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I Am Involuntarily Celibate

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 25 People

    So Close, Yet So Far Away

    I grew up in a rural Bible Belt part of the country, and although my parents were loving, I found that I could never connect with women there while I was growing up. I went to college, and the situation was entirely different.  But because I was so inexperienced, I was...
    widukind746 widukind746 26-30 1 Response Sep 13, 2010

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    I Don't Think It'll Ever Change.

    I am 37 years old and have never had a relationship. Never been taken out to dinner, never strolled down the street on a lazy Sunday afternoon holding hands with someone, never been to the cinema with someone, or got up late on a weekend morning and made pancakes for two, for...
    single37 single37 36-40 Apr 14, 2012

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    Yes, I'm Still Incel...

    When I created this group as TheRealWoman, I had hoped that things would improve. They haven't. Over a year ago, I gave a lonely male acquaintance a hand job after two drinking sessions, which made him propose marriage. Of course, I said "No. I hope you find someone.". He now has...
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 1 Response Jan 24, 2013

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    Stifled, Strangled Passion

    Yes I would say I am involuntarily celibate: I don't choose to strictly get along with internationals or just anything but locals but somehow that is how it works. So why is it a great tragedy for a man in his late 20s you ask? Because men hit their peak at 18 while women get...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 31, 2010

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    I Don't Really Know Where To Even Begin...

    Other than the fact that this problem, and my either own lazyness or inability to overcome and solve it, has driven me crazy, left me feeling more desperate and empty, and more behind than anyone else it feels like. It hasn't been a happy easy thing for me to just accept. It...
    OneLonelyDude OneLonelyDude 22-25, M Nov 3, 2009

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    This Whole Thing....

    This incel problem, is something I can't stop thinking about. It drives/has driven me crazy and gotten me so angry before. I mean, how and why does this happen, and go on for so long? Why me? Is it looks? Lifestyle? Or something else. I can't say I have put in much...
    OneLonelyDude OneLonelyDude 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 3, 2009

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    Chronic Penile Pain For 3+ Years

    I wasn't always involuntary celibate, I used to have a pretty active sex life. Around 3 years ago I began experiencing pain in the penile shaft along with an hourglass indentation. The first doctor I went to said I had Peyronie's disease & to take vitamin E & ibuprofen & maybe it...
    brewpunk74 brewpunk74 36-40, M Jul 17, 2012

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    Incel, Not Virgin...

    I already have a story up about being a virgin, one of the first I wrote when coming to EP. Looking at it now, and reading other people's stories about being a virgin has made me realize that I think the term "virgin" is much too broad. I refers to anyone who has not...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 18, 2009

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    Without the Right Affection and Sexual Contact...

    One can go insane. Look at me, living proof! It's not that I choose not to have sex because of any moral reason, it's because I just don't get asked to...by the right people. No, I'm not ugly or picky, or a *****, because that's what some people have said. I'm not socially...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 15 Responses Aug 29, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    For almost 4 years. Only until recently have I been struggling with it. Either I'm a ho or I do absolutely NOTHING. There is zero in between. Zero chill.
    ImJustHereTho ImJustHereTho 26-30, F Jul 30

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    3 years and running... I refuse to sleep around until marriage( again) although sometimes I do tease men but that's all they're gonna get and nothing more. I guess that's the...
    CantankerousBabe CantankerousBabe 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    It's not the selfies that you boast It's not the hashtags on yerrrr posts I don't mind you sharing here If it fits on one line I guess it's just what you Tweeted! (Just what you...
    AldousHuxtable AldousHuxtable 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    My life is hell and horrible : read if you dare I'm in my forties lonely depressed and don't have many friends I relocated to try and better my life most of the friends that I had...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    Up until now, I never had a boyfriend, and I haven't had any tempting offers for sex...so I guess you can say that I am a virgin by default. However, as I get older I am seeing...
    AlbSoShy95 AlbSoShy95 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    Somebody noticed I was in a sour mood today. My wife decided to try to have sex again this morning. This is about the fifth time this year (I don't count or make spreadsheets...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 9 Responses Aug 14

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    I often get treated like a serial killer (due to the scorpio rising). I am not a serial killer. (says my virgo moon, indignantly.) I am, however, an asexual celibate virgin with...
    teddybowties teddybowties 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    I want a boyfriend that I can be celibate with. No sex or drugs please. I guess I'm boring that way. I would like to live in the mountains and keep a garden. So it all sounds...
    SorrowofHeart SorrowofHeart 51-55, F 8 hrs ago

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    The idea for a Rush to Level50 I had already within the society, that then sabotages USA later. so a level-Rush I've already in Aion and society Wars a pair of force through and...
    rsgpfastgold rsgpfastgold 22-25, M Jul 28

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    I honestly don't know what to call them.But there are a few strange happenings I'm looking for someone to shed some light on for me because I'm very confused, scared, and not sure...
    Karouselle Karouselle 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    "The first section, led by Gallaher, did a businesslike job: at least three hits sent up smoke and flame in billows, and the AA fire died away. As Warren prepared to lead his...
    Seanonymous Seanonymous 41-45, M Aug 4

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    Involuntarily. So go bugger a cactus.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 5

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    Nobody was "hurt" so to speak. The story is hilarious more than anything now. Wedding planning can bring out the worst in people, like parents. My then fiance and I were sat down...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    Involuntarily. Sign of the times??? Or addiction??? Dunno.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 11

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    I have married over 30 years. We got married when I was 18. Everybody said we were crazy and that it wouldn't last. We watched as almost all of our friends went through divorces...
    Sneakypete1313 Sneakypete1313 46-50 5 Responses Aug 13

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    It's happened in every relationship I've ever been in. There will be a great guy who I really like, and who has the potential to be an amazing boyfriend. About a month into the...
    e11e20 e11e20 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    After arriving at the unit, I've became completely and utterly disgruntled. I don’t care anymore! I really don’t give a ****, and that’s bad, but it’s becoming increasingly...
    sithdeominca sithdeominca 26-30, M a week ago

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    VRIs are what makes us sometimes get "turned around" or "lost" for a moment. Like when we come out of a store franchise from a different town. Sometimes I visualize the store as...
    amabry78 amabry78 36-40, F 6 days ago

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    Ok, time to vent. I moved to Idaho 3-4 years ago involuntarily, my mom wanted I be with her grandmother, we moved here, I learned to like it, love it in fact... I've lived here...
    KoolKandon KoolKandon 13-15, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Its in a humans nature to look for happiness isn't it? And even if you find it. you will always look for something else. Always. I'm no different. I'm selfish for being depressed...
    Trishfish19 Trishfish19 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    When I was 5 years I suffered from reoccurring cysts. They where about the size of goose eggs, and one time it gave a very hi fever. The Doc suggested I have it lanced to relieve...
    henryal henryal 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    The dream I had this morning went like this: Me and a bunch of random people were in a big indoor athletic pool. For some reason everything was set up like a video game... There...
    dersz dersz 16-17, M 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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