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I Am In a Difficult Marriage

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    I Am In Love With My Wife, But I Am Being Ignored

    Well, the title says it. I love her, more than anything. We both went through difficult divorces about 7 years ago and met after they were complete. We instantly connected and spent the first 5 years without spending a day apart. I am not just saying that, for 5 years we never...
    mstacey mstacey 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 25, 2008

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    Tired Of Being Treated Like A Child.

    I've been married for 22 years, we've been together for 25. He has always been demanding and high-handed but after about 10 years I came to realize this was because he, himself, is insecure. I used to point out the things he said that hurt me, thinking he just wasn't aware and...
    TheOriginalPard TheOriginalPard 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    It's Not Easy For Me In This Marriage Either

    You try it sometime: living with a wife that is so damned patient and understanding.  And what a great parent she is too; try looking good against a great mom like that.  Christ couldn't do it, I'm sure of that!  She's kind, supportive, understanding, and I have to...
    ward ward 56-60, M 2 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Sigh....

    it's amazing how things can stay the same even after so many years. my husband is emotionally unavailable. i don't get it... i see some women in the street that are uglier than me and you can tell by looking at her and her partner how much in love the guy is with her and how...
    metropolitan metropolitan 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 2, 2012

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    Is It Supposed to Be This Hard??

    I know a successful marriage takes work - sometimes more than others - but the joys should hopefully outweigh the trials, in my opinion. In my marriage, the joys don't come close to outweighing the difficulties - we have just not gotten along very well at all.  We are not...
    Indecisiontime Indecisiontime 41-45, F 3 Responses May 8, 2009

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    Finding A Balance

    You can't change or control your partner. That much I know. And when you are in a circumstance like I am, it's going to take a while for any thing solid to happen. My only real option at the moment is to stick to a routine, schedule, and healthy lifestyle. The rest doesn't fall...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Nov 30, 2010

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    Hang In There

    My husband and I have known each other for 11 years now (wow I can't believe it's been that long!!). I met him when I was 16, almost 17, and we dated from the time I was 18-21 and got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I don't think people ever met us and were like "Wow these two...
    milsogirl milsogirl 26-30, F 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    Im Scared Of Being Alone But I Really Need This Divorce

    I was married at the age of 20 yrs old to a man that was 25 I met him when I was 17 and he was 21 we had a very close connection we had good conversation and he had the most beautiful personality I could ever meet. We had meet up a couple times more after first meeting each other...
    Tamaralove Tamaralove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Tonight I want us "time"

    and I have been asking for months and I can't even get an hour without someone besides our children at our house. It's getting to the point where I feel like this just isn't what he wants, I feel he only stays for the children. He has told me now three different times that he...
    Hilaryb Hilaryb 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I am feeling a little anxious,

    but getting better. Made it through another Mother's Day! All of the mothers and those who mother- you all have my deepest respect and deserve to be honored. And I certainly do what I can to honor my own mother and the mothers close to me (my sisters, etc). Mother’s Day is...
    bluemoon41 bluemoon41 41-45, F 1 Response May 12

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    I have a lot to be grateful for

    and I am not one to dwell on problems. However I can no longer deny that I am married to an extremely difficult man. He is moody and fault-finding. He makes mountains out of molehills, is a drama queen, makes a capital crime of the smallest things. He stores up annoyances at...
    Chandler1929 Chandler1929 41-45 1 Response Sep 7

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    End of Road

    I am a cheater have been since the beginning of my marriage now i know this is wrong but when i got married i thought i could be the same guy i was before.  Well 6yrs and 2 kids later (all with my wife) i want to stop the cheating and love only her.  Problem is...
    dreghost dreghost 26-30 7 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    My Wife Is In a Difficult Marriage

    My wife is in a difficult marriage.  Her husband drinks alcohol once in a while and is cranky afterwards.  He yells and complains about the house being messy.  He just got fired off an engineer's job on a ship and feels like his career is going down the tubes. ...
    ward ward 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 4, 2007

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    I Am

    in a difficult marriage. and i wonder if it's worth it anymore. deep down, i think i know the answer. and i know he knows it too. he never wanted me. i just make a good wife b/c i cook and clean. i'm his mother, i'm his roommate. but i'm never his friend and never the love of his...
    dogloverapril dogloverapril 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2008

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    He Calls Me Friend

    He came to me in my darkest hour, he heard my cry for love, forgiveness and healing.. i raised my hands to the father as tears of regrets and sorrow ran down my face. Where are you lord, i can't see you i said. I thought Christ had left me, i fell to my knees and begged for mercy...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    How Fragile We Are

    I've learned the greatest lesson of marriage with in a two day time period. My husband came by to help me with a few things, and if you dont know my story please feel free to read them to better understand the situation. I've seen my husband off and on for the past 3 months, the...
    peachfuzz68 peachfuzz68 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 20, 2012

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    Sigh.

    Let me just say this, first off:  I love my husband.  He's my best friend.  But he can make me crazier than anyone on the planet.  I know it's not intentional, but it's very real nonetheless. He has this way of misrepresenting himself that lets everyone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 13, 2008

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    Alienated In Our Household.

