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I Am In a Sexless, Loveless Marriage

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    The Red Dress - I walk over to him to say goodbye before leaving for work. The red dress I'm wearing is shorter than usual. With matching red heels, it showcases my long...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 8 Responses Apr 25, 2010

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    Heading Downhill And Gaining Speed... - My husband and I have been married for 7.5 years. On our one month wedding anniversary, I gave him an "anniversary" card and wrote him a...
    jcbeene jcbeene 31-35, F Mar 7, 2013

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    Feeling Like a Prisioner of Committment - I have been married to my husband for 22 years. We dated 5 years prior to marriage. He cheated on me and I cheated on him, but we seemed...
    Deepcrap4now Deepcrap4now 46-50 4 Responses Jul 24, 2009

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    Sexless - ive been married for 28 yrs and the last 10 have been no sex, its at the piont now where i dont even care i just pleasure myself when im horny,which seems to be every day...
    plasticpants01 plasticpants01 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    LONG: In A Holding Pattern But Getting Very Depressed - I've been married 5 times - that probably says something about me right there, but to me it says that I never stop hoping...
    Ocean61 Ocean61 51-55, F Nov 18, 2013

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    A Question ? - hi everyone.. i have a question, if your husband told you he loves  you sometimes. would you stay? may i add this has been a sexless and loveless marriage...
    clarebear73 clarebear73 36-40, F 3 Responses May 18, 2010

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    Staying Alive For The Baby - My husband has not wanted to have any contact (touching, kissing, even holding my hand) since before the baby was born. Made the mistake of leaving my...
    brendancer brendancer 46-50 4 Responses Aug 7, 2010

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    Feeling Guilty For Wanting Out - 20 yrs married and 2 children who I worry about all the time because we are setting such a bad example. Our relationship is robotic honestly...
    JJHelp JJHelp 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    360 Passes - My Lesson - All, I saw this site a year ago and have been thinking about the mission impossible. Soon, you will learn of the past year; perhaps a day at a time...
    vandy11 vandy11 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    It really is amazing how hard you can focus and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    SEXLESS Marriage - i am a 30yr old female in a 13yr old sexless relationship with a woman. although i love her vvery much and we have the best time together, i dont think i can...
    GUS79 GUS79 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 24, 2009

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    Just Lost... - I am so unhappy. My jusband has no CONCEPT of love, caring, compassion. After 30 years together I am dead inside, and have almost killed myself by not caring about...
    NotLiving464 NotLiving464 46-50, F 5 Responses Feb 14, 2012

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    Loveless Marriage - I don't know really what to say. I have been married several times and nothing has ever worked out. I find myself in a loveless marriage and trapped because he...
    madmoma madmoma 41-45 May 16, 2012

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    I Should Have Known Better.... - I have been with my husband for 20 yrs and married for 14. I should have known that it would end up like this. The signs were all there. His family...
    skysmum skysmum 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    Loveless Marriage - When I married i remember my husband said that we would always be open and honest with each other and not be like our parents who fought endless and didn't show...
    WantedNot WantedNot 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    Why Does It Hurt So Much? -  I have been married for 16 years to a woman that I truly adore, but no longer has feelings for me. When we first dated and then married, I wasn't...
    cclacy cclacy 41-45, M 4 Responses Sep 15, 2009

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    Another Long Day Of Ignoring Each Other. - I wish I could bury my head in the sand and not see the situation for what it is. I wish I could deflect all of my shortcomings onto her...
    Bobahmdis Bobahmdis 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Painted Love - I drag my feet along the gravel, watching the pebbles move and scatter beneath my feet. They are being affected, I am creating a reaction, I like this feeling. It...
    Withering Withering 36-40, F Jan 10, 2013

