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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    For years I have been writing about my horrible

    and scary marriage. I have finally left him a few months ago.The big event that finally made me leave is? The last argument we had that made me leave wasn't anything bigger than the ones we had before.My husband "Alex" is overly concerned with keeping our toddlers "good toys...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F Aug 18

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    I am in a verbally abusive marriage.

    I want out but I am over 60 and have been unemployed now for eight months. I want to leave now but have no way to take the little bit of furniture I have paid for myself. Am I crazy to stay until I can get my furniture out? He has chased away any friends I have made over the...
    mjb2015 mjb2015 56-60, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    I think all husband's and wives in this situation should plan to meet, without our spouses, for a weekend experience together a couple times a year. The Sexless Marriage Club...
    volvoman60 volvoman60 56-60, M 4 hrs ago

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    I've known it all my life, but only now am I finally giving it a definition. My whole life, my father has made me feel guilty. For example, if we go a while without speaking, he...
    iSpyce iSpyce 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    My grandparents took custody of me when I was very young. Then at 12, I wanted to live with my mom (mom and dad have not been together since I was a year old), she was very...
    ladycentaur ladycentaur 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    I live in a mostly sexless marriage and it freaking sucks! We've been thru it all. Drs, therapy, talks,ultimatums , misunderstanding, understanding, pretending, lying / being...
    Micromint Micromint 31-35, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I married a man that we tried to control it suceded for 20 years after our marriage and he became an anti control freak. He took a job that a friend of his fathers son wanted. My...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    "I hit you because of what you said to me"- those were the words of my soon to be husband. He hit me exactly a week before our church wedding... In my home country, every Lent on...
    Marife7128 Marife7128 51-55, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Because of my abusive relationships, I've learned not to trust people, especially men. My first boyfriend was into bondage, which if I had been more experienced with relationships...
    al13ngr33n al13ngr33n 31-35, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Sometimes I don't know which is worse. I shouldn't be whining, it's really over now, for the last and final time; but writing about how it feels makes it somehow feel better...
    comeonletsgo comeonletsgo 61-65, M 6 days ago

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    My mum and dad want me to be in an arranged marriage when I'm older. I feel like I can't live with someone I've just been introduced to for the rest of my life. The thing is is...
    Wantsomethingtostoptheboredom Wantsomethingtostoptheboredom 13-15, F 6 days ago

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    I don't always feel alone in my marriage, but at the moment and numerous other times I do feel alone. I suffer from PTSD, and my wife and I both have anxiety and depression issues...
    Frankenzombie Frankenzombie 36-40, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Hi Folks Well, in 2009 while working to try and get through a work-related (and marriage-related, although unbeknownst to me at the time) burnout, I wrote my fist post on...
    Mrcellophane Mrcellophane 36-40, M 1 Response a week ago

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    My husband spent about an hour this morning calling me every name he could think of. I destroyed his career and I am the reason our 15 year old is transgender. He wishes I would...
    Laifu Laifu 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 24

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    Here's 2min40 sec of how to empathize. This is a building block for love and can lead you out of a sexless marriage I believe as well as many other relationship problems, family...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 24

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    My dad controls my life, and he enjoys it. He belittles me, insults me, makes me feel insecure about myself. He gets angry over small things and I feel like i'm always walking on...
    Mayurichi Mayurichi 13-15, T Aug 24

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    I was watching the reality tv series Arranged and I thought wow, it must be therapeutic to go through the what ifs and shoulds before you get hitched to a person someone else chose...
    zizna zizna 36-40, F Aug 23

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    So we've been going to counseling, mostly for his issues with his job. He keeps telling me it's the horrible situation at work at has killed his libido and caused him ED, so I've...
    secretlysidhe secretlysidhe 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Today was the first time in the last 6 months since we broke up that I saw him as ugly on the inside. I am losing the loving feelings I held for him. This is a good thing. I...
    Sunshine9001 Sunshine9001 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    I was maybe about 16. He lied to me about his age... saying he was 17 when really he was 25. He used to cut me, choke me, and rape me. He used me for sex and then when i got...
    nicky3489 nicky3489 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 21

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    my boyfriend has spoken to over 100 others girls during our 1 year and 5 month relationship, he's verbally abusive, he tells me no one wants me, hopes i die, hopes i kill myself...
    mxlly mxlly 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I have been married for almost 11 years. It is a long read...sorry We got married when he was 19 I was 18. I got pregnant before we were married. We only dated 6 months. I took my...
    redrubiess7 redrubiess7 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I think it is a legal price of paper, so the federal government can poke n prod into yo personal affairs. I think you can love someone n make a commitment from the heart. I shouldn...
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I have an abusive father and I feel like committing suicide. Excuse this wall of text, if anyone has advice on what I should do, please go right ahead. 2012: My...
    SadBeep SadBeep 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 20