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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

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    Is It Supposed to Be This Hard??

    I know a successful marriage takes work - sometimes more than others - but the joys should hopefully outweigh the trials, in my opinion. In my marriage, the joys don't come close to outweighing the difficulties - we have just not gotten along very well at all.  We are not...
    Indecisiontime Indecisiontime 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    I Am In Love With My Wife, But I Am Being Ignored

    Well, the title says it. I love her, more than anything. We both went through difficult divorces about 7 years ago and met after they were complete. We instantly connected and spent the first 5 years without spending a day apart. I am not just saying that, for 5 years we never...
    mstacey mstacey 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    My Husband Seems to Be Changing

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    End of Road

    I am a cheater have been since the beginning of my marriage now i know this is wrong but when i got married i thought i could be the same guy i was before.  Well 6yrs and 2 kids later (all with my wife) i want to stop the cheating and love only her.  Problem is...
    dreghost dreghost 26-30 7 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Finding A Balance

    You can't change or control your partner. That much I know. And when you are in a circumstance like I am, it's going to take a while for any thing solid to happen. My only real option at the moment is to stick to a routine, schedule, and healthy lifestyle. The rest doesn't fall...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    How Fragile We Are

    I've learned the greatest lesson of marriage with in a two day time period. My husband came by to help me with a few things, and if you dont know my story please feel free to read them to better understand the situation. I've seen my husband off and on for the past 3 months, the...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    My Wife Is In a Difficult Marriage

    My wife is in a difficult marriage.  Her husband drinks alcohol once in a while and is cranky afterwards.  He yells and complains about the house being messy.  He just got fired off an engineer's job on a ship and feels like his career is going down the tubes. ...
    ward ward 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    Hang In There

    My husband and I have known each other for 11 years now (wow I can't believe it's been that long!!). I met him when I was 16, almost 17, and we dated from the time I was 18-21 and got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I don't think people ever met us and were like "Wow these two...
    milsogirl milsogirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    Sigh....

    it's amazing how things can stay the same even after so many years. my husband is emotionally unavailable. i don't get it... i see some women in the street that are uglier than me and you can tell by looking at her and her partner how much in love the guy is with her and how...
    metropolitan metropolitan 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Sigh.

    Let me just say this, first off:  I love my husband.  He's my best friend.  But he can make me crazier than anyone on the planet.  I know it's not intentional, but it's very real nonetheless. He has this way of misrepresenting himself that lets everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    Living With A Non Passionate Wife / Husband.

    From, My personal experience, I suggest, give it a try. because, braking is very easy, but getting better then what we had, is completely uncertain. then what............
    CAPRISMINDIA CAPRISMINDIA 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    Im Scared Of Being Alone But I Really Need This Divorce

    I was married at the age of 20 yrs old to a man that was 25 I met him when I was 17 and he was 21 we had a very close connection we had good conversation and he had the most beautiful personality I could ever meet. We had meet up a couple times more after first meeting each other...
    Tamaralove Tamaralove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    I Am

    in a difficult marriage. and i wonder if it's worth it anymore. deep down, i think i know the answer. and i know he knows it too. he never wanted me. i just make a good wife b/c i cook and clean. i'm his mother, i'm his roommate. but i'm never his friend and never the love of his...
    dogloverapril dogloverapril 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2008

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    He Calls Me Friend

    He came to me in my darkest hour, he heard my cry for love, forgiveness and healing.. i raised my hands to the father as tears of regrets and sorrow ran down my face. Where are you lord, i can't see you i said. I thought Christ had left me, i fell to my knees and begged for mercy...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    It's Not Easy For Me In This Marriage Either

    You try it sometime: living with a wife that is so damned patient and understanding.  And what a great parent she is too; try looking good against a great mom like that.  Christ couldn't do it, I'm sure of that!  She's kind, supportive, understanding, and I have to...
    ward ward 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Alienated In Our Household.

    I don't want to throw away my marriage.  I'm feeling quite sad at the moment and powerless. When I try to improve things it just seems to make things worse and I am at my wits end.  I am at a crisis point and have no clue how to get us back on track.  You see I've been with my...
    runshazrun runshazrun 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    Tonight I want us "time"

    and I have been asking for months and I can't even get an hour without someone besides our children at our house. It's getting to the point where I feel like this just isn't what he wants, I feel he only stays for the children. He has told me now three different times that he...
    Hilaryb Hilaryb 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Tired Of Being Treated Like A Child.

