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I Am In a Complicated Relationship

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    I pouted my heart out one last time.

    I told him my heart still aches for him. I told him I'd still like to be with him one day. I told him I didn't want to be friends, but I would take it over nothing. After an hour I didn't get a response. So I sent another text asking him to tell me if he was done with me. I...
    Darlene68 Darlene68 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I forgave my fiancé once

    for sending n***es to other men. I felt bad for snooping through her computer even. But now she's doing it again and i know it's just the attention, she'd never actually cheat on me but lately I'm not sure if it's hurtful or if I'm just jealous I can't do the same thing. Weird...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Complicated Is An Understatement For This Story

    So here is my story, its fairly long, so please, bare with me.  I met a woman that I worked with over 2 years ago, she was gorgeous, and had such a great personality, I loved being around her, when we worked together, I was happy, and when she wasnt there, I felt sad, which...
    topojoe83 topojoe83 26-30 Sep 15, 2010

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    He fell asleep here last night

    after one thing lead to another. I hope she feels the way I did the many nights he pulled this very same thing with me. So many makes it seems as if this is okay, wonder how it feels now that the shoe is on the other foot? Because now he is only doing to her what he was doing...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I Let It Get Further And Further.

    This thursday would have been one year with my boyfriend. Instead, it is one year with the kid i'm seeing. ( Would have been boyfriend) We broke up, he came back but, still nothing is official. He knows I love him, I haven't told him ... but he knows. I let this relationship...
    FallenForTheIdiotInUniform FallenForTheIdiotInUniform 22-25, F Apr 9, 2013

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    Complicated

    One's defination of complicated can differ a great deal from another's.  I have lived w/ a man for 6 years.  We were once committed and exclusive, but are now friends and in a room-mate situation.  This frees him of accecpting responcibility for his actions, and...
    zencricket zencricket 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    Someone Help Me

    Come to think of it, even the beginning of our relationship was bad. When we started talking again, my girlfriend was with her ex at that time. You flirted with me to the point that i fell for you and I confessed. You told me that you liked me too. And we kissed three days later...
    Diddy20 Diddy20 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    I know this guy since I was a kid.

    We are at the same age. He is always there for me and he makes it very clear that he falls for me. I mean, he tells me many times, and he proved it many times. I like him a lot. I dont know if I feel the same way as he does. Love is a complicated matter. I have had my heart...
    suni19 suni19 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 29, 2013

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    I Love Him But He's Confused.

    . - All I want for me and my boyfriend is to be crazy about each other like before. I, myself, am crazy about my boyfriend but my boyfriend, on the other hand, seems to be confused about how he feels. It all started in September. I had just broken up with my ex and one day on the...
    kimburrlee kimburrlee 16-17, F Jan 9

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    We're Complex

    I guess we're both kind of complex human beings. I have BPD and can't deal with being close to people. It took me a full five months until I could really ever touch my girlfriend in a sexual way. It took me eternities until I first kissed her. It took me months until I was able...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2007

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    We'll Become Friends With Benefits?

    I've just to share some odd thoughts with my girlfriend. She thinks that our relationship is leading to some sort of "friends with benefits" agreement although she loves me. I don't think she makes any sense by saying that, but that's beyond the point. The point is: She...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    He makes you the saddest

    but he also makes you the happiest? You want to leave him but you feel like you need him? He hurts you but you feel like he is the only person that can heal you? You can't leave him because you think he's all you have and you're afraid of loneliness? You can't imagine yourself...
    Jahhh Jahhh 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 16

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    My other half is a drug addict I didn't know

    she was when we started dating now it's two years later and she's worse I feel like she lies and has a secret life on the side for her drugs... There are some days times she's great and it's perfect then when she starts to get sick from withdrawal it's like an alter ego comes...
    becks2378 becks2378 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Not A Bad Thing

