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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 85 People

    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I've been married for over 8 years.

    He's never been really nice to me, or anyone really, since that day. He swears he doesn't want a divorce but he's getting more and more cruel every day. Today he called me a fat c**t. Usually his mean words and name calling just make me mad but these words hurt. Like the worst...
    BRC6814 BRC6814 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    FAITH. Love. Hope. Peace. The only way that I survive the last several years. It's difficult for me to admit that I am emotionally abused. I often wonder if it is all in my head...
    Seasongal Seasongal 13-15 Apr 23

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    His favorite thing to say is: "You deserve what you get." Me: "I don't deserve you." Him: "You're right. You deserve worse." Me: "Worse than you is impossible." His second...
    TGBman TGBman 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 25

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    I know I'm going to fail my exam tomorrow and all those after it because I haven't revised enough because my brain won't work properly! And the worst thing is... I literally couldn...
    CandleLitApple CandleLitApple 16-17, F May 14

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    Day 7 I've been gone a week and I'm finally ready to let him go. He can move on my head is straight my feelings are clear I understand my wants my needs. I'm feeling free, I can...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 3 Responses May 3

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    My husband use to be very abusive, he would choke me, bite me, punch me, grab me so hard he left bruises, and was also verbally abusive. It got so bad we both ended up in jail. He...
    shadaboo shadaboo 18-21, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    To start out I am not a perfect person. Three years ago I had an affair because of my unhappiness and poor decisions. I have been married for 16 years and with my wife for 23...
    and246 and246 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 28

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    I got out. Best decision of my life. Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Ireland is a republic...Today we vote on a change to our constitution to include same-sex marriage...The vote is on an amendment to article 41 of the Irish constitution to include...
    yeronlyman yeronlyman 41-45, M 14 hrs ago

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    I have emotionally abusive parents. My mother thinks it's okay to put me with siblings that I dislike and will bring up stuff from the stuff to provoke my anger, she comments on my...
    melodicsadness melodicsadness 18-21, F May 2

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    i would not want it any other way!!! i recently found this on-line a few years ago. It is a great list of ideas on ways to submit to your Husabnd. i found this list giving me new...
    goodgirl456 goodgirl456 31-35, F 5 Responses May 7

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    Im not sure I can forgive my husband for the disrespect that he's shown me. Our relationship and marriage was always rocky, but we've continued to try. I had to move out before we...
    mph94 mph94 18-21 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    So... When you finally get the STBX to come clean on his deceit and betrayal. When you finally have closure that your sexless, abusive spouse was a serial cheater the entire...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 14 Responses May 14

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    Due to some problem with my visa, I had to go back to China to live with my parents and find work there after studying in the US for two years. During these two years, I made sure...
    LouraMax LouraMax 22-25, F Apr 30

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    My parents gave me to my grandparents when I was born, it was just easier for them. They were wonderful but my granddad died when I was 13 and Nan couldn't take care of me. I ended...
    Hurt329 Hurt329 18-21, F 1 Response May 3

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    Maybe. Is it an "abusive relationship" if it only happens when we fight? Because to me it just feels like he loses it for a second but he's not abusive.
    marinadelmonroe marinadelmonroe 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My ex was very mentally abusive to me. he had at one point hit me and my friends and family made me break up with him. I now see that it wasn't okay but I'm still in love with the...
    CopenhagenAngel427 CopenhagenAngel427 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 25

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    My father drank a lot and was physically abusive to my mother and sexually abused my little sis when we were younger and would insult all of us... so me, my mother and sisters...
    CustardGirl CustardGirl 13-15, F Apr 28

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    I feel dumb. I miss my abusive ex. But he treated me like crap. If I made him the slightest mad,if I did the smallest thing to set him off, he'd disappear for weeks at a time. Now...
    amtired amtired 22-25, F 4 Responses May 1

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    Mother had a tough life, and it carried over to how she raised her own kids. She was self-centered and abusive, mentally and physically. Beatings and put downs, and never once a...
    rbulova rbulova 70+, T May 1

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    my relationship with my dog and I becoming very painful and abusive..he keeps barking at me and scratching all over my body .. i tried feeding him thinking it'll help him calm down...
    mergirl123 mergirl123 18-21, F 7 Responses May 6

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    I was in an abusive relationship for 8 years. ..and I am just now starting to recover 4 years later
    finelyhappy1029 finelyhappy1029 26-30, F May 6

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    I was in a abusive relationship for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my...
    CDavis227 CDavis227 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6

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