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I Am In An Arranged Marriage

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    First of all let me tell you guys that I am from India. There is only one type of marriage that is prevalent here and that is "arranged marriage". I am also into it. I got married last year in November. We are both working and so live apart (about 1000 kms). We both live in India...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I Can't Stop Think About Marriage.

    I'm a desi born american (from pakistan specifically) and i can't stop thinking about arranged marriage. im too used to this american lifestyle to be in a business deal like marriage instead of a love one. im 18 so i cant stop thinking about it because by the time im 20 my mom...
    ieme94 ieme94 18-21 5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    I Might Be In An Arranged Marriage

    I'm in something that's similar to an arranged marriage, though in my situation it's a little bit more of my fault... I've never had a boyfriend or even kissed or held hands with another guy... and now I have to suddenly be in a relationship with a guy I never met before? I admit...
    nessie333 nessie333 22-25, F 10 Responses May 15, 2011

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    Arranged And Happy

    I am married to a wonderful man and our marriage was arranged my our fathers. We both come from very strict christian homes with very old fashioned values. My parents were arranged and so I knew I would be as well. My husband and I met 1 yr before we wed and spent time getting...
    jointhecorner jointhecorner 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    I only recently found out

    that I will be getting married to an Italian man who is the son of a close friend of my family. my family are eager for me to get with this man, except for my brother, he is quite worried about the whole situation. My father on the other hand is especially for the whole idea...
    Wattouat Wattouat 18-21, F 3 Responses May 15

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    I Didn't Know I Was Married

    I got married at 16 years old. It was an arranged marriage.I knew I was betrothed to someone I hardly knew and consequently, I wasn't exactly excited about it.There was an engagement party, the same day I was to take my last final exam in high school. I remember getting upset...
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    My boyfriend had to go to Bangladesh

    and get married. He hinted that his parents wanted him to get married but never really said that was the purpose of the trip. So he is back without her. And our connection has been so strong it was too hard for either of us to stay away. We hang out like everyday have sex etc. I...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 26-30, F 1 Response May 26

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    Seriously

    I'm not kidding on this. Somehow when I was younger and spent my year in Greece, when my parents were together, be it in a joking manner or not, was arranged to marry the daughter of my father's friend. All I know is that her name is Georgia, and that I am in some arrangement to...
    JollyDevittaRoger JollyDevittaRoger 22-25, M 12 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    I Wish I'd Had The Option Of Arranged Marriage.

    This is going to sound all kinds of crazy to most other Americans here. I want to start by saying I do not think that you should be forced to marry anyone you do not want to. I just wish I'd had the option of arranged marriage. I know it sounds ridiculous, but if that's so, isn...
    leopardspots leopardspots 31-35 2 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    After Eleven Years

    It has been eleven years. We've grown comfortable with each other. He'd tell me how much he loves me, day in and day out. He likes making love notes and placing them in my things. Not once however have I also said I love him. I'd just joke around. He has been kind to me. More...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 6 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    I Am Doing A Project On Arranged Marriages And Need Some Help.

    my question that i need answering is. why do Pakistani men get arranged marriages? and does religion have a input in the arrange marriage tradition?
    arrangemarriageresearch arrangemarriageresearch 22-25 6 Responses May 1, 2012

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    At Arrange Marriage Meeting

    Dear Bushra Bl, I don’t know what Bl means to your name. I wanted to ask you when I met you. I had so much things I had planned that I should tell you. I studied hours in the net surfing facebook, google, twitter to know about you. What you would like and what you would not...
    saihamworld saihamworld 26-30, M Jun 13, 2013

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    My Ex Is Having An Arranged Marriage

    I am a black 19 year old female and I was with this Pakistani guy..i loved him very very much n when I say I loved him,believe me He called me during Ramadan to say that he is going to Pakistan to get married because his Dad really wants him to n he has no choice and cannot say...
    charmekay charmekay 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I Have To Get Married And Don't Know Him

    I've been with a lot of people sexually, I'm not proud of it but I won't hide it. My parents let me be, have fun because they know that when I turn 20 I have to be a wife to who they choose. The only thing I know about him is that he's 26 and his name. I'm trying to find a way...
    aftermathoff aftermathoff 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Question

    are most Indian women happy in their arranged marriages? Just very curuious and a bit hopefully since I'm very attracted to East Indian women.
    blanksubject26 blanksubject26 36-40, M 9 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of

    Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and decided to place it in this group. Perhaps, those who are in a similar situation might get something from it, to know what to expect. I am...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    My Marriage Is On The Rocks

