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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 3 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 Aug 26, 2012

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 2 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 Dec 24, 2012

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F Dec 10, 2013

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    jameshasmyheart jameshasmyheart 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 19

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    Almost one year since my divorce from my verbally abusive ex husband has been final. I am so much happier. I feel more like my old self every day. He was so mean to me. Always...
    jameshasmyheart jameshasmyheart 41-45, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Today is Thanksgiving...but my husband has locked himself in the room because I got upset that he wouldn't let my kids listen to their father's message on the phone. I asked him to...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It's been a year since I last posted. I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I don't believe in divorce. So, my first marriage is most likely going to be my only marriage. But I am not going to get married until I am 46 or 49. Lmao
    SunshineH316 SunshineH316 22-25, F 31 mins ago

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man. When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Nov 8

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    I've been married for 25 years and even thought my marriage is not meeting many of my needs, I am petrified to leave it! For many years, my husband would not touch me sexually. I...
    Needhopeandsupport Needhopeandsupport 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 17

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    I was in a verbally abuse relationship for almist 6 year just got out of it a few months ago and moved a way we have two kids together I still feel controlled by him and let him...
    mt2015 mt2015 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    http://m.wikihow.com/Spot-a-Sociopath This is insanely spot on to a guy I dated who verbally and physically abused me and who would lie and cheat. I did all the wrong things...
    alexncohen alexncohen 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 13

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    I am in a DD marriage. My wife is in charge. She is very dominant and runs our life. I get spanked and disciplined
    happyguy99 happyguy99 66-70, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I am writing this having read a post from a man who is in an abusive relationship....I have read so many stories from women but it is not just women that are victims of domestic...
    00flyaway 00flyaway 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 11

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    iv been in abusive relationship and It took me awhile to leave it .I carried that persom into my relationship ship now.It has ruined the relationship between me and my boyfriend...
    theobserver5 theobserver5 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 11

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    ~20 Years Later~ . So, that guy I dated when I was 16-17 yrs old and again when I was about 20-23 yrs old (cause I thought he might had changed during that time but didn’t...
    OlivePhire OlivePhire 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    It hard to realize that I have that fear. I am the one that loves to live a home life. I'm the one that loves to share. I'm the one with that fanatic spirit that yells out: marry...
    WarmGoldenHeart WarmGoldenHeart 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 11

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    I didn't think at the time it was abusive. Thinking back.. it was., he would punch my legs out of anger. he would throw me on the ground, he would put his cigerette out on me. but...
    tiannadianee tiannadianee 18-21, F Oct 28

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    My ex was emotionally abusive through out our relationship. He would get angry every time I didn't do something he wanted. He would curse at me, tell me I wasn't attractive, and he...
    forevereternal9 forevereternal9 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 29

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    I was in an abusive relationship. I was afraid all the time. While pregnant. They say to just leave. But leaving is not easy. When I did leave, I was scared. I'm still afraid of...
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 1

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    Ages 16-19 I was in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. While I've grown past and become a stronger person, I'm really struggling with dating now. I'm in a new...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 2

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