I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 90 People

    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62
    46-50, F
    7 Responses May 18, 2009

    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 21, 2010

    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio
    26-30
    May 26, 2010

    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 30, 2013

    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr
    46-50
    1 Response Apr 20, 2013

    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 26, 2012

    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 16, 2012

    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969
    41-45, F
    Sep 30, 2012

    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62
    46-50, F
    6 Responses May 18, 2009

    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai
    18-21
    1 Response Dec 24, 2012

    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369
    31-35
    2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

    I am in a verbally abusive marriage.

    I want out but I am over 60 and have been unemployed now for eight months. I want to leave now but have no way to take the little bit of furniture I have paid for myself. Am I crazy to stay until I can get my furniture out? He has chased away any friends I have made over the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 8, 2015

    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy
    26-30
    4 Responses May 30, 2009

    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001
    31-35
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2011

    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 22, 2012

    For years I have been writing about my horrible

    and scary marriage. I have finally left him a few months ago.The big event that finally made me leave is? The last argument we had that made me leave wasn't anything bigger than the ones we had before.My husband "Alex" is overly concerned with keeping our toddlers "good toys...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 18, 2015

    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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