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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

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    Finding A Balance

    You can't change or control your partner. That much I know. And when you are in a circumstance like I am, it's going to take a while for any thing solid to happen. My only real option at the moment is to stick to a routine, schedule, and healthy lifestyle. The rest doesn't fall...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    Hang In There

    My husband and I have known each other for 11 years now (wow I can't believe it's been that long!!). I met him when I was 16, almost 17, and we dated from the time I was 18-21 and got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I don't think people ever met us and were like "Wow these two...
    milsogirl milsogirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    Tired Of Being Treated Like A Child.

    I've been married for 22 years, we've been together for 25. He has always been demanding and high-handed but after about 10 years I came to realize this was because he, himself, is insecure. I used to point out the things he said that hurt me, thinking he just wasn't aware and...
    TheOriginalPard TheOriginalPard 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    My Wife Is In a Difficult Marriage

    My wife is in a difficult marriage.  Her husband drinks alcohol once in a while and is cranky afterwards.  He yells and complains about the house being messy.  He just got fired off an engineer's job on a ship and feels like his career is going down the tubes. ...
    ward ward 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    Is It Supposed to Be This Hard??

    I know a successful marriage takes work - sometimes more than others - but the joys should hopefully outweigh the trials, in my opinion. In my marriage, the joys don't come close to outweighing the difficulties - we have just not gotten along very well at all.  We are not...
    Indecisiontime Indecisiontime 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    I Am

    in a difficult marriage. and i wonder if it's worth it anymore. deep down, i think i know the answer. and i know he knows it too. he never wanted me. i just make a good wife b/c i cook and clean. i'm his mother, i'm his roommate. but i'm never his friend and never the love of his...
    dogloverapril dogloverapril 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2008

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    It's Not Easy For Me In This Marriage Either

    You try it sometime: living with a wife that is so damned patient and understanding.  And what a great parent she is too; try looking good against a great mom like that.  Christ couldn't do it, I'm sure of that!  She's kind, supportive, understanding, and I have to...
    ward ward 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Sigh.

    Let me just say this, first off:  I love my husband.  He's my best friend.  But he can make me crazier than anyone on the planet.  I know it's not intentional, but it's very real nonetheless. He has this way of misrepresenting himself that lets everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    End of Road

    I am a cheater have been since the beginning of my marriage now i know this is wrong but when i got married i thought i could be the same guy i was before.  Well 6yrs and 2 kids later (all with my wife) i want to stop the cheating and love only her.  Problem is...
    dreghost dreghost 26-30 7 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    He Calls Me Friend

    He came to me in my darkest hour, he heard my cry for love, forgiveness and healing.. i raised my hands to the father as tears of regrets and sorrow ran down my face. Where are you lord, i can't see you i said. I thought Christ had left me, i fell to my knees and begged for mercy...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Alienated In Our Household.

    I don't want to throw away my marriage.  I'm feeling quite sad at the moment and powerless. When I try to improve things it just seems to make things worse and I am at my wits end.  I am at a crisis point and have no clue how to get us back on track.  You see I've been with my...
    runshazrun runshazrun 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    How Fragile We Are

    I've learned the greatest lesson of marriage with in a two day time period. My husband came by to help me with a few things, and if you dont know my story please feel free to read them to better understand the situation. I've seen my husband off and on for the past 3 months, the...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    Im Scared Of Being Alone But I Really Need This Divorce

    I was married at the age of 20 yrs old to a man that was 25 I met him when I was 17 and he was 21 we had a very close connection we had good conversation and he had the most beautiful personality I could ever meet. We had meet up a couple times more after first meeting each other...
    Tamaralove Tamaralove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Tonight I want us "time"

    and I have been asking for months and I can't even get an hour without someone besides our children at our house. It's getting to the point where I feel like this just isn't what he wants, I feel he only stays for the children. He has told me now three different times that he...
    Hilaryb Hilaryb 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    My Husband Seems to Be Changing

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    I Am In Love With My Wife, But I Am Being Ignored

    Well, the title says it. I love her, more than anything. We both went through difficult divorces about 7 years ago and met after they were complete. We instantly connected and spent the first 5 years without spending a day apart. I am not just saying that, for 5 years we never...
    mstacey mstacey 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    Living With A Non Passionate Wife / Husband.

