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I Am In a Troubled Marriage

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    I've been married for 3 1/2 years,

    my husband I have been together for 8 years. Everything is going down hill. His drinking is outrageous, intimacy is absent, and I am not ever a priority of his. This is my 2nd marriage and I'm feeling so disappointed and frustrated. He'd rather hang at a bar and get...
    SAS77 SAS77 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    Now What?

    I want to leave. I'm unhappy. He yells and explodes constantly. I want to talk but he walks away. He's an angry person and doesn't admit it. Those times that he does feel bad, he goes back to his ways the next day. I don't think he's capable of talking anything out. He never...
    Confuzed6 Confuzed6 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Depressed, Anxious, &Amp; Furious, But Don'T Believe In Divorce

    I have supported our family for all but except perhaps 6 months in 18 years total, including tending bar until 2am just for us to stay afloat. Through sheer determination, I put myself through school & finally have a career where I make decent money, have good benefits and some...
    Normalwouldbnice Normalwouldbnice 41-45 1 Response Apr 7, 2013

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    Hurt

    I have been married for 26 years. I meet my wife when she was 16 and I was cheating on another woman. I was not a good person. But I did fall in love. We married when she was 18 and had our first child. 5 years later we had our second child. She was born with a disability. The...
    cygness cygness 46-50, M Nov 7, 2013

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    First Marriage Counselling Session...

    Over load! I don't know if I'm more confused or if I see things more clearly. My mind is determined to think on the negatives, I'm fighting it. He's 50% in this marriage (as asked by the counsellor) now I have the choice of seeing the glass half full or half empty.... What do I...
    Nejc24 Nejc24 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Another venting day for me,

    so yesterday was valentines day and my husband booked a spa day for me with a massage for a hour. It was very nice and thoughtful, but then today he comes home and doesn't even give me a hug or say hi or anything, like he's mad at me, I keep asking him what's wrong if I did...
    honeybumblebee honeybumblebee 22-25, F Feb 15

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    What Have I Done?

    My husband is so oblivious he doesn,t realize I am unhappy1 he doesn't want to recognize that since I am the breadwinner things are pretty tough on me! He will mention it yet nt make enough effort to do something about it. He is in his early 60's and yes it is hell finding a...
    aradia11 aradia11 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    Exhausted And Exasperated

    Married for almost eight years with 2 children. I feel as though my relationship with my husband has been reduced to pettiness and a lack of mutual respect. We often disagree on how to discipline the children and I feel he has little patience and is prone to angry outbursts...
    bluemoony bluemoony 41-45 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Troubled Marriage

    It's been a couple of weeks that I found out that my husband has been having all of these sexual and I love you chats online. The latest is that he has been trying to make a move on our nephews new wife. We have been married for 15 years. I have stuck with him through...
    mizzrose mizzrose 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    My Husband Doesn't Love Me. He Loves The Life I Provide.

    My husband and I just celebrated our 1 yr anniversary. I know they say "the first year is the hardest" but I honestly don't see this getting any easier. I am 28 yrs old and my husband is 23. I really didn't think that 5 year difference would be a huge difference but boy was I...
    lovelyraven lovelyraven 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    When Married People Grow In Opposite Directions?

    I am 22 years old and I have been married for 3 years. My husband is really the only person I've ever dated. We started dating in high school and got married in college. We clicked so naturally because we had so much in common. Some examples of our mutual believes : We believed...
    eemorris eemorris 22-25 7 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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    18 Years Wasted?

    I am in a marriage that has been going down hill for a long time.  I feel as though every breath I take, every word I speak and every move I make is judged.  In my opinion my wife and I have experienced normal ups and downs over the course of our marriage.  I feel safe in...
    urgenthelpneeded urgenthelpneeded 36-40 3 Responses Jun 11, 2012

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    I've been married for 2 1/2 years.

    I keep thinking that things will get better but I have so much resentment towards him for all of the things that have occurred in the past. I'm so lonely that my heart hurts some times. We have a 1year old child but I really don't feel that makes things any better. He's the...
    Tia1ton Tia1ton 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    24 Years Of Marriage And On The Brink Of Giving Up

    I have been married 24 years now and the first 15 years were ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC, but these pas t 9 are causing considerable contemplation for me about separation or divorce.  The past 3-4 years it feels like I am living with my brother.  We don’t argue but it...
    Givingup1 Givingup1 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    A Promise Unfulfilled

    We met and you said you loved me from that moment That I was your sunshine, your past relationships atonement Young and unsure of myself I gave me to you completely You said that I was your everything, your main priority You asked for my hand in marriage because I was your...
    charliegee83 charliegee83 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    My husband just finds fault with everything i do

    and say. Dont know what to do. We have two beautiful little girls, so i cant get out...
    elx001 elx001 36-40, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    So Confused

