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I Am In a One Sided Marriage

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    Double Standards

    Well we split up on Monday! For the whole time we were married though he had such double standards. I wasn't even allowed to go food shopping with my friend without him questioning me about it. I wasn't allowed to go for a drink.... he was so controlling and I would tell myself...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2008

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    Needing To Vent

    I've been married over 16 years and have two great kids, now teenagers. My marriage has had its ups and downs. We started out great with many common interests. As we grew, my career became much more important to me than his to him. This is fine with me and I don't mind being the...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 10 Responses Nov 17, 2013

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    Ok so I came home last night ready to be ******.

    I mean down and dirty **** my brains out kind of horny. Talking to hubs and let him know this. He wanted to take a bath so I fill it up and hopped in. We continued our talk and I mentioned I was going to go commando to my Christmas party. He asked why. I said because it would...
    Curiouskitty77 Curiouskitty77 36-40, F 56 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    I'm In a Bad Marriage

    HELP!  I'm just cheking to see f I'm even signed on this site.
    LCBWTB LCBWTB 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2008

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    Don'T Know What Else To Do

    I've been married to a fabulous man for 25 years. We have 3 children. We've had a very happy marriage but it has always been somewhat lopsided. During the first 15+ years I would send the kiddos off to grandmas house and I'd make special dinners and do special little things...
    sylviasylvester sylviasylvester 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    This weekend had its highs and lows. Basically I had plans to meet up with my friends and they bailed on me. These were plans we had in advance from 2 weeks ago and they acted...
    bettygingham bettygingham 22-25, F 17 hrs ago

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    A bit of a rant?... another one of those days where I need to get the thoughts out there somewhere! My refuser starts to see a psychiatrist tonight. The reason being is our...
    asterinight asterinight 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 1

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    The end is near for my 26 yr marriage and I feel devastated. I know all my reasons for leaving were valid but still feels painful. It is not what I wanted. I wanted to see the...
    frspch frspch 51-55, F 10 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    Lately I have been feeling really fed up and depressed. I feel that both family and friends hate me being happy or having a life of my own. My parents are both really ill and have...
    galaxy3 galaxy3 36-40, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Conversation (HoH) - rejected (this is fine though and we discussed potential dom/sub which was also rejected) both are fine to reject So next thought was something I want to...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Well I'm not but I did and I would like to encourage all of you who are standing up to all the pressure of society and peer group and saving yourself for your husband (or wife) and...
    MrsSThomas MrsSThomas 36-40, F 5 hrs ago

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    Well I'm not but I did and I would like to encourage all of you who are standing up to all the pressure of society and peer group and saving yourself for your husband (or wife) and...
    MrsSThomas MrsSThomas 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    THE TRUTH BEHIND THESE KINDS OF MARRIAGES.Last week, I wrote an article for my blog titled: Six Reasons That Your Marriage Will Fail. One of the areas that I highlighted was...
    MarredMind MarredMind 36-40, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    Rediscovering Sex in a Sexless Marriage: Rediscovering sex - This is where things are at now. For those who are reading my story for the first time let me point out my marriage...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 2

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    I am a doctor and went through some of the experiences on this site.... Felt like i should also share some of my experiences which i faced in my life.... Yes Doctors are not immune...
    saiprasadbhavsar saiprasadbhavsar 26-30, M Oct 9

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 15 Responses Oct 11

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    I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last year it's been "my wife is selfish" or "my wife is unreasonable." But...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 2 Responses Sep 23

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    Update. Last time I posted I was overwhelmed at how many responses I had. Some understood my struggle and some completely didn't get it. Reading it now I was pretty upset writing...
    2Blossom 2Blossom 46-50, F 15 Responses Sep 27

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    I feel like this experience us turning me into an emotional Jekyll and Hide... In the morning, when domestic life goes on as it must, I feel inclined to be patient, more forgiving...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 2 Responses Sep 28

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    There’s a number of reasons why people live in sexless marriages, every married couple’s situation is different; you could talk to fifteen different couples and hear fifteen...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I’ve been reading sexless marriage posts for a while now (being in one myself). In a way the experience of reading these posts is like beginning to recognize it as a hydra - the...
    ace4444 ace4444 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 26

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog..i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M Oct 5

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog..i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 5

