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I Am In An Open Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 485 People

    A Response To Archimedes77 And Perhaps Guidance For Others

    I saw a comment that my dear friend Archimedes77 made referring to an ongoing problem in my marriage that I grapple with, and I wanted to address and expand on it. My wanting to open up the relationship was a little more complex than wanting to justify my husband's extramarital...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Oct 15, 2010

    Beaten Up By My Gf's Lover

    SO I’ve been dating my gf for 4 years, we started in highschool, now we are at the same college. I’m a regular guy but although I can last an entire night in bed and am very good with my hands, my **** is only 4.5-5 inches, so my gf wanted an open relationship. We now share...
    marcleo marcleo
    22-25, M
    Oct 11, 2013

    Not Quite Polyamory

    I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. We're currently in a bit of a long distance relationship (hopefully not for too much longer), but our relationship has developed into an interesting one. We both love each other - and that's the bond we have with...
    penguinslayer penguinslayer
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jun 1, 2007

    My fiancé and I often share our bed with her

    friends. She has always been bi and loves sharing with me. I have asked her if she wants to try a ********* with another guy but she's not into it. I completely love her and know that I'm the luckiest guy on the planet. I am almost 40 and she's 25(so are most of her friends). I...
    Outlaw29048 Outlaw29048
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jun 3, 2014

    A Brilliant Idea

    My boyfriend is like a bodhissatva. He is unaffected by the ordinary things of life, and he is unpossessive, and easy-going. We live together but in an open-relationship in which we might have other girlfriends with us, or other menfriends. This style of living might not be for...
    p2bastrawberry p2bastrawberry
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 13, 2013

    I Have Agreed To An Open Relationship

    My partner and I have been in a committed relationship for 8 1/2 years and we are getting married in November this year. About a year ago my partner approached me in a very emotional way with a 'problem' which was that he wants to have sex with other women. In terms of sexual...
    lover824 lover824
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 16, 2013

    My relationship started a year ago,

    in a week's time is our 1st anniversary :) I guess I'm writing all that here because I have no one to talk to about it who would be able to understand. And it's so hard to deal with it on my own.So the relationship started. With the most wonderful man on the planet. I've never...
    robin1001 robin1001
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 8, 2015

    I Would Love To Explore An Open Marriage But How Do I Convince My Partner?

    My husband and I have been together for about 6 and married for almost 2 years.  From the very beginning I was open with him and explained that I wanted a relationship where each person had the freedom to experience things with others.  With ground rules, trust and...
    maybeonedaysoon maybeonedaysoon
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2010

    Newly Married With Mutual Girlfriend, Emotionally Drained!

    My husband and I have been married for 5 years, but together on and off since I was 15, so for about 12 years!! It was a fun, turbulent, drug induced relationship to begin with until we had our son 9 years ago. My husband has been sober for over a year now... I always knew I...
    godzillaspitface godzillaspitface
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2012

    I recently started an open relationship with my

    girlfriend. We have been together for a year and 2 months. Recently she had sex and is trying to have sex with a new person. This would be the first time that she told me and I've been open about it. The moment she told me i went crazy. I got so mad, i got nauseousness, my heart...
    carl1t05way carl1t05way
    31-35, M
    Dec 10, 2015


    Even though we haven't had other partners since we've been together; we still consider our relationship open, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Our relationship came about from him cheating on his then gf with me. When neither of us were even considering a relationship. And...
    applethunder applethunder
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2012

    My girlfriend and I decided earlier last year,

    that we would make our relationship an open one. She is bi and I'm straight. But she only chases other women. She has been with a couple other girls and I got to **** a friend of ours who had been hot for me since we met. We also experienced our first 3 some this year with a...
    DeeMisfit DeeMisfit
    26-30, M
    Aug 13, 2014

    Open Minded, Not Slutty

    When some men hear that I am in an open relationship, they translate that as my being easy.  That isn't correct.  Being open doesn't mean that I will bed anyone and everyone... It just means that I have multiple lovers (three, to be exact,) and that we have all agreed on a...
    WildMagic WildMagic
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Nov 3, 2011

    Growing Comfortable With Openness

    Where to start? I have been married to my second husband for 12 years.  We were great friends prior to being together, so I had the privilege of hearing all of his "conquest stories".   Let's just say that I knew that he liked sex a lot and had...
    KewlWife KewlWife
    1 Response Jun 18, 2009

    Just Starting---feelings Of Guilt And A Bit Of Confusion.

