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I Am In Perimenopause

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    I'm in Perimenopause

    and most of the time I really don't like my husband. He annoys me. He is a workaholic and he refuses to talk about issues. He gets extremely defensive. I've also become more critical. I used to be able to get over my resentment and anger but in the last year I can't seem to...
    mfyfe mfyfe 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Omg...

    Ok, so I'm new to all this stuff, but I have to say that I'm SOOO glad to have found this site.  I'm going through so many changes physically right now that sometimes I really wonder if I'm losing my mind... I'm cranky. I'm moody. I'm on the verge of tears more times in a...
    BeautifulSkies BeautifulSkies 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 17, 2009

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    I am 52 and 1/2 years old.

    I have skipped my last 2 periods. For the past several weeks I have generally felt like sh!t. I would never have believed something natural like menopause would cause someone to actually feel like self-harming and suicidal at times, that is how bad it has gotten for me. I...
    BlueIris1962 BlueIris1962 51-55 13 Responses Apr 4

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    2years Into Perimenopause And I Want To Have A Baby

    i was 42 when i started with the hot flashes,irregular periods and insomnia....mainly caused by being woken up by hot flashes closely followed by cold shivers and then needing the loo,sometimes up to 8 times a night.this in turn made me very intolerant,snappy and moody,sluggish...
    wildhorsey wildhorsey 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 28, 2010

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    I have a question. Does anyone experience

    higher blood pressure during specific points in their cycle?
    coob coob 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    OMG! Thank you all for sharing your experience

    and stories. I was laughing half way down the page. I was 38 and have been expereience pre & menapause for the last 6 years now. You are all right, it STINKS! I can say that the one thing that has helped me tremondously is the power of sharing where I am at with other women...
    dianewjersey dianewjersey 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2014

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    Had Enough

    i am experiencing perimenopause has been 5 years body aches bad anxsiety sweats depression mood swings wish there was something to help tied alot of the time
    presario presario 46-50 7 Responses Feb 3, 2008

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    "god Givith...god Takith Away,please!

    HELLO COMRADS, JUST WHEN I THOUGHT I HAD BECOME A HORRIBLE WOMAN....IT HELPS TO KNOW I'M NOT ALONE. ALMOST COMFORTING! i'M SUFFERING. EVERYDAY. I THOUGHT I WAS LOSING MY MIND OR BIPOLAR. NOT. MY SYMPTOMS BEGAN VERY EARLY IN LIFE, AGE36. I THEN FOUND OUT ALL...
    honeybush honeybush 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 3, 2010

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    Freaked Out Over Wacky Monthies

    Always been regular as clockwork and suddenly everything is crazy.  Late period that stopped and started.  Now one a week early--or is it just weird bleeding before the next time? Anyone else with this going on...I'm a little freaked out.  Gyn just said watch it...
    madmen47 madmen47 46-50 1 Response Apr 23, 2009

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    Started Perimenpause, Symptoms Now Getting Worse

    I am 43 years old and started this journey about 18 months ago I guess. My periods sometimes occur more often and then they just go away for ages and then sometimes they are normal.  The bleeding hasn't been any heavier (I read about that here, didn't realise that would...
    Mags1965 Mags1965 41-45, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    Blurred Vision And Super Tired

    I went to the emergency two nights ago complaining of extreme fatigue and blurred vision.. I was currently on the tail end of my 14 day cycle ( used to be 28 days ). I sat there explaining to this young doctor my symptoms and he had me stick out my tongue and then he checked my...
    Butters420 Butters420 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2013

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    i never had pmt. periods were nearly always

    48-56 days. the last few years i've had pmt. breast tenderness, irritability getting really bad, barely know what i do the 3 days before a period and almost blackout. i haven't had hot flushes but my body temperature control has been totally erratic (either too hot or too cold...
    chalie123 chalie123 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2014

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    Yikes! What Happend To My Life?

    As I think back over the last year or so, I realized that this process of perimenopause started before I even knew it started.  It really came into full swing this past March.  The symptoms were like I was having a heart attack and with my family history of heart problems, I...
    arquette arquette 46-50, F 6 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    Perimeno....oh The Anxiety

    Can you ladies help me?  I am 45 and I HAVE to be going thru perimeno!!  I feel like I am going to have a nervous breakdown.  I had all sorts of symptoms like joint pain etc... but the anxiety and panic and feelins of gloom are doing me in. Can I email someone because I feel...
    sweetmariam sweetmariam 41-45 12 Responses May 29, 2011

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    I'm 48 and have been tracking my periods

    for about two years or so with an app. About every 3-5 months I have a shorter cycle...anywhere from 11-19 days. Then I resume a normal schedule for several months. I've always been super regular. This last period was normal, but then 11 days later I started again...only...
    WHATTHEHECK66 WHATTHEHECK66 46-50, F Aug 14, 2014

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    I feel as though I am in a waking nightmare at

    almost 48 years old. Last week, I did not sleep for 48 hours, and now I have to drink beer to be able to sleep at all, to calm myself down. The anxiety is ruining all of the fun of life, and when I wake up, my hot flashes and racing heart scare me so much that I can barely...
    perijenn perijenn 46-50, F Dec 14, 2014

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    This Sucks!