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    Hi I am new to this forum but I have had the opportunity to read posts and study them. I feel less lonely now and realize that my experience is shared by many. I decided to post as...
    FantasticNJGuy FantasticNJGuy 41-45, M 12 Responses Oct 7

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    My wife's best friend is divorcing her husband, who is one of my good friends. She said things were bad for a while, and somehow it escalated past the point of therapy. They never...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 27

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    Revised for offensive content: Last night I set the stage for an argument this weekend. Yesterday I came home from work in a good mood and hugged my wife when she came through...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 14 Responses Oct 3

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    I have finally detached from my refuser/abuser. I no longer need to obsess about the marriage. I no longer need to look back and try to figure out what went wrong, what did i do...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 3

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    Well I did it. I took everyones advice in ILIASM, and I consulted an attorney in the event that I may need to pull the parachute on my marriage. Thank you Bazaar for hammering this...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    I think I just discovered why I ended up in an emotionally abusive controlling marriage. I always thought you had to look at your parent of the opposite sex. For me I think it...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 12

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    Well, I don't live in a SM anymore. I left him 1-year ago today. I'm still sexless (not for the whole year) but that's now my choice as opposed to a symptom. Choice feels way...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 5 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Higher love. And baser desires. I'm still kinda dwelling on my h's explosion at me last weekend. One of the things he told me was the 'he fell in love with my mind'. Which is...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 8 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    My thoughts on staying or leaving... Marriage is a combination of 2 people and their energy. Spiritually speaking, when you marry you become attached and share your energy, it...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 7 Responses Oct 2

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    I am in a sexless marriage and have been for years. I don’t mean a sex reduced marriage I mean non-existent. It is because she has medical issues and I won’t go into that. I...
    lasergraph lasergraph 61-65, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    I'm new here and hope my post makes it to the right place. I've been with my H for 17 years. He's 10 years older than I am, I'm 55. from the beginning he had ED problems, but I...
    Sarita22 Sarita22 46-50, F 20 Responses 6 days ago

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    Coercion. Years ago I read about husbands forcing their wives to perform a certain sex act (named at the end of this story for those curious) under the threat of divorce. It was...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 16 Responses Sep 25

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    Do marriages out of convenience actually work? I'm just curious. I can't imagine being married to someone just to make life easy or because it'll be convenient for most "people...
    lonelydinosaur lonelydinosaur 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    My dad sent me this months ago when I told him I want to marry my boyfriend. I think this is fabulous advice and something refusing spouses have either forgotten or never learned...
    papaya6 papaya6 22-25, F 15 Responses Oct 3

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    I'm an individual who usually goes with the flow, yes I still have opinions, but only when I have a right to say that I do. especially of gay marriage I am not for gay marriage...
    vividmemorieslost vividmemorieslost 18-21, F Oct 5

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    I feel very sad each time I read people talking bad abour marriage...comparing it to a prison...love cemetery...not knowing why they should marry...wanting to be eternal lovers...
    Brunette4U Brunette4U 31-35, F 10 Responses Oct 10

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    I am sure this post is probably going to get some negative feedback, but be it as it may, i apologize if i offend anybody. Im sure it does not apply to all as it once applied to...
    RobertCarlos RobertCarlos 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 11

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    To my fellow suffers I have a question. Let me first say that I know I'm an idiot. I married my first wife when I was 26 y.o.a. and I had some red flags but I thought I could fix...
    Nick5211 Nick5211 51-55, M 4 Responses Oct 11

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    “Check engine light” This weekend I became so mad at my soon to be ex-husband. I didn’t want to waste my time and energy. I mean, after all, who does it benefit? Clearly...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Oct 12

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    I would be lying if I said I've never struggled. The first 2 years of marriage can be tough, especially having married at a young age without having dated many guys. Lucky for me...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Just had a meeting with my therapist. We have narrowed everything down to just one question I have to ask my wife. I guess this is a politically correct way of asking the nuclear...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 22 Responses 6 days ago

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    Residual behaviors from my messed up marriage showing up as I sleep??? From the other side... I get up a half hour before my boyfriend and do my morning rituals of drinking...
    awakeforthedancechecksin awakeforthedancechecksin 36-40, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    This letter in today's Dear Prudence column sounded like one some refusers might write after being served with divorce papers. " Q. I Want Her Back: I have been an awful husband...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 11 Responses Sep 24

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