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I Am In a Toxic Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 82 People

    Confused

    When i came home Last night my husband my husband told he had spoken to a counselor and during their conversation she had asked him if he was planning to stay with me after our daughter turned 18 his answer to her was he didn't think so So of course I got upset and said why...
    Emcb47 Emcb47 46-50 1 Response Feb 9, 2013

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    With My Ex....

      My relationship with my Ex is TOXIC... I never understood what this meant... but now I understand.... she can zap the positive energy straight out of me.... I always believed pollyanically that I could make her happy... I can't. I always believed that I could always...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins 41-45, M 8 Responses Mar 3, 2008

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    College Love Gone Sour

    I'm a senior in college and my boyfriend is a junior. We met two years ago in the stereotypical scenario when a fraternity boy meets a sorority girl. We instantly clicked and I ended a previous relationship once I realized this new boy was the one I wanted to pursue. Being that...
    sadsororitygirl sadsororitygirl 22-25, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Surviving Toxic Txdrew

    I have been with with Drew a total of 7 years and in the last 5 I have no idea how many breakups i have gone thru, I lost count. He begs and cries for me to take him back every time he does something and the moment i do he is completly indifferent. i tried to discuss the issues...
    Car0 Car0 31-35 4 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    Toxic Relationship 20 Years And Counting.

    I am also in a Toxic relationship now entering year twenty. I must be insane, I cant seem to break away. Ive lost everything to this toxicity, Jobs, friends, Trust, Dreams, and along the way My true self. I am 38 years old although we aren't legally married I've been with her...
    bigloozer bigloozer 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 30, 2011

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    Toxic Relationship

    Toxic relationship,Been there,Done that,Thank God,It's in the past.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 25, 2012

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    I Need Help. I Can't Leave This Toxic Relationship

    I've come to the internet for help since nobody can help me with this relationship anymore. I've been with this person for almost 7 years, he's been living in another country since 2006 and yet I haven't been able to end this toxic relationship. He's verbally abusive, selfish...
    Rurouni Rurouni 31-35 5 Responses Feb 27, 2009

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    I am pretty sure I am in a toxic relationship.

    On top of some pretty nasty fights in which he confirmed every insecurity I have, he is the king of mixed messages--saying he wants a long term relationship with me but he doesn't want to make a commitment yet because of our issues. I believe he is emotionally withholding...
    glitterordeath glitterordeath 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    I am currently in a failing marriage.

    I am not sure who is toxic. I think.it is him, but he says it's me. I read all the facts about toxic relationships and I'm so confused. I do know that I feel more at peace away from him. When he says nice things to me I get very uncomfortable. we have two children so this...
    aj616013 aj616013 26-30, F Feb 22

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    I Was In A Toxic Relationship

    I was beat down...four years it took me to get over what had happened to me. I am a rock musician and I am supposed to be tough, but I just couldn't figure out how to get over the past and get on with my life...I knew there was someone out there that could see through my rocker...
    ZADX ZADX 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 10, 2009

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    I Love Him More Than I Love Myself....

    I met this man when i was 15. he would not be with me because of my age. he was 21. that didn't stop him from having sex with me. we fell in love. we talked constantly. always trying to make the other jealous. when we finally got together when i was seventeen, we already had alot...
    avagwen420 avagwen420 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 25, 2011

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    Hes Suspicious.

    technically we aren't even together. he always wants to hook up, but then gets paranoid at random times asking me in a text if im at my boy friends or something. so we aren't in a relationship, or not the typical one. he's sensitive, and paranoid. he's has done some wrong things...
    ExameMyKidney ExameMyKidney 22-25, F 3 Responses May 1, 2011

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    Welcome To Toxicville

    So I met him for the first time in my freshman year of high school. He was a senior and I had the misconception Seniors don't date Freshmen.. and I didn't want to be another number on his very well known reputation. I still had a huge crush on him! He graduated and I moved on...
    Lynncitrus666 Lynncitrus666 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    Dear You.

    I am tired of feeling as if I care more about a person's life than they actually do themselves.  How many times do I have to listen to you complain about the same problem over and over again.  I offer supportive advice.  I don't expect you to take it, but it would...
    ichooselife ichooselife 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2009

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    I Think So

    I'm not really sure, but I think so, we spend more time fighting than anything else, according to him everything is my fault. I'll admit somethings are but not all. But even with all my problems we stay together. why?
    luxxybunny luxxybunny 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2012

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    I don't know if my relationship is toxic.

    Half of me feels like I'm in love with him and he's the one. The other part of me feels like he is toxic to my life. I don't want to let go because I can't imagine losing him. But I might have to in order to save my mental health. Any advice?
    emyay emyay 18-21, F Jun 26

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    Him

    Well here it goes. I'll try to explain as best and short as I can. I met this man. We grew close, spending time together talking and talking, sharing our thoughts, having these meaningful deep emotional conversations night after night about life, about our paths, about happiness...
    Zeerecluse Zeerecluse 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 16, 2012

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    Toxicity City

    It's a very long story, so I will make it as breif as possible. Basically, my 3 yr relationship is based around HER... if she doens't get her way or if I " do do what a BF does" she threatens to leave me... than I for some dumb reason always manage to get her back... it's like a...
    lostntransl8tion lostntransl8tion 26-30 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Extremely Wrong.

