I Am In Perimenopause

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 518 People

    Lately when I'm menstruating,

    I'm so incredibly sleepy. My moods are much more intense. I feel overwhelmed, anxious, and foggy headed. Last year I started experiencing doom, which was completely new to me, and completely frightening. I'm a few days away from turning 41 and it just occurred to me I'm in...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 8, 2016

    This Sucks!

    I have heard that a tubal ligation can make peri menopause start early. I hope that's what the hell of the last three years has been. I'm in my early 40's but have felt "psycho" for about 3 1/2 years now and it seems to only be getting worse. I take progesterone and that helps...
    bundi8u bundi8u
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Apr 23, 2012

    A Week Of Torture

    Hi ladies, boy is it good to be able to talk about this. I believe I'm in the beginning stages of perimenopause, I'm 49 and still getting regular periods, but my PMS symptoms are getting pretty bad. It started with severe fatigue the day before, but the last three months I've...
    InsideEnergy InsideEnergy
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2013

    I am 42 years old. My symptoms came out of

    nowhere when I turned 41 last year. Anxiety, depression, fear, brain fog, lack of concentration, disorientation, heart palpitations, doom/gloom, fear of dying, oh i forgot to mention, woke up about 2 months ago and really felt like I've lost my mind. Like I've literally gone...
    momluvmimi momluvmimi
    41-45, F
    4 Responses May 12, 2015

    I am wondering if there is anyone like me in

    this group. I have researched it, but not thoroughly, so I am taking a shortcut by just asking. I am crazy, emotional & I over react to everything....but the symptom no one prepared me for is my sex drive is almost out of control. Is this what if feels like to be a 16 year...
    sciencegoddess sciencegoddess
    51-55, F
    1 Response Dec 5, 2015

    It really does feel like you're losing your

    mind sometimes. Hot...HOT flashes (rivers of pouring sweat, nausea and dizziness) followed by shivers when the air is at all cool. Melancholy and exhaustion rule more of my life than I admit. And what on earth is up with the palpitations thing??? I had nearly convinced...
    ImpishToad ImpishToad
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    I Helped Someone Today.

    I happened to run into a neighbor friend of mine that I haven't spoken to for a while.  She turned 40 today.  I remarked at how horrific 40 was for me that my heart was beating out of my chest on most days and that the heat was ready to kill me.  She looked shocked and stated...
    KatLehmkuhl KatLehmkuhl
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2011

    I'm 47, and I think I'm in full blown menopause.

    I wouldn't know for sure because I had a hysterectomy five years ago, and only have one ovary left. But your stories sound exactly like mine. I am hypothyroid, but have been treated with Armour for the last 14 years, no problems there. But the last couple years I have been...
    nygirl67 nygirl67
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 2, 2015

    I am 50 years old. For the past year

    or two, have been an awful emotional wreck. It seems like a day has not gone by that I haven't cried over something. I feel like I have reached a tipping point and I need to do something to help myself with this issue. I am going to make an effort to clean up my diet, exercise...
    katiedid64 katiedid64
    Jul 31, 2015

    Am I In Perimenopause?

    Hi, i'm a 42-year-old woman who is very scared and confused.   It seems like the second I turned 40, my body and mind has changed and is out of control.  I have never been a person who suffered from insomnia, but now for many reasons, I wake up every night.  I'm either hot or...
    dvskitty dvskitty
    19 Responses Mar 21, 2011

    Blurred Vision And Super Tired

    I went to the emergency two nights ago complaining of extreme fatigue and blurred vision.. I was currently on the tail end of my 14 day cycle ( used to be 28 days ). I sat there explaining to this young doctor my symptoms and he had me stick out my tongue and then he checked my...
    Butters420 Butters420
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 2, 2013

    I'm reading the posts through a haze of mild

    nausea, a headache and painful ankles. So I'm not the only one who feels like I'm walking through water? Fatigue. Anxiety. Hot flashes. Nausea. Migraines.
    beebee482 beebee482
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 20, 2015

    I'm 44 and as of tomorrow I'm 45.

    I have always been a regular 28 day cycle with my period up until this summer (and my 13 year old starting her period) and all of a sudden I was going 30 days. Just in sept I went 40days no period then I got it for 12 then it stopped for 10 then I got it again for 7 then...
    luvireland10 luvireland10
    1 Response Dec 17, 2015

    Has anyone had any luck with otc natural

    remedies or progesterone cream? I use AM and PM pills that have black cohosh and valerian root (and some other stuff), but they only do so much. I also take b12 vitamins and I just started otc progesterone cream yesterday. My hot flashes have improved some, but I struggle...
    mlcampbell mlcampbell
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2015

    why my periods are coming far too often:

    fibroids, apparently. also, getting an endometrial biopsy is really not fun. I suppose I should feel glad that my fibroids are not too large and not too menacing. and eventually i will be post-menopausal. hurray! blech.
    ariadneofnaxos ariadneofnaxos
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2015

    This past 18 months have been the worst.

