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    I'm extremely insecure.

    . even when I know I shouldn't be.. but yet I still am. I seem to seek reassurance from men.. and because of that often end up in.. well.. not the best situations.. but where I let men have me because.. when they are using me.. i feel wanted.. and for that brief moment.. I don't...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    So many insecurities,

    such little self esteem 😔
    ItsDawnHeree ItsDawnHeree 16-17, F Apr 17, 2014

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    His words flurry through my mind.

    I wish they'd just hurry up and escape. But now? Now, they're joined up with her words too. Both of their words clashing together, haunting me, playing with my mind. Why can't it stop? They've stopped being said, so why can't they stop going over and over in my mind? Why am I...
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    That moment when your out with your friends

    shopping for clothes and you get so self conscious you just want to curl up into a ball.
    InternetKid905 InternetKid905 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2014

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    I was eating pizza with my mom laughing at all

    the crazy things she was saying and randomly a girl came up to me and told me ur really pretty i smiled and said thank u but lately ive been battling alot with my self and all these thoughts going through my head but that was really cool that she thought i was pretty and the...
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez 18-21, F Feb 13

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    I actually don't know

    if im technically insecure, maybe I am in a small way? Im pretty confident when it comes to talking to people and stuff for the most part, and I know im well liked by ALOT of people. I consider myself to be a pretty, cool, fun, smart, funny, and an overall nice person in...
    anonamanda001 anonamanda001 18-21, F Feb 19

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    why do I always judge myself

    so harshly? I don't do it constantly, but when I do I dwell on the tiniest little thing I couldve done differently until I forget what the initial fault was. its starting to affect my relationship with my girlfriend of three years. she says it doesn't matter what it is, I...
    redmix6 redmix6 26-30, M Mar 19

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    Sometimes the expectations are just exhausting.

    I'm expected to be a independent and confident woman that shouldn't care or need about anything or anyone. But sometimes things just get to you and you can't help but want certain things or feel certain ways.
    Viviq66 Viviq66 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    AlmostEmpty AlmostEmpty 13-15, F Apr 19

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    How great for you. You're safe in a little cell,

    learning how to be a good citizen, 'paying' for what you've done, and I'm stuck here in a mental hospital suffering for life because of what you've done to me. Depression, anxiety, you name it. Reliant on medication so that I don't top myself.
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F Feb 27

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    Does anyone else think like i do,

    I have a mind that keeps me awake at night, I have that mind when im in school i get hard questions right and easy ones wrong, does anyone look at their outfits in the morning too long and think you will never pull it off like everyone around you can, in my mind my insecurities...
    Eroticwriter34 Eroticwriter34 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    I hate myself. Sometimes I feel like I don't

    deserve to be a woman. I mostly hate it looking at the mirror, seeing my face or body as a whole. Am I really a woman? why do I feel that I don't fit in to the right standard of what a woman should look like. The scars on my face, my ugly fingers, my dry wavy hair, and my...
    camille18 camille18 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    I feel like no matter what,

    I'll never be good enough. I know it's true. There are people better than me, yes, I understand that. But just I don't understand how I (and while I do have flaws) am always honest and nice and people like other people that are mean. It's just bad. I'm working on my insecurity...
    AriannaMariee AriannaMariee 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    I am in an abusive relationship

    but I am scared to get out. He has put me in a place where I am so insecure about everything I do or think I don't even remember how to make a decision on my own. He makes all my choices for me, so how can I choose to leave him? He hurts me, ruins my things, and blames this...
    CryingMermaids CryingMermaids 26-30, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I spent tonight looking at photos of myself

    from my childhood. Photos of this beautiful, happy, blonde little girl. The smile and beauty captured in those photos is timeless, effortless. What happened? At what age do girls stop seeing themselves as beautiful? When do the smiles seen on camera change from pure happiness...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    To the public eye, I seem confident,

    even nonchalant, as if I don't care what they see or think. But when no one is looking, I sneak a glance at the mirror. But I don't see that confident, carefree girl they know. Instead I see a scared, nervous wreck. And I'm the only one who knows her
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    I don't care what people think of me it's what

    I think of myself that makes me insecure.
    iRot iRot 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    I hate myself, I do not cut,

    or harm myself, I just don't like me. The way that I am, I hate it. I can't talk to anyone new unless they talk to me first, and if I were to talk first, it would be simply awkward, especially if it's a boy. I always have my head down, but at the same time I have it up. Not...
    jeidy jeidy 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Im not tall enough, legs not long enough,

    not intelligent enough, not talented enough never enough. Why would society base being loved on looks? Should I be tall, long legged and smart and talented to be loved and accepted and understood? Why should I be someone I cant? I want to try to model and I cant be enough, I...
    outcastRebel outcastRebel 22-25, T 1 Response Mar 23

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    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F Apr 6

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    A Letter To Mom

    I know you will never be able to read this. But today I felt like I have lost the final shelter that I had on this earth. I know you are stressed because of all that is happening within the family and may be because of this you did what you did today. It wouldl be an arranged...
    FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay 22-25 5 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    So I live and work in a hotel (intern),

    and yesterday I wanted to go to the spa of the hotel. I was in my room changing and when I looked at my body I was like iewl, look at those boobs and fat. Hell nah I'm gonna show anyone that body. So I changed again and didn't go:) Anyway, just wanted to let you know
    Jordy94 Jordy94 18-21, M Feb 28

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    I sometimes just look in the mirror

    and think about how disgusting I am. I can barely look at myself without feeling sick to the bones. It sounds ridiculous, I know, and I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm not looking for people to tell me I'm beautiful. This isn't about looks. It's about how I feel within myself...
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Being insecure is like drawing a picture.

