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I Am Jealous of My Boyfriends Kids

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    I feel like I am in the same boat

    as everyone else on here. Both my boyfriend and I have grown children. We were both thankful for that when we started dating. My children adore my boyfriend and my boyfriends sons adore me. We have been together for over 2 years now. The issue is my boyfriends daughter, who...
    mominmass mominmass 46-50, F 13 Responses May 23, 2014

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    My story is same as most.

    But I wouldn't say I'm jealous of my boyfriend's daughter, it's the 'firsts' and mother of his daughter I'm pissed off about. They were never really dating. He was actually dating someone else and started talking to the mother of his child on the side - the two women eventually...
    kxxym kxxym 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    It seems I have a lot in common with everyone,

    which makes me feel better. I thought I was the only one who was feeling this way. I just cant seem to cope with my boyfriend having two kids. It's been well over a year and I love him, but I just feel so jealous and like our relationship doesn't matter. His children are 10 and...
    PixieDustSami PixieDustSami 22-25, F 18 Responses Apr 30, 2014

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    AMEN. Everything you said made me sick to hear

    because its exactly how I feel and Ive never admitted it. I am a gay woman, dating another woman who has two beautiful, fun, kind and respectful little boys. We live together and have them half the time and honestly, the way she loves them was a huge part of why I fell for her...
    caferacer123 caferacer123 31-35 1 Response Apr 7

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    For a long time I've held up these walls,

    not really letting anyone I date in. Emotionally I closed all my feelings off to a lot of people.. Friends and family. I'm not one to share a lot. I dated this guy back in 2011, I thought he was too emotional and didn't like the fact that he was trying to rush a relationship...
    MMM3723 MMM3723 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 20, 2014

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    In Love And Confused

    My story is similar yet so different. I have been with my fiancé for five years. He has a 7 year old son and I've been in his life since turned 2 and I thought by now our connection would be deeper but to be honest the way I feel makes me think that I am a rotten person. It all...
    Kvonseggran Kvonseggran 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2013

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    They're Kids For Crying Out Loud

    lately i find myself jealous of my boyfriends kids because, well i'm ashamed to say, i just want him to spend time with me, focus on me. he spends quite a bit of time at my house, so when it's a 'kid' night for him and he can't come over.... i don't know it just feels like theyre...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink 46-50, F 19 Responses Oct 11, 2007

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    Coming In Second

    I've been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year now. I was well aware before we started dating that he had kids.. four of them to exact. His older children, which are boys, are in their teens and don't really come around too often. His daughter, who's the youngest, at...
    audgiecakes22 audgiecakes22 46-50 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    So, i'm 22 and my fiance is 40.

    We are getting married in 3 months, and the closer we get to the date the more I think about life after marriage. He has two kids, a girl 17 years old and a boy 20 years old. Not that much younger than me! Which can be weird sometimes. His son is great, we go out to dinner the...
    bianca0605 bianca0605 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    Sabotaging My Relationship By Being Jealous

    First of all, I have to say, I'm beyond relieved to see that what I've been feeling is normal, and I'm not some evil villain. Well, if I am, we all are :-D I am 28, and my boyfriend is 31. I don't have any children, but he has three (a four year old daughter, and two boys, ages...
    cnacker1 cnacker1 26-30 2 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    My boyfriend and I have been in a relatioship

    for almost two years. He has a three year old son. His child has lived in another state for year and has just moved back. My boyfriend works Monday through Friday, so the only time we really have to spend together is the weekend. He now has his kid every weekend. I feel super...
    sydneyperez sydneyperez 18-21, F 3 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Why Do I Feel Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Kids?

    My boyfriend is 8 years older than I am, and we have been together for four years. We have lived together for almost the entire relationship. He was married for a year, and had two children very young. For some reason, I just cannot get over it! I use to not even care, but...
    needadvice7 needadvice7 22-25 3 Responses Sep 27, 2010

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    Let Us Sleep!

    Okay, I don't have any kids of my own, but I've been dealing with my new boyfriend's child lately. She has no respect for me, never listens when I ask her to pick up her toys, and apparently doesn't like me. Now, here's what I don't understand. She comes into his bed every...
    IAmReaching IAmReaching 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 31, 2011

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    I'm Jealous Of My Boyfriends Ex Wife And Kids

    My boyfriend is 29 and im 23. We've only been together about 3 months,but we've known each other for about 5 years. We are very happy together,though there is 1 thing that annoys me. I feel bad for thinking it. He is currently going through a divorce,and has two kids aged 3 and...
    FixYou52 FixYou52 22-25 1 Response Sep 11, 2011

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    Trying To Avoid Hating My Boyfriends Kids

    My boyfriend is going through a divorce and recently moved out of the home he shared with his estranged wife. Although they've been separated for a little over a year, he slept in the guest room up until recently. He has three children...one with his estranged wife, a four-year...
    val109 val109 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 21, 2013

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    I Hate Myself For Resenting His Children & His Life.

