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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

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    Alienated In Our Household.

    I don't want to throw away my marriage.  I'm feeling quite sad at the moment and powerless. When I try to improve things it just seems to make things worse and I am at my wits end.  I am at a crisis point and have no clue how to get us back on track.  You see I've been with my...
    runshazrun runshazrun 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    Im Scared Of Being Alone But I Really Need This Divorce

    I was married at the age of 20 yrs old to a man that was 25 I met him when I was 17 and he was 21 we had a very close connection we had good conversation and he had the most beautiful personality I could ever meet. We had meet up a couple times more after first meeting each other...
    Tamaralove Tamaralove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    End of Road

    I am a cheater have been since the beginning of my marriage now i know this is wrong but when i got married i thought i could be the same guy i was before.  Well 6yrs and 2 kids later (all with my wife) i want to stop the cheating and love only her.  Problem is...
    dreghost dreghost 26-30 7 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    It's Not Easy For Me In This Marriage Either

    You try it sometime: living with a wife that is so damned patient and understanding.  And what a great parent she is too; try looking good against a great mom like that.  Christ couldn't do it, I'm sure of that!  She's kind, supportive, understanding, and I have to...
    ward ward 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    My Wife Is In a Difficult Marriage

    My wife is in a difficult marriage.  Her husband drinks alcohol once in a while and is cranky afterwards.  He yells and complains about the house being messy.  He just got fired off an engineer's job on a ship and feels like his career is going down the tubes. ...
    ward ward 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    He Calls Me Friend

    He came to me in my darkest hour, he heard my cry for love, forgiveness and healing.. i raised my hands to the father as tears of regrets and sorrow ran down my face. Where are you lord, i can't see you i said. I thought Christ had left me, i fell to my knees and begged for mercy...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Hang In There

    My husband and I have known each other for 11 years now (wow I can't believe it's been that long!!). I met him when I was 16, almost 17, and we dated from the time I was 18-21 and got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I don't think people ever met us and were like "Wow these two...
    milsogirl milsogirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    I am feeling a little anxious,

    but getting better. Made it through another Mother's Day! All of the mothers and those who mother- you all have my deepest respect and deserve to be honored. And I certainly do what I can to honor my own mother and the mothers close to me (my sisters, etc). Mother’s Day is...
    bluemoon41 bluemoon41 41-45, F 1 Response May 12

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    Sigh....

    it's amazing how things can stay the same even after so many years. my husband is emotionally unavailable. i don't get it... i see some women in the street that are uglier than me and you can tell by looking at her and her partner how much in love the guy is with her and how...
    metropolitan metropolitan 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    I Am

    in a difficult marriage. and i wonder if it's worth it anymore. deep down, i think i know the answer. and i know he knows it too. he never wanted me. i just make a good wife b/c i cook and clean. i'm his mother, i'm his roommate. but i'm never his friend and never the love of his...
    dogloverapril dogloverapril 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2008

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    Is It Supposed to Be This Hard??

    I know a successful marriage takes work - sometimes more than others - but the joys should hopefully outweigh the trials, in my opinion. In my marriage, the joys don't come close to outweighing the difficulties - we have just not gotten along very well at all.  We are not...
    Indecisiontime Indecisiontime 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    How Fragile We Are

    I've learned the greatest lesson of marriage with in a two day time period. My husband came by to help me with a few things, and if you dont know my story please feel free to read them to better understand the situation. I've seen my husband off and on for the past 3 months, the...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    Finding A Balance

    You can't change or control your partner. That much I know. And when you are in a circumstance like I am, it's going to take a while for any thing solid to happen. My only real option at the moment is to stick to a routine, schedule, and healthy lifestyle. The rest doesn't fall...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    I Am In Love With My Wife, But I Am Being Ignored

    Well, the title says it. I love her, more than anything. We both went through difficult divorces about 7 years ago and met after they were complete. We instantly connected and spent the first 5 years without spending a day apart. I am not just saying that, for 5 years we never...
    mstacey mstacey 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    Living With A Non Passionate Wife / Husband.

    From, My personal experience, I suggest, give it a try. because, braking is very easy, but getting better then what we had, is completely uncertain. then what............
    CAPRISMINDIA CAPRISMINDIA 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    My Husband Seems to Be Changing

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    Tired Of Being Treated Like A Child.

    I've been married for 22 years, we've been together for 25. He has always been demanding and high-handed but after about 10 years I came to realize this was because he, himself, is insecure. I used to point out the things he said that hurt me, thinking he just wasn't aware and...
    TheOriginalPard TheOriginalPard 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    Sigh.

