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I Am In An Abusive Relationship

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    Im alive yet feel dead someone save me from my

    own head i want to breathe but i don't i want to leave but i won't i feel like i have it all figured out i feel i know without a doubt the truth it i have no clue the truth is i can't leave you the worst part? you know. you can do anything and i won't go i know its sick it...
    glitternglamxo glitternglamxo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I Am Just Curious,why Do You Stay?

    I know this is one of those frequently asked questions,but I'm curious. Why do you stay with someone who hurts you? I mean,I love my husband,but if he ever did what some of you women say your husband does to you,I wouldn't hang around. I just don't get it. You say love him. Don't...
    berrybunny berrybunny 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    I love my boyfriend more

    than anyone I've ever known. He never fails to amaze me. Most of the time. But when he gets aggressive and angry there's no one I'm more afraid of or loathe more. Verbally he can make me feel 2 ft tall. Physically he beats me. I know it's not my problem, it's his, and I...
    Nessybabi Nessybabi 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    Today in school, my counselor took me to talk

    to a police officer. A school cop ofcourse. we spoke hypothetically about what the process would be for a restraining order or any other report. my counselor doesnt know i still spend everyday with him. i just spend today with him... and to be honest i tried to see everything...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 Response Apr 24

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    00flyaway 00flyaway 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    I don't get it. It try

    so hard to just have a good day. Even when we have a good day at the end of the night it's like he doesn't even know me. I'm just dropped. I feel used. I never get a goodnight text like we used to. Nothing he just tells me to leave him alone. I'm so upset. So hurt so lonely. I...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 3 Responses Jun 27

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    I am 22 years old and have been dating my 26

    year boyfriend for almost 2 years. We fell for each other so quick. I fell for for him faster than anyone I've ever been with. Things were so great at first we were so so so head over heals crazy for each other. He was a former drug addict and I helped him finally get...
    LostInLovee LostInLovee 22-25, F Feb 21

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    i never fully accepted it.

    even when my school counselor told me he is a psychological, emotional and soon to be physical abuser. i never accepted it or wanted to believe it. so i stayed tried to please him make him happy. but its true, it gets worse and i havent felt so worthless in my life. i feel...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 2 Responses Apr 18

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    i dont want to seem like im calling out

    for help. i dont want to seem weak i dont want to feel like a victim. but god save me . i have never been so miserable and scared in my life. god please save me
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 4 Responses Apr 21

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    Torn.

    I'm not positive about what would constitute for what is "abuse" and what is just being mean. But this is my story and I want to tell it. It Hasn't't been long at all, just shy of seven months. I wish I could say I did't see his attitude coming, that I had no idea what he was...
    Devinspade Devinspade 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 23, 2011

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    I am so scared and confused.

    I need advice please:(. I never thought I'd be that girl...
    ljn0317 ljn0317 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    Four days . Thought i was doing well.

    He pops up calls me texts me. Trying to get me sucked in again. He tells me he will see me tomorrow. He was with his friend while screaming at me on the phone yet his friend isnt saying anything about it. No one cares. No one knows what im going through. I am scared for...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 Response May 11

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    Never Again!

    It took years of my ex telling me how worthless I was for the pain and anger to erase my fear.  For years I heard how fat and ugly I was, how lucky I was to have him because no one else will ever want me. At night he reminded me about the 22mm that he kept under my bed. He...
    NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp 31-35, F 29 Responses Jan 26, 2010

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    I am about to give birth to my daughter in

    approx 4 days and my husband has been missing for almost a week...we have a two year old and I don't know what to say to him when he asks for daddy.
    infinitebeauty7 infinitebeauty7 26-30, F Apr 24

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    Was Abused-How It Affected Me And The Fact That You Need To Leave ASAP

    I never realized I was being abused. I was so lost from my childhood that it felt "normal". He pushed me, kicked me, slapped me in the face, put me in a headlock, punched me all over my face, smashed my in the face across my jaw, ripped my clothes off me, spit on me, threw out my...
    cupcakelver cupcakelver 22-25, F Sep 22, 2013

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    Sometimes it just gets hard trying to hide the

    reality from other people. Sometimes it hurts to defend him when deep inside you want to cry for help. Sometimes its painful for the people you love thinking you are the crazy one not him. Sometimes when people ask if what he said was true ( he told his cousin he hit me before...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 2 Responses May 22

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    LOVE???????

