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I Am In a Taken In Hand Relationship

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    Can anyone else relate to how I'm feeling?

    My husband hasn't spanked me in over 3 weeks. After about a week I started feeling like I needed it. But my sister was staying with us so I didn't expect it. Once she left though I thought he'd get to it as he had already told me to expect a "good" spanking for my misbehavior...
    mmoore036 mmoore036 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 14

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    Forgetfulness Ends In Discipline

    I got spanked again tonight and as I write, I am sitting here with my bottom still tingling, so I  thought I would share this time. Tomorrow my Mum is cooking dinner for us all and as a thank you, I have made a cheese cake. This morning we went shopping, it's Saturday, the...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 2, 2011

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    Hey everyone I just added some people.

    I'm the HOH of silencedshy. I've heard ams seem they're are a lie of changes in EP over the last year. I understand some of the people I added may not add me because I'm a guy or because I'm not on much. Well to set things straight of the cuff I'm not on this site sex, dirty...
    mike82779 mike82779 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 11

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    I know I've complained lately about not being

    spanked enough or long periods between. But this week has been different! This morning I had my third spanking of the week but this one was severe! The first one left a couple minor bruises that were gone in two days. The next one left no bruises. But this mornings left LOTS of...
    mmoore036 mmoore036 26-30, F May 3

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    Taken in hand....yes that's what will be

    happening as soon as I get home from work today. I've been very tired from working so much the past week. I don't mean to get grumpy, but it happens. I know I was a little lippy when was texting with Dave today. I am instructed to come home, take a shower quickly, then he...
    mjg1968 mjg1968 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 8

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    We Are Working On Beginning A Taken In Hand Relaationship

    I am 19 years old and a sophomore in college. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and we are deeply in love and planning on getting married after I graduate from school. The main problem we had been having in our relationship was that I was being extremely...
    manda8888 manda8888 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    How Hard Does Your Spanking Need To Be?

    First some clarifications: I realize that people's tolerance levels are vastly different and even vary from day to day for the same individual. Also that implements are very different and even the spanker's strength and how much of it he uses. And that a different amount of...
    Tushy Tushy 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    Spur of the moment! I was in a mood all day

    the other day. What my husband did shocked me! I was in the bedroom and he came up behind. He wrapped his arms around me tight and told me that I need to calm down. I got mad (I don't like being touched when I'm mad.) I told him to get off me. I said I'm in a mood and all I want...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 20

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    (This is for the wives/ ladies:) Working on an

    assignment from my man and I need some help/inspiration. What is your favorite thing that your husband tells you to do? nothing sexual, please. Just everyday type of thing that has to do with living life...but something that for whatever reason (like less stress, etc) is your...
    iwantdreadlocks iwantdreadlocks 22-25, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    Its been a long week i quit smoking about 2

    months ago .I started a new job this week and i also start school this week . Well little sleep and stress I have not been in the best mood.My husband has been forgiving maybe to much becuase this morning he was not going to take anymore and has been very quiet .when that...
    isubmittohim79 isubmittohim79 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    I have not be spanked in some time.

    I have been thinking all day about asking for one. Now he has agreed that I do not have to ask because getting the courage up to ask is hard for me. So in turn I just lay myself across his lap and then he knows that I am in need. He came home from work today and I said "I...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    We have several implements,

    but I've always thought the brush he spanks me with is too small. I've wanted him to use a wider wooden one, but we don't have one. I know...be careful what I ask for. I bought one online tonight (a bamboo paddle brush with bristles) and it will be coming in the mail in a...
    mjg1968 mjg1968 41-45, F 2 Responses May 20

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    I only post when I'm frustrated.

