I Am In a Sexless Relationship

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    Most people would not believe this,

    in fact most of my friends and family do not know about this. I have been with my fiancée for almost twelve years, we met when we were 19 and 20 and now are 31 and 32 respectively. We have never had sex. From quite early on in the relationship she made it quite clear that she...
    phalonia phalonia
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    I looked at this group hoping to find some

    positive experiences but... I'm asexual and hope to find a person who is okay with a sexless relationship. I have a partner who is a sexual person and the constant pressure I feel to have sex is very stressful. I'm starting to feel that no one will accept this type of...
    chrysanthemumtea chrysanthemumtea
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 4, 2016

    When you're horny as ****

    but you're s.o. Doesn't want to reciprocate 😔😔😔😔 Long distance relationship probz
    ClinNN ClinNN
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2016

    Is anyone fairly content living in a

    relationship like this? I think my partner and I are usually content without a rip roaring sex life. Everything else in our relationship is pretty fantastic. "society" makes me feel like our relationship isn't valid without regular intimacy. I disagree. I don't think I...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Feb 8, 2016

    8 years in. It must be something I'm doing

    wrong. I still tell her how beautiful she is, how much I feel rejected when she won't be intimate and we still laugh and enjoy each others company. I got up at 630am to dig her car out of the snowiest city in the USA this year (Erie PA *******!) and I couldn't help thinking...
    Geometerichachi Geometerichachi
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2013

    Hello- I would like to get some help.

    My wife has no mood for it and it drives me nuts. What can i do to get my sex drive down so, I wont be a pest to her and to me? (No **** or Jewrking off)
    Darkwho Darkwho
    31-35, M
    Dec 2, 2015

    Is anybody else in the same boat?

    I never EVER imagined myself being in my 20s and in such a horrendous situation. My partner and I have been together for 3 years. The first year was great. Our sex life was vibrant and passionate and the thought of sex being an issue never crossed my mind. Then a couple months...
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 28, 2014

    Sexless Relationship

    So I lost my virginity quite some time ago to my boyfriend of two years. When that relationship ended I kept to myself for about a year and a half before dating someone else. As of now, I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I'm 19 and he is 21. He has disappointed...
    IsabelleLove IsabelleLove
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    busty ladies with a personality n don't rip pics of the net and bit scared to show their face let's chat uk based plz
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72
    41-45, M
    Jan 9, 2015

    Sexless Relationship

    I've been dating my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now. In the beginning we'd have sex every 2 days or so, she said she had a high sex drive and so do I. I'm 27 and still constantly have the desire for sex. I deeply care for her, she's very nurturing and affectionate but the sex...
    MikeRoe MikeRoe
    31-35, M
    10 Responses Nov 5, 2013

    He Insinuated Intimacy The Other Day, I Refused.

    About two weeks ago he said in his usual playful way; "How about I do this for you ( insert chore here) and you give me a hand job". I refused. I told him I was not going to please him in that way because it was not satisfying to me. Then he explained to me how he does not feel...
    AvalonWeiss AvalonWeiss
    31-35, F
    14 Responses Nov 17, 2012

    After tons of research about my sexless Mariage,

    I have this advice to offer. 1) Look into yourself to recall any time you may have insulted your Husbands manhood. Years ago, I rejected him one night when I was just too tired. I got a little angry when he initiated sex+told him I didn't want sex all the time like that. Next...
    124Bee 124Bee
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2015

    I have been in this marriage

    for less than 9 years and more than 3 and half years have been sexless...:(
    marriedguy67 marriedguy67
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Mar 27, 2016

    My kinda group I live with somebody

    who don't want sex shows no interest n not interested ..... For somebody who has a huge drive it's very disheartening Im here to have fun n see what happens if anything ......
    teddyboylovesboobs1 teddyboylovesboobs1
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 5, 2016
    mengak mengak
    26-30, M
    Dec 21, 2015
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72
    41-45, M
    Oct 25, 2014

    Why doesn't my husband understand?

    He doesn't touch me, compliment me or even sit near me on the couch. I get a quick peck on the lips when he leaves in the morning and when I go to bed at night. With the exception of those 2 pecks it's like having a roommate instead of a boyfriend. We had a great sex life at the...
    typsygypsy typsygypsy
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 18, 2014

    He Says He Loves Me But Won't Touch Me

    I have been with my boyfriend for two years and he won't touch me anymore. Every once in a while i'll get a peck and if we fight he'll give me a hug and peck with lots of I love you's. He says he loves me and that he knows it's difficult right now for us. He just isn't interested...
    peapers peapers
    31-35, F
    23 Responses Nov 27, 2009

    Tell Me Why...

