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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 164 People

    Tonight I want us "time"

    and I have been asking for months and I can't even get an hour without someone besides our children at our house. It's getting to the point where I feel like this just isn't what he wants, I feel he only stays for the children. He has told me now three different times that he...
    Hilaryb Hilaryb 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I have a lot to be grateful for

    and I am not one to dwell on problems. However I can no longer deny that I am married to an extremely difficult man. He is moody and fault-finding. He makes mountains out of molehills, is a drama queen, makes a capital crime of the smallest things. He stores up annoyances at...
    Chandler1929 Chandler1929 41-45 1 Response Sep 7

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    Finding A Balance

    You can't change or control your partner. That much I know. And when you are in a circumstance like I am, it's going to take a while for any thing solid to happen. My only real option at the moment is to stick to a routine, schedule, and healthy lifestyle. The rest doesn't fall...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    I Am

    in a difficult marriage. and i wonder if it's worth it anymore. deep down, i think i know the answer. and i know he knows it too. he never wanted me. i just make a good wife b/c i cook and clean. i'm his mother, i'm his roommate. but i'm never his friend and never the love of his...
    dogloverapril dogloverapril 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2008

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    Im Scared Of Being Alone But I Really Need This Divorce

    I was married at the age of 20 yrs old to a man that was 25 I met him when I was 17 and he was 21 we had a very close connection we had good conversation and he had the most beautiful personality I could ever meet. We had meet up a couple times more after first meeting each other...
    Tamaralove Tamaralove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Sigh....

    it's amazing how things can stay the same even after so many years. my husband is emotionally unavailable. i don't get it... i see some women in the street that are uglier than me and you can tell by looking at her and her partner how much in love the guy is with her and how...
    metropolitan metropolitan 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Tired Of Being Treated Like A Child.

    I've been married for 22 years, we've been together for 25. He has always been demanding and high-handed but after about 10 years I came to realize this was because he, himself, is insecure. I used to point out the things he said that hurt me, thinking he just wasn't aware and...
    TheOriginalPard TheOriginalPard 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    Living With A Non Passionate Wife / Husband.

    From, My personal experience, I suggest, give it a try. because, braking is very easy, but getting better then what we had, is completely uncertain. then what............
    CAPRISMINDIA CAPRISMINDIA 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    My Husband Seems to Be Changing

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    I Am In Love With My Wife, But I Am Being Ignored

    Well, the title says it. I love her, more than anything. We both went through difficult divorces about 7 years ago and met after they were complete. We instantly connected and spent the first 5 years without spending a day apart. I am not just saying that, for 5 years we never...
    mstacey mstacey 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    It's Not Easy For Me In This Marriage Either

    You try it sometime: living with a wife that is so damned patient and understanding.  And what a great parent she is too; try looking good against a great mom like that.  Christ couldn't do it, I'm sure of that!  She's kind, supportive, understanding, and I have to...
    ward ward 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    How Fragile We Are

    I've learned the greatest lesson of marriage with in a two day time period. My husband came by to help me with a few things, and if you dont know my story please feel free to read them to better understand the situation. I've seen my husband off and on for the past 3 months, the...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    Sigh.

    Let me just say this, first off:  I love my husband.  He's my best friend.  But he can make me crazier than anyone on the planet.  I know it's not intentional, but it's very real nonetheless. He has this way of misrepresenting himself that lets everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    Is It Supposed to Be This Hard??

    I know a successful marriage takes work - sometimes more than others - but the joys should hopefully outweigh the trials, in my opinion. In my marriage, the joys don't come close to outweighing the difficulties - we have just not gotten along very well at all.  We are not...
    Indecisiontime Indecisiontime 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    End of Road

    I am a cheater have been since the beginning of my marriage now i know this is wrong but when i got married i thought i could be the same guy i was before.  Well 6yrs and 2 kids later (all with my wife) i want to stop the cheating and love only her.  Problem is...
    dreghost dreghost 26-30 5 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Alienated In Our Household.

    I don't want to throw away my marriage.  I'm feeling quite sad at the moment and powerless. When I try to improve things it just seems to make things worse and I am at my wits end.  I am at a crisis point and have no clue how to get us back on track.  You see I've been with my...
    runshazrun runshazrun 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    Hang In There

    My husband and I have known each other for 11 years now (wow I can't believe it's been that long!!). I met him when I was 16, almost 17, and we dated from the time I was 18-21 and got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I don't think people ever met us and were like "Wow these two...
    milsogirl milsogirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    He Calls Me Friend

    He came to me in my darkest hour, he heard my cry for love, forgiveness and healing.. i raised my hands to the father as tears of regrets and sorrow ran down my face. Where are you lord, i can't see you i said. I thought Christ had left me, i fell to my knees and begged for mercy...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    My Wife Is In a Difficult Marriage

    My wife is in a difficult marriage.  Her husband drinks alcohol once in a while and is cranky afterwards.  He yells and complains about the house being messy.  He just got fired off an engineer's job on a ship and feels like his career is going down the tubes. ...
    ward ward 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    I am feeling a little anxious,

    but getting better. Made it through another Mother's Day! All of the mothers and those who mother- you all have my deepest respect and deserve to be honored. And I certainly do what I can to honor my own mother and the mothers close to me (my sisters, etc). Mother’s Day is...
    bluemoon41 bluemoon41 41-45, F 1 Response May 12

