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I Am In An Abusive Relationship

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    Was Abused-How It Affected Me And The Fact That You Need To Leave ASAP

    I never realized I was being abused. I was so lost from my childhood that it felt "normal". He pushed me, kicked me, slapped me in the face, put me in a headlock, punched me all over my face, smashed my in the face across my jaw, ripped my clothes off me, spit on me, threw out my...
    cupcakelver cupcakelver 22-25, F Sep 22, 2013

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    I have a 6 month old baby with the love of my

    life, we live together. He can be a great Person sometimes but when he gets angry he is a very dark Person. He beats me in the Head, all over the body and punched me in the stomach. Everytime he hits me and i try to leave he tells me that he Will change and begs me to stay. I...
    manthona manthona 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I have lied to my family,

    and jus put it all out of my mind. I am numb. She beats me and hurts me when im at my weakest. And what makes it worse is that i have cancer so its hard to fight. I feel like just letting her win. Idk what to do anymore
    telliebabi telliebabi 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    It Can't Be All My Fault!

    I have been in an abusive on-off relationship for three years. We have been together exclusively the past year, before that it was a couple months here and there. We have a two year old son. This last time we got back together, I made that decision because he begged me and I...
    mad04h mad04h 18-21 9 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    It's Not Exactly Physical

    It's verbal. It's emotional and it has gotten physical twice. He choked me, even put his fist up like he was going to hit me. I can't be sure about that fist though. It was a threat, and I had a feeling he put it up knowing he wouldn't hit me. I think he may have realized that...
    SashaAmazon SashaAmazon 31-35, F 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    Stuck

    I met someone who I thought was the man of my dreams on July 1st of 2009. He was charming, gorgeous and told me everything I wanted to hear. I look back and wonder how an educated woman with a successful career can be manipulated so easily. Things moved really fast. Before I knew...
    g8thegreat g8thegreat 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 26, 2013

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    Totally Controlled

    Im 22. have been with my husband for the past 3 years. Known him for 7. Justgot married in September this year. It all started out good. He was sweet. Asked my opinions and preference on things. I had somewhat of a normal relationship. Now its horrible. He daily calls me astupid...
    misslady777 misslady777 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2013

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    Am I Being Abused????

    I am 21 and engaged. We been together for almost 3 years. Every time we get into an argument he calls me really bad names like the B word, a psycho and he even called me an ugly mfer, he also said how he can't take me anywhere and how he wished I was off the face of the earth...
    alexis122 alexis122 18-21, F 56 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Verbal abuse, emotional abuse,

    financial abuse. He has never hit me but has raised his fist to me and then thought better of it. We have been together for almost 20 years and have a child. His behaviour towards me has got worse and worse as time has gone by and for the last couple of years it's been terrible...
    EllisRose EllisRose 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    He Is Like A Devil & An Angel In 1.

    Last night he called me from rehab. He spent 2 hours straight telling me how much he loves me . He did it again the night before and the night before that. He said he is changing but is he really? I really do love him but this is the last chance he is getting from me. I can't...
    lifeisablur lifeisablur 18-21, F Oct 26, 2013

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    I Love Him

    I'm in love him I know I'm young but I know how I feel. He makes me happy he understands me. But sometimes he mean sometimes he yells at me and says that nobody will ever love me. He pushed me around like he owned me or something. Sometimes I wonder why I'm in love with a guy who...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Im alive yet feel dead someone save me from my

    own head i want to breathe but i don't i want to leave but i won't i feel like i have it all figured out i feel i know without a doubt the truth it i have no clue the truth is i can't leave you the worst part? you know. you can do anything and i won't go i know its sick it...
    glitternglamxo glitternglamxo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I'm Used To It

    If I don't do the laundry, I'll be screamed at. If I complain about anything, its obviously my fault. If I stand up for myself things start getting thrown. If she hits me, its ok. If I hit back I'm the man and get jail threats. If I cry about it for days, maybe I should have...
    senmetsu senmetsu 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    There Are Three Types Of Abuse.

