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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

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    Alienated In Our Household.

    I don't want to throw away my marriage.  I'm feeling quite sad at the moment and powerless. When I try to improve things it just seems to make things worse and I am at my wits end.  I am at a crisis point and have no clue how to get us back on track.  You see I've been with my...
    runshazrun runshazrun 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    My Husband Seems to Be Changing

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    Hang In There

    My husband and I have known each other for 11 years now (wow I can't believe it's been that long!!). I met him when I was 16, almost 17, and we dated from the time I was 18-21 and got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I don't think people ever met us and were like "Wow these two...
    milsogirl milsogirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    Tonight I want us "time"

    and I have been asking for months and I can't even get an hour without someone besides our children at our house. It's getting to the point where I feel like this just isn't what he wants, I feel he only stays for the children. He has told me now three different times that he...
    Hilaryb Hilaryb 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I have a lot to be grateful for

    and I am not one to dwell on problems. However I can no longer deny that I am married to an extremely difficult man. He is moody and fault-finding. He makes mountains out of molehills, is a drama queen, makes a capital crime of the smallest things. He stores up annoyances at...
    Chandler1929 Chandler1929 41-45 1 Response Sep 7

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    It's Not Easy For Me In This Marriage Either

    You try it sometime: living with a wife that is so damned patient and understanding.  And what a great parent she is too; try looking good against a great mom like that.  Christ couldn't do it, I'm sure of that!  She's kind, supportive, understanding, and I have to...
    ward ward 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Finding A Balance

    You can't change or control your partner. That much I know. And when you are in a circumstance like I am, it's going to take a while for any thing solid to happen. My only real option at the moment is to stick to a routine, schedule, and healthy lifestyle. The rest doesn't fall...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    He Calls Me Friend

    He came to me in my darkest hour, he heard my cry for love, forgiveness and healing.. i raised my hands to the father as tears of regrets and sorrow ran down my face. Where are you lord, i can't see you i said. I thought Christ had left me, i fell to my knees and begged for mercy...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    My Wife Is In a Difficult Marriage

    My wife is in a difficult marriage.  Her husband drinks alcohol once in a while and is cranky afterwards.  He yells and complains about the house being messy.  He just got fired off an engineer's job on a ship and feels like his career is going down the tubes. ...
    ward ward 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    Living With A Non Passionate Wife / Husband.

    From, My personal experience, I suggest, give it a try. because, braking is very easy, but getting better then what we had, is completely uncertain. then what............
    CAPRISMINDIA CAPRISMINDIA 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    I Am

    in a difficult marriage. and i wonder if it's worth it anymore. deep down, i think i know the answer. and i know he knows it too. he never wanted me. i just make a good wife b/c i cook and clean. i'm his mother, i'm his roommate. but i'm never his friend and never the love of his...
    dogloverapril dogloverapril 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2008

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    How Fragile We Are

    I've learned the greatest lesson of marriage with in a two day time period. My husband came by to help me with a few things, and if you dont know my story please feel free to read them to better understand the situation. I've seen my husband off and on for the past 3 months, the...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    I Am In Love With My Wife, But I Am Being Ignored

    Well, the title says it. I love her, more than anything. We both went through difficult divorces about 7 years ago and met after they were complete. We instantly connected and spent the first 5 years without spending a day apart. I am not just saying that, for 5 years we never...
    mstacey mstacey 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    I am feeling a little anxious,

    but getting better. Made it through another Mother's Day! All of the mothers and those who mother- you all have my deepest respect and deserve to be honored. And I certainly do what I can to honor my own mother and the mothers close to me (my sisters, etc). Mother’s Day is...
    bluemoon41 bluemoon41 41-45, F 1 Response May 12

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    Sigh.

    Let me just say this, first off:  I love my husband.  He's my best friend.  But he can make me crazier than anyone on the planet.  I know it's not intentional, but it's very real nonetheless. He has this way of misrepresenting himself that lets everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    End of Road

    I am a cheater have been since the beginning of my marriage now i know this is wrong but when i got married i thought i could be the same guy i was before.  Well 6yrs and 2 kids later (all with my wife) i want to stop the cheating and love only her.  Problem is...
    dreghost dreghost 26-30 7 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Sigh....

    it's amazing how things can stay the same even after so many years. my husband is emotionally unavailable. i don't get it... i see some women in the street that are uglier than me and you can tell by looking at her and her partner how much in love the guy is with her and how...
    metropolitan metropolitan 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Is It Supposed to Be This Hard??

    I know a successful marriage takes work - sometimes more than others - but the joys should hopefully outweigh the trials, in my opinion. In my marriage, the joys don't come close to outweighing the difficulties - we have just not gotten along very well at all.  We are not...
    Indecisiontime Indecisiontime 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    Today, he started a fight with me over nonsense.

    I asked him to please go easy on me as I was overwhelmed with stress. I work long hours and am currently in a very aggressive Master's Program. He said it didn't matter how stressed I was. And, tomorrow is our wedding anniversary. He knows how much this behavior hurts me, but he...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    Im Scared Of Being Alone But I Really Need This Divorce

    I was married at the age of 20 yrs old to a man that was 25 I met him when I was 17 and he was 21 we had a very close connection we had good conversation and he had the most beautiful personality I could ever meet. We had meet up a couple times more after first meeting each other...
    Tamaralove Tamaralove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Tired Of Being Treated Like A Child.

