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I Am Insecure

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    The cause to my insecurities I guess the main

    problem is the fact that I have never felt good enough. It's been like that ever since my mother walked out and continued with her alcoholism, I couldn't ever impress her or make her proud of me so I eventually gave up. My relationships have all failed because no one can truly...
    JJSapphire JJSapphire 18-21, F Dec 21, 2013

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    Last week I had to go to my local home

    improvement store. I usually go in the middle of the day to avoid any semblance of a crowd. Thus I had the place mostly to myself - except a few hardy contractors. I went to the sole clerk, who had no line. I avoid those automatic check outs because I invariably mess up and need...
    CatalinaVanilla CatalinaVanilla 26-30, F Nov 9

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    For the longest it took me awhile to realize

    that I was insecure. I've been in 3 back to back bad relationships. Each of them were betrayal from guys I thought I could trust. 2 outta those 3 didn't even know I was insecure. I never made it noticeable. but the one that I'm currently in a relationship now that even happens...
    shemarose shemarose 22-25, F Nov 8

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    I have a limp I'm fat I don't have use of

    both arms it kinda happens often especially when I'm given compliments
    annirawrmuffin annirawrmuffin 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    I Want To Love Myself

    I know it's normal for there to be things you don't like about yourself. Almost everyone wishes they could change little things about their hair, bodies, or whatever. But for some reason, I feel like I am extremely insecure with myself and it just keeps getting worse as time goes...
    justbefree justbefree 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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    My weight, my teeth, my skin,

    .. at least my husband loves me for me.
    watermelonbliss watermelonbliss 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 4

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    I spent tonight looking at photos of myself

    from my childhood. Photos of this beautiful, happy, blonde little girl. The smile and beauty captured in those photos is timeless, effortless. What happened? At what age do girls stop seeing themselves as beautiful? When do the smiles seen on camera change from pure happiness...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 25

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    I could be skinnier, I could be prettier,

    I could be more confident, I could have bluer eyes, I could have blonder hair, I could have more of a tan, I could be or have so many more things that could make me look decent.
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 2

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    Nobody Would Believe It

    Nobody would believe I'm insecure, especially not anyone who knows me. Not in the way I act or the way I dress or what I do. But that's part of my insecurity. I need everyone to think that I'm confident, I have to be the center of attention at the party, because if i'm not...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    I USED TO BE VERY INSECURE.

    ...... It seemed that all my life I needed others to validate who I was. That was a real problem because everyone is so different. To live that way you have to be a chameleon, able to change constantly. That was very frustrating to say the least. As a young person I began to...
    anyablack anyablack 61-65, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2013

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    Yeah she's pretty don't get me wrong

    and I pull in the guys. But deep down I am insecure about myself it got so bad that avoid looking in mirrors. It's hard to not want to cry when I do look in the mirror bcz I am told not to like what I see so I try to change myself to be something I'm not and will never be for...
    PrincessMarina PrincessMarina 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    I do not know where to start .

    .. But I am insecure.. Maybe some of you will say "You're beautiful," but that's just because I say I'm not. when I was younger, some peoples tell me I was fat, ugly and too sensitive. Today, peoples do not insult me ​​as much, but yeaah.. I do not want "dont worry, you...
    Tromal Tromal 16-17, F 30 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    So yeah. People call me pretty

    once in a while (most of them girls). Nobody has called me ugly or anything like that, well at least to my face. But I just. I don't see it. I mean. I'm don't see myself as a pretty person. I doubt guys stop and stare and think 'Damn. She's cute'. Like no. That doesn't happen. I...
    whogivesaneff whogivesaneff 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 9

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    My Insecureness Makes Me Hide From Everyone...i Hate It.

         I'm a 14 year old girl and I am extremely insecure. I'm insecure about my huge mole on the middle of my chin like Chairman Mao, my mustache on the sides, my wrinkles around my mouth and under my eyes, my hairy arms legs belly and back, my frizzy hair, my scars, my...
    TheWeirdoGirl TheWeirdoGirl 13-15, F 7 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    There are so much better looking girls out

    there with bright personalities and good things going for them. I feel like I'm at the very bottom on a scale from 1 to 10 especially compared to those other girls.. I mean I'm not pretty and I don't have a personality to make up for it. I'm just a dark soul, tired and miserable...
    alliemamabear alliemamabear 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    All I want is to hear my boyfriend tell me he

    thinks Im beautiful. He has only said it once 3 years ago when we first got together, it was in the morning while he was taking a shower and I was in their talking to him. I dont think I ever felt so happy. But weve had a hard 3 years and I know I gained weight but my self...
    DenSan DenSan 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 8

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    How can I learn to love myself it seems to be

    impossible... Everytime I look in the mirror all I see is flaws.
    sydneymichelle sydneymichelle 18-21, F 24 Responses Nov 27

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    yepperz. one thing i'm most insecure about?

