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I Am In a Relationship But I Don't Feel Loved

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    I try to do things for him

    that I know he likes and enjoys, and I know he loves and cares for me-- but at the end of the day, I go to bed feeling empty and alone. I don't want to say that he doesn't love me and doesn't show affection, but words and the occasional cuddle isn't what I'm looking for...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 19

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    A sad fairy tale turned into a nightmare,

    gazing upon a beauty I've never seen, on the outside appearing to be sweet, caring, and a mystery. I wanted to know You and You, Me. I gave you My time and Heart, fell head over heels for You. You were sweet and caring genuinely... Through out time, You showed me a different...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F Sep 13

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    I'm At A Loss

    My relationship is in stasis. I don't want to stay, but I haven't the will to go. I feel no love for or from the man I've sworn my life to till death. I'm so frustrated...maybe I still love him it's just buried under all this disappointment and grief. So many things are wrong. I...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    I am feeling really un happy with my life right

    now... I have a son and another child on the way. I live with the father- my "boy friend" but right now I feel like I can't stand him!!! He annoys me, angers me, and I feel like I can't tell him of something ****** me off because it turns into a fight! This makes me un...
    alicia1005 alicia1005 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 5

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    Question: Then why are you in

    that relationship?
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    WTF

    I've been married to an emotionally inaccessible man for almost 10 years which didn't bother me at first because I was emotional enough for the two of us, and we were young and everything else seemed to out weigh that fact, but these days with all the good things waning I'm...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    sacalley sacalley 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 6

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    I've been married for 13 years.

    My wife has put on weight since our last child (he is 11). Because of her weight and fitness we can not make love successfully. It's been probably since December 2014 that we last tried. Before that she thought I was the problem (medication) So we did it off and on for a couple...
    crossvilledavis crossvilledavis 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 10

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    he's never told me he's loved me.

    we've been together for over a month. should I be worried?
    taylorrose99 taylorrose99 13-15, F 5 Responses Nov 9

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    I pack her back without her knowing,

    I talk to her friend to ask if she would like to help me surprise her. I give the friend a large sum of cash to take her out to have fun for a day, on Father's Day weekend. She leaves at 8 am, they return at 5 pm. I watch the kids all day, my son takes a late nap, which...
    OGPrefix OGPrefix 26-30, M Jun 15

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    I feel like there is something not right the

    way I think I have so many negative thought about my husband I love him but I also hate him for emotional pain he has caused me I feel like a storm of love and hate going on inside me if this make senses to anybody we both have said and done hurtful and mean things to each other...
    dolphintree94 dolphintree94 46-50, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I hate the way I'm feeling.

    I love this man so much but he doesn't see me. He doesn't know how I'm feeling and I don't believe he cares. I look at my life and I have to ask the question is this really my life? I miss this man I miss my best friend when did he turn into this person? When did he stop caring...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 1 Response May 7

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    I've never been in a relationship longer

    than the one I'm in currently, which is not long compared to the many years others have had. For the year that we have been together, we've had so many issues and fights that I am starting to feel worn emotionally. I think my boyfriend is an emotionally unavailable man. Although...
    ephemeralise ephemeralise 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 9

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    I'm just lonely as hell in this marriage It

    really sucks and we are only 2 years in
    lonelygirl67 lonelygirl67 46-50, F 7 Responses Nov 3

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    A letter to the mother of my unborn twins.

    .. Well this certainly sucks big time.. I have totally flipped my life around for you and only you, made enemies out of people I have already hurt, lost all stability in my life and essentially live on peoples good humour to keep me around. I even get the feeling that if there...
    lerz2000uk lerz2000uk 31-35, M Nov 16

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    About a year ago my wife realized she was going

    to turn 50, and our oldest kid would be leaving us for college. She has said that she sees herself as 90% mom and now that purpose is going away. She tried to replace that void by showering me with affection and hoping I could fulfill the hole that was opening up in her life...
    SeatownMan1 SeatownMan1 46-50, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I love her so ******* much

    but it seems like it's gonna be over sooner than I expected...
    EmotionlessDude EmotionlessDude 13-15, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Im married for 5 yrs

    and weve been together for 10yrs, this few months my husband has changed and i dont feel that he still love me, i asked him if he still love me and he said his love is not the same as before and he doest know how to bring back his love, we have son and he is is two yrs old now...
    Ilovemyhusband27 Ilovemyhusband27 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 7

