Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device
This experience may contain mature content, as flagged by the community.
Please click away if you do not want to see this content.
To report inappropriate content, please email us.

I Am In An Open Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 488 People

    My girlfriend and I decided earlier last year,

    that we would make our relationship an open one. She is bi and I'm straight. But she only chases other women. She has been with a couple other girls and I got to **** a friend of ours who had been hot for me since we met. We also experienced our first 3 some this year with a...
    DeeMisfit DeeMisfit 22-25, M Aug 13, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Open/swinger relationship with my wife,

    thus far has been great. We love sharing each other, I love sharing her and showing her off
    ManiacalGenius001 ManiacalGenius001 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 2, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am Moving Towards An "Open" Relationship.

    For the past year or so my gf (of four years) and I have had a really rough sex life. At the worst we were having sensual moments only once per two months and it was really getting to me. We had a few arguments and one then night out of frustration I bluntly stated that I would...
    ColloquialArdor ColloquialArdor 22-25, M Aug 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Don'T Want To Meet His Main Partner...

    I have been dating this guy for a little over a month. We met online, and I knew right off the bat that he was in a "long-distance, committed, open relationship" with his girlfriend of one and a half years. I have never been in an open relationship and was curious to see if it...
    rimga rimga 26-30, F Jun 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    On The Verge...And I Don'T Know How I Feel About It.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 and a half years. I, for a very unknown reason, seem to have little to no sex drive. When we were first together, it was different because the novelty and the spark was there. Now we barely ever have sex. Usually its in the...
    MareyJayne MareyJayne 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 1, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Newly Married With Mutual Girlfriend, Emotionally Drained!

    My husband and I have been married for 5 years, but together on and off since I was 15, so for about 12 years!! It was a fun, turbulent, drug induced relationship to begin with until we had our son 9 years ago. My husband has been sober for over a year now... I always knew I...
    godzillaspitface godzillaspitface 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Want To, But Can I?

    I have been with my partner for 4+ years and now we are talking about opening things up to physical relationships with same sex partners outside of our union (which is hetero-), and this is something I want, but I'm nervous about feeling guilty, and jealous. I want to be able to...
    marisatw marisatw 22-25 Aug 20, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Dwelling

    I was searching for answers as to how to deal with my open relationship. My husband and I have had 3somes in the past which was fine. But once my husband and I said things were going to be open and it actually happened, I have had many many feelings that I wish I could control...
    Erika3232 Erika3232 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Girlfriend Just Asked For An Open Relationship -Open But Nervous

    My girlfriend of almost 2 years just approached me about an open relationship for sexual purposes only not for another relationship. We have built this totally amazing foundation of trust and open communication. She is my best friend and we are in love. Conversations about this...
    jambander jambander 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Honesty

    Even though we haven't had other partners since we've been together; we still consider our relationship open, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Our relationship came about from him cheating on his then gf with me. When neither of us were even considering a relationship. And...
    applethunder applethunder 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 27, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Not My Idea But I Love It

    When me and my girlfriend got to know each other more she felt sorry for me cause she was the only person I was with while she had many partners before she met me. About four months into our relationship it first of all started off as a ********* with one of her friends and since...
    niceshyandkind niceshyandkind 31-35, M Jun 29, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Growing Comfortable With Openness

    Where to start? I have been married to my second husband for 12 years.  We were great friends prior to being together, so I had the privilege of hearing all of his "conquest stories".   Let's just say that I knew that he liked sex a lot and had...
    KewlWife KewlWife 36-40 1 Response Jun 18, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am In An Open Relationship

    my boyfriend and I both agreed to be in open relationship i didn't agree at first , when i was madly crazily in love with him but then it became our idea when i knew I can't live without having sex with a girl (I'm bisexual) if one of us had sex with someone else we tell each...
    Jamesy3 Jamesy3 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 2, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Open And Loving It.

    We've been married a long time and have always had a trusting relationship. But 3 years ago I asked my wife for an open marriage. After a shaky start we are both loving it and love each other now more than we did when we got married all those years ago. We have seen so many...
    alandsal alandsal 51-55, M Sep 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A Response To Archimedes77 And Perhaps Guidance For Others

    I saw a comment that my dear friend Archimedes77 made referring to an ongoing problem in my marriage that I grapple with, and I wanted to address and expand on it. My wanting to open up the relationship was a little more complex than wanting to justify my husband's extramarital...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 15, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Feel Positively Relieved!

