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I Am In a Wife Led Marriage

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    Erotic Power

      What is there in life that is more powerful than a sexy confident woman using her erotic powers to seduce and control her man? Most women I've known in my life have no clue as to the latent power that lies within them. Some that do know are afraid to use it because, "...
    hertoy hertoy 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2009

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    Why Wont My Wife Let Me Lick Her Feet?

    Why is my wife so bossy? I would have loved for her to be submissive to me but that is a pipe dream. The next best thing I found is to be submissive to her, but I am doing it reluctantly. I hate her power over me. She makes me massage her feet A LOT. But I dont get to...
    doctorrs doctorrs 36-40, M 8 Responses Jan 19, 2011

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    My Life In Transition

    my wife has been more assertive and dominant in bedroom . she initiated sex and made our sex life. however so far she has not responded greatly to the idea of wife led relationship in our marriage. she is showing some positive signs . she is opening to the idea of she getting...
    69218server 69218server 36-40, M Nov 18, 2012

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    I Believe In The Sovereign Approach To Marriage

    I love my "wife" dearly.  I have been with WildSpectrumArts for many years.  She truly is my soul mate.  I would have married her right after our first date but I think that would have assured that she never saw me again.  It took some time for me to grow on her.  I...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 25, 2011

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    Pierced

    My wife had my **** pierced three months ago. After a lot of thought, she decided on a Prince Albert. Now that I'm healed, she likes to attached a short chain to the ring. The other end of the chain is attached to a medium sized butt plug. When she pushes the plug into my...
    Mrpowell Mrpowell 51-55, M 2 Responses Nov 23, 2013

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    Obedient Husband, Updated

    Our one year experiment has terminated.                    
    Cordett Cordett 56-60, M 1 Response Sep 8, 2009

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    A Typical Morning At Our House

    A Typical Morning at the Rigger House: Part 1 From the outside, our marriage would seem pretty conventional. Oh, there are a few things that may excite the interest of our neighbors in the little suburb where we live. For instance, it is Ivy Ann Rigger who goes out to work...
    Clande567 Clande567 36-40, M Jan 4, 2011

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    She Is So Reasonable

    I've been advocating for a wife led marriage for a year or two and now my wife happily decides when we have sex and whether I can ***. I don't *** at all without her permission. Most mornings I get up and make her coffee, wearing cute panties if she wants me to. I'll pretty...
    Ironbutt Ironbutt 51-55, M Sep 7, 2013

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    My Wife My Queen

    I am a 41 year old male nurse father of two and I have been marrried to my Queen for 19 1/2 years. It took a long time and many start overs for us to finally get fully into the lifestyle but somewhere inside both of us always knew the key to happiness in our marriage was with me...
    AmysSweetBoy AmysSweetBoy 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 31, 2010

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    More Questions On The Subject

    whats typical day for someone in this type of relationship? Do the women still do nice for the men? Is this fun for both people? Does this arrangement first take place place before or after the wedding? If possibly interested where does one go about this? Also how do you...
    fuzz06 fuzz06 22-25 Oct 3, 2012

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    How We Have Moved Towards A Wife-led Marriage

    My Wife has taken on the dominant role to a large extent, but it's taken a few years to get to where we are. It's not something that can be hurried. Try baby steps and there will be a better chance of your Wife accepting these changes in your routine. I do all the housework...
    huggy01 huggy01 41-45 2 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    Admitting It

    My observation is that most probably most marriages are wife led. It's just a facade that the ladies allow their husband to put on that they are in charge of things You aren't. Try an experiment, give up the facade and don't let her pretend that you are in anyway in charge of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 3, 2012

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    A Typical Day At Our House: Part 2

    (This is part two of an excerpt for our book on Female Dominant Marriage. It describes a typical day in our life together.) Ivy drives to work. She is an important professor of history and women's studies at a certain University that we won't name. She is tenure track and on...
    Clande567 Clande567 36-40, M Feb 2, 2011

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    We're There, After A Few Years.

