I Am Jealous of My Boyfriends Kids

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Daughter?

    I don’t know what to do, and this feeling wont go away so im jus gonna write with hopes that ill feel somewhat better afterwards. Ive been feeling this way for a while now…I was hoping that, with time it would get better or just go away, but its getting worse every day. I jus...
    smiddleb smiddleb
    18-21, F
    8 Responses May 2, 2011

    What A Horrid Person I Must Be!

    My boyfriend & I have been together for 3 years and are very much in love. I have been married before, but never found true love until I met my BF! He has a daughter who's 13. When we met, he never told me he had any children, in fact, when asked he said he didn't have any...
    upsetgirly upsetgirly
    3 Responses Jul 4, 2010

    hello, so I've been with my fiancé

    for a year & 4 months. when we first started talking & dating i was okay with the fact that he had a son. he son just turned 2 in October. so a few months into our relationship his ex which is his sons mother starts messaging me to stay away from her sons dad which was my...
    Lizethmoraless Lizethmoraless
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2015

    It seems I have a lot in common with everyone,

    which makes me feel better. I thought I was the only one who was feeling this way. I just cant seem to cope with my boyfriend having two kids. It's been well over a year and I love him, but I just feel so jealous and like our relationship doesn't matter. His children are 10 and...
    PixieDustSami PixieDustSami
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Apr 30, 2014

    I'm not jealous of my fiancées kid,

    I have just found it harder to deal with that fact that he has her the farther along we get in our relationship. At first I was fine with it. You can't go back and change the past, and I sure wouldn't make him feel bad for having a child before he was ready, but something about...
    shadowkat13 shadowkat13
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 5, 2014

    I feel so blessed to have come across these

    posts because I have been struggling for so long with this same issue. my boyfriend and I will have been together 3 years this coming up May. When we first started talking he told me there was a possibility that he could have a daughter from a girl he had a one night stand with...
    missfancyy07 missfancyy07
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 11, 2015

    I am so happy to have found this thread.

    I have no one to speak to because all of my friends are in relationships with men without any children or are single. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 35. He has a daughter who is 10, by an ex girlfriend. His daughter doesn't live with him (I don't live with him yet but go there a...
    soconfused12345678 soconfused12345678
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2015

    They're Kids For Crying Out Loud

    lately i find myself jealous of my boyfriends kids because, well i'm ashamed to say, i just want him to spend time with me, focus on me. he spends quite a bit of time at my house, so when it's a 'kid' night for him and he can't come over.... i don't know it just feels like theyre...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink
    46-50, F
    18 Responses Oct 11, 2007

    I Can't Seem To Accept My Boyfriend Has Children With Someone Else

    Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years now and for some reason my feelings towards his two daughters have gotten worse. I've run into a lot of issues in the past with their mother wanting him back and now I can't seem to accept he has children with her. Lately I've accepted...
    Yeribeth Yeribeth
    26-30, F
    57 Responses May 23, 2012

    It's helpful to know

    that I'm not the only one who's going though the same situation. I always swore to myself that I would never be with a man that had children, but yet here I am. I've had a crush on my boyfriend since I was in high school(I'm almost 30 now). When I saw there was an opportunity to...
    BlackStarryNight BlackStarryNight
    31-35, F
    Dec 14, 2014

    Thank you all for sharing it's nice to not feel

    alone. I am in a similar but slightly different situation. I'm 37 and want to have a family of my own. My boyfriend has 3 very young children from his previous marriage. I too have felt jealousy not necessarily towards the children but toward his ex wife and previous family. I...
    Mm1209 Mm1209
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2016

    Cart Before The Horse.........and Again, And Again......quite The Story?

