I Am In An Arranged Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 110 People

    Arranged Struggle

    This story is quite long. I am older now, at age 60, and my husband and I no longer live together, but we have never divorced. When I was 15, my family was very poor. My father had lost his job due to injury and social norms meant my mother never worked. A good option seemed...
    rasia1 rasia1
    56-60
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2013

    Hello people !! I really would like to ask

    most of you doesn't matter Male or Female. My question to all would be what do you think about being Arranged & getting Married ? .. Has the connect became so strong or first site love or it was so far a force? The reason I'm asking you is because I'm thinking to take the...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

    For Papa..

    after 24 years being his son, I just really feel having a father recently ^ ^, he was got stroke and still in theraphy, for long time he hasnt really spoke to me and I thought he forget that he has another son ^ ^ the stroke somehow bring back his memory ^ ^ offcourse I thank...
    staticonveyor staticonveyor
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Oct 29, 2012

    Question

    are most Indian women happy in their arranged marriages? Just very curuious and a bit hopefully since I'm very attracted to East Indian women.
    blanksubject26 blanksubject26
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Jul 27, 2012

    I love him so much because of him I left the

    best guy the one who treated me like the most beautiful girl ...n I have a loss self esteem....😢 every time I think of my future with him it haunts me because I'm not that happy right now with him what will happen then..? He is never satisfied... I can't be perfect .... He...
    SHA2078640 SHA2078640
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2015

    I Can't Stop Think About Marriage.

    I'm a desi born american (from pakistan specifically) and i can't stop thinking about arranged marriage. im too used to this american lifestyle to be in a business deal like marriage instead of a love one. im 18 so i cant stop thinking about it because by the time im 20 my mom...
    ieme94 ieme94
    18-21
    5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

    Arranged And Happy

    I am married to a wonderful man and our marriage was arranged my our fathers. We both come from very strict christian homes with very old fashioned values. My parents were arranged and so I knew I would be as well. My husband and I met 1 yr before we wed and spent time getting...
    jointhecorner jointhecorner
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 20, 2011

    I only recently found out

    that I will be getting married to an Italian man who is the son of a close friend of my family. my family are eager for me to get with this man, except for my brother, he is quite worried about the whole situation. My father on the other hand is especially for the whole idea...
    Wattouat Wattouat
    18-21, F
    4 Responses May 15, 2014

    I meet my now husband

    when I was 14. My parents set us up! I was told we'd be married when I was 16! Thankfully it worked out well and I married am amazing man
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 27

    My parents wanted me to marry my

    now husband and his family wanted him to marry me. I don't like to call it an arranged marriage though because we are meant to be together.
    familyindiscipline familyindiscipline
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2015

    Got Married Recently

    First of all let me tell you guys that I am from India. There is only one type of marriage that is prevalent here and that is "arranged marriage". I am also into it. I got married last year in November. We are both working and so live apart (about 1000 kms). We both live in India...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Jul 10, 2013

    I Will Be

    I'm of indian extraction and arranged marriages are part of our culture. I'm actually happy with that - all the evidence is that they last longer and are mor fulfilling. My sister is certainly very happy that way and I'm happy that my parents will chose someone suitable for me...
    amrapalipatel amrapalipatel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 6, 2013

    I am not in one but my stepdaughter is 13

    and I know a wonderful young man who would be a good match. I know him and his parents already for years and we are good friends and share the same values.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Feb 13

    I was watching the reality tv series Arranged

    and I thought wow, it must be therapeutic to go through the what ifs and shoulds before you get hitched to a person someone else chose for you. Most of us in arranged marriages don't and some, compared to other couples around us who found love by themselves, find ourselves...
    zizna zizna
    36-40, F
    Aug 23, 2015

    My Ex Is Having An Arranged Marriage

    I am a black 19 year old female and I was with this Pakistani guy..i loved him very very much n when I say I loved him,believe me He called me during Ramadan to say that he is going to Pakistan to get married because his Dad really wants him to n he has no choice and cannot say...
    charmekay charmekay
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 4, 2013

    My boyfriend had to go to Bangladesh

    and get married. He hinted that his parents wanted him to get married but never really said that was the purpose of the trip. So he is back without her. And our connection has been so strong it was too hard for either of us to stay away. We hang out like everyday have sex etc. I...
    4evergrey 4evergrey
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 26, 2014

    I Might Be In An Arranged Marriage

    I'm in something that's similar to an arranged marriage, though in my situation it's a little bit more of my fault... I've never had a boyfriend or even kissed or held hands with another guy... and now I have to suddenly be in a relationship with a guy I never met before? I admit...
    nessie333 nessie333
    26-30, F
    10 Responses May 15, 2011

    Is Your Arranged Marriage Making You Live A Double Life?

