I Am In a Long Distance Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 82 People

    Mystory

    I am in long distance marriage for 5 years. My husband is in the navy and we are childless/childfree. Over the years, I've learned to accept the reality that I'm gonna be spending many special occasions alone, and so does my husband. I am just so lucky that mine is a very loving...
    singlewife singlewife
    31-35
    3 Responses Aug 27, 2009

    Hubby is not spiritually/mentally well

    and I failed to reach there today by flight. All I can do now is pray. My sis said to me: "(Pray) and trust that he will get better." What a wisdom!! Usually I am blinded by my worry and my control-freakiness. I always said to him, "Why don't you do this do that" because I...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 12

    Long Distance-only Seeking Fellow Friends In Same Situation

    Hello- I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now with my new husband from Italy. We have been apart approx 5-6 months at a time for these past years and talked long and hard before deciding we just couldn't live without the other; no matter the steps...
    dgraziani0772111 dgraziani0772111
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2011

    Stuck In An Impossible Situation.

    I live in Minnesota.  My husband lives in NYC.  We've been together for 6+ years and just got married in March.  We're both prior military and are use to prolonged separation, so we stupidly thought accepting jobs 1200+ miles away from one another was a good idea.  The job...
    breezer348 breezer348
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2011

    We have bad days. He said it's like he's not

    married because he lives alone. He asked, "Are you my wife?" He said he wants a proper wife. It's really painful, when you can't do anything for your spouse, when he just want someone home to eat meals together, especially after bad days at work. I think I understand his...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 9

    Weeks ago hubby bought the flight ticket to my

    country for end of this year. To our surprise, that really helps! Even though we can't meet for months but having a schedule and aim makes us feel better! Compared to before.
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2015

    7 Years In Ldm And Going Strong.

    Hello!I will make this short as I have been spending way too long on the computer reading your stories! In point form, my life at the moment.LDM for the past 7 yearsMarried 21 yearsTwo kids that I raised practically alone. They are now 19 and 16. One in University.Husband comes...
    VirtualMarriage VirtualMarriage
    51-55
    7 Responses Jan 22, 2011

    It is terrible. Hubby hates my country.

    This time also he wants to go back to his country earlier than the flight ticket date. Last time also he's like that. The money I spent for the ticket will be gone again. He got his hated bad hair cut here, no mobility as useful as his country. With other people he said he...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Dec 24, 2015

    Perhaps the biggest hurdle is

    that we don't have full authority when living in mom's house. It's located in a place where you need a car to go anywhere, yet hubby and I don't have our own car. Hubby also doesn't like to going places or eating, different from what my relatives expected tourists would like...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 2

    I heard that people become more sensitive in

    the internet. That's kind of true. Some things that we feel embarrassed if saying face-to-face, feel less embarrassed if we write in letters - in these days, in the e-mails, chats, internet. I tend to feel very very worried, overwhelmed and panicked when I see and hear how sad...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Feb 11

    I am in a long distance relationship.

    he loves me and i love him. i have been really depressed lately because of multiple reasons, my job family and a brokn marriage. i dont want to lose him but i am so irritating sometimes i think i ll lose him. i cant wait to get married and start a family with him. but he has to...
    sara514 sara514
    26-30, F
    Feb 10

    Living Apart

    Being apart from my husband is not anything new for me but this time is different and I am not handeling the whole situation well. He has recently retired from the military (actually he officially retires tomorrow however has been on terminal leave since October). His new job...
    ldr203 ldr203
    31-35
    2 Responses Jan 31, 2011

    Living In Two Parallel Worlds

    I got married on August 13, 2007. I have been in a long distance relationship for six and a half years and both of us knew it would be a while before we lived together. We have never lived together longer than for vacations of no more than two weeks. Many people who are...
    oboeamy oboeamy
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 7, 2008