    I've been married for 22 years, we've been together for 25. He has always been demanding and high-handed but after about 10 years I came to realize this was because he, himself, is insecure. I used to point out the things he said that hurt me, thinking he just wasn't aware and...
    TheOriginalPard TheOriginalPard 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    It's been quite awhile since I have been on here. I guess a lot and not much has changed. Its always as it has been...one step forward and ten steps back. Just when I think...
    imagoodgrl imagoodgrl 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 13

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    THE TRUTH BEHIND THESE KINDS OF MARRIAGES.Last week, I wrote an article for my blog titled: Six Reasons That Your Marriage Will Fail. One of the areas that I highlighted was...
    MarredMind MarredMind 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 15

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    I am a doctor and went through some of the experiences on this site.... Felt like i should also share some of my experiences which i faced in my life.... Yes Doctors are not immune...
    saiprasadbhavsar saiprasadbhavsar 26-30, M Oct 9

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    Too good at suffering: Really nice article here: "http://www.sarahiatt.com/blog/too-good-at-suffering/" Some people are good at suffering. Too good. A person can have a lot of...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 28

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    An Ask Amy column that may be relevant when it comes to what some here are or have experienced in their marriages. "Dear Amy: My wife and I have been happily married for over 20...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    I think I just discovered why I ended up in an emotionally abusive controlling marriage. I always thought you had to look at your parent of the opposite sex. For me I think it...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 12

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    In my opinion there's no such thing as virginity for a man virginity is something that is simply reserved for women. My opinion is mostly based on my experience of choosing to wait...
    Authentic921 Authentic921 26-30, M 3 Responses Oct 15

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    I MUST learn how to live celibate. It is difficult at best. This is something that I never expected out of life. I gave more than my share to my sexless marriage. We had been...
    HAR1978 HAR1978 46-50, F 17 Responses Oct 11

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    I've known my husband 13 years and married for 3 of them. Our marriage has had its ups and downs but through all of it I've always loved him and still do. He blames me for the...
    Joseko Joseko 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    It is what it is. By the end of my first marriage, I wasnt having sex with my wife. Not because I didnt want to, I just couldnt. I was not attracted to her anymore. I dont mean...
    RobertCarlos RobertCarlos 46-50, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    Overcoming the emotional abuse.. It's been a rough few days over here. A couple I met through my ex and have been close friends with for ten years are splitting up. When I left ex...
    liltree liltree 31-35, F 16 Responses Oct 8

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    My husband and I are invisible to our dil. Married 20+ years with 2 daughters. Her parents live close as well (as we do). We definately get left overs. It could be worse (as I've...
    dogpoo dogpoo 61-65, F 2 Responses Sep 25

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    Everything goes according to plan. Just the other day, I collected the papers and met the lawyer once again. It was necessary to have this second meeting to align better the exit...
    TheFieryWoman TheFieryWoman 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 26

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    The clock is almost reaching midnight here. My brain is still so active of thinking about my life. Yes, I am still in my sexless marriage. You could say I am cowered to make the...
    Raisingup Raisingup 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 11

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    On commitment. I can say that my belief in God is directly proportional to the amount of trouble I find myself in at a particular time. After years of searching, I have gone back...
    RobertCarlos RobertCarlos 46-50, M 4 Responses Oct 13

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    Ive been married for nearly 2 years. My husband is 15 years older than me. I am 23. Everytime i try to get it off with him he will push me away, and refuses to have sex. In the...
    emkay91 emkay91 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 14

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    The tide is high but I'm holding on I'm gonna be your number one I'm not the kind of girl who gives up just like that Oh no ..................... Song by Blondie that my brain...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    The end is near for my 26 yr marriage and I feel devastated. I know all my reasons for leaving were valid but still feels painful. It is not what I wanted. I wanted to see the...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 19 Responses 2 days ago

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    Nearly done. He didn't come home last night, because it was raining and there was bad traffic, so he decided to wait at a friends place for a while, which eventually became morning...
    andthentherewaslight andthentherewaslight 31-35, F 10 Responses Sep 25

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    H asked me to come to bed last night, to cuddle. I agreed, with the stipulation that he cuddle me, which he did. He fussed because I didn't remove my clothes. Sorry, but that...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 8 Responses Oct 1

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    14 years sexless and I give up. I have tried talking, threatening her with divorce and living apart for periods of time. She will not go to counseling with me. It is a control...
    Greem Greem 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 5

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    for those of you who left, curious to know of any who had grade school kids ( 9 - 13 or so ) I have 2 young kids. Also, were any of you stay at home moms? I do have certifications...
    catalinatowner catalinatowner 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    On the 21 Oct it will be exactly 1-year since I moved out. I'm thinking a lot about this year. It's been the hardest year of my life! Everyone said that divorce is tough. But I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    Last night H fell asleep in the recliner while watching TV. Before that, I had gone to bed, when the noise of the TV got to be too much for me. He was kind enough to carry Angus...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 9 Responses Oct 15

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    This is another one of those posts that will probably get me a lot of flak, but what are you going to do. Remember that Im just some guy, and this is ONLY my opinion. Theres always...
    RobertCarlos RobertCarlos 46-50, M 13 Responses Oct 15

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