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I Am In An Almost Sexless Marriage

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    Things Do Get Better - I posted in ILIASM and also I am the refuser in a sexless marriage. I am not going to repost but i just want to say refusers can gradually change. In my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 28, 2012

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    Marital Rights? - I read this blog post this morning, and a had an epiphany... http://mydangspace.com/pleasing/the-right-to-*********/ The author states that men are biologically...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M Jun 26, 2012

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    My Friends Want To Swap .. I Think .. Hope .. I Must Be Imagining This - At my birthday party, a couple we have been friends with for many years suggested that we wife swap. It is...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I live in a nearly sexless marriage. Once every month or so, we have intercourse. Sometimes less. She has an extremely low libido, whereas I have a very high one. This is how...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 26

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    I Guess It Really Is Me - Posting is this forum over the last few months has allowed me to examine my relationship much more closely and face some issues that I really didn't want...
    samedeepwater samedeepwater 46-50, M 3 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    Maybe It's Me - I've done some searching on EP, and I can't find the opposite to this group. Something like, "My husband wants to have sex all the time." Or, "All my wife thinks...
    samedeepwater samedeepwater 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 19, 2013

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    The Psychology Of It - I live in a sexless marriage. It is nobody’s fault.  My wife has her sex drive.  I have mine.  If she lived with a man who liked to have basic sex...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 27, 2013

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    Ever Wonder What Would Have Been If You Hadn't Said "hi"? - I look back at that night on the dance floor and wonder what would have happened if I didn't ask for that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses May 21, 2012

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    I Sometimes Feel Guilty - We have been married for over 20 years and I love my husband dearly. For most of our marriage, we had a great sex life. But in the last two of years...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 2, 2012

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    Incarcerated - We had an item in the local news last week where a female prison guard was caught having sex with a male inmate. The first thought that popped into my head was that...
    samedeepwater samedeepwater 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    Another Night In A Hidden Rage. - Boy you would think the four books on relationships, sex, and marrage I'm reading would drive the point home. After the talk a year ago about 'not...
    KobayashiMaru KobayashiMaru 36-40 2 Responses Mar 25, 2012

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    Letter To My Wife - So we had another argument of this fun issue and I decide to send her an email about how I felt. I'm guessing it will fall on deaf ears, but at least she can't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 29 Responses Jun 8, 2012

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    To Special Friends - I'm married in an almost sexless marriage and have gotten used to ************ at least once a day to relieve my sexual tension. While the wife could be...
    BasicDesire BasicDesire 56-60, M Apr 29, 2013

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    Horrible - Its horrible, i feel unwanted, needy, desperate for the touch of a woman, i feel ugly, i am full of passion and love to give and so so desperade.
    Poems Poems 31-35, M May 4, 2013

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    How To Make Time With A Baby In The House? - My wife and I very much desire each other, but she doesn't *make* time for us. We've gone from multiple times a week to *maybe* a...
    onlymortal onlymortal 26-30, M 1 Response Feb 12, 2013

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    I Don'T Want To "Hope" Anymore - Hoping just sets you up for heartache and frustration.
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 7 Responses Apr 16, 2013

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    Vacation Why? - So DW, who has gone out of her way to reject and emasculate me, is trying to plan a vacation. Who cares why go and spend the money, so I can be rejected in a hotel...
    draumr draumr 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2013

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    Reality Check - This is a reality check for all you people who think you are in an "almost" sexless marriage. Although by technicality you might not qualify to be in a sexless...
    TheWendigo TheWendigo 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    25, Alone And Married. - I’ve been perusing these support forums all over the web for the past few months. Looking for answers, looking for advice, trying to make sure it wasn...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    Back To The Once A Month Plan - We had sex 4 times in February, while we were attempting the 10 day challenge, but the last time we were intimate was Feb 23 ... so i guess we have...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 9 Responses Mar 27, 2013

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    Reality Hits Hard. - I write this, not as a means of trying to start conversations, just as a means of expressing myself and how I feel regarding the recent situations in my life...
    mythos52003 mythos52003 41-45, M 5 Responses Feb 9, 2012

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    At A Crossroad - I applaud everyone for sharing their stories here. I know it takes courage to do so. This is uncomfortable to share, but maybe it will be cathartic for me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Jun 11, 2012

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    Marriage Void Of Intimacy - We've been married 14 years. Everything is great except there is no passion and little to no intimacy. He even told me recently that he has sex with me...
    1 Response Feb 3, 2013

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    The Braille Wife - I got to wondering the other day how long it's been since I've seen my wife naked. This may seem an odd comment as we do occasionally have sex (or I'd be in the...
    samedeepwater samedeepwater 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    Almost? - At what point does "an almost" become "a"? It seems my wife and I are falling further and further apart as far as the sexual relationships go. I try, but am apparently...
    ironguy ironguy 46-50, M 3 Responses May 13, 2013

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    Almost Sexless Marriage Parameters - Like everyone else I've read that 10 times or less a year is considered sexless. Now what parameters do you give Almost Sexless? The easy...
    PC2629 PC2629 56-60, M 17 Responses Jan 5, 2012