    Im in long distance marriage

    for 7 years. I still love him. We spend only 2 weeks every year. Its sad. Bad thoughts start to play in mine head. Should i put a end to it.? Its feel like im wasting mine times and energy in a marriage which has no plan. 7 years ago before we married he promise that within a...
    Assepoetser Assepoetser
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 29, 2013

    Last time I posted here it was

    when my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer and was very ill. She passed away in 2012. I went with her to my country because she wanted to live there. I was there for one and half years. At the end when she was really sick and we knew her time was limited I met a friend...
    littlesadgirl littlesadgirl
    18-21, F
    Aug 15, 2015

    Instead of continuously ranting,

    I better think what is the wisdom behind what happened. Prioritize that over than the feeling of regret and guilt, then maybe my way of thinking will change thus I can make the best out of my life and our marriage. It's hard for a negative thinker like me but I want to be...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Sep 27, 2015

    To Old For This!

    I have been married for 36 years to the same man and have spent maybe 16 of those years living together in the same place. He is and engineer and has spent countless hours on the road or working for extended periods of time in other cities/states. We are currently apart, him...
    terri11749 terri11749
    66-70
    2 Responses Nov 10, 2012

    When he's upsets about how lonely he is,

    or about his trouble in work, or when he's upset because he can't get along with his colleagues, and so on.. I feel terribly helpless. If I am living with him, maybe I can prepare dinner and just be by his side after work, and that'll be enough for us. I feel helpless and guilty...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Oct 14, 2015

    i am away from my wife

    for six months of military training. lots of married guys hook up while they are away. don't really dig that. doing my best to stay focused and be good!
    cloudedjourney cloudedjourney
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 9

    Hmm.. when the spouse is not interested in

    finding job in my country, not interested in adapting to my country.. I can adapt to the lifestyle of his country, but I guess I wont get a job in his country.. never mind that, but the problem is I have a long-term bondage in my country which is very costly to breach.. and with...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Feb 9

    My wife lives in South Carolina

    and I live in NYC in order to find full-time employment. We are both self-employed small business owners but it's not enough to support our family. When I did live in South Carolina, I could not find full-time employment that was not enough to support my family. In order to...
    musicandlovetogether musicandlovetogether
    41-45, M
    1 Response Dec 7, 2014

    After more than 5 years living everyday in

    anxiety, I just found out today that our problem has a specific name to it- "the two-body problem". I feel happy that this 'disease' actually is acknowledged. And now I know why most people don't understand our problem. The nature of academia made that it's hard to find a...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    What to do when your partner despise the idea

    of living in (even the idea of visiting) your country, while you will end up living in huge debt if you breach your too-many-years employment contract in your home country?
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 9

    You Can't Get There From Here

    Where to start??? Prof military officer (me not him) swept off her feet by retired USAF, good looking guy. Contracting company (with a black cat) takes up all his time, but 30-60 days home at a time. I retired and keep waiting for him to settle down for 5 years now...
    UKNurse UKNurse
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Apr 17, 2010

    Here I am, crying again,

    every night. No, I'm not crying because my husband go to work overseas. It's the other way around; it's me leaving him to fulfill my commitment to my scholarship bond. And you know what? The bond is nearly 15 years! That is after I graduate; I'm still studying. And we're in...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2015

    Thank God, today was all right.

    Hubby has a party hosted by his teacher to celebrate him, so he didn't feel lonely today. Hope that relinquish his thirst for companions. As for me, I managed to did some focused work, and learnt something new about our personalities, which i enjoyed very well. After hubby...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Feb 14

    I thought I'm not going to post things like

    this again. But just to release my disappointment & feeling of helplessness & negative feelings, please allow me to write again. I'm not sure whether to post this on 'I'm not the other woman' group because the group is much more supportive, but maybe our marriage problem is not...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 19, 2015

