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I Am In a Long Distance Marriage

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    She's Worth The Distance

    I live in Pa. and my wife lives in NJ.  We met online in July of 2008 and got married in Aug. of 2009.  I don't regret our Long Distance Relationship because my wife, Sophie (pseudonym), is worth the distance.  We connected immediately when we...
    themaskedtruelovers themaskedtruelovers 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 26, 2009

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    Living Apart

    Being apart from my husband is not anything new for me but this time is different and I am not handeling the whole situation well. He has recently retired from the military (actually he officially retires tomorrow however has been on terminal leave since October). His new job...
    ldr203 ldr203 31-35 2 Responses Jan 31, 2011

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    Living In Two Parallel Worlds

    I got married on August 13, 2007. I have been in a long distance relationship for six and a half years and both of us knew it would be a while before we lived together. We have never lived together longer than for vacations of no more than two weeks. Many people who are...
    oboeamy oboeamy 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2008

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    Dual Military Marriage.....

    My husband and I have been together for two years and married for a year. We are both in the military and have been separated for the past year because we are stationed in different states. For the past 11 months he has been stationed in WA while Im in SC which meant we only...
    schm2055 schm2055 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    7 Years In Ldm And Going Strong.

    Hello!I will make this short as I have been spending way too long on the computer reading your stories! In point form, my life at the moment.LDM for the past 7 yearsMarried 21 yearsTwo kids that I raised practically alone. They are now 19 and 16. One in University.Husband comes...
    VirtualMarriage VirtualMarriage 51-55 7 Responses Jan 22, 2011

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    Weeks ago hubby bought the flight ticket to my

    country for end of this year. To our surprise, that really helps! Even though we can't meet for months but having a schedule and aim makes us feel better! Compared to before.
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2015

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    It is terrible. Hubby hates my country.

    This time also he wants to go back to his country earlier than the flight ticket date. Last time also he's like that. The money I spent for the ticket will be gone again. He got his hated bad hair cut here, no mobility as useful as his country. With other people he said he...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F Dec 24, 2015

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    Here I am, crying again,

    every night. No, I'm not crying because my husband go to work overseas. It's the other way around; it's me leaving him to fulfill my commitment to my scholarship bond. And you know what? The bond is nearly 15 years! That is after I graduate; I'm still studying. And we're in...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2015

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    Are These Signs That My Wife Doesn't Want Me Anymore?

    i am a filipino and my wife is a romanian. she went back to romania for a vacation. then went to italy to work. there started her changes. she easily gets irritated at me now. i send her text messages and call her everyday. but she said she wants me to stop because she's being...
    abelgc abelgc 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 7, 2009

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    Long Distance Marriage...

    So because of work I am away from home for 4 or 5 days a week. It is a great job, but I do miss my family. I miss seeing my boys and playing with them, and I miss the feeling of companionship I get when I cuddle with my wife. We talk on the phone most every night I am away...
    MeanMrMustard78 MeanMrMustard78 31-35, M Oct 18, 2012

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    She's In Afghanistan

    My partner and I have been together nearly four years, and we are absolutely 100% committed to each other for life. The first two years of our relationship she worked overseas, and we knew she had to come here to our home in North Carolina and spend real time together. We've...
    difrentdrummer difrentdrummer 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2013

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    When he's upsets about how lonely he is,

    or about his trouble in work, or when he's upset because he can't get along with his colleagues, and so on.. I feel terribly helpless. If I am living with him, maybe I can prepare dinner and just be by his side after work, and that'll be enough for us. I feel helpless and guilty...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F Oct 14, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    natalieccaa natalieccaa 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Perhaps the biggest hurdle is

    that we don't have full authority when living in mom's house. It's located in a place where you need a car to go anywhere, yet hubby and I don't have our own car. Hubby also doesn't like to going places or eating, different from what my relatives expected tourists would like...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Dealing With Lonliness

    Hello All!  I've been in a long distance marriage for over 5 years  and am looking for ways to cope with some issues. The first 4 years were Ok, but the last year has been really difficult.     
    snowjunkie snowjunkie 46-50 2 Responses Jan 16, 2008

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    myktty myktty 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2015

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    Not Long In Ldm But Long Enough...

    It has been 4 months into a LDM and its starting to get rough, we still have 4+ more to go. We have been together every moment of every day for 5 years! We have been married for almost 3, and have a 14month old. I didnt think other people were out there doing the same thing...
    ejconrow ejconrow 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    Long Distance-only Seeking Fellow Friends In Same Situation

    Hello- I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now with my new husband from Italy. We have been apart approx 5-6 months at a time for these past years and talked long and hard before deciding we just couldn't live without the other; no matter the steps...
    dgraziani0772111 dgraziani0772111 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    Going Crazy- Hopelessly In Love

    Hello all, My husband and I met online in January of 2008. It started off as a complete love story:) He pursued me first by sending me these amazing love letters. He was so sweet. We sent letters back and forth for about a month and finally met in person February 16th, 2008. To...
    Obsess Obsess 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    My wife lives in South Carolina

    and I live in NYC in order to find full-time employment. We are both self-employed small business owners but it's not enough to support our family. When I did live in South Carolina, I could not find full-time employment that was not enough to support my family. In order to...
    musicandlovetogether musicandlovetogether 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2014

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    My old friend suddenly ask to hang out together

    this night. When I said I prefer to hang out just here and that I have to Skype with my husband, she said going out is much more fun and that I can Skype now or late because it's been years since we've met. I am looking forward to meet her but I always feel anxious when going...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 5, 2015

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    Stuck In An Impossible Situation.

