I Am Insecure

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    It makes me so upset

    that this guy deliberately avoids me like I small bad. When I first meet him I wanted to be his friend. I was new to the class and he's in my year. I did not come off strong and I was very friendly. We talked once I made him laugh because I'm a hilarious person! Then the next...
    LoveisBeautiful5013 LoveisBeautiful5013
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 11

    I hate how noticeable it is

    when you gain weight when you're a short girl .--.
    PetiteChica PetiteChica
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 12

    I just watched a video about women

    who are trying to break social norms to make topless women acceptable. I really don't think it is that bad of an idea, but the problem is I don't really have boobs and they aren't what MOST men think are beautiful . This sucks for me because it means whatever man I am with would...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    9 Responses May 13, 2015

    How can I learn to love myself it seems to be

    impossible... Everytime I look in the mirror all I see is flaws.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    18 Responses Nov 27, 2014
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn
    13-15, F
    8 Responses Jan 18, 2015

    Recently, I've started Secondary school.

    I thought it a fresh start since everyone there was just as new as I was and my friends had told me tons of stories about how it would be great. At first, it was great. I made a friend, let's call her Anna. We bonded through the first week and grew closer. But during an...
    kxyxx kxyxx
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 25

    Something interesting I've come to learn about

    myself, and how i react to certain men. Those who have read through posts I've made have seen how, with certain guys, I struggle to turn down, or say no too. Something recent I've found with some guys who have tried to take advantage of that on here, when they push it into...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 15, 2014

    To the public eye, I seem confident,

    even nonchalant, as if I don't care what they see or think. But when no one is looking, I sneak a glance at the mirror. But I don't see that confident, carefree girl they know. Instead I see a scared, nervous wreck. And I'm the only one who knows her
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 24, 2013

    I always have been. Most of my insecurities

    have little-to-no basis in reality; of that I am aware. Still, I constantly worry about how other people perceive me. I am very insecure about my voice and my body, because I have always been very small, with a high-pitched voice. People often mistake me for much younger than I...
    TryingMyBestToSmile TryingMyBestToSmile
    18-21, F
    Jan 23

    I am so tired of feeling like I will never be

    good enough for anyone and hearing that I'm not. I'm so sick of no one caring even though they say they do. I am so sick and tired of people saying they're here for me but when I actually need them they are too busy. Why can't someone say these things and actually mean them?
    angelbearlove angelbearlove
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Dec 5, 2015
    bornaverage bornaverage
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 15

    I don't like a lot of things about myself

    and they have to do with physical appearance on the most part and I can't change that aspect of myself (unless surgery and stuff lol and that's not really an option right now because funds$$$) I feel like I'd be so much more confident if I fixed all of the things that make me...
    hecknope hecknope
    18-21, F
    Feb 26

    Well, I'm not really insecure,

    but I didn't really know what other group to put it, or perhaps it is insecurity. I wanted to share a story about something about my personality that I do not like at all... Due to my past, I place high value on friends, but those selfsame friends have often left me to rot...
    Junkard Junkard
    22-25, M
    Feb 1

    I'm not being "insecure" about being the 4 at

    best. I'm being brutally honest, and I'm not doing this because I want "everyone is beautiful in their own way" validations. On several occasions have I been ignored, as if I really weren't there, because guys were too busy flirting with her. Teachers tell her she's pretty...
    reckoned reckoned
    16-17, F
    Apr 13

    is it just me, my overthinking,

    or is it really happening? New relationship since 10.10.15, things were going good, then my old insecurities from my past (6 years) relationship caught up to me, my last one cheated on me with a minor that lived in the same house as us. i told my new boyfriend i have problems...
    Theonethatlivesatnight Theonethatlivesatnight
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 14

    So, I'm in a relationship right?

    Well I wanna Be the only girl he looks at in that one way. Like "Damn". But, he goes and followed half naked ******* girls. And likes those pictures on Instagram.. If only there wasn't that one following thing where it shows you what most of everyone is doing... I hate it so...
    ThatOneSadTeen ThatOneSadTeen
    13-15, F
    7 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    So many insecurities,

    such little self esteem 😔
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 17, 2014

    I don't care what people think of me it's what

    I think of myself that makes me insecure.
    iRot iRot
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 5, 2015

    Have been crying for 30 minutes now.

    Sometimes I wonder why do I even get myself into such traumatising experiences. I'm so tired of people.
    ExperiencesAndNotMistakes ExperiencesAndNotMistakes
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 11

    lately this week I been feeling ugly ,

    I really wanna lose weight already so my face won't look so chubby. and want to be able to wear crop tops and feel good about myself, then my hair I really want to change the color , I been having orange hair for 5 months and it's getting tiring to have that color for a long...
    bloodyzombie19 bloodyzombie19
    18-21, F
    Feb 23

    I really am. There's no justifiable reason

    for my insecurity, but it's something I live with. I trust her. I know she accepts me as I am, well at least she says she does. And I open up and share the darkness. In no time I am worried sick. What did she think? What will she say? Have I ruined it? It's terrible...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 23

    Im so ugly ive tried everything.

