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I Am In a Controlling Relationship

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    How Can I Do Something About It? - My fiancé is very controlling in lots of ways, but the main one is that he hates me going out anywhere. I'm 21 and he's 35 and he's had people...
    AlreadyExiled AlreadyExiled 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    Adam..... - I may only be 16 but I have already been in a controlling relationship. I was with the guy for over a year. I'm not going to tell his real name but instead I'll call...
    kelsiemalm kelsiemalm 16-17 1 Response May 15, 2009

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    Need Advice, Is This Controlling Or Needs To Work N Anger? - So my boyfriend paid for my cell phone, (he offered) and there have fights where he has taken it away from me, shut it...
    Rya1626 Rya1626 22-25, F 1 Response May 5, 2012

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    Adam - I met Adam when i was in the 11th grade, Everything was perfect. I thought i was in love with him. The saying Love is Blind is really true. When you care about someone every...
    kerriann822 kerriann822 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2009

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    Disregard These Here Ropes.... - I am in a relationship of which I am "deserving" of very few allowances. My mother gave me this phone as a means to get help, research my options...
    innersentinel innersentinel 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    I take part of the blame, as I have been back and forth with my soon to be ex-husband. This has caused my boyfriend of 4 years to worry about the stability of our relationship. He...
    MermaidTacey MermaidTacey 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Why Family Or Friends See His Control? - After having a conversation with a good friend (you can read it at "You Were Never Good Enough: EP Link ), I realize--in a deeper way that...
    RitaRee RitaRee 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 24, 2011

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    Confused - I was in a relationship for 5 months with a man who seemed to play mind games.Friends have told me he was trying to control me. He ended my relationship while...
    gracey153 gracey153 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2009

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    Being Controlled - I am marriad male with a wife that has to have her way in most circumstances or she is not happy and fricton is soon to follow if you dont agree with her.The...
    sugarone sugarone 56-60 1 Response Apr 22, 2013

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    Am I In a Controlling Relationship? - 8 monthsago my partner told me he was moving to another country with or without me (& our child). to explain a long story quickly he went...
    prizerose prizerose 41-45, F Sep 1, 2009

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    For Almost 3 Long Years!!!! - When we first met, things were good, like storybook good... we laughed, cried, and then laughed until we cried it was that good....we were inseperable...
    lostntransl8tion lostntransl8tion 26-30 4 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    I'm Suffocating! - I read all the stories and I'm really surprised to see how many man like my own are out there. Being in a controlling relationship is just awful. In my head we...
    etoile2030 etoile2030 26-30 14 Responses May 23, 2011

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    And I Didnt Even Know It. - "Manu" seemed like the loving, encouraging man that I wanted. But shortly after the first 3 months, the "changes" began.Change #1: "Keep your phone on...
    RitaRee RitaRee 22-25, F 6 Responses Jun 13, 2011

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    Fear - I have been sitting petting my cat being totally bored out of my scull with this ankle bracelet keeping me in the house. This house arrest really makes me think about how I...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F Sep 7, 2013

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    How Did I Allow This To Happen? - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I am 27 years old. I had just gotten out of one really long 6 and a...
    pz89a5xw46 pz89a5xw46 26-30, F 4 Responses May 25, 2010

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    I Am In A Hospital Bed Writting This - I am back in the hospital for the fourth time this year not including two weeks in a stress center. I have had two Cerebral Vascular...
    toughth toughth 56-60 Sep 23, 2013

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    Brainwashing Boyfriend? - These are some statements that my boyfriend made while on the phone. Let me know what you think... is he manipulating, being emotionally abusive....or...
    biggirl99 biggirl99 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 16, 2010

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    Not Anymore - When it ended I thought my world was falling apart. Now that time has passed I can see it was inevitable. Many times I thought of ending it myself but I'm not the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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    Am I Doing What Is Right? - Long story short, I have been in a controlling relationship for over 10 yrs. We have 2 children together. He not only controls me he constantly accuses...
    Mommartinez75 Mommartinez75 31-35 3 Responses May 12, 2011

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    She Is So Controlling - I am in a relationship with a girl that I have been with for 3 years now. We met 3 ago and were complete opposites. I was a big time partier, drinker...
    MikeVG MikeVG 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 23, 2013

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    Can It Change? - I have been with my boyfriend on and off for almost 11 yrs at the beganing things were great. But later on into our relationship he started to get controlling. He...
    sadgrl123 sadgrl123 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 4, 2010

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    I Am Me! - So I came to a conclusion, a realization and, this is what I try to remember. In the past six months, maybe even in the past year, I have changed a lot. I have recently...
    HeartWings09 HeartWings09 41-45, F Jan 16, 2013

