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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    I've been married for over 8 years.

    He's never been really nice to me, or anyone really, since that day. He swears he doesn't want a divorce but he's getting more and more cruel every day. Today he called me a fat c**t. Usually his mean words and name calling just make me mad but these words hurt. Like the worst...
    BRC6814 BRC6814 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    "Booksmart" "You don't use your brain" "Do not make decisions on your own anymore, ask me before you do anything" "F*** U" "Stupid" "Lazy" And that's not even half of it. I can...
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    Everything is your fault, mother. Don't you think that giving birth to a child at age of 44 is too old? Especially when you're applying these bronchioles ear machine because you're...
    MissMachine00 MissMachine00 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    FAITH. Love. Hope. Peace. The only way that I survive the last several years. It's difficult for me to admit that I am emotionally abused. I often wonder if it is all in my head...
    Seasongal Seasongal 13-15 2 days ago

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    Sad but true it's pain it's hurts I don't know what else to say someone chat with me.
    unhappyperson707 unhappyperson707 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Two years ago my ex used to not tell me what was wrong all the time, so he made me think I was always doing something wrong. He used to tell me I looked like ****, and I should...
    missminimae missminimae 16-17, F Apr 12

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    His favorite thing to say is: "You deserve what you get." Me: "I don't deserve you." Him: "You're right. You deserve worse." Me: "Worse than you is impossible." His second...
    TGBman TGBman 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have recently taken a break from my boyfriend. The fight we had days ago, still makes me feel numb; we haven't talked since. And here I am, looking at my phone, wondering if we...
    Realitymeetsbliss Realitymeetsbliss 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am 22 and I was brainwashed into going to the local university which is okay ranked after being accepted into a much better school. My parents have brainwashed and controlled me...
    wfurlow2 wfurlow2 22-25, M Mar 27

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    The man I love is abusive and I have been with him for about a year now see he is a alcoholic abusive guy but he is 36 I am 21 almost 22 I am also paralyzed and have epilepsy but...
    kmccrady12653 kmccrady12653 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 27

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 6 hrs ago

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    Over the last two centuries, women began to rebel against their God given design as a helper for man and began to demand marriages that removed all roles. Instead of women acting...
    biblicalgenderroles biblicalgenderroles 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    Everything seemed happy and fine at first. We seemed like a great couple and everyone was happy for us. We really didn't have any problems until she started verbally assaulting me...
    SamanthaJC SamanthaJC 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    So more then 6 years ago I was pressured into a relationship with this guy. The more and more I got to know him, the worse things got with him. He would verbally and mentally abuse...
    tmiatech tmiatech 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    My boyfriend moved out yesterday. We have been together off and on for 8 years. The abuse was subtle at first, a shove, twisting my arm, but over time it got bad. He hurt a member...
    whitney86 whitney86 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I hope that those who choose to be in this group mean what they say. Believing and accepting interracial marriage doesn't mean just believing it for ONE other color or race other...
    koh72 koh72 41-45, M 7 hrs ago

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    I am 22 years old. And I live in nearly sexless marriage. I didn't realize how miserable it could be. I thought maybe it would at least wait until I was older and my children to...
    Searchingformyshalom Searchingformyshalom 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I grew up in from an abusive family and It was difficult for me to have friends due to trust issues,I dont have self confidence at all and I surrendered to an Idea that nobody will...
    charmedangel1978 charmedangel1978 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 3

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    My sister is 4 years older than me. She verbally abuses me. My parents know there is something wrong but she denies it and starts crying and screaming like she is the victim. My...
    kaiJSmith kaiJSmith 70+ 1 Response Apr 2

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    Throughout all of history no society ever accepted marriage to be between two people of the same gender. There were plenty of societies that practiced polygamy and polyandry or a...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    Before Christmas I started seeing someone. My abusive ex found out and begged me to take him back. I did. Nothing changed other that the physical abuse stopped and he turned up the...
    Kerry1304 Kerry1304 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    well I have Bern in Ann abusive relationship for about6 yrs. Although it is mostly verbal. I never would have Boehm with someone like that for long before. Somewhere along the...
    giggles1469 giggles1469 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I still have flashbacks every once in awhile, and have nightmares. I'm just so sick of people treating me like I'm fragile, because I'm not. I got out of the abusive relationship...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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