    I don't want to throw away my marriage.  I'm feeling quite sad at the moment and powerless. When I try to improve things it just seems to make things worse and I am at my wits end.  I am at a crisis point and have no clue how to get us back on track.  You see I've been with my...
    runshazrun runshazrun 41-45 2 Responses Nov 17, 2011

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    Living With A Non Passionate Wife / Husband.

    From, My personal experience, I suggest, give it a try. because, braking is very easy, but getting better then what we had, is completely uncertain. then what............
    CAPRISMINDIA CAPRISMINDIA 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    My Husband Seems to Be Changing

    I have been married to a wonderful man for 19 years.  We have always seemed to be a good match.  Yes, we've had our arguments, we are both stubborn and headstrong, but I have always thought we were a good match.  In the past few years we have gone through some...
    musing musing 41-45, F 1 Response May 1, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Hi, I'm new here and thought I would reach out and share my story. I found EP from an article on the website when I was looking up sexless marriage. I signed up to read the...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 12 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Well the day finally came….and went. I did the deed and asked for a divorce. As expected she was upset. I couldn’t blame her. Her whole world was going to change. She...
    beachlivin04 beachlivin04 41-45, M 36 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    A few of my white girlfriends are involved in an interracial marriage. They all have kids by a black man as I do. Other white girlfriends are dating black men and two of them are...
    nudistwifeandmother nudistwifeandmother 41-45, F 2 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    My birthday is next week. 31. I'm a bit sad. I feel like I'm aging too quickly. I'm a mess- i'm getting divorced, I'm broke (though now I do have a job), I don't know if stbx or my...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 16 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Reading this may help those in sexless marriages figure out what they want to do. If you learned now that you were dying, what would you regret? "A Nurse Asked Dying Patients What...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Is there anyone here that accepts their sexless marriage? I've been sexless for almost 10 years now! It's been a excrutiating battle up until a few years ago when I just gave up...
    jenniferdarling jenniferdarling 46-50, F 11 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    I have been denied sex by my wife for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I've finally very courageously laid all our problems out and asked him for separation. I let him know there's something wrong when you and I have not been intimate in over 4 years...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 3

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    As a guy it is difficult to wait because we have a biological predisposition to mate often, but society says that's bad. Before the concept of marriage, our species did what it...
    LifeDispenser LifeDispenser 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 30

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    Today's Dear Prudence: " Dear Prudence, My wife hates sex. Over the years, her libido has gradually faded to nothing and she now finds even the thought of intercourse unpleasant...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 19 Responses Sep 4

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    Journey to Opposite Land - I'm still swimming strong headed for the opposite shore. My lawyer filed my motion for divorce this week, and I'm ensconced in the guest bedroom of my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 21 Responses Sep 5

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    Well I tried talking again to my wife after feeling really low, and she wasn't very responsive, at least not how I hoped. I'm not one to talk about my problems to others, but I...
    aardvark64 aardvark64 46-50, M 7 Responses Sep 5

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    Found these things..... http://marriagemissions.com/the-emotionally-distant-husband/ There are several types of unavailability – both temporary and chronic. Some people have...
    tristaspuella tristaspuella 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    So we had it out again the other day. I told him that I felt like more of a roommate than a wife and I feel like he doesn't love me anymore. It has always been difficult for me to...
    lonelyinlove04 lonelyinlove04 26-30 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    So after my wife's MRI yesterday, she was feeling a whole lot better as they injected her both with anesthetic and cortisone to help the inflammation. We chatted a little before...
    HopefulDude HopefulDude 36-40, M 12 Responses Aug 20

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    I have two daughters in law that are gems, and one soon to be daughter in law, who is probably the worst girl I've ever met in my life. Rude rude, keeps me out of 'their' life, and...
    anothermiltobe anothermiltobe 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    Almost two months ago, I had THE moment when life hit me in the head with a brick. A rude inconsiderate comment the STBX made to something I said when he and I were having a...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 29

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    Well, I hope the third discussion about our state of non-sexual married life is the charm. The first talk resulted in a short spurt of Saturday morning efforts that petered out...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 6 Responses Sep 2

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    So my 24 year old bf and I ended things. I am so sad. But, if I didn't do this, I would lose my hb, house, everything. I know it was the right choice. Sucks because I don't even...
    MidLifeCrisis71 MidLifeCrisis71 41-45, F 15 Responses Sep 3

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    One step forward, two steps back. She showed affection for a while, and even though it took longer than it should have she made an appointment with a therapist, but it seems like...
    Stayhidden88 Stayhidden88 31-35, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Days 6 and 7 – reclaiming my bed – in conjunction with my previous stories. So, day 6 was ok. #3 had his first real cough and found it difficult to settle in bed, so, and as...
    dadonthesofa dadonthesofa 46-50, M 17 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's been a little over a month since I posted my last story. In this last month, the two large things that occurred were that we had our 5 year wedding anniversary and this past...
    dangerouslyheartbroken dangerouslyheartbroken 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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