    Nothibg works. What am i supposed to do? my hair is a mess my face is even more of a mess. and people wonder why i dobt have a profile photo?
    outkastboi outkastboi
    16-17, M
    3 Responses Feb 25

    idk y but I feel insecure

    when it about sex. like especially now in my current relationship. I am 22 and he is 17. Even tho he is younger than me he's actually more sexually experience then I am. he lost his virginity at 11 and me I was 19. so yeah he's been banging since the 6th grade and I waited too...
    the808heartbreak the808heartbreak
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 23

    Those moments when you are having an argument

    with someone and it only reminds you how much you hate yourself.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 10

    And i hate it. I want to be the type of person

    who can look in the mirror and be happy with who is in the reflection. The worse part? People constantly down play it. I hear **** like "just change your attitude" all the time and I'm sick of it. Newsflash, it's not that simple.
    awesomefallenangel awesomefallenangel
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2015

    I really take what others say

    or their actions toward me to my heart... I don't know why. It's like as if my spirit gets elevated or depressed depending on their evaluation (of me). I don't know why. I should stop doing this.
    astro00 astro00
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Jun 11, 2014

    I apologize to whoever Im gonna marry

    if I even get married. It's gonna be our 10 year anniversary of getting married and I'm still gonna ask him if he still likes me. Ugh Jeeze.
    Nyx5 Nyx5
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    I thought I really hit it off with this dude

    last night. he and I had a longer conversation with each other than he did with my 2 other friends (one of whom has a boyfriend). when he left, he said he would friend request us on FB and keep in touch. but my other two friends got a friend request and I didn't :/ I'm just...
    msingenuous msingenuous
    22-25, F
    Mar 28

    I have low muscle tone in my hands

    and especially my fingers. This makes every day activities really hard for me to do. Simple thinks like buttering bread or tying my shoelaces require preperation and thought. Every time I try to make myself a sandwhich my family especially my father criticises the fact that I...
    Freedgorgan Freedgorgan
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Jan 23

    It bothers me that people say I look 15

    when I'm really 20(almost 21). I know looking young should be a good thing but I feel like I'm treated like a kid. I don't like it when people call me skinny. Yeah I am small/thin but I have trouble gaining/losing weight. My weight stays the same, which is GREAT. :)One time I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 11, 2014

    People always have been

    and are comparing me with my second elder sister. Because of her, I'm an insecure person. I've always been jealous of her. I want to be the best.
    Chocoholic999 Chocoholic999
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 5

    I hate that my hair grows

    so slowly, tangles so easily, and gets wavy whenever it's even slightly humid I hate that my bangs get wavy when they should be straight I hate that I don't have a flat stomach I wish I had a rounder jaw I hate my very visible veins above my eyes I hate the lines under my eyes...
    HypoallergenicUnicorn HypoallergenicUnicorn
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Mar 26

    It's why I don't have a profile picture of

    myself and why I don't have Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and social medias like that.
    WanderLustAlethiology WanderLustAlethiology
    13-15, F
    1 Response Feb 12

    Being insecure is like drawing a picture.

    All you ever see are the mistakes but others may not even notice them. Don't let one tiny mistake ruin your whole picture.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 5, 2015

    I hear people compliment me most of the time

    saying I should be a model, actress, news reporter or something along the lines of that. I usually just blush and smile, but the voices in my head put me down so I never truly believe them. I hope one day that I can look in the mirror and not see this shy, insecure, depressed...
    ThePumpkinQueen ThePumpkinQueen
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 11, 2014

    There is this one guy I like,

    and no matter how many times one of my friends tell me I have a chance, in my mind, I don't. Not even close. I feel like only of I was prettier, or more athletic, or less weird, then people would actually like me. It's frustrating...every time I like someone, they are always out...
    Amesysta Amesysta
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Mar 28
    Paleandpolluted86 Paleandpolluted86
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 27

    I do not know where to start .

    .. But I am insecure.. Maybe some of you will say "You're beautiful," but that's just because I say I'm not. when I was younger, some peoples tell me I was fat, ugly and too sensitive. Today, peoples do not insult me ​​as much, but yeaah.. I do not want "dont worry, you...
    Tromal Tromal
    18-21, F
    28 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    I was eating pizza with my mom laughing at all

    the crazy things she was saying and randomly a girl came up to me and told me ur really pretty i smiled and said thank u but lately ive been battling alot with my self and all these thoughts going through my head but that was really cool that she thought i was pretty and the...
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez
    18-21, F
    Feb 13, 2015

    I don't take compliments well.

