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I Am In a Relationship But I Don't Feel Loved

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    Really all these years we have been through the

    good, the bad, and the ugly. Our relationship began to fall apart for the 100th time and I was sick of fighting to be loved so I let it and fell into a depression and content state. Now you see a change and want to speak up about a broken relationship? You was fine when you...
    heavenlygrace heavenlygrace 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    That day when you realize you're putting all

    the effort into your friendship, and you kindly confront them about it. Wait. And no response. Why can't people just be up front and honest. Feeling so stupid right now. Do not mistake my kindness for weakness.
    theiya88 theiya88 26-30, F Jan 4

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    It changes every day,

    it feels like... We spend all day fine. It's like the happiness in our relationship dies alongside the daylight. Two years full of love, laughter, happiness, anger, resentment, and emotional and physical abuse. I'm tired of not receiving the love and respect I give, and now not...
    anonymityrocks anonymityrocks 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've been with my boyfriend officially

    for 8 years ( but we've been off and on for the last 2) . But we've known each other since we were 13 and have always had this amazing connection. We always come back to each other but it always goes back to me yelling and screaming because he doesn't help with our 2 children...
    Catherine05 Catherine05 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 5, 2014

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    I've never been in a relationship longer

    than the one I'm in currently, which is not long compared to the many years others have had. For the year that we have been together, we've had so many issues and fights that I am starting to feel worn emotionally. I think my boyfriend is an emotionally unavailable man. Although...
    ephemeralise ephemeralise 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2014

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    I have been in a relationship

    for a very long time.Married him, divorced him, and back living together last 10 years.Everyday for the past year I wonder why we ever got back together.He stays up all night long while I go to bed at a decent time to go to work the next day.He works but I guess needs little...
    heavenlygrace heavenlygrace 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I am in a relationship going on 6 years now.

    Marriage has always been talked about as if it was unnecessary, and will happen in the future of I felt that strongly about it. I have a step-son who has lived full time with us for the last 4 years. We also have a 2 yr old. Through out our relationship I have dealt with a lot...
    BiancaNicole BiancaNicole 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    I Used To Know His Password Now I don't,

    there Use To Be Pictures of Us Everywhere, Now Theres None , We Use To Ft EveryNight So I wouldn't be alone ' Now He Just Go straight to bed ' Well That i know... Things Are Not The Same . Time Change People Change. But Once Again If I Say That To Him,Im Not Okay .
    Slowlytuya Slowlytuya 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    I hate the way I'm feeling.

    I love this man so much but he doesn't see me. He doesn't know how I'm feeling and I don't believe he cares. I look at my life and I have to ask the question is this really my life? I miss this man I miss my best friend when did he turn into this person? When did he stop caring...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 1 Response May 7, 2014

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    we're in the same city

    but he just make time for me once every three weeks. everyday he always contact me by chat. no sound. i'm just his virtual girl maybe. he said he has not enough money and no car (his parents sold it because they need money) so he couldn't be with me every weekend. my heart says...
    kathv kathv 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm new to this and I don't really understand

    it could someone explain it to me.... I would like to chat and meet some friends is this what this about or am I wrong?
    JayRoseJay JayRoseJay 46-50, F 26 Responses May 12, 2014

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    I try to do things for him

    that I know he likes and enjoys, and I know he loves and cares for me-- but at the end of the day, I go to bed feeling empty and alone. I don't want to say that he doesn't love me and doesn't show affection, but words and the occasional cuddle isn't what I'm looking for...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 19, 2014

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    I'm talking to a guy right now

    but I have a Weird feeling inside me. I notice that all his ex gf were Latinas.. From Miami. I'm Asian, and I don't fit the description for the usual girls he go for. He likes girls that are revealing, while I opt for the classy approach. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? We...
    gingerbunni gingerbunni 22-25, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I feel caged by him, sequestered by his

    constant need to be near me, to touch me. I sometimes think all he really wants from me is the feeling of power he takes from me, from my hopelessness he has instilled in me. I want to leave most days, but the sweet moments when he isn't trying to control or manipulate me happen...
    Karmickitten Karmickitten 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    When you think too much

    or too deep, you uncover things that aren't suppose to be there or are not there in the first place. That's where the chaos starts. ;)
    soyyoprincesa soyyoprincesa 22-25, F Dec 29, 2014

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    Why can't he see that I love him

    unconditionally. Why is it that promises made are so easily broken? That the words spoken are so different from the actions shown? Why is it that you start off speaking the same language and then somewhere in the middle it becomes gobbledygook? Why do I feel as though I'm always...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 6 Responses May 30, 2014

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    taltos69 taltos69 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 5

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    Ive loved him since I met him 13 years ago.

