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I Am In An Abusive Relationship

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    I don't know what to do.

    This is my first real relationship and it started when I was 17, I think it took a lot of time for me to figure out how deeply wrong this relationship really is because I never had a functional one before. We've been together three years now. I had just started college when we...
    mdmrmdmr mdmrmdmr 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    Been there. Done that.

    Survived it. Never again!
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Jan 21

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    I don't get it. It try

    so hard to just have a good day. Even when we have a good day at the end of the night it's like he doesn't even know me. I'm just dropped. I feel used. I never get a goodnight text like we used to. Nothing he just tells me to leave him alone. I'm so upset. So hurt so lonely. I...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 3 Responses Jun 27, 2014

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    My wife. Controlling

    and emotionally abusive. She has no idea either. I'm strong on the outside. But inside I'm sick of it. She doesn't even know how horrible she is because I take it day after day. But I'm tired.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 26

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    I am so glad that my boyfriend

    and I have the great relationship that we have. I never have to worry about him straying to other girls especially sneaking around or lying. I never get the urge to check his phone or computer because there wouldn't be inappropriate conversations. When I go to my friends or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 28

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    I have recently taken a break from my boyfriend.

    The fight we had days ago, still makes me feel numb; we haven't talked since. And here I am, looking at my phone, wondering if we will ever talk again. So what caused this? (It's two parts! Sorry for it being so long) I. About a month ago, my male friend invited me to...
    Realitymeetsbliss Realitymeetsbliss 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    But Still, I Stay ....

    Obviously he's been hitting me but never my face .... had my first miscarriage because him and he made me have an abortion . but i stay because i don't know what else to do . he makes me feel so small and young ... he's older way older . i love him i know he loves me but it's...
    CallMeDizzy CallMeDizzy 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 8, 2012

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    For Those Who Think That They Can Change Their Lover If...

    They will not change if you behave better. They will not change if you yell back. They will not change if you love them more. They will not change if you become spiteful. They will not change if you talk less. They will not change if you do exactly what they say...
    NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    I wrote this about my life,

    my child....my friend asked me to post it here, in hopes it would help someone going through the same thing...If you are i beg you, get out but do it in a safe manner, make a plan with someone you can trust, and get out safely...you or you're children need not hurt one more day...
    AngeleyesUponU AngeleyesUponU 41-45, F 4 Responses May 25

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    Scared In My Own House

    Im trying to kick my boyfriend out of my house which he is not on the lease and but I packed up all his stuff and in the garage. He has been cheating on me and the girl is pregnant by him. So im just tired of it been with him for 23 yrs first love for me. We have 3 kids together...
    heartbreak12 heartbreak12 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    I am 5 months pregnant

    and my boyfriend has intimidated and disrespected me, even tortured me the while way. Everything is coming together now. Be married first, stable careers (not jobs), find a man who comes from a good family....I heard it all, but kept hope that my love, who was far from "ideal...
    ihopetoseeclearly ihopetoseeclearly 22-25 Nov 8, 2014

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    If Only It Would Work, Right?

    Its not all his fault, I taught him how to smoke meth, taught him how I liked to be choked during sex, introduced him to the overall unstable majority of mankind. But now, although I can see the beautiful strong, capable man he once was and has potential for he sees nothing other...
    deiselshake deiselshake 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 11, 2011

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    I am 5 months pregnant

    and my boyfriend has intimidated and disrespected me, even tortured me the while way. Everything is coming together now. Be married first, stable careers (not jobs), find a man who comes from a good family....I heard it all, but kept hope that my love, who was far from "ideal...
    ihopetoseeclearly ihopetoseeclearly 22-25 Nov 8, 2014

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    I'm Used To It

    If I don't do the laundry, I'll be screamed at. If I complain about anything, its obviously my fault. If I stand up for myself things start getting thrown. If she hits me, its ok. If I hit back I'm the man and get jail threats. If I cry about it for days, maybe I should have...
    senmetsu senmetsu 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    This is my first serious relationship

    and it's been 2 years since we are together.he is really sweet n caring n pampers me a lot. It was after 6 months that he first got physically abusive with me and he felt really really bad seconds after that. I thought it would never happen again. But it did ..it got worse..he...
    iresa iresa 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Shoulda Woulda Coulda

    I've been with Carl for almost 8 years.. Things have gone from bad to worse. Of course at first he was picture perfect. He was always so nice and polite, and would listen to every word I said. Everything slowly changed when his Mom asked us to take over his Uncle's home as his...
    ms204604650 ms204604650 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    help. . help.. help..

    help.. I'm not going to make it out of this.
    tiannadianee tiannadianee 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    Never Again!