    Maybe some of you all can help me with something................it's a little thick!!!!My guy is a bit younger than me.  He is 39/me 49), he has an 8,9 and 10 year old.  My kids are 15 & 17.  I live in a State that I never would have picked for myself....nonetheless I am 'here...
    mountain007 mountain007
    3 Responses Jan 17, 2011

    I'm new to this site

    but I need advice. I've been dating my boyfriend for little over a year now. He helped me out of a really bad past relationship. My previous boyfriend had no kids and had been my first boyfriend. The man I'm dating now had a child from a previous relationship a daughter who was...
    AsianBlonde AsianBlonde
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2015


    hi every one im looking for some feed back on my problem, some times i think there is something wrong with me for been jealous in this situation , well im 21 my partner just turned 29, we have been togethar over a year now an i really love him , the thing is he has 3 kids from a...
    suzie2011 suzie2011
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 15, 2011

    The above I didn't know

    where else to post this. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and I love him to pieces, he is everything I ask for accept he has a daughter with an ex girlfriend. 1. I can't get over that I have to share him 2. I can't get over that I will never come first to him 3. I'm...
    Mistygemma92 Mistygemma92
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

    This is my first time on here

    and just needed someone to listen.I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years,we split up for a year and I started seeing other guys and he got someone pregnant even though they were not together.I decided to give our relationship another go but now 6 months on he has decided he...
    hannamua hannamua
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 8, 2014

    This may seem totally unconventional

    but it's not the kids of jealous of. It's the fact my current boyfriend of 3 1/2 years had a vasectomy in his last marriage after having two kids. At first I wasn't positive I wanted kids & now it pains me to see how great a dad he is but we can never experience that joy of...
    confusedgorgeous confusedgorgeous
    26-30, F
    May 19, 2014

    I have been with my boyfriend

    for almost 2 years. He has 2 kids, 16 and 10. They are his life, which I understand. I don't have kids of my own, but can still understand. But, he never makes me a priority, whatever they want, they get. He does not discipline them. He is 10 years older than I am, I'm 31, he is...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 24, 2015

    So glad I'm not the only one

    who feels this way. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now (I'm 23, he's 24) and he has two kids (2 & 4). I knew he had kids before we started dating and didn't think it would ever be a problem. However, I've been struggling with it a lot lately. Our situation is a...
    beb2010 beb2010
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 6, 2015

    Want to know what's sad?

    I love him, I'm not talking about Tony. I'm talks about the baby. I'm talking about his son.....I know I shouldn't love him. He's a living breathing reminder of their love of the infidelity....but I do....sometimes I think I love him more than she does...Tony thinks it hurts me...
    Ppwincess1901 Ppwincess1901
    22-25, F
    Jun 11, 2015

    Try To Overcome Your Jealousy...but Don't Try Forever ;)

    Ladies, I can see the drama you're going through when you say how lonely and unhappy you feel in a relationship with someone who has children from a previous relationship. I have been there twice and it was not an easy road. I hope you will all succeed to overcome these...
    Lisa2a2 Lisa2a2
    36-40, F
    6 Responses May 22, 2012

    I Need Help Please.

    Hi. So to be completely honest, I don't know what I am doing here. I just found this site purely because I need advice. Maybe I don't even need that. I just need to talk and I need for someone to understand. I need to feel like I am not insane. Let's start with age. I am 19 years...
    MadRose93 MadRose93
    1 Response Jul 30, 2012

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    toriccaa toriccaa
    26-30, F
    Nov 26, 2015

    wow! I know alot of us feel the same.

    ... so obviously it is common to feel this way. I am in the same position as most of you. I met the most loving, hard-working, caring and sexy man. We have been together for around a year and a half. He has 2 kids...ages 4 & 3. Thier mother, his ex (girlfriend, thank God they...
    romanijeh romanijeh
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 16, 2015

    Reading through some experiences like mine,

    I began to tear up. I didn't feel alone knowing there are girls out there who feel my pain. I'm so tired of feeling alone. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. He has two young kids with his ex fiance. They are 11 months apart. He proposed to her...
    tanahkay tanahkay
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 18, 2015

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    bellecc11 bellecc11
    26-30, F
    Jul 7, 2015


    My thoughts are all in the forms of questions.... Why me? Why did I have to fall for this guy? Why does he have to have children who act like this?? Why can't he just have normal, well-behaved, easy to like children?? Why can't I just like his children?? Why would I...
    GBDoll GBDoll
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2008

    I have been married for almost 2 years

    and we were together for 2 years prior to that. I have trouble understanding what I am actually feeling so how can I express these feelings to someone else and get things off my chest. He has 2 boys, 5 and 8. My husband is brilliant, believe it or not, he puts me first and goes...
    jaydemarch jaydemarch
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 19, 2015

    Dislike My Boyfriend's Kids ...

