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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I've been married for over 8 years.

    He's never been really nice to me, or anyone really, since that day. He swears he doesn't want a divorce but he's getting more and more cruel every day. Today he called me a fat c**t. Usually his mean words and name calling just make me mad but these words hurt. Like the worst...
    BRC6814 BRC6814 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    A few months ago, I completely cut off my ex. We had a long and complicated history that involved a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. On his part, a lot of it was underhanded and...
    MDubs MDubs 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Things began normally. We were together a short while before his eating disorder became an issue. He would tell me in detail about his purges. I was so dependent on him I became a...
    gothstan gothstan 16-17, M 5 Responses Jan 2

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    I can't take it anymore my crazy abusive mother is calling me about every 30 mins to an hour all through the night on the phone trying to terrorize me. I eventually quit answering...
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    Marialz Marialz 22-25, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    No, I did not wait until marriage to engage in a sexual relationship with my boyfriend(s). I am not prude when it comes to sexual relationships but the direct opposite. I loved...
    middleagedfemalemom middleagedfemalemom 41-45, F 12 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Hi I am 29 years old Indian girl. I am looking for Hindu guy for marriage (MOC). I am settled in UAE and basically am from Rajasthan. I prefer some one from UAE but if not than I...
    AmityPatel AmityPatel 26-30, F 4 hrs ago

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    Seems as tho I'm starting out the new year single. I knew this guy wasn't treating me right either. We had an argument, just a stupid disagreement over plans and he resorted to...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 2 Responses Jan 1

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    I have been in my prison sentence of a marriage way to long I have given everything I can think of for my marriage and nothing works I had a glimmer of hope yesterday evening...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am so glad that my boyfriend and I have the great relationship that we have. I never have to worry about him straying to other girls especially sneaking around or lying. I never...
    yanene yanene 36-40, F 2 days ago

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    cruisebaby53 cruisebaby53 61-65, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am not in an abusive relationship - I was in a verbal and emotionally abusive relationship but I chose to bring it to an end. Life moved on, I met someone else and Well here it...
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    I really thought my boyfriend was different but i guess we all do at one point. He started pushing me when he was upset which after the first tike promised he would never do again...
    tengomiedo tengomiedo 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    I am not in a troubled marriage. I am now in my second marriage. My first marriage lasted 21 years. My wife was confined to a wheelchair due to disability. We had three children...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 1 Response Jan 2

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    Well I'm not going I say never but as of right now I don't feel like i need to get married in the future. Look I'm not in a serious relationship, do I want to be yes. I want to be...
    KateTheStraightedge KateTheStraightedge 16-17, F Jan 18

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    India as you all might know is a country rich in culture and tradition. Arranged marriages happens to be a very integral part of this culture. I am 27 years old and got married in...
    femaleskeleton femaleskeleton 26-30 1 Response Jan 19

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    I recently got out of a relationship...reason because he left to Miami for a couple of days and when he came back he was starting to be abusive and he would get mad with every...
    soccerislife14 soccerislife14 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    It started three years ago. He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and...
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    I love the fact that after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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