    So many of these stories seem to be from women who are with men that are completely unresponsive sexually, but they say that they love them so much?  Do sexless men inspire this kind of devotion in us?  It seems to be what happened with me.  We've been together...
    gigilarkin gigilarkin
    61-65, F
    6 Responses Apr 19, 2010

    Technically, "sexless" is a bit extreme.

    But it's definitely not a healthy sexual relationship. My wife and I are 38 and 39, far too young to be dealing with natural loss of sex drive. And yet, sometimes we'll go months with nothing. And it's not like one is horny and the other one refuses. We just both don't seem to...
    Fedup2016 Fedup2016
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 1, 2016

    I have a girlfriend almost 2 years now

    and we talk about marriage. she's really sweet and with a good heart. but when Its come to making love, well... that department is in bankruptcy. I love her but I as appose to her, so passionate that I'm so frustrated. I watch **** and give myself a treat because I'm not the...
    luv2drinkU luv2drinkU
    26-30, M
    Dec 5, 2014

    I have not had sex for 3-4 months

    and I am in a 10 year relationship. It seems like this problem is so common. Mine is related to my partner having the implant fitted to stop pregnancy - it altered her periods and now she gets them and they last 2-3 weeks or more. It means there is not much chance of sex...
    andymoore259 andymoore259
    31-35, M
    Mar 12, 2016

    Where Have All The Stiff Men Gone? ( Seriously ).

    I met my boyfriend when he was 38, he is now 43. I've bee going through 5 years of really unsatisfying sex - that is if he even remembers that I'm there. In the begining I thought nothing of it because, as some of you may know, the first few sexual encounters with your loved one...
    AvalonWeiss AvalonWeiss
    31-35, F
    28 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    I'm Done. I Can't Do This Anymore!

    My bf and I met 5 years ago and at first the sex was GREAT and frequent. It went from daily, sometimes multiple times in a day, then weekly, then monthly, then every 3-4 months, even got to 8 month stretch with nothing. I love him so very much! I can't even get close to him...
    Mwillis123 Mwillis123
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    mengak mengak
    26-30, M
    Dec 8, 2015

    Struggling tonight...

    .. Just want to be held, made to feel like a woman and make crazy, mad, passionate love! Why is that too much to ask? :(
    Inspireme1 Inspireme1
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Sep 5, 2014

    so I tried talkinh to him.

    what a mess. I would rather have continued hating myself than have to talk to him
    treehuggingheathen treehuggingheathen
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 20, 2016

    Welp 2 months and he's still not

    even showing any sign of letting up. Fml fml fml fml
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Sep 17, 2014

    Hello I'm new here so please forgive me

    if this post is too long. Honestly I'm happy to have found this place as I'm in need of some advice. A little back story before I start. I have been in my current relationship for 6 years. My GF has two young girls from a previous relationship (8 and 9) and those two girls mean...
    danman8552 danman8552
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2016

    It's simple, she use to be my girlfriend,

    now we're basicaly just roommates. Considering an afair, but am afraid it's not the best solution right now. Yet too ocupied at the moment with work to deal with the proces of breaking up. 3,5 years together and sex was "sex" only for the first 3 months. After that it just kept...
    Siibrax Siibrax
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Apr 3, 2016

    Hey are there any genuine n fun busty ladies

    wanna chat if that's you message me..... No friend collectors plz
    teddyboylovesboobs1 teddyboylovesboobs1
    41-45, M
    Apr 3, 2016

    Wouldn't really say sexless.

    But we don't have sex like we use to .. And it makes me SO mad . I mean when I start acting a fool and yelling and screaming he should know out of all people that I am sexually frustrated . I can't even begin to explain & it doesn't help that he can show another female...
    reddmarie reddmarie
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jan 9, 2016
    6incheshappy 6incheshappy
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 8, 2015

    Just a bit of encouragement.

    ... Even if your partner does not want to have sex with you, that does not mean that no one else does. Frankly, the fact that you have been willing to stay in a sexless marriage/relationship is evidence that you are a great person. No one should have sex if he/she does not...
    flashjohn flashjohn
    1 Response Mar 21, 2016


    I could walk around completely naked & my bf would literally not look twice. I don't get it. -- Another day of pure frustration.
    kros10 kros10
    26-30, F
    16 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    I don't get any sexual stimulation in my

    relationship. So I'm taking the matter into my own hands. Loveballs on the inside underneath my regular clothing makes me feel ....... Rocking discreetly on a chair is such a god feeling. taking it into the real world to see how that might exite me...
    AnneFortysomething AnneFortysomething
    46-50, F
    13 Responses Feb 16, 2016

    I started dating a girl,

    we'll call her becka, well over a year ago. When we first got together it was amazing, for months at the beginning we were the perfect couple. I loved every minute i was with her, from doing mundane tasks like cleaning, or taking my dogs for a walk, to our amazing sex life. I...
    mitchel71 mitchel71
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jun 29, 2014

    Hello all, I am new here

    and I am not sure how it works exacly but I am gonna give it a try. I am 23 my boyfriend in 31 and we have been together for a year. We recently moved in together-just before Christmas. My biggest problem with him is that he is not interested in making love at all. Before you...
    eternity7 eternity7
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jan 10, 2014

    If He Only Knew.....

