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I Am Involuntarily Celibate

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 25 People

    Yes, I'm Still Incel...

    When I created this group as TheRealWoman, I had hoped that things would improve. They haven't. Over a year ago, I gave a lonely male acquaintance a hand job after two drinking sessions, which made him propose marriage. Of course, I said "No. I hope you find someone.". He now has...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 1 Response Jan 24, 2013

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    I Don't Think It'll Ever Change.

    I am 37 years old and have never had a relationship. Never been taken out to dinner, never strolled down the street on a lazy Sunday afternoon holding hands with someone, never been to the cinema with someone, or got up late on a weekend morning and made pancakes for two, for...
    single37 single37 36-40 Apr 14, 2012

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    This Whole Thing....

    This incel problem, is something I can't stop thinking about. It drives/has driven me crazy and gotten me so angry before. I mean, how and why does this happen, and go on for so long? Why me? Is it looks? Lifestyle? Or something else. I can't say I have put in much...
    OneLonelyDude OneLonelyDude 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 3, 2009

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    So Close, Yet So Far Away

    I grew up in a rural Bible Belt part of the country, and although my parents were loving, I found that I could never connect with women there while I was growing up. I went to college, and the situation was entirely different.  But because I was so inexperienced, I was...
    widukind746 widukind746 26-30 1 Response Sep 13, 2010

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    Chronic Penile Pain For 3+ Years

    I wasn't always involuntary celibate, I used to have a pretty active sex life. Around 3 years ago I began experiencing pain in the penile shaft along with an hourglass indentation. The first doctor I went to said I had Peyronie's disease & to take vitamin E & ibuprofen & maybe it...
    brewpunk74 brewpunk74 36-40, M Jul 17, 2012

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    I Don't Really Know Where To Even Begin...

    Other than the fact that this problem, and my either own lazyness or inability to overcome and solve it, has driven me crazy, left me feeling more desperate and empty, and more behind than anyone else it feels like. It hasn't been a happy easy thing for me to just accept. It...
    OneLonelyDude OneLonelyDude 22-25, M Nov 3, 2009

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    Stifled, Strangled Passion

    Yes I would say I am involuntarily celibate: I don't choose to strictly get along with internationals or just anything but locals but somehow that is how it works. So why is it a great tragedy for a man in his late 20s you ask? Because men hit their peak at 18 while women get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    Incel, Not Virgin...

    I already have a story up about being a virgin, one of the first I wrote when coming to EP. Looking at it now, and reading other people's stories about being a virgin has made me realize that I think the term "virgin" is much too broad. I refers to anyone who has not...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    Without the Right Affection and Sexual Contact...

    One can go insane. Look at me, living proof! It's not that I choose not to have sex because of any moral reason, it's because I just don't get asked to...by the right people. No, I'm not ugly or picky, or a *****, because that's what some people have said. I'm not socially...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 15 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    I honestly tested and tried, but felt physical pain whilst ************... I have experimented with both men and women, all the while not losing my virginity. I do not plan on...
    FynnEvian FynnEvian 16-17, T Oct 21

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    I am so bad trying to find my true love. I think I am a pretty decent man...considering all lot of the men out there today. I think maybe there is something wrong with the way I...
    krisinfla krisinfla 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 3

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    Doesn't look like there's much activity on this page but it'll feel good just venting. I am a huge flirt and I've only dated guys. They love me and I love that they love me. But...
    floatingthruspace floatingthruspace 22-25, F Oct 5

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    It's been getting more and more difficult to focus on work and other things lately, I'm on an emotional roller coaster. I guess it's because my 30th birthday is less than a year...
    berryfield berryfield 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 7

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    I'm not Catholic, but I think they may be onto something: http://bigstory.ap.org/article/5ac7492950f544a897cb0f98e3a56a39/pope-and-prelates-get-crash-course-sex-synod VATICAN...
    Waiting4What Waiting4What 46-50, F 9 Responses Oct 8

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    I used to love the way I feel when I see a girl that I find really attractive. It's amazing how it really affects my entire body. It's amazing how much my heart rate can be...
    milehighHeartbreak milehighHeartbreak 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    I MUST learn how to live celibate. It is difficult at best. This is something that I never expected out of life. I gave more than my share to my sexless marriage. We had been...
    HAR1978 HAR1978 46-50, F 17 Responses Oct 11

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    If you knew you were going to live another 20-30 or so years would you be willing to remain in a sexless marriage or would you divorce? According to this quiz, I will live...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 16 Responses Oct 13

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    I've gained some weight since my divorce and it depresses me. No one dates fat women. Men will have sex with fat women but never date them. Sometimes it bothers me, other times I...
    ladybug76 ladybug76 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    Having read JuliaH's post about being an OW for sexual gratification and or friendship...Are there any OWs out there that are not having sex with their MM? I can't be the only...
    insouciant1 insouciant1 41-45, F 8 Responses Oct 16

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    I have been through several jobs, and whether quitting or getting fired it id usually because my personality clashes, apparently. I don't know why though. I'm not a weirdo; I've...
    joninaz joninaz 36-40, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Question: have any of you in an ILIASM situation been able to reach a satisfactory turn around in your relationship other than living celibate, cheating, or divorcing?
    findamuse findamuse 41-45, M 19 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    But. But. The educational type. And involuntarily so. Not intentionally. All intentions fail. Am cursed that way. Good luck hits me on accident. Bad luck...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 30

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    Long story short: we went out in 8th grade, broke up after 6 months (we knew each other for 2 years). We broke up on really really bad terms. Now we are seniors. He's not always...
    nekafo nekafo 16-17, F Oct 1

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    Or, I think I have something huge in common with some of you, anyway. Does the calendar have power over you? I read a lot of posts here from women who know the exact number of...
    humbledbylife humbledbylife 51-55, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    I always blush involuntarily when someone compliments me
    H3lloK1tty H3lloK1tty 13-15, F 6 Responses Oct 18

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    I have many accents that come out just Involuntarily. I call it multiple nationality disorder (TM) afflicted with stunningly bad skills at Russian, French, English, Geordie...
    AsteriasAura AsteriasAura 36-40, F 1 Response a week ago

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    If i Think about one thing it randomly connects to something else, then it goes on forever. And it just happens too involuntarily
    koreanboy98 koreanboy98 16-17, M a week ago

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    Let me stretch out my fingers to touch you The euphoria from this dream The dream of having you so close Makes my mind go numb I am stoned simply by the contemplation My body...
    Accebere Accebere 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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