    The most obvious is physical. The other two are emotional and mental. He threatens physical all the time but knows leaving marks would mean trouble with my family. So instead he doesn't leave marks, physical ones at least. I have faced mental abuse my whole life. But when it...
    he8myheart he8myheart 16-17, F Jun 21, 2013

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    And I Am The Abuser.

    I don't mean physically. No, I am a woman and don't have that kind of strength. I am emotionally abusive. I don't know how to stop either. I've been married for a year. I met my husband online and we chatted for a few years before deciding to meet each other. I'm from the USA...
    Whatttayasay Whatttayasay 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 17, 2013

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    I know it's wrong to stay

    but so hard to walk away he put his hands on me when I was pregnant and now av had my boy it's got worse I hate him but why can't I leave him
    K1GIRl K1GIRl 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    Broken

    My name is Alyssa Moore, and I might be broken. Am I wrong to trust someone who has hurt me so many times? Am I wrong to stay when I flinch every time he touches me? Am I wrong to think that things will get better if I just work at it? I want to run far, far away. But I can't...
    ScaredCookie ScaredCookie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I've Been Told It Is

    My bf and I have been dating for about a year and 9-10 months. We met each other at a lil party were we basically got drunk and had a one night stand. He called me a week later. We were going out for about 11 months and the by the 9th month he started to become more of a...
    Pagangirl Pagangirl 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    LOVE???????

    So many people use the word love without ever knowing what it means. Love doesn't mean hurt, anger and sadness. It means caring, thoughtful, kindness. I can tell you all that I am living proof that abuse is an endless cycle. I grew up with an abusive father. Every relationship...
    thecalm1 thecalm1 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    my husband has gotten worse

    and worse lately. I really am starting to hate him more each day. He hit me for the first time sober the other day, and I was sleeping so I didn't even have the chance to defend myself. I know it is going to get worse bc it always does. Just when I think he has done it all he...
    shaunnalynn shaunnalynn 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I Have No Mouth,and I Must Scream

    It once was good,then it was bad,then it was great,but only for a short time,then it was really bad,and now it's as bad as it's ever been. I usually know how to tone down his anger. I'm finely attuned to what makes him want to throw down. I can control the situation,at least...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    6 Years Of Hell And 3 Kids Later...

    i am in a relationship with a man for 6 years. we have 4 kids together we live together and we fight all the time. there is no ommon ground. all he does is stress and complain and talk **** to me. when we first met in 2007 he was a million times worse. he used to smack...
    NDIAZ71982 NDIAZ71982 31-35, F 3 Responses May 7, 2013

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    If Only It Would Work, Right?

    Its not all his fault, I taught him how to smoke meth, taught him how I liked to be choked during sex, introduced him to the overall unstable majority of mankind. But now, although I can see the beautiful strong, capable man he once was and has potential for he sees nothing other...
    deiselshake deiselshake 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2011

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    i never fully accepted it.

    even when my school counselor told me he is a psychological, emotional and soon to be physical abuser. i never accepted it or wanted to believe it. so i stayed tried to please him make him happy. but its true, it gets worse and i havent felt so worthless in my life. i feel...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm scared. I can't get out of it

    but I want to so badly. No one even listens to me anymore. They say it's my fault I'm in this situation. It's my fault I'm sad everyday. They don't understand. They don't understand that I can't leave. Then again, I don't even understand it. How can I expect them to if I don't...
    AmieBeth AmieBeth 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    Scared In My Own House

    Im trying to kick my boyfriend out of my house which he is not on the lease and but I packed up all his stuff and in the garage. He has been cheating on me and the girl is pregnant by him. So im just tired of it been with him for 23 yrs first love for me. We have 3 kids together...
    heartbreak12 heartbreak12 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    For Those Who Think That They Can Change Their Lover If...