    All you ever see are the mistakes but others may not even notice them. Don't let one tiny mistake ruin your whole picture.
    ChloeLTFU ChloeLTFU 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    I'm not a physically attractive person.

    Every day I get up look in the mirror and wish I had a different face.
    p0tat07 p0tat07 16-17, M Jan 24

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    And i hate it. I want to be the type of person

    who can look in the mirror and be happy with who is in the reflection. The worse part? People constantly down play it. I hear **** like "just change your attitude" all the time and I'm sick of it. Newsflash, it's not that simple.
    awesomefallenangel13 awesomefallenangel13 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    The reason we struggle with insecurity is

    because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel.
    cat20079 cat20079 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 23

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    I'm tired of people looking at me,

    and thinking I'm twelve. I'm 19 dangit! I hate having a baby face. :(
    divaMary3 divaMary3 18-21, F 8 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Something interesting I've come to learn about

    myself, and how i react to certain men. Those who have read through posts I've made have seen how, with certain guys, I struggle to turn down, or say no too. Something recent I've found with some guys who have tried to take advantage of that on here, when they push it into...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I feel so insecure sometimes,

    I don't even wanna go outside. I feel like people will stare at me in horror and disgust. I'm insecure about all of me. Especially my appearance. I just think I look so gross and I repel people away from me. I'm also insecure about what others think. I find myself annoying and...
    yungnymphet yungnymphet 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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    I'm an insecure person.

    I never believe that someone is attracted to me . I know my strength's and I know my weaknesses, but, it doesn't mean I'm confident. I know I have great hair, and great eyes. But, that's about it. I'm caught up in how I have to be in a wheelchair or walker, or how I have acne...
    thehonestgentleman thehonestgentleman 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    How can I learn to love myself it seems to be

    impossible... Everytime I look in the mirror all I see is flaws.
    michellerozsa michellerozsa 18-21, F 25 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    I Want To Love Myself

    I know it's normal for there to be things you don't like about yourself. Almost everyone wishes they could change little things about their hair, bodies, or whatever. But for some reason, I feel like I am extremely insecure with myself and it just keeps getting worse as time goes...
    justbefree justbefree 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    I Wish

    I wish I could just be myself. Relax and feel "normal". Secure. But I don't. I'm always nervous, always scared. I don't feel good enough, not by a long shot. And I don't feel secure in myself. I have always had problems with people. I learned from an early age that it was not...
    Alissa77 Alissa77 31-35, F 11 Responses May 20, 2013

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    michellerozsa michellerozsa 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    I hate to be and its ruining my social life.

    I don't like the way I look and I just lack so much self esteem (god knows how much I am lacking :/) Anyways I always get compliments that I'm pretty and stuf , but I don't feel pretty. I feel fat, ugly, stupid, etc. I tried cheerleading, but it didn't boost my confidence. I...
    innocentflower innocentflower 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    I let the bitterness of my family cause anger

    and emotional instability with strangers.
    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F Apr 3

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    I always think I'm not pretty

    or good enough and I honestly hate feeling that way . " She's prettier " " He can do so much better than me " " He can have who ever he wants" and it's not only physical attraction that he has , he has a great personality . I guess I need to stop worrying about things and just...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 13 Responses Jan 30

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    I USED TO BE VERY INSECURE.

    ...... It seemed that all my life I needed others to validate who I was. That was a real problem because everyone is so different. To live that way you have to be a chameleon, able to change constantly. That was very frustrating to say the least. As a young person I began to...
    anyablack anyablack 61-65, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2013

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    Person: OMG I HAVEN'T SEEN YOU IN SO LONG!

    ITS GOOD TO SEE YOU! YOU LOOK- Me: -does some over the top anime gesture bullsh*t as though I was casting a spell or some sh*t- HUMOR! Person: -stares in silence- Me: Get your f***ing compliments away from me bro. I'm worthless.
    HypoallergenicUnicorn HypoallergenicUnicorn 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I am this way because of past experiences,

    one was I was in love with someone who was using, playing and cheating me the whole time. I guess its my fault I got hurt tho, I was in denial of what I knew she was doing from the start because I didn't want to believe she was. I wanted to believe that she was the one when I...
    Zachery874 Zachery874 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    I do not know where to start .

    .. But I am insecure.. Maybe some of you will say "You're beautiful," but that's just because I say I'm not. when I was younger, some peoples tell me I was fat, ugly and too sensitive. Today, peoples do not insult me ​​as much, but yeaah.. I do not want "dont worry, you...
    Tromal Tromal 16-17, F 30 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I wish I wouldn't care

    so much about what other people think of me.I'm trying but it's really hard. :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I hear people compliment me most of the time

    saying I should be a model, actress, news reporter or something along the lines of that. I usually just blush and smile, but the voices in my head put me down so I never truly believe them. I hope one day that I can look in the mirror and not see this shy, insecure, depressed...
    ThePumpkinQueen ThePumpkinQueen 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    Ive been in sports since I was nine,

    I have multiple national titles and ive attended world championships. Despite everyone telling me im attractive, I have a six pack, etc. I feel really fat a lot. Also I usually feel insecure about my intellect to the point where I fake errors on assignments. I even botched a...
    Tapdancer Tapdancer 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 24

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    I'm not a book I can't be opened

    and you cant just read me, I'm a safe I'll put all the sift that means to me inside of me and won't let it out until you find the password and I never give a password to anyone I don't trust
    ella1986 ella1986 13-15, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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