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I Am In a Troubled Marriage

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    I will be married 19 years this year.

    It has been a rollercoaster for the last half and I want to get off. My husband has gone through a number of low end jobs over the years. He went back and got his master's degree, but the job market is dead. He refuses to even LOOK in the area we live in. He insists another...
    fightingflorida fightingflorida 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    My husband and I got married in March 2010

    and had our first child by October that year. We had our second child January 2013 and by the end of that month my hubby told me he was no longer happy in our marriage and wanted a divorce, I thought my whole world was ending but I hadn't seen nothing yet. At 2 months and 1 day...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    My husband is gone on vacation

    and of course I'm super angry that he didn't want to take me along considering it's his only vacation time. When he left he completely blocked me from Facebook and started adding girls he was talking to which I'm not ok with. I asked him why he blocked me and he said he has no...
    melisajackson melisajackson 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 10

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    Tough Times

    I have been married for 2 years but we've been together for 8.  Since we've been married, almost from day one things have been off.  We don't share a bed, we don't cuddle or hold hands or anything.  All intimacy is gone and the thing is that I can't seem to get a...
    brucepisar brucepisar 41-45 4 Responses May 16, 2010

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    I Dont Know How To Talk To My Husband

    My problem is I can never talk to my husband  anymore.   I cant get a sentence out with out him getting defensive and rude.  He doesn’t listen hes just focused on being right and being louder. He takes something I say and twists it to a bad thing.   Im a really respectful...
    lisa88 lisa88 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    My husband, depressed

    and sometimes suicidal for most of our marriage, finally agreed to go to counseling. He told me he feels like he has nothing to talk about with his counselor. He cries almost daily. We're sleeping in separate rooms. He was suspended from work for job performance problems...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Don't Know What Is Real Anymore

    My son and I are subject to verbal and mental abuse almost daily. Six years ago I was diagnosed with ADD. A couple of years later I was also diagnosed with a disconnection disorder caused by damage to my pre-frontal lobes in a car accident. I have issues that have caused stress...
    reallitypirate reallitypirate 36-40, F 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    When Married People Grow In Opposite Directions?

    I am 22 years old and I have been married for 3 years. My husband is really the only person I've ever dated. We started dating in high school and got married in college. We clicked so naturally because we had so much in common. Some examples of our mutual believes : We believed...
    eemorris eemorris 22-25 7 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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    We fought today. Again.

    Always. It's my fault he left his stuff out in the garage and the dog wet on it. It's my fault his job performance is poor. Sometimes I feel so hurt, I don't even want to fix "us" anymore. I can't believe I feel this way. I just want to lash out - fine, everything is my...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    I have been married for nearly a year

    and yet I feel so alone. My husband is more like someone I share a house with.
    sarahls87 sarahls87 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 12

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    My wife and I have been married

    for almost 4 years, we've know rack other for roughly twice that length of time. We have a beautiful 1yo child together who we both love. Last year, after months of suspecting her, I discovered that my wife was having an affair with a work colleague. My wife suffered a mental...
    esotericbob esotericbob 26-30, M 7 Responses Feb 23

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    I Am Irrelevant To Her

    I am married 23 years to the only person that I want to spend time with, but everything else is more important. Of course work, kids and so on take priority, but she volunteers for everything. She moved out of the bedroom years ago, and I truly feel that she despises being near...
    88nascar88 88nascar88 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    Depressed, Anxious, &Amp; Furious, But Don'T Believe In Divorce

    I have supported our family for all but except perhaps 6 months in 18 years total, including tending bar until 2am just for us to stay afloat. Through sheer determination, I put myself through school & finally have a career where I make decent money, have good benefits and some...
    Normalwouldbnice Normalwouldbnice 41-45 1 Response Apr 7, 2013

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    18 Years Wasted?

    I am in a marriage that has been going down hill for a long time.  I feel as though every breath I take, every word I speak and every move I make is judged.  In my opinion my wife and I have experienced normal ups and downs over the course of our marriage.  I feel safe in...
    urgenthelpneeded urgenthelpneeded 36-40 3 Responses Jun 11, 2012

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 6 months. He's not very good at communicating with me or anyone. Before he left on vacation without me we were having problems with him talking to other girls on snap chat and also texting them. His parent came to visit him so of course we didn't get to talk about it. He...
    melisajackson melisajackson 18-21, F Jul 5

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    Been having trouble with the hubs these days.

