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I Am In An Arranged Marriage

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    I love him so much because of him I left the

    best guy the one who treated me like the most beautiful girl ...n I have a loss self esteem....😢 every time I think of my future with him it haunts me because I'm not that happy right now with him what will happen then..? He is never satisfied... I can't be perfect .... He...
    SHA2078640 SHA2078640 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2015

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    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    I Have To Get Married And Don't Know Him

    I've been with a lot of people sexually, I'm not proud of it but I won't hide it. My parents let me be, have fun because they know that when I turn 20 I have to be a wife to who they choose. The only thing I know about him is that he's 26 and his name. I'm trying to find a way...
    aftermathoff aftermathoff 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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    Arranged And Happy

    I am married to a wonderful man and our marriage was arranged my our fathers. We both come from very strict christian homes with very old fashioned values. My parents were arranged and so I knew I would be as well. My husband and I met 1 yr before we wed and spent time getting...
    jointhecorner jointhecorner 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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    My Sister's Turn. My sister is about to be

    married to a guy she doesn't know. All the women in our family had arranged marriages so it was expected. I was observing her body language since our Mom told her and... it looks like she's okay with it. The thing is, our parents are planning the wedding before the year ends...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 3 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    My Marriage Is On The Rocks

    It has been almost 7 months that I got married and my marriage is already on the rocks. I am in a long distance marriage and things are not working out. Every time we talk I tend to pick up a fight. I have even suggested a divorce in the hope that it would be better that we...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    I Am Doing A Project On Arranged Marriages And Need Some Help.

    my question that i need answering is. why do Pakistani men get arranged marriages? and does religion have a input in the arrange marriage tradition?
    arrangemarriageresearch arrangemarriageresearch 22-25 6 Responses May 1, 2012

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    I Might Be In An Arranged Marriage

    I'm in something that's similar to an arranged marriage, though in my situation it's a little bit more of my fault... I've never had a boyfriend or even kissed or held hands with another guy... and now I have to suddenly be in a relationship with a guy I never met before? I admit...
    nessie333 nessie333 22-25, F 10 Responses May 15, 2011

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    Seriously

    I'm not kidding on this. Somehow when I was younger and spent my year in Greece, when my parents were together, be it in a joking manner or not, was arranged to marry the daughter of my father's friend. All I know is that her name is Georgia, and that I am in some arrangement to...
    JollyDevittaRoger JollyDevittaRoger 22-25, M 12 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    Question

    are most Indian women happy in their arranged marriages? Just very curuious and a bit hopefully since I'm very attracted to East Indian women.
    blanksubject26 blanksubject26 36-40, M 9 Responses Jul 27, 2012

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    I Wish I'd Had The Option Of Arranged Marriage.

    This is going to sound all kinds of crazy to most other Americans here. I want to start by saying I do not think that you should be forced to marry anyone you do not want to. I just wish I'd had the option of arranged marriage. I know it sounds ridiculous, but if that's so, isn...
    leopardspots leopardspots 31-35 2 Responses Aug 9, 2012

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    My parents wanted me to marry my

    now husband and his family wanted him to marry me. I don't like to call it an arranged marriage though because we are meant to be together.
    familyindiscipline familyindiscipline 26-30 2 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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    My Ex Is Having An Arranged Marriage

    I am a black 19 year old female and I was with this Pakistani guy..i loved him very very much n when I say I loved him,believe me He called me during Ramadan to say that he is going to Pakistan to get married because his Dad really wants him to n he has no choice and cannot say...
    charmekay charmekay 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 4, 2013

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    I was watching the reality tv series Arranged

    and I thought wow, it must be therapeutic to go through the what ifs and shoulds before you get hitched to a person someone else chose for you. Most of us in arranged marriages don't and some, compared to other couples around us who found love by themselves, find ourselves...
    zizna zizna 36-40, F Aug 23, 2015

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    After Eleven Years

    It has been eleven years. We've grown comfortable with each other. He'd tell me how much he loves me, day in and day out. He likes making love notes and placing them in my things. Not once however have I also said I love him. I'd just joke around. He has been kind to me. More...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 4 Responses Sep 22, 2013

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    Yes it still happens in the UK.

    My parents arranged my marriage with someone from their native country. We get along ok but have cultural differences and distance makes things hard. I hope he can come over here soon so we can try and make a go of it and see what happens.
    glitters24 glitters24 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2015

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    In my church we don't date the "normal" way.

