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I Am In a Long Distance Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 62 People

    Stuck In An Impossible Situation.

    I live in Minnesota.  My husband lives in NYC.  We've been together for 6+ years and just got married in March.  We're both prior military and are use to prolonged separation, so we stupidly thought accepting jobs 1200+ miles away from one another was a good idea.  The job...
    breezer348 breezer348 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    To Old For This!

    I have been married for 36 years to the same man and have spent maybe 16 of those years living together in the same place. He is and engineer and has spent countless hours on the road or working for extended periods of time in other cities/states. We are currently apart, him...
    terri11749 terri11749 66-70 2 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    Waiting

    I recently got married. But my husband and i only spent 3 weeks as married couple and left to another country for a job.
    joyceavena joyceavena 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2012

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    Long Distance Marriage, Due To Court And Ex Husband Opposing The Move With Our Children.

    I married my husband on our birthdays in July.  Due to circumstances we have lived apart since a week after our wedding.  I am struggling to find work in a very small town where I moved to when I married my ex husband.  My husband is struggling to find a second job and a house...
    Shannon1978 Shannon1978 31-35 4 Responses Oct 22, 2011

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    Are These Signs That My Wife Doesn't Want Me Anymore?

    i am a filipino and my wife is a romanian. she went back to romania for a vacation. then went to italy to work. there started her changes. she easily gets irritated at me now. i send her text messages and call her everyday. but she said she wants me to stop because she's being...
    abelgc abelgc 26-30, M 3 Responses Feb 7, 2009

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    Long Distance Marriage...

    So because of work I am away from home for 4 or 5 days a week. It is a great job, but I do miss my family. I miss seeing my boys and playing with them, and I miss the feeling of companionship I get when I cuddle with my wife. We talk on the phone most every night I am away...
    MeanMrMustard78 MeanMrMustard78 31-35, M Oct 18, 2012

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    Mystory

    I am in long distance marriage for 5 years. My husband is in the navy and we are childless/childfree. Over the years, I've learned to accept the reality that I'm gonna be spending many special occasions alone, and so does my husband. I am just so lucky that mine is a very loving...
    singlewife singlewife 31-35 3 Responses Aug 27, 2009

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    She's Worth The Distance

    I live in Pa. and my wife lives in NJ.  We met online in July of 2008 and got married in Aug. of 2009.  I don't regret our Long Distance Relationship because my wife, Sophie (pseudonym), is worth the distance.  We connected immediately when we...
    themaskedtruelovers themaskedtruelovers 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 26, 2009

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    Why Did I Even Get Married?

    He does his thing; I do mine. I don't like it. We see each other once a month, on average. I don't look forward to seeing him anymore and we've only been married for one year. Am questioning whether I am falling out of love. It's possible, I suppose. These days, I am...
    ChocolateLuvr ChocolateLuvr 46-50 1 Response Nov 8, 2010

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    7 Years In Ldm And Going Strong.

    Hello!I will make this short as I have been spending way too long on the computer reading your stories! In point form, my life at the moment.LDM for the past 7 yearsMarried 21 yearsTwo kids that I raised practically alone. They are now 19 and 16. One in University.Husband comes...
    VirtualMarriage VirtualMarriage 51-55 6 Responses Jan 22, 2011

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    She's In Afghanistan

    My partner and I have been together nearly four years, and we are absolutely 100% committed to each other for life. The first two years of our relationship she worked overseas, and we knew she had to come here to our home in North Carolina and spend real time together. We've...
    difrentdrummer difrentdrummer 41-45, F Dec 1, 2013

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    Not Long In Ldm But Long Enough...

    It has been 4 months into a LDM and its starting to get rough, we still have 4+ more to go. We have been together every moment of every day for 5 years! We have been married for almost 3, and have a 14month old. I didnt think other people were out there doing the same thing...
    ejconrow ejconrow 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    Living In Two Parallel Worlds

    I got married on August 13, 2007. I have been in a long distance relationship for six and a half years and both of us knew it would be a while before we lived together. We have never lived together longer than for vacations of no more than two weeks. Many people who are...
    oboeamy oboeamy 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2008

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    Im in long distance marriage

    for 7 years. I still love him. We spend only 2 weeks every year. Its sad. Bad thoughts start to play in mine head. Should i put a end to it.? Its feel like im wasting mine times and energy in a marriage which has no plan. 7 years ago before we married he promise that within a...
    Assepoetser Assepoetser 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2013

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    Long Distance-only Seeking Fellow Friends In Same Situation

    Hello- I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now with my new husband from Italy. We have been apart approx 5-6 months at a time for these past years and talked long and hard before deciding we just couldn't live without the other; no matter the steps...
    dgraziani0772111 dgraziani0772111 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 9, 2011

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    Still Waiting

    I'm probably the most pathetic person here. I'm 20 years old, I haven't even been married a month, and I can barely handle being long distance anymore. I've know my husband for roughly 7 years, we've been together for 5 and 1/2 years, and married since December of 2011. I'm a new...
    ardenthorn ardenthorn 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 10, 2012

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    The Kids Are Gone...the Distractions Are Gone...not Sure I'll Make It...

    We've been married 19 years and this was so easy back then. I had the kids, all of their activities and work to keep me busy and too exhausted to focus on how much I was missing my husband. Today I have an empty nest with a great business here in Georgia, while he's in NY; but...
    Sapphire30303 Sapphire30303 41-45, F 1 Response May 28, 2012

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    Living Apart

    Being apart from my husband is not anything new for me but this time is different and I am not handeling the whole situation well. He has recently retired from the military (actually he officially retires tomorrow however has been on terminal leave since October). His new job...
    ldr203 ldr203 31-35 2 Responses Jan 31, 2011

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    You Can't Get There From Here

    Where to start??? Prof military officer (me not him) swept off her feet by retired USAF, good looking guy. Contracting company (with a black cat) takes up all his time, but 30-60 days home at a time. I retired and keep waiting for him to settle down for 5 years now...
    UKNurse UKNurse 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    Going Crazy- Hopelessly In Love

    Hello all, My husband and I met online in January of 2008. It started off as a complete love story:) He pursued me first by sending me these amazing love letters. He was so sweet. We sent letters back and forth for about a month and finally met in person February 16th, 2008. To...
    Obsess Obsess 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    Dual Military Marriage.....