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    Tonight my husband told me

    since I'm not going to get a job & provide for myself he's leaving. He said it's not his responsibility to keep me in my habits we've been married for 23 years I've had my habit since we've been together. I've told him over & over where I've never held a job in the past 23 years...
    Poohbear1974 Poohbear1974 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18

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    I want to ask him if I he actually still cares,

    or is he just scared to be alone. I'm not sure anymore. Whenever something is wrong or there's an argument, he's quick to buy something to shut me up instead of just apologizing or talking it out like couples do. If we are really in love, shouldn't we fix our problems instead of...
    SadZweibel SadZweibel 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 4

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    I am in a relationship going on 6 years now.

    Marriage has always been talked about as if it was unnecessary, and will happen in the future of I felt that strongly about it. I have a step-son who has lived full time with us for the last 4 years. We also have a 2 yr old. Through out our relationship I have dealt with a lot...
    BiancaNicole BiancaNicole 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    I'm new to this and I don't really understand

    it could someone explain it to me.... I would like to chat and meet some friends is this what this about or am I wrong?
    JayRoseJay JayRoseJay 46-50, F 26 Responses May 12

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    Hi there, I am in a relationship with a lovely

    man but I am a bit wary, here are the reasons: 1) he lives with his partner who has been telling him for a long time she no longer wants to be with him, doesn't love him, doesn't want him near her etc text. 2) it's her house that he lives in and he has nothing to do with it so...
    delphinia46 delphinia46 46-50, F 4 Responses Nov 11

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    My husband and I got married

    because I was pregnant with our daughter, which was fine, but neither of us really wanted to get married. Our families pressured us into it (both are traditional and Catholic) and we figured it would be the best course of action; we didn't want our daughter brought up in a...
    katinbell katinbell 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I've been married for 23 years,

    we have 4 kids 3 girls 1 boy, the oldest girls are grown ups now but the last 2 kids are 15 & 13. In the past 5-6 years my husband has been so controlling & here lately I've been standing up to him & he says I act like a child, I'm worthless & he wants me to make the decision on...
    Poohbear1974 Poohbear1974 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 4

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    My husband is constantly telling me about

    EVERYTHING I do wrong. I cant keep up with all the changes he wants me to make with myself. I truly feel like he hates who I am. It hurts so bad because I don't feel he sees me for me. I talk to him and cry to him but all he can say is that our problems are all my fault and that...
    hope0209 hope0209 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 11

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    I have been married for five years my husband

    don't even know I am here most of the time unless I do something he don't approve of! It's most everything he don't like he has pushed to the point I don't like to be in the same room with him :( it gets really lonely
    jamie8677 jamie8677 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 24

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    carincc11 carincc11 26-30, F Nov 12

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    In-Love With The Wrong Person:

    "Is it normal to love someone so much that it hurts? To the point where it just feels like a massive weight inside your chest and your eyes water up for no reason, but you can't express how much you truly care for someone for the fear of screwing something up or making it sound...
    CancerGal CancerGal 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    toylycc11 toylycc11 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Recently Broke Up But Still Together?

    I'm recently broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years who is 20 years younger than me. Yes, I saw it coming. And I tried to prepare myself but I had no idea that I would end up loving him this much. When we broke up I cut all ties with him even changed my # but he still found a way...
    bellspii bellspii 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    What I will say right

    now may not apply all of you, but it's still true that a lot of relationships are like this: Some of you may think that you "don't feel loved", but maybe you haven't taken the time to know your partner well enough to recognize HOW he/she loves you. It might be very different...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    Im 35 and hubby is 44.

