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I Am In a Troubled Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 538 People

    Don't Know What Is Real Anymore

    My son and I are subject to verbal and mental abuse almost daily. Six years ago I was diagnosed with ADD. A couple of years later I was also diagnosed with a disconnection disorder caused by damage to my pre-frontal lobes in a car accident. I have issues that have caused stress...
    reallitypirate reallitypirate 36-40, F 2 Responses May 26, 2010

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    Yesterday my husband wrecked his car again.

    This is his 3rd wreck since March. When we spoke on the phone, the first thing he said was that he had NOT been distracted by a woman doing favors in his lap.... What the Fraggle?!
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    Yep. It's beyond repair

    but I don't really want to fix it. I've asked him to leave, but he refuses. I think he likes to see me unhappy.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F Apr 24, 2014

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    How Do You Save A Marriage Alone

    I have been married sixteen years to my high school honey.  Second marriage me third him.  We have endured some of the hardest and most difficult times a marriage could be put through and survived.  We have gone through drug problems together and recovered. An accident seven...
    Trishlpn Trishlpn 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2011

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    I am terrified that I've ruined my marriage.

    I don't listen to him about every single thing and he doesn't listen to almost any of my suggestions. His way is better, his ideas are better, me disagreeing with him on anything is tantamount to me saying "**** you and your opinion, I'm going to ignore you and do it my way...
    thatonecxnt thatonecxnt 22-25, F May 20

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    After 22 years of marriage i'm tired of living

    as a separated couple under the same roof. I want to be with someone that WANTS to be with me and will appreciate the love that I still have to share.
    danez4u danez4u 51-55, M 5 Responses Jan 1

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe

    it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most recently he was fired from a job I got him (I convinced a friend to hire him) and then he sat at home, unemployed and not looking for work, for...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    Tough Times

    I have been married for 2 years but we've been together for 8.  Since we've been married, almost from day one things have been off.  We don't share a bed, we don't cuddle or hold hands or anything.  All intimacy is gone and the thing is that I can't seem to get a...
    brucepisar brucepisar 41-45 4 Responses May 16, 2010

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    Taken For Granted And Treading Water

    I've been with my wife for 7 years now, married for 6. I have no children of my own; she has two (girl 16, boy 12). Her daughter has Asperger's syndrome, which is a high functioning form of autism. We both had been married twice before and for about the same amount of time for...
    Clevernamehere Clevernamehere 51-55, M 11 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    I honestly do believe

    that a marriage crisis is nothing more than a spiritual battle. There is always hope in a hopeless situation. For those of you who want to hold on to hope, I would highly recommend this site called HOPEATLAST.COM. It has helped me tremendously since I have been on this journey.
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F Apr 21, 2014

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    My husband and I got married in March 2010

    and had our first child by October that year. We had our second child January 2013 and by the end of that month my hubby told me he was no longer happy in our marriage and wanted a divorce, I thought my whole world was ending but I hadn't seen nothing yet. At 2 months and 1 day...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    What Have I Done?

    My husband is so oblivious he doesn,t realize I am unhappy1 he doesn't want to recognize that since I am the breadwinner things are pretty tough on me! He will mention it yet nt make enough effort to do something about it. He is in his early 60's and yes it is hell finding a...
    aradia11 aradia11 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2013

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    My Wife Has OCD and Depression And I Feel Trapped

    My wife is suffering from severe OCD, depression, and anxiety, and things have just become really stressful and depressing in my life. The situation has destroyed my social life, so I have no good friends to turn and it is so hard to make new friends because they wouldn't...
    Jleon11 Jleon11 31-35, M 5 Responses May 18, 2013

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    I will be married 19 years this year.

    It has been a rollercoaster for the last half and I want to get off. My husband has gone through a number of low end jobs over the years. He went back and got his master's degree, but the job market is dead. He refuses to even LOOK in the area we live in. He insists another...
    fightingflorida fightingflorida 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 2, 2014

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    my husband and I have been married

    for 6 years. I thought everything was good until 2 months ago out of the blue he told me he didn't love me anymore. I was completely devastated and spent an entire month crying almost constantly. then suddenly one day I felt ok. I actually felt happy and I finally felt like I...
    totallyconfused2818 totallyconfused2818 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 2

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 10 months. We moved into a new apartment about the time that we got married. He began hanging out with new people that lived in our apartment building. Let's just say that these were not people that I wanted anything to do with. He began doing drugs and lying about it...
    snb0107 snb0107 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    I'm Just Not Happy Anymore....