    ...feel like I'm losing my marbles! All started with being diagnosed with anxiety and depression which seemed to come from nowhere, I'd had quite a stressful few months so accepted what the doctors said but now over 1 year on, I'm convinced that it must be perimenopause and...
    Straykat41 Straykat41
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2015

    I am 52 and 1/2 years old.

    I have skipped my last 2 periods. For the past several weeks I have generally felt like sh!t. I would never have believed something natural like menopause would cause someone to actually feel like self-harming and suicidal at times, that is how bad it has gotten for me. I...
    BlueIris1962 BlueIris1962
    14 Responses Apr 4, 2015

    Didn't Expect This At All!!

    I am 45 years old and for the past year I've been experiencing irregular periods.  My skin is horrible and the anxiety is through the roof.  I'm told that you can skip periods for up to 6 months and still not be in menopause.  Like many of you I have had my Thyroid checked as...
    lmjjwilson lmjjwilson
    41-45, F
    8 Responses Aug 3, 2011

    Tired Of Perimenopause

    Hi all: I just joined this group today.  I really need some support as perimenopause can be a really tough ride. I think I'm about 5 or 6 years into this thing - I now call it 'the hostage taking' as there seem to be occasions when I feel that I am being held hostage by my...
    Ellen1111 Ellen1111
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Nov 29, 2009

    Perimeno....oh The Anxiety

    Can you ladies help me?  I am 45 and I HAVE to be going thru perimeno!!  I feel like I am going to have a nervous breakdown.  I had all sorts of symptoms like joint pain etc... but the anxiety and panic and feelins of gloom are doing me in. Can I email someone because I feel...
    sweetmariam sweetmariam
    12 Responses May 29, 2011

    I just started researching the perimenopausal

    rage solution. It hit me baaad, really really bad. Today in the morning I locked myself in the bathroom, so I didn't have to look at my husband. I would probably hit him with a heavy object otherwise. Just because he didn't put his coffee mug to a dishwasher. Just like that...
    Lilith66 Lilith66
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Jan 23, 2015

    I am sitting here bawling

    because I feel so horrible. I am 46 and the past year I have been experiencing progressively worse peri symptoms. Today is horrible. Jittery, hot and cold, panicky, anxious, dizzy, etc etc etc. I found this group and it's good to know i'm not alone, but seriously wouldn't...
    PMSurvivor PMSurvivor
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 20, 2016

    I'm scared! I know every woman goes through

    perimenopause and menopause and each one of us has our own journey and own set of symptoms.That Being said, here is my story. I was told over a year over year ago with perimenopause. I turned 50 in August of 2015 and seems like my body just knew that as soon as it reached...
    heyteech heyteech
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2016

    I'm in Perimenopause

    and most of the time I really don't like my husband. He annoys me. He is a workaholic and he refuses to talk about issues. He gets extremely defensive. I've also become more critical. I used to be able to get over my resentment and anger but in the last year I can't seem to...
    mfyfe mfyfe
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 21, 2015

    Comforting Resource For Us....

    I have spent the last few weeks scouring the internet trying to make sense of what is happening to me. I, like most of you, am sometimes convinced that I've just lost my mind literally....become insane. A lot of the physical signs of perimenopause have been subtle for me, but...
    wackymom wackymom
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2013

    I am 42 years old. My symptoms came out of

    nowhere when I turned 41 last year. Anxiety, depression, fear, brain fog, lack of concentration, disorientation, heart palpitations, doom/gloom, fear of dying, oh i forgot to mention, woke up about 2 months ago and really felt like I've lost my mind. Like I've literally gone...
    momluvmimi momluvmimi
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 12, 2015

    There Is Hope!

    I just got a call from my OB/Gyn office.  I was not able to get in to see him until 9/27.  That seemed like a world away.  Now, though, they have an opening on Friday morning of this week and I am off that day!!!!!  YEAH!!!!!OK... sorry.  Anywho, I spoke with the...
    KatLehmkuhl KatLehmkuhl
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2011

    Mood Swings Fast and Furious With Perimenopause

    I am suffering extreme mood swings.  To the point that some people are afraid to approach me.  They never know if I am going to be my usual sweet self or if I am going to lash out like a snake and bite.  And nasty!!  I cut to the bone.  Inside I am still...
    51-55, F
    12 Responses Jun 11, 2008