    This is all over the place......sorry...it's been a rough few years & need to get this out. I (32) have been with my partner (46) for 2 years, and moved in with him & his elderly mother, who is incredibly draining. The minute I moved in with him, she began asking me to do her...
    yuriko79 yuriko79 31-35 2 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    My Boyfriend Has A Child With His Childhood Crush..

    So, this may seem like a long story but I really need advice/help on this subject. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years now and I knew that he had a child with another woman from the get go but at that time it didnt seem to bother me but as time went on my...
    EVmarie EVmarie 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 23, 2013

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    Help......

    Everything was good with my boyfriend and myself (approximately six months). We really thought we were meant to be married, and I am even in the process of moving in with him. There were just a few issues. One was his drinking (never going to bed with me on the nights I was...
    crzyredhead crzyredhead 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2013

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    Reading through some experiences like mine,

    I began to tear up. I didn't feel alone knowing there are girls out there who feel my pain. I'm so tired of feeling alone. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. He has two young kids with his ex fiance. They are 11 months apart. He proposed to her...
    tanahkay tanahkay 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Jealous and Threatened

    Hi everyone, new to this community! I must say that I nearly cried when I found that there were people who knew exactly how I've been feeling.  My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now and he has a 6 year old, little boy.  This is my first...
    Kerbear3 Kerbear3 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 1, 2009

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    The above I didn't know

    where else to post this. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and I love him to pieces, he is everything I ask for accept he has a daughter with an ex girlfriend. 1. I can't get over that I have to share him 2. I can't get over that I will never come first to him 3. I'm...
    Mistygemma92 Mistygemma92 22-25 2 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    Sick And Tired

    My boyfriends daughter is the spawn of satan, so is her mother. My boyfriend and I struggle everyday with things like gas, money, and bills. We had to move back in wit my mother. I am stressed outta my mind. But, he doesn't seem to be. Why? He hasn't let our grown up problems...
    southerngirl83 southerngirl83 31-35, F Jul 14, 2013

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    Why....

    My thoughts are all in the forms of questions.... Why me? Why did I have to fall for this guy? Why does he have to have children who act like this?? Why can't he just have normal, well-behaved, easy to like children?? Why can't I just like his children?? Why would I...
    GBDoll GBDoll 22-25 2 Responses Sep 26, 2008

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    wow! I know alot of us feel the same.

    ... so obviously it is common to feel this way. I am in the same position as most of you. I met the most loving, hard-working, caring and sexy man. We have been together for around a year and a half. He has 2 kids...ages 4 & 3. Thier mother, his ex (girlfriend, thank God they...
    romanijeh romanijeh 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    Jealous? Or Angry? I'm Not Sure.

    When my boyfriend and me first got together, he was taking care of one son.  Three years later, he takes care of three (he has kids from different women).  Really, that's not the point.  I knew he had those kids when I met him.  As a matter of fact, I was...
    dinkydee dinkydee 36-40 2 Responses Jan 10, 2009

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    Sooo Confused

    I am 24 my boyfriend is 5years older then me I have 1 child from another man and he has 2 children from another woman and sees them quite abit and his daughter is very possesive of him and he doesn't see how it can be a problem when she is around she doesn't want me or my child...
    crissy01 crissy01 26-30 1 Response Mar 22, 2013

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    This may seem totally unconventional

    but it's not the kids of jealous of. It's the fact my current boyfriend of 3 1/2 years had a vasectomy in his last marriage after having two kids. At first I wasn't positive I wanted kids & now it pains me to see how great a dad he is but we can never experience that joy of...
    confusedgorgeous confusedgorgeous 26-30, F May 19, 2014

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    The Things I'Ve Come To Understand...! Hope It Helps You.

    First of all, thank you for posting your stories. It seems like we all have a lot in common when it comes to boyfriends/husbands with kids. In my case, I've had this feeling too. I too have a boyfriend with two kids. I too have felt the "jealousy" which also refers as...
    RoseLolita RoseLolita 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2013

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    She Needs Him More Than I Do...

    I just started dating this amazing guy a little over a month ago, so it's a very new relationship still. This is the first time I've ever dated someone with a child, so it's a new experience for me. He has a daughter who just turned three. He and his ex-wife split up because she...
    IAmReaching IAmReaching 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2010

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    I feel pretty similar to a lot of these posts.

    .. I know I'm a bit late in commented but your posts have helped me at least realise I'm not alone! I'm different to most of you in that I don't really have a desire to have kids. My boyfriend of two years has a 3 year old son. I don't get massively jealous when he hugs him and...
    Chuggington Chuggington 31-35 1 Response Apr 4

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Ex And Son

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years now, he's 24 and I'm 21. His son is going to be 5 in October, and he's a good kid but he's not mine. And lately he's been bringing up getting married. And I love him but I'm not in love with the idea of his kid and ex-wife...
    killerspacecowz killerspacecowz 18-21 2 Responses Sep 18, 2011

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    Dislike My Boyfriend's Kids ...