    So my husband and I had an open relationship before we were married but, decided that it wasn't going to work once we were married in 2003. Well, I felt the need for more in my life then what my husband and I have. He also was feeling the same. We sat down a few wks ago and...
    brylee0506 brylee0506 31-35 2 Responses Jul 27, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am Happy To Be In An Open Relationship

    I've been with my boyfriend for 3,5 years. After about 3 months he told me that for him was fine if i had sex with other people. At first I was surprised. I never thought about it. Moreover i couldn't accept any asymmetry, so if he allowed me, i had to allow him as well. Then I...
    kapgaroo kapgaroo 26-30 6 Responses Mar 13, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am completely free

    and have never felt more loved.
    jeffr jeffr 41-45 Feb 2, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Ok, Now What?

    It's odd for me to see all these happy couples in open relationships... after 3 years of being with my partner it wasn't happiness or comfort that began the open relationship - quiet the contrary it was lack of enjoyment out of the relationship. I resisted this complete 180 at...
    westartednowwhat westartednowwhat 22-25, F Nov 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well first off I was a really fun

    and open minded friendly cali girl when I met my current boyfriend. He loved that I wasn't a jealous person and was open with him going to ***** clubs and even telling each other which girls we thought were cute. I loved the way I was. However, my boyfriend was the total...
    cory888 cory888 22-25, F Jan 3, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Have Agreed To An Open Relationship

    My partner and I have been in a committed relationship for 8 1/2 years and we are getting married in November this year. About a year ago my partner approached me in a very emotional way with a 'problem' which was that he wants to have sex with other women. In terms of sexual...
    lover824 lover824 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    New To The Possibility Of An Open Relationship

    I joined the experience project today because I wanted to look more into the possibility of an open relationship. My boyfriend likes to enhance his intellect as a hobby by researching topics and discussing/debating on forum related sites, so I thought I'd give it a try. Though I...
    maefacheaux maefacheaux 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Secretary

    I've been married to my husband for 4yrs and he is absolutely the love of my life, but he's has expressed a need for a "secretary". He says he's getting very depressed because he doesn't think he is cut out for a monogamous relationship and says that it is killing him to pretend...
    rwilliams356 rwilliams356 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Trying To Be 'compersive'

    Hi! I have been married for over 6 years and recently my husband and I decided to open up our relationship.  I had a couple of very brief experiences with 2 different guys (not at the same time) and then decided not to pursue having sex with someone else actively.  ...
    copinguk copinguk 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 1, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Just Starting---feelings Of Guilt And A Bit Of Confusion.

    I suppose I'm seeking advice moreso than I am telling a story. I apologize if this is not the proper way to go about such a thing. I've been with my boyfriend for exactly a year and a half, and we have lived together for about eight months. He is twenty-one and I am nineteen...
    s4v4nn4h s4v4nn4h 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 8, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My relationship started a year ago,

    in a week's time is our 1st anniversary :) I guess I'm writing all that here because I have no one to talk to about it who would be able to understand. And it's so hard to deal with it on my own.So the relationship started. With the most wonderful man on the planet. I've never...
    robin1001 robin1001 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 8, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Beaten Up By My Gf's Lover

    SO I’ve been dating my gf for 4 years, we started in highschool, now we are at the same college. I’m a regular guy but although I can last an entire night in bed and am very good with my hands, my **** is only 4.5-5 inches, so my gf wanted an open relationship. We now share...
    marcleo marcleo 22-25, M Oct 11, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Would Love To Explore An Open Marriage But How Do I Convince My Partner?

    My husband and I have been together for about 6 and married for almost 2 years.  From the very beginning I was open with him and explained that I wanted a relationship where each person had the freedom to experience things with others.  With ground rules, trust and...
    maybeonedaysoon maybeonedaysoon 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 20, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Girlfriend Going To Dinner With Her Ex

    i have always fantasized about my girl and i having an open relationship. we are both in our early 20s and we have been dating for 4 years. her ex has been texting her alot recently about jobs and stuff since they both are graduating college. she is honest and tells me what...
    divideit divideit 22-25 Oct 9, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I recently started an open relationship with my

    girlfriend. We have been together for a year and 2 months. Recently she had sex and is trying to have sex with a new person. This would be the first time that she told me and I've been open about it. The moment she told me i went crazy. I got so mad, i got nauseousness, my heart...
    carl1t05way carl1t05way 26-30, M Dec 10, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Don'T Know How To Trust..