    No doubt in my mind. He is living and sweet one day and the next he's short tempered, calling me names, and not even talking to me. I fear he hates me more than he loves me. He doesn't know what to do with me. In the beginning I told him he would leave me. He said not to let...
    hopelesslove30 hopelesslove30 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    Nise6 Nise6 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    I feel like there is something not right the

    way I think I have so many negative thought about my husband I love him but I also hate him for emotional pain he has caused me I feel like a storm of love and hate going on inside me if this make senses to anybody we both have said and done hurtful and mean things to each other...
    dolphintree94 dolphintree94 46-50, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Im 35 and hubby is 44.

    We are married for 7 years. When he reached 40, his libido went down. It is not everyday sex anymore and it is like twice a month sex now. Im blunt so I seduce and ask from him but he cant keep up. I want it everyday. It now feels like he is just a companion. The sweetness is...
    outofsortsgal outofsortsgal 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I am told everyy day how stupid I am.

    Im screamed at and cussed out every day. I am expected to carry 100% of all responsibility and get nothing from my husband. He is the most hateful person in the world. I am lonely and desperately need a friend
    sava911 sava911 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    Been married for 29 years

    and recently found out my husband had an affair for a year she shared the I love you words with her and know nothing feels the same specially the love
    achilles2013 achilles2013 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 23, 2014

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    LoStOnArOcK2 LoStOnArOcK2 31-35, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Everything I do is wrong.

    I can't seem to do anything right. My husband of 10 years says its all my fault. He criticizes everything I do, and I mean everything. He is angry from the moment he gets up in the morning. I just feel disappointed, heart broken and needed to say it out loud. I can't tell...
    taltos69 taltos69 36-40, F 8 Responses Jan 4

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    I've been married for 23 years,

    we have 4 kids 3 girls 1 boy, the oldest girls are grown ups now but the last 2 kids are 15 & 13. In the past 5-6 years my husband has been so controlling & here lately I've been standing up to him & he says I act like a child, I'm worthless & he wants me to make the decision on...
    Poohbear1974 Poohbear1974 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 4, 2014

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    What I will say right

    now may not apply all of you, but it's still true that a lot of relationships are like this: Some of you may think that you "don't feel loved", but maybe you haven't taken the time to know your partner well enough to recognize HOW he/she loves you. It might be very different...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2014

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    In-Love With The Wrong Person:

    "Is it normal to love someone so much that it hurts? To the point where it just feels like a massive weight inside your chest and your eyes water up for no reason, but you can't express how much you truly care for someone for the fear of screwing something up or making it sound...
    CancerGal CancerGal 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11 26-30, F Jan 4

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    kerencc12 kerencc12 26-30, F Dec 18, 2014

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    I work full time and make enough money to take

    care of myself...my significant other works construction and is usually off work in the winter and can't afford to take care of himself..I care about him but I don't love him....I want out of this lonely relationship but I feel trapped cause he has no where to go and can't...
    heavenlygrace heavenlygrace 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    Recently Broke Up But Still Together?

    I'm recently broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years who is 20 years younger than me. Yes, I saw it coming. And I tried to prepare myself but I had no idea that I would end up loving him this much. When we broke up I cut all ties with him even changed my # but he still found a way...
    bellspii bellspii 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    I'm so frustrated. my other half seems to have

    given up on any kind fun when it's just the two of us, physical or otherwise. We only have sex if she's been drinking and that just makes me feel like ****. I don't remember the last time she initiated anything sexual with me and this makes me feel rejected and resentful. I'm...
    d0uggy d0uggy 36-40, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    PurpleCrayonEater PurpleCrayonEater 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's always quiet some days we a

    so good things just seem perfect between us then other days it's like hell and I cannot say what is wrong I know that there are ups and downs but the downs seem harder to climb back from I know you are mad But the things you say are like venom and they destroy me I wish you...
    boxgirl1987 boxgirl1987 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    There was once a You

    and I, the sun shined in our eyes when we looked at Eachother. We use to entwine fingers, feel more, breathe more. The nights of sneaking out to see each other taking the longest, sweetest walks, smiling, laughing, and being completely opened with one another. The skies were...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I'm At A Loss