    Wow, I really thought I was the only crazy woman who didn't want anything to do w/ her boyfriend's kids! It is the strangest thing. I LOVE kids. My friend's kids, my nieces and nephews, my own girls...anyone else's kids, but HIS. Weird, isn't it? I just can't bring myself to even...
    vallaw vallaw 36-40, F 13 Responses Apr 20, 2011

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    Right, so I'm worried this is going to sound

    really stupid, me and my boyfriend have been together a long time and I am 4 weeks away from giving birth to our baby and we're both so excited. The problem is, I'm so jealous that he's already had a baby. He had a child 6 years ago when he was 16, the girl never put him on the...
    helenesm helenesm 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Kids And Depressed

    I have been in a relationship with a guy for three years.  I have 3 children of my own (22, 20 and 16).  My boyfriend has two boys 15 and 10.  My children do not live with us.  Recently my boyfriends 15 year old moved in with us and the 10 year old still lives...
    belnat belnat 41-45, F 11 Responses Oct 20, 2009

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    I Need Help Please.

    Hi. So to be completely honest, I don't know what I am doing here. I just found this site purely because I need advice. Maybe I don't even need that. I just need to talk and I need for someone to understand. I need to feel like I am not insane. Let's start with age. I am 19 years...
    MadRose93 MadRose93 18-21 1 Response Jul 30, 2012

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    Competing With A Three Year Old

    Please bare with me as I give you the background on the story that leads to my problem. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for about 6 years. When we met he had two kids and I had one. Our daughters are the same age and he had a son who was only a few months old...
    refugee45 refugee45 31-35 Jun 11, 2013

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    I'm not jealous of my fiancées kid,

    I have just found it harder to deal with that fact that he has her the farther along we get in our relationship. At first I was fine with it. You can't go back and change the past, and I sure wouldn't make him feel bad for having a child before he was ready, but something about...
    shadowkat13 shadowkat13 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2014

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    What A Horrid Person I Must Be!

    My boyfriend & I have been together for 3 years and are very much in love. I have been married before, but never found true love until I met my BF! He has a daughter who's 13. When we met, he never told me he had any children, in fact, when asked he said he didn't have any...
    upsetgirly upsetgirly 26-30 3 Responses Jul 4, 2010

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    Why

    hi every one im looking for some feed back on my problem, some times i think there is something wrong with me for been jealous in this situation , well im 21 my partner just turned 29, we have been togethar over a year now an i really love him , the thing is he has 3 kids from a...
    suzie2011 suzie2011 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 15, 2011

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    I feel so blessed to have come across these

    posts because I have been struggling for so long with this same issue. my boyfriend and I will have been together 3 years this coming up May. When we first started talking he told me there was a possibility that he could have a daughter from a girl he had a one night stand with...
    missfancyy07 missfancyy07 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    Am I Blind Or Just Insensitive And Selfish?

    First of all I'm so glad I randomly ran into this website because I don't feel anymore like I'm the only person dealing with this issue and reading some posts made me feel better in some aspects but I'm still confused on where should I draw a line. I'm gonna try to make this as...
    kn2914 kn2914 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2013

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    I Want To Love Them But I Need To Learn How

    We all know that its difficult to find someone special now a days. I have a wonderful boyfriend but I am jealous of his children from time to time. I take things in a positive perspective but I feel I need more help on it. I love that he is a wonderful father and can still manage...
    s1mply4lov3 s1mply4lov3 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 23, 2010

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    Should I Stay Or Should I Go

    My boyfriend has been divorced for 7 years. I have been with him for 3. He has his children (age 11 & 14) every weekend. I have grown to resent them. Recently his ex filed for an increase in child support and I encouraged him to file a complaint to change the visitation to...
    mrtijm mrtijm 46-50 4 Responses Sep 24, 2010

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    Jealous Of My Boyfriend's Daughter?

    I don’t know what to do, and this feeling wont go away so im jus gonna write with hopes that ill feel somewhat better afterwards. Ive been feeling this way for a while now…I was hoping that, with time it would get better or just go away, but its getting worse every day. I jus...
    smiddleb smiddleb 18-21, F 8 Responses May 2, 2011

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    Try To Overcome Your Jealousy...but Don't Try Forever ;)

    Ladies, I can see the drama you're going through when you say how lonely and unhappy you feel in a relationship with someone who has children from a previous relationship. I have been there twice and it was not an easy road. I hope you will all succeed to overcome these...
    Lisa2a2 Lisa2a2 36-40, F 6 Responses May 22, 2012

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    Cart Before The Horse.........and Again, And Again......quite The Story?

    Maybe some of you all can help me with something................it's a little thick!!!!My guy is a bit younger than me.  He is 39/me 49), he has an 8,9 and 10 year old.  My kids are 15 & 17.  I live in a State that I never would have picked for myself....nonetheless I am 'here...
    mountain007 mountain007 46-50 3 Responses Jan 17, 2011

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