    Perimenopause And Pregnancy Symptoms

    Hi, I am 44 years old and some strange things have been happening over the past 5 weeks. I have had normal very regular cycles up until the end of April. Around the 1st week of May I had some cramping like I was going to start my cycle again and then really horrible low back pain...
    krma krma
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

    I am 42 years old. My symptoms came out of

    nowhere when I turned 41 last year. Anxiety, depression, fear, brain fog, lack of concentration, disorientation, heart palpitations, doom/gloom, fear of dying, oh i forgot to mention, woke up about 2 months ago and really felt like I've lost my mind. Like I've literally gone...
    momluvmimi momluvmimi
    41-45, F
    May 12, 2015

    I have a question. Does anyone experience

    higher blood pressure during specific points in their cycle?
    coob coob
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 9, 2015

    I have been going through perimenopause

    for about 4 years now. Early on was just an occasional missed period. In the last 6 months I feel like I have lost my mind and my life. My migraines have increased, I have heart palpitations that send me into anxiety attacks, racing heart that is strong enough to wake me, hot...
    sorchkat sorchkat
    46-50, F
    1 Response Mar 26, 2015

    "god Givith...god Takith Away,please!

    honeybush honeybush
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Apr 3, 2010

    Where Did I Go? I Am In Perimenopause

    I am 42 yrs. old and am in perimenopause. I feel like I lost myself a few years ago. My outlook is different, I get aggrivated easier than I used to, I have anxiety and some depression. I also wake up just about the same time every  night and can't go back to sleep for a few...
    lynn0468 lynn0468
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Jan 15, 2011

    I am 51. My doctor will not give me anything

    for my perimenopausal symptoms because he states the meds will cause me cancer. I tried to get help from him twice. Most days I have anger, paranoia, 11 day periods, thinning hair, depression, and I'm most certain I lost my job because of my crazy behavior and I'm so afraid if...
    Pinklaw26 Pinklaw26
    51-55, F
    3 Responses May 28, 2014

    after reading some of the stories on here I am

    glad I am not alone! I began experiencing peri symptoms when I was around 36 ( same age as my mom had). My Dr at the time dismissed it as anxiety and pretty much told me to get on with my life. I suffered for a couple years until I was 38 and began to experience anxiety and...
    joann67 joann67
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2015

    I don't know exactly

    when my perimenopause began, but I have been having hot flashes, night sweats, heart palps, hot one minute cold the next, sleeplessness, foggy brain..that's just a few of my symptoms. Plus I have type 2 diabetes. My period is coming in a day or two, I know because I cry about...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 5, 2016

    OMG! Thank you all for sharing your experience

    and stories. I was laughing half way down the page. I was 38 and have been expereience pre & menapause for the last 6 years now. You are all right, it STINKS! I can say that the one thing that has helped me tremondously is the power of sharing where I am at with other women...
    dianewjersey dianewjersey
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    2years Into Perimenopause And I Want To Have A Baby

    i was 42 when i started with the hot flashes,irregular periods and insomnia....mainly caused by being woken up by hot flashes closely followed by cold shivers and then needing the loo,sometimes up to 8 times a night.this in turn made me very intolerant,snappy and moody,sluggish...
    wildhorsey wildhorsey
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 28, 2010

    ARGH! I think my period might be coming this

    week -- i expect it in a few days, but my BREASTS are so enormously swollen and incredibly painful (i've been sleeping a bra for several nights) that I have half convinced myself that i am pregnant. There is part of me that kind of would like to be pregnant. so either way, i...
    ariadneofnaxos ariadneofnaxos
    46-50, F
    Oct 26, 2015

    I Thought I Was Going Crazy....

    I actually spent days wondering if I was going insane. After a breakup of my 18 year marriage, I was on my own for the first time in a long time. I thought I was ok but quickly realized I wasn't. First it was panic attacks (which I havent had since I was a teenager). Weird...
    annieperson annieperson
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2011

    I'm 43 and have had several weird periods in a

    row. I went to my doctor who did a pap smear and said things change when you're over 40. She didn't seem interested in my fears. My mom has also tried to tell me it's fine, and that she had a period of two weeks at about my age. When she went to her doctor, his response was...
    MegaMeg MegaMeg
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 15, 2015

    Hi - I am a month away from my 45th Birthday

    and have been experiencing funny cycles for a few months now, the latest one being only 18 days... and am on day 8 without any sign of let up 😟 Has anyone else had this?
    rach1407 rach1407
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jul 5, 2015

    Out Of Control

    I turned 40 last December.  I was a good girl and accepted it with grace and vigor.  My family was very proud of me and told me I took it much better than anyone else they knew.  Then came June.  June was HELL!!!!  I went to the doctor for a typical checkup and found out...
    KatLehmkuhl KatLehmkuhl
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Aug 19, 2011

    The Beginning of the End?

