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I Am Jealous of My Boyfriends Kids

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    Trying To Avoid Hating My Boyfriends Kids

    My boyfriend is going through a divorce and recently moved out of the home he shared with his estranged wife. Although they've been separated for a little over a year, he slept in the guest room up until recently. He has three children...one with his estranged wife, a four-year...
    val109 val109 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2013

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    The Things I'Ve Come To Understand...! Hope It Helps You.

    First of all, thank you for posting your stories. It seems like we all have a lot in common when it comes to boyfriends/husbands with kids. In my case, I've had this feeling too. I too have a boyfriend with two kids. I too have felt the "jealousy" which also refers as...
    RoseLolita RoseLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    She Needs Him More Than I Do...

    I just started dating this amazing guy a little over a month ago, so it's a very new relationship still. This is the first time I've ever dated someone with a child, so it's a new experience for me. He has a daughter who just turned three. He and his ex-wife split up because she...
    IAmReaching IAmReaching 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2010

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    I Can't Seem To Accept My Boyfriend Has Children With Someone Else

    Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years now and for some reason my feelings towards his two daughters have gotten worse. I've run into a lot of issues in the past with their mother wanting him back and now I can't seem to accept he has children with her. Lately I've accepted...
    Yeribeth Yeribeth 26-30, F 15 Responses May 23, 2012

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    Dislike My Boyfriends Kids

    I am 19 years old, from the UK, met a guy online who lived in Canada, he told me he would give up anything for me if i was not happy and as of late i am not, but i cant ask him to give up his kids eh? I love kids i work with kids love my niece and nephew and younger cousins. But...
    Blondie3105 Blondie3105 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2012

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    Why

    hi every one im looking for some feed back on my problem, some times i think there is something wrong with me for been jealous in this situation , well im 21 my partner just turned 29, we have been togethar over a year now an i really love him , the thing is he has 3 kids from a...
    suzie2011 suzie2011 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    Am I Blind Or Just Insensitive And Selfish?

    First of all I'm so glad I randomly ran into this website because I don't feel anymore like I'm the only person dealing with this issue and reading some posts made me feel better in some aspects but I'm still confused on where should I draw a line. I'm gonna try to make this as...
    kn2914 kn2914 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2013

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    For a long time I've held up these walls,

    not really letting anyone I date in. Emotionally I closed all my feelings off to a lot of people.. Friends and family. I'm not one to share a lot. I dated this guy back in 2011, I thought he was too emotional and didn't like the fact that he was trying to rush a relationship...
    MMM3723 MMM3723 22-25, F Feb 20

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    I have been with my boyfriend

    for over two years and he has three children 10,8 and 5. My son is 22 and he doesnt live at home anymore.Our issue is he don't help pay any bills at the house. He pays only his car, insurance, child support etc. always claiming he has no money to contribute. He started out...
    Lonely1infla Lonely1infla 41-45, F Mar 11

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    Jealous? Or Angry? I'm Not Sure.

    When my boyfriend and me first got together, he was taking care of one son.  Three years later, he takes care of three (he has kids from different women).  Really, that's not the point.  I knew he had those kids when I met him.  As a matter of fact, I was...
    dinkydee dinkydee 36-40 2 Responses Jan 10, 2009

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    I feel like I am in the same boat

    as everyone else on here. Both my boyfriend and I have grown children. We were both thankful for that when we started dating. My children adore my boyfriend and my boyfriends sons adore me. We have been together for over 2 years now. The issue is my boyfriends daughter, who...
    mominmass mominmass 46-50, F 13 Responses May 23

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    What A Horrid Person I Must Be!

    My boyfriend & I have been together for 3 years and are very much in love. I have been married before, but never found true love until I met my BF! He has a daughter who's 13. When we met, he never told me he had any children, in fact, when asked he said he didn't have any...
    upsetgirly upsetgirly 26-30 3 Responses Jul 4, 2010

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    My boyfriend and I have been in a relatioship

    for almost two years. He has a three year old son. His child has lived in another state for year and has just moved back. My boyfriend works Monday through Friday, so the only time we really have to spend together is the weekend. He now has his kid every weekend. I feel super...
    sydneyperez sydneyperez 18-21, F 2 Responses May 4

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    I Hate Myself For Resenting His Children & His Life.

