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I Am Indecisive

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    Hi all, My name is Sophie and I am a freelance journalist and MA student journalist in London. I'm writing a feature on why us women are so indecisive, and I'd love to interview the most indecisive among you quickly for it. Would anyone be up for it? I would really appreciate it...
    SophieHaslettXX SophieHaslettXX 22-25 4 Responses May 19, 2012

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    It Doesn't Matter What It Is

    It doesn't matter what it is I can never make my own decisions. I constantly find myself looking at my boyfriend for answers. Does this mean I am looking for his answer so he doesn't see mine as a bad answer, or does it mean I'm not comfortable with myself, or could it be...
    aiikii aiikii 19-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

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    Or Am I?

    Oh I don't know!
    fun4me77 fun4me77 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 26, 2009

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    I Hate Making Decisions

    I hate it so much that I get panicky and am constantly worrying whether it was the right one to make as growing when I was around 9 my stepdad used to ask me to make a decision of some sort n if I didnt decide what he was expecting or wanting he would 'punish' me n ot got so bad...
    pinkygirl24 pinkygirl24 22-25, F Jul 29, 2012

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    That One. Or Maybe This One?

    Simple decisions or big ones don't ask me. I've got no idea. I could neve choose for you because I always want to know what you want. Give me two choices and I'll decide in two hours, give me ten choices I'll decide in ten hours, catch my drift? I'll only decide if I absolutely...
    StrangeSally StrangeSally 18-21, F Apr 26, 2011

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    I Get Confused

    I sometimes get caught up in I'll call it "the bad feeling" you know, the feeling when either you know you messed up or you might messed up. Sometimes I get caught in that ... anticipation of that feeling, without even anything to of happened yet. And it starts a circle that...
    rexifelis rexifelis 41-45, M Sep 9, 2013

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    Ahhh

    Maybe it's because I confidence issues, but I can't seem to make one decision without overanalyzing the situation. My friends make jokes and say that I'm paranoid about everything, and I usually laugh it off, but I wonder constantly when will this doubt over every move I make...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 7, 2010

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    I'm A Girl, What Do You Expect?

    "You can't have your cake and eat it too." So with this whole heartbreak and sorrow feeling that has overwhelmed me these past fews weeks, I am finally starting to come to terms that me and this boy just don't belong together- as bf and gf. For the past couple of days, we...
    Elysiaaa Elysiaaa 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    Very.

    I struggle to make concrete decisions all the time, because I'm always second-guessing myself, wondering if it was the right choice, and reassessing. I might originally be confident about a decision I've made, but then the doubt will set in, and I'll rethink absolutely everything...
    Ragelovelumos Ragelovelumos 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 15, 2012

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    Why Is Making A Simple Decision So Hard?

    I make life and death decisions lightening fast. I have done so for years. Constantly deciding priority levels, what help to send, what advise to give, what extra steps to take and more. I have to decide so much with little time to think. So when it comes to easy decisions...
    3grnowl 3grnowl 26-30 May 3, 2012

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    Mr Completely Wrong Yet Somehow Completely Right For You.

    Basically i need to get this off my chest.. have you ever found yourself having feelings for someone you really shouldn't ? whose own sister told you he is a ***** ? who everyone that knows you and him that you can do way better ? but yet, you find it next to impossible to get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 11, 2012

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    A classic example of my inability to decide.

    I've decided I'm going to work and call up everybody of what I'm planning to do. My brother passes by and whips out his college form to take accountancy. Now, I'm envious and second-guessing my decision!
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 Jun 2

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    Every time I can't make up decision I use my

    magic eight ball no matter how important it is. I basically have more trust in a toy then myself lol fail
    AwkwardlyTransparent AwkwardlyTransparent 18-21, F Feb 4

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    I Am Indecisive

    Hi, I dont know how to make choices. I have not stayed in the same job for more than a year. I went to school to be an EMT and got certified and I was really excited but then I lost interest. I have taken so many different class because I cant make up my mind. I have had so many...
    janaygirl janaygirl 31-35, F Nov 30, 2009

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    I am torn between going home

    or stay and work here in Kuwait. I am so undecided. Im still at my boring work. If i stay here, i will change it. If i go home, i will process for a new work and my migration to my aunt. I dont know where would i be better. Staying here will be living with my bf and processing...
    noxicillin noxicillin 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I Make Others Make All My Deci...