    I don't think I want to be married anymore. There, I said it. I also cheated on my husband, and I don't feel guilty. There, I said that, too. I've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 3. The worst part is, he's a good man. Truly. I just don't think I'm in love...
    Betty9 Betty9 26-30 5 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    I got married in September of 2013 to the man

    of my dreams, who I met in 2009. We have a 4 year old and a 6 month old. In August of 2014, he had a mental breakdown. I was pregnant. He had to be placed in a behavioral facility. He confessed to me he had cheated on me. He told me he didn't love me, and didn't want me anymore...
    Racm92113 Racm92113 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 19

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    I wrote out my "goodbye" letter to my husband

    today. He will never read it, but it helped me gather my thoughts. My heart is broken.
    Snuggles30 Snuggles30 31-35, F 1 Response May 8, 2014

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    I am in search for connection.

    I have figured out that I am a detached person and that it scares me to let myself love. Been married for 8 fun years that have come to a stall. As the years go by I feel so drained and unloved. Maybe it's been my nagging but I feel that I deserve to be loved (even though...
    aquafriend aquafriend 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 5, 2014

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    My husband is gone on vacation

    and of course I'm super angry that he didn't want to take me along considering it's his only vacation time. When he left he completely blocked me from Facebook and started adding girls he was talking to which I'm not ok with. I asked him why he blocked me and he said he has no...
    melisajackson melisajackson 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    I'm not saying that I have not made any

    mistakes in my marriage but I've been trying recently to make things better. My wife was unhappy so long story short we moved back to her hometown which is 200 miles away from my family. She encouraged me to get involved with the community make some new friends so I did. Now I'm...
    wreckdgoalie wreckdgoalie 36-40, M 3 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    Just stuck. Over 10 years,

    1 child, she just hates me, period. We are miles apart on just about everything - ambition, goals, parenting, ethics, and on and on. Why I am I so crippled? Why can't I take the next step right out the door? I know what needs to be done, but can never make the move. I know this...
    alejandro924 alejandro924 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 6 months. He's not very good at communicating with me or anyone. Before he left on vacation without me we were having problems with him talking to other girls on snap chat and also texting them. His parent came to visit him so of course we didn't get to talk about it. He...
    melisajackson melisajackson 22-25, F Jul 5, 2014

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    24 Years Of Marriage And On The Brink Of Giving Up

    I have been married 24 years now and the first 15 years were ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC, but these pas t 9 are causing considerable contemplation for me about separation or divorce.  The past 3-4 years it feels like I am living with my brother.  We don’t argue but it...
    Givingup1 Givingup1 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 15, 2010

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    Why is marriage so difficult?

    I want my marriage to work really I do. It seems as every time the two of us try to have a conversation we end up arguing. It is so frustrating feeling like you just want to scream when someone us telling you how you are or what they think you said.
    SDSMCL SDSMCL 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    Marriage Problems You Can Relate to

      My husband and I have two weeks holidays with only three days left until we both return to 'our life' as I like to call it. Having so much time together really scared me because we get to see a lot of the negative issues present in our marriage. For one, we have nothing...
    complicatedandconfused complicatedandconfused 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Hey so I'm married, but feel

    so lonely. My husband is always threatening to leave when we have disagreements. It's very annoying. He used to be my best friend. Now he is so jealous and doesn't trust me. I want to laugh and have fun once again. I need to fill this void. I miss the affection and romance we...
    Tcallen Tcallen 31-35 4 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    how often does your partner hold your hand?

    cuddle you spontaneously or kiss you without you kissing them?
    newstart1315 newstart1315 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    Sad About It