    I love a married man. we dont say the love word yet... but i know its coming... I want an open relationship and so does he. I'm not just saying I do like other girls did to him.. I really do.. I'm secure with myself and confident enough to know we connect on a lot of other...
    megansunshine megansunshine 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Looking for someone to talk to about it.

    She seems to love it as she has no problems finding other people to sleep with and I'm not so good at it
    Mrrightnow04 Mrrightnow04 18-21, M Dec 26, 2015

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I can not stand the idea of her being with

    someone else. It hurts. I have the worst pit in my stomach all the time. I feel nauseous all the time. I don't wanna eat. She told me about her intentions more than a month ago and has acted on it maybe a couple times just after. She hasn't acted on it in almost a month...
    denni9800 denni9800 36-40, M 3 Responses May 22, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Life Without Jealousy Is So Much More Fun.

    I was married and faithful for 16 years. One day I saw some emails on wife's computer screen (she forgot to minimize it) and found out that she was planning a secret meeting with an ex flame from high school. He was giving her suggestions about lies she could tell me to "get away...
    jeffr jeffr 41-45 Aug 10, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Guilt! From An Open Relationship First-timer.

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. Before dating him I had another two year relationship filled with nothing but insecurity and jealousy - which I am eternally grateful for because I learned so much about myself, about love, and about being comfortable with...
    pakallakikochino pakallakikochino 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 17, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Girlfriend Wants More Out Of Her College Life.

    I started dating my girlfriend back in high school. We met on the crew team. We've had a great time since then and only recently started having small little fights about dumb stuff that happens when we're together. I think they're dumb but she has a hard time getting over a fight...
    shawncrewjunk shawncrewjunk 18-21 2 Responses Dec 21, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'M Just Not Sure It'S Worth The Effort

    We have not been dating very long but it has been an intense time and we are very close. I (the female) and older than he is by quite a bit but I honestly can keep up with his sex drive 2 times over. We started out as a kind of fling but when we found out all of the other...
    Olderthanhim Olderthanhim 46-50, F Jun 17, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Love, Taken To The Next Level

    My husband and I have been together for close to 20 years – he is my best friend, soul-mate, and romantic heart-throb.... I still get butterflies when I look at that sexy wicked smile of his, and feel those strong hands on me. Recently, though, we have moved into a new phase...
    sands6871 sands6871 36-40, F Oct 26, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My fiancé and I often share our bed with her

    friends. She has always been bi and loves sharing with me. I have asked her if she wants to try a ********* with another guy but she's not into it. I completely love her and know that I'm the luckiest guy on the planet. I am almost 40 and she's 25(so are most of her friends). I...
    Outlaw29048 Outlaw29048 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 3, 2014

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Am "Wondering If I Should Be" In An Open Relationship

    My Fiance and I have been together for almost 6 years now and there are no doubts that together is where we want to be for the rest of our lives. But lately i have been wondering if we could live out our lives together, openly. I'm wondering if these reasons are of good cause to...
    AnonymousCuriosity AnonymousCuriosity 22-25 1 Response Aug 28, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yeah...

    Shoot...I'm not married lol...soThe bf lets me do whatever I want, I let him do whatever he wants! We both love each other even more. I'm loving the freedom.
    lilhunniebunnie36 lilhunniebunnie36 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 24, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Higher Understanding

    The moment I met her she was quite and stayed very shy and talked to hardly anyone. I on the other hand have always been a bit popular in some way and usually have everyone’s attention. It is not something I try to do but it comes natural. I was not really into the boyish...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 27, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Open Relationship

    Have an open relationship I personally enjoy social monogamy, but I do not think that sexual monogamy is a necessary part of it. Having a special someone to share your deepest thoughts, feelings, and even just everyday opinions with, makes life really worth living. However, it...
    stevesthe11 stevesthe11 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 28, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Was Conservative Christian, Now An Athiest In An Open Relationship

    I grew up a conservative christian. I was taught that all sex and lust outside of marriage was absolutely evil -- almost as bad as murder. One step down from that was m*sturb*tion. Needless to say, I was all bottled up inside.I stayed a virgin until I married in my early thirties...
    PothosZephyrus PothosZephyrus 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 19, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel