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I Am In An Arranged Marriage

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    Arranged And Happy

    I am married to a wonderful man and our marriage was arranged my our fathers. We both come from very strict christian homes with very old fashioned values. My parents were arranged and so I knew I would be as well. My husband and I met 1 yr before we wed and spent time getting...
    jointhecorner jointhecorner 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    Ex Getting Arrange Marriage

    I was with my ex for 5 years. He is muslim and i am white. His family didn't approve of me, and he has been engaged to a girl in pakistan for 6 years. He told me about this when we first met, but we were in college, and he told me the engagement would get called off. Every...
    kandyuk kandyuk 22-25 14 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    For Papa..

    after 24 years being his son, I just really feel having a father recently ^ ^, he was got stroke and still in theraphy, for long time he hasnt really spoke to me and I thought he forget that he has another son ^ ^ the stroke somehow bring back his memory ^ ^ offcourse I thank...
    staticonveyor staticonveyor 22-25, M 4 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    My Ex Is Having An Arranged Marriage

    I am a black 19 year old female and I was with this Pakistani guy..i loved him very very much n when I say I loved him,believe me He called me during Ramadan to say that he is going to Pakistan to get married because his Dad really wants him to n he has no choice and cannot say...
    charmekay charmekay 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I Will Be

    I'm of indian extraction and arranged marriages are part of our culture. I'm actually happy with that - all the evidence is that they last longer and are mor fulfilling. My sister is certainly very happy that way and I'm happy that my parents will chose someone suitable for me...
    amrapalipatel amrapalipatel 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    Question

    are most Indian women happy in their arranged marriages? Just very curuious and a bit hopefully since I'm very attracted to East Indian women.
    blanksubject26 blanksubject26 36-40, M 9 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    I Have To Get Married And Don't Know Him

    I've been with a lot of people sexually, I'm not proud of it but I won't hide it. My parents let me be, have fun because they know that when I turn 20 I have to be a wife to who they choose. The only thing I know about him is that he's 26 and his name. I'm trying to find a way...
    aftermathoff aftermathoff 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of

    Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and decided to place it in this group. Perhaps, those who are in a similar situation might get something from it, to know what to expect. I am...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    I Am In An Arranged Marriage

    hey guys, just thought id share my version as well ! my parents, in particular my father got me married (forced) at the age of 18 to someone i didn't want to marry. its been over 10 years now and we have kids as well . however , i have been trying for all these years to accept...
    byamin byamin 31-35, M 2 Responses Dec 22, 2011

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    My Marriage Is On The Rocks

    It has been almost 7 months that I got married and my marriage is already on the rocks. I am in a long distance marriage and things are not working out. Every time we talk I tend to pick up a fight. I have even suggested a divorce in the hope that it would be better that we...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Arranged Struggle

    This story is quite long. I am older now, at age 60, and my husband and I no longer live together, but we have never divorced. When I was 15, my family was very poor. My father had lost his job due to injury and social norms meant my mother never worked. A good option seemed...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    On The Way_ _ _arranged Marriage

    My story is bit different the usual kinds but I need your advise.. I am very simple gal with just an average looking persona and the harsh part is I am few steps away from 30. Alwaz wanted to go for an arranged marriage setup but des days it has become a big headache as every...
    mahikaluv mahikaluv 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    After Eleven Years

    It has been eleven years. We've grown comfortable with each other. He'd tell me how much he loves me, day in and day out. He likes making love notes and placing them in my things. Not once however have I also said I love him. I'd just joke around. He has been kind to me. More...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 5 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Am I An Arranged Marriage?

    hi all well i am in college ,and I met this guy, he was one of them cool type of guys but still had a strong belief in God so that what i really liked about him., I'm Muslim and he's Muslim too but were from different backgrounds and ethnic groups. we met in psychology class, i...
    LoveIsEternal LoveIsEternal 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I Can't Stop Think About Marriage.

    I'm a desi born american (from pakistan specifically) and i can't stop thinking about arranged marriage. im too used to this american lifestyle to be in a business deal like marriage instead of a love one. im 18 so i cant stop thinking about it because by the time im 20 my mom...
    ieme94 ieme94 18-21 5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    Seriously

    I'm not kidding on this. Somehow when I was younger and spent my year in Greece, when my parents were together, be it in a joking manner or not, was arranged to marry the daughter of my father's friend. All I know is that her name is Georgia, and that I am in some arrangement to...
    JollyDevittaRoger JollyDevittaRoger 22-25, M 12 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    I Wish I'd Had The Option Of Arranged Marriage.

    This is going to sound all kinds of crazy to most other Americans here. I want to start by saying I do not think that you should be forced to marry anyone you do not want to. I just wish I'd had the option of arranged marriage. I know it sounds ridiculous, but if that's so, isn...
    leopardspots leopardspots 31-35 2 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    I only recently found out

    that I will be getting married to an Italian man who is the son of a close friend of my family. my family are eager for me to get with this man, except for my brother, he is quite worried about the whole situation. My father on the other hand is especially for the whole idea...
    Wattouat Wattouat 18-21, F 3 Responses May 15, 2014

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    I Might Be In An Arranged Marriage

    I'm in something that's similar to an arranged marriage, though in my situation it's a little bit more of my fault... I've never had a boyfriend or even kissed or held hands with another guy... and now I have to suddenly be in a relationship with a guy I never met before? I admit...
    nessie333 nessie333 22-25, F 10 Responses May 15, 2011

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    I Am Doing A Project On Arranged Marriages And Need Some Help.

