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I Am In a Relationship But I Don't Feel Loved

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    In-Love With The Wrong Person:

    "Is it normal to love someone so much that it hurts? To the point where it just feels like a massive weight inside your chest and your eyes water up for no reason, but you can't express how much you truly care for someone for the fear of screwing something up or making it sound...
    CancerGal CancerGal 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    WTF

    I've been married to an emotionally inaccessible man for almost 10 years which didn't bother me at first because I was emotional enough for the two of us, and we were young and everything else seemed to out weigh that fact, but these days with all the good things waning I'm...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2013

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    I'm new to this and I don't really understand

    it could someone explain it to me.... I would like to chat and meet some friends is this what this about or am I wrong?
    JayRoseJay JayRoseJay 46-50, F 27 Responses May 12

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    There is nothing worse

    than being in a relationship but feeling no love. My bf and I have been dating since last August. One wonderful year in the same city and one difficult year long distance. I begged him not to move since I had one more year of grad school but understood he had to live his dream...
    mimileelee mimileelee 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Why can't he see that I love him

    unconditionally. Why is it that promises made are so easily broken? That the words spoken are so different from the actions shown? Why is it that you start off speaking the same language and then somewhere in the middle it becomes gobbledygook? Why do I feel as though I'm always...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 6 Responses May 30

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    jezy2610 jezy2610 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 8

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    I'm head over heels in love with a man

    that just doesn't seem to have enough time for me anymore. I've been there for him for every up and down in the last 5 yrs and as of late every thing I say or do annoys him.
    Noturninback Noturninback 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    I have been dating this guy

    for 3 and a half years who was madly in love with his ex girlfriend who left him because he cheated on her. I was initially one of his rebounds. I trusted that there would be some niceness in him and loved him. And with time, we became really close, emotionally. He has cheated...
    thisIsAnne thisIsAnne 22-25, F 5 Responses May 7

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    This is something I have felt

    for a while. But it's because I feel in love with a lie. And once I found out one they all keep coming down. Finally last I said I am done.
    washio2005 washio2005 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I'm At A Loss

    My relationship is in stasis. I don't want to stay, but I haven't the will to go. I feel no love for or from the man I've sworn my life to till death. I'm so frustrated...maybe I still love him it's just buried under all this disappointment and grief. So many things are wrong. I...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Ok, he and I are on FaceTime now,

    I've been crying silently all this time while he's busy on his phone looking for car stuff - he doesn't even saw that I was crying
    PompeyLd87 PompeyLd87 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    So my current relationship is completely sinked,

    we've both done some pretty awful things and gutted each other, now he's just actin indifferent and it's like he's still with me cause he feels bad for me, I'm the only one trying to save the relationship but it seems like no matter what I do I won't be able to fix anything...
    learmz learmz 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    I have been married for five years my husband

    don't even know I am here most of the time unless I do something he don't approve of! It's most everything he don't like he has pushed to the point I don't like to be in the same room with him :( it gets really lonely
    jamie8677 jamie8677 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 24

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    Why? :/

    I feel so unloved. He won't text me. Won't call. Nothing. I just don't know how much more I can take. I mean, I love him. But how can I love someone who won't even talk to me? I keep telling myself if he wanted to talk to me, he would. But he doesn't. The first week or two of our...
    BENDrowned BENDrowned 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    This goes hand-in-hand with the sexless

    marriage thing. My wife does not like to deal with emotions and so we rarely are able to communicate well and work through our problems. I am an emotional man and I need to have my thoughts and feelings validated. My wife isn't proud of me, doesn't compliment me, isn't...
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted 41-45, M 5 Responses Jun 25

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    I feel like there is something not right the

    way I think I have so many negative thought about my husband I love him but I also hate him for emotional pain he has caused me I feel like a storm of love and hate going on inside me if this make senses to anybody we both have said and done hurtful and mean things to each other...
    dolphintree94 dolphintree94 46-50, F 7 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    Been married for 29 years

    and recently found out my husband had an affair for a year she shared the I love you words with her and know nothing feels the same specially the love
    achilles2013 achilles2013 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    As a token of my love,

    I gave you my spine. But since my love crashed and burned, I'm gonna need it back now.
    thisIsAnne thisIsAnne 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    I talked to him but he says he's very happy.