    So many people use the word love without ever knowing what it means. Love doesn't mean hurt, anger and sadness. It means caring, thoughtful, kindness. I can tell you all that I am living proof that abuse is an endless cycle. I grew up with an abusive father. Every relationship...
    thecalm1 thecalm1 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2009

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    we went to go to the mall

    but midway he told me i was being an *** and laughing at him and he turned all the way back home. On the way he said he should be laughing at me bcaause i always run back and chasr after him. I got upset and got out the car and said ill leave him alone now but he picked me up...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 Response Apr 30

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    I am currently in a emotionally abusive

    relationship. I live in milwaukee & have no family to run to. My family is in Indiana, Chicago & Florida. I can't move out (from my abuser) because I don't have the money & because I need to stay in milwaukee until I'm done with school. I graduate in September. I fight every...
    loloelisabeth loloelisabeth 22-25, F Jul 18

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    It Can't Be All My Fault!

    I have been in an abusive on-off relationship for three years. We have been together exclusively the past year, before that it was a couple months here and there. We have a two year old son. This last time we got back together, I made that decision because he begged me and I...
    mad04h mad04h 18-21 9 Responses Jul 3, 2008

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    If Only It Would Work, Right?

    Its not all his fault, I taught him how to smoke meth, taught him how I liked to be choked during sex, introduced him to the overall unstable majority of mankind. But now, although I can see the beautiful strong, capable man he once was and has potential for he sees nothing other...
    deiselshake deiselshake 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 11, 2011

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    Verbal abuse, emotional abuse,

    financial abuse. He has never hit me but has raised his fist to me and then thought better of it. We have been together for almost 20 years and have a child. His behaviour towards me has got worse and worse as time has gone by and for the last couple of years it's been terrible...
    EllisRose EllisRose 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 24

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    my husband has gotten worse

    and worse lately. I really am starting to hate him more each day. He hit me for the first time sober the other day, and I was sleeping so I didn't even have the chance to defend myself. I know it is going to get worse bc it always does. Just when I think he has done it all he...
    shaunnalynn shaunnalynn 26-30, F Apr 14

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    Are You Ready?

    Are you ready to leave? Maybe you know you're in deep trouble, maybe you suspect the relationship can not be saved, but you're just not quite ready to make the break? That's OK, don't be hard on yourself. Even if you have friends and family urging you to get the hell outta there...
    Vivagalore Vivagalore 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 24, 2012

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    I'm scared. I can't get out of it

    but I want to so badly. No one even listens to me anymore. They say it's my fault I'm in this situation. It's my fault I'm sad everyday. They don't understand. They don't understand that I can't leave. Then again, I don't even understand it. How can I expect them to if I don't...
    AmieBeth AmieBeth 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    I've Been Told It Is

    My bf and I have been dating for about a year and 9-10 months. We met each other at a lil party were we basically got drunk and had a one night stand. He called me a week later. We were going out for about 11 months and the by the 9th month he started to become more of a...
    Pagangirl Pagangirl 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    I'm in an abusive relationship right now.

    I feel like I'm trapped. This person is holding me down so much. They're mean without realizing it. I hate them.
    LadyBelacqua LadyBelacqua 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 6

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    I Have No Mouth,and I Must Scream

    It once was good,then it was bad,then it was great,but only for a short time,then it was really bad,and now it's as bad as it's ever been. I usually know how to tone down his anger. I'm finely attuned to what makes him want to throw down. I can control the situation,at least...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 7, 2012

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    After being broken up

    for five days we finally talked and hung out. He made me feel special and loved. Got me food and i got him desert. He had sex with me two times and at the end of the day promised he was going to the park then going straight home and he will not ignore me and i told him please...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 2 Responses May 14

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    ...

    I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 38 at our work 3 years ago. I remember the first time I saw him, I was new and he came up to me and said hi. First it was a crush, then I really liked him and after our first date we were a couple. The beginning was so magical and...
    DeniseS21 DeniseS21 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 28, 2013

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    Am I Being Abused????

    I am 21 and engaged. We been together for almost 3 years. Every time we get into an argument he calls me really bad names like the B word, a psycho and he even called me an ugly mfer, he also said how he can't take me anywhere and how he wished I was off the face of the earth...
    alexis122 alexis122 18-21, F 56 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Sleeping with the enemy.

