I Am In a Marriage Where I Do Not Feel Loved, Needed Or Wanted

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    looking at these posts it's sad

    but it reminds you that there are options and you don't have to keep on hurting
    oldsoul420 oldsoul420
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 8, 2015

    my husband doesn't want to be with me

    physically anymore and it hurts married for 14 years stopped having sex 8 years ago
    Shel5 Shel5
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    I Feel Lost

    Life at now is just like an algal bloom to me....its getting equipped just occupying and occupying space and oxygen content just decreasing and decreasing.........!!!!I was in relationship with him since last two years and finally took a bold step of getting married to him.Not...
    Aisharsha Aisharsha
    18-21, F
    Nov 21, 2012

    Married for two years

    and my husband says that he isn't that sexually attracted to me for various reasons (he comes up with something new each time that lack of sex is brought up). I honestly don't know what to do. Now I hate coming home because sleeping next to someone that doesn't want you is...
    jerseylady0714 jerseylady0714
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    A wife with no life. I am a wife

    and mother of 1 and another on the way. my family means the world to me but for some reason after 6 years of marriage I have jusy realised I have no life. my husband on the other hand does. he goes out with friends, goes to the gym watches his tv programmes. I do nothing except...
    Awakey Awakey
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Feb 7, 2015


    My husband tells me he loves me, but somehow I can't see it in his actions. We hardly have any intimacy and he doesn't look at me the way he did before. I just think we are roommates sometimes. I cook, clean, and join him on weekend outings. I am his partner and he seems to enjoy...
    cleargerman cleargerman
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2012

    I tried expressing the feelings I get

    when my husband puts his friends before our marriage. One example would be doing things like helping on business ventures with his friends, but refuses to help me start a business of my own. Another example is communication. He talks to his friends for hours at a time, but I am...
    OneStarGirl OneStarGirl
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Sep 6, 2015

    I feel nervous typing this

    as my beautiful baby sleeps beside me and my very handsome husband, who is a great father and a good person, snores nearby. I just feel so ungrateful, or stupid for screwing everything up. I dated my husband for four years, in which we lived together most of that time, so it's...
    iamowl iamowl
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 24, 2014


    The backstory: sexually numb, married-to-work husband has proposed we actually celebrate our 10-year anniversary. He's suggested an island in the Caribbean - my choice. Forward to tonight: I'm researching islands on my laptop while he watches tv. I find a promising island...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 4, 2012

    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i meant here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back.give him a try +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers
    51-55, F
    Aug 17, 2015

    Well tonight I told her.

    I folding her that I needed to feel like I was desired and wanted and not just a companion. I was pretty blunt. About what I needed. Maybe she'll figure it out now. I don't want subtly I want passion unbridled.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    I have been married for 3 years.

    My husband was amazing before we got married. He was charming, loving, made me feel wanted. Shortly after we got married things totally changed. When I talk to him about anything even day to day simple things he won't even acknowledge I spoke. It is like I don't even exist to...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2015

    My marriage has failed

    but my husband is doing a great job at pretending it hasn't failed and is ignoring all the warning signs hoping that they will go away... They won't but I am doing this new thing where I really don't care any more about what is he isn't doing for me or how he isn't treating me...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    Need Advice

    I met a guy. I thought he was so cool and great. He told me he had a place but we could chill at his mom's crib while she was out of town. When she came back in town I found out he did not have a place but crashed on people's couches. It is not hardcore homeless, but he was also...
    lilyholic lilyholic
    Jun 8, 2013

    Not Quite True

    I am needed for making dinner every night (seems dinner is a surprise event every day), make lunches, mow the yard, do the grocery shopping, go to a lot of kid events alone,... so I guess I am needed.
    george1445 george1445
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2010

    Would He Even Miss Me?

    H and I were nearly T-boned this weekend by a woman on her cell phone, going at least 50 mph. I was in the passenger seat - she would've hit the car on my side. I could've been killed. We called the police. An officer stopped by and took our statements. Again, I could have died...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    Mar 5, 2012

    It is Friday and the thought of going home

    and spending the next two days at home is depressing. The silence I recieve and the negative comments I have to endure are more than I want to ponder on. Come on Monday.
    okaysowhatnow okaysowhatnow
    56-60, M
    3 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    I was always told that women appreciated

    thoughtful gestures, and that it was important for a man to show his wife sensitivity to her feelings. I sent her a couple of ecards recently, one to thank her for some things and one just because ... she didn't even open them. Okay, fine, note to self, cards aren't her...
    drjacksonii drjacksonii
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 23, 2015

    Wish I Was Loved More

    Me and my husband have been married for 13 years. i long for his attention i beg for it. he can not ever tell me that i am beautiful . he has been abusive to me emotionally and verbal . we have two children. i want to leave but just don't know how . he never says he is sorry...
    philene78 philene78
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jul 22, 2013

    Im Invisible

    Im a mom of two but it feels more like THREE. I know for a fact that im needed. If I wasnt there then who would take off my husbands boots after work or clean up the trail of trash and clothes he leaves behind or pack his lunch and fix his coffee. And if I wasnt there then who...
    lonelymomof02 lonelymomof02
    4 Responses Mar 30, 2013

    Heavy Heart

    I've been married for ten years and although there have been laughs I can say that I've been unhappy the entire time. I'm ignored, never paid attention to, never a compliment in all ten tears, avoided and this has left me with such a heavy heart, sadness and a longing for...
    greeneyes1977 greeneyes1977
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2012

