My LDBF and I have been apart for 6 months. Long before I left, he promised that he would come see me in the UK this summer.
Last night he posted on facebook that he had just booked his ticket to fly home and see his family for Christmas. Jokingly, I asked him when he was booking his ticket to come see me.
“I dunno, maybe next winter.” No joke. Dead serious.
I immidiately felt a knot in my stomach and tried texting him to see what he meant. No answer; his favourite technique to “let me down easy”.
When he finally answered, long after I was in bed, he said he had a really big project going on at work and didn't think he could get two weeks off.
He is a young engineer and he often joked about how, being left handed, his iron ring must be worn on his left pinky finger. Which is right next to his ring finger, meaning he could put work before marriage.
I always laughed and rolled my eyes but I'm starting to feel like that's where the relationship is headed and I'm not so keen on that. Two weeks ago, after over a month of ridiculous hours at work, he got very worried that I would leave him because of his job and the lack of communication that goes with it most days. I assured him it would take way more than that to push me away. But now I'm not so sure. This has me really upset.
How do I handle this? I don't mind arguing about it, but I want him to realize that there is more at stake than a deadline. His decisions don't just affect him now, they affect me too and we should talk about them together Anyone been there? What did you do?