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    is a very sad feeling when u feel awkward around your husband, when there nothing 2 say & there no connection anymore it feels like 2 strangers :( my daughter left on a school...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Anyone know of any sexless marriage conventions?
    SheldonJPlankton SheldonJPlankton 41-45, M 11 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    It's getting old. Trying getting rejected. I try to kiss her on the lips and it ends up a peck on my cheek. Im on the edge of love and loveless. I'm desperate. Sick of feeling...
    ugho ugho 46-50, M 8 Responses Mar 27

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    This is a little scary, posting about such private matters to people I've never met, but here goes. I googled sexless marriage for the first time today. What triggered it was the...
    TCKat TCKat 36-40, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses a week ago

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    Hi all After reading many posts here it looks like that most of the people who live in a sexless marriage do in the end separate. Are there anybody here who have gone trough the...
    easylistener easylistener 36-40, M 8 Responses Mar 19

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    Note from opposite land My post sexless marriage love and I debuted this weekend a skit about our romance. It was part of a cabaret show at the community theatre where we met...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    It really does amaze me how many people are in a sexless marriage. I guess maybe because I'm an extremely sexual person, and my partner matches that, that I could never see myself...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    Remember the Peanuts cartoons where Charlie Brown tried and tried to kick the football held by Lucy? Charlie Brown would approach the ball, skeptical and questioning: "If I try to...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 9 Responses Apr 2

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    What would you consider sexless marriage? no sex in 1 month? 1 year? 5 yrs? How can anyone survive a sexless marriage without cheating? Just curious as I didn't know so many people...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 3 days ago

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    Venting again... I always wondered about the Madonna-***** complex and… here it is… seems like my husband is one of them. I needed some weeks to think about it after he told...
    dalessa dalessa 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 17

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    "The Dummies Guide To Ending A Sexless Marriage" or "How I Learned Not To Give Up Emotional and Physical Intimacy" by CherishMe2 Step 1: Acknowledge that the lack of emotional...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 18

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    I've been in a marriage for quite some time, but fell away from sex within my marriage about one year ago. I had been the one attempting to encourage my wife to have relations with...
    AVisionary AVisionary 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 20

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    Another thing missing from this sexless marriage, besides intimacy, love and respect is fun and laughter. (Jeez, what exactly do I get from this marriage) I thought that I had...
    Gingersnapped Gingersnapped 51-55, F 13 Responses Mar 25

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    There are 2 whys in the sexless marriage. The first is: why does my spouse not want sex? This leads to a huge cycle of reason-chasing, smokescreening from the refuser, magical...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses Mar 26

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    Overview: Male 47 ; Australia; Dated (celibate) a young Catholic lady for seven years; Married for seven more years (sexless after honeymoon); no children (guess why); We have had...
    angelwanderer angelwanderer 46-50 27 Responses Apr 1

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Well I lived in a sexless marriage for 9 years. About 14 months ago I left finally and an starting over. I tried everything I could to revive our marriage. From candle light...
    Leavinstevin Leavinstevin 41-45, M 20 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have been married for 8 years. The sex was just alright in the first couple of years and then basically dwindled off into never ever land. I thought I could accept her lack of...
    ll2live ll2live 41-45 8 Responses Apr 7

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    Thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post yesterday. I was overwhelmed by the friendship and advice that you guys gave. As I think about the situation I am in...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 10 Responses 1 day ago

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    How people get into sexless marriages A friend of mine who is in her late forties is being chased by a widower in his late fifties who wants to marry her. He seems to be very...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 17 Responses Mar 18

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    This is an update to the last story I wrote here not too long ago. It's over. My husband and I are now separated. He said quite plainly that he doesn't want to be married and never...
    nicoleal20 nicoleal20 46-50, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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    Things are going great, why wouldn't they? I've completely dropped the intimacy topic in our marriage. I've started focusing on other parts of myself that I would like to change...
    gracehopepeace gracehopepeace 31-35, F 22 Responses Mar 22

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    Survey Says 1 In 5 Unhappily Married Women Are In A Sexless Marriage http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/21/marriage-infidelity-study_n_5009245.html
    LynxKitty LynxKitty 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 23
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