    I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. The very 1st night I moved in with him, we still had not had sex yet, he told me he didnt want it to be ALL about sex..OK no problem...we finally had sex on the 3rd night..it was GREAT...as time has gone on, I have found out he is...
    frustratedsad frustratedsad
    3 Responses Jul 5, 2012

    Maybe I shouldn't complain.

    Reading other stories on here makes me think that I don't have it so bad, but in reality, it FEELS like emotional torture. My husband and I are intimate 2-3 times a month. It would probably be less if not for my constantly bringing it up or making remarks like, "It's been 2-3...
    elana29 elana29
    2 Responses Jun 25, 2014

    December 3, 2013 was the last time we were

    intimate. I couldn't tell you the time before that. We have been together for 10 years but a part for the last 5 years. I've asked him to make a change. Make a choice. Decide to be happy with or without me. He is content with living the facade of living the suburban life with...
    thelatintwist thelatintwist
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

    I'm tired of people on here complaining

    that their partner won't have sex with them. Sex doesn't just happen because one person gets turned on. You can't treat someone like a doormat all week and expect them feel warm and intimate towards you. Maybe if you treated your spouse/partner with a bit of respect and made...
    emptynow emptynow
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 12, 2014

    I am so confused.....

    .. Everything in my relationship is great but he just won't have sex with me. He kisses me, cuddles me, says he loves me, holds hands with me down the street, cuddles me to sleep in bed as even gets jealous if any guys look at me or chats me up but when it comes to sex he doesn't...
    xXLondonladyXx xXLondonladyXx
    26-30, F
    12 Responses Jan 5, 2014

    Okay question. I'm getting all kinds of advice

    but has anyone ACTUALLY gotten a real answer/diagnosis from their man/boyfriend/husband to WHY they're not actively wanting sex?? I'd love to hear !!!!!
    kros10 kros10
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    it's not like we NEVER do the deed.

    ..it's just...we barely do it. I feel like I have to make an appointment to have sex. I mean we used to make time. now it just doesn't happen. I can't help but think it's my fault. And its not like I don't try. I'm actually more adventurous than him. he gets everything he wants...
    treehuggingheathen treehuggingheathen
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 18, 2016

    New Home for the ILIASM Community Folks

    dealing with sexless marriages have -- for years -- sought and offered support at the Experience Project in the experience “I Live In A Sexless Marriage” and related experiences. Member of “ILIASM” comprise all ages, walks of life, economic classes, and nationalities...
    46-50, F
    Apr 18, 2016

    And on top of everything my birthday is

    tomorrow, and usually he is at home all day everyday. But he made sure to have something to do on my birthday!
    tiffany7michelle tiffany7michelle
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Oct 7, 2014

    Here's a very good article about manipulators

    and when I read it I could see my partner in it, was quite a lightbulb moment. Does anyone experience similarities in their refusing spouse? http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201406/how-spot-and-stop-manipulators?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2014

    In the past until recently,

    I would see all these perfectly happy couples all around. Holding hands, laughing, picking out groceries. There was the constant thought, I'm sure lots of hot and steamy, or maybe slow intimate sex for them this evening. As I myself was holding hands, laughing, picking out...
    sand5280 sand5280
    46-50, M
    Mar 16, 2016
    mengak mengak
    26-30, M
    Feb 18, 2016

    Hi, girls. I am hot guy,

    add me pls, skype - mengak
    mengak mengak
    26-30, M
    Apr 10, 2016

    Our child is away with grandparents

    for the next 10 days. I thought we'd have sex because it's one less excuse not to. He worked last night so I didn't try anything b/c I knew he wouldn't be into it. We woke up this morning, fresh from a full night's sleep, and he was lovey dovey talking about how much he loves...
    elana29 elana29
    7 Responses Jul 7, 2014

    We all have quite stressful,

    and sometimes sad lives.  I saw this and thought it might bring my ILIASM EPeeps a smile..We all need something everyday (many times a day!) to help us remember that we are people who have good things going on, as well as the stresses that our sexless relationships cause us...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2014

    Sexless Relationship Advice For Women

    It’s really important to understand, first of all, that being in a sexless relationship is allowed to be a deal breaker. My sexless relationship advice for women is first and foremost, that you are allowed to leave the relationship. It is enough of a reason for you to breakup...
    faithfullypinky faithfullypinky
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Aug 10, 2012
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