    They will not change if you behave better. They will not change if you yell back. They will not change if you love them more. They will not change if you become spiteful. They will not change if you talk less. They will not change if you do exactly what they say...
    NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I'm currently in a relationship in

    which I have and am still being abused... And I'm pregnant. My and my boyfriend started out as friends and fell for each other over time. We started officially dating on August 4th, 2013, soon after we confessed our feelings to each other. We had so much fun together as...
    Placebo112 Placebo112 18-21 2 Responses Feb 1

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    I'm Only 19 Years Old...

    And I have just got out of an abusive relatioship. I was dating the boy for two years, during the last year of the relationship, he abused me physically. He verbally abused me during the whole relationship. I was never good enough for him. And he made it obvious. The first...
    bntodd09 bntodd09 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 12, 2009

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    Shoulda Woulda Coulda

    I've been with Carl for almost 8 years.. Things have gone from bad to worse. Of course at first he was picture perfect. He was always so nice and polite, and would listen to every word I said. Everything slowly changed when his Mom asked us to take over his Uncle's home as his...
    ms204604650 ms204604650 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    He's Scaring Me

    I can't believe i'm actually saying this outloud. But, I guess it's time that i should. My boyfriend, John, who i've been dating for the last year and a half has been physically, sexually and verbally abusive. At first i thought it wasn't a big deal. He convinced me to have sex...
    avengedlove976 avengedlove976 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 22, 2012

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    My Story

    I don't even know how to start. It is so hard to admit any of this. I started to date my boyfriend, when I was 15. He was the kindest boy I had ever met. I felt for him instantly. He was my first everything, my first boyfriend, kiss, ect. The 1st year we where together was happy...
    Meridone Meridone 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 10, 2010

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    I am 22 years old and have been dating my 26

    year boyfriend for almost 2 years. We fell for each other so quick. I fell for for him faster than anyone I've ever been with. Things were so great at first we were so so so head over heals crazy for each other. He was a former drug addict and I helped him finally get...
    LostInLovee LostInLovee 22-25, F Feb 21

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    Warning

    As above, so below. Ever stand at that point between a body of water and the sky and feel small between the two? It's an odd feeling, both of the slightest grasp of infinity, but also feeling infinitesimally small.   Contrast is my favorite thing. Dark against light, fire...
    Dreamscientist Dreamscientist 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    Ok Wow No One Knows This...

    I tell my friends im not seeing anyone, well most of my friends anyway.. only a few close friends know... ok here goes.. Ive been in a relationship with a 35 year old, his name is ramon.. im not going to tell you alot about him, as it might be dangerous... lets just say he is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 4, 2013

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    Growing Up The Un-welcomed Guest In A Family

     My mother was raped by her step father and got pregnant with me.  At the time she was married and had a son who is almost 3; after they had me they quickly had another and it was a girl.  Growing up I was the un-welcomed guest, who wasn't good enough for the...
    friendshipanda friendshipanda 31-35, F Feb 1, 2010

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    I Am Just Curious,why Do You Stay?

    I know this is one of those frequently asked questions,but I'm curious. Why do you stay with someone who hurts you? I mean,I love my husband,but if he ever did what some of you women say your husband does to you,I wouldn't hang around. I just don't get it. You say love him. Don't...
    berrybunny berrybunny 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    Are You Ready?

    Are you ready to leave? Maybe you know you're in deep trouble, maybe you suspect the relationship can not be saved, but you're just not quite ready to make the break? That's OK, don't be hard on yourself. Even if you have friends and family urging you to get the hell outta there...
    Ambitieuxetvicieux Ambitieuxetvicieux 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2012

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    Isolated And Depressed, But Freedom Is In Sight!

    So I met my husband five years ago and I must have been on some serious drugs or something. I was 19, he was 31 and lived on his friends couch. He had no job, was on parole with an extensive criminal record and a 13 year old kid that he didn't take care of. I met him at a party...
    acanteloupe acanteloupe 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    ...