    MTV is NOW CASTING! Do you lead a double life? We’re looking for extreme here (i.e. accountant all week and racecar driver on weekends), so actors trying to make ends meet need not apply. Or maybe you work (and look like you belong) in a world of luxury, but your home is the...
    NandD NandD
    18-21
    4 Responses Feb 7, 2011

    More like it was an arranged relationship my

    dad chose him when I was 12 and we started dating on my 13th bday. We married when I was 16.
    southernlady32 southernlady32
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    I Have To Get Married And Don't Know Him

    I've been with a lot of people sexually, I'm not proud of it but I won't hide it. My parents let me be, have fun because they know that when I turn 20 I have to be a wife to who they choose. The only thing I know about him is that he's 26 and his name. I'm trying to find a way...
    aftermathoff aftermathoff
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 1, 2010

    Am I An Arranged Marriage?

    hi all well i am in college ,and I met this guy, he was one of them cool type of guys but still had a strong belief in God so that what i really liked about him., I'm Muslim and he's Muslim too but were from different backgrounds and ethnic groups. we met in psychology class, i...
    LoveIsEternal LoveIsEternal
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 5, 2012

    On The Way_ _ _arranged Marriage

    My story is bit different the usual kinds but I need your advise.. I am very simple gal with just an average looking persona and the harsh part is I am few steps away from 30. Alwaz wanted to go for an arranged marriage setup but des days it has become a big headache as every...
    mahikaluv mahikaluv
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Aug 28, 2013

    I Wish I'd Had The Option Of Arranged Marriage.

    This is going to sound all kinds of crazy to most other Americans here. I want to start by saying I do not think that you should be forced to marry anyone you do not want to. I just wish I'd had the option of arranged marriage. I know it sounds ridiculous, but if that's so, isn...
    leopardspots leopardspots
    31-35
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2012
    RMDk RMDk
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 28

    In my church we don't date the "normal" way.

    Our parents pick the person we date and later marry. Doesn't mean I don't love Jake I've known him my whole life but it's different
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15
    16-17, F
    8 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    I Am Doing A Project On Arranged Marriages And Need Some Help.

    my question that i need answering is. why do Pakistani men get arranged marriages? and does religion have a input in the arrange marriage tradition?
    arrangemarriageresearch arrangemarriageresearch
    22-25
    6 Responses May 1, 2012

    I Didn't Know I Was Married

    I got married at 16 years old. It was an arranged marriage.I knew I was betrothed to someone I hardly knew and consequently, I wasn't exactly excited about it.There was an engagement party, the same day I was to take my last final exam in high school. I remember getting upset...
    3 Responses Jan 12, 2013

    Seriously

    I'm not kidding on this. Somehow when I was younger and spent my year in Greece, when my parents were together, be it in a joking manner or not, was arranged to marry the daughter of my father's friend. All I know is that her name is Georgia, and that I am in some arrangement to...
    JollyDevittaRoger JollyDevittaRoger
    22-25, M
    12 Responses Nov 1, 2009

    Yes it still happens in the UK.

    My parents arranged my marriage with someone from their native country. We get along ok but have cultural differences and distance makes things hard. I hope he can come over here soon so we can try and make a go of it and see what happens.
    glitters24 glitters24
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 1, 2015

    Ex Getting Arrange Marriage

    I was with my ex for 5 years. He is muslim and i am white. His family didn't approve of me, and he has been engaged to a girl in pakistan for 6 years. He told me about this when we first met, but we were in college, and he told me the engagement would get called off. Every...
    kandyuk kandyuk
    22-25
    15 Responses Jun 19, 2011

    My Marriage Is On The Rocks

    It has been almost 7 months that I got married and my marriage is already on the rocks. I am in a long distance marriage and things are not working out. Every time we talk I tend to pick up a fight. I have even suggested a divorce in the hope that it would be better that we...
    NONAMESPLS NONAMESPLS
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

    I Am In An Arranged Marriage

    hey guys, just thought id share my version as well ! my parents, in particular my father got me married (forced) at the age of 18 to someone i didn't want to marry. its been over 10 years now and we have kids as well . however , i have been trying for all these years to accept...
    byamin byamin
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2011

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