    It has been almost 7 months that I got married and my marriage is already on the rocks. I am in a long distance marriage and things are not working out. Every time we talk I tend to pick up a fight. I have even suggested a divorce in the hope that it would be better that we...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Am I An Arranged Marriage?

    hi all well i am in college ,and I met this guy, he was one of them cool type of guys but still had a strong belief in God so that what i really liked about him., I'm Muslim and he's Muslim too but were from different backgrounds and ethnic groups. we met in psychology class, i...
    LoveIsEternal LoveIsEternal 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    My Sister's Turn. My sister is about to be

    married to a guy she doesn't know. All the women in our family had arranged marriages so it was expected. I was observing her body language since our Mom told her and... it looks like she's okay with it. The thing is, our parents are planning the wedding before the year ends...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 4 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Arranged Struggle

    This story is quite long. I am older now, at age 60, and my husband and I no longer live together, but we have never divorced. When I was 15, my family was very poor. My father had lost his job due to injury and social norms meant my mother never worked. A good option seemed...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    I Am In An Arranged Marriage

    hey guys, just thought id share my version as well ! my parents, in particular my father got me married (forced) at the age of 18 to someone i didn't want to marry. its been over 10 years now and we have kids as well . however , i have been trying for all these years to accept...
    byamin byamin 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 22, 2011

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    For Papa..

    after 24 years being his son, I just really feel having a father recently ^ ^, he was got stroke and still in theraphy, for long time he hasnt really spoke to me and I thought he forget that he has another son ^ ^ the stroke somehow bring back his memory ^ ^ offcourse I thank...
    staticonveyor staticonveyor 22-25, M 4 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    Is Your Arranged Marriage Making You Live A Double Life?

    MTV is NOW CASTING! Do you lead a double life? We’re looking for extreme here (i.e. accountant all week and racecar driver on weekends), so actors trying to make ends meet need not apply. Or maybe you work (and look like you belong) in a world of luxury, but your home is the...
    NandD NandD 18-21 4 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Ex Getting Arrange Marriage

    I was with my ex for 5 years. He is muslim and i am white. His family didn't approve of me, and he has been engaged to a girl in pakistan for 6 years. He told me about this when we first met, but we were in college, and he told me the engagement would get called off. Every...
    kandyuk kandyuk 22-25 14 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    I Will Be

    I'm of indian extraction and arranged marriages are part of our culture. I'm actually happy with that - all the evidence is that they last longer and are mor fulfilling. My sister is certainly very happy that way and I'm happy that my parents will chose someone suitable for me...
    amrapalipatel amrapalipatel 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    On The Way_ _ _arranged Marriage

    My story is bit different the usual kinds but I need your advise.. I am very simple gal with just an average looking persona and the harsh part is I am few steps away from 30. Alwaz wanted to go for an arranged marriage setup but des days it has become a big headache as every...
    mahikaluv mahikaluv 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    But sohhh many dont. Its creating tears. Divorce caused it. And arranged marriages. And religions. Even great bisexuals wreck it. For tax breaks. Not found in...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 day ago

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    I have failed my my wife. It took an entire year for me to be able to admit that or even see it. For the last 11 months it's been "my wife is selfish" or "my wife is unreasonable...
    TonyM323 TonyM323 36-40, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 22 Responses a week ago

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    Oh wait, I mean "Won't". "Won't" wait until marriage.
    RustinCohle RustinCohle 18-21, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Last night my husband asked me if we could try again. He wants to start over and get to know each other again, romantically and physically. He reminisced the first time he saw...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheMaverickWoman TheMaverickWoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 15

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 9

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 16 Responses 3 days ago

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    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses a week ago

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    I know this is very sad to say but I don't believe in true love or marriages anymore. It is because of the kind of marriage I'm in currently. I used to think when I get married it...
    michellegh michellegh 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    "Sexual Aversion Disorder" I am not sure if anyone has ever posted about this in this group...Actually I am sure someone has but I cannot find such post. apparently there is an...
    JackHawthorne JackHawthorne 31-35, M 7 Responses Aug 31

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 12

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses Sep 14

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    I have been married for 8 years now and my wife and I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who we both cherish. My wife is a kind, loving woman who loves me and our daughter and...
    Jeremy0121 Jeremy0121 31-35, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Solitairediamond posted a phrase basically saying doing things out of duty depletes you, while doing them out of love energizes you. While I agree to an extent with her thoughts...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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