    I live in Minnesota.  My husband lives in NYC.  We've been together for 6+ years and just got married in March.  We're both prior military and are use to prolonged separation, so we stupidly thought accepting jobs 1200+ miles away from one another was a good idea.  The job...
    breezer348 breezer348 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    After more than 5 years living everyday in

    anxiety, I just found out today that our problem has a specific name to it- "the two-body problem". I feel happy that this 'disease' actually is acknowledged. And now I know why most people don't understand our problem. The nature of academia made that it's hard to find a...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2015

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    Why Did I Even Get Married?

    He does his thing; I do mine. I don't like it. We see each other once a month, on average. I don't look forward to seeing him anymore and we've only been married for one year. Am questioning whether I am falling out of love. It's possible, I suppose. These days, I am...
    ChocolateLuvr ChocolateLuvr 46-50 1 Response Nov 8, 2010

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    Long Distance Marriage, Due To Court And Ex Husband Opposing The Move With Our Children.

    I married my husband on our birthdays in July.  Due to circumstances we have lived apart since a week after our wedding.  I am struggling to find work in a very small town where I moved to when I married my ex husband.  My husband is struggling to find a second job and a house...
    Shannon1978 Shannon1978 31-35 4 Responses Oct 22, 2011

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    Last time I posted here it was

    when my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and was very ill. She passed away in 2012. I went with her to my country because she wanted to live there. I was there for one and half years. At the end when she was really sick and we knew her time was limited I met a friend...
    littlesadgirl littlesadgirl 18-21, F Aug 15, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bethccaa bethccaa 26-30, F Dec 24, 2015

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    To Old For This!

    I have been married for 36 years to the same man and have spent maybe 16 of those years living together in the same place. He is and engineer and has spent countless hours on the road or working for extended periods of time in other cities/states. We are currently apart, him...
    terri11749 terri11749 66-70 2 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    Waiting

    I recently got married. But my husband and i only spent 3 weeks as married couple and left to another country for a job.
    joyceavena joyceavena 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2012

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    Im in long distance marriage

    for 7 years. I still love him. We spend only 2 weeks every year. Its sad. Bad thoughts start to play in mine head. Should i put a end to it.? Its feel like im wasting mine times and energy in a marriage which has no plan. 7 years ago before we married he promise that within a...
    Assepoetser Assepoetser 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Instead of continuously ranting,

    I better think what is the wisdom behind what happened. Prioritize that over than the feeling of regret and guilt, then maybe my way of thinking will change thus I can make the best out of my life and our marriage. It's hard for a negative thinker like me but I want to be...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F Sep 27, 2015

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    I thought I'm not going to post things like

    this again. But just to release my disappointment & feeling of helplessness & negative feelings, please allow me to write again. I'm not sure whether to post this on 'I'm not the other woman' group because the group is much more supportive, but maybe our marriage problem is not...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 19, 2015

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    Still Waiting

    I'm probably the most pathetic person here. I'm 20 years old, I haven't even been married a month, and I can barely handle being long distance anymore. I've know my husband for roughly 7 years, we've been together for 5 and 1/2 years, and married since December of 2011. I'm a new...
    ardenthorn ardenthorn 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    Thank God we Skype everyday,

    and can visit my husband several times a year even though only about 2 weeks every time. It's just I always feel guilty because, because of me and my obligation, we end up like this.. He has his dream in his modern country, I have my own obligation in my country. Do you also...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 29, 2015

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    Mystory

    I am in long distance marriage for 5 years. My husband is in the navy and we are childless/childfree. Over the years, I've learned to accept the reality that I'm gonna be spending many special occasions alone, and so does my husband. I am just so lucky that mine is a very loving...
    singlewife singlewife 31-35 3 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    The Kids Are Gone...the Distractions Are Gone...not Sure I'll Make It...

    We've been married 19 years and this was so easy back then. I had the kids, all of their activities and work to keep me busy and too exhausted to focus on how much I was missing my husband. Today I have an empty nest with a great business here in Georgia, while he's in NY; but...
    Sapphire30303 Sapphire30303 41-45, F 1 Response May 28, 2012

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    You Can't Get There From Here

    Where to start??? Prof military officer (me not him) swept off her feet by retired USAF, good looking guy. Contracting company (with a black cat) takes up all his time, but 30-60 days home at a time. I retired and keep waiting for him to settle down for 5 years now...
    UKNurse UKNurse 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    Why I put myself into this mess?

    So tired of waiting and being alone, staring at the phone, waiting for his texts or calls. "Things will get better after marriage," he said. How can things get better when he isn't putting any effort? He comes back once in a month (1 hour flight) and as usual without any...
    tweety87 tweety87 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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    Related Experiences

    No matter how far apart we are, no matter where life takes us, or how long we have to be apart. My love will NEVER waiver, NEVER falter, NEVER lessen. I WILL be with you. I WILL...
    HerTrueKing HerTrueKing 22-25, M 8 hrs ago

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    I don't think anyone knows how hard it is. To love someone who lives so far away. To miss them so bad you want to stop what you're doing and run to them, or swim to them, or if...
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I would rather know a person from the inside out. I believe that understanding the person deeply can result to longer lasting relationships. Long distance relationships may help...
    orangeattic orangeattic 36-40, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Im getting tired of people asking "does long distance relationship really work?" well let me ask you something, do "normal" relationship work? some of them do and others dont. then...
    GamerInLove GamerInLove 18-21, F 1 Response 23 hrs ago

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    Does long distance relationship seriously work??? From two far away different countries, different cultures??? What ppl think?
    acoolstud99 acoolstud99 26-30, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    long distance can be hard sometimes but its worth it all if it means we will be together when the time comes.we have ups and downs and there are misunderstandings sometimes but we...
    ramjesgirl ramjesgirl 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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