    My Body. i am a natural slim lady, who eats healthy and junk food at times. sounds fun? not really. for the past 3 years i've been trying to gain weight, by eating more healthy and less on the junk food, and also going to the gym. nothing seems to work. even my doctor told me I...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 31

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    The people most important to me always have

    someone else they call who's That First Phone call when they don't know who to turn to. I know this because I've stood by and watched them call someone else
    katariffik katariffik 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 16

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    I'm extremely insecure.

    . even when I know I shouldn't be.. but yet I still am. I seem to seek reassurance from men.. and because of that often end up in.. well.. not the best situations.. but where I let men have me because.. when they are using me.. i feel wanted.. and for that brief moment.. I don't...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    ThatOtherGuy17 ThatOtherGuy17 16-17, M 2 Responses Jun 24

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    That moment when your out with your friends

    shopping for clothes and you get so self conscious you just want to curl up into a ball.
    InternetKid905 InternetKid905 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 13

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    In 4th grade through 8th grade I was a very

    heavy girl. I reached a peak of 217 lbs at one time in middle school. The summer before high school I lost almost 60 lbs (it wasn't all at once but i still don't know how I did it) i'm around 160 now and being rather tall I appear slim(not very slim but I have a waistline now) I...
    MissyMika223 MissyMika223 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    It's Bringing Me Down

    I'm not sure if this is the right group for me to post this in, but I think this is the best fit with my story. My biggest insecurity is my looks. And, makes me kind of sick that I can't see what other people see in me. I feel like I should be a very confident person but I'm not...
    aj555 aj555 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 14, 2012

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    I met a guy through omegle last month

    and we go to the same school, we've been chatting and texting for a month now and I really want to see him and talk to him personally, but what's stopping me is that I don't think I'm good enough for him even though he says that he doesn't care about how I look, I just have this...
    insecuregayteen insecuregayteen 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 14

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    I'm was gradually getting ready to end my

    "relationship with ep" ( it obviously doesnt want me! Or someone hates me enough to try to drive me off! ) my first plan was by first changing the kind of friends i made, then scheduling more activities IRL & cutting back time on here. But there was always someone i found...
    Stufy Stufy 46-50 4 Responses Oct 29

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    sydneymichelle sydneymichelle 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 11

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    I Wish

    I wish I could just be myself. Relax and feel "normal". Secure. But I don't. I'm always nervous, always scared. I don't feel good enough, not by a long shot. And I don't feel secure in myself. I have always had problems with people. I learned from an early age that it was not...
    Alissa77 Alissa77 31-35, F 11 Responses May 20, 2013

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    There's seriously not one day

    where I go without thinking of what I would change about myself. My looks, my attitude, even feelings. Sometimes I feel fine and other times I don't even want to go out. I hate when people tell me I'm pretty. I feel like they're just lying to me 😔 ugh this feeling sucks I...
    Genesisandstuff Genesisandstuff 18-21, F Oct 8

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    I'm very insecure because a lot of people call

    me ugly.. I have no self esteem and I don't feel good enough sometimes :(
    SuperDuperCactus SuperDuperCactus 16-17, M 4 Responses Jan 4

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    I used to be. At a point,

    I hated different parts of my body... I'd complain about it all the time. Then when I heard other women complain about their body that was perfectly fine, it bugged me. They looked beautiful!! But they noticed the little flaws that I didn't notice. So I thought to myself, "am I...
    xxblasianxx xxblasianxx 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Self-defeatist

    I can't seem to shake the feeling that everyone is watching everything I do, and thinking to themselves, god what a loser everything he does is WRONG. I think that too most of the time--how can I possibly do anything right. I know it's not necessarily true but that's how I feel...
    shaun0h shaun0h 26-30, T 7 Responses Feb 12, 2008

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    Is it too much to ask

    for my partner to tell me he loves me everyday? We don't spend an awful lot of time together because of work and we don't live together, and we text a lot. I am a more open person, I've always felt comfortable talking about my feelings and I LIKE doing that. So I send him soppy...
    LaniIrv LaniIrv 22-25 3 Responses Feb 20

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    I can't trust men. There will always be this

    feeling that my boyfriend someday will cheat on me. So, I end my relationships quick, so that no one cheats on me.
    coldswan coldswan 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 29

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    broke up with him today.