    My doctor "thinks" I am perimenopausal, and he expects me to know what all that means.  Oh, I understand that I will stop having periods, that I need to consider HRTs, that I will have hot flashes and be *itchier than usual.  But is this also why I am having...
    alisarosenbaum alisarosenbaum
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Oct 25, 2007

    Hold onto your hat

    and let's hope it's not one of those silly red ones that older women wear to tea parties. I mean, it's cute, but I'm just not READY YET. I am at that age; you know, the one where a woman becomes "a woman of a certain age" and men buy new red sports cars. Or...
    sonrisaj sonrisaj
    46-50, F
    9 Responses Jan 2, 2008

    Oh my freaking god. My hormones are

    so outrageously out of control. I get the night sweats, the headaches, the swollen painful boobs, the flash fatigue, the brain fog, but now this?? THIS??? I have been absurdly horny for several WEEKS. It used to be amusing, then it was distracting, now it's starting to affect...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 23, 2016

    Omg...so I'm Not Going Mad...yaaay!

    I guess you could call me a late bloomer, I met my husband when I was 36 and became a mum at 38. Finally I was happy and everything in my life was going great. I had a man I adored who loved me back and a beautiful little boy who delighted me every day and suddenly just...
    heavenisaplaceonearth heavenisaplaceonearth
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Aug 15, 2013

    Hi ladies. I am 42 and have been going through

    peri for quite some time. It started with head tingling, dizzyness, disorientation and progressed to depression, insomnia, exhaustion. Doctor said it was depression - I don't think so as I was happy just something not right. This went on for 3 years then last April my periods...
    foundthisway foundthisway
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    The Worst Time In My Life!!!!

    Omg the way i feel is so bad, i can't stand feeling this way.  I don't even want to get out of bed in the mornings, and is not that i want to sleep because i can't even sleep at night. I have have chronic insomnia and is taking a toll on me. I feel so exausted and with no...
    mrsb1165 mrsb1165
    41-45, F
    56 Responses Apr 9, 2010

    Has anyone also experienced restless/cramping

    legs and feet? In the evenings my legs begin to hurt and feel stiff. It takes me hours to fall asleep! Also, my toes start to cramp when I'm trying to get into shoes or flip flops. This is a new symptom I could really do without.
    dinalee65 dinalee65
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Feb 20, 2015

    Hi, I have started spotting 5 days

    after finishing period and been for 6 days now just a slight spot but is this perimenopause starting to worry now I'm 47
    vansxxx vansxxx
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2015

    Someone Please Tell Me This Is Normal!

    So from everything I've read lately, I'm driving head-on into perimenopause and I have my head hanging out the window and I'm screaming 'HELP!' LOLI'm on a rollercoaster and I really don't like it.I hate this emotional up & down! I fear sharing this with my husband for fear that...
    robono robono
    5 Responses Aug 17, 2011

    I am so scared. I feel like I am not me anymore.

    The dizziness and nausea and anxiety are so bad. I have terrible health anxiety and it has gotten worse over the last couple of years. I am terrified of Doctors and have a panic attack when I even think about going. I did a hormone saliva test which showed low progesterone. I am...
    daneen63 daneen63
    51-55, F
    4 Responses May 27, 2015

    Scary Powerful Symptoms!!!

    I'm 46 y/o and what I've been experiencing in the past year or two....WOW! This has truly been mind blowing (not exaggerating). Many of the stories I read here are so familiar and in a way comforting because I don't feel alone anymore. I didn't have anyone to reference with...
    mamacoocoo mamacoocoo
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 2, 2013

    38 Years Old And Perimenopause

    Within the last two months I've had these symptoms: tingling hands and feet panic attacks (out of nowhere) high anxiety most of the time scary, gloomy thoughts mild hot flashes (right before and at the beginning of menses) night sweats (right before and at the beginning of...
    wackymom wackymom
    41-45, F
    1 Response Oct 14, 2013

    Started Perimenpause, Symptoms Now Getting Worse

    I am 43 years old and started this journey about 18 months ago I guess. My periods sometimes occur more often and then they just go away for ages and then sometimes they are normal.  The bleeding hasn't been any heavier (I read about that here, didn't realise that would...
    Mags1965 Mags1965
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Jun 27, 2008

    Oh Crap!

    Yep...been here in Perimenopause for like 3 years now.... So let me get this straight....I still get the bloating, bleeding and crazy mood swings, and in addition....I get even wilder mood swings, hot flashes and granny hairs. Hmmmmmm- kinda thinkin this sucks!
    trixiegirl trixiegirl
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Sep 20, 2009
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