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I Am In An Arranged Marriage

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    I Wish I'd Had The Option Of Arranged Marriage.

    This is going to sound all kinds of crazy to most other Americans here. I want to start by saying I do not think that you should be forced to marry anyone you do not want to. I just wish I'd had the option of arranged marriage. I know it sounds ridiculous, but if that's so, isn...
    leopardspots leopardspots 31-35 2 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    Is Your Arranged Marriage Making You Live A Double Life?

    MTV is NOW CASTING! Do you lead a double life? We’re looking for extreme here (i.e. accountant all week and racecar driver on weekends), so actors trying to make ends meet need not apply. Or maybe you work (and look like you belong) in a world of luxury, but your home is the...
    NandD NandD 18-21 4 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    My Ex Is Having An Arranged Marriage

    I am a black 19 year old female and I was with this Pakistani guy..i loved him very very much n when I say I loved him,believe me He called me during Ramadan to say that he is going to Pakistan to get married because his Dad really wants him to n he has no choice and cannot say...
    charmekay charmekay 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    On The Way_ _ _arranged Marriage

    My story is bit different the usual kinds but I need your advise.. I am very simple gal with just an average looking persona and the harsh part is I am few steps away from 30. Alwaz wanted to go for an arranged marriage setup but des days it has become a big headache as every...
    mahikaluv mahikaluv 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    I Might Be In An Arranged Marriage

    I'm in something that's similar to an arranged marriage, though in my situation it's a little bit more of my fault... I've never had a boyfriend or even kissed or held hands with another guy... and now I have to suddenly be in a relationship with a guy I never met before? I admit...
    nessie333 nessie333 18-21, F 10 Responses May 15, 2011

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    Got Married Recently

    First of all let me tell you guys that I am from India. There is only one type of marriage that is prevalent here and that is "arranged marriage". I am also into it. I got married last year in November. We are both working and so live apart (about 1000 kms). We both live in India...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I Will Be

    I'm of indian extraction and arranged marriages are part of our culture. I'm actually happy with that - all the evidence is that they last longer and are mor fulfilling. My sister is certainly very happy that way and I'm happy that my parents will chose someone suitable for me...
    amrapalipatel amrapalipatel 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    Arranged Struggle

    This story is quite long. I am older now, at age 60, and my husband and I no longer live together, but we have never divorced. When I was 15, my family was very poor. My father had lost his job due to injury and social norms meant my mother never worked. A good option seemed...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    Arranged And Happy

    I am married to a wonderful man and our marriage was arranged my our fathers. We both come from very strict christian homes with very old fashioned values. My parents were arranged and so I knew I would be as well. My husband and I met 1 yr before we wed and spent time getting...
    jointhecorner jointhecorner 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    I only recently found out

    that I will be getting married to an Italian man who is the son of a close friend of my family. my family are eager for me to get with this man, except for my brother, he is quite worried about the whole situation. My father on the other hand is especially for the whole idea...
    Wattouat Wattouat 18-21, F 3 Responses May 15

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    I Have To Get Married And Don't Know Him

    I've been with a lot of people sexually, I'm not proud of it but I won't hide it. My parents let me be, have fun because they know that when I turn 20 I have to be a wife to who they choose. The only thing I know about him is that he's 26 and his name. I'm trying to find a way...
    aftermathoff aftermathoff 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    At Arrange Marriage Meeting

    Dear Bushra Bl, I don’t know what Bl means to your name. I wanted to ask you when I met you. I had so much things I had planned that I should tell you. I studied hours in the net surfing facebook, google, twitter to know about you. What you would like and what you would not...
    saihamworld saihamworld 26-30, M Jun 13, 2013

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of

    Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and decided to place it in this group. Perhaps, those who are in a similar situation might get something from it, to know what to expect. I am...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    Ex Getting Arrange Marriage

    I was with my ex for 5 years. He is muslim and i am white. His family didn't approve of me, and he has been engaged to a girl in pakistan for 6 years. He told me about this when we first met, but we were in college, and he told me the engagement would get called off. Every...
    kandyuk kandyuk 22-25 14 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    My Sister's Turn. My sister is about to be

    married to a guy she doesn't know. All the women in our family had arranged marriages so it was expected. I was observing her body language since our Mom told her and... it looks like she's okay with it. The thing is, our parents are planning the wedding before the year ends...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 4 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    I Didn't Know I Was Married

    I got married at 16 years old. It was an arranged marriage.I knew I was betrothed to someone I hardly knew and consequently, I wasn't exactly excited about it.There was an engagement party, the same day I was to take my last final exam in high school. I remember getting upset...
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    My boyfriend had to go to Bangladesh

    and get married. He hinted that his parents wanted him to get married but never really said that was the purpose of the trip. So he is back without her. And our connection has been so strong it was too hard for either of us to stay away. We hang out like everyday have sex etc. I...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 26-30, F 1 Response May 26

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    For Papa..

    after 24 years being his son, I just really feel having a father recently ^ ^, he was got stroke and still in theraphy, for long time he hasnt really spoke to me and I thought he forget that he has another son ^ ^ the stroke somehow bring back his memory ^ ^ offcourse I thank...
    staticonveyor staticonveyor 22-25, M 4 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    I Can't Stop Think About Marriage.