    My wife and I have been married for 12 years, together for 13. She has recently told me that she needed space. I have tried to give her that but unseccussfully. She is leaving today to a hotel for a week to get some space and see if she even wants it to work between us. I...
    sadhubby1959 sadhubby1959 51-55 2 Responses Nov 2, 2010

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    Marriage Problems You Can Relate to

      My husband and I have two weeks holidays with only three days left until we both return to 'our life' as I like to call it. Having so much time together really scared me because we get to see a lot of the negative issues present in our marriage. For one, we have nothing...
    complicatedandconfused complicatedandconfused 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Taken For Granted And Treading Water

    I've been with my wife for 7 years now, married for 6. I have no children of my own; she has two (girl 16, boy 12). Her daughter has Asperger's syndrome, which is a high functioning form of autism. We both had been married twice before and for about the same amount of time for...
    Clevernamehere Clevernamehere 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    Been having trouble with the hubs these days.

    Haven't been able to have sex because I am mad and I don't even feel like it. Kinda tired of fighting over stupid things, it feels like he is giving up.
    basschic basschic 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe

    it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most recently he was fired from a job I got him (I convinced a friend to hire him) and then he sat at home, unemployed and not looking for work, for...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    She Wants Out But I Still Love Her

    Been married for 12 years to my GF of 7 years. We were so much in love but unfortunately i haven't been there for her as i let her take over majority of the house and kids responsibility. This led her to depression and eventually she stopped loving me, however, she still cares...
    Henf Henf 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    I honestly do believe

    that a marriage crisis is nothing more than a spiritual battle. There is always hope in a hopeless situation. For those of you who want to hold on to hope, I would highly recommend this site called HOPEATLAST.COM. It has helped me tremendously since I have been on this journey.
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I Just Want It To Go Back

    Here I was thinking I had it all, full time job after graduating, two children and a husband that loves me . That's until he told me he wants "the single life" 8 years we have been together and I have worked so hard in those years to build my dream family and life... All for...
    Nejc24 Nejc24 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    My Sob Story

    My husband and I have been married for almost 13 years and it's always been one thing after another.  The latest has been his mom has been living with us for over a year and I'm sick of it.  He never takes my side on anything, and I feel like I'm married to her too.  I'm so...
    jerseychic jerseychic 36-40 1 Response Jun 18, 2012

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    My husband and I got married in March 2010

    and had our first child by October that year. We had our second child January 2013 and by the end of that month my hubby told me he was no longer happy in our marriage and wanted a divorce, I thought my whole world was ending but I hadn't seen nothing yet. At 2 months and 1 day...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Sad About It

    I am 24 and have been married for 5 years now.  My husband and I dated for 2 years before getting married and it was literally the greatest time ever.  We were truly in complete and total love with each other, but that love has faded significantly over the years...
    wondering13 wondering13 22-25 8 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I Am Irrelevant To Her

    I am married 23 years to the only person that I want to spend time with, but everything else is more important. Of course work, kids and so on take priority, but she volunteers for everything. She moved out of the bedroom years ago, and I truly feel that she despises being near...
    88nascar88 88nascar88 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    My wife and I have been married

    for almost 4 years, we've know rack other for roughly twice that length of time. We have a beautiful 1yo child together who we both love. Last year, after months of suspecting her, I discovered that my wife was having an affair with a work colleague. My wife suffered a mental...
    esotericbob esotericbob 26-30, M 7 Responses Feb 23

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    What Should I Do?

    I married a man I met online a year and a half ago...everything was fine or so I thought. A week after we were married he shows me his fetish, which is wearing pantyhose ..OK..well I love him right?? Shouldn't I be accepting, I mean it's not the worst thing right?? Fine...he...
    HawaiianQt HawaiianQt 36-40, F Aug 20, 2013

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    How Do You Save A Marriage Alone

    I have been married sixteen years to my high school honey.  Second marriage me third him.  We have endured some of the hardest and most difficult times a marriage could be put through and survived.  We have gone through drug problems together and recovered. An accident seven...
    Trishlpn Trishlpn 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2011

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    I spoke with a friend

    who said "You are so brave to stay!" But it isn't brave of me to stay, it's cowardly. If I were brave I'd start over.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm completely miserable.

    I've been married for 13 years, comming up to our fourteenth year in May. It's been a long marriage and over the years we have had our ups and downs but the things that stand out the most are his unbeleivable way of negating responsbility, especially with our daughter. I've had...
    joselle1972 joselle1972 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I'm Just Not Happy Anymore....