    We are married for 7 years. When he reached 40, his libido went down. It is not everyday sex anymore and it is like twice a month sex now. Im blunt so I seduce and ask from him but he cant keep up. I want it everyday. It now feels like he is just a companion. The sweetness is...
    outofsortsgal outofsortsgal 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Missing

    He tells me that he loves me but I don't feel it. How can I when his words inflict pain on me? Am I supposed to just forget and not be hurt. He says he's sorry and that I'm just holding onto things and dwelling in the past. But there's one thing...it's not in the past if he keeps...
    Oso41412 Oso41412 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2013

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    Been married for 29 years

    and recently found out my husband had an affair for a year she shared the I love you words with her and know nothing feels the same specially the love
    achilles2013 achilles2013 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    Pretty Heartbroken

    The worst feeling ever is loving your significant other so damn much you'd do anything and everything for them, and having them admit that they don't feel the same way about you in the slightest.
    muddledmuggle muddledmuggle 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    I've been with my boyfriend officially

    for 8 years ( but we've been off and on for the last 2) . But we've known each other since we were 13 and have always had this amazing connection. We always come back to each other but it always goes back to me yelling and screaming because he doesn't help with our 2 children...
    Catherine05 Catherine05 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 5

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    what do I do if this guy I have been talking to

    since September off and on wants to have sex but I'm a virgin and don't think I'm ready. we have stopped talking for many reasons one of the top was for him cheating on me. I never trusted him after that and since then nothing has been the same between us. I think he doesn't see...
    xkxexe xkxexe 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 6

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    Am I The Problem .. ?

    I don't understand where he stopped being nice and caring to me or maybe I'm just not seeing it ... Buh I have seen it and felt it before - his warmth , his love , his embrace - he gave me feelings I've never gotten before from anyone else . Now ... It's ALL different , he loves...
    Munchkinnx3 Munchkinnx3 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    me and my boyfriend have been together 11

    months. things where so amazing in the beginning it was perfect he is my first steady relationship since i divorced my husband to how I was with for 13 years. so it was hard for me to start over but he made it easy. it was like I had knew him my whole life I felt like I was...
    Shawnmae Shawnmae 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 1

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    It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong"

    when nothing is right. I'm tired of trying, sick of crying, I know I've been smiling, but inside I'm dying. Maybe one day it will be ok again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be ok again. I guess there comes a point where you just have to stop...
    Lhander28 Lhander28 36-40, M Nov 10

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    I Know I Should Leave!

    My boyfriend jus got out of jail and he has been hanging out with his no good *** friends! We yesterday he came to see me and when he got there I didn't wanna kiss him we he got really mad and started smacking me he also dragged me by my hair! I'm so confused I love him but he is...
    LateNightTalk LateNightTalk 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Well apparently I 'care too much'

    for your liking. So you know what, from now on I won't care anymore. Not for you, not about you, nothing with you in it. Do whatever you want, whenever and wherever with whomever. I'm done .
    lurveruinsit lurveruinsit 18-21, F Nov 17

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    Been together 4 1/2 years he broke up with me

    and kicked me out of his house out of a small argument I moved out got my own place didn't speak for a month . Started talking again and working on our relationship . Then he messed up I forgave him now he won't try and work things out with me because he says I deserve better...
    stephygee1991 stephygee1991 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Oh the countless times,

    the tears shed, the days and nights spent wondering, discovering how much I mean. My eyes and heart ache on knowing that I give my Heart out, only hoping that One day it will be treated tenderly, softly cradled in a genuine embrace and full of Love. I try and give it all I've...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 26

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    EscapeFromTaylor EscapeFromTaylor 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 3

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    Why can't he see that I love him

    unconditionally. Why is it that promises made are so easily broken? That the words spoken are so different from the actions shown? Why is it that you start off speaking the same language and then somewhere in the middle it becomes gobbledygook? Why do I feel as though I'm always...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 6 Responses May 30

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    Varkanis Varkanis 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18

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    This goes hand-in-hand with the sexless

    marriage thing. My wife does not like to deal with emotions and so we rarely are able to communicate well and work through our problems. I am an emotional man and I need to have my thoughts and feelings validated. My wife isn't proud of me, doesn't compliment me, isn't...
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 25

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    Why? :/

    I feel so unloved. He won't text me. Won't call. Nothing. I just don't know how much more I can take. I mean, I love him. But how can I love someone who won't even talk to me? I keep telling myself if he wanted to talk to me, he would. But he doesn't. The first week or two of our...
    BENDrowned BENDrowned 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    ok so this is gonna get confusing fast (unless

    uve been there) im with a man at the moment weve dated twice once yrs ago when we were teens for about a yr and a half and had a daughter. then we split up for about 3 years. now weve been together for a yr and a half again. heres my problem, we have almost no love life. we only...
    pebbles93 pebbles93 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3

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