I Am In a Taken In Hand Relationship Forum & Chat Board | Could he do it?

He says that when he looks at me he thinks I am innocent and that he doesn't want to hurt me. Yet he also says that he will beat me because it's good for me. Yesterday he said 'how could I beat you? I couldn't beat your soft face cause I will think of your cute dimples and feel you're innocent. Where should I beat?'. Then I said that he could anywhere on my body, like my legs. And he said 'hm yeah I can but your legs are strong, maybe I will beat your but and make you take off your pants. But what if you start crying?'.

Is it normal that men are worried to hurt you at first?

 

I think any good man should worry about huring his wife. Perhaps if you wore a skirt it would show him you were not wearing the pants literaly and also make him think that smacking could work

 

Lol, not allowed to wear skirts but it's a good one.

 

I think it is very common for a man to worry about hurting you... after all he loves you, wants to protect you and keep you safe from harm - so it is hard to reconcile himself to doing something that will hurt.

The Taken In Hand website (it wouldn't let me post the link for some reason) has some excellent posts on this from the male perspective.  Maybe you can give him links or print out a few of their articles on the subject?  Good Luck!