    From, My personal experience, I suggest, give it a try. because, braking is very easy, but getting better then what we had, is completely uncertain. then what............
    CAPRISMINDIA CAPRISMINDIA 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 24, 2013

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    my husband left to US and he will be taking me in another 2 months....and his parents are forcing me ...taking me to all their relatives house..whom I dont even know and all these...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 6 hrs ago

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    I have read many posts now, and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from...
    travelight travelight 41-45, M 3 hrs ago

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    I'm not married but I was engaged and I had to break it off it did hurt because I really loved him but I'm a sex addict and I thought I could change that and he wanted me to...
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 7 Responses 1 hr ago

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    People keep asking me whether i'm married. Why? 1, do i look like i should be married? Or,,look like im married? With kids maybe? 😕 2, Why would my status concerns u anyway? It...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 2 Responses 56 mins ago

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    This was a difficult weekend. My wife and I spent a long weekend visiting old friends of hers. Normally, this is the sort of weekend that I would skip out on, but the other married...
    MasterMatt77 MasterMatt77 36-40, M 22 Responses 6 days ago

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    Let's face it. Nearing the end of your marriage is difficult to recognize. I found it very useful to look at the grievance process of divorce. I hope the best for everybody. While...
    wildworld12 wildworld12 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    For Kids Sake.... As part of our divorce and the process both my stbx and my therapist suggested a seminar called For Kids Sake. I got quite a bit out of it myself. I attended...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 30

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    "Friends with Benefits" / "Sex Buddy" / "Outsourcing" - This is essentially a personal opinion, and as such, completely discardable. It is not advice, or a suggestion. What I hope...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 14 Responses Apr 5

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    A little more difficulty today. I talked with my brother some more, he's so helpful. He understands. He's had an experience like this, where you wake up to what's going on. It's so...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Three and a half years ago, I married my third husband. I moved from the city to the country, which was a huge adjustment. The hardest things for me: 1. I feel isolated. I haven...
    feenixrising feenixrising 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    So i talked to my Husbands father after my mom insisted plus she and him are really good friends and apparently my mom had told him everything already and he wanted to talk to me...
    amantgenereux amantgenereux 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 22

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    It's tough when your spouse isn't interested in or able to have sex because of a disabling disease. My wife has been suffering from MS for years now and is in a wheelchair. I...
    skitch38 skitch38 56-60, M 8 Responses Mar 22

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    I have a question for those that have chosen to outsource. Do you find it difficult to trust ? I have such a hard time trusting and I'm not sure why. I have thought about it and...
    Isabellas35 Isabellas35 36-40, F 20 Responses Mar 24

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    So, I thought I'd post something positive for a change. I'm working on getting stronger. The most frustrating feeling is the feeling of not just being able to start the process...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    Update by request.... I was asked by the lovely ifoundmehere to update my story. :) I've been in my own place since February 22. Things are going well. I have a good job...
    MissLee MissLee 46-50, F 17 Responses a week ago

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    This is difficult for me to admit, but being at such a young age (partner is the same) I would have though sex and intimacy would be a greater part of our relationship. Currently...
    geogreen geogreen 22-25, M 12 Responses 2 days ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
    Bobbie71 Bobbie71 41-45, F 16 Responses Mar 24

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    So following on from my previous posts, I've now had a really honest exchange with my partner.... And he's no longer my partner. He's still my best friend and I'm still there to...
    hollie32g hollie32g 31-35, F Apr 2

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I don't believe in gay marriage. I believe in marriage. And I think that's between any two people that love each other. Man and man. Woman and man. Woman and woman. Or whatever you...
    emilyv97 emilyv97 16-17, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am married for only a few months now and my husband is drinking everyday and smokes weed. I knew he had this habit but never knew it was this bad. He spends a lot of money on his...
    ilhasol ilhasol 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 6 days ago

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