    I suppose my wife was attracted to me and felt comfortable because, well, I was always fairly agreeable. Sure, we differed, and differ, but we chose our battles, not letting little things separate us. I could tell right away that she was strong willed and had distinct preferences...
    wastom wastom 51-55, M 5 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    How She Humiliates Me

    My wife found out I have served other men now she thinks I am gay. She suggested we watch Magic Mike and then she told me that she knew I would get hard. Well sure enough when the men started to ***** my **** got hard and started dripping. She ended up climbing on top of me...
    Misunderstood999 Misunderstood999 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 24, 2013

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    My Life As A Househusband(Full Story Frm Start)

    hi..i am a married man from INDIA...i always take her name n call her mam or she ***** me badly... It all started in college when i was madly in love with her...she knew dat i would do nythng for her...so she took undue advantage of it....n made me do her homework...carry her...
    jimmit jimmit 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 4, 2013

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    Why Wont My Wife Let Me Lick Her Feet?

    Why is my wife so bossy? I would have loved for her to be submissive to me but that is a pipe dream. The next best thing I found is to be submissive to her, but I am doing it reluctantly. I hate her power over me. She makes me massage her feet A LOT. But I dont get to...
    doctorrs doctorrs 36-40, M Jan 19, 2011

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    My Wife Is In Charge

    I kow the man is supposed to be the head of the household but even when we were dating it was obvious that Susan was in charge of our relationship. Where to go to eat dinner, she made the call. What movie to see, it was her decision. She was so much stronger and more confidant...
    michael56 michael56 31-35 3 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    Discovering Importance To Be My Fiancée's Slave

    I am 42 and, for some years, engaged with a slightly younger woman whom I hope to marry soon. We discovered progressively that She had matriarchal (or gynocratic, whatever name you give it) instincts, whereas I have submissive, obedient inclinations in front of Her. Since I...
    Eved Eved 41-45, M 8 Responses Dec 26, 2009

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    The Excitement Is Back!

    After 10+ years as a vanilla marriage we switched to a full blown FLR/FLM about 10 months ago. It was my idea and at first my wife wasn't sure how it would work, but after finding,"Real Women Don't Do Housework", and practicing using her erotic feminine powers on me, we...
    hertoy hertoy 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Back From My Trip

    When I was traveling on business last month my wife had packed me a pair of panties and a cotton nighty. She had never done this before and it turned me on a great deal. She had mentioned that she might pack something special for me, but never followed through. We had also...
    fiddlerontheedge fiddlerontheedge 41-45, M Jul 1, 2013

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    Female Led Relationship . Must Read .

    Female Led Relationship . Must Read . The female gender is BY FAR the superior gender. Mans time is over and patriarchy is losing ground everyday . Matriarchy is the future and the sooner men accept this and embrace it the happier we all will be and the world will be a much...
    ACHAMA ACHAMA 46-50, F 6 Responses Feb 11, 2012

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    How My Wife Took Over

    Like many others my marrige started out traditional. My wife was the shy girl next door type. We usually made decisions together and shared the household chores. How we ended up in a FLM was bit by bit, we didn't decide we should make a change and try it but it happened over a...
    jimjmale jimjmale 51-55, M 3 Responses Oct 17, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 7 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I talked to my father in heaven about some of the problems I've been having many times recently. Chronic alcohol inebriation, lying, ***********, sneaking to bars at night...
    dave56901 dave56901 31-35, M 5 hrs ago

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    I have not been here in a while, I am not sure why. I guess I found a place where I could put it out of my mind.. I have thrown myself into my work and I have kept life busy.. I...
    liv491 liv491 41-45 2 hrs ago