    I suppose I'm seeking advice moreso than I am telling a story. I apologize if this is not the proper way to go about such a thing. I've been with my boyfriend for exactly a year and a half, and we have lived together for about eight months. He is twenty-one and I am nineteen...
    s4v4nn4h s4v4nn4h
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 8, 2011

    Don'T Want To Meet His Main Partner...

    I have been dating this guy for a little over a month. We met online, and I knew right off the bat that he was in a "long-distance, committed, open relationship" with his girlfriend of one and a half years. I have never been in an open relationship and was curious to see if it...
    rimga rimga
    31-35, F
    Jun 29, 2013

    Girlfriend Just Asked For An Open Relationship -Open But Nervous

    My girlfriend of almost 2 years just approached me about an open relationship for sexual purposes only not for another relationship. We have built this totally amazing foundation of trust and open communication. She is my best friend and we are in love. Conversations about this...
    jambander jambander
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jun 6, 2013

    The Secretary

    I've been married to my husband for 4yrs and he is absolutely the love of my life, but he's has expressed a need for a "secretary". He says he's getting very depressed because he doesn't think he is cut out for a monogamous relationship and says that it is killing him to pretend...
    rwilliams356 rwilliams356
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 18, 2013

    I love Daddy, he's perfect

    and he's all that I need. At the same time, for a long time I've recognized that I'm not a one partner kind of person. I find couples attractive as a collective. I want to be the third person in a relationship. But I'm not turned on by cheating, I don't want to be someone's...
    BruisedAndBegging BruisedAndBegging
    22-25, F
    Mar 9, 2014

    New To The Possibility Of An Open Relationship

    I joined the experience project today because I wanted to look more into the possibility of an open relationship. My boyfriend likes to enhance his intellect as a hobby by researching topics and discussing/debating on forum related sites, so I thought I'd give it a try. Though I...
    maefacheaux maefacheaux
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 19, 2013

    I Am Moving Towards An "Open" Relationship.

    For the past year or so my gf (of four years) and I have had a really rough sex life. At the worst we were having sensual moments only once per two months and it was really getting to me. We had a few arguments and one then night out of frustration I bluntly stated that I would...
    ColloquialArdor ColloquialArdor
    22-25, M
    Aug 10, 2013

    Was Conservative Christian, Now An Athiest In An Open Relationship

    I grew up a conservative christian. I was taught that all sex and lust outside of marriage was absolutely evil -- almost as bad as murder. One step down from that was m*sturb*tion. Needless to say, I was all bottled up inside.I stayed a virgin until I married in my early thirties...
    PothosZephyrus PothosZephyrus
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Sep 19, 2011

    Not Forsaking All Others

    It's taken two years for me to begin to understand: Love is not a limited resource. My husband won't run out of love for me just because he loves someone else. Sex between two intimate, honest and committed partners will always be the best. But that doesn't mean...
    deleted deleted
    12 Responses Jul 18, 2008


    I was searching for answers as to how to deal with my open relationship. My husband and I have had 3somes in the past which was fine. But once my husband and I said things were going to be open and it actually happened, I have had many many feelings that I wish I could control...
    Erika3232 Erika3232
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 4, 2013

    Well first off I was a really fun

    and open minded friendly cali girl when I met my current boyfriend. He loved that I wasn't a jealous person and was open with him going to ***** clubs and even telling each other which girls we thought were cute. I loved the way I was. However, my boyfriend was the total...
    cory888 cory888
    22-25, F
    Jan 3, 2014

    Girlfriend Wants More Out Of Her College Life.

    I started dating my girlfriend back in high school. We met on the crew team. We've had a great time since then and only recently started having small little fights about dumb stuff that happens when we're together. I think they're dumb but she has a hard time getting over a fight...
    shawncrewjunk shawncrewjunk
    2 Responses Dec 21, 2010

    A New Beginning

    My Fiance and I have been together for almost seven years now, and still going. We've went through allot, unlike any other couple. Few months ago a situation that has always occurred with us gave more unanswered questions and open doors than normal. Starting an Open Relation was...
    AlwaysExhale AlwaysExhale
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 26, 2011

    Life Without Jealousy Is So Much More Fun.