    my question that i need answering is. why do Pakistani men get arranged marriages? and does religion have a input in the arrange marriage tradition?
    arrangemarriageresearch arrangemarriageresearch 22-25 6 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Hello people !! I really would like to ask

    most of you doesn't matter Male or Female. My question to all would be what do you think about being Arranged & getting Married ? .. Has the connect became so strong or first site love or it was so far a force? The reason I'm asking you is because I'm thinking to take the...
    billyaldo billyaldo 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 23, 2014

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    My boyfriend had to go to Bangladesh

    and get married. He hinted that his parents wanted him to get married but never really said that was the purpose of the trip. So he is back without her. And our connection has been so strong it was too hard for either of us to stay away. We hang out like everyday have sex etc. I...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 26-30, F 1 Response May 26, 2014

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    Got Married Recently

    First of all let me tell you guys that I am from India. There is only one type of marriage that is prevalent here and that is "arranged marriage". I am also into it. I got married last year in November. We are both working and so live apart (about 1000 kms). We both live in India...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I just found out that my husband plans to

    propose again, not to tie two families like before, but for the both of us. Someone wasn't very secretive but it's alright. I am very happy right now. This time, it's a love marriage.
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Is Your Arranged Marriage Making You Live A Double Life?

    MTV is NOW CASTING! Do you lead a double life? We’re looking for extreme here (i.e. accountant all week and racecar driver on weekends), so actors trying to make ends meet need not apply. Or maybe you work (and look like you belong) in a world of luxury, but your home is the...
    NandD NandD 18-21 4 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    My Sister's Turn. My sister is about to be

    married to a guy she doesn't know. All the women in our family had arranged marriages so it was expected. I was observing her body language since our Mom told her and... it looks like she's okay with it. The thing is, our parents are planning the wedding before the year ends...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 3 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    maybe against would be a strong word, but i dont agree with force arranged marriage. what i feel more painful however is the fact that... for children who love their parents, they...
    butterfliesndut butterfliesndut 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Usually people fall in love and get married. Here its like parents arrange the marriage of 2 strangers. And the guy is gets paid loads n loads of money. Girls are just a burden for...
    rebelliousgal rebelliousgal 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    My family are wanting me to get married, with a man who has been in talks with them since I was 13 years. I do not have much time & I do not want to be married to him. I wish our...
    Neveah95 Neveah95 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    India as you all might know is a country rich in culture and tradition. Arranged marriages happens to be a very integral part of this culture. I am 27 years old and got married in...
    femaleskeleton femaleskeleton 26-30 1 Response Jan 19

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    I am not in a troubled marriage. I am now in my second marriage. My first marriage lasted 21 years. My wife was confined to a wheelchair due to disability. We had three children...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M 1 Response Jan 2

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    Well I'm not going I say never but as of right now I don't feel like i need to get married in the future. Look I'm not in a serious relationship, do I want to be yes. I want to be...
    KateTheStraightedge KateTheStraightedge 16-17, F Jan 18

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    I would like to get some responses.. Is there any of you or somebody you know who is in a long distance marriage, -I stressed, marriage, not 'long distance relationship', -and...
    rainyrainsky rainyrainsky 26-30, F 10 hrs ago

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    Why do they call it gay marriage? Im so sick of the labels they give everything. Its not a gay marriage. Its marriage. Marriage is about two people who love each other. It doesnt...
    WarriorPoet97 WarriorPoet97 16-17, F 8 Responses Jan 2

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    Facing marriage, people have different ideas about the contrast between love and money. However, I prefer love to money, if I have the choice. Firstly, as a matter of fact, love...
    rosafiermonte rosafiermonte 26-30, F Jan 14

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    It does not belong to me it belongs to everyone. Marriage is between consenting parties who vow to be in a committed romantic relationship. Far be it form me to stop someone from...
    KateTheStraightedge KateTheStraightedge 16-17, F Jan 19

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    I have been divorced for over 3 years now. I often read stories here from people in sexless marriages, hoping that maybe I can help someone either save their marriage or help in...
    sundancesoul sundancesoul 46-50, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    The words marriage and engagement still depress me; make me feel disgusted somehow… Yes, disgusted! For different reasons which I may freely share here some time in the future...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    To help people to be more informed about Pakistan instead of listening to poverty and falling for any stories. Having been to Pakistan many times, I can safely say the below;- 1...
    Eridanus Eridanus 31-35 1 day ago

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    It saddens me deeply that people do not take marriage seriously anymore. Marriage used to be "until death do us part" and because of which, people actually took time in getting to...
    MsBree01 MsBree01 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    This is the walk away wife script. http://youtu.be/eyty0xb7IMM Every situation is different but at least 90% of this can ring thru in one way or another IMHO Well I was the...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    Hi everyone, I do hope my post gets read and hopefully helps somebody along the line.i will never forget the help SOLVER KING render to me in my marital life. i have been married...
    sharon1234524 sharon1234524 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    It is better to learn faithfulness before marriage. Those who were not willing to wait before marriage, will more likely not restist within marriage. I believe that true love waits...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 4

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    I have been married for 19 years. my husband prefers I keep any issue that may start argument's to myself. he respects outsiders over me and our marriage. he doesn't listen to...
    mrsunderstood72 mrsunderstood72 41-45 2 Responses Jan 4

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    Well , yesterday we had our first joint counselling session. Beforehand I was very anxious. I had a knot in my stomach and a pain in my head. I wasn't sure if H would appear, but...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 26 Responses Jan 20

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    I have been in my prison sentence of a marriage way to long I have given everything I can think of for my marriage and nothing works I had a glimmer of hope yesterday evening...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    NYE 2014 I am anxiously awaiting a new life. I started writing on here in October and have learned a lot about myself since then. I find that writing & reflecting about my marriage...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 12 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I feel like there are so many women out there that are having these fairytale marriages, and have the most perfect husband. I find myself often longing to have someone surprise me...
    curiousmermaid curiousmermaid 22-25, F Jan 2

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