    Wow, I really thought I was the only crazy woman who didn't want anything to do w/ her boyfriend's kids! It is the strangest thing. I LOVE kids. My friend's kids, my nieces and nephews, my own girls...anyone else's kids, but HIS. Weird, isn't it? I just can't bring myself to even...
    vallaw vallaw
    36-40, F
    15 Responses Apr 20, 2011

    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Kids And Depressed

    I have been in a relationship with a guy for three years.  I have 3 children of my own (22, 20 and 16).  My boyfriend has two boys 15 and 10.  My children do not live with us.  Recently my boyfriends 15 year old moved in with us and the 10 year old still lives...
    belnat belnat
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Oct 20, 2009

    Im so glad I found a group to share my thoughts!

    Let me just start by saying Im 26 have a 6 year old SON and I am dating a man with 2 daughters . He is 32. We have been together for almost 3 years . At first he met my son and they got along but nothing special. I realized my son would get jealous of my boyfriend but I...
    thecaligirl2016 thecaligirl2016
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 19, 2016

    My boyfriend and I have been in a relatioship

    for almost two years. He has a three year old son. His child has lived in another state for year and has just moved back. My boyfriend works Monday through Friday, so the only time we really have to spend together is the weekend. He now has his kid every weekend. I feel super...
    sydneyperez sydneyperez
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 4, 2014

    So, i'm 22 and my fiance is 40.

    We are getting married in 3 months, and the closer we get to the date the more I think about life after marriage. He has two kids, a girl 17 years old and a boy 20 years old. Not that much younger than me! Which can be weird sometimes. His son is great, we go out to dinner the...
    bianca0605 bianca0605
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 5, 2015

    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Ex And Son

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now, he's 24 and I'm 21. His son is going to be 5 in October, and he's a good kid but he's not mine. And lately he's been bringing up getting married. And I love him but I'm not in love with the idea of his kid and ex-wife...
    killerspacecowz killerspacecowz
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2011

    Jealous and Threatened

    Hi everyone, new to this community! I must say that I nearly cried when I found that there were people who knew exactly how I've been feeling.  My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now and he has a 6 year old, little boy.  This is my first...
    Kerbear3 Kerbear3
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 1, 2009

    I am jealous of my bfs daughter,

    its the same I do love her but not the way my bf does plus makes me feel uncomfortable when he is around his kid because she calls him daddy also he will be sometimes talking abt how the breast milk tastes and stuff makes me jealous.
    aaskapatel aaskapatel
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2014

    I have been with my boyfriend

    for 2 years we have a 6 month old and he has a little boy from a previous relationship. I do struggle with this more now because since having our son his ex had gone from using their child as a weapon, not letting him see him, saying I was the most disgusting person going, not...
    Jenbell3 Jenbell3
    31-35, F
    Jul 7, 2015

    I Want To Love Them But I Need To Learn How

    We all know that its difficult to find someone special now a days. I have a wonderful boyfriend but I am jealous of his children from time to time. I take things in a positive perspective but I feel I need more help on it. I love that he is a wonderful father and can still manage...
    s1mply4lov3 s1mply4lov3
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 23, 2010

    I feel pretty similar to a lot of these posts.

    .. I know I'm a bit late in commented but your posts have helped me at least realise I'm not alone! I'm different to most of you in that I don't really have a desire to have kids. My boyfriend of two years has a 3 year old son. I don't get massively jealous when he hugs him and...
    Chuggington Chuggington
    1 Response Apr 4, 2015

    The Things I'Ve Come To Understand...! Hope It Helps You.

