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I Am In a Relationship But I Don't Feel Loved

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    Why? :/

    I feel so unloved. He won't text me. Won't call. Nothing. I just don't know how much more I can take. I mean, I love him. But how can I love someone who won't even talk to me? I keep telling myself if he wanted to talk to me, he would. But he doesn't. The first week or two of our...
    DivergentWolf DivergentWolf 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    I am his wife but yet I feel like I'm the other

    woman. It's about to be two months since I gave the hubby an ultimatum his family or this other woman. As I suspected he choose her, so many were suggesting for me to do this for the longest believing this will awaken him from the affair fog, the very thing I feared came true. I...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F Apr 13

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    Im 35 and hubby is 44.

    We are married for 7 years. When he reached 40, his libido went down. It is not everyday sex anymore and it is like twice a month sex now. Im blunt so I seduce and ask from him but he cant keep up. I want it everyday. It now feels like he is just a companion. The sweetness is...
    outofsortsgal outofsortsgal 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    Minnesotalove Minnesotalove 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    When People Ask Me...

    i like to live by this quote "Unless it is mad, passionate extraordinary love. It's a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life, let love not be one of them
    antoinette97 antoinette97 13-15 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    Love

    "Never love anybody who treats you like you're ordinary." Need to live by this
    antoinette97 antoinette97 13-15 1 Response Dec 21, 2012

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    Until It'S Gone

    I know he loves me deep down, we have been together over 5 years, he just never makes me feel loved, its in my mind but that's no place for love... nothing i express sinks in with him, i feel he justifies it all with the things i do that he doesn't like. He has left me thinking...
    talk143 talk143 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2013

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    What I will say right

    now may not apply all of you, but it's still true that a lot of relationships are like this: Some of you may think that you "don't feel loved", but maybe you haven't taken the time to know your partner well enough to recognize HOW he/she loves you. It might be very different...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    I text my guy on sat

    and five days later I haven't had a response. Scared this is the beginning of the end.
    Belissa Belissa 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 9

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    I feel as if my husband is not on my team at

    times...I can't hold a serious conversation with him without him becoming angry with me. This of course escalades into a fight. We have a great time between the hours of 5pm and 9pm. By that I mean we usually start our day out with discussing the things that have to be done that...
    Artwithin Artwithin 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 2

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    For months now I have been trying to understand

    what's going on here I love this man so much in spite of the hurt he has put me through and he doesn't see me. I have stayed even though most people in my position would have walked but here i am trying to be positive trying to move forward and this cloud continues to hang over...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I feel everyone's pain.

    I have been with my man for 18 months now. Six months ago, we moved down south together. He now works full time and goes to school full time, so I know he is busy. But we don't touch any more. We hardly ever kiss or hold hands or heaven forbid we make love. We hang out together...
    kinders92 kinders92 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Don'T No What To Do X

    iv been with my partner for 7 years we have 2 amazing kids! i feel like he takes me for granted we have had our ups and down but the last few months iv started to question his feelings for me we have argued over silly little things but also things that he's done that's really...
    teen23 teen23 22-25 1 Response Oct 21, 2013

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    Been married for 29 years

    and recently found out my husband had an affair for a year she shared the I love you words with her and know nothing feels the same specially the love
    achilles2013 achilles2013 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    My estranged wife is making my life

    so difficult I don't think I can be with her anymore. She is intent on just partying to all hours despite our having two small children and a job that needs her to be up at 6. I don't know any of the people that she is friends with and what it is that keeps her out all night. I...
    Allboutmykids Allboutmykids 31-35, M 6 Responses Apr 4

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    My love life is plain we don't

    even talk anymore! I haven't communicated with hair in a week! **** me Royally!
    ScouseKai ScouseKai 13-15, M 1 Response Feb 23

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    I just tried talking to my bf about how I felt

    and it's going nowhere I'm just getting more frustrated. I've had this conversation so many times with him and I feel like I'm wasting my time. He says he loves me no matter how distant or unresponsive he is. What sense does that make if you love someone you wouldn't act that...
    nottheaveragegirl nottheaveragegirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    I have been married for five years my husband

    don't even know I am here most of the time unless I do something he don't approve of! It's most everything he don't like he has pushed to the point I don't like to be in the same room with him :( it gets really lonely
    jamie8677 jamie8677 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 24

