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I Am Insecure

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    I Wish

    I wish I could just be myself. Relax and feel "normal". Secure. But I don't. I'm always nervous, always scared. I don't feel good enough, not by a long shot. And I don't feel secure in myself. I have always had problems with people. I learned from an early age that it was not...
    Alissa77 Alissa77 31-35, F 11 Responses May 20, 2013

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    To the public eye, I seem confident,

    even nonchalant, as if I don't care what they see or think. But when no one is looking, I sneak a glance at the mirror. But I don't see that confident, carefree girl they know. Instead I see a scared, nervous wreck. And I'm the only one who knows her
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    I feel as though all my memories of a childhood

    have just been completely tarnished. As though I've never been happy, and never will be. As though I don't deserve happiness, that all I'm good for is all the sh*t they put me through. Before I remembered fully, it hurt, of course it did. Anyone who's been forced to do that...
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    Someone asked me yesterday,

    why is don't fight my cousin off. Why I didn't report him sooner. And honestly, I can't find a logical reason, other than the fact that it messes you up. It messes up everything about you, and you don't know what to do. Because he's making you do stuff that you don't want to do...
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Being insecure is like drawing a picture.

    All you ever see are the mistakes but others may not even notice them. Don't let one tiny mistake ruin your whole picture.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 5

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    My parents and relatives often told me of my

    childhood and how I was born as a healthy, cute baby. I was plump, had big dark eyes and curly dark hair. But I can't recall ever feeling pretty. I've always felt ugly since elementary school. The kids at school used to ignore me and call me names. I had no friends all the way...
    ArcticNorah ArcticNorah 16-17, F 1 Response May 15

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    I was eating pizza with my mom laughing at all

    the crazy things she was saying and randomly a girl came up to me and told me ur really pretty i smiled and said thank u but lately ive been battling alot with my self and all these thoughts going through my head but that was really cool that she thought i was pretty and the...
    Dezitorsmilez Dezitorsmilez 18-21, F Feb 13

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    I sometimes just look in the mirror

    and think about how disgusting I am. I can barely look at myself without feeling sick to the bones. It sounds ridiculous, I know, and I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm not looking for people to tell me I'm beautiful. This isn't about looks. It's about how I feel within myself...
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    Something interesting I've come to learn about

    myself, and how i react to certain men. Those who have read through posts I've made have seen how, with certain guys, I struggle to turn down, or say no too. Something recent I've found with some guys who have tried to take advantage of that on here, when they push it into...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I don't care what people think of me it's what

    I think of myself that makes me insecure.
    iRot iRot 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    How can I learn to love myself it seems to be

    impossible... Everytime I look in the mirror all I see is flaws.
    deleted deleted 26-30 24 Responses Nov 27, 2014

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    I always think I'm not pretty

    or good enough and I honestly hate feeling that way . " She's prettier " " He can do so much better than me " " He can have who ever he wants" and it's not only physical attraction that he has , he has a great personality . I guess I need to stop worrying about things and just...
    EssSmith EssSmith 16-17, F 12 Responses Jan 30

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    I just watched a video about women

    who are trying to break social norms to make topless women acceptable. I really don't think it is that bad of an idea, but the problem is I don't really have boobs and they aren't what MOST men think are beautiful . This sucks for me because it means whatever man I am with would...
    RjMommy245 RjMommy245 22-25, F 16 Responses May 13

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    I hate feeling insecure.

    I try not to and I really try to remind myself that I am a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman, who has everything she needs. I I just cannot figure out why I feel so unsettled and insecure.
    MarriedChick MarriedChick 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Sometimes the expectations are just exhausting.

    I'm expected to be a independent and confident woman that shouldn't care or need about anything or anyone. But sometimes things just get to you and you can't help but want certain things or feel certain ways.
    Viviq66 Viviq66 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    I wish I wouldn't care

    so much about what other people think of me.I'm trying but it's really hard. :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F Apr 6

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    I do not know where to start .

    .. But I am insecure.. Maybe some of you will say "You're beautiful," but that's just because I say I'm not. when I was younger, some peoples tell me I was fat, ugly and too sensitive. Today, peoples do not insult me ​​as much, but yeaah.. I do not want "dont worry, you...
    Tromal Tromal 16-17, F 30 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    Supposedly I am, but I don't think so.

    I just know the truth about myself, and others just can't accept it. ._.
    Waffl3s Waffl3s 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm not a book I can't be opened

    and you cant just read me, I'm a safe I'll put all the sift that means to me inside of me and won't let it out until you find the password and I never give a password to anyone I don't trust
    ella1986 ella1986 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    I look in the mirror

    and hate what I see. I always feel ugly and wish I was prettier and all my friends keep telling me if I feel like this, I should do something about it, but it is too hard
    tlayprew tlayprew 13-15, F May 13

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    I'm extremely insecure.

    . even when I know I shouldn't be.. but yet I still am. I seem to seek reassurance from men.. and because of that often end up in.. well.. not the best situations.. but where I let men have me because.. when they are using me.. i feel wanted.. and for that brief moment.. I don't...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    A Letter To Mom

    I know you will never be able to read this. But today I felt like I have lost the final shelter that I had on this earth. I know you are stressed because of all that is happening within the family and may be because of this you did what you did today. It wouldl be an arranged...
    FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay 22-25 5 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    And i hate it. I want to be the type of person

    who can look in the mirror and be happy with who is in the reflection. The worse part? People constantly down play it. I hear **** like "just change your attitude" all the time and I'm sick of it. Newsflash, it's not that simple.
    awesomefallenangel13 awesomefallenangel13 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    ThatOtherGuy17 ThatOtherGuy17 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 24, 2014

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    I hate to be and its ruining my social life.