    This is all over the place......sorry...it's been a rough few years & need to get this out. I (32) have been with my partner (46) for 2 years, and moved in with him & his elderly mother, who is incredibly draining. The minute I moved in with him, she began asking me to do her...
    yuriko79 yuriko79 31-35 2 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    I know I've posted here before,

    but I felt the need to post again since some **** has come up. And I could use some unbiased advice! A few days ago, I posted a photo of my fiancée and I on Facebook. I tagged him in it and a couple people liked it and commented. The last comment was from his kid's grandma...
    shadowkat13 shadowkat13 18-21, F Jul 14

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    Cart Before The Horse.........and Again, And Again......quite The Story?

    Maybe some of you all can help me with something................it's a little thick!!!!My guy is a bit younger than me.  He is 39/me 49), he has an 8,9 and 10 year old.  My kids are 15 & 17.  I live in a State that I never would have picked for myself....nonetheless I am 'here...
    mountain007 mountain007 46-50 3 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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    Nobody Asked You To Stay With These People Or Marry Them Or Have A Relationship With Them

    ok im a gay guy yes my sexual preference has nothing to do with this and I dont want kids but I get the fact you can't help feeling the way you feel but i think the other reason your all jealous for too is because majority of you didn't have a dad and your kids dad ain't in the...
    lifeisfullofupsanddowns lifeisfullofupsanddowns 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 27, 2012

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    I Dislike My Boyfreind's Past Relationship And Can't Build Relationship With His Kids...

    OK, I am blown by some of the stories I've read over here. It's really comforting to know that I am not the only one struggling with 'step-kids' issue. My story is rather complicated (as all stories are). There is quite big age gap between me an my husband to be. He has been...
    Arrun Arrun 26-30, F 1 Response May 19, 2012

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    This may seem totally unconventional

    but it's not the kids of jealous of. It's the fact my current boyfriend of 3 1/2 years had a vasectomy in his last marriage after having two kids. At first I wasn't positive I wanted kids & now it pains me to see how great a dad he is but we can never experience that joy of...
    confusedgorgeous confusedgorgeous 26-30, F May 19

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    Let Us Sleep!

    Okay, I don't have any kids of my own, but I've been dealing with my new boyfriend's child lately. She has no respect for me, never listens when I ask her to pick up her toys, and apparently doesn't like me. Now, here's what I don't understand. She comes into his bed every...
    IAmReaching IAmReaching 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 31, 2011

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Ex And Son

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now, he's 24 and I'm 21. His son is going to be 5 in October, and he's a good kid but he's not mine. And lately he's been bringing up getting married. And I love him but I'm not in love with the idea of his kid and ex-wife...
    killerspacecowz killerspacecowz 18-21 2 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Why....

    My thoughts are all in the forms of questions.... Why me? Why did I have to fall for this guy? Why does he have to have children who act like this?? Why can't he just have normal, well-behaved, easy to like children?? Why can't I just like his children?? Why would I...
    GBDoll GBDoll 22-25 2 Responses Sep 26, 2008

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriends Relationship With His 12 Yr Old Daughter...

    I have been in a relationship, on and off, with my boyfriend for a couple of years. I knew he had a kid from a previous relationship when I met him but didn't think it would be a problem as I've had a couple of relationships with men who have had children and I have one of my own...
    kellie145 kellie145 46-50 3 Responses Jul 5, 2013

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    Sooo Confused

    I am 24 my boyfriend is 5years older then me I have 1 child from another man and he has 2 children from another woman and sees them quite abit and his daughter is very possesive of him and he doesn't see how it can be a problem when she is around she doesn't want me or my child...
    crissy01 crissy01 22-25 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    It seems I have a lot in common with everyone,

    which makes me feel better. I thought I was the only one who was feeling this way. I just cant seem to cope with my boyfriend having two kids. It's been well over a year and I love him, but I just feel so jealous and like our relationship doesn't matter. His children are 10 and...
    PixieDustSami PixieDustSami 22-25, F 19 Responses Apr 30