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    This is true....it feels like she don't care

    anymore and even tho we talk a lot still.... I always tell her shes beautiful and I love her but all she says is thanks... Like it only works one way... And when I think about it sometimes.....my heartbeat quickens like the speed of light and I have to keep breathing to calm...
    adam7475 adam7475 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 23

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    How I feel about this is

    if you love yourself more than your partner than that all that matter trust me if you have a smile on your face in singing he/she will know it wasn't them who put it their. You don't have to cheat to be happy when you find yourself in feel independent in focus more on yourself...
    Purplequeen21 Purplequeen21 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 24

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    I don't believe in making someone stay

    if they don't love you like you wish they would. I've been with my guy for 15 years. On and off, it's been a roller coaster ride. Every time I leave, he tries to change and treats me good so I can stay. But enough is enough. I know he's not in love with me nor does he love me...
    Gmornbabe Gmornbabe 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I'm in a long distance relationship.

    I haven't gotten to see my boyfriend in months. He hasn't been able to contact me much. I know I love him but I am scared. He tells me he isn't able to get on his phone but yet I see him adding friends or sometimes I see him on line...am I being played? Or is the distance...
    disapney disapney 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    ...and the truth of the matter is,

    I don't even think I want to be loved the way this person loves. It's just the fact that I am not receiving love that makes me question my lovability. Is lovability as word?
    iDyAlx iDyAlx 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    My boyfriend lives with me

    but I don't like him anymore and I want to call this but I don't know how. He is not loving, is always critical, he makes fun of me, never kisses and just want sex when HE wants, I'm so unhappy.
    Chris268brasil Chris268brasil 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 24

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    It's not that I didn't feel loved it was just

    because I wasn't loved by that person so if you don't feel loved then it's probobly best to leave that relationship there's nothing you can actually do then be yourself and forget that person why care they didn't ?
    edgarr edgarr 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    My boyfriend is so rude,

    he's selfish and a jerk! Why am i even with him.
    nonemany nonemany 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    I'm At A Loss

    My relationship is in stasis. I don't want to stay, but I haven't the will to go. I feel no love for or from the man I've sworn my life to till death. I'm so frustrated...maybe I still love him it's just buried under all this disappointment and grief. So many things are wrong. I...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    I am married have been

    for a little over 2 years. We are expecting our first baby together (his first my second). I just feel so lost with him lately. I don't know if it's the stress of a new baby coming but he just doesn't show me love. He doesn't kiss me unless he is leaving for work, he doesn't...
    jwiltzer18 jwiltzer18 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    In-Love With The Wrong Person:

    "Is it normal to love someone so much that it hurts? To the point where it just feels like a massive weight inside your chest and your eyes water up for no reason, but you can't express how much you truly care for someone for the fear of screwing something up or making it sound...
    CancerandScorpio CancerandScorpio 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I'm 15 and half of you may tell me I do not

    know what love is? But at this time in my life if I've learnt anything is that you know what love is when it hits ya and it's hit me hard. I love my boyfriend but I'm not getting the same signals back... We've been together nearly two years and it's just not working but I can't...
    mindfudged mindfudged 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Am I The Problem .. ?

    I don't understand where he stopped being nice and caring to me or maybe I'm just not seeing it ... Buh I have seen it and felt it before - his warmth , his love , his embrace - he gave me feelings I've never gotten before from anyone else . Now ... It's ALL different , he loves...
    Munchkinnx3 Munchkinnx3 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    I am married .mine was arranged marriage .

    my wife taken me granted ,she just wants to live her life ,never talks with me,does not involve in my problems,Life is really very boring & full of depression .i am fade up with life , do not have courage to leave her.I just want love,warmth
    jpshah jpshah 41-45, M 4 Responses Mar 16

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    I feel like there is something not right the

    way I think I have so many negative thought about my husband I love him but I also hate him for emotional pain he has caused me I feel like a storm of love and hate going on inside me if this make senses to anybody we both have said and done hurtful and mean things to each other...
    dolphintree94 dolphintree94 41-45, F 8 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I havent been with my partner very long,

    neither of us are driving at the moment and live in different towns so its fairly difficult to see each other, but in the dating phase we both put in alot of effort to see each other a few times a week, and everything was going perfectly. Hes a musician so spends an awful lot of...
    clairejones93 clairejones93 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    I am lied to daily left alone in a room with

    nothing hes a drug addict an i sometimes dont even have food to eat till he brings something anything to eat. He leaves every morning an comes home at night an if i ever say anything then my night is spent with him crying an pleading on how much he loves me. An how much he...
    lilmissyme73 lilmissyme73 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 16