    Ever seen that movie? Julia Roberts.
    melancholic28 melancholic28 26-30, F Apr 18

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    Shoulda Woulda Coulda

    I've been with Carl for almost 8 years.. Things have gone from bad to worse. Of course at first he was picture perfect. He was always so nice and polite, and would listen to every word I said. Everything slowly changed when his Mom asked us to take over his Uncle's home as his...
    ms204604650 ms204604650 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2012

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    I have a 6 month old baby with the love of my

    life, we live together. He can be a great Person sometimes but when he gets angry he is a very dark Person. He beats me in the Head, all over the body and punched me in the stomach. Everytime he hits me and i try to leave he tells me that he Will change and begs me to stay. I...
    manthona manthona 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I'm currently in a relationship in

    which I have and am still being abused... And I'm pregnant. My and my boyfriend started out as friends and fell for each other over time. We started officially dating on August 4th, 2013, soon after we confessed our feelings to each other. We had so much fun together as...
    Placebo112 Placebo112 18-21 2 Responses Feb 1

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    I know it's wrong to stay

    but so hard to walk away he put his hands on me when I was pregnant and now av had my boy it's got worse I hate him but why can't I leave him
    K1GIRl K1GIRl 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    So tired of being invisible,

    feeling worthless and used. So tired of everyone thinking I'm the crazy one...always sad.. always down. No one asks why. No one cares. I have to shuttup and listen and behave and not look sad. I can never look sad, not in front of his family or friends or in public or in front...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 2 Responses Jul 4

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    So, my family is gone

    for 3 days so I will be home alone for 3 days. I'm pretty happy, I can do whatever and plus I invited a couple of friends tonight for some drinks. But I'm also scared. We broke up again this time I told him to never speak to me again (which I never say) so this time I'm on the...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 day ago

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    Isolated And Depressed, But Freedom Is In Sight!

    So I met my husband five years ago and I must have been on some serious drugs or something. I was 19, he was 31 and lived on his friends couch. He had no job, was on parole with an extensive criminal record and a 13 year old kid that he didn't take care of. I met him at a party...
    acanteloupe acanteloupe 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 11, 2013

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    In An Abusive Relationship

    but i dont want to get out. I want this to work out and I believe in his change. He is not even my boyfriend but we have been lovers on and off for about 8 months. I saw the signs early so I began pulling away but the more I get away the more I miss him. I just dont want to be...
    fantasiamoon fantasiamoon 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 24, 2010

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    I have lied to my family,

    and jus put it all out of my mind. I am numb. She beats me and hurts me when im at my weakest. And what makes it worse is that i have cancer so its hard to fight. I feel like just letting her win. Idk what to do anymore
    telliebabi telliebabi 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Made new guy friends.

    They are really like brothers to me. We hang out. Went to the beach. We just have a good time. Laugh. I feel safe with them. They tell me if he ever touches me again to let them know. I feel safe. But i still love my bf very much. I think i should start realizing that it isnt...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 May 26

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    I need some advice/support,

    please! I can't turn to family or friends anymore. Everyone in my life hates him and I've tried unconvincingly to pretend I don't see him anymore. I've been with "him" for over 7 years now. Every year got worse, then every month. Now it's everyday. I don't know why I still love...
    k9lover4ever k9lover4ever 26-30, F 2 Responses May 7

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    Scared In My Own House

    Im trying to kick my boyfriend out of my house which he is not on the lease and but I packed up all his stuff and in the garage. He has been cheating on me and the girl is pregnant by him. So im just tired of it been with him for 23 yrs first love for me. We have 3 kids together...
    heartbreak12 heartbreak12 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    Someday She Will Get Away

    She lays alone and cries into her pillow feeling lost trapped stuck and afraid. She's afraid to leave and afraid to stay, and she wonders to herself if she will ever get away. He knows just how to make her feel useless he knows just how to cause her pain. He keeps her needing...
    JKCE1 JKCE1 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    I'm Used To It

    If I don't do the laundry, I'll be screamed at. If I complain about anything, its obviously my fault. If I stand up for myself things start getting thrown. If she hits me, its ok. If I hit back I'm the man and get jail threats. If I cry about it for days, maybe I should have...
    senmetsu senmetsu 22-25, M 4 Responses Nov 13, 2009

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    why am i so in love with him?

    how?? how is this possible? i am so in love. i am so attached. i imagine myself without him, i picture myself without him i picture us apart and it makes me want to cry. i cant. let go. he is so unhealthy for me, but its like... i stay and i want him. and i want him, all of it...
    somegirl117 somegirl117 18-21 1 Response Apr 23

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    "Does he ever hit you?

    " I have been asked that so often, and I always say "no..." but I am thinking: "well he doesn't hit me but...he pushes me, grabs hold of my arms so hard it leaves bruises... he has pushed me to the floor, sat on me so I can't get up...pushed my face to the floor, leaving...
    00flyaway 00flyaway 41-45, F 4 Responses May 17

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    For Those Who Think That They Can Change Their Lover If...

    They will not change if you behave better. They will not change if you yell back. They will not change if you love them more. They will not change if you become spiteful. They will not change if you talk less. They will not change if you do exactly what they say...
    NoWhereToGoButUp NoWhereToGoButUp 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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