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I Am In a Sexless Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 859 People

    I've been living w my BF

    for 12 years. It started out wonderful. We had 6 beautiful years. Then he started having health problems, got hooked on painkilling drugs, and lost all interest in me as a woman. Sometimes I hate him for not just breaking up with me, if he doesn't love me in the romantic and...
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    Wifes Daughter Caught Me ************

    Wifes Daughter was staying with us for a few days to run away from her issues.... since I mostly work nights and wife days... after a long night at work and wife at work, I love a good strong rum drink and a good joint to help me relax.. after a while I retired to the bedroom to...
    strokemyhardon strokemyhardon 46-50, M Aug 29, 2013

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    I am so confused.....

    .. Everything in my relationship is great but he just won't have sex with me. He kisses me, cuddles me, says he loves me, holds hands with me down the street, cuddles me to sleep in bed as even gets jealous if any guys look at me or chats me up but when it comes to sex he doesn't...
    xXLondonladyXx xXLondonladyXx 26-30, F 11 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    Here's a very good article about manipulators

    and when I read it I could see my partner in it, was quite a lightbulb moment. Does anyone experience similarities in their refusing spouse? http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201406/how-spot-and-stop-manipulators?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I tried to start a conversation about our sex

    life with the wife and she just didn't answer. I said "Aren't you going to say anything?" She says " When I have nothing to say, I don't say anything " sigh
    Slasher57 Slasher57 56-60, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I am so lonely, wondering

    if I deserve nothing more than this! I am in a relationship, but I feel like a roommate just here to help pay bills. I'm hurt so deeply I don't know if I can ever recover and truly put all of me into someone else again without having my guard up. I'm not an unattractive girl...
    tiffany7michelle tiffany7michelle 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Our child is away with grandparents

    for the next 10 days. I thought we'd have sex because it's one less excuse not to. He worked last night so I didn't try anything b/c I knew he wouldn't be into it. We woke up this morning, fresh from a full night's sleep, and he was lovey dovey talking about how much he loves...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 6 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    He Says He Loves Me But Won't Touch Me

    I have been with my boyfriend for two years and he won't touch me anymore. Every once in a while i'll get a peck and if we fight he'll give me a hug and peck with lots of I love you's. He says he loves me and that he knows it's difficult right now for us. He just isn't interested...
    peapers peapers 31-35, F 19 Responses Nov 27, 2009

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    I'm tired of people on here complaining

    that their partner won't have sex with them. Sex doesn't just happen because one person gets turned on. You can't treat someone like a doormat all week and expect them feel warm and intimate towards you. Maybe if you treated your spouse/partner with a bit of respect and made...
    emptynow emptynow 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 12, 2014

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    I am in sexless relationship.

    We have been together for 9 years. We are both very busy, but there has to be some time for intimacy. I am 29 years old and my hormones are raging. I think about cheating all the time for the last 5 months, but its just not right. We have talked about the issue million times...
    herzeg herzeg 26-30, M 2 Responses May 22, 2014

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    Empty Bed...

    my bed is empty too long, now here I poured myself I'm sad when the night comes and so I warmed up my empty cold heart and bed ... This my empty bed is my greatest curse, it hurts it hurts a lot,empty bed but it hurts the most simply too is empty... I just live this life...
    skyfone464 skyfone464 41-45, F Jan 30, 2013

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    Well here goes. I really need some answers

    and quick. Otherwise, I'm going to end this relationship. Here goes. My mom passed 2 years ago. I went back home to handle all the arrangements and I ran into my high school sweetheart at the funeral. It was like I fell in love all over again when I saw him. We have never...
    brownbunny613 brownbunny613 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I Had Hopes For Today...

    But no. We didn't have sex. He didn't have work today, and the day I got my period he said he really wanted to. I know some people like to have sex during periods, but we don't like to. Today, that it's finally over and he didn't have work, we didn't do anything. I was trying...
    LeZombie LeZombie 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 19, 2010

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    15 yrs in a relationship!

    Why does sex leave even if you try to spice it up.
    Sparky642014 Sparky642014 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2014

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    Where Have All The Stiff Men Gone? ( Seriously ).