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    Stepping Stone

    I am a stepping stone for men. They truly love me when they meet me, and I build them up so much out of love, and then as time passes, they take me for granted. I don't know if they realize it. I do tell them when it is happening and they promise to not take me for granted, they...
    ilcm ilcm 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    Hi I also feel that I have lost my life.

    i want to end my marriage ,but can not due to my family & even I can not live this life .no understanding ,no love , no sex,no warmth , what is this kind of life?
    jpshah jpshah 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 19

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    I hate my boyfriend I made a video of my

    attempt to runaway , it's on my YouTube channel you can watch if if you like http://youtu.be/IpAcNarSrLY
    cutieserafina cutieserafina 22-25, F Apr 4

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    I Know I Should Leave!

    My boyfriend jus got out of jail and he has been hanging out with his no good *** friends! We yesterday he came to see me and when he got there I didn't wanna kiss him we he got really mad and started smacking me he also dragged me by my hair! I'm so confused I love him but he is...
    LateNightTalk LateNightTalk 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Missing

    He tells me that he loves me but I don't feel it. How can I when his words inflict pain on me? Am I supposed to just forget and not be hurt. He says he's sorry and that I'm just holding onto things and dwelling in the past. But there's one thing...it's not in the past if he keeps...
    Oso41412 Oso41412 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2013

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    Recently Broke Up But Still Together?

    I'm recently broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years who is 20 years younger than me. Yes, I saw it coming. And I tried to prepare myself but I had no idea that I would end up loving him this much. When we broke up I cut all ties with him even changed my # but he still found a way...
    bellspii bellspii 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I'm gay my grl friend works a lot of hours &

    when she's off most of time she wants to sleep,I wish to cuddle maybe go out but I feel it's sounds to much to ask for
    torres54 torres54 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    Feeling Lost, Alone, And Confused...

    I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years, with a 1 year hiatus in between. During that time, we still lived together, but didn't kiss, have sex, or say "I love you." We got back together after I went out for a night of drinking with the girls and came home...
    CDC88FTC CDC88FTC 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 5, 2013

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    Pretty Heartbroken

    The worst feeling ever is loving your significant other so damn much you'd do anything and everything for them, and having them admit that they don't feel the same way about you in the slightest.
    muddledmuggle muddledmuggle 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    There is nothing worse

    than being in a relationship but feeling no love. My bf and I have been dating since last August. One wonderful year in the same city and one difficult year long distance. I begged him not to move since I had one more year of grad school but understood he had to live his dream...
    mimileelee mimileelee 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    Horrible Person

    I just ask for the same thing over and over and I can never get it. I'm too busy getting yelled at and cussed out and talked over. Like why can't my life ever be fair? I had to fall for a dude who's just gonna sell me dreams and when he ***** up it's all my fault. Why do I have...
    Daneshap Daneshap 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 26, 2013

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    WTF

    I've been married to an emotionally inaccessible man for almost 10 years which didn't bother me at first because I was emotional enough for the two of us, and we were young and everything else seemed to out weigh that fact, but these days with all the good things waning I'm...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    But how do you get past the terrible loneliness

    we can be sitting in the same room and it's as though I'm not there. Like you and others in my position you give so much of yourself and see absolutely nothing in return. We have done counselling but that only works if the other person is willing to be frank and honest about his...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F Apr 13

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    I Felt Unwanted

    I'm in a relationship this time but i am being ignored, and feeling unwanted.. My boyfriend lived thousand miles away from me.. He kept on telling me that he is busy with his schedule, and had many conflicts to deal with. We were now one year but if i would look back from the...
    ImawomanwholoveGod ImawomanwholoveGod 22-25, F 11 Responses Oct 20, 2012

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    And I finally said - I'm done,

    lets call it off. Feel so better now, but at the same time is odd to see the person who I shared almost 5 years of my life looking lost, I feel sorry for him but I need more and I need now. It's funny when people realize we are not getting back how good they say they gonna to be...
    Chris268brasil Chris268brasil 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 15

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    I'm in a 13 year marriage

    and ready to end it because my husband is emotionally immature. He acts like one of the kids and pretends he has no responsibilities for anything. I'm done being the adult and feel complete resentment. I'm ready to go!
    Leavingyouforme Leavingyouforme 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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