    Complicated is one word you can use for it, but it doesn't bother me. I've embraced this relationship for what it is, and it makes me happy. It is unconventional, but I've accepted it in my heart, and that should be enough. And as for what the future holds, I guess we'll just...
    IronLotus IronLotus 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2011

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    I've been texting this guy

    who lived 900 miles away for 2 years. At first we couldn't get enough if each other. We would text all day. We both could feel the passion and interest through our text. Both of us were married, but were happy and content talking with each other. A year later he and his wife...
    Darlene68 Darlene68 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    I'm so confused. I don't know

    whether I give up on him and start to move on, or give him a second chance.
    1dfeels 1dfeels 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 1

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    I'm Losing Faith In Us

    I have been in this relationship over 1 year now. This girl is 27, I'm 21. She has 3 kids 6,8,10, I have no kids. She is fighting a divorce with a guy who is in prison, I have never been married. I'm truly overwhelmed and cant see straight anymore.
    Justice54321 Justice54321 18-21, M 9 Responses May 6, 2009

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    I Am Torn

    I've met the love of my life.....my missing puzzle piece that I had been searching for. However, recently she has broken my heart and decided she needs her space. We've been together for almost two years and I am seriously committed to her. She became spooked when I asked about...
    jebright jebright 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 27, 2013

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    My Best Friends Boyfriends Best Friend

    I like this guy, he is not just any guy we have been on and off friends (best friends ) for years. The first year I started talking to him we were super close. Then he told me he liked me. I didn't feel the same in that moment. But then we went out for couple of weeks. This is...
    dm013273 dm013273 18-21, F Oct 31, 2013

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    I live in New Zealand

    and my partner is from England. We've been in a relationship for almost a year. We were flatmate a and became a couple from that which was completely unexpected for the both of us. We live in our own place together now. He just got a letter saying his visa was denied and was...
    Mereheeni Mereheeni 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    WAS. I WAS In A Complicated Relationship.

    His name was Billy. He was cute, funny, and he made me feel like he cared. Sure, he'd gone out with a lot of girls, but I didn't care at the time.. So we started going out, thanks to my friend (at the time) Anna. (November 22, 2011) We used to text ALL day. It was the perfect...
    alexismma alexismma 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2013

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    I've been married for almost 20 years.

    We love each other, but the passion is gone and has been for awhile. We've grown into this comfortable living situation. We parent together, live together, sleep together, but things just aren't right. I got married very young and the life I've built with him and our kids is...
    KScarlett KScarlett 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    The Last Straw

    First off, let me say that I am not blinded by a false concept of true love. I've been through hell and back in previous relationships. Now I'm with someone who seems to be secure in every way. Confident, in a great family, very humble guy. I'm so happy with him but we're so...
    jetaimeh jetaimeh 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 28, 2012

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    Living Together...

    I've been with my current boyfriend since September and he had to move in with me in June because he had nowhere to go. Let me explain a little better... When he was younger he'd taken his sisters vehicle (he was old enough to drive lol) and he'd ran a stop sign and hit another...
    SexyChelle86 SexyChelle86 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    Scared

    I am scared of the feelings growing inside of me for him. Every experience with him gets more intense. He is texting me more now...talking with my best friend about me...opening up to me when we are alone...being openly affectionate if front of friends...I wonder where this is...
    mama70707 mama70707 31-35, F Aug 6, 2013

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    I Had An Affair With My Friends Wife And Now She Wants To End It And I Dont Want To Go On Living.

    Just over a year ago my friends wife told me she had feelings for me, she was friends with my girlfriend and we all used to go out together. We all hung out together as part of a big social group and in the months building up i noticed her flirt with me a little more then one...
    avb1538 avb1538 26-30 2 Responses Jan 8, 2013

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    I Know I'm Young, But...