    I make others make all my decisions for me.  I always ask people what I should do.  It's terrible. Licorice
    Licorice Licorice 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 22, 2007

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    I have a constant battle with anything

    and everything that comes up in my mind! It's like a debate between what I should do or what action I should take. But, I like being indecisive :) I believe it makes me a more open minded person and being able to see the world in a more vast way.
    MajesticDreams MajesticDreams 16-17, F Mar 15

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    So...

    I made the decision to nottry to make the right decision anymore, and do whatever the hell I would like to do.
    wewantcowbell wewantcowbell 16-17, F Nov 15, 2007

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    Oh, Really? I Hadn't Noticed.

    So I used to see a psychologist, great guy, really helped me work through a lot of issues. He always used to ask me questions which were normally based upon me deciding to to change my life. But I hated these questions because I never knew the answer. I'd ask him to make the...
    grobiegirl12 grobiegirl12 18-21, F Jan 16, 2013

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    It Never Fails

    no matter how simple the choice I am always indecisive of course there are somethings I just don't care about and go with the flow. But I find myself debating the littlest things at times. It don't help that my best friend and my family are the same way it takes us forever to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 25, 2008

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    So I took the entire pack of ear buds with me

    to save me the trouble of going back to the medicine cabinet if I needed more.
    SocialRealist SocialRealist 18-21, M Feb 2

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    This Or That?

    Do I want to be his/her friend or don't I? Do I want to forgive them or do I not? Do I really feel that way or don't I? Did I mean to say that or was I just mad? Do I really care or am I trying to? Do I want to leave or do I want to stay? Maybe I am bipolar. Or maybe...
    LosingIt LosingIt 22-25, F Apr 5, 2007

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    Annoying

    I know that it annoys the hell out of my husband. I make him decide everything, if we go away he'll be like where do you want to go....I'm like I don't mind you choose LOL, it's the same when we get a video or take away, I don't mind as long as he's happy. I think it's because if...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F Feb 4, 2008

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    I Hate Making Decisions

    I am no good at making decisions and often wait for someone else to make them for me. I have put things in place in my life to avoid having to make decisions; I have the same meals on certain days of the week and I wear my clothes in the order they come out of my wardrobe (unless...
    vivalagloria vivalagloria 22-25, F Sep 27, 2008

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    I have no idea what I want,

    but then again sometimes I do...
    ssparklecat ssparklecat 18-21, F May 7

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    So Indecisive....

    .....it has taken me I don't know how many months to decide to write a story in this group. I really don't like making decisions, I don't know why but I don't think I will make the correct choice most of the time. - RDW
    randomdriftwood randomdriftwood 21-25, F Oct 20, 2007

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    Should I, Shouldn't I?

    I hate making decisions. It feels like no matter what I choose in my life, no matter how small it is, always seems to invariably end up being the wrong choice. Maybe I only THINK it is, but it still feels that way. I'm always worried about the road not traveled and can never...
    Tuva Tuva 31-35, M Jun 19, 2010

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    Someone Once Told Me That...

    indecision IS a decision and it is sooo true. i have the hardest time making decisions. i lose sleep and sanity over them.
    NaNeenah NaNeenah 31-35, F May 31, 2008

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    MajesticDreams MajesticDreams 16-17, F Aug 20

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 22

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    Movin' On Up

    I have a bit of a crisis. Today, I interviewed for a promotion at my full-time job. Generally, that wouldn't be much of a crisis, in of itself. You see, the issue is that I might actually get it. Again, "What's the issue with that", you might say. The problem is this. My...
    chathorrible chathorrible 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    I can generally go wherever

    and do whatever I want. Obviously I can't tell the future and don't know what will be best, just that I will make it work. Action is generally better than inaction but sometimes I think it's best to wait for the moment to be right. Still major decisions stress me out
    donnjb donnjb 26-30, M Jan 22

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    I Think It's Become A Problem...