    My boyfriend drives me absolutely nuts!!!! There is no end to our arguing and it's all because of him. Let me just explain how the arguments start. Example number one: ill tell him I need to talk to him about something that's going on in our relationship that's bothering me and...
    GettingOverShit GettingOverShit 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    Well, we aren't together

    but we are still talking. I hate it. I'm strong willed but he has such a soft spot in my heart. I talk about people like this. Keep letting the guy run in and out of her life. Now, I am that girl. Only time will let this pass. After... I put my foot down. I hate the sex... It...
    ohwee12 ohwee12 18-21, F Nov 30, 2013

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    Help!

    there's no short version of this but i will try. I first meet him 7 years ago. I fell totally in love he says he did. We had a baby and i got really ill with post natal depression, he could not handle this at all. He had an affair and was found out by mutual friends. My world...
    justfeelempty justfeelempty 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 20, 2013

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    Toxic/abuse

    Hey, thought i would share my story. I am 22 years old and met my fianceƩ (ex now) when i was 18. I had a long distance relationship with him, and he was my first guy that i loved, he was everything physically that i looked for in a guy. He lived in Bosnia, and i was born their...
    smwaha01 smwaha01 22-25 4 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I just saw this story about 2 people who were in a relationship for almost 4 years and they broke up 5 months ago. I don't know why I got too scared, it made me realise how much I...
    ReemNoctis ReemNoctis 16-17, F 7 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    This is a boring journal post that I'm writing for myself. Feel free to read just be aware it's probably going to bore you. I am in love. He treats me like a queen. He calls me...
    ExperienceisMyProject ExperienceisMyProject 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I've been in a relationship with my bf for about 1.5-2 years now. I had a long term relationship with my ex for 6 years before that. That relationship ended and I started a new one...
    willgethru willgethru 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    Honesty and trust are an integral foundation to a healthy relationship. Lies just lead to more lies and it becomes toxic. I'd rather be told the painful truth gently than live on...
    65Cadillac 65Cadillac 41-45, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hi, I'm in a relationship with a 27yr gap!! Would like to hear from people who have a big age difference or have been involve with someone older in a serious relationship... We've...
    confidence91 confidence91 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I was in a long distance relationship last year. It was such an incredible experience; the fact that you don't see each other on a routine basis makes every bit of communication...
    Chris1510VA Chris1510VA 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 22

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    both for the better and for worse, which in my case is both. When a relationship fails there's always a deeper level reached, such as knowing who and what you want in your future...
    anon0109 anon0109 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Came across this article today, and I realised after reading it, you'll never ever get any of these with a Narcissist, NOT a chance. It's the little things: Small gestures that...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I see a lot of white/black interracial relationship post on here, and white/black has become the common type of relationship we think of when someone mentions interracial. What...
    gazlove17 gazlove17 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 21

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    An ex of mine is extremely toxic. He's like an out of control storm. He's had a rather disturbing childhood I guess, but he lashes he pain on others. I've had to completely...
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 21

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    I'm not too sure if long distance relationships are a good enough choice when it comes to dating and friendships and what not. My mother has been in this type of relationship with...
    MrIppikodoku MrIppikodoku 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 21

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    I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. This past February he became completely cold hearted and broke my heart when he unexpectedly broke up with me. I was...
    schaunie schaunie 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 20

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    I have recently finished my first year of university. During my first year I met a women. Her name was for confidentiality sake woman X. Woman X is 5 years older than me, as I am...
    Ad8m Ad8m 18-21, M Jul 20

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    Ok so this is for the love of my life... Your existence in my life is the biggest gift God could give me. i seriously, honesty, truly,completely,wholly LOVE you!! Being with you...
    Scorpio95117 Scorpio95117 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    But then I realized that I'm the toxic one...
    halohai halohai 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    So i'm in a serious relationship with a very amazing, great guy. Yet, as the relationship has progressed over the past year, I find myself becoming more and more insecure! For one...
    moaninglisa1536 moaninglisa1536 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I'm not even fully aware of what happened. I mean, I'm not really close to much of anyone in my family, or even out of it. But I don't understand why I have such a hard time with...
    dwyli33 dwyli33 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    People write about emotional pain frequently on EP. One of the most common sources of pain is relationships. And of the various relationship pains, insecurity is among the most...
    ToughEddie ToughEddie 36-40, M 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I know open relationships are not mainstream, and are quite frankly open to disdain and ridicule--disgust from some. They are not the mainstream accepted type of relationship we...
    TW8NY TW8NY 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 15

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    I will and I have. Toxic people no matter if family, are bad for my well being. Negative people are complete poison for me.
    00DesertRose 00DesertRose 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I have been with K for almost 5 years now. Our friends and family adore our relationship, they describe it to be envious and all loving. Im not sure anymore if I share the same...
    attnseeker attnseeker 18-21, F Jul 14

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    Unfortunately I come from a very abusive family and as the oldest of 3 girls I was always targeted for emotional, physical, and even spiritual abuse. I felt obligated to continue...
    marijoy77 marijoy77 36-40, F 4 Responses