
    36-40, M
    Mar 5, 2016

    I know it sounds corny

    but I do know what Billy Joel meant by "I just want someone that I can talk to." In my case "someone who can talk about anything: politics, movies, the economy, Kimmel or Fallon, thrones/Homeland, coke, Pepsi. That and a decent pair of legs wouldn't hurt. What I wouldn't give...
    fortysomeone2 fortysomeone2
    1 Response Mar 19, 2015

    Okay we I had lots of positive feedback from my

    first couple posts :) went seen my lawyer(thankfully he is the next street over, we came up with a plan to have my husband removed from the home if necessary) there are no openings in any shelters right now, make fire tore through one and everyone has been displaced okay so took...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2014

    OMG! I made the mistake of walking away from an

    oncoming scolding today at the tree farm. He stopped in the middle of the road and started to yell for me, so I stopped on the other side of the road and asked politely what he wanted, he started to yell at me that he wanted me over there with him now, like I'm a 5 year old...
    Lld84 Lld84
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    Broken Spell

    I am not only in a bad marriage but one it seems I cant get out of...but I have already written those stories elsewhere...suffice it to say its bad enough...not one person who knows us thinks we should work it out...well today my spouse called from prison...the first six times I...
    wickedlittlepixie wickedlittlepixie
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2012

    God I don't want to be a shell.

    I don't want to lose myself, my identity, because I am being abused. I am aware, but still blind. I know he will never change, but yet I stay with hope. Are there really guys out there that treat women right, or are they all like this? Is this normal? Is this my fault? I feel...
    nursingstudentxo nursingstudentxo
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2014

    Is There Hope?

    Being married for 25 years should feel like an achievement, but it doesn't - for me, at least.  I feel like I have been alone in this marriage for more than half of those 25 years and yet, I still cannot decide if I want to stay or not.  Maybe not deciding is the...
    criselda criselda
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Oct 16, 2007

    My husband is emotionally

    and mentally abusive. He tells me that I am nothing but a fat cow, that I am useless. He tells my kids I am a deadbeat mother. He holds my animals lives over my head and threatens to kill them every time I don't do what he says. I love him, but days like today I hate him. He...
    roseblossom90 roseblossom90
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    I have been with my wife

    for six year and married for four of those. In four years I have bent over backwards for this marriage to work, my wife has mental issues...split personalitys and likes to play games or so it seems, three times I have been forced out of our marital home due to her issues with...
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses Aug 29, 2015

    I Hate My Marriage

    My husband and I had a horrible dating experience. We had everything from arguments About small things to me waking up from being choked out on the bathroom floor. Now why marry him u ask?? I'm not sure. Was it a sad self love of Myself? I don't know. I thought marriage would...
    lost3forme lost3forme
    2 Responses May 18, 2013

    I just got finished texting my mother in law.

    I told her about my plans to divorce after the holidays. Surprisingly she was very supportive and agrees with my decision to ask for it. But now I'm sitting at work, trying to hold back my emotions about the convo, and silently crying, good lord I probably look like hell right...
    Lld84 Lld84
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

    Have you ever seen the movie the "Perfect

    Storm". At one point the camera goes close in on one of the fishermen...he has a face of utter defeat. Bleakness. Dispair and yet he also has a face of a man that has come to grips with his fate....he fully knows that there is nothing he can do. But swim in it.... and then the...
    SadMrBlue SadMrBlue
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    If I had a way to leave here today with my kids

    and know that we would be ok, I would! I'm completely tired of this marriage I'm in.. All he does is walks around catching an attitude with me because al he thinks about is f*cking.. His reason being because we don't have sex at all.. It's to long of a story to explain...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 24, 2015
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