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I Am In a One Sided Marriage

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    Needing To Vent

    I've been married over 16 years and have two great kids, now teenagers. My marriage has had its ups and downs. We started out great with many common interests. As we grew, my career became much more important to me than his to him. This is fine with me and I don't mind being the...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 11 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Ok so I came home last night ready to be ******.

    I mean down and dirty **** my brains out kind of horny. Talking to hubs and let him know this. He wanted to take a bath so I fill it up and hopped in. We continued our talk and I mentioned I was going to go commando to my Christmas party. He asked why. I said because it would...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 57 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Double Standards

    Well we split up on Monday! For the whole time we were married though he had such double standards. I wasn't even allowed to go food shopping with my friend without him questioning me about it. I wasn't allowed to go for a drink.... he was so controlling and I would tell myself...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2008

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    Don'T Know What Else To Do

    I've been married to a fabulous man for 25 years. We have 3 children. We've had a very happy marriage but it has always been somewhat lopsided. During the first 15+ years I would send the kiddos off to grandmas house and I'd make special dinners and do special little things...
    sylviasylvester sylviasylvester 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    I'm In a Bad Marriage

    HELP!  I'm just cheking to see f I'm even signed on this site.
    LCBWTB LCBWTB 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2008

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    It will be 4 years in a few weeks that we have been married. 6 months after we married everything fell apart. He became distant, cruel, and emotionally abusive. I stood up to him...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I figured it out. It's simply. The reason why my marriage didn't survive. Why may husband didn't care for me the way I needed and why he cared less and less everyday. It's because...
    carpediem2 carpediem2 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 24

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    My current email to my husband of 12 years: It's after 3 and I am up, tormented by our lack of intimacy. I've asked you for months to seek out help and you have given me no...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue 41-45, F 9 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I am so frustrated at my husband. He really is very lazy at making things work between us. No matter how many times I explain to him, he just chooses to take certain things for...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F 18 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What happened to the have and to 'hold' sure as hell try to understand but slowly losing all faith in our marriage.
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    pebbles7 pebbles7 36-40, F 1 Response 54 mins ago

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    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 5 days ago

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    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 26

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    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    I did not write the following but it is a great take on what an open marriage is like and what it should be like. I found this article at Salon.com. What I learned from dating...
    sosexyincolo sosexyincolo 36-40 2 Responses Sep 11

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 6 Responses Aug 21

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    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 11 Responses Aug 22

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    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    Been a while since I posted here, but I have been reading and following regularly....just been too mentally taxing to put words to my thoughts....But the last Cpl weeks things have...
    thenewoz thenewoz 41-45, M 9 Responses Sep 7

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F Sep 11

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    kay0122 kay0122 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 2

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    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    spiritnow spiritnow 41-45, M 4 days ago

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    Neglect - One of the most important things I've learned from my decision to end my sexless marriage is that I will never again tolerate being neglected by my partner. We all...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Aug 30

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    I found an interesting study on sexlessness in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. I can't share the full pdf because there's no way to upload it here, but I will copy and paste the...
    RedOctagon RedOctagon 22-25, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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