    Haven't been able to have sex because I am mad and I don't even feel like it. Kinda tired of fighting over stupid things, it feels like he is giving up.
    basschic basschic 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    My Wife Has OCD and Depression And I Feel Trapped

    My wife is suffering from severe OCD, depression, and anxiety, and things have just become really stressful and depressing in my life. The situation has destroyed my social life, so I have no good friends to turn and it is so hard to make new friends because they wouldn't...
    Jleon11 Jleon11 31-35, M 5 Responses May 18, 2013

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    I spoke with a friend

    who said "You are so brave to stay!" But it isn't brave of me to stay, it's cowardly. If I were brave I'd start over.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    How Do You Save A Marriage Alone

    I have been married sixteen years to my high school honey.  Second marriage me third him.  We have endured some of the hardest and most difficult times a marriage could be put through and survived.  We have gone through drug problems together and recovered. An accident seven...
    Trishlpn Trishlpn 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2011

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    Why is marriage so difficult?

    I want my marriage to work really I do. It seems as every time the two of us try to have a conversation we end up arguing. It is so frustrating feeling like you just want to scream when someone us telling you how you are or what they think you said.
    SDSMCL SDSMCL 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    Another venting day for me,

    so yesterday was valentines day and my husband booked a spa day for me with a massage for a hour. It was very nice and thoughtful, but then today he comes home and doesn't even give me a hug or say hi or anything, like he's mad at me, I keep asking him what's wrong if I did...
    honeybumblebee honeybumblebee 22-25, F Feb 15

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    I've been married two years,

    I love my husband , and he says he loves me but sometimes I wish he didn't , because it doesn't seem like he does. Yes he does a lot for our future, but he's so controlling with our money, or what we do, it's been getting better ever since I've talked to him about it but he...
    honeybumblebee honeybumblebee 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Well I did everything possible to fix a problem

    that I did not start but it got me nowhere. I just don't understand how a man can treat a woman so good but be treated so bad in return.
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    Yep. It's beyond repair

    but I don't really want to fix it. I've asked him to leave, but he refuses. I think he likes to see me unhappy.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F Apr 24

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    We started marriage counseling last week - my

    husband sobbed and said he was willing to do anything to save our marriage. But he made me a list of things I'm not allowed to talk about with the counselor. And I caught him lying to my face again, not 48 hours ago. When I told him how much his lies hurt me, he responded "I...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I'm Just Not Happy Anymore....

    I don't think I want to be married anymore. There, I said it. I also cheated on my husband, and I don't feel guilty. There, I said that, too. I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 3. The worst part is, he's a good man. Truly. I just don't think I'm in love...
    Betty9 Betty9 26-30 5 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Marriage Problems You Can Relate to

      My husband and I have two weeks holidays with only three days left until we both return to 'our life' as I like to call it. Having so much time together really scared me because we get to see a lot of the negative issues present in our marriage. For one, we have nothing...
    complicatedandconfused complicatedandconfused 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    I am married to an addict.

    We got married young and I was naive in the ways of an addict. I struggled with addiction myself until I found out I was pregnant. Now we have a 10 month old. His addiction has progressed to new levels. The intake is less but his personality has changed. He is no longer the man...
    ifonlyihadknown ifonlyihadknown 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    So idk if anyone read the novel of my troubled

    marriage before but I guess this is volume 2. I have since changed a lot from the person I was because I didn't like who I was anymore and my wife was distancing herself from me and hanging out with another guy more often then she even sees me. So I told her that I'm changing...
    williammac williammac 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 4

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    I am in search for connection.

    I have figured out that I am a detached person and that it scares me to let myself love. Been married for 8 fun years that have come to a stall. As the years go by I feel so drained and unloved. Maybe it's been my nagging but I feel that I deserve to be loved (even though...
    aquafriend aquafriend 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 5

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    I've tried being a good husband I understand

    I'm unemployed and in waiting on disability from the state and the veterans administration and right now she is paying for most of the bills but last year I was paying all the bills and the year before that. Now I'm a stay at home husband who still loves his wife but she is...
    williammac williammac 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 9

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    We Want To Make It Work But Will It?

    About six months ago my wife declared she was unhappy with our marriage (after 14 years and two fantastic boys) and things had to change. Upon hearing that I right away sat down with her to discuss it and felt that most of the issues were related to how I potentially treated...
    thehat73 thehat73 36-40 5 Responses Aug 15, 2012

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    My husband just finds fault with everything i do

    and say. Dont know what to do. We have two beautiful little girls, so i cant get out...
    elx001 elx001 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 21

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    Now What?

    I want to leave. I'm unhappy. He yells and explodes constantly. I want to talk but he walks away. He's an angry person and doesn't admit it. Those times that he does feel bad, he goes back to his ways the next day. I don't think he's capable of talking anything out. He never...
    Confuzed6 Confuzed6 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    My husband and I are having big problems.