    Dealing With Lonliness

    Hello All!  I've been in a long distance marriage for over 5 years  and am looking for ways to cope with some issues. The first 4 years were Ok, but the last year has been really difficult.     
    snowjunkie snowjunkie
    46-50
    2 Responses Jan 16, 2008

    I think there are different cases in long

    distance marriages. I believe the emotional challenges is different even though they are all "long distance marriages". The list below is just from what i know/experience to this point. If you have additional info/opinion, please feel free to comment below. A) Who is leaving...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Feb 11

    My old friend suddenly ask to hang out together

    this night. When I said I prefer to hang out just here and that I have to Skype with my husband, she said going out is much more fun and that I can Skype now or late because it's been years since we've met. I am looking forward to meet her but I always feel anxious when going...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 5, 2015

    She's Worth The Distance

    I live in Pa. and my wife lives in NJ.  We met online in July of 2008 and got married in Aug. of 2009.  I don't regret our Long Distance Relationship because my wife, Sophie (pseudonym), is worth the distance.  We connected immediately when we...
    themaskedtruelovers themaskedtruelovers
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Oct 26, 2009

    Dual Military Marriage.....

    My husband and I have been together for two years and married for a year. We are both in the military and have been separated for the past year because we are stationed in different states. For the past 11 months he has been stationed in WA while Im in SC which meant we only...
    schm2055 schm2055
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2010

    Friends always ask me to bring them to my

    husband's country if I am going to visit him. Can somebody be kind enough to imagine the trouble I am feeling inside my heart every time being asked that? My husband's country is considered as one of exotic tourism places by people in my country. They always ask me to bring...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Feb 17

    She's In Afghanistan

    My partner and I have been together nearly four years, and we are absolutely 100% committed to each other for life. The first two years of our relationship she worked overseas, and we knew she had to come here to our home in North Carolina and spend real time together. We've...
    difrentdrummer difrentdrummer
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 1, 2013

    Thank God we Skype everyday,

    and can visit my husband several times a year even though only about 2 weeks every time. It's just I always feel guilty because, because of me and my obligation, we end up like this.. He has his dream in his modern country, I have my own obligation in my country. Do you also...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2015

    Going Crazy- Hopelessly In Love

    Hello all, My husband and I met online in January of 2008. It started off as a complete love story:) He pursued me first by sending me these amazing love letters. He was so sweet. We sent letters back and forth for about a month and finally met in person February 16th, 2008. To...
    Obsess Obsess
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 17, 2013

    Last night at midnight,

    my payments for online flight ticket was declined and my booking disappeared. My sleep time was sacrificed for trying for hours to no avail! And just now near afternoon the airline mail came.. "Your holiday is just a click away! Did some technical difficulties get in the way...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    Feb 11

    When your spouse is not well

    that s/he wants to die, and you are asked to go fly overseas there today or at least tomorrow. And you have piles of work and deadlines to be met. But you love and very worried about your spouse that you cant even do any work at all.
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 11

    Are These Signs That My Wife Doesn't Want Me Anymore?

    i am a filipino and my wife is a romanian. she went back to romania for a vacation. then went to italy to work. there started her changes. she easily gets irritated at me now. i send her text messages and call her everyday. but she said she wants me to stop because she's being...
    abelgc abelgc
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Feb 7, 2009

    Long Distance Marriage, Due To Court And Ex Husband Opposing The Move With Our Children.

    I married my husband on our birthdays in July.  Due to circumstances we have lived apart since a week after our wedding.  I am struggling to find work in a very small town where I moved to when I married my ex husband.  My husband is struggling to find a second job and a house...
    Shannon1978 Shannon1978
    31-35
    4 Responses Oct 22, 2011

    I am not where I am supposed to be,

    in terms of mental and skill. I cannot do what people at my age can do. Shortly, I am at this age but my mental is like of a child. Spoiled brat. Naive. Don't even know how to contribute. And I have a long-distance husband. He's unhappy with his job so he wants to quit and...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 9
    myktty myktty
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 17, 2015

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