    I will get on one kick for something, stay on it a few days, then get sick of it. I will spend forever trying to decide on simple things such as shopping for some shoes for example. I obsess about decisions and dont stop thinking about it until i just give up. i decide on it...
    socrazyspectacular socrazyspectacular 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    Just Decide Already

    I have such a hard time making decisions. I know it's frustrating for other people around me when it takes me forever to decide anything, but it's also frustrating for me too. I have such a hard time deciding what movie to watch, what to eat, or what activity to do when others...
    Krysta Krysta 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 23, 2009

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    My Shoulders Can Bench 200 Lbs

    I think my shoulders is the strongest muscle in my body *shrugs* I don't know...(Not really, by the way) For the most part, I don't know can mean "I don't know" or "I just don't care, and do not wish to make the decision". I honestly hate making decisions and I can tend to...
    shocks shocks 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 16, 2011

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    Indecisive

    Indecisive,That's Me,Don't know what to do,Which way to turn,Has anyone any idea?What I'm going through.Saw this group and couldn't resist writing this. This is not my current state of mind.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I Hate Making Decisions

    I hate it so much that I get panicky and am constantly worrying whether it was the right one to make as growing when I was around 9 my stepdad used to ask me to make a decision of some sort n if I didnt decide what he was expecting or wanting he would 'punish' me n ot got so bad...
    pinkygirl24 pinkygirl24 22-25, F Jul 29, 2012

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    Ok, so my current problem is

    that im trying to get another job or a new job. I work at walmart currently and i had an interview at cds (costco sampling) and that one is part time. And with cds im not guaranteed all of those hours either. And my sister is shoving sitel down my throat when she use to work...
    Lilcrazyducky93 Lilcrazyducky93 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    I can never settle down on one thing.

    Not school or career wise. I want to change so badly
    alexiadahl alexiadahl 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 3

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    I Hate It

    It kills me that i am wishy washy. Then when i do finally come to a decision i am easily swayed or just don't stick with it. How can anyone take me seriously when i am not even strong in my own convictions. The problem is i don't know how to fix it because i guess i am never...
    goldie25 goldie25 31-35, F 10 Responses Mar 13, 2008

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    I can't make up my mind on things and stick to it, one of the reason although I've studied a lot of music instruments, dancing classes and languages but I'm not good at any of it...
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    Im theost indecisive person because im afraid my decision will affect me in the long run
    leavinginjuly leavinginjuly 16-17, F 13 mins ago

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    I have known about this side of me since I was 19. I googled the term dominant men because I was so tired of weak indecisive guys who acted as much as a girl as myself. So I found...
    submissive19 submissive19 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    Im a ridiculously indecisive person when it comes to figuring out my life. Im 27, gone back and forth on college courses. Ill think i want to do one thing with my life, then decide...
    toeknee7 toeknee7 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 22

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    For the past few years, I've travelled and moved around a lot. It has been very difficult for me to maintain close relationships with people. Recently I started seeing a girl...
    dub000 dub000 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 22

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    I've recently been in a relationship that I thought was perfect for me. She has since changed, and although she says she still likes me and misses me, her indecisiveness shows to...
    dub000 dub000 26-30, M Sep 22

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    Her Routines, An introduction to my wife, domestic discipline and our 30 years together so far. When we first met I knew she was a person who needed routines to function in life...
    mistermisery mistermisery 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 2

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    Obviously, I'm confused. I can't make any sense out of loving two men but it seems I do, in different ways of course. They're different people, with their own emotions...
    PricelessLegacy PricelessLegacy 31-35, F Oct 6

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    Definitely how I feel in a mixed state...good song. Stefanie Heinzmann - "Show Me the Way" I've got something, I've got to decide, it might drive me right out of my mind, so...
    BrokenOneX BrokenOneX 31-35 Oct 7

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    Unsure,forgiving,compassion,sensitive,nervous,immature,caring,kind,indecisive,joyful
    mother1983 mother1983 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 11

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