    He's very content with the way things are. He can't see it from my point of view. I wish he could want to hold me again before we go to sleep, I kind touch during the day would make it so much better. Just some sort of jest u're that he really really wants me. How did I allow...
    1with101 1with101 46-50, F Jul 8

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    Can someone tell me why are guys always

    so insensitive?? N why are girls overly sensitive ! It just ruins everything.....
    lurveruinsit lurveruinsit 18-21, F 5 Responses May 13

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    I feel everyone's pain.

    I have been with my man for 18 months now. Six months ago, we moved down south together. He now works full time and goes to school full time, so I know he is busy. But we don't touch any more. We hardly ever kiss or hold hands or heaven forbid we make love. We hang out together...
    kinders92 kinders92 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    I try to express myself

    but it comes out jumbled, you shut me down before my thoughts are formed. I here my thoughts in my head. You shut me down and make me feel as though my thoughts, feelings aren't real. My words comes out my mouth and dissolves like smoke from a cigaret. Your overshadowing me...
    kareemxx kareemxx 41-45, M May 19

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    Am I The Problem .. ?

    I don't understand where he stopped being nice and caring to me or maybe I'm just not seeing it ... Buh I have seen it and felt it before - his warmth , his love , his embrace - he gave me feelings I've never gotten before from anyone else . Now ... It's ALL different , he loves...
    Munchkinnx3 Munchkinnx3 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    Im 35 and hubby is 44.

    We are married for 7 years. When he reached 40, his libido went down. It is not everyday sex anymore and it is like twice a month sex now. Im blunt so I seduce and ask from him but he cant keep up. I want it everyday. It now feels like he is just a companion. The sweetness is...
    outofsortsgal outofsortsgal 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Almost a year into my relationship

    and living with him & I don't think he loves me anymore and he's only with me because he feels stuck. I want to disappear..
    comfortdistortion comfortdistortion 18-21, F 3 Responses May 24

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    And I finally said - I'm done,

    lets call it off. Feel so better now, but at the same time is odd to see the person who I shared almost 5 years of my life looking lost, I feel sorry for him but I need more and I need now. It's funny when people realize we are not getting back how good they say they gonna to be...
    Chris268brasil Chris268brasil 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 15

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    I've been dating a guy

    for a few months. I love him and do so much for him, but he doesn't hold me or come see me much. He's busy. But I miss being loved.
    blumoonku blumoonku 41-45, F 2 Responses May 18

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    I'm in the relationship

    where I feel trapped. I can't breath. I can't have a twitter, or really can't post anything on Instagram. I cheated on him not because I'm a bad person but because he cheated on me before difference was he just talked to a lot of girls and I actually kissed the guy. But no...
    Viccigee Viccigee 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm in a 13 year marriage

    and ready to end it because my husband is emotionally immature. He acts like one of the kids and pretends he has no responsibilities for anything. I'm done being the adult and feel complete resentment. I'm ready to go!
    Leavingyouforme Leavingyouforme 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    My husband is married to his laptop.

    When he comes home he plops down and immediately gets on the laptop. He also belongs to some forums and a few times has quickly closed out the browser window if he thinks I was looking over in his direction. This really makes me feel left out.
    Marla88 Marla88 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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    I Know I Should Leave!

    My boyfriend jus got out of jail and he has been hanging out with his no good *** friends! We yesterday he came to see me and when he got there I didn't wanna kiss him we he got really mad and started smacking me he also dragged me by my hair! I'm so confused I love him but he is...
    LateNightTalk LateNightTalk 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Been together for years.

    Mid-morning, told my boyfriend hi twice because he stopped texting me. But he never answered (happens alot from time to time) so I believed he just fell asleep. So i told him 'bye' only because I had to get ready for a court meeting that would last maybe 3 hours. I dont know. I...
    AirSlice AirSlice 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I need some advice. I was a bad girlfriend.

