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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 74 People

    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 Aug 26, 2012

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F Dec 10, 2013

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 2 Responses May 16, 2012

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 3 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 Dec 24, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    He's rarely, if ever, verbally abusive to me. To my mom, sometimes, my 9 yr old sister rarely, but my brother is 3 yrs younger than me at 14 and he gets the brunt of it. Granted he...
    maddiemoonlight maddiemoonlight 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    Being told by my mother that I was selfish & worse since I was a pre-teen damaged me... Made me believe my own happiness wasn't worth a damn (even though I could never make her...
    Elayla Elayla 31-35, F Sep 8

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    I am now 23 years old. I thought it was a good idea to seek out my biological mother the moment I had turned 18. I eventually found her, started talking to her. At first she seemed...
    TRVPiiN TRVPiiN 22-25, M Sep 8

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    My mother trashes my integrity every time she can. This last time is the point of no return for me... I have been a good daughter my entire life. I have been successful and...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 17

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    My dad married my stepmom when I was 6. She had two daughter, both older than me. My dad is a trucker, so he was never around. My stepmom always seemed to go out of her way to...
    cme4u cme4u 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 22

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    An interesting true tale that illustrates what our children learn and how they may model their marriages on ours if we raise them in a dysfunctional marriage. While this describes...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    What would be your 2nd complaint in your marriage after the the lack of sex/intimacy? As some are abusive marriages, some lonely, some seem decent except for no sex, some fed up...
    celtusa celtusa 46-50, M 30 Responses 4 days ago

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    This year has been one hell of a year already. After 7 years of being married, I decided that I just couldn't handle anymore of it. For the last 5 years, I have overanalyzed every...
    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F Sep 11

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    I am living in a separated situation with my abuser/ refuser / Narcissistic husband ( on paper only ) sleep in seperate rooms Do nothing together. In fact he ignores me, neglects...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 12

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    Well I finally got away from my abusive bf. I can't believe I finally found the courage to bail. He was becoming more and more verbally and emotionally abusive to me. It progressed...
    desiree2877 desiree2877 41-45, F Sep 16

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    Do marriages out of convenience actually work? I'm just curious. I can't imagine being married to someone just to make life easy or because it'll be convenient for most "people...
    lonelydinosaur lonelydinosaur 26-30, F 15 hrs ago

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    Well I tried talking again to my wife after feeling really low, and she wasn't very responsive, at least not how I hoped. I'm not one to talk about my problems to others, but I...
    aardvark64 aardvark64 46-50, M 7 Responses Sep 5

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    Hi all, sexless marriage alumni here checking in with this amazing group of souls with an update. For 11 years I stayed in my sexless, loveless, affectionless, conversationless...
    Stalked9 Stalked9 41-45, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 11 Responses Sep 10

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    So, I just realized a week ago, that my marriage of 24 years is abusive. I feel so stupid for not owning up to this before. My spouse has gotten physical on at least ten...
    dpwm9dpw dpwm9dpw 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    Well this is not something I shout off the mtn tops by any means but I guess I am here now and I have a lot of people in my circle and that I ma talking to more and more now so...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    It will be 4 years in a few weeks that we have been married. 6 months after we married everything fell apart. He became distant, cruel, and emotionally abusive. I stood up to him...
    ditsheyo ditsheyo 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 18

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    Come hell or high water I'm done. I'm tired of the excuses, the lies, being blamed, and the gaslighting . I am ready to face I am in an abusive withholding relationship and have...
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 22

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    If it wasn't sex it would be something else. At least in my situation. It's not just sex, it's also emotional avoidance, lack of support and disrespect. I think refusing sex is...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    For those of you that know me, my wife and son, thought I would post an update. Review, Wife along with son go behind my back and sign contract to Race in Ca with team I said...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hello , I'm 27yo. And looking for lesbian/asexual North Indian girl (Hindu) with age 22-28. It's for MOC only . I'm well educated and living in California for now. Parents in...
    amda5 amda5 26-30, M 16 hrs ago

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    Push, Push, Push … That is the main instruction for childbirth according to the Starfleet manual (see TNG episode “Disaster”, when Worf helps Keiko give birth). It is also...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    When I was a kid my moms priority was cleaning house, not making sure I was around other kids. Starting school was a bit rough because I'd rarely been around others, let alone...
    compassionateear compassionateear 46-50 1 day ago

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    It was New Year's Day seven years ago when I got the message. My niece called me to tell me my Dad was on the way to the hospital. It seems she had found him in the garage in a...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 19 Responses Sep 7

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    My stbx walked to me, put his hand on my body and grabbed my p***y! I mean, WHAT? After we agreed to get divorced you have no right on this body anymore. Sometimes he spanked or...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 9 Responses Sep 7

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    My unintended story... I did not intend to write this story when I started writing this morning. I guess this must’ve been wanting to come out. My parents divorced a year...
    Iamhere4me Iamhere4me 36-40, M 4 Responses Sep 9

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    Hi everyone my name is Elizabeth most people just call me Liz and I just got out of a long abusive relationship with my husband Rick we were highschool sweet hearts and we were...
    ElizabethBridges ElizabethBridges 31-35, F 48 Responses Sep 10

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    Well well well.... Its almost a year gone by since writing my last post! I did it! I mustered up the strength to separate from him. It was the hardest hardest thing i had to do in...
    angelique0706 angelique0706 41-45, F a week ago

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