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I Am Insecure In My Marriage

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    Hey All, I'm brand new here...but thought i'd try it all out. I'm newly married. 24 years old and 9 months pregnant with our first child. I've known my husband for two years and been with him for a year and a half. He is wonderful to me, my best friend, my number one fan...
    1sttymemommy 1sttymemommy 22-25 1 Response May 21, 2009

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