I Am In a Controlling Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 178 People

    And I Didnt Even Know It.

    "Manu" seemed like the loving, encouraging man that I wanted. But shortly after the first 3 months, the "changes" began.Change #1: "Keep your phone on." It felt odd. It didn't dawn on me til later that it was a tracking tactic.Change #2: "Stop wearing make up." I've always wore...
    RitaRee RitaRee
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jun 13, 2011

    It Has Been Two Months Since I Saw My Husband!

    I last saw my husband after he walked twenty miles from the hospital home after open heart surgery. This put him back into the hospital with sepsis. When I walked into the room I was totally horrified, He is nothing but a skeleton now, his skin just hangs on him. The main reason...
    isis55 isis55
    56-60, F
    Oct 17, 2013

    Can It Change?

    I have been with my boyfriend on and off for almost 11 yrs at the beganing things were great. But later on into our relationship he started to get controlling. He didnt want me to go out with my friends anymore and eventually he didnt even wanna go out publicly on dates with me...
    sadgrl123 sadgrl123
    26-30, F
    Sep 4, 2010

    I'm Suffocating!

    I read all the stories and I'm really surprised to see how many man like my own are out there. Being in a controlling relationship is just awful. In my head we are the greatest couple in the world. We can beat anything since we have survived 16 horrible moths together. But the...
    etoile2030 etoile2030
    16 Responses May 23, 2011

    Not Anymore

    When it ended I thought my world was falling apart. Now that time has passed I can see it was inevitable. Many times I thought of ending it myself but I'm not the type to give up that easily. This was true love, or so I thought.  All of my time and energy were being...
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Jun 21, 2010

    Sometimes I Wish He'd Just Pull The Trigger

    I am 23 years old and i've been in a abusive relationship for 5 years. He cheats on me he beats me hes even gone as far as putting a gun to my head saying "***** you are going to die". I used to live to love life and be around friends and now all i can think about is what i can...
    UnderConstruction55 UnderConstruction55
    2 Responses Jul 17, 2013

    Disregard These Here Ropes....

    I am in a relationship of which I am "deserving" of very few allowances. My mother gave me this phone as a means to get help, research my options and questions, & keep in touch with the friends I so desperately need right now. My legitimate phone has no internet capability and...
    innersentinel innersentinel
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2013

    How Did I Allow This To Happen?

    I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I am 27 years old. I had just gotten out of one really long 6 and a half year relationship and had my heart broken by a guy I started seeing right after the big breakup. I guess you can say I found my...
    pz89a5xw46 pz89a5xw46
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 25, 2010

    Being Controlled

    I am marriad male with a wife that has to have her way in most circumstances or she is not happy and fricton is soon to follow if you dont agree with her.The only time i put in my 2 cents worth is if i know for certain what i speak about is true with facts, my ways are still shot...
    sugarone sugarone
    1 Response Apr 22, 2013

    I Am In A Hospital Bed Writting This

    I am back in the hospital for the fourth time this year not including two weeks in a stress center. I have had two Cerebral Vascular Accidents (stroke) A MRSA lesion on my heart that required my chest to be opened. I am totally tired and wish that people would stop sending me...
    toughth toughth
    61-65, M
    Sep 23, 2013

    Why Family Or Friends See His Control?

    After having a conversation with a good friend (you can read it at "You Were Never Good Enough: EP Link ), I realize--in a deeper way that this break-up was the best thing for me. Not just because he was emotionally controlling. But because when things did get worse--because in...
    RitaRee RitaRee
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 24, 2011

    For Almost 3 Long Years!!!!

    When we first met, things were good, like storybook good... we laughed, cried, and then laughed until we cried it was that good....we were inseperable.... As the days and weeks turned to months......we got to see eachother everyday and all day, as I was underemployed at the time...
    lostntransl8tion lostntransl8tion
    3 Responses Aug 3, 2011

    Getting Over A Controlling And Emotionally/verbally Abusive Relationship!

