I Am In Marriage Counseling

What has your experience with marriage counseling been like? 40 People

    Or at least, I will be.

    Next Tuesday. I have no idea how I feel about this. Part of me has no hope for it whatsoever, but I know that's not a good attitude to go into it with. Part of me thinks it could help us to turn things around, and change everything. I just, I don't even know. I'm so torn. My...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163
    26-30, F
    Mar 25, 2014

    3 Months

    We have been in counseling for almost 3 months. Things haven't gotten better and we are both still unhappy. He moved out 2 weeks and we are trying a seperation. He wants to start over with a new counselor. I want to coninue with our current person. I feel I owe it to our marraige...
    Kalihansmom Kalihansmom
    22-25
    3 Responses Oct 17, 2011

    So, first session with a marriage counselor

    yesterday. Basically he asked why we were there, my husband said very kindly that he wanted to put things back together while I was running out the door, and the counselor asked me a few questions then said he'd like to meet with me on my own. We've got an appointment next week...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2014

    Ready To Call It Quits

    We have been going now for a good six months.  Things are still my fault and what truly needs to be discussed outside of our sessions I have been told we can not bring up.WTF why should I even bother going.The elephant in the room is what needs to be discussed.  He lies at...
    Grits4life Grits4life
    46-50, F
    1 Response Sep 5, 2011

    I Know He Loves Us..... But I Just Dont Know Any More

    Before counseling when things were good they were great and when they were bad I'd kcik him out. I would walk on egg shells around him so he didn’t get mad about not having money to buy a pop or a can of chew. I have asked him to open his own bank account but he refuses. Just...
    Kalihansmom Kalihansmom
    22-25
    3 Responses Oct 5, 2011

    Waste Of Time....

    I've been in counseling with my husband for almost 2yrs now and I'm ready to move on. He and the therapist gang up on me at least that's what it feels like. She asked to meet with us privately last week to see if it would help. Then we meet yesterday and she willingly shares with...
    DeeLisa DeeLisa
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jun 26, 2012

    Did this actually work

    for anyone??? How many years did you go?
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 24, 2014

    "i Am In An Unhappy Marriage"

    My story goes back some 20 years ago. I was going out with a guy for 7 years, I really loved him, but he was possessive and abusive. My parents did not like him because of this traits, but never told me anything. During the 7 years, he was abusive to me but i still...
    Tissues Tissues
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 27, 2010

    My wife and I went to our initial appointment.

    Pretty much sat there while she dug multiple negative traits and incidences about me. I tried to remain patient. I'm optimistic but cautiously unsure if this will save us.
    TheDays TheDays
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Aug 14, 2015

    On our way to the session today we got into a

    hateful argument so I turned the car around. I wish I would have just stuck with the divorce plan, our relationship is too damaged to fix.
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce
    41-45, F
    Jul 10, 2014

    Ack! Sometimes It Just Confuses Me More.

    Just went to the counsellor today.  This week I went by myself because I needed to talk to her without my husband (he went yesterday by himself).  I swear, sometimes she just clouds my thinking so much.  I start to question all kinds of things.  So here I am, spending the...
    espressluv espressluv
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 17, 2011

    We started marriage counseling last week.

    It's a last-ditch effort - I wanted us in counseling a year ago, but he was too busy figuring out his life to work a job or go to counseling... So we're going now, even though I don't know what else I have to give in our marriage. Hubs cried 8 times in our first session...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2014

    Um this is our third time in counseling

    together, third times the charm? LOL -.-
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2014

    I Really Feel Like I Am Trying To Fix It....

    But he's trying to control me! :( He says he's not. He's childish... He doesn't see it but everyone else does. Noone trusts him... Not even me... He lies when it suits him. He watches TV 3+ hours a day. He is always sick. I am not exaggerating... He is sick all the time...
    1invisible1 1invisible1
    31-35, F
    Mar 12, 2011

    Yesterday was by far our worst session.

    I do really like our therapist, so it's not that. But today I'm so depressed, feeling like it's all pointless, beyond state of repair. I couldn't even look at him yesterday, all I felt was a mix of anger, disappointment and even disbelief. The words coming out his mouth just...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2014

    So, this last session was fun.

    Short version: Counselor, "there is no magic fix.." Husband, "I thought that's what we were paying you for?" (Insert implied sarcasm) (Insert counselor not picking up on sarcasm) Counselor, "The biggest problem in yalls relationship right now is the 'want to.' I can help with a...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163
    26-30, F
    Apr 25, 2014

    I'm In Marriage Type #2 And I'm The Loser

    We have been in counseling for a year and a half. In yesterday's session the therapist suggested we read an article. I have pasted the link below. She has challenged my husband to try to be less of a winner. I've read the article and I wonder if there is any point in hoping he...
    DeeLisa DeeLisa
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 12, 2012

    Is You Is Or Is You Ain't?

    We started marriage counseling soon after I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.  I had confessed my infidelity (ies, if you count internet affairs) to my wife in such a way that she couldn't really react on her emotions.  She had to put those aside to take care of me...
    wundayatta wundayatta
    56-60, M
    3 Responses May 14, 2010

    I'm not very hopeful

    that it will save my marriage but I'm starting to feel like I'm not crazy after all. The counselor has widened her eyes in dismay, surprise and bewilderment as we tell tales of our marriage. Today she asked my husband if he would be open to one-on-one communication coaching. I...
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Oct 15, 2014
    PolishedSadness PolishedSadness
    36-40, F
    Jun 7, 2014

    I went to see our marriage counselor with my

    wife today. I feel more and more that the situation is hopeless.
    Cowboy6666 Cowboy6666
    51-55, M
    Dec 22, 2014
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