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I Am In a Verbally Abusive Marriage

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    Same Pattern, He Want Change

    I have been married for 9 yrs. we have a 2 y/o toddler. He is very selfish, a casino freak, womanizer and very disrespectful...I have started positive thinking and enrolled daughter in school/ daycare. I am now looking for apartment and I am making plans to leave this man. I...
    Sotried1969 Sotried1969 41-45, F Sep 30, 2012

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    My Hope

    Since I married my "John" (not his real name) it seems that everything we did was a fight. We could never do anything without an argument. There is not one mistake or perceived mistake that I make that goes unnoticed. With each mistake or "mistake" that I make I am reminded...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    I'm Afraid To Go And Afraid Of Staying

    I have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids. I just recently was convinced that my husband is abusive- true, he's never hit me, but he is verbally and emotionally abusive. I fear that it will become physical and I also fear that it will not. Why? If he hit me even once, I'd...
    lilacblossoms2001 lilacblossoms2001 31-35 5 Responses Sep 22, 2011

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 7 Responses May 18, 2009

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    It's Not Getting Any Better After 4 Years.

    I'm writing because I just had another fight with my husband.  We disagreed over how to discipline our daughter.  I have told him time and time again that I am the primary disciplinarian for the children since I spend the most time with them and to follow my lead...
    misswitch1369 misswitch1369 31-35 2 Responses Nov 21, 2010

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    LIFE As a Boxing Match

    I have been married to a narcissistic abuser for almost 14 years. We have 2 daughters, 11 and 7. Life in our home is like a boxing match.  I am constantly ducking to "avoid" being "hit" by put downs, ordering, blaming, yelling, belittling, withdrawing...
    staystrong92 staystrong92 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Default Husband & Mother-in-law Trying To Cut The Mother Out Of Her Kid's Life

    I'm absolutely at a loss, and would appreciate some advice. This is not how I planned on spending my Christmas Eve, but this nightmare has been going on for far too long and if I don't do something at least minutely proactive, I might lose it. This isn't a situation that I'm...
    Ssai Ssai 18-21 1 Response Dec 24, 2012

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    Miserable And Don't Know How To Get Out

    HI, im 26 ive got to kids under the age of 5. I married my husband when my son was 6 months old at the time i didnt realize the person he really was. As sad as this is its been 5 years and im just now realizing that ive been physically and mentally abused. I actually got the...
    trucklover05 trucklover05 26-30 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    Mistake Of Marrying Him

    My husband and I have been together for 3 years We just got married this past June worst mistake of my life I got pregnant in January so we decided to get married we planed the wedding for June then in April I had a miscarage thats when It started he started yelling at me and...
    whitelilly619 whitelilly619 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    Verbal Abuse Escalating

    The verbal abuse that I have stupidly endured for the past 11 years is escalating. It used to be a once a month thing, now its becoming every week. Every week he gets into at 1 rage. This evening he was out drinking with the neighbors and enjoying this weather. He comes home...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 22, 2012

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    He Has No Respect For Me

    My husband told me out to dinner for Mothers Day and told me that I better never let myself go.  (meaning my looks)  After arguing all weekend, this morning he told me that eventhough we argue a lot and don't get along, I was still the best f**** he ever had and...
    grandlakeprincess62 grandlakeprincess62 46-50, F 6 Responses May 18, 2009

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    I Am Sooo Unhappy With My Life

    Am a 29 yrs old female with a 4 yrs old son.Got married when i was 22 to a man 18 yrs older than i am (47 yrs).Ever since i got into that relationship,i have never known peace of mind.Continuos shouting and insult has been my daily bread.my self esteem has been brought to the...
    kaimaroy kaimaroy 26-30 4 Responses May 30, 2009

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    I Feel So Sad And Unhappy.

     I am a 39 year old female who moved away to marry who I thought was my soul mate 4 years ago. I also took on his 3 children form his first marriage whilst bringing my 3 to live with him as well. We also have a child between us who will be 2 soon. Gradually over the last 2...
    joanna39 joanna39 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    I Think I'm Being Abused...

    It wasn't until I watched an episode of Dr. Phil recently, believe it or not, that my eyes were truly opened to the possibility that I am in fact being abused. My husband of course will tell you that's an exaggeration, that I'm seeking sympathy or that I'm crazy. I guess it...
    ladybug428 ladybug428 26-30 1 Response Sep 21, 2010

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    I Wanna Pull My Hair Out

    i have been married 11yrs and in the beginning it was great...I have put up with his dranking and hitting and staying out all night...but god everytime I wanna talk he tells me to shut up.I posted my story but in the wrong place I wrote it in confessions...so you can go there...
    samanthamauricio samanthamauricio 26-30 May 26, 2010

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    For My Husband And Anyone Else Who Is Caught In The Endless Self Destruction Of Abuse

    This post is kind of a poem, kind of an essay.  It is free writing dedicated to my husband and dedicated to others who may be caught in the endless, self destruction of abuse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My husband, you need to know that I do see your pain.  I see your hurt that...
    golightly golightly 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 24, 2010

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    Mistake Of My Life Marrying Him

    I should have known when he insisted on choosing what I wore when we went out on dates that it was a red flag and I should have run. I should have known when he would get explosively angry and I would wonder to myself "What in the world did I do to make him so angry?" and could...
    ekfr ekfr 46-50 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I have written several stories of my experience

    with verbal abuse by my husband. It has escalated to physical abuse at times. I refuse to let him have the best of me. In the past I have argued back and it gets me no where. When I argue back it just escalates things and I end up going off the deep end by breaking things...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    If You Wouldn't Have Said Or Done This I Wouldn't Say And Do That

    This is the story of my verbally abusive marriage. I can't think of one name in the book I haven't been called. Not to mention the arguments are sometimes senseless and I am always urging him to calm down before he says something he regrets but he doesn't. Our last episode...
    paj2012 paj2012 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Stargazer18 Stargazer18 41-45, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I know I'm feeling sorry for myself but I have to get this off my chest and I hope the pain in my chest will start to feel better. I live with an abusive man. We do not share a...
    alwaysmiling79 alwaysmiling79 41-45, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    My husband turns into an unloving and uncaring child whenever he has contact with my worst enemy his mother. I told the disrespectful hag I wanted nothing to do with her but it...
    Gingercat55 Gingercat55 51-55, F 2 days ago

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    I read a book about marital problems.I think the name was Three's a crowd by Vijay Nagaswami.It helped me understand a lot.Most marriages suffer for lack of intimacy.Having an...
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    My husband and i have been going through a rough patch and he told me he never loved me until we got married (jan 2015) and he keeps meeting his ex and she got in touch with me and...
    Anotherfrustratedgirl Anotherfrustratedgirl 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    What Is Up With Sexless Marriages? One of the largest groups on EP is "I live in a sexless marriage" I do not understand how people can be "married" and one of them is not meeting...
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    I been in an Abusive relationship not physically but mentally. As a guy with dyslexia, ADD, and being in special ed from my ex she would put me down. To point I believed but once I...
    LoyaltynTrust93 LoyaltynTrust93 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    SapphicMinion SapphicMinion 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 29

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    A message for Soniador1963 and people like him. You can misrepresent all I say, you can lie about me insulting one of your friends and you can block me for pointing out your...
    desopaws desopaws 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 29

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