    I met the love of my life (so I thought) He was perfect! He cooked me dinner, cleaned my house, bought me flowers for no reason. He would call to say he missed me or loved me. Always wanted to know how I felt and how I was. He never missed a beat he was PERFECT! But now I should...
    thiswordfallsonme thiswordfallsonme
    26-30, F
    16 Responses Aug 9, 2010

    Men should allow women to think

    for themselves they shouldn't try to control us .. They are way stronger and they get off on that!!
    Ashawnte Ashawnte
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2014

    Im depressed with social anxiety,

    and borderline agoraphobia. I can't work. I live in a single room occupancy building funded by the government with about 60+ people meaning no privacy and shared spaces including refrigerators. People steal food. My boyfriend takes advantage of me not being able to eat or have a...
    SieMe SieMe
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 23, 2015


    I met Adam when i was in the 11th grade, Everything was perfect. I thought i was in love with him. The saying Love is Blind is really true. When you care about someone every word that comes out of their mouth is some how true, and Everything that they do amazes you and is...
    kerriann822 kerriann822
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 13, 2009


    I met my boyfriend 10 months ago. He swept me away with the way he cares so much about me. Unfortuently he tends to go over board with that in a way. I don't really know when he started being overly controlling of me, but I do remember when I first noticed it. He...
    BrightEyes4 BrightEyes4
    16-17, F
    9 Responses Nov 24, 2008

    I am in denial about it.

    But, I am stupid and I continue to stick around. I guess you can say I'm a "ride or die" woman. Why? I would have never thought I would be in this situation.
    ohwee12 ohwee12
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2013

    Not Sure. Is This Controlling?

    I met him 3 years back. We have been in a relation for about 2 years now. Before i met him, i had a boyfriend who was also a very special best friend of mine but we broke it off later. And i had a guy bestfriend when i started college. So after i met my current boyfriend, he...
    frootiee frootiee
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 3, 2011

    Why Me

    Its so unfortunate that women go thru things on a daily basis like this.. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. I was with this man for 10 whole years, the sad thing is now that its over, I dnt remember the good things. He was extremely verbally abusive, he got physical...
    toogoodforthis toogoodforthis
    36-40, F
    Jul 24, 2013

    So I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 21.

    We live together and I'm an hour from home because he's military. We have been together for a year and recently the puppy love stage has wore off and I'm seeing the real him. We were recently in the mall and I was buying a phone case the man told us it didn't have a warranty so...
    brittneyann1993 brittneyann1993
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    It has only been a year

    but oh, how things have changed... I am not the person I used to be, and neither is he.... and it makes me so sad. Tonight I flipped out and took the promise ring off that he got me for xmas because he is so negative. I believe in manifesting my future and making your own path...
    alisun6 alisun6
    22-25, F
    Feb 11, 2014

    I take part of the blame,

    as I have been back and forth with my soon to be ex-husband. This has caused my boyfriend of 4 years to worry about the stability of our relationship. He freaks out if I don't answer my phone right away or make other plans for lunch. He is a great guy, but at 55 I just don't...
    MermaidTacey MermaidTacey
    56-60, F
    1 Response Feb 11, 2014

    Am I In a Controlling Relationship?

    8 monthsago my partner told me he was moving to another country with or without me (& our child). to explain a long story quickly he went to this country to have a look. I asked him to not buy any property without me having a looksay. He signed a contract and bought land. He...
    prizerose prizerose
    41-45, F
    Sep 1, 2009

    I Need Out

    I have been with my husband for 5 years. In those 5 years he has cheated on me. A little over a year ago, I left him because I was SO tired of being accused of cheating on him, and being watched like a hawk. I came back because I have 3 children, 2 of which are his, and I lost my...
    mommadukes30 mommadukes30
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2013

    Brainwashing Boyfriend?

    These are some statements that my boyfriend made while on the phone. Let me know what you think... is he manipulating, being emotionally abusive....or WHAT? "I act crazy because I care about something and the person im with(me) doesn’t grasp and care about things" "You're...
    biggirl99 biggirl99
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2010
    punches punches
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

    Hello, I want to share with you my bitter

    relationship experience. I am trapped, and I don't know how to find the way out this horrible situation. Being in a controlling relationship is terrible, scary. I don't even know where to start to describe well enough the woeful conditions my boyfriend puts me through. Well, in...
    Magical2Unicorn Magical2Unicorn
    18-21, F
    Nov 19, 2015

    Am I Being Controlled?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. He is such a great guy! I was head over heels in love with him in the beginning but now true colors are being shown. A few things that he has done caught my attention, but sometimes when i think of breaking up, the good...
    biggirl99 biggirl99
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 15, 2010

    Seriously, she blows up my phone everyday

    wanting to know when I'm on my way home. I don't have a set schedule, I DONT KNOW! ughhhhghhh!!!! So annoying!
    Ag0405 Ag0405
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jul 21, 2014