    It took years of my ex telling me how worthless I was for the pain and anger to erase my fear.  For years I heard how fat and ugly I was, how lucky I was to have him because no one else will ever want me. At night he reminded me about the 22mm that he kept under my bed. He...
    NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp 31-35, F 29 Responses Jan 26, 2010

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    ...

    I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 38 at our work 3 years ago. I remember the first time I saw him, I was new and he came up to me and said hi. First it was a crush, then I really liked him and after our first date we were a couple. The beginning was so magical and...
    DeniseS21 DeniseS21 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Was Abused-How It Affected Me And The Fact That You Need To Leave ASAP

    I never realized I was being abused. I was so lost from my childhood that it felt "normal". He pushed me, kicked me, slapped me in the face, put me in a headlock, punched me all over my face, smashed my in the face across my jaw, ripped my clothes off me, spit on me, threw out my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 22, 2013

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    we have been together

    for 2 yrs before getting pregnant he had punched the wall then a later arguemnt he head butt me, then kept escalating went to pining me down like a man, pushing me, then slapped me. I would forgive and believed that it wouldnt happen agaim. Things are great when hes not angry my...
    agl0218 agl0218 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    I Am Just Curious,why Do You Stay?

    I know this is one of those frequently asked questions,but I'm curious. Why do you stay with someone who hurts you? I mean,I love my husband,but if he ever did what some of you women say your husband does to you,I wouldn't hang around. I just don't get it. You say love him. Don't...
    berrybunny berrybunny 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    I married him, twice,

    ugh! First time lasted 7 days div in 6 months 2 nd time my health got bad i missed months of work so i married him again! Ok, so he kicked me in my back... My fault of course, he threaten to get a gun in front of my kids n his if i didnt get the bleep out, my fault to, so i go...
    cjustice cjustice 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    my boyfriend has spoken to over 100 others

    girls during our 1 year and 5 month relationship, he's verbally abusive, he tells me no one wants me, hopes i die, hopes i kill myself, tells me i'm worthless, calls me every name under the sun, every nasty thing you could possibly say to someone he has said to me. He's slapped...
    mxlly mxlly 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    I don't know what to do I am 16 this is the 2nd

    I am with this guy we've only been together a few weeks and he has started again my grandmother wants me to join a domestic violence counseling group buyin don't know what to I can't have friends I have to ask permission to do things if he says I can't do it that's the end of it...
    kassidia kassidia 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2014

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    Broken Heart. Broken Bones.

    me and him. walking down the road. in love. he understands me. he listens. he cares. at least, i thought he did. i was very wrong. i thought it would be impossible for me to be in a relationship, due to my many personal/medical problems. but he understood everything. i thought he...
    xxCuttingGirlxx xxCuttingGirlxx 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    I'm scared. I can't get out of it

    but I want to so badly. No one even listens to me anymore. They say it's my fault I'm in this situation. It's my fault I'm sad everyday. They don't understand. They don't understand that I can't leave. Then again, I don't even understand it. How can I expect them to if I don't...
    AmieBeth AmieBeth 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    It Can't Be All My Fault!

    I have been in an abusive on-off relationship for three years. We have been together exclusively the past year, before that it was a couple months here and there. We have a two year old son. This last time we got back together, I made that decision because he begged me and I...
    mad04h mad04h 18-21 9 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    everyone please pray

    for me to find the strength to leave him before i end up dead. it's really bad:(
    mfox3579 mfox3579 31-35, F 11 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    I don't know how it became like this.