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    Should I Stay Or Should I Go

    My boyfriend has been divorced for 7 years. I have been with him for 3. He has his children (age 11 & 14) every weekend. I have grown to resent them. Recently his ex filed for an increase in child support and I encouraged him to file a complaint to change the visitation to...
    mrtijm mrtijm 46-50 4 Responses Sep 24, 2010

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    I Am At A Loss On What To Do About My Relationship And My Single Father Boyfriend

    I have known my boyfriend as aquantences for four years, casually over emails, facebook, and a couple casual lunches. He has a 7 year old daughter and a 9 year old Autistic son. This is their current age today. Recently, we began talking more and more, and visiting more on a...
    Yemon Yemon 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 28, 2012

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    I Want To Love Them But I Need To Learn How

    We all know that its difficult to find someone special now a days. I have a wonderful boyfriend but I am jealous of his children from time to time. I take things in a positive perspective but I feel I need more help on it. I love that he is a wonderful father and can still manage...
    s1mply4lov3 s1mply4lov3 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2010

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    Help......

    Everything was good with my boyfriend and myself (approximately six months). We really thought we were meant to be married, and I am even in the process of moving in with him. There were just a few issues. One was his drinking (never going to bed with me on the nights I was...
    crzyredhead crzyredhead 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2013

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    "donation" Children And Jealousy.

    I am seeing this man who just informed me after 6 months that he has 2 twins. a boy and a girl (6 years old). The twist is... that they are "donation" babies. His ex girlfriend ended up marrying a woman and asked him if they could have sex in order for her to have children. He...
    xskittlemonsterx xskittlemonsterx 22-25, F May 16, 2012

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    Try To Overcome Your Jealousy...but Don't Try Forever ;)

    Ladies, I can see the drama you're going through when you say how lonely and unhappy you feel in a relationship with someone who has children from a previous relationship. I have been there twice and it was not an easy road. I hope you will all succeed to overcome these...
    Lisa2a2 Lisa2a2 36-40, F 6 Responses May 22, 2012

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    I'm not jealous of my fiancées kid,

    I have just found it harder to deal with that fact that he has her the farther along we get in our relationship. At first I was fine with it. You can't go back and change the past, and I sure wouldn't make him feel bad for having a child before he was ready, but something about...
    shadowkat13 shadowkat13 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 5

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    Competing With A Three Year Old

    Please bare with me as I give you the background on the story that leads to my problem. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for about 6 years. When we met he had two kids and I had one. Our daughters are the same age and he had a son who was only a few months old...
    refugee45 refugee45 31-35 Jun 11, 2013

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    Dislike My Boyfriend's Kids ...

    Wow, I really thought I was the only crazy woman who didn't want anything to do w/ her boyfriend's kids! It is the strangest thing. I LOVE kids. My friend's kids, my nieces and nephews, my own girls...anyone else's kids, but HIS. Weird, isn't it? I just can't bring myself to even...
    vallaw vallaw 36-40, F 9 Responses Apr 20, 2011

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Kids And Depressed

    I have been in a relationship with a guy for three years.  I have 3 children of my own (22, 20 and 16).  My boyfriend has two boys 15 and 10.  My children do not live with us.  Recently my boyfriends 15 year old moved in with us and the 10 year old still lives...
    belnat belnat 41-45, F 11 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Daughter?

    I don’t know what to do, and this feeling wont go away so im jus gonna write with hopes that ill feel somewhat better afterwards. Ive been feeling this way for a while now…I was hoping that, with time it would get better or just go away, but its getting worse every day. I jus...
    smiddleb smiddleb 18-21, F 8 Responses May 2, 2011

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    In Love And Confused

    My story is similar yet so different. I have been with my fiancé for five years. He has a 7 year old son and I've been in his life since turned 2 and I thought by now our connection would be deeper but to be honest the way I feel makes me think that I am a rotten person. It all...
    Kvonseggran Kvonseggran 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2013

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    Right, so I'm worried this is going to sound

    really stupid, me and my boyfriend have been together a long time and I am 4 weeks away from giving birth to our baby and we're both so excited. The problem is, I'm so jealous that he's already had a baby. He had a child 6 years ago when he was 16, the girl never put him on the...
    helenesm helenesm 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I Need Help Please.