    Im Confused

    I find myself arguing more and more with my b/f. I love him to death and would do anything for him. He is 30 and I am 26. We have traveled together and have shared a lot of good times. When we met I fell in-love with him (he's not all that) but his swag made him.  I use to...
    confused4life confused4life
    2 Responses Aug 31, 2008


    I have been sitting petting my cat being totally bored out of my scull with this ankle bracelet keeping me in the house. This house arrest really makes me think about how I arrived at this point. I have heard from my husband that all I do is let fear rule my life, he thinks that...
    isis55 isis55
    56-60, F
    Sep 7, 2013

    My partner of four years

    and father to our two year old is always commenting on how I should do things better. He is very fussy compared to most people I know so having a toddler being messy is hard for him. He doesn't like any of my family and friends. I am thinking of getting own place because I want...
    Leoni29 Leoni29
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2014

    My story is kinda hard to explain ,

    me and my ex have been split up for almost two years now, well lost my mom in December, He wants everyone to believe he's here helping me get through this , HAHA No he is so controlling I can't even go see my friends that live in the same apartment complex with out...
    Brittaniexoxo Brittaniexoxo
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2015

    Control Over My Husband.

    When I was married I had dreams of a long and wonderfull life with my husband. Things started happening the day we were married that niether of us had any control over. We were married and had the reception at my mothers home. My husband had signed out of his command for a long...
    isis55 isis55
    56-60, F
    1 Response Sep 3, 2013

    Am I In a Controlling Relationship?

    ok where shall i begin, I'm sooo confused right now. My boyfriend and i got together before my 23rd b-day everything was great for a while, but he didn't want my talking to my best friend because her brother was my ex (which I understood to a point) She was also...
    confussed911 confussed911
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2009

    It's time for us women to understand

    controlling, abuseive men are sociopaths and not worth a single tear or thought. I've been dealing with a socipath for six years and I'm teaching myself to not hurt over a person that can't help who he is. What makes me strong is knowing what an amazing person I am and that my...
    ha1978 ha1978
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2015

    She Is So Controlling

    I am in a relationship with a girl that I have been with for 3 years now. We met 3 ago and were complete opposites. I was a big time partier, drinker, smoker, and had a reputation for being a player. She was shy as all could be, quiet, low key, never had a relationship or even...
    MikeVG MikeVG
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 23, 2013

    For seven months, I was in a controlling

    relationship. I thought I had met the man I wanted to be with always. There were red flags from the beginning, but I was so attracted to him that I ignored them. I am a teacher, and he used to get mad at me because he felt that I spent too much time thinking about my kids at...
    flpatty flpatty
    56-60, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2014

    at times he controls me

    and i like it..outcomes are good so i have no reason to worry:)
    deleted deleted
    Oct 24, 2015

    I Am Me!

    So I came to a conclusion, a realization and, this is what I try to remember. In the past six months, maybe even in the past year, I have changed a lot. I have recently had someone tell me they wanted the old "Heart" back…yet this person took a lot of that old "Heart" away...
    Wings1969 Wings1969
    46-50, F
    Jan 16, 2013

    She Really Is Controlling.

    Slowly she is losing her grip but I'm having to steal it and break her with it.
    draganaeros draganaeros
    26-30, M
    Jun 2, 2013

    My Past, Abusive Relationship.

    I want to tell you the story of my past relationship. It's something I need to get off my chest. I always have the urge to spill everything that happened to my current boyfriend but it'd make me look weak and that I can't move on from my past, but you can't get over such a...
    FadedSilhouette FadedSilhouette
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 12, 2013

    I'M Never Good Enough

    I can't wait to get out of here. It seems everyone around here knows everything and glorify themselves in the fact I know nothing. It's very annoying when I actually have a pretty good idea about what I want to do with my life and they shoot me down almost immediately. I've...
    closinginontheedge closinginontheedge
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 19, 2013

    A few weeks ago I offered to give my bf $ 200.

    00 to help him buy this beautiful snake he wanted so badly. It costs $700.00 shipped. We have been "home" now for a few days. right after that conversation he ended up going to the hospital for MERSA. I was there every night and day caring for him. He has 1 other snake at home...
    vonbender2010 vonbender2010
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2014

    How Can I Do Something About It?

    My fiancé is very controlling in lots of ways, but the main one is that he hates me going out anywhere. I'm 21 and he's 35 and he's had people cheat on him in the past (as have I) but I've never given him any indication that I'm the same way. I went out grocery shopping once...
    AlreadyExiled AlreadyExiled
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 16, 2013

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