    I'm a desi born american (from pakistan specifically) and i can't stop thinking about arranged marriage. im too used to this american lifestyle to be in a business deal like marriage instead of a love one. im 18 so i cant stop thinking about it because by the time im 20 my mom...
    ieme94 ieme94 18-21 5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    My Marriage Is On The Rocks

    It has been almost 7 months that I got married and my marriage is already on the rocks. I am in a long distance marriage and things are not working out. Every time we talk I tend to pick up a fight. I have even suggested a divorce in the hope that it would be better that we...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Seriously

    I'm not kidding on this. Somehow when I was younger and spent my year in Greece, when my parents were together, be it in a joking manner or not, was arranged to marry the daughter of my father's friend. All I know is that her name is Georgia, and that I am in some arrangement to...
    JollyDevittaRoger JollyDevittaRoger 22-25, M 12 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    After Eleven Years

    It has been eleven years. We've grown comfortable with each other. He'd tell me how much he loves me, day in and day out. He likes making love notes and placing them in my things. Not once however have I also said I love him. I'd just joke around. He has been kind to me. More...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 5 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Am I An Arranged Marriage?

    hi all well i am in college ,and I met this guy, he was one of them cool type of guys but still had a strong belief in God so that what i really liked about him., I'm Muslim and he's Muslim too but were from different backgrounds and ethnic groups. we met in psychology class, i...
    LoveIsEternal LoveIsEternal 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Question

    are most Indian women happy in their arranged marriages? Just very curuious and a bit hopefully since I'm very attracted to East Indian women.
    blanksubject26 blanksubject26 36-40, M 9 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    I Am In An Arranged Marriage

    hey guys, just thought id share my version as well ! my parents, in particular my father got me married (forced) at the age of 18 to someone i didn't want to marry. its been over 10 years now and we have kids as well . however , i have been trying for all these years to accept...
    byamin byamin 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 22, 2011

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    I Am Doing A Project On Arranged Marriages And Need Some Help.

    my question that i need answering is. why do Pakistani men get arranged marriages? and does religion have a input in the arrange marriage tradition?
    arrangemarriageresearch arrangemarriageresearch 22-25 6 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    How do you guys feel about arranged marriages? like you speak to the guy for 30mins and after that you don't keep in contact the next time you see each other is the day of your...
    Qila02 Qila02 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Someone on this site mentioned that living in a sexless marriage is like living in a bubble. Exactly, that is what i feel like. Inside the bubble is My marriage, My family, My kids...
    whereishome whereishome 36-40, M 17 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Update from me....things are better! Counseling is going very well. I am proud of myself, first of all. The first day of marital counseling, I was so nervous and the weight of...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 15 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Today is our five year wedding anniversary. Five years of virtually no sex, and no intimacy. Not a cause for celebration in my eyes. All week I've been expecting this day to play...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    The Best of Days; The Worst of Days (Or, Long-Winded Update) I haven't posted much in here in a while, so here's the general update: For those who don't know, I separated from...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    Well I'll try to share this...I know it's a familiar story based on those I've read here already, thank you all for sharing. Perhaps it'll merely be cathartic for me to tell a...
    don0063 don0063 51-55, M 22 Responses 3 days ago

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    (Repost...EP BLOCKED my first story) I stumbled upon EP the latter part of last year, and I've been a fairly frequent lurker ever since. It has taken me quite some time to...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    To me, marriage is TOO binding. Honestly, how many people can actually be happy together forever? The answer is 50%. half of marriages end in divorce. I believe that being in an...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 13 Responses Jul 14

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Final Meeting with the Marriage Counselor - I went to my last marriage counseling session today. My H and the therapist don't know I'm not coming back again because they're not...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have no idea how to balance anything in this marriage anymore. There is zero intimacy in our marriage and every time I bring it up it is always, "we have no intimacy in our...
    glammjunkie glammjunkie 22-25, F Jun 27

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    For about a year I've been considering divorcing my wife of nearly 8 years. Our relationship has never been great. We are great friends, but horrible lovers/spouses. We do things...
    randomtiger45 randomtiger45 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I never understood why people are against gay marriage. What happened to separation of church and state? Religion should have nothing to do with whether or not two consenting and...
    lak27 lak27 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I am in my third marriage. Curious how things go, my first one ended because my wife refused sex almost all the time. to the point of being intolerable. The stories I read here, i...
    marcz7 marcz7 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 4

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    I explained in my previous stories, along with steps and resources, that my husband and I attend a monthly marriage support group for marriages that have run into trouble. This...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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