    I met my boyfriend when he was 38, he is now 43. I've bee going through 5 years of really unsatisfying sex - that is if he even remembers that I'm there. In the begining I thought nothing of it because, as some of you may know, the first few sexual encounters with your loved one...
    AvalonWeiss AvalonWeiss 31-35, F 36 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    after showing my effort's,

    and my love for michael, we had a wonderful day together! I won't share detail's, but people reading this, if your partner read's our story? and trully love's you? the will make a effort, as they watch you go to the extreme trying to make your relationship work!!!!!!!!!! I am...
    m1david m1david 41-45, M Sep 24, 2014

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    Okay question. I'm getting all kinds of advice

    but has anyone ACTUALLY gotten a real answer/diagnosis from their man/boyfriend/husband to WHY they're not actively wanting sex?? I'd love to hear !!!!!
    kros10 kros10 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    First And Foremost, I Love My Fiancé Dearly.

    She Is Truly Amazing, But I Can't Shake My Sexual Feelings My Fiancé Is A Very Experienced Woman. Sexually! She's Had Multiple Partners. More Than 2 Hands Lol Me On The Other Hand, She Is The First Woman I've Ever Been So Intimate With, I Have Had Sexual Experiences With...
    NML93 NML93 18-21, F Jun 25

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    I'm Done. I Can't Do This Anymore!

    My bf and I met 5 years ago and at first the sex was GREAT and frequent. It went from daily, sometimes multiple times in a day, then weekly, then monthly, then every 3-4 months, even got to 8 month stretch with nothing. I love him so very much! I can't even get close to him...
    Mwillis123 Mwillis123 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Maybe I shouldn't complain.

    Reading other stories on here makes me think that I don't have it so bad, but in reality, it FEELS like emotional torture. My husband and I are intimate 2-3 times a month. It would probably be less if not for my constantly bringing it up or making remarks like, "It's been 2-3...
    elana29 elana29 26-30 2 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    Tell Me Why...

    So many of these stories seem to be from women who are with men that are completely unresponsive sexually, but they say that they love them so much?  Do sexless men inspire this kind of devotion in us?  It seems to be what happened with me.  We've been together...
    gigilarkin gigilarkin 61-65, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2010

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    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M Jan 9

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    After tons of research about my sexless Mariage,

    I have this advice to offer. 1) Look into yourself to recall any time you may have insulted your Husbands manhood. Years ago, I rejected him one night when I was just too tired. I got a little angry when he initiated sex+told him I didn't want sex all the time like that. Next...
    124Bee 124Bee 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 20

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    Is anybody else in the same boat?

    I never EVER imagined myself being in my 20s and in such a horrendous situation. My partner and I have been together for 3 years. The first year was great. Our sex life was vibrant and passionate and the thought of sex being an issue never crossed my mind. Then a couple months...
    mistakeoverload mistakeoverload 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    My BF and I have been together almost 5 years.

    Sex was good when we had it. But he has always said it wasn't important to him. I Always had to initiate any intimacy. But it was becoming less frequent. He was having ED problems. We started having problems in our relationship last year. Well things got so bad that we took a...
    fiftysomthin fiftysomthin 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    Welp 2 months and he's still not

    even showing any sign of letting up. Fml fml fml fml
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 17, 2014

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    Since having an abortion I don't want Sex

    and struggle to enjoy it when I do. I'v been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have been though a lot together including and abortion, and since this I can't have sex.. WHY!? Any advice?
    CleoX CleoX 18-21, F Sep 25, 2014

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    Me and my fiancé don't really have sex anymore.

    Nothing I have tried seems to work. We maybe have sex once a month if that. This feel extraordinarily low for a couple in their mid twenties. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if her birth control is messing with her drive or she is just genuinely not interested. I've...
    Raleighman Raleighman 22-25, M 1 Response May 28

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    Struggling tonight...

    .. Just want to be held, made to feel like a woman and make crazy, mad, passionate love! Why is that too much to ask? :(
    Inspireme1 Inspireme1 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    Inspireme1 Inspireme1 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2014

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    Most people would not believe this,

    in fact most of my friends and family do not know about this. I have been with my fiancée for almost twelve years, we met when we were 19 and 20 and now are 31 and 32 respectively. We have never had sex. From quite early on in the relationship she made it quite clear that she...
    phalonia phalonia 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    If He Only Knew.....