    Mad at myself and Mr. D. Two spankings in two days. I've never had a spanking two days in a roll. I don't like it. I have no idea why I had A tantrum Mon. Night and what was a little fib to me, was a lie and a spanking offense to Mr. D. I'm just not all that great of fan...
    trudypitudy trudypitudy 56-60, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    Some Personal Reflections

    I am in a taken in hand relationship for close to twenty years now and am comfortable being the submissive obedient wife to my wonderful husband. Many women it seems can’t understand how some women like me freely put ourselves under the complete and absolute authority of our...
    subobedientwife subobedientwife 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 21, 2013

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    Sort of. What I mean is,

    he spanks me, but not for discipline. I guess it would fall under the "maintenance spanking" category. He does it because he knows I enjoy it. And it's not usually very painful. I just wish he would do the discipline spankings. I know there are times when I'm downright rude and...
    Rebel2256 Rebel2256 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    He Takes Me In Hand

    The last time I was rude to my h2b, I raised my voice and did not listen to him when he told me to change my attitude. He sent me to the bedroom, where I had to stand in the corner, but I was so dissapointed with myself that I had gotten into trouble that I ran to the bedroom and...
    mearamar mearamar 26-30 12 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    Male Diary - The most difficult stage of TiH

    must surely be the initial transfer of authority. In my very recent experience, this stage can illicit a lot of confusion for both parties. Where is the line between TiH and full D/s? I have had trouble with overexerting my new authority so as to micromanage her. And she has...
    MediPhil MediPhil 18-21, M Jun 2

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    Spanked Against My Will

    Last night I knew I was in trouble, since the incident I had at the police station. That brought me to my full bitchy mode all afternoon. He told me to go to bed early and so I did, but I started rambling about our household and I wasn't able to talk in a calm way. Suddenly he...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 26, 2012

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    I Gave Up To Soon!

    A few days after I wrote my last story, I said something that made my husband madder than I have ever seen him. Even hurt him deeply. I knew I was in trouble but never thought I would be punished for it. After the fight was over and all was good (so I thought) we were laughing...
    lover70 lover70 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Wife Tantrum Ii

    So, after kids felt asleep, he came over and sighed... I started talking. I told him everything that upsets me regarding his mom. He told me that I have to sit down with her and put an end to all this antics by talking about all the pending issues we have. I said I didn't want to...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    My Transformation

    My HOH and I will celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary in June.  We met at a very young age and dated until we turned 21 and married.  I would describe our marriage as good.  We've had our ups and downs.  I worked while my HOH was in graduate school but when...
    ForestFaery ForestFaery 41-45, F 15 Responses May 27, 2010

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    Bad Attitude

    A couple of weeks ago I got married. As a result my new wife needed to go down to London to renew her australian passport as name changes have to be done in person. We decided that we would both go down and that way we could catch a show the night before her appointment. We...
    cptenna02 cptenna02 31-35, M 8 Responses Sep 13, 2013

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    Need To Be Taken In Hand

    I'm not married but need to be in a taken in hand relationship, I don't have to be the only "wife" just as long as the discipline is there and punishment is swiftly and fairly given . . . if more women would come to realize this is the way relationships should be the better the...
    axiomaz axiomaz 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    As I have mentioned in one of my previous blogs,

    I am pretty new to the TPE/DS lifestyle. On the other hand, my Brat was very well trained (many years ago), but still knows all too well the do’s and do not’s of TPE. Please don’t misunderstand, I love everything about her and cherish her like none other, but she is very...
    RHSPKO RHSPKO 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    All my life, I've liked being a submissive

    person. I always listened to my parents, and loved the attention I got from being a good obedient daughter. It was no surprise that I wanted a husband who would lead and guide me through my adult life. I'm not a leader - I'm a follower, I will follow my husband as I follow...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 3

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    His Parents

    My husbands parents were visiting us for a whole week. One night during dinner, I disrespected my husband and started arguing with him about an issue we had been discussing. Our arguement got a little out of hand, to the point that I yelled at my husband. That is something that...
    spankedhousewife spankedhousewife 31-35, F 12 Responses Jul 19, 2011