    My husband and I have been together for two years and married for a year. We are both in the military and have been separated for the past year because we are stationed in different states. For the past 11 months he has been stationed in WA while Im in SC which meant we only...
    schm2055 schm2055 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6, 2010

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    Dealing With Lonliness

    Hello All!  I've been in a long distance marriage for over 5 years  and am looking for ways to cope with some issues. The first 4 years were Ok, but the last year has been really difficult.     
    snowjunkie snowjunkie 46-50 2 Responses Jan 16, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I was in one, well at least I think I was. I feel embarrassed thinking back about it but at the same time it was what I wanted and still wish for. I was 12 years old, being the...
    flowerchildx flowerchildx 13-15, F Aug 26

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    It all started back in 2011 when I was 18, just a few months away from turning 19. I had been using a site called flashflashrevolution.com because I was interested in the game it...
    HillyHana HillyHana 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    I read this in the elite daily's post. Somehow I really believe that long distance relationship is a chance to be on your own without ever having to feel alone. As in long...
    EasyOrange EasyOrange 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    My whole life, I had been taught by my family, and peers that long distance relationships were impractical, and could never possibly work out. Sadly enough, I believed them...
    PrincessKayleigh PrincessKayleigh 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 2

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    I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year and a half now. I've been really stressed over the last couple of years as I started a graduate program while battling some...
    cheersbabe cheersbabe 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    I posted this before in another group but I'm trying to get as much help as possible , and people here will understand sorry , if it's long though : I am in a long distance...
    Nayera Nayera 16-17 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Being apart from the person, you love has to be one of the most challenging experiences in a persons life. Every day that you are apart. Can't help but be reflected on as...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    I've been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now, we've been talking for 7. We've never met, we started talking through twitter, and I'm in Wisconsin and he's in Texas. I...
    savannahsays savannahsays 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    Not touchin or kissing so what is the meaning of success ? I think long distance relationships are all about patient and in my opinion life is to short for long distance...
    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now. We met through Instagram and met in person. I visit him and he visits me. However, we haven't...
    StayCalmImYours StayCalmImYours 18-21, F Aug 26

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    I've only been in one serious LDR, and it was the best time of my life. I loved her and everything, but I couldn't keep up with her. She was growing fonder and more attached, and...
    xSundip xSundip 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 6

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    Long distance relationships do not rely on physical love, long distance relationships are driven by the love that inspires your heart , mind and soul
    prince35xxx prince35xxx 31-35, M 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    I remember saying to myself when I was younger that I would never be in one. Never say never. We met online when I was 16, he was 17. I was always a paranoid person on the internet...
    DaQueenB92 DaQueenB92 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    Meh. I tried it for a while and it didn't work out. Sometimes distance gets the better part of people. I'd prefer not to get into another long distance relationship although I'm...
    ifearsnowmen ifearsnowmen 18-21, M Aug 19

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    I've had one before, but it didn't really work out. I just want someone to talk to all the time. Someone to form an emotional bond with. Someone I'll eventually get to wake up to...
    ILoveLlamasBro ILoveLlamasBro 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    I believe that long distance relationships can work. As long as there is trust and love
    kaseys14 kaseys14 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    F.uck you--- you don't work okay? Better go f.ck yourself than f.ucking with our lives.hate you just ruined me huh? F.uck you "long distance relationship can work" you are a f...
    Sophiakhan1 Sophiakhan1 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    He won't reply so I'll go to sleep... :/ ugh hate this long distance thing. Well he lives 50 miles away so not that long but still...
    KittyKatLuvsYhu KittyKatLuvsYhu 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Hey! So I'm reaching half a year with my babe, I was wondering if you guys had any anniversary ideas (small gift ifeas or things to make it more special) to do for long distance...
    CammieBx CammieBx 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I am like an expert in long distance relationships because I live in California and my man lives in South Dakota. We met at age 11 living in the same complex in El Cajon, CA. He...
    roselani2005 roselani2005 26-30, F Aug 17

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    I know that if you have trust issues and clingy tendencies. Long Distance is not for you unless youre like a billionaire and can afford to fly in and out .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F Aug 17

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    I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year, recently it got a lot more difficult because he moved to boarding school where we can barely talk , and I have nothing...
    morticiamortal morticiamortal 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    i remember being in a long distance relationship with a guy i went to school with in 7th grade. he was the finest guy i ever met so far. it was a pretty cool relationship but it...
    luvabl3 luvabl3 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm lesbian, and I've been speaking to this girl for a while now. Last night we were speaking together about how we first started talking, how I was afraid to send the first...
    raehmm raehmm 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 24

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    Long distance relationships do work. A friend of mine got a girlfriend in Canada and now he lives there with her, lucky guy.
    Mpregnator Mpregnator 18-21, M Aug 24

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    Even though mine ended after three and a half years I don't regret a second of it. Don't get me wrong there were difficult times but you get to know that person better (in my...
    Dovesery Dovesery 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    I've been in over a dozen LDRs. The first few ones I felt like I really was in love. I loved it. Just talking to beautiful (real) girls that I never would have met otherwise. I...
    CJCA CJCA 18-21, M Aug 26

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