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    I am a transgendered person who came out to my wife in 2001 year after 20+ years of marriage (actually, I was originally discovered by my wife in the early 1980's, but I spent a...
    Trisha60ts Trisha60ts 61-65, T 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I'll be married for 10 years in November. We have been together 14 years. I am 35 and my husband is 40. We dated 4 years before we got married.We had sex very few times when I was...
    sweetwoman34 sweetwoman34 31-35, F 28 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    Well where do I start? It didn't used to be a bad marriage when we got married 13 years ago in 2001, I was 25 and she was 24. In fact it was a very good marriage, I loved her and...
    HPeterson HPeterson 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    My marriage is a complete joke!! We've been together almost 7 years & married for just 10 months. We get on fine as friends, but romantically there is nothing? I feel sooooo stupid...
    MemyselfandI80 MemyselfandI80 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I have been together with my wife for 18 years and been married for 8 years soon. And the past 8 years there have been less and less sex. For now, no sex at all. All these years i...
    WhereIsHome WhereIsHome 36-40, M 15 Responses Apr 9

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    You think you have all the time in the world. You don’t. I live in a sexless marriage. I made major decisions and made many choices to live alongside a man who found it...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 26 Responses Mar 20

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    I've been in a marriage for quite some time, but fell away from sex within my marriage about one year ago. I had been the one attempting to encourage my wife to have relations with...
    AVisionary AVisionary 36-40, M 11 Responses Mar 20

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    Part 2: the warning signs The changes really started to happen in November. We had a vacation planned. On the vacation we did it 2 times, would have only been once but I yapped at...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    Hello everyone, I am a 21 year old married man. Until now my wife (21 years old as well) and I have been living in our house which we bought 5 months ago. We have been having...
    jbp1992 jbp1992 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I had an incredible night. I have to share my experience. I was raised by my Grandmother, who lived in a sexless marriage. My Grandfather was a mean, cold, loveless husband. He...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 25

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses 4 days ago

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    Last year in June my husband of 18 years confessed to an online love affair with a lady from his company that began in April. She works in a different state hundreds of miles away...
    ydoideservethis ydoideservethis 36-40, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    LED plant lights illuminated advantage in agriculture 1 , bio-energy -efficient Plant photosynthesis light is not absorbed sunlight all the ingredients , the main advantage is that...
    ledgrowlight ledgrowlight 26-30, F Mar 26

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    "The Dummies Guide To Ending A Sexless Marriage" or "How I Learned Not To Give Up Emotional and Physical Intimacy" by CherishMe2 Step 1: Acknowledge that the lack of emotional...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 18

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    Ive posted before about my sexless marriage. Now it appears my birthday is going to be a bust!. Weve been pretty cold toward each other since my discussion about the lack of...
    harleyman2169 harleyman2169 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 19

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    Is there a sign in my forehead that says "Anyone want to f#ck me - going once, going twice?" I'm at a resort in Florida with one of my girlfriends enjoying the warm weather. I...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 31 Responses Mar 24

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    A man and women get married,,, everything so good for the first five years or more,,, Then you have MM come in your life spark that old fire back up,, yes he will tell you...
    pullupgirl103 pullupgirl103 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    For folks new to my story, I've been the one who has been refused sex for ~10 years, and now I'm currently building a social support network for myself. Overall, I am making steady...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 31

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    I have so many qualities of a good wife and he just takes it all for granted. I no longer look at him as the man Love and just see our marriage as business arrangement and I am...
    Jayne0915 Jayne0915 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses a week ago

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am a married man who is married to a wonderful woman. However she has recently told me that she wants nothing to do with sex ever again. It has been over 15 months since we have...
    Hingeman Hingeman 26-30, M 25 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been married for 10 years and have three children with my wife. The last 2-3 years have not been enjoyable. I can't say that is due to any one incident or event, so my...
    canadiankid26 canadiankid26 36-40, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Here is the deal. I Married my Wife on the 29th day of may last year. I love her dearly then, she than cheated on me emotionally with at least 3 other guys. I slowly started...
    anton88 anton88 22-25, M 2 Responses