    Let me just say this, first off:  I love my husband.  He's my best friend.  But he can make me crazier than anyone on the planet.  I know it's not intentional, but it's very real nonetheless. He has this way of misrepresenting himself that lets everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    Tonight I want us "time"

    and I have been asking for months and I can't even get an hour without someone besides our children at our house. It's getting to the point where I feel like this just isn't what he wants, I feel he only stays for the children. He has told me now three different times that he...
    Hilaryb Hilaryb 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    A sexless marriage is like a gift you are not allowed to unwrap! What is the point of giving me a gift if I can't enjoy it?
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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Jul 24

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 23 Responses Jul 27

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    Oh Boy....for those who still don't believe that their deal is toast....here's a good read for ya. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/12/breakup-signs-_n_5649458.html...
    lycheechan lycheechan 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 13

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jul 26

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    My Story Part 1 I joined the group shortly after I decided what I do about my sexless marriage. I did not need to vent but just wanted some communication and the only one...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    My Story Part 3 I was not in love,but liked my future husband... It seemed that we perfectly suitable- two mature people, both have been hurt in the past... yes,some reddish...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F Aug 1

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    I've been quiet here for a few weeks.......we've just moved back in to our home after a house fire and are just about settled. I've been on a roller coaster of emotions when it...
    QuietTranquility QuietTranquility 36-40, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    Oh well my secret is out and as much as I hate to say it I live in a sexless marriage. My story does not quite start like a fairytale as when we met we were both recovering from...
    mysteryjourney mysteryjourney 36-40, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    We make complete preparations ahead of time which incorporates researching your spot to work out quite possibly the most economical route. In this way you under no circumstances...
    Joaquinsz2539 Joaquinsz2539 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    When we decided to get a divorce, my husband moved out and got his own place. We are now separated. We own a business together so we have to go to business related events and...
    lycheechan lycheechan 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 23

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    Tomorrow is T -1... so to speak. I have finally set up an appointment with my first attorney. Then Monday I have an appointment with a divorce mediator (who knows, maybe it can...
    inmytime inmytime 31-35, M 9 Responses Jul 23

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    I didn't wait until marriage. I was 17 an he was 23. I didn't regret it, and still dont, but the way he treats me now, i love him unconditionally, yet he fails to even try an talk...
    happyconfused212 happyconfused212 18-21, T 3 Responses Jul 24

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    When my husband I we're having difficulties... One of his ideas was to start role playing. He wanted to try other things but there was no way... I suppose I'd picked the lesser of...
    HotBoxDatRocks HotBoxDatRocks 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I'm wondering if anyone who has decided to pursue divorce (as I have), began dating prior to separating. After my husband refused (for the umpteenth time) to attend counseling on...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 12 Responses Jul 28

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    I am divorced from my children's father. The marriage was difficult and the divorce was worse. My ex stalked me, things got so bad I had a nervous breakdown. I am bi-polar and...
    cwiddi cwiddi 56-60, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    Had an interesting experience today with the wife...wanted some opinions on it. As some background, it's quite clear that we have issues with our relationship - we've had a...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    It sucks. Three years married and it's not getting any easier. He's a very difficult man to be around. We have nothing in common either.
    armstrong7984 armstrong7984 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 23

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    Sometimes I feel that things happen quickly. And that they happen for a reason. Two weeks, wow! A lot has been packed into these last two weeks. First of all, my sister is a lot...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 12 Responses Jul 28

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    zsuzsilowinger zsuzsilowinger 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 31

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    It's like if he does not get his 2 times a week he goes extreme the other way. He flys out for work now & then and one time I was sick for the week, so it was about 2-3 weeks...
    juzie juzie 41-45, F 20 Responses Aug 1

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    My late husband had ED and very quickly afterwards, he didn't even want to touch me in any way that might be vaguely sexual. For 10 years. It is difficult to date after being...
    cmeyerhoefer cmeyerhoefer 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    Over the past 7 years I have tried to be a good mother in law. For the sake of my son I treated my daughter in law as a daughter. I only offered advice if asked and kept my mouth...
    unme1 unme1 56-60, F Aug 6

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    Today is my hell. I am very lost. I wanted to be happy in the life I created with my wife but we got way off the path. I have wanted, to want, what I have. I want to feel...
    Fluxification Fluxification 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    He wants me to stay....even divorced and just be roommates. Cause you know, that's what we've been for 16 years. I have been considering it. It would be good for the kids at...
    coffeeflavoredkisses coffeeflavoredkisses 46-50, F 34 Responses Aug 7

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    Since my original post I have been on dating sites and have arranged to meet a couple of women for sex (not difficult to do on normal dating sites believe it or not, as long as you...
    JamesPoole1 JamesPoole1 51-55, M 13 Responses Aug 10

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