    Friendships with exs are out... infidelity & betrayal has been forgiven one to many times with "her" in particular.
    shemarose shemarose 22-25, F Dec 8

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    Her security are her lame words used

    for manipulation and busting machines and her other antics....
    tieitallin tieitallin 51-55, F Oct 30

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    It's happening. Me I thought it would never

    happened to me but it's hitting me harder and harder each day. I am insecure about my looks better yet I'm ugly. U see me and u will scream I dare not to look in mirrors or anything else. I cry at night and smile during the day and act likes everything's okay but it's not I want...
    PrincessMarina PrincessMarina 13-15, F Dec 12

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    I feel so insecure sometimes,

    I don't even wanna go outside. I feel like people will stare at me in horror and disgust. I'm insecure about all of me. Especially my appearance. I just think I look so gross and I repel people away from me. I'm also insecure about what others think. I find myself annoying and...
    yungnymphet yungnymphet 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    shemarose shemarose 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 8

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    I am a very skinny young lady.

    .. I have always been skinny... but as of lately I realized I lost a lot of weight. Not only do I have a fast metabolism but recently my doctor told me that I have leaky gut along with other health problems, My doctor restricted me from eating Dairy, Mushrooms, vinegar, eggs...
    SeniaV SeniaV 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 3

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    I'm tired of people looking at me,

    and thinking I'm twelve. I'm 19 dangit! I hate having a baby face. :(
    divaMary3 divaMary3 18-21, F 9 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I'm really insecure and I wish I wasn't.

    People can see I am, because they always use me as a bully target. It was really sad when I was younger, but I kinda learnt how to deal with it now. So I guess I can say it made me a stronger person..
    mydailylifeasme mydailylifeasme 18-21, F Oct 26

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    So many insecurities,

    such little self esteem 😔
    ItsDawnHeree ItsDawnHeree 13-15, F Apr 17

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    I hear people compliment me most of the time

    saying I should be a model, actress, news reporter or something along the lines of that. I usually just blush and smile, but the voices in my head put me down so I never truly believe them. I hope one day that I can look in the mirror and not see this shy, insecure, depressed...
    ThePumpkinQueen ThePumpkinQueen 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    A Letter To Mom

    I know you will never be able to read this. But today I felt like I have lost the final shelter that I had on this earth. I know you are stressed because of all that is happening within the family and may be because of this you did what you did today. It wouldl be an arranged...
    FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay FoundThenLostOnTheSameDay 22-25 5 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    To the public eye, I seem confident,

    even nonchalant, as if I don't care what they see or think. But when no one is looking, I sneak a glance at the mirror. But I don't see that confident, carefree girl they know. Instead I see a scared, nervous wreck. And I'm the only one who knows her
    Vivmlqian Vivmlqian 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    He keeps doing it. Touching me.

    He does it subtly, so no one realises. I can't stand it. I've had enough of someone else doing it in the past. I eventually told about him, but this time, I just can't do it. I can't tell them, they'll probably think I'm lying. He's my fricking step brother, they'd trust him...
    livelaughlove2904 livelaughlove2904 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 31

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    I have days during which I blame myself

    for everything that anyone ever did to me, doubt the sincerity of my friends, and believe my enemies' must scurrilous calumnies. Today is one of those days. At an intellectual level, I recognize that my feelings are not in accordance with Reality. Occam's Razor applies. Either...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 1

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    Sometimes I look at myself & I see flaws.

    Or I'll go out & I see girls WAAAY prettier than me & I think, why can't I be blessed with their looks.
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 18-21, F 8 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough .

    It's hard to see the good when you think you see so much bad .
    EricTheHooper EricTheHooper 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 23

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    I'm tired of feeling

    so insecure
    JusttThatGirl JusttThatGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 29

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    I Think I'M Ugly

    I don't believe ppl when they tell me I'm pretty. When I dress up, I only feel good for a min, then I worry if I look to fat. I'm very shy. I worry about what to say. I'm afraid I'll sound stupid. Does anyone feel like this? How do you cope with those feelings? Is there any hope...