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I Am Insecure

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    To the public eye, I seem confident,

    even nonchalant, as if I don't care what they see or think. But when no one is looking, I sneak a glance at the mirror. But I don't see that confident, carefree girl they know. Instead I see a scared, nervous wreck. And I'm the only one who knows her
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    ever feel like someone is hiding something.

    like you can tell they are but you don't know what it is and they keep trying to play it off as nothing? makes me wonder what I wanna do sometimes.
    howlingterror howlingterror 22-25, M May 30

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    I always think I'm not pretty

    or good enough and I honestly hate feeling that way . " She's prettier " " He can do so much better than me " " He can have who ever he wants" and it's not only physical attraction that he has , he has a great personality . I guess I need to stop worrying about things and just...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 12 Responses Jan 30

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    Today I think I beat one of my biggest

    insecurities, (My lips being so big..) and that's simply wearing lipstick out in public. I've noticed that it really brings out my hair, eyes, and totally completes my look! I think lipstick is going to be a new thing for me! :D
    Hipstercatlover Hipstercatlover 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 4

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    ChopsThePig ChopsThePig 31-35, M 24 mins ago

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    Something interesting I've come to learn about

    myself, and how i react to certain men. Those who have read through posts I've made have seen how, with certain guys, I struggle to turn down, or say no too. Something recent I've found with some guys who have tried to take advantage of that on here, when they push it into...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    Yesterday I told this girl she could tell my

    crush I liked him ( I thought the reaction would be positive) She didn't ask him in person but over text. He said Oh... and then she asked him if he thought I was pretty and he would not answer her. I spent all of today being upset and so when I got home I sent him a Dm about if...
    XDontJudgeX XDontJudgeX 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19

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    First of all, thisn't to get attention,

    it's just something I've always had in the back of my mind. A lot of people say I'm pretty, but I can never believe them. It's not one of those "fishing for compliments" thing, I've just never really thought of myself as attractive, or pretty. So, I'm asking you guys.-Am I...
    AthenaVIP AthenaVIP 18-21, F 15 Responses May 9

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    I am insecure. I know everyone is.

    But... i just really really feel it every day. Always have been this way. Maybe it's good sometimes, and sometimes it's not. I dont know, it's sometimes really clear that i am. But sometimes, it looks like the opposite. Where am i going with this? I just want to know what the...
    ThinkingCat ThinkingCat 18-21, F 2 Responses May 17

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    So many insecurities,

    such little self esteem 😔
    ItsDawnHeree ItsDawnHeree 16-17, F Apr 17, 2014

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    I have my list of insecurities,

    and things that I hate about myself. I hate the fact that I have little to no talent. Anything that I can do, the average person can do it better. I hate my skinny pathetic body frame. I've spent years eating, working out with weights, and working a physical job. But I still...
    DeathstalkerScorpion DeathstalkerScorpion 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 27

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    It bothers me that people say I look 15

    when I'm really 20(almost 21). I know looking young should be a good thing but I feel like I'm treated like a kid. I don't like it when people call me skinny. Yeah I am small/thin but I have trouble gaining/losing weight. My weight stays the same, which is GREAT. :)One time I...
    XxLionHeartxX XxLionHeartxX 18-21 6 Responses Jun 5

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    I shouldn't be. My brain knows I've got a lot

    to be happy with, good job, good relationship, good friends, not bad looks for a woman my age, but I still fight basic insecurities about being worthy of the love people shower me with. I know I am not alone in this, but I don't like it about myself.
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    Being insecure is like drawing a picture.

    All you ever see are the mistakes but others may not even notice them. Don't let one tiny mistake ruin your whole picture.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 5

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    I would do anything to be confident

    and careless in front others. I would do anything to be the way I used to be before, to not feel so afraid of being judged and scrutinized in front of others. To be able to be my true self. It feels like the world is a stage, and I'm the main actress and everyone else is the...
    chanelroe chanelroe 18-21, F a week ago

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    I'm extremely insecure.