    First of all, thank you for posting your stories. It seems like we all have a lot in common when it comes to boyfriends/husbands with kids. In my case, I've had this feeling too. I too have a boyfriend with two kids. I too have felt the "jealousy" which also refers as...
    RoseLolita RoseLolita
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

    AMEN. Everything you said made me sick to hear

    because its exactly how I feel and Ive never admitted it. I am a gay woman, dating another woman who has two beautiful, fun, kind and respectful little boys. We live together and have them half the time and honestly, the way she loves them was a huge part of why I fell for her...
    caferacer123 caferacer123
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2015

    Should I Stay Or Should I Go

    My boyfriend has been divorced for 7 years. I have been with him for 3. He has his children (age 11 & 14) every weekend. I have grown to resent them. Recently his ex filed for an increase in child support and I encouraged him to file a complaint to change the visitation to...
    mrtijm mrtijm
    4 Responses Sep 24, 2010

    Sabotaging My Relationship By Being Jealous

    First of all, I have to say, I'm beyond relieved to see that what I've been feeling is normal, and I'm not some evil villain. Well, if I am, we all are :-D I am 28, and my boyfriend is 31. I don't have any children, but he has three (a four year old daughter, and two boys, ages...
    cnacker1 cnacker1
    2 Responses Feb 16, 2012

    My story is same as most.

    But I wouldn't say I'm jealous of my boyfriend's daughter, it's the 'firsts' and mother of his daughter I'm pissed off about. They were never really dating. He was actually dating someone else and started talking to the mother of his child on the side - the two women eventually...
    kxxym kxxym
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 6, 2015

    I Hate Myself For Resenting His Children & His Life.

    This is all over the place......sorry...it's been a rough few years & need to get this out. I (32) have been with my partner (46) for 2 years, and moved in with him & his elderly mother, who is incredibly draining. The minute I moved in with him, she began asking me to do her...
    yuriko79 yuriko79
    2 Responses Sep 8, 2011

    My boyfriend and I have been living together

    for 5 months now and we each have a child both are boys his son is 5 and my son is 6. They get along for the most part they bicker here and there but nothing serious. My boyfriend moved into my place and we plan on getting a place of our own very soon. His son stays with us 4...
    RoseyL RoseyL
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2016

    Let Us Sleep!

    Okay, I don't have any kids of my own, but I've been dealing with my new boyfriend's child lately. She has no respect for me, never listens when I ask her to pick up her toys, and apparently doesn't like me. Now, here's what I don't understand. She comes into his bed every...
    IAmReaching IAmReaching
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 31, 2011

    My Boyfriend Has A Child With His Childhood Crush..

    So, this may seem like a long story but I really need advice/help on this subject. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years now and I knew that he had a child with another woman from the get go but at that time it didnt seem to bother me but as time went on my...
    EVmarie EVmarie
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 23, 2013

    Why Do I Feel Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Kids?

    My boyfriend is 8 years older than I am, and we have been together for four years. We have lived together for almost the entire relationship. He was married for a year, and had two children very young. For some reason, I just cannot get over it! I use to not even care, but...
    needadvice7 needadvice7
    4 Responses Sep 27, 2010

    I have been with my boyfriend

    for over two years and he has three children 10,8 and 5. My son is 22 and he doesnt live at home anymore.Our issue is he don't help pay any bills at the house. He pays only his car, insurance, child support etc. always claiming he has no money to contribute. He started out...
    Lonely1infla Lonely1infla
    46-50, F
    Mar 11, 2014

    I know I've posted here before,

    but I felt the need to post again since some **** has come up. And I could use some unbiased advice! A few days ago, I posted a photo of my fiancée and I on Facebook. I tagged him in it and a couple people liked it and commented. The last comment was from his kid's grandma...
    shadowkat13 shadowkat13
    22-25, F
    Jul 14, 2014
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