    I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. The very 1st night I moved in with him, we still had not had sex yet, he told me he didnt want it to be ALL about sex..OK no problem...we finally had sex on the 3rd night..it was GREAT...as time has gone on, I have found out he is...
    frustratedsad frustratedsad 46-50 3 Responses Jul 5, 2012

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    I have been in a relationship with the same man

    for 3years now. I love him with all of my heart and soul, but he is tearing me apart. In the very beginning our sex life was great. And it has slowly dwindled down over the years to an almost complete stop. What is wrong with me? We were friends before we ever became lovers, so...
    tiffany7michelle tiffany7michelle 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 21, 2014

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    WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO FOR ATTENTION?

    I could walk around completely naked & my bf would literally not look twice. I don't get it. -- Another day of pure frustration.
    kros10 kros10 26-30, F 19 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    Sexless Relationship Advice For Women

    It’s really important to understand, first of all, that being in a sexless relationship is allowed to be a deal breaker. My sexless relationship advice for women is first and foremost, that you are allowed to leave the relationship. It is enough of a reason for you to breakup...
    faithfullypinky faithfullypinky 22-25, F 11 Responses Aug 10, 2012

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    He Insinuated Intimacy The Other Day, I Refused.

    About two weeks ago he said in his usual playful way; "How about I do this for you ( insert chore here) and you give me a hand job". I refused. I told him I was not going to please him in that way because it was not satisfying to me. Then he explained to me how he does not feel...
    AvalonWeiss AvalonWeiss 31-35, F 16 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Hello all, I am new here

    and I am not sure how it works exacly but I am gonna give it a try. I am 23 my boyfriend in 31 and we have been together for a year. We recently moved in together-just before Christmas. My biggest problem with him is that he is not interested in making love at all. Before you...
    eternity7 eternity7 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I im out of it but SO angry with myself

    for staying in it for 2 years. I just didn't know what was happening. Wish I'd found this 2 years ago and realised that it's something quite "concrete "that happens to people. I was so naive and believed him when he kept saying things would get better. I am so angry that I...
    allisnotlost allisnotlost 56-60, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2014

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    We all have quite stressful,

    and sometimes sad lives.  I saw this and thought it might bring my ILIASM EPeeps a smile..We all need something everyday (many times a day!) to help us remember that we are people who have good things going on, as well as the stresses that our sexless relationships cause us...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    I am in a sexless lesbian relationship.

    Sex is the only thing I think about. My partner has a billion and one excuses for us not has sex, fun, heck everything. She always sick, something alway is wrong. She always unhappy, about stuff that doesn't make any sense. I have given her my all and in return, don't get as...
    ladytazm ladytazm 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2014

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    What is the best way to handle a refuser

    who every time pretends he has no idea sexlessness is the issue of my unhappiness , then asks how we can work on it only to forget the entire conversation the following days, gives excuses and asks patience, until cycle repeats itself and he is again apparently completely...
    Imoveryou Imoveryou 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    December 3, 2013 was the last time we were

    intimate. I couldn't tell you the time before that. We have been together for 10 years but a part for the last 5 years. I've asked him to make a change. Make a choice. Decide to be happy with or without me. He is content with living the facade of living the suburban life with...
    thelatintwist thelatintwist 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

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    8 years in. It must be something I'm doing

    wrong. I still tell her how beautiful she is, how much I feel rejected when she won't be intimate and we still laugh and enjoy each others company. I got up at 630am to dig her car out of the snowiest city in the USA this year (Erie PA *******!) and I couldn't help thinking...
    Geometerichachi Geometerichachi 31-35, M 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I started dating a girl,

    we'll call her becka, well over a year ago. When we first got together it was amazing, for months at the beginning we were the perfect couple. I loved every minute i was with her, from doing mundane tasks like cleaning, or taking my dogs for a walk, to our amazing sex life. I...
    mitchel71 mitchel71 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    And on top of everything my birthday is

    tomorrow, and usually he is at home all day everyday. But he made sure to have something to do on my birthday!
    tiffany7michelle tiffany7michelle 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 25, 2014

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