    I Hate My Husband

    11 years together and I still feel hate towards him for what he did and what sucks about it, he denies everything he did to me the hurt,pain, I went through it and I felt alone and now unhappy, he don't know but I either hate him or I'm starting to.
    Biridiana Biridiana
    1 Response Sep 22, 2012

    I Dream Of A Happy Marriage Every Night

    I have been married for 18 years now. I have always know I married the wrong person. She is a nice person, but she is not my soul mate. Along the years, I've always said to myself, It will get better. But, there a lot of things that are going wrong... I work 12 hours a day...
    BlueHat300 BlueHat300
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Jul 22, 2013

    Help Me Help Him

    I am a newly weed. Only married one month today. And in that 30 days I only have had sex 3 times because my husband has no interest in me..at all. I am 35. At my sexual peak and he is 39 and has apathy towards me. Love my husband with all my heart...but very sexually...
    terrabear69 terrabear69
    3 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    I Just Can't Stand the Fighting

    d We separated 2 weeks ago, I moved out with our 4 year old, and have since moved back in.  We live in separate rooms, and I seriously - SERIOUSLY - need some space.  I moved back in so it would not be so traumatic for our 4 year old.  I wonder now...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Dec 7, 2008

    I Just Need to Be Told Sometimes!

    It's only been two years and I knew from the start that my wife was not a romantic person, but I feel invisible. She does a wonderful job; wonderfully - she's a nurse. I admire her for what she does, but the compassion doesn't come home. She has friends who make...
    hawk2002 hawk2002
    46-50, M
    6 Responses Jun 17, 2009

    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers
    51-55, F
    Aug 21, 2015


    I am a 31 year old female, who is bi-sexual. I am married to a 24 year old man that I love more than anything in this world. But for some reason I have this feeling in my gut that it is just a matter of time till he walks out the door on me. We don't really fight, and he says...
    washio2005 washio2005
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 31, 2013

    End of My Rope

    i have been feeling this way for quite some time quite frankly am sick of it. my husband denies there is anything wrong says that he loves me and we will be together forever. not really sure if i want this forever i can't remember the last time he has said something nice to me i...
    22shelly 22shelly
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2009

    I'm unhappy and he doesn't seem to see that.

    It feels like a one way marriage that he makes the money while I do the rest.
    marieAsh21 marieAsh21
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Aug 16, 2015

    It is Friday and the thought of going home

    and spending the next two days at home is depressing. The silence I recieve and the negative comments I have to endure are more than I want to ponder on. Come on Monday.
    okaysowhatnow okaysowhatnow
    56-60, M
    Sep 11, 2015

    Just venting.I don't drink a lot.

    Typically a glass of wine or beer with dinner maybe 4 days a week. I recently had a big birthday and asked for top shelf alcohol.  I figure I can't afford multiple bottles of the best stuff, my friends and I share the sames tastes, and I didn't need presents that would sit on...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Dec 6, 2013

    When mutual care turns to hatred,

    can it go back to the time of caring for the person who hates you? Or is it time to accept how much hatred he has for you and let him have his freedom and happiness? No one should be forced to live with someone they resent that much.
    Mickeyg888 Mickeyg888
    3 Responses Oct 22, 2015

    So dealing with a loveless marriage.

    Anyone else going through this?
    blessed1966 blessed1966
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Feb 7, 2015


    I feel as though i have no purpose in life and in my marriage. I feel inadequate in every aspect. If i dont wake up tomorrow it would not affect me.
    jade2013 jade2013
    1 Response Jan 24, 2013

    I married my wife at the age of 19

    and I'm now 27. what I have come to realize is that when you get married at that age in this country, you're NOT nearly ready. I continue to suffer from this childish decision to marry because I can't find the words to say to her
    oldsoul420 oldsoul420
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 8, 2015

    To Go Or Not To Go

    Is what I sit here thinking about on a Saturday night. Seriously do not know why I put up with the things I do. I have never felt so unwanted and unattractive in my entire life. So after more then decades worth of marriage do I start over or not? The kids are raised and gone,the...
    addyson25 addyson25
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Feb 2, 2013

    love is a wonderful feeling,

    am living the life i meant for me.thanks to dr faust a spell caster i met here..my love life is back..thanks Faust..if u are having issues in any issues of life.......thanks to him my husband came back. +447035914441
    rosemyers rosemyers
    51-55, F
    1 Response Aug 21, 2015

    hi me and my husband have been married

    for nearly 3 year's been together for nearly 10 years and in the time we have been married we have had sex twice. just after we got married everything stopped there's no effort no sex no intimacy no fun no passion no nothing if makes me feel unwanted and unloved and undesirable...
    Desperatehousewife1986 Desperatehousewife1986
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    I Haven't Changed..

    I use to wake up with a smile..way back when you held me every night and allowed me to hold you in return..I would get up before you so your breakfast was served in bed while I asked what you had to do at work today..You'd take a shower and I'd make your lunch and hide a note in...
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses Nov 19, 2012
    JustSayin48 JustSayin48
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Dec 30, 2015

    i have been with my husband

    for two years the 21st, but only married for 11 months but now he tells me he doesn't love me anymore, he said he quit loving me around December but that was when i found emails from him to another girl. he said he doesn't want to be married that he wants to be single...
    texasmom3579 texasmom3579
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2015

    Empty Hearts

    It's been a few weeks now that I told my husband I no longer have any feelings for our marriage. He wasn't shocked cause this had been going on for awhile already. One of us had to put it out there on the table. I stayed away for days at a time but financially I'm stuck at the...
    Calif39 Calif39
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2012
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