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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    My Hope - Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating - The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match - I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying - I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 3 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    He Has No Respect For Me - My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse - This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years. - I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    I Think I'm Being Abused... - It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him - I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    He Has No Respect For Me - My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy. -  I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out - HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 Aug 26, 2012

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    I have written several stories of my experience with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F Dec 10, 2013

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out - i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change - I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life - Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life - I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 Dec 24, 2012

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him - My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F Nov 30, 2013

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That - This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 2 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Where to begin. All I can say is although I have moved out of my fathers toxic home, I am still very nervous as I write this. I can literally feel the anxiety building up. Ok...
    rrrrandom rrrrandom 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    A man is no man If He holds abuse in his hands Words full of hate Im sure most of you can relate Some call it discipline Some call him crazy But whatever you call him He...
    lifeinmyeyes13 lifeinmyeyes13 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    how can a father say your a peice of **** then hug your cousins like nothing happend how can a father say he loves you when he puts every one else above you how can a father...
    fkfh fkfh 22-25, F 10 hrs ago

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    It it interesting to see the reactions of others to my situation. My family, friends, strangers, everyone has an opinion and a strong one at that. I married my hubby for the wrong...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    My brother has been abusive for years. Physically and verbally abusive. If something doesn't go his way, he beats my younger brother, my mom and myself. Today he lost it because...
    tobegladoflife tobegladoflife 26-30, F Mar 31

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    I finally lined up both a marriage counselor (to help us sort out whether or not our marriage is toast) and an individual therapist (to help me get my **** together) and now the...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 16 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Anyone know of any sexless marriage conventions?
    SheldonJPlankton SheldonJPlankton 41-45, M 2 Responses 29 mins ago

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    A little more difficulty today. I talked with my brother some more, he's so helpful. He understands. He's had an experience like this, where you wake up to what's going on. It's so...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 12 Responses Apr 6

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    I'm a lesbian. I was dating a woman 7 years older then me. I'm 22. We were together for a year and a half. She controlled me. She manipulated me, verbally abused me, and a few...
    ownthepower02 ownthepower02 22-25, F Mar 17

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    I love my boyfriend more than anyone I've ever known. He never fails to amaze me. Most of the time. But when he gets aggressive and angry there's no one I'm more afraid of or...
    Nessybabi Nessybabi 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 23

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    I grew up in the 1960s and 1970s and was constantly hit with a belt, given punishment enemas, and verbally and emotionally abused. I always felt unwanted and feel that my parents...
    severalanimals severalanimals 56-60, M 19 hrs ago

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    I was raised in a"christian" abusive home, I won't get into major details, but it was really bad, I married young had two children of my own, never once even considered abusing I...
    4myfuturehappiness 4myfuturehappiness 46-50, F Apr 2

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    Thoughts on counter-refusing, or "why would I do to my SO what has hurt me so much?" This was posted elsewhere, but I thought I would post it here. The practice of a HL...
    stayinghereforreal stayinghereforreal 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 3

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    Solidarity The back story: Sometime ago at a function for my husband's extended family, I was verbally shredded by my husband's brother. Not in private, but loudly, aggressively...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 13 Responses 6 days ago

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    Divorce in snohomish county in washington stateAny recommendations? Domestic violence and a no contact protection order are involved. Me (wife) is working at $13/hr and has less...
    cestlavie14 cestlavie14 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Around five weeks ago I did it. I fired off my exit plan, worked through the anxiety and fear and depression, told her how unhappy I had been, and I left. That was one of the most...
    RecoveringCaffeineAddict RecoveringCaffeineAddict 31-35, M 12 Responses 6 days ago

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    So, I went out and played cards tonight with a bunch of retired teacher friends. SO MUCH FUN! Also, in the break time I wrote a small bill of rights. I had a friend ask me what he...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've recently read that a lot of people have difficulty understanding why people in an abusive family/relationship just don't leave the abuser. I understand why they think so...
    imprintedme imprintedme 22-25, F Mar 24

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    The say sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt...I think Id rather get beaten with sticks and stones because words can pierce more than a two edged sword...
    auraboreale auraboreale 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    I was in a emotional abusive relationship and I'm out of it now . My ex and I started dating freshman year of high school but we've known each other since 7th grade . He never used...
    Loving1234 Loving1234 16-17, F Mar 31

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    I picked "was" instead of "am" in an abusive relationship because I believe my fiancé and I have worked our way through our problems. Is it wrong to believe that couples who are...
    brusselsprouts brusselsprouts 22-25, F Mar 31

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    I don't understand why it's so hard for women to leave an abusive relationship. Sometimes I wish I could pull them away. I was in an abusive relationship for a short time. Verbal...
    Deseraye1 Deseraye1 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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    (Another old story of mine from my previous profile. I feel it's an important topic and it's something that's close to my heart) Gay Marriage I am fully in support of gay...
    PoeticTorture PoeticTorture 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I went through a year and a half long abusive relationship. It wasn't physical which I understand is way worst than whatever I went through, but it also doesn't make it any easier...
    kxCobra kxCobra 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 18

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    I just recently got out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. He punched me in my jaw and on my side/back multiple times the other night. My right cheek is swollen...
    cak22 cak22 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I have an abusive brother. He has beaten me and attacked me physically and mentally for the entire 16 years of my life. My confidence has become extremely low as a result, to the...
    radpink radpink 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 21

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    There isn't a topic for those already in a Emotionally Abusive relationship. So I decided to post what happened to me today: Before I begin, me and my partner have been together...
    SoAntagonistic SoAntagonistic 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    My dad is a controlling narcissist. He's only ever hit me once, and that was when he found out I went to a school counsellor to tell them about him abusing my mom when i was in...
    Dimples411 Dimples411 18-21, F Mar 22

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    Abusive person on EP named Trevon88. Do not engage contact with this user.
    Ravengoddess Ravengoddess 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 25

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    My mother was an abusive mother. And she still is. Im today 33 and i realized some years ago that i went thruh emotional abuse. It started as i was 7 and i remember she was...
    angel8i angel8i 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 3