    I snooped on my boyfriend'a laptop. I wasn't necessarily looking for anything incriminating; I had just used his laptop since I was bored and his was right in front of me. I went on Facebook, my usual starting point for bored internet surfing, and his profile popped up since he...
    kinders92 kinders92 18-21, F 3 Responses May 5

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    A sad fairy tale turned into a nightmare,

    gazing upon a beauty I've never seen, on the outside appearing to be sweet, caring, and a mystery. I wanted to know You and You, Me. I gave you My time and Heart, fell head over heels for You. You were sweet and caring genuinely... Through out time, You showed me a different...
    Xenasdreams Xenasdreams 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    But how do you get past the terrible loneliness

    we can be sitting in the same room and it's as though I'm not there. Like you and others in my position you give so much of yourself and see absolutely nothing in return. We have done counselling but that only works if the other person is willing to be frank and honest about his...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F Apr 13

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    I pack her back without her knowing,

    I talk to her friend to ask if she would like to help me surprise her. I give the friend a large sum of cash to take her out to have fun for a day, on Father's Day weekend. She leaves at 8 am, they return at 5 pm. I watch the kids all day, my son takes a late nap, which...
    OGPrefix OGPrefix 26-30, M Jun 15

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    I guess its not totally his fault.

    He has been dealing with depression for most of his life. It has become more and more unmanageable for me. He decided to go off his med about six months ago. He didn't talk to me or his doctor about it. He is slowly sinking back into his depression. I don't know if I can...
    Pharmalady Pharmalady 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Pretty Heartbroken

    The worst feeling ever is loving your significant other so damn much you'd do anything and everything for them, and having them admit that they don't feel the same way about you in the slightest.
    muddledmuggle muddledmuggle 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    Just when you think there's light at the end of

    the tunnel something happens that throws it back into darkness again. I hate this. I just feel like running away.
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F May 30

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    Recently Broke Up But Still Together?

    I'm recently broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years who is 20 years younger than me. Yes, I saw it coming. And I tried to prepare myself but I had no idea that I would end up loving him this much. When we broke up I cut all ties with him even changed my # but he still found a way...
    bellspii bellspii 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 19, 2013

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    Missing

    He tells me that he loves me but I don't feel it. How can I when his words inflict pain on me? Am I supposed to just forget and not be hurt. He says he's sorry and that I'm just holding onto things and dwelling in the past. But there's one thing...it's not in the past if he keeps...
    Oso41412 Oso41412 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2013

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    Been together 4 1/2 years he broke up with me

    and kicked me out of his house out of a small argument I moved out got my own place didn't speak for a month . Started talking again and working on our relationship . Then he messed up I forgave him now he won't try and work things out with me because he says I deserve better...
    stephygee1991 stephygee1991 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I try to do things for him

    that I know he likes and enjoys, and I know he loves and cares for me-- but at the end of the day, I go to bed feeling empty and alone. I don't want to say that he doesn't love me and doesn't show affection, but words and the occasional cuddle isn't what I'm looking for...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 19

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    I just tried talking to my bf about how I felt

    and it's going nowhere I'm just getting more frustrated. I've had this conversation so many times with him and I feel like I'm wasting my time. He says he loves me no matter how distant or unresponsive he is. What sense does that make if you love someone you wouldn't act that...
    nottheaveragegirl nottheaveragegirl 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 23

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    I've been living w my BF

    for 12 years. It started out wonderful. We had 6 beautiful years. Then he started having health problems, got hooked on painkilling drugs, and lost all interest in me as a woman. Sometimes I hate him for not just breaking up with me, if he doesn't love me in the romantic and...
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 29

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    Confused - lost I have been married

    for 4 years now . Everything seemed amazing until we got married and moved in kids came along but for the past two years it seems like we can't even have a proper conversation with out having an argument at the end he always blames me I'm the *****. I can't even say something...
    bellamia79 bellamia79 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    I've been married for eight years.

    We met when we were really young. I love my husband more than anything. We did everything together and use to laugh all the time about the dumbest stuff do really crazy things. In the past four years we have had two amazing children. And now everything is gone. He doesn't talk...
    molly140 molly140 26-30, F 4 Responses May 11

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    I hate when someone plays with your head tries

    to manipulate you it drives me crazy what do I do ??
    lilybell87 lilybell87 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    What I will say right

    now may not apply all of you, but it's still true that a lot of relationships are like this: Some of you may think that you "don't feel loved", but maybe you haven't taken the time to know your partner well enough to recognize HOW he/she loves you. It might be very different...
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I hate the way I'm feeling.

    I love this man so much but he doesn't see me. He doesn't know how I'm feeling and I don't believe he cares. I look at my life and I have to ask the question is this really my life? I miss this man I miss my best friend when did he turn into this person? When did he stop caring...
    whenwillheseeme whenwillheseeme 46-50, F 2 Responses May 7

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