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    Related Experiences

    I can't believe I was censured and my comment deleted. Just trying to reach out and I poured out my soul about what it's like being married to a hypercritical person who can't be...
    Chandler1929 Chandler1929 41-45 Dec 7

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    I hate it. It's not fair that anyone has to have difficulties in life. But there's nothing I can do to stop it, and that hurts even more. And then there's all the regret and guilt...
    ThisIsJustForFun ThisIsJustForFun 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Has your refuser ever told you that you are beautiful or good looking? I firmly believe that when you love someone you find them incredibly attractive and beautiful. I have never...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 9 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I think my marriage is fading . I lost connection with her . We have been married for 11 years. We have beautiful kids a house but No connection?. I think we grew further apart...
    CHOOCH78 CHOOCH78 36-40, M 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    reading experiences on how so many husbands and wives cheated on their significant other scares the hell out of me. i bet they were madly in love when they said their vow. but yes...
    DNightTrain DNightTrain 26-30, M 7 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Sometimes people are in a bad marriage because for a long time: one or both spouses have looked for what their spouse can do for them, instead of: "what can I do for my spouse...
    ForLove ForLove 46-50, M 25 mins ago

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    Hi everyone, I guess I'm a refuser, and I found this forum because my partner has told me about how she's been reading these postings for solidarity. She says that when I touch...
    badger2blue badger2blue 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 7

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    I don't believe in divorce. So, my first marriage is most likely going to be my only marriage. But I am not going to get married until I am 46 or 49. Lmao
    SunshineH316 SunshineH316 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 28

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    I am fortunate that my hub is affectionate, considerate, generous, and a delight to be with. He has some age related issues that he had not shared with me for reasons of pride. I...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 10

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    I have been absorbing life. I ran out of my home a year ago last weekend. It was a very difficult time of my life. Now, I have to go through with the divorce. I sometimes feel...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 19 Responses Dec 10

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    I believe if people knew who I really am, they wouldn't like me. If you look at everything I've written on this site a lot of it has been cathartic: I wrote it because I was...
    Nyxii Nyxii 22-25, F Nov 22

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    Members only A jaunt into Daemonheim's absolute depths isn't for the weak hearted, but it is more fulfilling than ever with the discharge of the Daemonheim Process Set. These 47...
    shejunlin0754 shejunlin0754 22-25, M Nov 27

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    Well I have gotten over the horrible past I think.But it's easy to say Be strong,Never give up,Fight,Everything will be alright.But in real life it is difficult to handle...
    GenuineAngel GenuineAngel 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 4

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    Daily it seems I see the same post...someone stating they live in a sexless marriage. Sometimes I respond and offer advice though it feels like I'm just adding my voice to the many...
    RLB2 RLB2 41-45, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm difficult. I'm mad 24/7. I even get annoyed by myself. I just want to escape, you know? I want to be chill, and loose. Not always worrying. Worrying if he'll text me back...
    HellaNella HellaNella 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    It's been a year since I last posted. I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for just over 16 years. In that time I've been through the counseling sessions, countless fights, nights on the couch, online trysts, real life near...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 1

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    Well I'm not sure where this will end up. But I'm here as a former refuser. One to make some amends and two to tell the truth to all the women who are currently living with a...
    Transgressed Transgressed 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 10

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    It's been a long time since I wrote: If you have read my previous articles then you already have the background or a lot of it. If not my situation is as follows: I have been...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't ever think you're completely secure in a relationship. I say this because you can't know another persons mind or heart. Like me, you can't believe you're living a fairy tale...
    zanyzoey zanyzoey 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I think its pointless to wait until marriage. The people who judge others for having sex before marriage are backward and archaic. I hope people out there aren't made to feel bad...
    tinmahn tinmahn 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 20

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    I feel scared to tears that I see life flashing by whilst living in a sexles marriage. I support everything willingly & happly for wife and family but every day for several years...
    wngiag wngiag 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 21

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    My best friend mom was at my place yesterday, she came to check for my friend but my friend was not with me at home and I was alone and lonely. She decide to wait for my friend...
    World4me World4me 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 21

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    I didn't wait until marriage, I was very young about 15 yrs old when I lost my virginity. Although waiting until marriage is insane to me!! I'm proud of those who can actually wait...
    AlissiaMarie AlissiaMarie 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 26

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    I am so tired of living in a sexless marriage. It's a nightmare. I need to leave, get a divorce, and be on my own but I have no clue how to leave, and be on my own. I keep thinking...
    loveangelmusicbaby0 loveangelmusicbaby0 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 27

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    Ive been married for 1 year and i hate my marriage. All my husband do is take me for granted, harass everyone in the house, disrespect us and verbally abuse us. Im tired of my...
    shakii00 shakii00 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    Wow... the title couldn't fit me better... I've been married for 14 yrs to a man that use to be a good man... that is before he retired from the army and before he started getting...
    neydi1972 neydi1972 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 3

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    I'm Roman Catholic and believe that the reasons are based on evidence rather than faith. That said, I struggle with gay marriage and even the Biblical references on it. I've...
    originnone originnone 51-55, M 10 Responses Dec 6