    . even when I know I shouldn't be.. but yet I still am. I seem to seek reassurance from men.. and because of that often end up in.. well.. not the best situations.. but where I let men have me because.. when they are using me.. i feel wanted.. and for that brief moment.. I don't...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    I do not know where to start .

    .. But I am insecure.. Maybe some of you will say "You're beautiful," but that's just because I say I'm not. when I was younger, some peoples tell me I was fat, ugly and too sensitive. Today, peoples do not insult me ​​as much, but yeaah.. I do not want "dont worry, you...
    Tromal Tromal 16-17, F 30 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    And i hate it. I want to be the type of person

    who can look in the mirror and be happy with who is in the reflection. The worse part? People constantly down play it. I hear **** like "just change your attitude" all the time and I'm sick of it. Newsflash, it's not that simple.
    awesomefallenangel13 awesomefallenangel13 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    I'm afraid it's going to hurt my new

    relationship...The thing is that over the years I've learned to be a lot more confident in my self, in my looks, in who I am. There was always that little ounce of insecurity but it was always on the back of my mind. Until him...I met my boyfriend about a year and a half ago at...
    LadyOfLorien LadyOfLorien 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 20

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    I Want To Love Myself

    I know it's normal for there to be things you don't like about yourself. Almost everyone wishes they could change little things about their hair, bodies, or whatever. But for some reason, I feel like I am extremely insecure with myself and it just keeps getting worse as time goes...
    justbefree justbefree 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    My Insecureness Makes Me Hide From Everyone...i Hate It.

         I'm a 14 year old girl and I am extremely insecure. I'm insecure about my huge mole on the middle of my chin like Chairman Mao, my mustache on the sides, my wrinkles around my mouth and under my eyes, my hairy arms legs belly and back, my frizzy hair, my scars, my...
    TheWeirdoGirl TheWeirdoGirl 13-15, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    And I want you To forgive me For all my

    imperfections Skittish reflexes Broken complexion Everchanging moods Awkward demeanor You're so understanding I wish my aesthetic was cleaner Bright blue eyes Strong toned arms With no intentions of doing harm Thank for existing And for choosing me Even when I'm fickle Please...
    KristinaBeena KristinaBeena 18-21, F 4 Responses May 20

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    That weight isn't worth your life.

    That mirror isn't worth your confidence. That person isn't worth your time. Those words are not worth your happiness. Those people can be gone in a few years. Don't focus on the outside too much. Focus on dreams and health. Your figure isn't you. You are beautiful and amazing
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 23

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    I'm not incredibly insecure,

    but it's enough to make me have trust issues with my boyfriend although he hasn't even done anything wrong. I've never called him out for cheating, he never has actually cheated and he doesn't really care that I look through his phone. But, still, I get this gut wrenching...
    Jonie10 Jonie10 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    I've got a good resume on the outside - high

    school class president, Cornell BA, Columbia MBA, director at major company. But inside, I'm completely insecure and scared. I keep trying to validate my worth with work and success. My wife loves me, but I'm not developing normal human friendships as I get older (I'm 31...
    scaredpoopless scaredpoopless 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I just watched a video about women

    who are trying to break social norms to make topless women acceptable. I really don't think it is that bad of an idea, but the problem is I don't really have boobs and they aren't what MOST men think are beautiful . This sucks for me because it means whatever man I am with would...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses May 13

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    I'm not a physically attractive person.

    Every day I get up look in the mirror and wish I had a different face.
    p0tat07 p0tat07 16-17, M Jan 24

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    I am so insecure about every part of me.

    I never think I'm smart enough, or pretty enough, or nice enough, or funny, etc. I want to be able to just accept myself and be one of those confident powerful women, but it's as if there's some driving emotional force stopping me :|
    crypticcrime crypticcrime 18-21, F 4 Responses May 11

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    ThatOtherGuy17 ThatOtherGuy17 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    A Letter To Mom

    I know you will never be able to read this. But today I felt like I have lost the final shelter that I had on this earth. I know you are stressed because of all that is happening within the family and may be because of this you did what you did today. It wouldl be an arranged...
    FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay 22-25 5 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    I wish I wasn't sooo insecure.

