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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 87 People

    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I feel..that if you really love someone? you don't need to get married to prove that. I find that kinda stupid? lol I will never get married. marriage doesint last? nor does...
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    I need to get this out. I am home visiting family right now. I have finally come to terms that I do not have an emotional connection with my birth mother. I thought that was the...
    RoyalTeee RoyalTeee 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. I got out, but he keeps contacting me and saying all these things that sound good, but I know he doesn't mean it... It is sad when you...
    ImConvinced ImConvinced 31-35, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm so depressed right now I can't even function. Truthfully, my husband hasn't had sex with me in 3 years. I've fallen in love with a man who is married, and we are amazing...
    escapingcaptivityofspirit escapingcaptivityofspirit 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    A revelation? My husband and I started marriage counseling this past Monday. It was hard. Having to sit there and explain to a stranger why you are there...with your husband...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses a week ago

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    My mom always wanted a girl, and a girl I am...but as i grew up all i remember is that she would always yell. Every time you didn't do something her way you were automatically a...
    dance4609 dance4609 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My husband text me that he would rather be a monk than to have sex with me, and that if that is my need, I should go elsewhere to satisfy it. My heart sank. Finally....I have more...
    GreyStreet98 GreyStreet98 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 22

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    i feel like my mom is emotionally abusive. she gets mad at litterally the smalest things, and then she will cuss me out, yell at me, and make me feel like nothing. sometimes she...
    bunnycheer36 bunnycheer36 16-17, F Jul 22

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    you know i really do not know how to look at this Gay Marriage and Transgender stuff, I was talking to my room mate about this myself & my room mate are not gay but i told him my...
    Jerseygal72 Jerseygal72 41-45, F Jul 21

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    Not necessarily abusive, I guess? My dad just "over" did the whole discipline thing. I used to be terrified of my dad, because I knew anytime he yelled at me, he'd hit me. I...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 5 Responses Jul 21

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    Soo umm I was in an abusive relationship...I couldn't get out for the longest time..I was scared to tell anybody..I finally told my best friend last week and she called the cops...
    DitzyBlonde DitzyBlonde 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I was in a relationship for 5.5 years.... Engaged and all. He broke up with me. For nothing . In the end thanks to work my best friend I got out of a abusive relationship. Don't...
    cnabri92 cnabri92 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 21

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    I'm married and I've only been married for almost a year. But way before our relationship prior to marriage (5 years ago) I met this guy and there was no doubt in my mind that I...
    slofox slofox 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    My 1st marriage was a 10 yr nightmare. Both physical and sexual abuse. It has affected my personality and relationships I've gotten involved in since. I'm too controlling because...
    LonesumnTx LonesumnTx 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    While growing up I was verbally abused and physically abused. maybe thats why all my exs were drawn to me. they all were abusive also. One reason I fear people these days.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Hi everyone. I wanted to share my situation and hopefully some of you may be able to help. My wife and I have been married for 16 years, together for 20. We have 3 wonderful...
    Flaguy10 Flaguy10 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Well I'm still with my boyfriend although he has had an arranged marriage last March. It kills me. He just went out there for Ramadan to finally pick her up and take her in the US...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 31-35, F Jul 17

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    Procrastination is my middle name. That's why I'm here after 20 years. But this year, my goal is to leave this group and join the one (does it exist?) that says "I left my sexless...
    silverdarling silverdarling 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 17

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    This is so exciting that gay marriage is now legal. I think it's great couples are given the right to marry whoever they wish. And not a damn thing anybody can do about it. Yes I...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I need help. When I was 13 I was with a 25 year old who was physically, mentally and sexually abusive. I anonymously contacted the police and he was sent to prison for drug dealing...
    ally96 ally96 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 16

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    When I met my husband, I was 28, and had reached a point in my life when I was sure I wasn't going to meet the right guy. I'd been in an out of relationships with total jerks or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 15

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    I am new and want to identify why I'm here... I am on my 2nd marriage, going on 13 years now, have issues and I need help. I thought to myself "find a support group" and thought...
    Cwllm Cwllm 46-50, M Jul 15

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