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    Does Romance, Love, Sex Have To Die Off When You Get In Your 40's?? - I've been reading other similar posts on nearly sexless marriages, frustrations with low or no drive or if it...
    PL466 PL466 46-50, F 13 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    Help Need To Be Held And Have Sex Soon - i am only 36 my husband is 41 we do not hardly ever have sex i am going crazy is it because he has hit a certain age or what the heck i am...
    turleyj turleyj 36-40, F 4 Responses May 2, 2012

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    Brother-in-laws Touch - As I stated before I long for anal sex, and for some reason am not having any luck. Last Thursday evening we had my husbands brother and his wife over...
    mrsmarleen mrsmarleen 61-65, F 20 Responses Jul 6, 2011

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    My Wife From Then, To Now! - When my wife and I met, it was love at first sight. As we got to know eachother, we knew we would be together, and eventually get married. We get along...
    experienceman11 experienceman11 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 5, 2013

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    Is It Wrong To "count?" - First some background.  I am in what I consider an almost sexless marriage.  Like many of you, mine did not start out that way but has ended...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    Things It Took Me A While To Figure Out - The overwhelming negativity of the posts in experiences like this one is the reason why I have not read or posted much here recently. Two...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 6, 2012

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    Getting More Confident Since Identifying With Many - So now, I have read many stories on this site that have hit so close to the nail on the head, that it has literally resulted in...
    exstranger exstranger 46-50, M 5 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    I Need To Lower My Expectations - There must be just hundreds of you that could relate. You understand your spouse has no interest in intimacy but yet you still remain hopeful...
    PC2629 PC2629 56-60, M 9 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    When Do You Consider It A Sexless Marriage?? - I haven't had sex in 6 weeks.. We would normally have sex at least 2 x a week. For a little over a week, he's been in the spare...
    SexyRed33 SexyRed33 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 4, 2013

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    Where To Go From Here. - My husband of 12 years recently caught me with some online foolishness and here I am again reaching out longline for answers. He is a good man, good to the...
    Queenoffake Queenoffake 41-45, F Apr 16, 2013

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    I Have A Question That Gets Ignored At The Appropriate Question Spot On This Site, But I Think It's Relevant Here. - This is what I wrote, "How do I frame the question of why my...
    stone022 stone022 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 11, 2013

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    Operation **** Nazi----part One - All of us remember the "Soup Nazi" from the tv series Seinfeld. If one didn't follow the exact prescribed procedure "No soup for you!". Well, as...
    AOX3 AOX3 56-60, M 14 Responses Jun 17, 2012

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    I Am So Glad She Cleared That Up For Me - I was discussing the lack of sexual frequency in our marriage with my wife, and to prove to her that some women actually do pursue sex, I...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 35 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    Wants And Needs -    There was a sex confession that caught my imagination called 'Mirror Image'. I think it would be super cool to sit and watch this happen. I wanna see him get...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 7, 2012

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    Invitations And Acceptance - Last night, my wife and I were enjoying a quiet evening in. My wife was sitting in her chair doing a crossword puzzle, one of her favorite things to do...
    LostInTheWoulds LostInTheWoulds 46-50, M 10 Responses Feb 13, 2013

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    I Don't Belong Here. - An internet acquaintance told me about this group. I don't think excited is the right word to describe how I felt about joining. Maybe it was more like...
    seattlechick seattlechick 31-35, F 6 Responses May 30, 2012

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    I Stay For The Money?? - I'm a ILIASM member and I think one of the biggest reason I stay with my SO is for the money. It's not that simple really, but sometimes it is. I've been...
    Rousana Rousana 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    Excuses Are All They Are - A story this week and the responses have touched me deeply. I have been in a duty sex or sexless marriage for years. My wife’s says I have anger issues...
    NWFLMan NWFLMan 51-55, M 3 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    If Sex Is To Happen,,, Ever... It's Always Up To Me To Initiate It. - And the quality of the passion recieved is not all that great. We're in a 30 year dedicated marriage. Not...
    Ndullgent1 Ndullgent1 51-55, M 21 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    Sadface - The sex is there, it's just that he **** so quickly. I don't get to finish and am left hanging. Guess I should just lay there but no, then I still wouldn't get off. It...
    sizzzlin69 sizzzlin69 31-35, F 13 Responses Mar 18, 2013

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    I Wonder What It's Like - I wonder what it's like... To receive a text at work, just because she's thinking of you and can't wait until you get home. To be greeted at the door...
    samedeepwater samedeepwater 46-50, M Sep 19, 2013

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    A Half Assed Attempt... - So, yesterday I almost had sex. My hubby was going to be at work and I was really horny...I mean really horny. So I dress up like a **** and I'm going to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    Missing Out - So in the last week or so it's been Xmas and my birthday. You'd think that both of those days would be guaranteed but no, still haven't had any for either occasion
    Davo2800 Davo2800 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 25, 2012

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    Less Than One Year Of Marriage... - We have been together since we were 18, married now for less than one year. Sex never seems to happen unless it is a weekend and he is drunk. We...
    someoneyouusedtoknow someoneyouusedtoknow 22-25, F 6 Responses May 7, 2012

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    Is This Why? - Note: I've tried to figure where to put this on EP, but I also wonder if this happens to me because I don't get much sex... Anyone? I'm certain other women have...
    Indie42 Indie42 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 22, 2012