    So, I am just a 15 year old male teenager, but I have a fairly small issue with a relationship that I don't know really exists. So, for several years, I have been going to a summer camp, and every year I've gone, the same girl has been there as well. I live very near the camp, 6...
    HStonehock HStonehock 13-15, M Jul 17, 2012

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    I Love Him & I Don't Wanna Lose Him ! ♡♥

    Me and my guy have been best friends ever since kindergarten . He had a huge crush on me when we were in 4th grade bt I never looked at him as bein my bf . So on April 1, 2011 , I finally decided to give him a chance . And when we first got together everything was goin great . We...
    Ilovemyman19 Ilovemyman19 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 6, 2013

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    Very Complicated

      My relationship is very complicated we meet some 21 yrs ago were best friends who ended up dating in high school. I left for the military at 18 and we lost touch. We found one another not long ago and it was almost like we had lost touch. I soon found out she was in an...
    dp19717 dp19717 36-40, M 1 Response May 25, 2009

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    I am his wife but yet I feel like I'm the other

    woman. It's about to be two months since I gave the hubby an ultimatum his family or this other woman. As I suspected he choose her, so many were suggesting for me to do this for the longest believing this will awaken him from the affair fog, the very thing I feared came true. I...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    Oneness

    Oneness My heart grows distant and cold. Freezing over for its own preservation. The woman inside keeps you at bay, pushing you further and further away. Silently building up my fortress, a safe place apart from this distress. The girl who still loves you screams out in protest I...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 12, 2012

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    If It Was Anyone Else...

    I really don't know how to begin. O_o simplistic may be best here. She used to be with me then left me for him, he who had many of the things that I did not in her mind. We had kids b4 she left, but she never really left. More like the other Guy and me started playing the...
    sammylv sammylv 36-40, M Jul 23, 2013

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    so..a girl basically loved me about 6 years ago.

    .she approached me..it has been going on for years..I told her over the time..that somehow..I can't get serious and we'll have to cut contact..because..I didn't want to tell her I don't like her back..in the last year or so..we have been completely separate..yet..I still stalk on...
    wantafriend12 wantafriend12 22-25, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Where To Even Start?

    I am currently married/living with my spouse. I do not share the bed with him. Nor do we have any sort of intimate lifestyle. We do however, have 3 little girls who live with us in the house. We have been "separated" for months now, but he has not really seen anyone seriously. I...
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Ready to Pull the Plug

    I have been in this relationship for about 4 and 1/2 years now, I'm feeling I am moving backwards instead of forwards in life!  It all happened so fast then.  I didn't know I would actually fall in love with him, you know because you see he is married!  You...
    N4LF N4LF 46-50 3 Responses May 16, 2008

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    Lack of Love Life

    I'm new here, I signed up to find a group of people that can relate. Been Married for 15 years, over the years my wifes sex drive has faded and is all but gone. She tells me she loves me, but comes up with excuse after excuse when it comes to our sex life... We have two kids, she...
    Jack2580 Jack2580 41-45 1 Response Jun 3, 2008

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    I met Jon 4 years ago

    while I was still in high school. My best friend set me up with him because he was a chef, and I LOVE to cook. For 2 years we were just casual guck buddies. Once I graduated high school. I told Jon that wanted to be more than what we were. He told me he didn't have time for a...
    meganloren meganloren 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 28

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    Am I Being Used?

    My relationship right now is the most complicated one i've ever been in. I was in a relationship for four years with a wonderful girl. We were engaged, had our own place and were doing wonderful.  A year ago, she left, just one day broke it off and got into a...
    anyankafirequeen anyankafirequeen 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 14, 2009

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    IN NEED OF ADVICE! (kind of long

    but any help is appreciated) My (now ex) girlfriend and I just broke up two days ago. Three months ago, she told me and made a huge deal about buying me a very special gift for christmas. I was incredibly grateful and excited and couldn't wait for it to arrive. Then a month...
    ChildoftheEarth ChildoftheEarth 22-25, F Mar 21

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    He's Become My Bad Habit...