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    My Love Made Me Sarvent 2 - now i don't have sex in my life .my wife don't sleeps with me .i like to have house keepers .few months back i kept my house keeper in line for my sex...
    ravikuma ravikuma 22-25, M May 17, 2012

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    I Am In A Controlling Relationship" - one day my wife's some far away relative has came our house .my wife and he were good friends of childhood.he stayed for a week in our...
    ravikuma ravikuma 22-25, M 4 Responses May 21, 2012

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    Control Over My Husband. - When I was married I had dreams of a long and wonderfull life with my husband. Things started happening the day we were married that niether of us had...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2013

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    She Really Is Controlling. - Slowly she is losing her grip but I'm having to steal it and break her with it.
    draganaeros draganaeros 22-25, M Jun 2, 2013

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    Am I In a Controlling Relationship? - 8 monthsago my partner told me he was moving to another country with or without me (& our child). to explain a long story quickly he went...
    prizerose prizerose 41-45, F Sep 1, 2009

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    Please help me !!!!to get away from this man? tell me how ?
    punches punches 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I am in denial about it. But, I am stupid and I continue to stick around. I guess you can say I'm a "ride or die" woman. Why? I would have never thought I would be in this...
    ohwee12 ohwee12 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2013

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    Am I In a Controlling Relationship? - ok where shall i begin, I'm sooo confused right now. My boyfriend and i got together before my 23rd b-day everything was great for a...
    confussed911 confussed911 26-30 2 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    It has only been a year but oh, how things have changed... I am not the person I used to be, and neither is he.... and it makes me so sad. Tonight I flipped out and took the...
    alisun6 alisun6 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    Sometimes I Wish He'd Just Pull The Trigger - I am 23 years old and i've been in a abusive relationship for 5 years. He cheats on me he beats me hes even gone as far as putting a...
    UnderConstruction55 UnderConstruction55 22-25 2 Responses Jul 17, 2013

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    Am I In a Controlling Relationship? - 8 monthsago my partner told me he was moving to another country with or without me (& our child). to explain a long story quickly he went...
    prizerose prizerose 41-45, F Sep 1, 2009

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    Not Sure. Is This Controlling? - I met him 3 years back. We have been in a relation for about 2 years now. Before i met him, i had a boyfriend who was also a very special best...
    frootiee frootiee 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 3, 2011

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    Controlling. - I met my boyfriend 10 months ago. He swept me away with the way he cares so much about me. Unfortuently he tends to go over board with that in a way. I...
    BrightEyes4 BrightEyes4 16-17, F 9 Responses Nov 24, 2008

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    I'M Never Good Enough - I can't wait to get out of here. It seems everyone around here knows everything and glorify themselves in the fact I know nothing. It's very annoying when I...
    closinginontheedge closinginontheedge 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 19, 2013

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    My Wedding - I am currently engaged and i can't even plan my own wedding. I don't get a beautiful white dress, I'm wearing sweatpants and a tank top. I'm also walking down the isle...
    Miriahwild Miriahwild 18-21 5 Responses Jan 2, 2012

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    I Don't Know If It Was Control Or Love - I was with my boyfriend for 9 months and just this weekend he broke up with me. I am trying to figure out if I am to blame or if it was...
    jackie1104 jackie1104 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2012

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    My Past, Abusive Relationship. - I want to tell you the story of my past relationship. It's something I need to get off my chest. I always have the urge to spill everything that...
    FadedSilhouette FadedSilhouette 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    I Need Out - I have been with my husband for 5 years. In those 5 years he has cheated on me. A little over a year ago, I left him because I was SO tired of being accused of...
    mommadukes30 mommadukes30 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2013

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    It Has Been Two Months Since I Saw My Husband! - I last saw my husband after he walked twenty miles from the hospital home after open heart surgery. This put him back into the...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F Oct 17, 2013

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    Getting Over A Controlling And Emotionally/verbally Abusive Relationship! - I met the love of my life (so I thought) He was perfect! He cooked me dinner, cleaned my house, bought...
    thiswordfallsonme thiswordfallsonme 26-30, F 11 Responses Aug 9, 2010

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    Am I Being Controlled? - My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. He is such a great guy! I was head over heels in love with him in the beginning but now true colors are...
    biggirl99 biggirl99 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Im Confused - I find myself arguing more and more with my b/f. I love him to death and would do anything for him. He is 30 and I am 26. We have traveled together and have shared a...
    confused4life confused4life 26-30 2 Responses Aug 31, 2008

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    Not Sure. Is This Controlling? - I met him 3 years back. We have been in a relation for about 2 years now. Before i met him, i had a boyfriend who was also a very special best...
    frootiee frootiee 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 3, 2011

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