    I have heard that a tubal ligation can make peri menopause start early. I hope that's what the hell of the last three years has been. I'm in my early 40's but have felt "psycho" for about 3 1/2 years now and it seems to only be getting worse. I take progesterone and that helps...
    bundi8u bundi8u 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    I am 45 and started having extreme PMS a few

    years ago, after not having significant PMS the rest of my life. Everyone told me I was too young for perimenopause, but I kept pushing and I managed to find some balance for a while. Now my periods have started being inconsistent and the mood swings are horrid. Glad to find...
    redaltitude redaltitude 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    Hold onto your hat

    and let's hope it's not one of those silly red ones that older women wear to tea parties. I mean, it's cute, but I'm just not READY YET. I am at that age; you know, the one where a woman becomes "a woman of a certain age" and men buy new red sports cars. Or...
    sonrisaj sonrisaj 46-50, F 9 Responses Jan 2, 2008

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    Hi - I am a month away from my 45th Birthday

    and have been experiencing funny cycles for a few months now, the latest one being only 18 days... and am on day 8 without any sign of let up 😟 Has anyone else had this?
    rach1407 rach1407 41-45, F Jul 5

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    A Week Of Torture

    Hi ladies, boy is it good to be able to talk about this. I believe I'm in the beginning stages of perimenopause, I'm 49 and still getting regular periods, but my PMS symptoms are getting pretty bad. It started with severe fatigue the day before, but the last three months I've...
    InsideEnergy InsideEnergy 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    I am 47. Going to my OB/GYN

    after being at allergist, MRI, countless bloodwork over the past year. Im always beyond exhausted now. Never a good sleeper. Im lucky if Ambiern helps. Now I get hideous headaches daily for months now. Almost a year. Dry mouth, tingly itchy feeling on face and in my mouth...
    calbred calbred 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2014

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    The Worst Time In My Life!!!!

    Omg the way i feel is so bad, i can't stand feeling this way.  I don't even want to get out of bed in the mornings, and is not that i want to sleep because i can't even sleep at night. I have have chronic insomnia and is taking a toll on me. I feel so exausted and with no...
    mrsb1165 mrsb1165 41-45, F 47 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    Am I In Perimenopause?

    Hi, i'm a 42-year-old woman who is very scared and confused.   It seems like the second I turned 40, my body and mind has changed and is out of control.  I have never been a person who suffered from insomnia, but now for many reasons, I wake up every night.  I'm either hot or...
    dvskitty dvskitty 41-45 18 Responses Mar 21, 2011

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    I've been living in hell

    for the past couple of months.. It all started with a series of migraines.. These migraines were not just headaches but whole body shocks.. I had vision trouble.. Tremors.. Dizziness.. Weakness.. These lasted for about 2 weeks.. I saw a neurologist that prescribed Endep to treat...
    vesquivel vesquivel 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    The Beginning of the End?

    My doctor "thinks" I am perimenopausal, and he expects me to know what all that means.  Oh, I understand that I will stop having periods, that I need to consider HRTs, that I will have hot flashes and be *itchier than usual.  But is this also why I am having...
    alisarosenbaum alisarosenbaum 46-50, F 10 Responses Oct 25, 2007

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    I am so scared. I feel like I am not me anymore.

    The dizziness and nausea and anxiety are so bad. I have terrible health anxiety and it has gotten worse over the last couple of years. I am terrified of Doctors and have a panic attack when I even think about going. I did a hormone saliva test which showed low progesterone. I am...
    daneen63 daneen63 51-55, F 2 Responses May 27

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    Has anyone had any luck with otc natural

    remedies or progesterone cream? I use AM and PM pills that have black cohosh and valerian root (and some other stuff), but they only do so much. I also take b12 vitamins and I just started otc progesterone cream yesterday. My hot flashes have improved some, but I struggle...
    mlcampbell mlcampbell 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 22

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    Tired Of Perimenopause

    Hi all: I just joined this group today.  I really need some support as perimenopause can be a really tough ride. I think I'm about 5 or 6 years into this thing - I now call it 'the hostage taking' as there seem to be occasions when I feel that I am being held hostage by my...
    Ellen1111 Ellen1111 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 29, 2009

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    I have been feeling like I'm not living in my

    own body for nearly 6 months now . Lots of trips to the doctors , lots of tests , lots of googling symptoms . Even though a hormone test came back normal my doctor says I am in perimenopause. All I previously knew about menopause was night sweats and hot flushes , but it isn't...
    lisawagstaff22 lisawagstaff22 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    Out Of Control

    I turned 40 last December.  I was a good girl and accepted it with grace and vigor.  My family was very proud of me and told me I took it much better than anyone else they knew.  Then came June.  June was HELL!!!!  I went to the doctor for a typical checkup and found out...
    KatLehmkuhl KatLehmkuhl 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2011

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    There Is Hope!