    I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 38 at our work 3 years ago. I remember the first time I saw him, I was new and he came up to me and said hi. First it was a crush, then I really liked him and after our first date we were a couple. The beginning was so magical and...
    DeniseS21 DeniseS21 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    I'm in an abusive relationship right now.

    I feel like I'm trapped. This person is holding me down so much. They're mean without realizing it. I hate them.
    LadyBelacqua LadyBelacqua 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 6

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    Torn.

    I'm not positive about what would constitute for what is "abuse" and what is just being mean. But this is my story and I want to tell it. It Hasn't't been long at all, just shy of seven months. I wish I could say I did't see his attitude coming, that I had no idea what he was...
    Devinspade Devinspade 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2011

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    I love my boyfriend more

    than anyone I've ever known. He never fails to amaze me. Most of the time. But when he gets aggressive and angry there's no one I'm more afraid of or loathe more. Verbally he can make me feel 2 ft tall. Physically he beats me. I know it's not my problem, it's his, and I...
    Nessybabi Nessybabi 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 23

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    Wolf In Sheep's Clothing

    NEVER THOUGHT IN A MILLION YEARS THAT I WOULD BE IN THIS SITUATION .I ALWAYS CONSIDERED MYSELF A STRONG MINDED INDIVIDUAL WHO NEVER TOOK NOTHING FROM NO ONE UNTIL DECEMBER 24 2003 WHEN I MET THIS NICE DRESSED VERY HANDSOME SMOOTH TALKING MAN,WHO IS NOW THE FATHER OF MY TWO...
    sophisticatedangel sophisticatedangel 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 16, 2011

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    Sleeping with the enemy.

    Ever seen that movie? Julia Roberts.
    melancholic28 melancholic28 26-30, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am so scared and confused.

    I need advice please:(. I never thought I'd be that girl...
    ljn0317 ljn0317 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    I'm Worthless, Less Worthless Then The Shoes His Wearing He Once Said To Me...

    His my first boyfriend, we met in school aged 15, dated 6 years then got married for 9 years, in total Iv known him for 14 years and counting.... I'm now 29 yrs old, his 30. It started with shouting, pushing, swearing and emotional neglect where he would turn off his phone for...
    Lailaeljamal2013 Lailaeljamal2013 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 29, 2013

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    Never Again!

    It took years of my ex telling me how worthless I was for the pain and anger to erase my fear.  For years I heard how fat and ugly I was, how lucky I was to have him because no one else will ever want me. At night he reminded me about the 22mm that he kept under my bed. He...
    NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp 31-35, F 29 Responses Jan 26, 2010

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    Someday She Will Get Away

    She lays alone and cries into her pillow feeling lost trapped stuck and afraid. She's afraid to leave and afraid to stay, and she wonders to herself if she will ever get away. He knows just how to make her feel useless he knows just how to cause her pain. He keeps her needing...
    JKCE1 JKCE1 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    I don't understand why it's so hard for women to leave an abusive relationship. Sometimes I wish I could pull them away. I was in an abusive relationship for a short time. Verbal...
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    It it interesting to see the reactions of others to my situation. My family, friends, strangers, everyone has an opinion and a strong one at that. I married my hubby for the wrong...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I was in a emotional abusive relationship and I'm out of it now . My ex and I started dating freshman year of high school but we've known each other since 7th grade . He never used...
    Loving1234 Loving1234 16-17, F Mar 31

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    I was in an abusive relationship and as awful as it was it's not the bruises and broken ribs which have caused the most pain and lasted the longest. It's the fact I don't trust my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 3

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    I was with my daughters father for 5 years it started off so nice like all relationships do loving or so i thought, it took me about a year or so to really figure out i was being...
    msrose22 msrose22 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just recently got out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. He punched me in my jaw and on my side/back multiple times the other night. My right cheek is swollen...
    cak22 cak22 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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