    I was married and faithful for 16 years. One day I saw some emails on wife's computer screen (she forgot to minimize it) and found out that she was planning a secret meeting with an ex flame from high school. He was giving her suggestions about lies she could tell me to "get away...
    jeffr jeffr
    Aug 10, 2011

    Need Answers

    So me and my girlfriend recently started disusing an open relationship. I'm not sure how I feel about it to be honest. I kinda like the idea of it but not sure how to handle it. anyone in an open relationship have any thoughts or comments, good or bad..
    pensfan18 pensfan18
    Sep 24, 2013

    I'M Just Not Sure It'S Worth The Effort

    We have not been dating very long but it has been an intense time and we are very close. I (the female) and older than he is by quite a bit but I honestly can keep up with his sex drive 2 times over. We started out as a kind of fling but when we found out all of the other...
    Olderthanhim Olderthanhim
    51-55, F
    Jun 17, 2013

    A Whole New World!

    I just started an open relationship and it has totally changed the way I view relationships in general. Society tells us that we should only be with one person and up until now I believed that. Now after experiencing something way out side the norms of society I can honestly...
    Belle2739 Belle2739
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Feb 12, 2013

    Guilt! From An Open Relationship First-timer.

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. Before dating him I had another two year relationship filled with nothing but insecurity and jealousy - which I am eternally grateful for because I learned so much about myself, about love, and about being comfortable with...
    pakallakikochino pakallakikochino
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2010

    Open Relationship

    Have an open relationship I personally enjoy social monogamy, but I do not think that sexual monogamy is a necessary part of it. Having a special someone to share your deepest thoughts, feelings, and even just everyday opinions with, makes life really worth living. However, it...
    stevesthe11 stevesthe11
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jul 28, 2012

    New To The Experience

    I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. He has been very honest from the beginning, he is not prone to monogamy. We started out just having fun. I had just gotten out of a 9 year relationship and was looking for nothing more than that. Although he was the...
    ksanne ksanne
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 12, 2010

    Girlfriend Going To Dinner With Her Ex

    i have always fantasized about my girl and i having an open relationship. we are both in our early 20s and we have been dating for 4 years. her ex has been texting her alot recently about jobs and stuff since they both are graduating college. she is honest and tells me what...
    divideit divideit
    Oct 9, 2013


    Shoot...I'm not married lol...soThe bf lets me do whatever I want, I let him do whatever he wants! We both love each other even more. I'm loving the freedom.
    lilhunniebunnie36 lilhunniebunnie36
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2013

    Open/swinger relationship with my wife,

    thus far has been great. We love sharing each other, I love sharing her and showing her off
    ManiacalGenius001 ManiacalGenius001
    31-35, M
    1 Response Dec 2, 2015

    Assistance With Understanding My New Open Relationship...

    My boyfriend and I (of nine months) have been in an open relationship since we met. I have always believed that one person cannot fulfill all your sexual needs, and he felt the same way. We love and care about each other very much. Everything about our relationship is...
    audi06girl audi06girl
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Sep 21, 2010

    I am completely free

    and have never felt more loved.
    jeffr jeffr
    Feb 2, 2015

    Happily Open

    I am a 25 year old woman, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and we have been open (in some capacity) for the majority of that time. Our agreements to each other about sex with other people are always changing, and we are careful to stay in direct communication about what...
    cbean7073 cbean7073
    6 Responses Mar 16, 2011

    I Am In An Open Relationship

    my boyfriend and I both agreed to be in open relationship i didn't agree at first , when i was madly crazily in love with him but then it became our idea when i knew I can't live without having sex with a girl (I'm bisexual) if one of us had sex with someone else we tell each...
    Jamesy3 Jamesy3
    22-25, M
    1 Response Aug 2, 2013

    I Want To, But Can I?