    Hi. So to be completely honest, I don't know what I am doing here. I just found this site purely because I need advice. Maybe I don't even need that. I just need to talk and I need for someone to understand. I need to feel like I am not insane. Let's start with age. I am 19 years...
    MadRose93 MadRose93 18-21 1 Response Jul 30, 2012

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    My Boyfriend Has A Child With His Childhood Crush..

    So, this may seem like a long story but I really need advice/help on this subject. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years now and I knew that he had a child with another woman from the get go but at that time it didnt seem to bother me but as time went on my...
    EVmarie EVmarie 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    I am jealous of my bfs daughter,

    its the same I do love her but not the way my bf does plus makes me feel uncomfortable when he is around his kid because she calls him daddy also he will be sometimes talking abt how the breast milk tastes and stuff makes me jealous.
    aaskapatel aaskapatel 22-25, F Jul 30

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    Why Do I Feel Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Kids?

    My boyfriend is 8 years older than I am, and we have been together for four years. We have lived together for almost the entire relationship. He was married for a year, and had two children very young. For some reason, I just cannot get over it! I use to not even care, but...
    needadvice7 needadvice7 22-25 3 Responses Sep 27, 2010

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    Sick And Tired

    My boyfriends daughter is the spawn of satan, so is her mother. My boyfriend and I struggle everyday with things like gas, money, and bills. We had to move back in wit my mother. I am stressed outta my mind. But, he doesn't seem to be. Why? He hasn't let our grown up problems...
    southerngirl83 southerngirl83 26-30, F Jul 14, 2013

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    Coming In Second

    I've been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. I was well aware before we started dating that he had kids.. four of them to exact. His older children, which are boys, are in their teens and don't really come around too often. His daughter, who's the youngest, at...
    audgiecakes22 audgiecakes22 46-50 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    I Don't Like My. Bf Kids

    I've been dating this guy for about a year now he has 5 kids by 3 different women he sees the kids whenever the mothers want him to see them at first I was happy about the opportunity for step kids now when I see them I get very irritated at it often makes me hate him I want to...
    Dimplez21 Dimplez21 26-30 Sep 29, 2012

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    I'm Jealous Of My Boyfriends Ex Wife And Kids

    My boyfriend is 29 and im 23. We've only been together about 3 months,but we've known each other for about 5 years. We are very happy together,though there is 1 thing that annoys me. I feel bad for thinking it. He is currently going through a divorce,and has two kids aged 3 and...
    FixYou52 FixYou52 22-25 1 Response Sep 11, 2011

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    They're Kids For Crying Out Loud

    lately i find myself jealous of my boyfriends kids because, well i'm ashamed to say, i just want him to spend time with me, focus on me. he spends quite a bit of time at my house, so when it's a 'kid' night for him and he can't come over.... i don't know it just feels like theyre...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink 46-50, F 19 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    I find it extremely difficult to move on from my boyfriends past. We met while he was in the process of a divorce, and instead of doing what was right and waiting until it was...
    haileyelizabethxo haileyelizabethxo 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    So, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. His brother who is 25 and his girlfriend how is 30 have been together a little longer. She is UN-BEARABLE! She's from a "new money...
    Zexy129 Zexy129 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I am a mother at heart... I have cared for children since I, myself, was a child. At 7 years old, I taught myself how to make macaroni and cheese for me and my younger brothers...
    HiddenAnger HiddenAnger 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    No, really, I do. I don't understand societal expectations after a breakup. I don't accept how each of my exes are pretty much completely out of my life, and we don't talk. Each of...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    Boyfriends sisters are just so ugh. She really wears booty shorts and no bra on around the house. I just find it so disrespectful. I mean am I wrong?
    Soldiergirl3 Soldiergirl3 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    They were dating for like a month or something, and he kind a broke up with her because of me( i do not want to admit it). There is no reason to hate her, but I just do!! It is...