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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 83 People

    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I've been married for over 8 years.

    He's never been really nice to me, or anyone really, since that day. He swears he doesn't want a divorce but he's getting more and more cruel every day. Today he called me a fat c**t. Usually his mean words and name calling just make me mad but these words hurt. Like the worst...
    BRC6814 BRC6814 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    My husband is emotionally and mentally ad verbally abusive and has been for 14 years and I just don't have the energy to fight anymore.
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    Never imagined myself posting in this section but here goes. So I've been married over 12 years now and to be honest after reading all the stories here, I wouldn't say I have a bad...
    destiny2015 destiny2015 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    I am a 46 year old disabled mother of a just recently turned 21 year old daughter. I have raised my daughter alone 100% and have had 5 heart surgeries in that time. Out of those 5...
    tblack1 tblack1 46-50, F 14 hrs ago

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    I was in an emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive relationship for nearly three years. I wrote and entire blog about what i went through, how i got out, and how i moved on...
    LifeofSchy LifeofSchy 18-21, F Feb 8

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    So my marriage is over and in a week time my husband will be gone back to his comfort zone his parents. I am sad because he's failed miserable as a husband. Yes they are two sides...
    Unsatisfiedwoman74 Unsatisfiedwoman74 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    I'm 37, and I'm stuck in a 5 year old, horribly lonely marriage because I have a toddler and I'm unwilling to not have him with me every day. I know my husband will fight for...
    wheresmyrescueparty wheresmyrescueparty 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    I am so glad that my boyfriend and I have the great relationship that we have. I never have to worry about him straying to other girls especially sneaking around or lying. I never...
    yanene yanene 36-40, F Jan 28

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    I have been with my partner for over 10 years, best friends for 5 years before that and now Married for 3 years... I thought I knew him better than myself, but have been sorely...
    Smudge5002 Smudge5002 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Breaking The Cycle Of Abuse With GOD'S help, I am working on breaking the cycle of abuse that seems to keep following me....I talk about writing a book, Well just on this chapter...
    faithful77 faithful77 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I achieved a double whammy of abusive fathers. my mother originally married an physically abusive marine. he was my ***** donor. mom must have shopped at Walmart for her next...
    ramvan ramvan 36-40, M Feb 12

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    There's absolutely no point to it. First, I abhor the idea of getting any sort of government involved in personal relationships. Who was the first person to suggest that anyway...
    Unbeholden Unbeholden 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    I'm warning you now that my experience is a book... I'm sharing because I want those who may be going through this right now to know that only one thing will make the relationship...
    DaylightDancer DaylightDancer 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    Yeah, I was. I'm starting to realize how much this was true. It was emotionally abusive and very rarely became physical abuse. There was one time I was not giving into her demands...
    chimbie88 chimbie88 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 4

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    My mother is slowly losing her once impressive command of language. Commonplace items are now routinely referred to as "whatitsname" or "that...you know". But two words that still...
    talkinaftermidnight talkinaftermidnight 36-40, M 6 Responses Feb 7

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    fattitsisjustadlut123 51-55, F why is it that every time I see every letter as a cap and there are nonsensical but abusive words in a comment it is a brand new account like the one...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 8

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    It is the middle of the night and I have just been rejected again last night. Today, my wife flies overseas for 2 weeks and she does not show the slightest inclination to have even...
    Sub305k Sub305k 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 11

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    My first time writing. Because I hid my problem for so many years, I became a shamed of what went on at home. Since I was young my father would constantly complain and yell at my...
    mukullama4 mukullama4 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    My ex and I parted ways almost 6 months ago. I did not realize he was abusive until it was too late. I had known him since I was 14. We started dating when I was 16 by 17 I was...
    BriDene25 BriDene25 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 15

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    So yeah I was.....how can a guy be in one you may ask.....well its damn easy when she is a complete narcissistic woman......I would wish this on my worst enemy......she gaslighted...
    huckleberrybunches huckleberrybunches 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 15

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    I was in an abusive relationship about 4 years ago. Although that was a long time ago, the flashbacks I have from it are constant. I'm terrified that one day he's going to fulfill...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 16

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    I have been in an abusive relationship with someone who is paranoid and bipolar and I know its hard to get up and leave especially when they say they need help but the only help he...
    tlove22 tlove22 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    I have been in many emotionally abusive relationships, I am in one now even. I know it's me that picks them of course, I stopped believing in changing them. I can't cure them...
    beemer78 beemer78 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    To help people to be more informed about Pakistan instead of listening to poverty and falling for any stories. Having been to Pakistan many times, I can safely say the below;- 1...
    Eridanus Eridanus 31-35 Jan 27

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    now that im turning 26 i cant help but thinking of whats ahead for those of us who are almost 30. oh man its so scary to think that as we get older the option of marriage comes...
    Angel021389vancouver Angel021389vancouver 22-25, F Feb 9

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    I kind of regret getting married. *The crazy thing is one of the most disturbing nightmares I ever had was while I was in my teens, and it was about me marrying a decent man who...