    I wish things were different. I wish that the people who knew me and why I'm insecure wouldn't use that against me. I wish more people would talk with me. I wish the internet wasn't a place where people got hurt. I wish the day was over.
    Findingteesh Findingteesh 26-30, F May 30

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    Lol EVERYONE is insecure

    and our defects, our flaws are simple our way to express the insecurity. Then there are people more insecure, less insecure but every human being is. Often who loooks like more confidenr than others is who is more insecure than everybody
    Enjoyyourlife Enjoyyourlife 26-30, M May 27

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    I Wish

    I wish I could just be myself. Relax and feel "normal". Secure. But I don't. I'm always nervous, always scared. I don't feel good enough, not by a long shot. And I don't feel secure in myself. I have always had problems with people. I learned from an early age that it was not...
    Alissa77 Alissa77 31-35, F 11 Responses May 20, 2013

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    My girlfriend is ******* gorgeous.

    My friends have told me, my family has told me, random people have told me, and I just say "I know". She's beautiful inside and out, but physically, what can make her believe she is attractive? She says she feels physically sick in the mirror, and doesn't believe any...
    SeeJayEss SeeJayEss 16-17, M 2 Responses May 18

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    Does anyone else think like i do,

    I have a mind that keeps me awake at night, I have that mind when im in school i get hard questions right and easy ones wrong, does anyone look at their outfits in the morning too long and think you will never pull it off like everyone around you can, in my mind my insecurities...
    Eroticwriter34 Eroticwriter34 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    I hate feeling insecure.

    I try not to and I really try to remind myself that I am a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman, who has everything she needs. I I just cannot figure out why I feel so unsettled and insecure.
    MarriedChick MarriedChick 22-25, F 1 Response May 16

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    I was eating pizza with my mom laughing at all

    the crazy things she was saying and randomly a girl came up to me and told me ur really pretty i smiled and said thank u but lately ive been battling alot with my self and all these thoughts going through my head but that was really cool that she thought i was pretty and the...
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez 18-21, F Feb 13

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    I feel so insecure sometimes,

    I don't even wanna go outside. I feel like people will stare at me in horror and disgust. I'm insecure about all of me. Especially my appearance. I just think I look so gross and I repel people away from me. I'm also insecure about what others think. I find myself annoying and...
    yungnymphet yungnymphet 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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    I don't care what people think of me it's what

    I think of myself that makes me insecure.
    iRot iRot 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Self-defeatist

    I can't seem to shake the feeling that everyone is watching everything I do, and thinking to themselves, god what a loser everything he does is WRONG. I think that too most of the time--how can I possibly do anything right. I know it's not necessarily true but that's how I feel...
    shaun0h shaun0h 26-30, T 7 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    I've been hurt that many times by men that,

    after having a break away from everything, I've decided that I'm going to do this on my own. I don't need a man to protect me. I can bring this child up on my own without the need of a man to help me. I don't need a man! End of.
    Jenezebel Jenezebel 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    I really struggle with feeling insecure

    and ashamed of myself for several reasons. I had an awful high school, college, and somewhat hard grad school experience. In high school, I had a group of friends but then we stopped hanging out and I had no friends. I just used to hang out with my parent's friends kids who were...
    fabgirl824 fabgirl824 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    My friend compared me to a man today.

    I was so upset. I mean, when you are being compared to man that means you don’t have something girly to be showed. I don’t know why I was upset though, or is it his opinion just always matters. Well I know I’m not attractive. I don’t care even I’m overweight about 30...
    indahnesia indahnesia 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Supposedly I am, but I don't think so.

    I just know the truth about myself, and others just can't accept it. ._.
    Waffl3s Waffl3s 13-15 May 19

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    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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