    My relationship is in stasis. I don't want to stay, but I haven't the will to go. I feel no love for or from the man I've sworn my life to till death. I'm so frustrated...maybe I still love him it's just buried under all this disappointment and grief. So many things are wrong. I...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Yet another night alone

    but I have a husband. How does one know when it's time to call it quits and get a divorce...He is always out on 'business meetings' till 5/6am the next day. He cheated on me before and I don't think he ever stopped. When I confronted him about cheating he didn't even apologize!
    MissTrainRide MissTrainRide 31-35, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong"

    when nothing is right. I'm tired of trying, sick of crying, I know I've been smiling, but inside I'm dying. Maybe one day it will be ok again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be ok again. I guess there comes a point where you just have to stop...
    Lhander28 Lhander28 36-40, M Nov 10, 2014

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    Sometimes I just feel alone

    and hopeless and cry myself to sleep
    DBP0318 DBP0318 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I lived a thousand lives each time with you.

    You love me and I love you. There are struggles but we made it through. I'm so blessed I found you. For I found love that is pure and true. I love you. (before the doubts and heartache?)
    soyyoprincesa soyyoprincesa 22-25, F Dec 26, 2014

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    I'm just lonely as hell in this marriage It

    really sucks and we are only 2 years in
    lonelygirl67 lonelygirl67 46-50, F 7 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    Im married for 5 yrs

    and weve been together for 10yrs, this few months my husband has changed and i dont feel that he still love me, i asked him if he still love me and he said his love is not the same as before and he doest know how to bring back his love, we have son and he is is two yrs old now...
    Ilovemyhusband27 Ilovemyhusband27 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I think I hate my "bf".

    I use the term loosely but I'm just so miserably unhappy. My problem though is that I'm just so terrified of being alone that I stay. In my mind I seriously think the emotional abuse is better than the loneliness. Help me.
    mtnguyen mtnguyen 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    Everything You Do For That One Person It

    Doesn't Matters how Much You Try ' It doesn't matter How much love and effort you put into them . It's Never Enough :/
    Slowlytuya Slowlytuya 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 9

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    Oh the countless times,

    the tears shed, the days and nights spent wondering, discovering how much I mean. My eyes and heart ache on knowing that I give my Heart out, only hoping that One day it will be treated tenderly, softly cradled in a genuine embrace and full of Love. I try and give it all I've...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    Pretty Heartbroken

    The worst feeling ever is loving your significant other so damn much you'd do anything and everything for them, and having them admit that they don't feel the same way about you in the slightest.
    muddledmuggle muddledmuggle 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    I feel stuck. I'm able to talk,

    express my feelings but he is not listening. He apologies constantly, promising change...nothing changes. We dated for 2 years, on the 3rd moved in together... Had issues, broke up (lived together during that year but in seperate rooms for half till our lease finished up- f'n...
    rann88 rann88 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 3

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    This goes hand-in-hand with the sexless

    marriage thing. My wife does not like to deal with emotions and so we rarely are able to communicate well and work through our problems. I am an emotional man and I need to have my thoughts and feelings validated. My wife isn't proud of me, doesn't compliment me, isn't...
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted 41-45, M 6 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    Im in a relationship

    for 9 years now and its just never seems to get better... Im so over the crying and the hurt... Talking doesnt work and crying is almost all i do now. How the hell do i get passed this, i love him but its hurting to much now.
    Jeanettevw Jeanettevw 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    A sad fairy tale turned into a nightmare,

    gazing upon a beauty I've never seen, on the outside appearing to be sweet, caring, and a mystery. I wanted to know You and You, Me. I gave you My time and Heart, fell head over heels for You. You were sweet and caring genuinely... Through out time, You showed me a different...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F Sep 13, 2014

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