    I am 24 and have been married for 5 years now.  My husband and I dated for 2 years before getting married and it was literally the greatest time ever.  We were truly in complete and total love with each other, but that love has faded significantly over the years...
    wondering13 wondering13 22-25 8 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I'm emotionally exhausted

    and beat down. My husband is a good guy just a ball of problems - emotionally, health, financial, lazy, and defensive. I knew when we got married that he wasn't perfect and I tried to be rational so that I could choose my battles. I've gotten to the point where I just don't...
    ExhaustedChristine ExhaustedChristine 70+, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    I Am Irrelevant To Her

    I am married 23 years to the only person that I want to spend time with, but everything else is more important. Of course work, kids and so on take priority, but she volunteers for everything. She moved out of the bedroom years ago, and I truly feel that she despises being near...
    88nascar88 88nascar88 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 17, 2012

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    I'm so heartbroken, scared

    and confused. I feel like I'm too old to start all over. I'm 25 (I know it's not old but I just feel like after 3 terrible relationships I'm old) and I want more children desperately and I want to be a good wife but it feels like my time is ticking and no man will ever embrace...
    newstart1315 newstart1315 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    My husband and I are having big problems.

    Idk if he is going thru a midlife crisis or what but he has gotten a bunch of tattoos and he likes going out every Saturday and getting drunk with a group of people we never hung out with before. He knows that I don't like this and he tells he that this is just the way he is now...
    AML0417 AML0417 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I am not in a troubled marriage.

    I am now in my second marriage. My first marriage lasted 21 years. My wife was confined to a wheelchair due to disability. We had three children from the marriage. That marriage ended due to broken promises and unfaithfulness. Today I am in a stable, happy, God centred marriage...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M Jan 2

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    So idk if anyone read the novel of my troubled

    marriage before but I guess this is volume 2. I have since changed a lot from the person I was because I didn't like who I was anymore and my wife was distancing herself from me and hanging out with another guy more often then she even sees me. So I told her that I'm changing...
    williammac williammac 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    My husband just finds fault with everything i do

    and say. Dont know what to do. We have two beautiful little girls, so i cant get out...
    elx001 elx001 36-40, F 6 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    I spoke with a friend

    who said "You are so brave to stay!" But it isn't brave of me to stay, it's cowardly. If I were brave I'd start over.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 20, 2014

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    I Talk Down To My Wife, Help

    This morning my wife said "We don't have any compost". My reply was "How do you know? We have a bag in the store." It's not what I said but how I said it. It's not the first time and apparently I've been getting worse. She was upset but I hadn't realised how bad it sounded and...
    looselowerlip looselowerlip 51-55, M 6 Responses May 25, 2012

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    I have been married for nearly a year

    and yet I feel so alone. My husband is more like someone I share a house with.
    sarahls87 sarahls87 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    I can't seem to communicate with him,

    we either end up fighting or misunderstanding each other. Right now I' m sitting down stairs and he is up stairs😞 We are a blending family. This year seems to be impossible I lost my job so me and my children are totally depended on him till I finds another position. He...
    suzys suzys 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    When Married People Grow In Opposite Directions?

    I am 22 years old and I have been married for 3 years. My husband is really the only person I've ever dated. We started dating in high school and got married in college. We clicked so naturally because we had so much in common. Some examples of our mutual believes : We believed...
    eemorris eemorris 22-25 7 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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    Troubled Marriage

    It's been a couple of weeks that I found out that my husband has been having all of these sexual and I love you chats online. The latest is that he has been trying to make a move on our nephews new wife. We have been married for 15 years. I have stuck with him through...
    mizzrose mizzrose 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 11, 2010

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    We fought today. Again.

    Always. It's my fault he left his stuff out in the garage and the dog wet on it. It's my fault his job performance is poor. Sometimes I feel so hurt, I don't even want to fix "us" anymore. I can't believe I feel this way. I just want to lash out - fine, everything is my...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2014

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    I've been married two years,

    I love my husband , and he says he loves me but sometimes I wish he didn't , because it doesn't seem like he does. Yes he does a lot for our future, but he's so controlling with our money, or what we do, it's been getting better ever since I've talked to him about it but he...
    honeybumblebee honeybumblebee 22-25, F Feb 3, 2014

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    I have told my wife plenty of times

    that I am just not interested in sex. Unfortunately she is a very sexual person. This obviously makes things complicated. I wish she understood that you don't need sex to love someone.
    justnegan justnegan 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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