    I don't like the way I look and I just lack so much self esteem (god knows how much I am lacking :/) Anyways I always get compliments that I'm pretty and stuf , but I don't feel pretty. I feel fat, ugly, stupid, etc. I tried cheerleading, but it didn't boost my confidence. I...
    innocentflower innocentflower 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    I USED TO BE VERY INSECURE.

    ...... It seemed that all my life I needed others to validate who I was. That was a real problem because everyone is so different. To live that way you have to be a chameleon, able to change constantly. That was very frustrating to say the least. As a young person I began to...
    anyablack anyablack 61-65, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2013

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    I spent tonight looking at photos of myself

    from my childhood. Photos of this beautiful, happy, blonde little girl. The smile and beauty captured in those photos is timeless, effortless. What happened? At what age do girls stop seeing themselves as beautiful? When do the smiles seen on camera change from pure happiness...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 25, 2014

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    My Insecureness Makes Me Hide From Everyone...i Hate It.

         I'm a 14 year old girl and I am extremely insecure. I'm insecure about my huge mole on the middle of my chin like Chairman Mao, my mustache on the sides, my wrinkles around my mouth and under my eyes, my hairy arms legs belly and back, my frizzy hair, my scars, my...
    TheWeirdoGirl TheWeirdoGirl 13-15, F 6 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    I could actually say

    that I onced used to be so confident and careless about what people thought of me but ever since i started junior year in highschool i had felt the need to try and fit in instead of being original and accepting myself. I don't feel like i am pretty and what majes it worse is...
    dfe213 dfe213 18-21, F May 13

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    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 18

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    Does anyone else think like i do,

    I have a mind that keeps me awake at night, I have that mind when im in school i get hard questions right and easy ones wrong, does anyone look at their outfits in the morning too long and think you will never pull it off like everyone around you can, in my mind my insecurities...
    Eroticwriter34 Eroticwriter34 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    So many insecurities,

    such little self esteem 😔
    ItsDawnHeree ItsDawnHeree 16-17, F Apr 17, 2014

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    First of all, thisn't to get attention,

    it's just something I've always had in the back of my mind. A lot of people say I'm pretty, but I can never believe them. It's not one of those "fishing for compliments" thing, I've just never really thought of myself as attractive, or pretty. So, I'm asking you guys.-Am I...
    AthenaVIP AthenaVIP 18-21, F 18 Responses May 9

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    His words flurry through my mind.

    I wish they'd just hurry up and escape. But now? Now, they're joined up with her words too. Both of their words clashing together, haunting me, playing with my mind. Why can't it stop? They've stopped being said, so why can't they stop going over and over in my mind? Why am I...
    betruetoyourself14 betruetoyourself14 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 1

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    I am insecure. I know everyone is.

    But... i just really really feel it every day. Always have been this way. Maybe it's good sometimes, and sometimes it's not. I dont know, it's sometimes really clear that i am. But sometimes, it looks like the opposite. Where am i going with this? I just want to know what the...
    ThinkingCat ThinkingCat 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I Want To Love Myself

    I know it's normal for there to be things you don't like about yourself. Almost everyone wishes they could change little things about their hair, bodies, or whatever. But for some reason, I feel like I am extremely insecure with myself and it just keeps getting worse as time goes...
    justbefree justbefree 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    I am in an abusive relationship

    but I am scared to get out. He has put me in a place where I am so insecure about everything I do or think I don't even remember how to make a decision on my own. He makes all my choices for me, so how can I choose to leave him? He hurts me, ruins my things, and blames this...
    CryingMermaids CryingMermaids 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    AlmostEmpty AlmostEmpty 13-15, F Apr 19

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    I let the bitterness of my family cause anger

    and emotional instability with strangers.
    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F Apr 3

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    I am this way because of past experiences,

    one was I was in love with someone who was using, playing and cheating me the whole time. I guess its my fault I got hurt tho, I was in denial of what I knew she was doing from the start because I didn't want to believe she was. I wanted to believe that she was the one when I...
    Zachery874 Zachery874 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    And I want you To forgive me For all my

    imperfections Skittish reflexes Broken complexion Everchanging moods Awkward demeanor You're so understanding I wish my aesthetic was cleaner Bright blue eyes Strong toned arms With no intentions of doing harm Thank for existing And for choosing me Even when I'm fickle Please...
    KristinaBeena KristinaBeena 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    That weight isn't worth your life.

    That mirror isn't worth your confidence. That person isn't worth your time. Those words are not worth your happiness. Those people can be gone in a few years. Don't focus on the outside too much. Focus on dreams and health. Your figure isn't you. You are beautiful and amazing
    MeliaSingh MeliaSingh 13-15, F 13 hrs ago

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    I really struggle with feeling insecure

    and ashamed of myself for several reasons. I had an awful high school, college, and somewhat hard grad school experience. In high school, I had a group of friends but then we stopped hanging out and I had no friends. I just used to hang out with my parent's friends kids who were...
    fabgirl824 fabgirl824 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    I feel so insecure sometimes,

    I don't even wanna go outside. I feel like people will stare at me in horror and disgust. I'm insecure about all of me. Especially my appearance. I just think I look so gross and I repel people away from me. I'm also insecure about what others think. I find myself annoying and...
    yungnymphet yungnymphet 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20, 2014

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