    I used to think that this would never happen to someone like me, "young". But now I know this can happen to anyone, at anytime, and in any relationships.
    Feliximai Feliximai 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2014

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    I really thought my boyfriend was different

    but i guess we all do at one point. He started pushing me when he was upset which after the first tike promised he would never do again and he slept upstairs for a few nights and bought me gifts to say sorry and i eventually forgave him and then it started to get worse and he...
    tengomiedo tengomiedo 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 21

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    There Are Three Types Of Abuse.

    The most obvious is physical. The other two are emotional and mental. He threatens physical all the time but knows leaving marks would mean trouble with my family. So instead he doesn't leave marks, physical ones at least. I have faced mental abuse my whole life. But when it...
    he8myheart he8myheart 16-17, F Jun 21, 2013

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    In An Abusive Relationship

    but i dont want to get out. I want this to work out and I believe in his change. He is not even my boyfriend but we have been lovers on and off for about 8 months. I saw the signs early so I began pulling away but the more I get away the more I miss him. I just dont want to be...
    fantasiamoon fantasiamoon 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 24, 2010

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    "Does he ever hit you?

    " I have been asked that so often, and I always say "no..." but I am thinking: "well he doesn't hit me but...he pushes me, grabs hold of my arms so hard it leaves bruises... he has pushed me to the floor, sat on me so I can't get up...pushed my face to the floor, leaving...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 46-50, F 6 Responses May 17, 2014

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    Torn.

    I'm not positive about what would constitute for what is "abuse" and what is just being mean. But this is my story and I want to tell it. It Hasn't't been long at all, just shy of seven months. I wish I could say I did't see his attitude coming, that I had no idea what he was...
    Devinspade Devinspade 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2011

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    I've Been Told It Is

    My bf and I have been dating for about a year and 9-10 months. We met each other at a lil party were we basically got drunk and had a one night stand. He called me a week later. We were going out for about 11 months and the by the 9th month he started to become more of a...
    Pagangirl Pagangirl 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    Someday She Will Get Away

    She lays alone and cries into her pillow feeling lost trapped stuck and afraid. She's afraid to leave and afraid to stay, and she wonders to herself if she will ever get away. He knows just how to make her feel useless he knows just how to cause her pain. He keeps her needing...
    JKCE1 JKCE1 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    LOVE???????

    So many people use the word love without ever knowing what it means. Love doesn't mean hurt, anger and sadness. It means caring, thoughtful, kindness. I can tell you all that I am living proof that abuse is an endless cycle. I grew up with an abusive father. Every relationship...
    thecalm1 thecalm1 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    I am writing this having read a post from a man

    who is in an abusive relationship....I have read so many stories from women but it is not just women that are victims of domestic violence. Many men are in this situation, and as hard as it is for women to get help it is often much harder for men. Many men feel that if they...
    00FlyingHome 00FlyingHome 46-50, F 7 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    Someone please tell me I don't need a man to

    make me happy. I'm struggling with a relationship gone horribly wrong. I'm mentally and emotionally abused by him but he's the only thing I have right now and I am scared to let go. I don't have many friends at all. The only good thing I have right now is my job and because he...
    sierramist240 sierramist240 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I want to leave but then again I don't.

    . He says he's sorry and that he loves me and it'll never happen again. But I just don't know. I'm confused by his actions.
    rileynicole rileynicole 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    hey threatens to kill me

    when I try to leave and I have no where to go. my throat is bruised and sore from my attempt yesterday.
    minglish83 minglish83 41-45, F 2 Responses May 29

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    I Have No Mouth,and I Must Scream

    It once was good,then it was bad,then it was great,but only for a short time,then it was really bad,and now it's as bad as it's ever been. I usually know how to tone down his anger. I'm finely attuned to what makes him want to throw down. I can control the situation,at least...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    Second day of his small talk

    and watching him with other girls he must be mad at me and I'm nervous
    kassidia kassidia 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2014

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    I am 5 months pregnant

    and my boyfriend has intimidated and disrespected me, even tortured me the while way. Everything is coming together now. Be married first, stable careers (not jobs), find a man who comes from a good family....I heard it all, but kept hope that my love, who was far from "ideal...
    ihopetoseeclearly ihopetoseeclearly 22-25 3 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 2 Responses