    Idk if he is going thru a midlife crisis or what but he has gotten a bunch of tattoos and he likes going out every Saturday and getting drunk with a group of people we never hung out with before. He knows that I don't like this and he tells he that this is just the way he is now...
    AML0417 AML0417 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 30

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    I'm completely miserable.

    I've been married for 13 years, comming up to our fourteenth year in May. It's been a long marriage and over the years we have had our ups and downs but the things that stand out the most are his unbeleivable way of negating responsbility, especially with our daughter. I've had...
    joselle1972 joselle1972 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    24 Years Of Marriage And On The Brink Of Giving Up

    I have been married 24 years now and the first 15 years were ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC, but these pas t 9 are causing considerable contemplation for me about separation or divorce.  The past 3-4 years it feels like I am living with my brother.  We don’t argue but it...
    Givingup1 Givingup1 46-50, F 10 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    I was married seven months ago.

    ..... I thought this was going to be so special. Before we got married we talked so much about our interests, what we wanted to do, where we wanted to go - it seemed we had so much in common. Now all I find is that this marriage is full of hurt and pain. She flies off the handle...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    Just stuck. Over 10 years,

    1 child, she just hates me, period. We are miles apart on just about everything - ambition, goals, parenting, ethics, and on and on. Why I am I so crippled? Why can't I take the next step right out the door? I know what needs to be done, but can never make the move. I know this...
    alejandro924 alejandro924 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 30

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    So Confused

    My wife and I have been married for 12 years, together for 13. She has recently told me that she needed space. I have tried to give her that but unseccussfully. She is leaving today to a hotel for a week to get some space and see if she even wants it to work between us. I...
    sadhubby1959 sadhubby1959 51-55 2 Responses Nov 2, 2010

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    Sad About It

    I am 24 and have been married for 5 years now.  My husband and I dated for 2 years before getting married and it was literally the greatest time ever.  We were truly in complete and total love with each other, but that love has faded significantly over the years...
    wondering13 wondering13 22-25 8 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I Talk Down To My Wife, Help

    This morning my wife said "We don't have any compost". My reply was "How do you know? We have a bag in the store." It's not what I said but how I said it. It's not the first time and apparently I've been getting worse. She was upset but I hadn't realised how bad it sounded and...
    looselowerlip looselowerlip 51-55, M 6 Responses May 25, 2012

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    A Rocking Boat, But ....

    The Lord is my Rock, I have been married past 11 years, have three kids. After all the stories I have read on the forum I know my boat is also rocking if not drowning. My hubby tells me he cannot live with me any longer, he says he will take one kid and I take the other 2 and...
    Amitagra Amitagra 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2012

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    Taken For Granted And Treading Water

    I've been with my wife for 7 years now, married for 6. I have no children of my own; she has two (girl 16, boy 12). Her daughter has Asperger's syndrome, which is a high functioning form of autism. We both had been married twice before and for about the same amount of time for...
    Clevernamehere Clevernamehere 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    She Wants Out But I Still Love Her

    Been married for 12 years to my GF of 7 years. We were so much in love but unfortunately i haven't been there for her as i let her take over majority of the house and kids responsibility. This led her to depression and eventually she stopped loving me, however, she still cares...
    Henf Henf 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe

    it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most recently he was fired from a job I got him (I convinced a friend to hire him) and then he sat at home, unemployed and not looking for work, for...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 10 months. We moved into a new apartment about the time that we got married. He began hanging out with new people that lived in our apartment building. Let's just say that these were not people that I wanted anything to do with. He began doing drugs and lying about it...
    snb0107 snb0107 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    I wrote out my "goodbye" letter to my husband

    today. He will never read it, but it helped me gather my thoughts. My heart is broken.
    Snuggles30 Snuggles30 31-35, F 1 Response May 8

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    Yesterday my husband wrecked his car again.

    This is his 3rd wreck since March. When we spoke on the phone, the first thing he said was that he had NOT been distracted by a woman doing favors in his lap.... What the Fraggle?!
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    Troubled Marriage

    It's been a couple of weeks that I found out that my husband has been having all of these sexual and I love you chats online. The latest is that he has been trying to make a move on our nephews new wife. We have been married for 15 years. I have stuck with him through...
    mizzrose mizzrose 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    What Have I Done?

    My husband is so oblivious he doesn,t realize I am unhappy1 he doesn't want to recognize that since I am the breadwinner things are pretty tough on me! He will mention it yet nt make enough effort to do something about it. He is in his early 60's and yes it is hell finding a...
    aradia11 aradia11 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    I honestly do believe

    that a marriage crisis is nothing more than a spiritual battle. There is always hope in a hopeless situation. For those of you who want to hold on to hope, I would highly recommend this site called HOPEATLAST.COM. It has helped me tremendously since I have been on this journey.
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F Apr 21

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