    I've been married for 22 years, we've been together for 25. He has always been demanding and high-handed but after about 10 years I came to realize this was because he, himself, is insecure. I used to point out the things he said that hurt me, thinking he just wasn't aware and...
    TheOriginalPard TheOriginalPard 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    I am feeling a little anxious,

    but getting better. Made it through another Mother's Day! All of the mothers and those who mother- you all have my deepest respect and deserve to be honored. And I certainly do what I can to honor my own mother and the mothers close to me (my sisters, etc). Mother’s Day is...
    bluemoon41 bluemoon41 41-45, F 1 Response May 12

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    Related Experiences

    I am 65 and my wife is 62. We have been together for over twenty years and married for six. I love my wife very much and tell her so frequently. We are compatible and agreeable in...
    worksforme2 worksforme2 61-65, M 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Curious. If there are any men here who find themselves to be past the point of a new start due to being unattractive to women generally, how do you envision your life post-sexless...
    novembercomingfire novembercomingfire 41-45 13 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I'm not really sure how to begin, or what to say... I once had a wonderful woman whom I adored and loved. Some how this all fell apart around a year ago... Sex gradually became...
    Jaden1971 Jaden1971 41-45 10 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I m loosing hope that the marriage will get any better and am starting to plan an exit
    Stefunie Stefunie 46-50, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Hello I'm new to this site. I posted once prior, but I had no clue where I was in the situation. I'm a terrible writer and this is going to be long enough, so I'll jump right into...
    gator613 gator613 26-30, M Jul 9

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    After 12 years of a declining sex life, our marriage became sexless some years ago. After counselling, I told her that I wanted to leave. Now she's saying she wants to start...
    Carboholic Carboholic 36-40 9 Responses Jul 19

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheWeepingWoman TheWeepingWoman 36-40, F 22 Responses 1 day ago

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    I told my husband that I want a divorce. I have known for a little over a week now that I need to leave him. I care about him: he is the father of my children and a good man, but I...
    ladyintricate ladyintricate 31-35, F 9 Responses Jun 30

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    Why is marriage so difficult? I want my marriage to work really I do. It seems as every time the two of us try to have a conversation we end up arguing. It is so frustrating...
    SDSMCL SDSMCL 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I have been reading these stories for over a year, but this is my first contribution. My marriage, by definition, isn't sexless. We have sex regularly, at least weekly, more if...
    Bluechoo Bluechoo 36-40 10 Responses Jul 18

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am getting a divorce. The reason I know it's the right thing to do is that it feels right. I don't feel guilty, or indecisive, or wonder if there is anything left for me to do...
    aldsjkl aldsjkl 26-30 Jun 30

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    SIX SIGNS OF A LOVE AVOIDANT (This is a Good read) 1. Evades Intimate and Emotional Connection In romantic relationships evading intimacy and getting too close emotionally is...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F 12 Responses Jul 18

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    When we decided to get a divorce, my husband moved out and got his own place. We are now separated. We own a business together so we have to go to business related events and...
    lycheechan lycheechan 31-35, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    My wife and I have not had sex in almost two and a half years. The years leading up to that saw dwindling physical contact. It suddenly dropped to a couple of times in a year...
    StratfordMan StratfordMan 51-55, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    My husband has a close female friend/coworker that he won't introduce me to (even though she lives across the street), and I discovered (via texts and chats) that he pretty much...
    peachy127 peachy127 26-30, F Jul 9

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    Tomorrow is T -1... so to speak. I have finally set up an appointment with my first attorney. Then Monday I have an appointment with a divorce mediator (who knows, maybe it can...
    inmytime inmytime 31-35, M 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I didn't wait until marriage. I was 17 an he was 23. I didn't regret it, and still dont, but the way he treats me now, i love him unconditionally, yet he fails to even try an talk...
    happyconfused212 happyconfused212 18-21, T 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    When my husband I we're having difficulties... One of his ideas was to start role playing. He wanted to try other things but there was no way... I suppose I'd picked the lesser of...
    HotBoxDatRocks HotBoxDatRocks 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I'm wondering if anyone who has decided to pursue divorce (as I have), began dating prior to separating. After my husband refused (for the umpteenth time) to attend counseling on...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 10 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Saw this on another page, and it really is worth reading if you are in a bad relationship and know it. July 10. Ending Relationships. It takes courage and honesty to end a...
    toolatetoapologise toolatetoapologise 51-55, F Jul 10

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    Its so freaking difficult to deal with SM at the same time as depression. When you feel like a worthless piece of **** it's just that much harder to move along. I want to lie in...
    Aubergine7 Aubergine7 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 12

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    My therapist has been very helpful in helping me do three things. 1) Identify causes for my current plight and 2) uncovering areas for personal growth and 3) develop an action plan...
    NWTruthSeeker NWTruthSeeker 51-55, M 6 Responses Jul 13

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    My wife and I met in college 14 years ago but we didn't date we just were friends. She leaves to return home because one of her parents get ill and we lose contact until 3 years...
    Solonelysc Solonelysc 31-35, M Jul 14

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    Sex has always been difficult for me. It started with my first girlfriend. She came and I didn't. And thus it didn't feed my "reward system" the way it did hers. It continued on...
    cracklewalk cracklewalk 46-50, M 7 Responses Jul 20

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    It sucks. Three years married and it's not getting any easier. He's a very difficult man to be around. We have nothing in common either.
    armstrong7984 armstrong7984 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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