    I have been with my partner for 4+ years and now we are talking about opening things up to physical relationships with same sex partners outside of our union (which is hetero-), and this is something I want, but I'm nervous about feeling guilty, and jealous. I want to be able to...
    marisatw marisatw
    Aug 20, 2013

    I Am "Wondering If I Should Be" In An Open Relationship

    My Fiance and I have been together for almost 6 years now and there are no doubts that together is where we want to be for the rest of our lives. But lately i have been wondering if we could live out our lives together, openly. I'm wondering if these reasons are of good cause to...
    AnonymousCuriosity AnonymousCuriosity
    1 Response Aug 28, 2013

    Feel Positively Relieved!

    So my husband and I had an open relationship before we were married but, decided that it wasn't going to work once we were married in 2003. Well, I felt the need for more in my life then what my husband and I have. He also was feeling the same. We sat down a few wks ago and...
    brylee0506 brylee0506
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2011

    Not My Idea But I Love It

    When me and my girlfriend got to know each other more she felt sorry for me cause she was the only person I was with while she had many partners before she met me. About four months into our relationship it first of all started off as a ********* with one of her friends and since...
    niceshyandkind niceshyandkind
    31-35, M
    Jun 29, 2013

    Ok, Now What?

    It's odd for me to see all these happy couples in open relationships... after 3 years of being with my partner it wasn't happiness or comfort that began the open relationship - quiet the contrary it was lack of enjoyment out of the relationship. I resisted this complete 180 at...
    westartednowwhat westartednowwhat
    26-30, F
    Nov 6, 2013

    27 years and counting.

    Ive been with my partner for 27 years. From day one we knew we were ment for each other but both wanted an open relationship. We both had worked as rent boys while at college to eke out the grant. Abd even though we had good jobs still saw clinets. So for us an open...
    thegaychef thegaychef
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2013

    I can not stand the idea of her being with

    someone else. It hurts. I have the worst pit in my stomach all the time. I feel nauseous all the time. I don't wanna eat. She told me about her intentions more than a month ago and has acted on it maybe a couple times just after. She hasn't acted on it in almost a month...
    denni9800 denni9800
    36-40, M
    3 Responses May 22, 2014

    I Don'T Know How To Trust..

    I love a married man. we dont say the love word yet... but i know its coming... I want an open relationship and so does he. I'm not just saying I do like other girls did to him.. I really do.. I'm secure with myself and confident enough to know we connect on a lot of other...
    megansunshine megansunshine
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2013

    Love, Taken To The Next Level

    My husband and I have been together for close to 20 years – he is my best friend, soul-mate, and romantic heart-throb.... I still get butterflies when I look at that sexy wicked smile of his, and feel those strong hands on me. Recently, though, we have moved into a new phase...
    sands6871 sands6871
    36-40, F
    Oct 26, 2011

    Already In Love Again

    I've been dating/engaged with my first love for a little over five years now. Recently (as in the past two years) we've been discussing having an open/poly relationship. We made an OkCupid account, we've been looking for our third for a while now, almost two years in May-June...
    SilverFireRaven SilverFireRaven
    22-25, F
    Apr 29, 2013

    im in a relationship

    that is open but not free to see people on our own time. the only problem that i have with it is that he does not share with me when he talks to other girls. I catch funny vibes easily(I'm an empath) and i recently went through his phone, which i HONESTLY have only done there...
    Lovelyleaves Lovelyleaves
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2016

    Looking for someone to talk to about it.

    She seems to love it as she has no problems finding other people to sleep with and I'm not so good at it
    Mrrightnow04 Mrrightnow04
    22-25, M
    Dec 26, 2015

    Higher Understanding

    The moment I met her she was quite and stayed very shy and talked to hardly anyone. I on the other hand have always been a bit popular in some way and usually have everyone’s attention. It is not something I try to do but it comes natural. I was not really into the boyish...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 27, 2012

    I Am Happy To Be In An Open Relationship

    I've been with my boyfriend for 3,5 years. After about 3 months he told me that for him was fine if i had sex with other people. At first I was surprised. I never thought about it. Moreover i couldn't accept any asymmetry, so if he allowed me, i had to allow him as well. Then I...
    kapgaroo kapgaroo
    6 Responses Mar 13, 2011

    Open And Loving It.

    We've been married a long time and have always had a trusting relationship. But 3 years ago I asked my wife for an open marriage. After a shaky start we are both loving it and love each other now more than we did when we got married all those years ago. We have seen so many...
    alandsal alandsal
    51-55, M
    Sep 23, 2013
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