    Maybe it's because i have always been feeling so insecure about myself i.e. my body and my appearance. Hence, whenever i receive compliments from others, i will often feel as if these people are just trying to be nice to me and the compliments given by them are neither genuine...
    SDaisyy SDaisyy
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 12

    Does anyone else think like i do,

    I have a mind that keeps me awake at night, I have that mind when im in school i get hard questions right and easy ones wrong, does anyone look at their outfits in the morning too long and think you will never pull it off like everyone around you can, in my mind my insecurities...
    Eroticwriter34 Eroticwriter34
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    In exchange for everything I'm confident in

    about myself, I have one major flaw: my looks. I've always had people tell me that I'm handsome or that I'm cute, but I've never believed them. There's so many standards in the dating community (especially the gay one where you have to be a gym junkie and have these unrealistic...
    FabledTacoOfDoom FabledTacoOfDoom
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jan 2

    I'm extremely insecure.

    . even when I know I shouldn't be.. but yet I still am. I seem to seek reassurance from men.. and because of that often end up in.. well.. not the best situations.. but where I let men have me because.. when they are using me.. i feel wanted.. and for that brief moment.. I don't...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Dec 6, 2013

    There are times when I am

    or feel insecure. Past relationships don't help with that and even though I am trusting there is still that little bit of... Insecurity/Jealousy or whatever you'd like to call it when I think Oh I wonder what so and so is doing or thinking or chatting to or who knows what. I...
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 8

    I Wish

    I wish I could just be myself. Relax and feel "normal". Secure. But I don't. I'm always nervous, always scared. I don't feel good enough, not by a long shot. And I don't feel secure in myself. I have always had problems with people. I learned from an early age that it was not...
    Alissa77 Alissa77
    31-35, F
    9 Responses May 20, 2013

    I get a lot of compliments on my body

    and everyone says that I have the "perfect body". I like my body. I wouldn't change it for the world. However, it's my face that I hate. I have a fat baby face with small eyes and super thin lips. I hate it. I never get compliments on my face. I sometimes get comments on my eye...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 27
    ILoveANuke ILoveANuke
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2015

    hi everyone, I'm bella.

    i'm really insecure about my body image, and how I look in general. not to sound selfish or anything, but people do say that I'm attractive/pretty, I just wish that I could feel like that. my friends think i'm crazy for thinking like this, but when I look in the mirror I feel...
    BellaBlossoms BellaBlossoms
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    Sick of getting inappropriate messages sent to

    me on here.. This is supposed to be a community where people are able to talk about their thoughts, feelings and problems. NOT to help you get off. If you read my past experiences you'd know I'm emotionally unstable, pretty damn unhappy most of the time so what on earth makes...
    EverlyLeex EverlyLeex
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 10

    Naiinis ako sa aking sarili.

    Sa aking mukha, katawan, at sa paraan ng pag-iisip ko. Nakapost lamang ang aking current picture dahil dito lamang ako nakakapagpakita ng mga ganyan na picture. Niminsan, never ako nagpost/upload ng aking picture ng aking katawan sa mga ibang social networking sites dahil may...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 28

    I found this amazing article on how to overcome

    your negative self-image when I was looking through tumblr, and I want to post it here because it was very helpful, and I feel like everyone who struggles with the self-image should read this! Here's the url- http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/articles/self-image/
    KarahXnichole KarahXnichole
    16-17, F
    Jan 30

    I'm insecure, about everything.

    I guess? I have an average height, I'm not slim/fit, I don't have pointed nose, my eyes are a typical brown color, my hair is black. It seems like everyone else know, knows how to dress themselves so pleasingly. I mean I'm 20 yet I dress like a hobo half the time. Make-up? I don...
    whoknowsme21 whoknowsme21
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 29

    Yikes! How can these little comments cut

    so deep? I've had men tell me that I'm pretty, beautiful... Sexy all the normal stuff, but he just tells me one time that something I did wasn't sexy and I'm crushed.
    Orangerocket Orangerocket
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Apr 4

    Basically, I'm insecure about everything.

    I honestly hate myself so much. Only thing good I can do is make myself feel worse.
    nerdyfreak nerdyfreak
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Apr 16

    I have a high sex drive

    and want to have fun, but am too afraid to because of my insecurities. :|
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 3, 2015

    but not anymore.....Even

    though I'm considered one of the most attractive girls in school...I always compare myself with the girls better looking than me and become insecure and depressed.Yes I have 8 things I'm insecure about1. My voice- I literally sound like a 5 year old2. I'm 156cm in height3. I...
    EarthGirl97 EarthGirl97
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 12, 2015
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