    I don't think I want to be married anymore. There, I said it. I also cheated on my husband, and I don't feel guilty. There, I said that, too. I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 3. The worst part is, he's a good man. Truly. I just don't think I'm in love...
    Betty9 Betty9 26-30 5 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    I Talk Down To My Wife, Help

    This morning my wife said "We don't have any compost". My reply was "How do you know? We have a bag in the store." It's not what I said but how I said it. It's not the first time and apparently I've been getting worse. She was upset but I hadn't realised how bad it sounded and...
    looselowerlip looselowerlip 51-55, M 6 Responses May 25, 2012

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    I've been married two years,

    I love my husband , and he says he loves me but sometimes I wish he didn't , because it doesn't seem like he does. Yes he does a lot for our future, but he's so controlling with our money, or what we do, it's been getting better ever since I've talked to him about it but he...
    honeybumblebee honeybumblebee 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    I have been married for nearly a year

    and yet I feel so alone. My husband is more like someone I share a house with.
    sarahls87 sarahls87 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 12

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    Don't Know What Is Real Anymore

    My son and I are subject to verbal and mental abuse almost daily. Six years ago I was diagnosed with ADD. A couple of years later I was also diagnosed with a disconnection disorder caused by damage to my pre-frontal lobes in a car accident. I have issues that have caused stress...
    reallitypirate reallitypirate 36-40, F 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    A Rocking Boat, But ....

    The Lord is my Rock, I have been married past 11 years, have three kids. After all the stories I have read on the forum I know my boat is also rocking if not drowning. My hubby tells me he cannot live with me any longer, he says he will take one kid and I take the other 2 and...
    Amitagra Amitagra 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2012

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    I was married seven months ago.

    ..... I thought this was going to be so special. Before we got married we talked so much about our interests, what we wanted to do, where we wanted to go - it seemed we had so much in common. Now all I find is that this marriage is full of hurt and pain. She flies off the handle...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    Tough Times

    I have been married for 2 years but we've been together for 8.  Since we've been married, almost from day one things have been off.  We don't share a bed, we don't cuddle or hold hands or anything.  All intimacy is gone and the thing is that I can't seem to get a...
    brucepisar brucepisar 41-45 4 Responses May 16, 2010

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    I will be married 19 years this year.

    It has been a rollercoaster for the last half and I want to get off. My husband has gone through a number of low end jobs over the years. He went back and got his master's degree, but the job market is dead. He refuses to even LOOK in the area we live in. He insists another...
    fightingflorida fightingflorida 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I am married to an addict.

    We got married young and I was naive in the ways of an addict. I struggled with addiction myself until I found out I was pregnant. Now we have a 10 month old. His addiction has progressed to new levels. The intake is less but his personality has changed. He is no longer the man...
    ifonlyihadknown ifonlyihadknown 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    We Want To Make It Work But Will It?

    About six months ago my wife declared she was unhappy with our marriage (after 14 years and two fantastic boys) and things had to change. Upon hearing that I right away sat down with her to discuss it and felt that most of the issues were related to how I potentially treated...
    thehat73 thehat73 36-40 5 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    Confused

    My husband and I have been married for 18 years. Dated for 6 years. Always knew relationship not perfect but was ok with that. Had good and bad times. My husband was and is a gambler. No getting around that. We have a 5 year old daughter. He says he wants to do what he wants to...
    Leesar Leesar 41-45 1 Response Sep 30, 2012

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    Well I did everything possible to fix a problem

    that I did not start but it got me nowhere. I just don't understand how a man can treat a woman so good but be treated so bad in return.
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M Mar 16

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    My Wife Has OCD and Depression And I Feel Trapped

    My wife is suffering from severe OCD, depression, and anxiety, and things have just become really stressful and depressing in my life. The situation has destroyed my social life, so I have no good friends to turn and it is so hard to make new friends because they wouldn't...
    Jleon11 Jleon11 31-35, M 6 Responses May 18, 2013

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    We fought today. Again.

    Always. It's my fault he left his stuff out in the garage and the dog wet on it. It's my fault his job performance is poor. Sometimes I feel so hurt, I don't even want to fix "us" anymore. I can't believe I feel this way. I just want to lash out - fine, everything is my...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 12

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 25, 2013

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    Am I Crazy To Feel Like This?

    I have been married 14 years as of August 14th...and I am feeling so bad. My life isn't where I want it to be (or should I say not where my husband wants it to be) I gave up my teaching job and moved into his house when we got married. I already had a 2 year old son...not his...
    jennifer1456 jennifer1456 41-45, F 6 Responses Aug 19, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    Does anyone really leave this group without leaving the marriage? I don't think its possible, interested to hear opinions. Thanks.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I am very nice and intelligent, or so people tell me. Yet at the same time, I am troubled. Isn't that ironic yet that is life. We must learn to overcome and let go of our...
    whylife93 whylife93 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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