    Our parents pick the person we date and later marry. Doesn't mean I don't love Jake I've known him my whole life but it's different
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15 13-15, F 9 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    Am I An Arranged Marriage?

    hi all well i am in college ,and I met this guy, he was one of them cool type of guys but still had a strong belief in God so that what i really liked about him., I'm Muslim and he's Muslim too but were from different backgrounds and ethnic groups. we met in psychology class, i...
    LoveIsEternal LoveIsEternal 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I meet my now husband

    when I was 14. My parents set us up! I was told we'd be married when I was 16! Thankfully it worked out well and I married am amazing man
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 27

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of

    Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and decided to place it in this group. Perhaps, those who are in a similar situation might get something from it, to know what to expect. I am...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 2 Responses Jun 29, 2014

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    For Papa..

    after 24 years being his son, I just really feel having a father recently ^ ^, he was got stroke and still in theraphy, for long time he hasnt really spoke to me and I thought he forget that he has another son ^ ^ the stroke somehow bring back his memory ^ ^ offcourse I thank...
    staticonveyor staticonveyor 22-25, M 4 Responses Oct 29, 2012

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    Ex Getting Arrange Marriage

    I was with my ex for 5 years. He is muslim and i am white. His family didn't approve of me, and he has been engaged to a girl in pakistan for 6 years. He told me about this when we first met, but we were in college, and he told me the engagement would get called off. Every...
    kandyuk kandyuk 22-25 15 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    I Will Be

    I'm of indian extraction and arranged marriages are part of our culture. I'm actually happy with that - all the evidence is that they last longer and are mor fulfilling. My sister is certainly very happy that way and I'm happy that my parents will chose someone suitable for me...
    amrapalipatel amrapalipatel 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 6, 2013

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    On The Way_ _ _arranged Marriage

    My story is bit different the usual kinds but I need your advise.. I am very simple gal with just an average looking persona and the harsh part is I am few steps away from 30. Alwaz wanted to go for an arranged marriage setup but des days it has become a big headache as every...
    mahikaluv mahikaluv 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2013

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    Arranged Struggle

    This story is quite long. I am older now, at age 60, and my husband and I no longer live together, but we have never divorced. When I was 15, my family was very poor. My father had lost his job due to injury and social norms meant my mother never worked. A good option seemed...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 3 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    I Didn't Know I Was Married

    I got married at 16 years old. It was an arranged marriage.I knew I was betrothed to someone I hardly knew and consequently, I wasn't exactly excited about it.There was an engagement party, the same day I was to take my last final exam in high school. I remember getting upset...
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    My boyfriend had to go to Bangladesh

    and get married. He hinted that his parents wanted him to get married but never really said that was the purpose of the trip. So he is back without her. And our connection has been so strong it was too hard for either of us to stay away. We hang out like everyday have sex etc. I...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 31-35, F 1 Response May 26, 2014

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    ONE MOMENT TO REFLECT I'm sad again.

    I think it would take time until I fully get over it. It hurts. I was so sure that I had his whole heart. I would have bet my life on it. How did it turn out this way? When did his heart waver? Was it my fault? I cannot make demands on his heart. The heart chooses who it...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Oct 27, 2015

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    More like it was an arranged relationship my

    dad chose him when I was 12 and we started dating on my 13th bday. We married when I was 16.
    southernlady32 southernlady32 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 7, 2015

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    I just found out that my husband plans to

    propose again, not to tie two families like before, but for the both of us. Someone wasn't very secretive but it's alright. I am very happy right now. This time, it's a love marriage.
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2014

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    I Am In An Arranged Marriage

    hey guys, just thought id share my version as well ! my parents, in particular my father got me married (forced) at the age of 18 to someone i didn't want to marry. its been over 10 years now and we have kids as well . however , i have been trying for all these years to accept...
    byamin byamin 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 22, 2011

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    I Can't Stop Think About Marriage.

    I'm a desi born american (from pakistan specifically) and i can't stop thinking about arranged marriage. im too used to this american lifestyle to be in a business deal like marriage instead of a love one. im 18 so i cant stop thinking about it because by the time im 20 my mom...
    ieme94 ieme94 18-21 5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    Hello people !! I really would like to ask

    most of you doesn't matter Male or Female. My question to all would be what do you think about being Arranged & getting Married ? .. Has the connect became so strong or first site love or it was so far a force? The reason I'm asking you is because I'm thinking to take the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I only recently found out

    that I will be getting married to an Italian man who is the son of a close friend of my family. my family are eager for me to get with this man, except for my brother, he is quite worried about the whole situation. My father on the other hand is especially for the whole idea...
    Wattouat Wattouat 18-21, F 4 Responses May 15, 2014

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    Got Married Recently

    First of all let me tell you guys that I am from India. There is only one type of marriage that is prevalent here and that is "arranged marriage". I am also into it. I got married last year in November. We are both working and so live apart (about 1000 kms). We both live in India...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 10, 2013

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    I grew up with a father who could not fathom how men cheated on their wives. I heard him say multiple times, "It's not that hard to be faithful." He set up boundaries for himself...
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    I just want to share. I joined this place after two years of struggles in my marriage. I have gone by various names in here : Thedarkenedshadow Dsop Some people have followed...
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    Pulling the trigger Our marriage is over. Not only could you poke me with a fork, the thing that is being poked is now charcoal. A pneumatic drill couldn't poke it. My husband...
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    hey there , I am Frank. i,m from new berry . 3 months backs i was so tired from the daily issues i was having at my marriage front . Everyday we tried to give our relation a new...
    franklampard14 franklampard14 31-35, M Jan 25

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    Back in my young and single days, before I married and had kids, I used to frequent the nightclubs with my friends and dance the night away. I love dancing, plus I am a social...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 7 Responses Jan 25

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