    I've had an on/off relationship with a guy for 8 years. From our first meeting we lit sparks off each other, passionate with lust and even 'GRRRRR you're so annoying!' He's one of those people that knows how to push a persons buttons to see how far he can wind them (me!) up but...
    nz2uk nz2uk 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    What Else Is There?

    I don't love my girlfriend anymore. It hurts to say but it's true. Are there any women that would like to talk? I want to see what else is out there for me.
    Chrisguitar999 Chrisguitar999 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 2, 2013

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    Crush Not Really A Relationship Lol

    So I like this guy he goes to my college and he's one of my friends I told him about a month ago I liked him he said he didn't feel the same way and recently he started to hardcore flirt with me by touching me which never happened and tries to get close to me.. He is genuinely a...
    HaitiBeauty101 HaitiBeauty101 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2013

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    University Mess

    I miss being with my boyfriend. I miss walks in the rain, and walks in the sun, and generally just walking places. I miss cycling. I miss him coming over to my house randomly, with a bag full of sweets, because he thought I might have a chocolate craving. All of these little...
    ObviousExplanation ObviousExplanation 18-21, F Oct 31, 2013

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    My Complicated Relationship

    I am in a Complicated Relationship.  I know that this could be in a different category but, it is very complicated.  I get frustrated and aggravated at how events unfold.  Anyway, where do I begin.  I have a Best Boyfriend Forever.  We were friends for 2...
    crabcancer69 crabcancer69 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2009

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    Peace In My Relationship

    I dont even know if this is a complicated relationship. I already know the answer, but I need a second opinion. I'm in a relationship with a man for a little over 2 years. Just a few weeks ago I found out that his son doesnt even know that he has a girlfriend. When I...
    692love 692love 41-45 3 Responses Jul 18, 2010

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    I was cheated on, I have 3 kids.

    One of the kids is his. We are trying to work it out.
    Ruby2711 Ruby2711 22-25, F Mar 17

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    I don't know how I feel about the relationship

    I am in.... Sometimes it's good and sometimes I get annoyed and just want to move on. I love my boyfriend but a lot of the time I don't think I'm in love with him. I just don't know.....
    karalolz karalolz 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 10

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    I am in a relation of 2 yrs,

    and she's a heroin addict. A lot younger then me which makes me feel responsible but I do love her. I keep waiting for the girl from the beginning of the relationship but I fear she may be gone. I've lost a lot being w her and I'm not sure where to start or how to walk away... I...
    becks2378 becks2378 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Long term relationship of 4 years cheated on me. Left me, got cheated on after a week, and we talk, still love her and protect her and she loves me too but we aren't friends. and...
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    There's rumors going around saying my boyfriendd is all up on other gurlz,, he says he lykes me && I really lyke him back, he wants to get back what should I do?????
    ggboo ggboo 13-15, F Apr 9

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    This is extremely true for most aspects of my life. Probably the most complicated thing about me is the fact that I'm pretty black-and-white on a lot of topics dealing with...
    JustAnotherHuman34 JustAnotherHuman34 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 31

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    I am in a relationship with a beautiful/handsome person. She/he is genderqueer. I really really like him/her. My family doesn't know but I seriously want to tell them about my...
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, T 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    Im really trying to get my boyfriend of nearly 6 years to introduce DD into our relationship. I first mentioned it last october time and things have progressed with us slightly but...
    Tinker88 Tinker88 22-25, F 13 hrs ago

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    More like I cannot be defined. I've chatted with plenty of people here about any number of subjects. Some yes, more adult in nature. ;). More often than not however discussing...
    Luckranger71 Luckranger71 41-45, M Apr 7

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    It was kind of a nightmare in the end. I met him through a mutual friend (he's in England, and I live in the US on the east coast) and clicked right away. He was dating someone...
    littlemissfruitloop littlemissfruitloop 16-17, F Apr 7

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    I've always wanted to be in a relationship not because Im jelous of other people i just want to bond with someone or just laugh and have a good time with. I want a happy...
    natalie226 natalie226 13-15, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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