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    I couldn't be in a TIH relationship with anyone

    but him. He is the only one who deserves that much authority over me and freedom with me. He is so kind, gentle, loving, adoring, cherishing, sweet, firm, sexy, sensitive and dominant. He takes time to understand me and to communicate in ways that mean the most to me. He is...
    iwantdreadlocks iwantdreadlocks 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 16

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    Tih Nights

    Last couple of nights were so very TIH to me... First, my husband woke me up in the middle of night by just removing my clothes and panties. I was sound asleep. My first conscious thought was "oh ****, I'm in trouble Again??", well, I wasn't... Hubby wanted to take me. It was...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I have a question I could use some help on.

    If your hoh said that 5 loads of laundry need to be completed. Is punishment needed for each load not done or just for the choir as a hole not being completed?
    mike82779 mike82779 31-35, M 8 Responses Apr 17

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    The Challenge

    You say the man is the boss. You say you are submissive sexually. I have the ultimate challenge. My wife and I had this conversation a few years ago. I sat her down one night and told her what I wanted. Now please understand, I told her what I wanted. Think about your man sitting...
    ice4u ice4u 36-40, M 28 Responses Aug 29, 2010

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    Im in so much trouble.

    Most know I'm not a real submissive. In my first marriage I made all decisions about family, financial, house rules, My late husband was a workaholic there for the running of he house fell to me. I even decided where our money would be invested. Between my husbands job and my...
    trudypitudy trudypitudy 56-60, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    Another reminder. I need constant reminder of

    DD. It just works better for me. Just being good doesn't cut it. I have asked my husband of He would like me too call him anything other then his name. Maybe there can be a way I call or answer him in public vs private. He has decided I will call him Sir. So if we are in public...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 11

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    I'm in a taken-in-hand relationship

    but I'm gay. I'm married to my husband, and I'm the "wife". We've been together for 9 years, married for almost 3, taken-in-hand recently, which in our case includes domestic discipline. I make the distinction because taken in hand doesn't necessarily mean it includes domestic...
    Tory1979 Tory1979 31-35, M 1 Response May 8

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    Trying so hard to be good today.

    Some days it's so hard to be good and stay out of trouble.
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F Jan 21

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    What My Hoh Gets In Exchange For All His Hard Work With Me

    What Does the HoH get out of our relationship? The question has been asked before, what do men possibly get out of a TiH relationship? It was brought up as a lot of work and effort on his part to give the woman the guidance and direction and domination she craves. But what was...
    brokentoy2011 brokentoy2011 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    Well, this didn't last long.

    It was like coming home for me, a piece of the missing puzzle, but it's just not in the hubby. I love him dearly and always will, but this is just a part of myself that's never going to be fulfilled. It started out strong, a few stumbles then back on course, then a very long...
    Tory1979 Tory1979 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Safe word? Before we started this journey we

    agreed that if I was not interested in this life style any longer I would simply say "I don't want this kinda relationship any now" DONE. I can not say it to get out of punishment. I have to have a good reason. We always joked around about if I ever needed a safe word (during...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 1 Response May 3

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    Spanked Because Of Jehovah's Witnesses

    So yes I got another spanking again yesterday. I don't share every spanking I get (there would be no room for anyone else to share lol) but a thought has just struck me as quite amusing, so I will tell you all about this one. On Wednesday, I had some Jehovah's witnesses visit me...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    He's Not Supposed To Be Superman.... But, He Is Super!

    I'm relatively new to the whole TiH..DD relationship. In fact I'm pretty proud that I at least know what 'TiH AND DD' stand for!!! A few months ago I had no inkling what that was or even that it was a thing at all! I'm so proud that I found it, and searched it out! I'm...
    MatildaEve MatildaEve 41-45, F 7 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    Waiting for it I really hate

    when you know you are in so much trouble and have to wait on it. I had a day yesterday that was really bad. He knew somehow that I was in "that" mindset. He tried to tell me and it just made me mad a fueled my fire. It resulted in me getting a case of " the f*** its" I call it...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 18

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    3:00 Am

    Last night I felt asleep early but I woke up at 3 am with an odd feeling. As I opened my eyes I noticed the lights were still on. I turned around and found my husband fully awake, serious and silent, just staring at me. I instinctively reached for him and he cuddled me, but still...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Our Dear Hoh's Instead Of Lectures ..........

