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I Am Involuntarily Celibate

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 25 People

    Without the Right Affection and Sexual Contact...

    One can go insane. Look at me, living proof! It's not that I choose not to have sex because of any moral reason, it's because I just don't get asked to...by the right people. No, I'm not ugly or picky, or a *****, because that's what some people have said. I'm not socially...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 15 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Yes, I'm Still Incel...

    When I created this group as TheRealWoman, I had hoped that things would improve. They haven't. Over a year ago, I gave a lonely male acquaintance a hand job after two drinking sessions, which made him propose marriage. Of course, I said "No. I hope you find someone.". He now has...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 1 Response Jan 24, 2013

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    I Don't Really Know Where To Even Begin...

    Other than the fact that this problem, and my either own lazyness or inability to overcome and solve it, has driven me crazy, left me feeling more desperate and empty, and more behind than anyone else it feels like. It hasn't been a happy easy thing for me to just accept. It...
    OneLonelyDude OneLonelyDude 22-25, M Nov 3, 2009

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    I Don't Think It'll Ever Change.

    I am 37 years old and have never had a relationship. Never been taken out to dinner, never strolled down the street on a lazy Sunday afternoon holding hands with someone, never been to the cinema with someone, or got up late on a weekend morning and made pancakes for two, for...
    single37 single37 36-40 Apr 14, 2012

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    Incel, Not Virgin...

    I already have a story up about being a virgin, one of the first I wrote when coming to EP. Looking at it now, and reading other people's stories about being a virgin has made me realize that I think the term "virgin" is much too broad. I refers to anyone who has not...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    Stifled, Strangled Passion

    Yes I would say I am involuntarily celibate: I don't choose to strictly get along with internationals or just anything but locals but somehow that is how it works. So why is it a great tragedy for a man in his late 20s you ask? Because men hit their peak at 18 while women get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    This Whole Thing....

    This incel problem, is something I can't stop thinking about. It drives/has driven me crazy and gotten me so angry before. I mean, how and why does this happen, and go on for so long? Why me? Is it looks? Lifestyle? Or something else. I can't say I have put in much...
    OneLonelyDude OneLonelyDude 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 3, 2009

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    So Close, Yet So Far Away

    I grew up in a rural Bible Belt part of the country, and although my parents were loving, I found that I could never connect with women there while I was growing up. I went to college, and the situation was entirely different.  But because I was so inexperienced, I was...
    widukind746 widukind746 26-30 1 Response Sep 13, 2010

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    Chronic Penile Pain For 3+ Years

    I wasn't always involuntary celibate, I used to have a pretty active sex life. Around 3 years ago I began experiencing pain in the penile shaft along with an hourglass indentation. The first doctor I went to said I had Peyronie's disease & to take vitamin E & ibuprofen & maybe it...
    brewpunk74 brewpunk74 36-40, M Jul 17, 2012

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    Just like the title says! If I can't be with the one I love, I won't be with anyone at all. Why waste yourself on someone that is less than your desires? If she is out there, God...
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    I often get treated like a serial killer (due to the scorpio rising). I am not a serial killer. (says my virgo moon, indignantly.) I am, however, an asexual celibate virgin with...
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    Hi Hello My name is Yasser celibate possible not know the girl be friendly
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    The sexual world often falls into the terrible habit of equating passion and sensuality with sex, and in that same vein, identifying people as more or less passionate, more or less...
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    When I was younger I didn't think I'd want to be a mother, because being in Opus Dei you are expected to be celibate and live a holy life and thereby deny any potential that you...
    Mstroig Mstroig 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 6

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    Honestly all of my friends talk about loosing their virginty to people who could care less about them. I am proud for not putting myself through that hurt. What's wrong with...
    Dezarre Dezarre 16-17, F 5 Responses Sep 7

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    Why not apply christian morality to any sexual relationship ? 1. You don't cheat on the person your in love with. 2. You don't engage sexually unless your sure that your in love...
    interlink2 interlink2 46-50, M Sep 9

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    Even though I can be sexually and emotionally attracted to men, for some reason I don't want a husband or a boyfriend. I don't even have interest in sex anymore. I been celibate...
    inspirelove inspirelove 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Ok, time to vent. I moved to Idaho 3-4 years ago involuntarily, my mom wanted I be with her grandmother, we moved here, I learned to like it, love it in fact... I've lived here...
    KoolKandon KoolKandon 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 23

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    Its in a humans nature to look for happiness isn't it? And even if you find it. you will always look for something else. Always. I'm no different. I'm selfish for being depressed...
    Trishfish19 Trishfish19 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    The dream I had this morning went like this: Me and a bunch of random people were in a big indoor athletic pool. For some reason everything was set up like a video game... There...
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    Augustina97sy Augustina97sy 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 28

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    Vixen2010 Vixen2010 22-25, F Sep 1

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    Who, pray tell, knows what that is from? You know if you had to google it or not... Its true when you have insomnia youre never really awake and never really asleep, time becomes...
    Meonfire Meonfire 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 4

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    I love dancing. It's my muse. I don't know if anyone has seen the movie Sucker Punch but that's how I feel when I dance. I feel like Babydoll. Everything else falls away and I feel...
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    Flow: "I spoke in silent tongues, only then did they release me from this cage." Chapter 4: False Beginnings In the great distance, we heard a violent thud, although it was far...
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