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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 3 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 2 Responses May 16, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F Dec 10, 2013

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 Aug 26, 2012

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 Dec 24, 2012

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    Being told by my mother that I was selfish & worse since I was a pre-teen damaged me... Made me believe my own happiness wasn't worth a damn (even though I could never make her...
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    I really cant take this anymore
    Hailey2524 Hailey2524 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 25

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    Hi all. I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately, and I know that my dysfunctional family and longing to be loved (and the bs from my life long refusers) has led me to...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    Redefining a 'Broken Home' I've read quite a number of posts on how separation and divorce would break apart the family, would mean that the children would come from a broken home...
    LaoTzu LaoTzu 41-45, M 15 Responses Aug 17

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    Reflections in a Mountain Stream They sit on a rock. It's a comfortable rock. Kissed by the August sun until it's just warm to the touch. And it's big enough for two, if they...
    RealtaReoite RealtaReoite 51-55, M 6 Responses Aug 23

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    This year has been one hell of a year already. After 7 years of being married, I decided that I just couldn't handle anymore of it. For the last 5 years, I have overanalyzed every...
    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I am living in a separated situation with my abuser/ refuser / Narcissistic husband ( on paper only ) sleep in seperate rooms Do nothing together. In fact he ignores me, neglects...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Well I finally got away from my abusive bf. I can't believe I finally found the courage to bail. He was becoming more and more verbally and emotionally abusive to me. It progressed...
    desiree2877 desiree2877 41-45, F 15 hrs ago

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    My husband is verbally and emotionally abusive. When he is angry, which is often, he tells me he hates me, he's disgusted by me, he's not attracted to me, he's ashamed of me, he's...
    Gals5 Gals5 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    I was married for 10 years, my ex was verbally and physically abusive. He stopped working for the last two years,and I was the main support of the house. He would always accused me...
    liza0324 liza0324 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceableMe EmbraceableMe 41-45 9 Responses Sep 2

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    Well I tried talking again to my wife after feeling really low, and she wasn't very responsive, at least not how I hoped. I'm not one to talk about my problems to others, but I...
    aardvark64 aardvark64 46-50, M 7 Responses Sep 5

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    Where do I start, how do I not blame myself, how did I let things get like this. We've been together for 8 years (not legally married) and have a six and seven year old. Things...
    1forever 1forever 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    This is the hardest thing that I have ever had to admit... I haven't told anyone. Even as I write this I contemplate hitting the backspace and erasing it. I'm terrified that my...
    ParaKlio ParaKlio 41-45, F Aug 17

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    So, I just realized a week ago, that my marriage of 24 years is abusive. I feel so stupid for not owning up to this before. My spouse has gotten physical on at least ten...
    dpwm9dpw dpwm9dpw 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    Well this is not something I shout off the mtn tops by any means but I guess I am here now and I have a lot of people in my circle and that I ma talking to more and more now so...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Started out well but my wife must have everything her way always. If I make a "mistake" (defined as not doing exactly as I am told) she will verbally & often physically assault me...
    LondonKiwi LondonKiwi 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 21

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    I was in an abusive relationship. Was as in I have escaped and am now in a safe environment. It has been four years now, since I have learned what safe feels like. Just how lovely...
    SkySeasoning SkySeasoning 26-30, F Aug 23

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    I went to my first therapy session today.. I was so nervous that I almost threw up before walking in... Then I realized I was nervous because I was going to tell someone what has...
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    It was New Year's Day seven years ago when I got the message. My niece called me to tell me my Dad was on the way to the hospital. It seems she had found him in the garage in a...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 19 Responses Sep 7

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    My stbx walked to me, put his hand on my body and grabbed my p***y! I mean, WHAT? After we agreed to get divorced you have no right on this body anymore. Sometimes he spanked or...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 9 Responses Sep 7

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    My unintended story... I did not intend to write this story when I started writing this morning. I guess this must’ve been wanting to come out. My parents divorced a year...
    Iamhere4me Iamhere4me 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Hi everyone my name is Elizabeth most people just call me Liz and I just got out of a long abusive relationship with my husband Rick we were highschool sweet hearts and we were...
    ElizabethBridges ElizabethBridges 31-35, F 48 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have thought about posting my story but often chicken out maybe out if fear and selfishness, but if anything I say could help another woman that is what I need and want to do...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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