    Some of the ladies and I were thinking, in place of those wonderful insightful lectures you gentlemen have so carefully been delivering to us before you discipline. Perhaps you would consider trying the more biblical approach. We could sit at your feet wide eyed listening as...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 8 Responses Sep 26, 2012

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    Yes Please.......

    Earlier my dear Hoh asked me if I would like a Pop while he was out. I said yes please. Then I got to thinking... As I raised my kids I would always say Please and Thank you when I asked them to do things. Not because I was their servant (sure mom defines servant some times...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 9 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    Dealing with OCD and TIH I must say it has

    calmed me a lot. I have not been diagnosed by a doctor. I fear they will want to lock me up or put me on meds. I have struggled for a long long long time. But since since HOH and I started this relationship, things got a little on me. Things in out relationship just calmed down...
    silencedshy silencedshy 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 18

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    Proud Through The Chaos

    The past few weeks of my life have been so stressful, fast paced and extremely trying. There are so many changes happening at one time, I've kind of lost my way. Between my husband's promotion and his absence, my new job and the children starting school, my stress level has been...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 26, 2012

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    Question about bruising.

    I have never been an easy bruiser but I always bruise bad when I'm spanked. I don't want to stop the spankings either. I have 2 different questions about this. 1. I'm wondering if it's something specific we are doing in our spanking routine that is causing the bruising and...
    mmoore036 mmoore036 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    First Punishment Spanking

    So, I blew it yesterday. My MIL came over to pick up my nieces I was watching.  I did ok with the kids, but when she was there, I went on EP.  NOT SMART.  It  made my hunny really, really mad.  On top of that, I didn't help get the kids ready to go, but made him do it all...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    A Morning In My Life

    I can't wake up. I hear the distant sound of the alarm.... Oh ****! This week seems to last forever. I close my eyes tight as I hear you, rushing around the bed. "Love, wake up. We're already late ". I open an eye and check on the clock. "F...., I'm tired!!!!! I don't want to...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 8 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    This story is an "assignment" Ok,

    you got the idea... So here it goes: I sometimes have trouble to listen to my husband. Especially if I sense his talking as a criticism. That is definately my biggest challenge. Usually, I feel a strong urge to just ignore him and I try to step out of the conversation as fast...
    anonimacy anonimacy 36-40, F 12 Responses Jan 2

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    You say brat like its a bad thing.

    . I wanted to take a minute to explain what I consider a brat. I personally do not think of it as a bad thing, and I know that some do. I think we all tend to take a word sometimes and based on our own backgrounds, personalities, and experiences; give it different meanings. So...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    Results of my bad day - big punishment For

    anyone that has read my posts, you know that I got in some trouble and was awaiting my trouble. One of my punishments was to write in detail what happened and apologize to him for how poorly I behaved that made me get this. Well first of all I am grounded for another 7 days...
    RsBrat RsBrat 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    Attitude Re-Set.

    Tuesday evening I was feeling out of his control, like a flying kite where someone has dropped the string, I was fluttering to the ground. We had a lovely romantic weekend, and we had been very close and tender.   As a result, he fell back from his now usual firm control, no...
    kayemkay kayemkay 41-45, F 11 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    Did You Say Thank You For Spanking Me?

    A Hard and Thankless Task Has any woman ever wondered how hard her HOH’s job really is? Being the head and leader of the family can be a very tiring and frustrating task. 1. He has all the preparation it takes to plan a suitable punishment to fit her misbehaviour. 2. He...
    JennaR JennaR 46-50, F 45 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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