    I just got a call from my OB/Gyn office.  I was not able to get in to see him until 9/27.  That seemed like a world away.  Now, though, they have an opening on Friday morning of this week and I am off that day!!!!!  YEAH!!!!!OK... sorry.  Anywho, I spoke with the...
    KatLehmkuhl KatLehmkuhl 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2011

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    I am 51. My doctor will not give me anything

    for my perimenopausal symptoms because he states the meds will cause me cancer. I tried to get help from him twice. Most days I have anger, paranoia, 11 day periods, thinning hair, depression, and I'm most certain I lost my job because of my crazy behavior and I'm so afraid if...
    Pinklaw26 Pinklaw26 51-55, F 3 Responses May 28, 2014

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    Has anyone also experienced restless/cramping

    legs and feet? In the evenings my legs begin to hurt and feel stiff. It takes me hours to fall asleep! Also, my toes start to cramp when I'm trying to get into shoes or flip flops. This is a new symptom I could really do without.
    dinalee65 dinalee65 46-50, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    Someone Please Tell Me This Is Normal!

    So from everything I've read lately, I'm driving head-on into perimenopause and I have my head hanging out the window and I'm screaming 'HELP!' LOLI'm on a rollercoaster and I really don't like it.I hate this emotional up & down! I fear sharing this with my husband for fear that...
    robono robono 46-50 5 Responses Aug 17, 2011

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    I am 50 years old. For the past year

    or two, have been an awful emotional wreck. It seems like a day has not gone by that I haven't cried over something. I feel like I have reached a tipping point and I need to do something to help myself with this issue. I am going to make an effort to clean up my diet, exercise...
    katiedid64 katiedid64 46-50 1 hr ago

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    I Thought I Was Going Crazy....

    I actually spent days wondering if I was going insane. After a breakup of my 18 year marriage, I was on my own for the first time in a long time. I thought I was ok but quickly realized I wasn't. First it was panic attacks (which I havent had since I was a teenager). Weird...
    annieperson annieperson 36-40 2 Responses Apr 4, 2011

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    Perimenopause And Pregnancy Symptoms

    Hi, I am 44 years old and some strange things have been happening over the past 5 weeks. I have had normal very regular cycles up until the end of April. Around the 1st week of May I had some cramping like I was going to start my cycle again and then really horrible low back pain...
    krma krma 46-50 2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

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    Comforting Resource For Us....

    I have spent the last few weeks scouring the internet trying to make sense of what is happening to me. I, like most of you, am sometimes convinced that I've just lost my mind literally....become insane. A lot of the physical signs of perimenopause have been subtle for me, but...
    wackymom wackymom 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    Mood Swings Fast and Furious With Perimenopause

    I am suffering extreme mood swings.  To the point that some people are afraid to approach me.  They never know if I am going to be my usual sweet self or if I am going to lash out like a snake and bite.  And nasty!!  I cut to the bone.  Inside I am still...
    SHERIELYN SHERIELYN 51-55, F 12 Responses Jun 11, 2008

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    Didn't Expect This At All!!

    I am 45 years old and for the past year I've been experiencing irregular periods.  My skin is horrible and the anxiety is through the roof.  I'm told that you can skip periods for up to 6 months and still not be in menopause.  Like many of you I have had my Thyroid checked as...
    lmjjwilson lmjjwilson 41-45, F 8 Responses Aug 3, 2011

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    I want to share some resources

    that have helped me. My main symptoms are hot flashes, severe depression, weight gain, and missed periods. I am 47 now, but started having spotting between periods at 42. Natural progesterone cream helped to regulate this after about 2 months of taking it. Then about 2 years...
    vermiliontwo vermiliontwo 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I am 42 years old. My symptoms came out of

    nowhere when I turned 41 last year. Anxiety, depression, fear, brain fog, lack of concentration, disorientation, heart palpitations, doom/gloom, fear of dying, oh i forgot to mention, woke up about 2 months ago and really felt like I've lost my mind. Like I've literally gone...
    momluvmimi momluvmimi 41-45, F May 12

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    I'm 43 and have had several weird periods in a

    row. I went to my doctor who did a pap smear and said things change when you're over 40. She didn't seem interested in my fears. My mom has also tried to tell me it's fine, and that she had a period of two weeks at about my age. When she went to her doctor, his response was...
    MegaMeg MegaMeg 41-45, F May 15

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    I had blood work done recently to find out

    if I'm experiencing perimenopause. I have the tell tale symptoms for well over a year, night sweats, mood swings, dizzy, confused, severe pms, irregular periods and periods in between my periods. What made things worse for me is that I have PVC's and palpitations, had them since...
    ksbonneau ksbonneau 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 3, 2014

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    So interested to read about all the crazy

    symptoms. For me I had a marina coil fitted so rarely had periods but developed constant cramps for 6 weeks so asked my dr to remove the coil. I felt instant relief but 3 months later the cramps started again. I've had no periods since taking the coil out 4 months ago, but the...
    traceymactell traceymactell 46-50, F Jun 21, 2014

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