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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 92 People

    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    I am in a verbally abusive marriage.

    I want out but I am over 60 and have been unemployed now for eight months. I want to leave now but have no way to take the little bit of furniture I have paid for myself. Am I crazy to stay until I can get my furniture out? He has chased away any friends I have made over the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 8, 2015

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    For years I have been writing about my horrible

    and scary marriage. I have finally left him a few months ago.The big event that finally made me leave is? The last argument we had that made me leave wasn't anything bigger than the ones we had before.My husband "Alex" is overly concerned with keeping our toddlers "good toys...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2015

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Just wanted to say goodbye to everyone here. I will remain in the group just to check back on stories and the many people I have chatted with. I am no longer in a sexless marriage...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    You can learn a lot about a man by his perception of marriage. Somen think of marriage is a government conspiracy, another man can think marriage is only good for having sex with a...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed 31-35, M 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I've never been very fond of marriage. No, my parents never got married. No, I didn't really want them to get married nor did I not want them to. I think I just realized after...
    lunarrose123 lunarrose123 16-17, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    We had 'the chat' last night. It was difficult to express how I felt. I didn't want to hurt him. Divorce was not discussed but laid everything out on the table. Seems that he...
    CupidBowLips CupidBowLips 36-40, F 20 Responses 1 day ago

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    What I have to come realize in my sexless marriage is it is not the sexual acts per se that I miss most, but it is the intimacy and connection that comes before/during/after sex...
    rustyblueday rustyblueday 46-50, F 14 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm feeling...numb, to be honest. I broke up with him, failed at going No Contact, spent two HORRIBLE months considering going back together and suffering from worse abuse than...
    womaninchains womaninchains 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    One man, one woman. No sex until marriage. Traditional Christian vows including "to love, honor and Obey" for brides. Husband as undisputed head of the family and sole provider...
    MrsAshleyR MrsAshleyR 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am Afraid of him now I don't feel like me or my family is safe around him . He threatened to beat me and my family up if I laid hands on him again .. It was my birthday all I...
    ForYouIWillWait ForYouIWillWait 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    It hurts mostly everyday I still get emotional I can still picture everything that happened I can still feel her hands banging against my head. How the first month's it was just...
    Introvertedchild18 Introvertedchild18 18-21 2 Responses Feb 1

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    Especially ,if you have an abusive spouse.I was watching a program on domestic violence last night.The wife had left but still her husband pursued her and hit her car with his and...
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    I have been married 18 years. 2 Kids. Can count on both hands how many times we have had sex in the past decade. We've been to therapy twice. We have had hard conversations. I have...
    rustyblueday rustyblueday 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 31

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    Understanding why and how we let these people in our lives is the only way to break the chain of abuse. These behaviors are modeled for us by our parents and we follow suit, but...
    lexingtonjane lexingtonjane 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    The father of my child is abusive And he makes everyone around us believe he's a good guy . We're not together I finally put him out but I'm scared I might take him back somebody...
    Kaseysmommy Kaseysmommy 18-21, F Jan 30

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    There's no such thing as an abusive parent "meaning" well. You're either hurting the person or you're not. Nothing more, nothing less.
    Calamityy Calamityy 22-25, M Jan 29

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    The guy I was with recently dumped me and I realized that all the significant, romantic relationships I have been in have been abusive in some form. They've either flat out abused...
    terrywill15 terrywill15 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    I've been in love for over a year with someone who is abusive. He's recently been diagnosed bipolar, which explains a lot. He has assault charges from a fight we got in a few...
    ltw1016 ltw1016 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    I grew up with a father who could not fathom how men cheated on their wives. I heard him say multiple times, "It's not that hard to be faithful." He set up boundaries for himself...
    MidnightLaughter MidnightLaughter 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 29

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    What life is it to come home to a very abusive father? What is the point of coming home when I don't want to live after he is through with his rage? When you cry yourself to sleep...
    Harper101 Harper101 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    I just want to share. I joined this place after two years of struggles in my marriage. I have gone by various names in here : Thedarkenedshadow Dsop Some people have followed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jan 27

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    I've never really talked about it except to people I'm closest to, so here goes nothin. When we started dating he treated me like I was precious and gave me attention i had never...
    SnowWhite87 SnowWhite87 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    I have been through two abusive relationships, I am out now and safe. I want to tell everyone out there that no abuse is exceptable no matter if it's emotional physical or sexaul...
    chockywhockydoda chockywhockydoda 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 27

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