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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 77 People

    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 4 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    It's really remarkable to find so many people who I can relate too. My mother has been emotionally, physically, and verbally abusing me since I was a small child. I don't have any...
    WeOnlyHaveNow WeOnlyHaveNow 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't know why I feel like my mother never wanted me. I come from a family of 3 brothers and 1 sister. Two of my brothers and sister are from a past marriage and my mom treats...
    xolovej xolovej 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    you're the reason why I have anxiety and that I'm afraid of being myself in front of people..thanks for killing me with your words Padre
    savvy1998 savvy1998 16-17, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My father died at the age of 79. I was 58 years old when he passed away. In all of that time, my father only said something nice to me one time. Luckily it was not long before...
    leedee55 leedee55 51-55, F 4 days ago

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    well that's one way of putting it... funny thing about emotional/verbal abuse... you don't really know if it's valid. well maybe you do but I don't I still think I'm j just an...
    blackscribbles blackscribbles 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Today is Thanksgiving...but my husband has locked himself in the room because I got upset that he wouldn't let my kids listen to their father's message on the phone. I asked him to...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 27

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    Wow... the title couldn't fit me better... I've been married for 14 yrs to a man that use to be a good man... that is before he retired from the army and before he started getting...
    neydi1972 neydi1972 41-45, F 9 Responses Dec 3

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    Pick Your Poison-I was born 3rd to a 20 year old mother serving in Army stationed in Germany and a university student from Tunisia father. My brother 15 months older had the same...
    Serkha Serkha 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 5

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    Ive been married for 1 year and i hate my marriage. All my husband do is take me for granted, harass everyone in the house, disrespect us and verbally abuse us. Im tired of my...
    shakii00 shakii00 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    I want to work on my marriage but I had a miscarriage and my husband felt work mattered more.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I have become quite the master at putting on a masquerade for the whole world to see. Especially those around me. I have been in a verbal and physical abusive relationship for the...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 37 Responses a week ago

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    ~20 Years Later~ . So, that guy I dated when I was 16-17 yrs old and again when I was about 20-23 yrs old (cause I thought he might had changed during that time but didn’t...
    OlivePhire OlivePhire 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 20

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    I've noticed his abusivness since I was 10 (which was almost eleven years ago). It's complicated though, it's on and off and I guess thats why my mother won't leave him. It's a...
    sunisburning sunisburning 18-21, F Dec 2

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    im not sharing my story for pity. im sharing it because I want people to kno if I can hanle it anyone can. I was in an abusive relationship when I was 14. I got two concussions and...
    lilmisssme lilmisssme 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 4

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    When I first met him he was fantastic, we began dating very quickly everything was good. When I moved in things changed dramatically. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere not even to...
    missjulia123 missjulia123 22-25, F Dec 8

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    Last year I met this guy, who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    Daily it seems I see the same post...someone stating they live in a sexless marriage. Sometimes I respond and offer advice though it feels like I'm just adding my voice to the many...
    RLB2 RLB2 41-45, M 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's been a year since I last posted. I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for just over 16 years. In that time I've been through the counseling sessions, countless fights, nights on the couch, online trysts, real life near...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 1

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    Well I'm not sure where this will end up. But I'm here as a former refuser. One to make some amends and two to tell the truth to all the women who are currently living with a...
    Transgressed Transgressed 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 10

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    It's been a long time since I wrote: If you have read my previous articles then you already have the background or a lot of it. If not my situation is as follows: I have been...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Don't ever think you're completely secure in a relationship. I say this because you can't know another persons mind or heart. Like me, you can't believe you're living a fairy tale...
    zanyzoey zanyzoey 36-40, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I think its pointless to wait until marriage. The people who judge others for having sex before marriage are backward and archaic. I hope people out there aren't made to feel bad...
    tinmahn tinmahn 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 20

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    I feel scared to tears that I see life flashing by whilst living in a sexles marriage. I support everything willingly & happly for wife and family but every day for several years...
    wngiag wngiag 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 21

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    My best friend mom was at my place yesterday, she came to check for my friend but my friend was not with me at home and I was alone and lonely. She decide to wait for my friend...
    World4me World4me 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 21

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    I didn't wait until marriage, I was very young about 15 yrs old when I lost my virginity. Although waiting until marriage is insane to me!! I'm proud of those who can actually wait...
    AlissiaMarie AlissiaMarie 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 26

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    I am so tired of living in a sexless marriage. It's a nightmare. I need to leave, get a divorce, and be on my own but I have no clue how to leave, and be on my own. I keep thinking...
    loveangelmusicbaby0 loveangelmusicbaby0 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 27

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    I don't believe in divorce. So, my first marriage is most likely going to be my only marriage. But I am not going to get married until I am 46 or 49. Lmao
    SunshineH316 SunshineH316 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 28

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